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I Want to Save My Marriage

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    I Am Trying To Save My Marriage After My Husband Had An Affair--and Child.

    I am searching for others who feel like I do and hope to find some who made it to the other side of this pain and confusion. About 2 years ago I found out my husband had had an affair 8 years before that. There had been blackmail & extortion ever since it happened since a child...
    tgtg tgtg 41-45 1 Response Oct 2, 2010

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    What Am I Supposed To Do At This Point?

    I almost feel that it was over before it started.  Our vows, which I took to heart, were never upheld from the beginning.Problem 1: Sex.  I am no sexaholic, I have no freaky fetishes, and I feel that I am thoroughly pleasing in that arena.  We were like rabbits for the first...
    TXschoolin TXschoolin 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 21, 2011

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    The Fight!

    The fight begins when you are tired. You have nothing in your reserves but you must push forward. Love the world even if it doesn't love you. Find strength where there is no strength. Love even though your love has been taken away and you have no love to give.
    MrsFaithful MrsFaithful 36-40, F 2 Responses May 9, 2011

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    One More Try

    I've been in a rut , a terriable rut!  My husband, who I love very much says he wants a divorce, he's done!  I of course do not....  Long story short, I am bipolar, very hard on myself mentally, kids are at the ages......., quit my job to move, I have no job, and I...
    usmile4me usmile4me 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    I Want To Save My Marriage

    I desperately want to save my marriage but my wife is distancing her self from me. I have been out of work for 3 months and I think she has lost faith in me. I don't know what to do.
    Help52 Help52 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 5, 2013

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    My Married Life...

    I will be two years married in May, and I am not sure i will make that. After one year dating from far away and another year living together with his roommates, we stayed about 3 months of our marriage in this house with 3 other people a flea...
    kikinha kikinha 31-35 2 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    If anyone out there can see me and who is dealing with the same problem pls chat with me!
    Lonliness1 Lonliness1 36-40 2 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    I am going to take the Love Dare!

    I only hope that it is not too late to salvage my marriage!!!
    fishin4eyes fishin4eyes 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    Relationship Contract?

    Are you or someone you know married or dating and have drawn up a contract in order to save their relationship? Do you wish you could make a contract of “I’ll do this, if you do this” with your spouse or significant other, but have hesitations? Or maybe you wish there were...
    ladaytimetalkshow ladaytimetalkshow 22-25, F Aug 6, 2012

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    The Title Says It All

    Hubby and I are putting the last year behind us.  It's pretty clear that a lot of the resentment started about a year ago, when the economy started to take it's toll on our business and personal finances.  It's amazing how things can spiral out of control from a trigger...
    piscesgal piscesgal 31-35, F 24 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    I Love Him Alot But Its Getting Hard To Live With Him..........

    we got married 2 years ago everything was fine for the first few months but after that my husband changed alot.he always gets angry on small things and never shares any feelings with me.we live in a joint family and my father in law and my mother in law are making my life hell.my...
    amangrewal2011 amangrewal2011 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Not Just Friends (tm Shirly P Glass)

    That's the book I'm reading right now. I wanted to let other people know about the book. If you are going through infidelity of a spouse or are the other person this book is right up your alley. Even if you are the unfaithful spouse, this book is for you. Not Just Friends by...
    NorthernOntarioMama NorthernOntarioMama 31-35, F May 31, 2011

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    My New Coping Mechanism

    My husband wants to leave me and I am torn apart.  I've had a lot of trouble sleeping in the bed we used to share.  So I started a blog about it all.  I don't want to burden my friends and family with it, so I am trying to promote it in an anonymous way.  Making a post each...
    rahkeepschanging rahkeepschanging 26-30, F Jan 11, 2012

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    Too Little Too Late

    I love my husband dearly and couldn't imagine being without him. Unfortunately he does not feel like we are a good fit together. We are walking on eggshells now. I try so hard to be open and honest as possible because, at this point, its what is needed to make things work. I...
    simplycharis simplycharis 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    How Important Is Your Marriage To You?

    Married 34 years with three adult children, Dave and Ginny sat back to back in their home office. Ginny was scanning down through the inbox of her email when her heart lurched. One message was from an old boyfriend, and she clicked on it. As she put it, “Opening that email...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 17, 2013

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    I Suppose...

    When I joined Ep it was because I was looking for websites on sexless marriages. I have learned a lot from being here as pertains to why a spouse would deny sex to their SO. But not much in the way of saving the marriages. And I can understand it all now. I want my marriage...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    Can't Trust Him

    It been almost two years since my husband has cheated on me. He had an affier for a month in tell I found out. We took time apart for about 3 months but then slowly got back togeather he didn't admite to it at first but then he told me the truth. It's just so hard I'm so affried...
    Orianna08 Orianna08 22-25 Nov 26, 2012

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    Your Love Never Fails! By Jesus Culture

    Nothing can separate Even if I ran away Your love never fails I know I still make mistakes But You have new mercies for me everyday Your love never fails Chorus: You stay the same through the ages Your love never changes There may be pain in the night but joy comes in the...
    perfectsky perfectsky 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2013

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    Where Do I Go From Here?

    I met my husband Alex about 2 years ago. We officially started dating on Oct. 11th, 2008. We got married on June 5th, 2009. The happiest day of my life. Now everything has gone downhill. I overheard him saying somethings about me to his friend so I confronted ...
    KiaraP KiaraP 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    My husband constantly choses to play video

    games instead of coming to bed with me. It really hurts that I pretty much have to lure him into bed with sex to get him to come lay with me. I just asked him if he would come and lay with me just until I fell asleep and he said that he was in the middle of a match. He then...
    mrsmoe13 mrsmoe13 22-25, F Sep 18

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    My Husband Is Giving Up...

