I Want to Overcome My Shyness

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 489 People

    Must Keep Trying

    I have suffered from acute shyness for as long as I can remember and it has held me back in many areas of my life - education, career, friendships, romantic relationships. Now I am in my late twenties and I do feel that life is passing me by and that I have missed out on so...
    lonelygirl19 lonelygirl19
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Oct 21, 2007

    Not Social >.<

    hey well I'm not really a social guy >.< I am and them I'm not I'll talk to new people and different people but I'm scared sometimes. Because if I get nervous I start to sweat :( I hate it and if all eyes are on my I get really nervous and sweat and then I sweat even more because...
    Oscar567 Oscar567
    22-25, M
    Aug 20, 2013

    Can I Really Do This?

    I have no idea why I'm shy. Sometimes I wonder if it's actually my personality. I make to-do lists of tasks I have to complete, goals I need to reach, and I can always do it. Except when I try writing, "stop being shy". I know I have to, if at all possible, but I...
    Gentlenotshy Gentlenotshy
    13-15, F
    Sep 30, 2009

    I really need to overcome my shyness.

    It's holding me back from everything. I have no social life. I feel like everyone else is more important than me. I hate people looking at me, it's like they can see right through me and then, bam, they know everything about you and can see all your faults. Or I think when they...
    JustAGirl96 JustAGirl96
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2014

    20 Years Old And Way Too Shy For My Own Good..

    So I'm 20 and I am too shy I have one or two friends, (wish I had more) that I go out with every once in a while but I'm the one always standing in a corner. I get told to dance and relax but I honestly just can't for the life of me do it. It's quite annoying.. it's also affected...
    heartleszzsangel heartleszzsangel
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jun 10, 2013

    I Fear Getting Close To Someone Because Of How My Parents Split Up

    However this sounds, I'm not going to blame my parents' separation/divorce for my almost lifelong shyness. Until I was 7, I was pretty social, even having 2 "girlfriends". But my parents tended to argue a lot. When I was in the middle of 2nd grade, I remember saying goodbye to...
    phosefan22 phosefan22
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jul 2, 2013

    On My Own Terms

    I'd like to overcome my shyness, but on my own terms.  In other words, I'd like to address it without losing a sense of who I really am.  I really don't have big issue with my shyness in that I don't think less of myself for it. The perception that shy people lack...
    ichiro3 ichiro3
    3 Responses Jan 19, 2010
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer
    18-21, F
    Aug 29, 2014


    okay so this friend that i have been talking about actually is turning out to be a real b*tch. she wants attention too much and she has too much pride!! i used to be jealous of her [still feeling that she is trying to hard to be cool], but now she has definitely lost my respect...
    iwishiwasyoursomeone iwishiwasyoursomeone
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jan 17, 2010


    I am not entirely sure if I am really as shy as some people can be. I was voted "Most Shy" in high school, and I could kind of understand it. I was very quiet in classes. None of my actual friends would ever call me shy, though. I am loud and always talking and laughing around...
    pauserewind pauserewind
    18-21, F
    Oct 30, 2012

    Driving Me Crazy...

    I really hate being so shy... I'm sure those of you who are as shy as I am can completely relate. I can't tell you how many things in my life have been affected by it.  I have such a hard time making new friends, and doing normal things that most people don't even give a...
    dmltc2000 dmltc2000
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

    For the Most Part I Have Ov...

    For the most part I have overcome my shyness.  Stagefright can still leave me tongue-tied if more than a few people are present.   That is why my answer has to be yes.
    uponme uponme
    1 Response Apr 7, 2009

    Why can't I just talk to people?

    I go to all these events and clubs to try and make friends, and I end up leaving early because I'm too shy to talk to anyone. I guess there's no point in trying anymore. All I want to do is meet new people but I'm too awkward to do even that. I can't even begin to imagine how...
    Syntagram Syntagram
    18-21, F
    Feb 13, 2016

    Shyness Out Of Eye Contact!

    I dunno how to categorize this kind of shyness but I cannot look into the eyes of a stranger (especially a girl) without getting all that conscious about it.I dunno but I call it shyness as I don't tend to maintain an eye contact with a stranger.Are you one like me too ?
    theweirdhippo theweirdhippo
    22-25, M
    1 Response Sep 18, 2012

    I struggle to talk to people.

    I consider myself as an introvert . I don't know how to overcome this problem. When I go out I feel left out . I just wonder if I suffer from depression. I really don't have much friends anymore . I'm starting to feel alone
    cheekyp cheekyp
    22-25, F
    Mar 30, 2014

    Being Shy.

    Hi i'm christian and I have been shy all my life, I don't go hang out with friends and go places I have brothers and sisters that don't like to hang out with me and I will stay in the house all weekends if I diden't have or wont to do anything I'm the youngest out of my borthers...
    1sassy 1sassy
    22-25, F
    Jul 28, 2012

    At the End of the Day It's Actions That Matter

    Thoughts and thoughts and thoughts. At the end of the day all your thoughts count for nothing it's only your actions, what you do that will make a difference in your life  and what people will remember you for.  It's a fine line to cross and the hardest thing to do...
    jamzam jamzam
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Jul 29, 2008

    I've always been a shy person

    but it seems to me that every day my shyness is taking a bigger part if me. For me it's very hard to talk to people as i don't know what to say to them or what they are going to think about me. When chatting online i feel that i can be myself and open up to others. I really hope...
    Vaidas Vaidas
    18-21, M
    Aug 19, 2014

    I Want To Overcome

    Now that I am an adult, I want to overcome my almost-painful bouts of shyness. They're not as bad as they were when I was a little girl, but they're still in evidence in certain situations. My mom was an extrovert. I think it came from being Grandma's oldest daughter. She often...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine
    61-65, F
    May 28, 2013

    But Don't Know How....

