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I Want to Leave My Husband

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    The title says it all.

    I love him so much but I feel like I'm never good enough and I never will be. After 12 years I'm finally realizing that he's unhappy because he never wanted to be with me anyway. It's me, not him. It's always been me. I love him so much. I'm so hurt BC the thought of being...
    SuthernMocha SuthernMocha 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 2

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    I Want More

    My husband is 10 years older than me and I am more and more finding that we are not sexually compatible any more. We are just coming up to our 20th anniversary - in fact we are planning a huge party!! He's that unaware of how unhappy I am. I have a very healthy sexual apetite and...
    rudyboo rudyboo 41-45, F 13 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    Original Plan Was To Wait Until 2014...i Dont Think I'm Going To Last

    I've read several of these stories and knowing other women are in similar situations helps me cope. We just had our 8th anniversary (notice I stayed away from the word "celebrated ") The past 4 yrs have been challenging emotionally, physically and mentally. Let me be clear...
    inthedark2012 inthedark2012 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 7, 2012

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    I'm So Sad Right Now

    I always knew it would be hard when my husband got home, trying to re-adjust and start sharing my life with someone again after 6months apart was never going to be easy. Up until about an hour ago everything was going well, or so I thought!! Things started off really well, he...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 29 Responses Mar 22, 2008

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    How Can I Walk Away From A 21year Relationship?

    Here is the thing. I have been married for 21years and with my husband since 16. I have stayed in the relationship because I love him and we have 4 children. However I have wanted to leave for years after living with alot of neglect and cruellty I am sick of putting on an act to...
    jane343 jane343 41-45, F 8 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    Now He Wants A Second Chance?

    We haven't had any sort of sex in months. He isn't interested in accommodating my needs, he's a slob, he's a tightfisted bastard, and he picks his nose. Things started going down hill a couple of years ago when I finally had enough of him not doing anything but his paid job. I...
    Sumpin Sumpin 51-55, F Nov 3, 2013

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    So Unhappy....

    Hi, I guess I thought I was the only one who felt like this and I'm glad I'm not the only one, because I was really feeling like there was something wrong with me. I have been with my husband for 7 years but only married for 2 and have a beautiful baby boy. I was in love with...
    dreamingbutterfly dreamingbutterfly 22-25, F Jun 30, 2012

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    I Don't Know Who He Is Anymore

    When we got together we shared everything... full disclosure on everything. Now I find he is constantly hiding things from me, lying to me and going to others to make decisions on things that we should be doing together. He also has a drinking problem, and chooses to verbally...
    HH1776 HH1776 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    I Want To Leave My Husband

    Sadly, my husband is a good man. I love him very much, and we have 3 beautiful little boys. The problems started when he retired from the military. He had 3 months of leave saved up. During those three months i asked him to look for a job over and over. Now, it has been 5 months...
    athousandyears1126 athousandyears1126 31-35 3 Responses Nov 9, 2013

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    I want to leave him for my freedom

    and my kiddos freedom. The freedom to have friends, lunch, time with my family, money, a place that I can call my own. He doesn't hold me hostage but calls me several times a day during all of the activities that I just named off. If I don't answer, he continues to call and will...
    jennadventurous jennadventurous 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Hi. I have been with my husband

    for over 20 yrs. He is an alcoholic & has a very negative additude. He blames me for loosing (I quit because I was told too.) my job and being told I can't work again. He blames me for the vehicles when they break down, for our light bill being behind, for us not being able to...
    forgivemeplz forgivemeplz 41-45 3 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I Don't Have Any Reasoning

    My story is a little different than most because, well, I want to leave my husband, but I'm afraid that I don't have significant enough reasoning. We just had our 3rd anniversary last month, and I felt like crying all week. We have had multiple reasons in the past for us to split...
    spetty1008 spetty1008 22-25 2 Responses Aug 10, 2012

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    Enough

    I have been married for 11 1/2 years. I am currently pregnant with our forth child. And lately I just keep thinking how did I stay this long. I talk myself into believing that he has been faithful to our marriage. Even though I have emails, pictures, social networks that may...
    Lost7902 Lost7902 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    Quietly Planning

    My husband and I haven't been married long. Coming up to 2 years soon. In that time I got pregnant and gave birth to my 3rd and his second child. During that time I have also been cursed at, yelled at, held down, and had things thrown at me. I have seen him punch, kick, and even...
    mom2desi mom2desi 26-30 3 Responses Jul 16, 2013

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    I Love Him So Much, But Is That Enough???