    I met a man less than 5 months ago. From the moment I met him I knew I wanted to spend my life with him. He was still married although they had been seperated for awhile. He has a 7 year old son and I have 3 and 4 year old girls. We got engaged right away, he said hed marry me...
    jenni4582 jenni4582 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    I Want To Go Back To The Way We Were.

    I am a wife of a Navy submariner, so because of his schedule we didn't have much sex together in the same country to begin with. We had great communication, and we some how (at least I thought) made phone and video sex work until he would return home. Last August I found out I...
    sneetchy sneetchy 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Biggest mistake I ever made was getting married. Despite evidence of psychological issues, I married her. We had a kid. A year after marriage. So I've stuck it out. She's...
    Seekinganewlife Seekinganewlife 61-65, M 42 mins ago

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    Before my birth my Mom was told no heartbeat can be found ,your child has died and we need to remove the fetus ,,Mom said no ,,,I want my Mom and her friends to pray ,,they did...
    rckt148 rckt148 51-55, M 2 Responses Nov 29

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    I am not a virgin, I have also been married before and have unfortunately had many experiences of sex without marriage. I really enjoy sex, however, I have always believed sex...
    jrsybelle jrsybelle 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I have no clue if you even know how much you hurt me without even saying a word. You will always be a challenge to me now and it sucks. I want to feel like I am his only one, but...
    Nannyxd Nannyxd 18-21, F Dec 7

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    Well making memories turned into almost hell. This is the only night off so I really wanted to get the Christmas tree up and lights on it. Things were going well we were all...
    Gingersmiles Gingersmiles 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 3

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    well after our huge fight the other day, my husband sent this nice long text that he wanted to save or marriage and we should have a nice long talk about what we want, and not...
    nodbates nodbates 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 28

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    everyone expects something. they expect me to behave this way, or think that way. and I'm ridiculed for the person I am. the core of my being. I think I got to the point that I...
    loveandlight29 loveandlight29 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 11

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    Please ladies and gents your virginity is a very special gift. Don't give this gift away at a party drunk or because he pressuring you, give it away to a person your comfortable...
    PrincessMarina PrincessMarina 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 23

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    Daily it seems I see the same post...someone stating they live in a sexless marriage. Sometimes I respond and offer advice though it feels like I'm just adding my voice to the many...
    RLB2 RLB2 41-45, M 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    As I write these words from my heart it brings tears to my eyes. Every time I think about my beautiful daughter I can't help, but smile. As most of you know; I adopted my daughter...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I don't have many goals in life but I do want to get married someday. I've been told that this is a stupid thing to want to achieve. But my family has had a run of bad luck when it...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 26

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    I truly believe that heroism can come in many different forms. In this case, two Heroes saved my life. I battled severe depression and body dysmorphic disorder almost all of my...
    Fifimeow Fifimeow 18-21, F Dec 7

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    I've always wanted someone to save me my entire life. With loneliness and saddest that crept into my mind sometimes I needed someone to hold at night. Someone by my side. I am...
    karieme20 karieme20 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    It's been a long time since I wrote: If you have read my previous articles then you already have the background or a lot of it. If not my situation is as follows: I have been...
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    My demon stood with me He who took all i had from me, Who had stolen away from me Family, Joy and Peace. I sought help from my savior, Christ, Praying for strength, begging for...
    TwentyTwoReasons TwentyTwoReasons 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 27

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    It's been a year since I last posted. I had an online affair with a woman I met on EP. I fell in love with her. My wife found out and I broke it off. I haven't spoken to her in a...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 28

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for just over 16 years. In that time I've been through the counseling sessions, countless fights, nights on the couch, online trysts, real life near...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 1

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    Well I'm not sure where this will end up. But I'm here as a former refuser. One to make some amends and two to tell the truth to all the women who are currently living with a...
    Transgressed Transgressed 46-50, M 4 Responses Dec 10

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    You know what hurts? What really, really hurts about my marriage? That I am my Husbands Best Friend. He's told me this. It's true, all the good friends I've known him to have...
    FreyjaInBattle FreyjaInBattle 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 11

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    Air conditioning has become an inseparable item on household luxuries these days. Most houses have air cooling facilities to help their inmates beat the summer heat. However, one...
    addhavc addhavc 18-21, F Dec 1

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    I know that it's the usually from everyone. "Oh, I love music and it keeps me going. " For me, it's different. I am a passionate musician , I play three instruments and have been...
    Imnotxkay Imnotxkay 13-15, F Dec 1

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    Ive been married for 1 year and i hate my marriage. All my husband do is take me for granted, harass everyone in the house, disrespect us and verbally abuse us. Im tired of my...
    shakii00 shakii00 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    Wow... the title couldn't fit me better... I've been married for 14 yrs to a man that use to be a good man... that is before he retired from the army and before he started getting...
    neydi1972 neydi1972 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 3

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    Well at the end of July my mother in law moved in, and was told she would be helping, well no such luck. Our sex life and intimacy has only gotten worse. I feel more like a...
    Fotoman Fotoman 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Don't ever think you're completely secure in a relationship. I say this because you can't know another persons mind or heart. Like me, you can't believe you're living a fairy tale...
    zanyzoey zanyzoey 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I don't feel marriage proves your love to someone. Actions speak louder than words and if you want to prove your love to someone you spend your life with them. Saying you're going...
    ChristianKekoa90 ChristianKekoa90 22-25, M 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Please respond with authenticity, support, and