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I Want to Overcome My Shyness

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    I Want To Overcome

    Now that I am an adult, I want to overcome my almost-painful bouts of shyness. They're not as bad as they were when I was a little girl, but they're still in evidence in certain situations. My mom was an extrovert. I think it came from being Grandma's oldest daughter. She often...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F May 28, 2013

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    Being Shy.

    Hi i'm christian and I have been shy all my life, I don't go hang out with friends and go places I have brothers and sisters that don't like to hang out with me and I will stay in the house all weekends if I diden't have or wont to do anything I'm the youngest out of my borthers...
    1sassy 1sassy 22-25, F Jul 28, 2012

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    Must Keep Trying

    I have suffered from acute shyness for as long as I can remember and it has held me back in many areas of my life - education, career, friendships, romantic relationships. Now I am in my late twenties and I do feel that life is passing me by and that I have missed out on so...
    lonelygirl19 lonelygirl19 26-30, F 10 Responses Oct 21, 2007

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    Not Social >.<

    hey well I'm not really a social guy >.< I am and them I'm not I'll talk to new people and different people but I'm scared sometimes. Because if I get nervous I start to sweat :( I hate it and if all eyes are on my I get really nervous and sweat and then I sweat even more because...
    Oscar567 Oscar567 18-21, M Aug 20, 2013

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    I am shy. I have spent many hours throughout my

    life trying to figure out what this means and if it is a weakness or a strength. I figure that it is whatever I wish to define it as. I become tense and awkward whenever I am around people. I become uncomfortable for seemingly no reason. I believe that this is just a time in my...
    bec413 bec413 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Aug 29

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    But Don't Know How....

    My mother is very shy and nervous as are my aunt and grandfather. So you could say it is in the genes. I work with children and part of my job involves taking a daily register for up to 80 kids. I can do that no problem and do it in a no nonsense way. However, put me in another...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses May 25, 2011

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    Pathetic

    i alwyas feel really pathetic around people when i go all shy, i used to get bright red cheeks and still do, although i now wear foundation which covers most of it up, i feel so fake wearing makeup though... shyness for me means, standing in a group of people you know and being...
    MzZombie MzZombie 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2008

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    20 Years Old And Way Too Shy For My Own Good..

    So I'm 20 and I am too shy I have one or two friends, (wish I had more) that I go out with every once in a while but I'm the one always standing in a corner. I get told to dance and relax but I honestly just can't for the life of me do it. It's quite annoying.. it's also affected...
    heartleszzsangel heartleszzsangel 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 10, 2013

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    I Fear Getting Close To Someone Because Of How My Parents Split Up

    However this sounds, I'm not going to blame my parents' separation/divorce for my almost lifelong shyness. Until I was 7, I was pretty social, even having 2 "girlfriends". But my parents tended to argue a lot. When I was in the middle of 2nd grade, I remember saying goodbye to...
    phosefan22 phosefan22 46-50, M Jul 2, 2013

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    Friend...

    okay so this friend that i have been talking about actually is turning out to be a real b*tch. she wants attention too much and she has too much pride!! i used to be jealous of her [still feeling that she is trying to hard to be cool], but now she has definitely lost my respect...
    iwishiwasyoursomeone iwishiwasyoursomeone 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 17, 2010

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    I hate myself for being

    so shy. I want to be the girl everyone notices and likes and has a fun time to be around. I want to be able to talk to the boy I've been crushing on but I don't know how.
    blvvck blvvck 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2013

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    On My Own Terms

    I'd like to overcome my shyness, but on my own terms.  In other words, I'd like to address it without losing a sense of who I really am.  I really don't have big issue with my shyness in that I don't think less of myself for it. The perception that shy people lack...
    ichiro3 ichiro3 41-45 3 Responses Jan 19, 2010

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    Times Like These....

    It's times like these that I REALLY don't want to be shy anymore. I went to a women's rights meeting yesterday and I knew one or two girls there so I wasn't walking in cold. I was really, REALLY excited about the meeting too. Then. It came. Go around the room and introduce...
    runningfree2 runningfree2 22-25 Nov 5, 2012

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    Practice Makes Perfect

    Every situation is a practice situation, i've learnt that by looking at each situation as practicing socially takes alot of pressure off me saying the perfect  sentence. It allows you to make mistakes and also make that first move.  I want to overcome my shyness, i feel...
    jamzam jamzam 18-21, M Jun 30, 2008

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    Shyness Out Of Eye Contact!

    I dunno how to categorize this kind of shyness but I cannot look into the eyes of a stranger (especially a girl) without getting all that conscious about it.I dunno but I call it shyness as I don't tend to maintain an eye contact with a stranger.Are you one like me too ?
    theweirdhippo theweirdhippo 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 18, 2012

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    At the End of the Day It's Actions That Matter

    Thoughts and thoughts and thoughts. At the end of the day all your thoughts count for nothing it's only your actions, what you do that will make a difference in your life  and what people will remember you for.  It's a fine line to cross and the hardest thing to do...
    jamzam jamzam 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 29, 2008

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    Driving Me Crazy...