    I have been married to my husband for 14 years. He is a selfish person, who treats strangers better than his wife. I have been dealing with this mess because I do love him (sounds like a Jerry Springer show lol) and don't want to be the selfish person and walk out. But...
    myissues myissues 36-40 5 Responses Aug 5, 2009

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    I Wish My Husband Was Dead

    yes thats an awful thing to say and if it really happened im sure i would feel differently but i really am at the end of my tether. We have 3 kids. Both work, however he does jack s*** for me or them. In almost ten years, have never been taken for a meal, never bought the kids...
    imawinner imawinner 26-30, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2011

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    I've been unhappily married 11 years I wish it

    was easy just to get up. & leave my husband I mean really leave him. I claim not to be with him however we do still live under the same roof. We do have 6 children together.
    Lena1983 Lena1983 26-30, F 12 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Sleeping With The Psycopathic Enemy

    I'm planning on leavingmy lying, deceitful, cheating husband in the near future. He's a habitual liar, lies about things that aren't worth lying about--very simple things. He demonstrates the behavior of a psychopath. He recently gave me an std but claims he hasn't cheated. He...
    onmywayoutsoon14 onmywayoutsoon14 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    Humiliation And Guilt

    I'm so very unhappy in my marriage. We have separate lives & do nothing together anymore. At least we have no children together. We've only been married 2 years. I'm a very independent person so living with someone else is very difficult. I'm too embarrassed to admit that I made...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 11 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    I Need Advice In California

    I have been with my husband 5 years and married for 2. We have a four year old together. I work and my husband has had a couple jobs. Nothing long term and he has really been unemployed for the most part. I have supported us and my 2 other children from my first marriage. My...
    Whatinthellwasithinking Whatinthellwasithinking 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    I'm To Willing To Help.

    I fell in love with my 2nd husband the first time I saw him. I was married at the time. I didn't do anything about it until after I divorced my 1st husband. My 1st husband is an alcoholic and drug abuser. He also has a personality disorder. He was very needy and for...
    Apples1 Apples1 22-25 2 Responses Oct 9, 2009

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    Hate Him

    I will be better off without him..i know that..i want to leave him but i have nowhere to go..i feel so helpless...
    Theright1 Theright1 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    I Want To Leave But....

    I have been with my partner for 11 yrs, I was 17 and he was 19 when we first started dating. We have 4 children under 9. The only reason I have stayed with him is for our kids, I have not loved my him for a quite a while.. He works away for 9 days and is home for 5, I am stuck at...
    mareek mareek 26-30 Jul 30, 2012

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    In a few days my husband

    and I will have been married for 30 years. He is a GOOD man. Neither of us have ever cheated on the other. He doesn't drink. He's never been abusive. He adopted my three children and we have a fourth that we adopted 6 years ago. He's an excellent father. So what's the...
    ThisiswhatIwant ThisiswhatIwant 56-60, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    Why Is Love Not Enough?

    ok. this is going to be a long and difficult process. My husband and I started dating when I was 17. We married when I was 20. I am now 23 and regretful. How can I be regretful? how can I hate my husband but love him at the same time? I love him so so much. I really want to...
    myhdsol myhdsol 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2009

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    I'm falling out of love with my husband.

    After over 6 years together & not even a year of marriage I can't see myself with him forever. On our wedding day I did but now? No. I don't want to bear his children or live with him for too much longer. He is a wonderful man but every thing he does irritates me. He talks a lot...
    Marlee7 Marlee7 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Its Been A Long Time Coming

    I just really want to get out and go, hes wanting me to cancel the internet bill and at this point it is the only thing helping my credit. He hasn't been physically or sexually abusive in over a year but i cant get over those moments were he was. I just cant stay here any more...
    anon1364 anon1364 22-25 1 Response Sep 12, 2013

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    I met him at 18 on the second day of college.

    Started dating a few weeks later, with him cheating on his long-term girlfriend. Broke up several times and got back together because it seemed like the "responsible" "grown-up" thing to do. After graduation from college he held a series of minimum-wage part-time restaurant jobs...
    zkjk1112 zkjk1112 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Should I Leave My Husband?

    My husband and I have been together for over 10 years and we don't have children although we had planned to start a family soon. I take my wedding vows seriously and have always thought that divorce shouldn't be an option unless there is physical abuse or infidelity but recently...
    dani1113 dani1113 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    What Would You Do?

    My husband is a sweet man, he just never wants sex. We had sex twice in the last year. He also snores and I cannot sleep next to him unless he wears a snore mask. No sex and no sleep. We have no children and I am almost 38 years old. He is going through a mid life crisis and...
    donewithnyc donewithnyc 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    Trapped

    My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years, and I joke that for my 20th I want a divorce. But it isn't a joke, I am miserable. We were in our early 20's when we married, we have 4 children, we go to church, we are active in our community and I do and say what is...
    Leoslover Leoslover 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    I have been married for 29 years

    and it has been torture the last 15! We do not sleep in the same room, nor do we even sit in the same room. I can't stand to be around him and I never start any conversations with him. The last time I asked him for a divorce he said he would take the kids and find me unfit, then...
    timetobehappy47 timetobehappy47 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 29

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    Six Week Update On "I Want More"

    So I posted story on 30th January. Thank you for all the advice which was very helpful. I did talk to my husband about the situation. Six weeks later things have not changed, in fact they are probably worse and I am planning my escape. I'm looking for a job in a town about two...
    rudyboo rudyboo 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 15, 2013

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    I Need A New Life

    I have been with my husband for 15 years, the first few years where really good but now it is just awful. It's so hard to explain, my husband isn't nasty, he doesn't yell or treat me badly, he doesn't question my spending infact he is a near perfect...
    imogensface imogensface 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 22, 2009

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    I have been with my husband

    for almost ten years, we have been married for four. We have no children as I decided soon after we married that he wasn't really father material as he couldn't look after himself never mind a child. It's gotten to the stage now where I'm dreaming of it and although I still love...
    Youmeit77 Youmeit77 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    How Can A Afford To Raise The Kids On My Own?