    My mother is very shy and nervous as are my aunt and grandfather. So you could say it is in the genes. I work with children and part of my job involves taking a daily register for up to 80 kids. I can do that no problem and do it in a no nonsense way. However, put me in another...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 25, 2011

    The Definition of Me

    I tend to only focus on my bad qualities, so when I think of myself, the first thing that comes to mind is that I am shy. Everyone at school knows me as the shy, quiet one and sometimes I feel as though I can't act outside of that reputation or I will draw a lot of unnecessary...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 28, 2008

    I am shy. I have spent many hours throughout my

    life trying to figure out what this means and if it is a weakness or a strength. I figure that it is whatever I wish to define it as. I become tense and awkward whenever I am around people. I become uncomfortable for seemingly no reason. I believe that this is just a time in my...
    bec413 bec413
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 19, 2014

    Hoping to Change

    This is my first story here so I guess I’ll write about the reason I join…to overcome my ever growing shyness. Growing up I’ve always been somewhat shy, but never enough to keep me from making new friends or public speaking. As I got older I become really...
    BleedingxMascara BleedingxMascara
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 8, 2008


    i alwyas feel really pathetic around people when i go all shy, i used to get bright red cheeks and still do, although i now wear foundation which covers most of it up, i feel so fake wearing makeup though... shyness for me means, standing in a group of people you know and being...
    MzZombie MzZombie
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 26, 2008

    Times Like These....

    It's times like these that I REALLY don't want to be shy anymore. I went to a women's rights meeting yesterday and I knew one or two girls there so I wasn't walking in cold. I was really, REALLY excited about the meeting too. Then. It came. Go around the room and introduce...
    runningfree2 runningfree2
    Nov 5, 2012

    I hate myself for being

    so shy. I want to be the girl everyone notices and likes and has a fun time to be around. I want to be able to talk to the boy I've been crushing on but I don't know how.
    blvvck blvvck
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2013

    I am so shy that it is actually a problem.

    If someone makes eye contact with me I freak the frick out. idk why it's just a thing.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 19, 2015

    Okay well I'm 18 and my whole life I have

    always been super quiet and a bit shy. Since the 1st grade I hadn't spoken much too people, when I came to highschool I could probably count how many times a day I spoke to people. I was always the friend that filled the gap I was always the extra when someone need something I...
    nickichaYaminaj nickichaYaminaj
    1 Response Dec 15, 2013


    I dislike that shyness is apart of my personality. I feel as though shyness is my holding my own self back denying my own potential. Shyness causes me to take baby steps when I have the ability to make leaps and bounds. On the other hand, I feel that God made me the way that he...
    carolinagirls carolinagirls
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2013

    Its not a bad thing to be shy.

    It's just like some other trait people have. Most shy people are introverts, but not all introverts are shy. We live in an extroverted world, thus a lot if people think that if one is shy, quiet, or prefers to be alone then it's a sign of weakness. It is not. As you go through...
    celestia23 celestia23
    31-35, F
    Mar 21, 2016

    Practice Makes Perfect

    Every situation is a practice situation, i've learnt that by looking at each situation as practicing socially takes alot of pressure off me saying the perfect  sentence. It allows you to make mistakes and also make that first move.  I want to overcome my shyness, i feel...
    jamzam jamzam
    18-21, M
    Jun 30, 2008

    Shy And Jealous

    not a good combination. i have this friend who is absolutely someone i envy! she has a boyfriend, is pretty thin, and is outspoken. she is funny and gets a lot of attention. we are really good friends, but i feel like she also may be becoming a bit distant from me but we are...
    iwishiwasyoursomeone iwishiwasyoursomeone
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Nov 13, 2009

    Nobody Likes The Shy One

    So it takes me a while to warm up to people. When I first meet people I usually don't say anything unless I'm talked to. I hate it. Its like this fear that has a hold of me. I want to say things and talk but for some reason i can't. Inside my head I'm just screaming " say...
    drewitsup2u drewitsup2u
    31-35, M
    Aug 4, 2013

    I Need A Social Life

    This is hard for me to talk to about.....Here goes. Everytime I go on Facebook and look at photos of my friends and former classmates, I sometimes get angry & upset. the pics they put up most of the time are them hanging out on the weekends having a blast, hell they even put pics...
    dragonhead1000 dragonhead1000
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 7, 2013

    My Daily Struggle.

    I believe that every guy has a horny and sexy self inside that wants to come out, but we just don't know how to put him out there. That's frustrating. My social life is crap. I'm in high school and my daily life is really ****, man. I sit sometimes and think about it and I've...
    GforShy GforShy
    1 Response Nov 9, 2012
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