    I really hate being so shy... I'm sure those of you who are as shy as I am can completely relate. I can't tell you how many things in my life have been affected by it.  I have such a hard time making new friends, and doing normal things that most people don't even give a...
    dmltc2000 dmltc2000 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

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    I Need A Social Life

    This is hard for me to talk to about.....Here goes. Everytime I go on Facebook and look at photos of my friends and former classmates, I sometimes get angry & upset. the pics they put up most of the time are them hanging out on the weekends having a blast, hell they even put pics...
    dragonhead1000 dragonhead1000 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 7, 2013

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    I've always been a shy person

    but it seems to me that every day my shyness is taking a bigger part if me. For me it's very hard to talk to people as i don't know what to say to them or what they are going to think about me. When chatting online i feel that i can be myself and open up to others. I really hope...
    Vaidas Vaidas 18-21, M Aug 19

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    Shy?

    I am not entirely sure if I am really as shy as some people can be. I was voted "Most Shy" in high school, and I could kind of understand it. I was very quiet in classes. None of my actual friends would ever call me shy, though. I am loud and always talking and laughing around...
    pauserewind pauserewind 18-21, F Oct 30, 2012

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    The Definition of Me

    I tend to only focus on my bad qualities, so when I think of myself, the first thing that comes to mind is that I am shy. Everyone at school knows me as the shy, quiet one and sometimes I feel as though I can't act outside of that reputation or I will draw a lot of unnecessary...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 28, 2008

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    Hoping to Change

    This is my first story here so I guess I’ll write about the reason I join…to overcome my ever growing shyness. Growing up I’ve always been somewhat shy, but never enough to keep me from making new friends or public speaking. As I got older I become really...
    BleedingxMascara BleedingxMascara 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2008

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    Nobody Likes The Shy One

    So it takes me a while to warm up to people. When I first meet people I usually don't say anything unless I'm talked to. I hate it. Its like this fear that has a hold of me. I want to say things and talk but for some reason i can't. Inside my head I'm just screaming " say...
    drewitsup2u drewitsup2u 26-30, M Aug 4, 2013

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    Shy And Jealous

    not a good combination. i have this friend who is absolutely someone i envy! she has a boyfriend, is pretty thin, and is outspoken. she is funny and gets a lot of attention. we are really good friends, but i feel like she also may be becoming a bit distant from me but we are...
    iwishiwasyoursomeone iwishiwasyoursomeone 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    My Daily Struggle.

    I believe that every guy has a horny and sexy self inside that wants to come out, but we just don't know how to put him out there. That's frustrating. My social life is crap. I'm in high school and my daily life is really ****, man. I sit sometimes and think about it and I've...
    GforShy GforShy 16-17 1 Response Nov 9, 2012

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    I really need to overcome my shyness.

    It's holding me back from everything. I have no social life. I feel like everyone else is more important than me. I hate people looking at me, it's like they can see right through me and then, bam, they know everything about you and can see all your faults. Or I think when they...
    TheShyOne1996 TheShyOne1996 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    Okay well I'm 18 and my whole life I have

    always been super quiet and a bit shy. Since the 1st grade I hadn't spoken much too people, when I came to highschool I could probably count how many times a day I spoke to people. I was always the friend that filled the gap I was always the extra when someone need something I...
    nickichaYaminaj nickichaYaminaj 18-21 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    Yes Please!

    I'm not really that shy. I have good friends with whom I'm not close to shy, it's just with strangers usually. And hot girls, they intimidate me into shyness :P I'm not really a conversation starter with strangers, I can't go up to random people and just start talking. I can...
    KeasbeyNights KeasbeyNights 22-25, M 9 Responses Mar 9, 2010

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    For the Most Part I Have Ov...

    For the most part I have overcome my shyness.  Stagefright can still leave me tongue-tied if more than a few people are present.   That is why my answer has to be yes.
    uponme uponme 66-70 1 Response Apr 7, 2009

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    I struggle to talk to people.

    I consider myself as an introvert . I don't know how to overcome this problem. When I go out I feel left out . I just wonder if I suffer from depression. I really don't have much friends anymore . I'm starting to feel alone
    cheekyp cheekyp 18-21, F Mar 30

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    Coy

    I dislike that shyness is apart of my personality. I feel as though shyness is my holding my own self back denying my own potential. Shyness causes me to take baby steps when I have the ability to make leaps and bounds. On the other hand, I feel that God made me the way that he...
    carolinagirls carolinagirls 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 11, 2013

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    Can I Really Do This?

    I have no idea why I'm shy. Sometimes I wonder if it's actually my personality. I make to-do lists of tasks I have to complete, goals I need to reach, and I can always do it. Except when I try writing, "stop being shy". I know I have to, if at all possible, but I...
    Gentlenotshy Gentlenotshy 13-15, F Sep 30, 2009

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