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I Want to Save My Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 92 People

    Too Little Too Late

    I love my husband dearly and couldn't imagine being without him. Unfortunately he does not feel like we are a good fit together. We are walking on eggshells now. I try so hard to be open and honest as possible because, at this point, its what is needed to make things work. I...
    simplycharis simplycharis 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    I Love Him Alot But Its Getting Hard To Live With Him..........

    we got married 2 years ago everything was fine for the first few months but after that my husband changed alot.he always gets angry on small things and never shares any feelings with me.we live in a joint family and my father in law and my mother in law are making my life hell.my...
    amangrewal2011 amangrewal2011 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    I Want To Go Back To The Way We Were.

    I am a wife of a Navy submariner, so because of his schedule we didn't have much sex together in the same country to begin with. We had great communication, and we some how (at least I thought) made phone and video sex work until he would return home. Last August I found out I...
    sneetchy sneetchy 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2013

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    The Fight!

    The fight begins when you are tired. You have nothing in your reserves but you must push forward. Love the world even if it doesn't love you. Find strength where there is no strength. Love even though your love has been taken away and you have no love to give.
    MrsFaithful MrsFaithful 36-40, F 2 Responses May 9, 2011

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    I Suppose...

    When I joined Ep it was because I was looking for websites on sexless marriages. I have learned a lot from being here as pertains to why a spouse would deny sex to their SO. But not much in the way of saving the marriages. And I can understand it all now. I want my marriage...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    Can't Trust Him

    It been almost two years since my husband has cheated on me. He had an affier for a month in tell I found out. We took time apart for about 3 months but then slowly got back togeather he didn't admite to it at first but then he told me the truth. It's just so hard I'm so affried...
    Orianna08 Orianna08 22-25 Nov 26, 2012

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    Not Just Friends (tm Shirly P Glass)

    That's the book I'm reading right now. I wanted to let other people know about the book. If you are going through infidelity of a spouse or are the other person this book is right up your alley. Even if you are the unfaithful spouse, this book is for you. Not Just Friends by...
    NorthernOntarioMama NorthernOntarioMama 31-35, F May 31, 2011

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    How Important Is Your Marriage To You?

    Married 34 years with three adult children, Dave and Ginny sat back to back in their home office. Ginny was scanning down through the inbox of her email when her heart lurched. One message was from an old boyfriend, and she clicked on it. As she put it, “Opening that email...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 17, 2013

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    My husband constantly choses to play video

    games instead of coming to bed with me. It really hurts that I pretty much have to lure him into bed with sex to get him to come lay with me. I just asked him if he would come and lay with me just until I fell asleep and he said that he was in the middle of a match. He then...
    mrsmoe13 mrsmoe13 22-25, F Sep 18

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    I am going to take the Love Dare!

    I only hope that it is not too late to salvage my marriage!!!
    fishin4eyes fishin4eyes 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 12

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    Your Love Never Fails! By Jesus Culture

    Nothing can separate Even if I ran away Your love never fails I know I still make mistakes But You have new mercies for me everyday Your love never fails Chorus: You stay the same through the ages Your love never changes There may be pain in the night but joy comes in the...
    perfectsky perfectsky 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2013

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    I Want To Save My Marriage

    I desperately want to save my marriage but my wife is distancing her self from me. I have been out of work for 3 months and I think she has lost faith in me. I don't know what to do.
    Help52 Help52 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 5, 2013

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    My New Coping Mechanism

    My husband wants to leave me and I am torn apart.  I've had a lot of trouble sleeping in the bed we used to share.  So I started a blog about it all.  I don't want to burden my friends and family with it, so I am trying to promote it in an anonymous way.  Making a post each...
    rahkeepschanging rahkeepschanging 26-30, F Jan 11, 2012

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    The Title Says It All

    Hubby and I are putting the last year behind us.  It's pretty clear that a lot of the resentment started about a year ago, when the economy started to take it's toll on our business and personal finances.  It's amazing how things can spiral out of control from a trigger...
    piscesgal piscesgal 31-35, F 24 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    Relationship Contract?