    My husband and I were engaged 3 weeks after we met and married 3 mths later... That was 16.5 years ago.... Over the last 5 or 6 years I have been keeping up with the daily task of performing the role of a happily married woman... My husband and I are nothing more then roommates...
    itmemama itmemama 36-40 1 Response Feb 19, 2013

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    i got married to this person

    who lied to me about his medical condition , had affairs with random women ,was a psychopath used to break things all over the house , shout ,abuse,hit me , was just playing a dirty politics with me , used to purposely fight with me especially over weekends , n then leave the...
    friendzzz friendzzz 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    I Want To Leave

    I have been married for 4 yrs tomorrow, and I want to leave. I love my husband but I have never been in love with him, after 10yrs I should be. I have never been faithful to him, I have been in a on off relationship with the love of my life for 11 years. I'm tired of the lies the...
    ALLinAL ALLinAL 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    I Don'T Know Anymore..

    I have been with my husband for almost 4 years, and we have been married for 2. When we started dating there was passion and heat. I felt love and happiness. It was great. I felt like I molded myself to him and what he wanted me to be. I changed so many aspects of myself to make...
    sillystring1989 sillystring1989 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2013

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    I Don't Know What To Do

    I still love my husband but I cannot tolerate his behavior anymore. He loses his cool over the stupid things, and doesn't seem to actually care about the important ones. He has the mentality of a nine year old and I just don't want to be around him anymore. He refuses to talk...
    brokencrown brokencrown 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2012

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    Can't Take Anymore Abuse

    I have been with my husband less than 2 years. When we first got together everything was great. After a few months of marriage I started to realize I did not know the person i married anymore. He was always drunk, had a horrid temper and said the most disrespectful, awful things...
    tsmommy327 tsmommy327 26-30 3 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    Not Sure If I Can

    I have not been in love with my husband for at least 8 years (since about our 2nd year in marriage). I love him, but the love has morphed into a more brotherly-type love. I'm not attracted or connected to him anymore. And we've been in financial crisis for a few years, so that...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 61 Responses Apr 24, 2009

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    I Want To Leave But I Can't

    I have been wanting to leave my husband off and on for several years now. But in the past moth, I have been feeling an urgency to leave, like I need to get out fast. I love him very much, we have been married 11 years and have two daughters, 9 and 10. But I have just realized...
    sunnymc sunnymc 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 21, 2012

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    We've been together for almost 4 years.

    When we got together I had a 2 year old daughter and they fell in love instantly. I was in love with him and not long after we had been together for a year, I was pregnant with baby #2. Ever since I had my son, nothings been the same. We love each other, were just not in love...
    MissDemeanor580 MissDemeanor580 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 13

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    I Want Out... But Have No Idea How To Go About It

    Ive been with my husband for 35 years, married for 27 of those years... I have three gorgeous sons, whom I love unconditionally, but I just cannot be with their dad any longer... He has been a good provider and up until six years ago I was the major wage earner in that we both...
    Givememylifeback Givememylifeback 51-55, F 12 Responses Jul 19, 2012

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    Just So Ready To Leave, Living In A Hell I Made For Myself.

    I have been with my husband for 14 years, we have been married for 5...almost 6. We have three children ages 8, 6, & 4. When I met my husband I was 21 and he was 25. I worked and went to school and he was just getting out of the military. I fell for him so hard and was in so...
    PeacenRelease PeacenRelease 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 15, 2013

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    I bounce back and forth

    so so many times. Do I try harder or have I had enough? We've been in counseling for months...I don't know if I really love him any more... He's a good man and a wonderful father...but I'm so done being his crutch, his permanent cheerleader. What happened to me? When did I get...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 10

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    I Want To Leave My Husband

    When I met my husband I was a different person. I was young, 19, and his bad boy ways intrigued me. I never wanted marriage or kids. I didn't think it was in the cards for me. We went back and forth for a year. He went back and forth between me and an ex. I finally left him, and...
    Amanda417 Amanda417 22-25, F Sep 22, 2013

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    Headaches

    i really must leave. He hates me cos i had a baby he said he did not want
    belkus belkus 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2013

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    Finally Ready To Leave

    I am in my mid 30s...my husband and I have been together since I was a teenager. I cannot WAIT to leave. I have approximately 1 year of school before I can divorce, and not be in the poor house with 2 young children. My husband is an a*$, and has been for all these years. I think...
    kellyann101 kellyann101 36-40, F Oct 27, 2013

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