    Are you or someone you know married or dating and have drawn up a contract in order to save their relationship? Do you wish you could make a contract of “I’ll do this, if you do this” with your spouse or significant other, but have hesitations? Or maybe you wish there were...
    ladaytimetalkshow ladaytimetalkshow 22-25, F Aug 6, 2012

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    Empty

    If anyone out there can see me and who is dealing with the same problem pls chat with me!
    Lonliness1 Lonliness1 36-40 2 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    I Am Trying To Save My Marriage After My Husband Had An Affair--and Child.

    I am searching for others who feel like I do and hope to find some who made it to the other side of this pain and confusion. About 2 years ago I found out my husband had had an affair 8 years before that. There had been blackmail & extortion ever since it happened since a child...
    tgtg tgtg 41-45 1 Response Oct 2, 2010

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    One More Try

    I've been in a rut , a terriable rut!  My husband, who I love very much says he wants a divorce, he's done!  I of course do not....  Long story short, I am bipolar, very hard on myself mentally, kids are at the ages......., quit my job to move, I have no job, and I...
    usmile4me usmile4me 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    My Married Life...

    I will be two years married in May, and I am not sure i will make that. After one year dating from far away and another year living together with his roommates, we stayed about 3 months of our marriage in this house with 3 other people a flea...
    kikinha kikinha 31-35 2 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    What Am I Supposed To Do At This Point?

    I almost feel that it was over before it started.  Our vows, which I took to heart, were never upheld from the beginning.Problem 1: Sex.  I am no sexaholic, I have no freaky fetishes, and I feel that I am thoroughly pleasing in that arena.  We were like rabbits for the first...
    TXschoolin TXschoolin 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 21, 2011

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    Where Do I Go From Here?

    I met my husband Alex about 2 years ago. We officially started dating on Oct. 11th, 2008. We got married on June 5th, 2009. The happiest day of my life. Now everything has gone downhill. I overheard him saying somethings about me to his friend so I confronted ...
    KiaraP KiaraP 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    My Husband Is Giving Up...

    I met a man less than 5 months ago. From the moment I met him I knew I wanted to spend my life with him. He was still married although they had been seperated for awhile. He has a 7 year old son and I have 3 and 4 year old girls. We got engaged right away, he said hed marry me...
    jenni4582 jenni4582 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I'm on my way to Marriage counseling. Does anyone have any experience with this? I'm a little nervous
    mb1973 mb1973 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    I honestly think that I could be a pretty ****** adorable girlfriend, but an online relationship is just not for me. I need to see you, and hold your hand, and kiss you when you're...
    makaiajane makaiajane 16-17, F Sep 7

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    When is this hurt & suffering in my loveless marriage going to end....I can't remember the last time I felt really loved, & wanted & desired & happy, all I feel is pain, rejection...
    soulmate2014 soulmate2014 41-45, F 9 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Just looking for someone to talk to and lean on once in a while. Someone who will call me out and tell me how they see it. My life is pretty messed up. I am trying to rekindle my...
    fishin4eyes fishin4eyes 31-35, M 4 Responses Sep 3

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 15

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    Well, today is officially the last day I can say that I live in a Sexless Marriage. At 9am PST, my attorney will appear in front of a judge to have the divorce approved & signed...
    4hopefloats 4hopefloats 41-45, F 16 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    H asked me to come to bed last night, to cuddle. I agreed, with the stipulation that he cuddle me, which he did. He fussed because I didn't remove my clothes. Sorry, but that...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Dying While Giving Birth In my most recent past life I was a mother of four, when I gave birth to my youngest I died of infection in the hospital. In this lifetime my father is a...
    Futuete Futuete 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 19

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    A bit of a rant?... another one of those days where I need to get the thoughts out there somewhere! My refuser starts to see a psychiatrist tonight. The reason being is our...
    asterinight asterinight 31-35, F 7 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I feel I can not carry this burden of sadness any longer,my marriage has been lonely for so long.My husband and I had not been intimate for years he did not approach me avoided and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 5

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    I think it’s about time I make a final decision. My 20 year anniversary is coming up in 2 short weeks. Normally this would be a time for great celebration. I see it as an...
    beachlivin04 beachlivin04 41-45, M 18 Responses Sep 9

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    Telling him what I've decided turned out to be the easiest thing I had ever done. The days, weeks, months until this is really over and I don't share the same space with him...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 26 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I have been married for 24 years and probably about 20 have been relatively sexless. My W and I had a fight on Sunday, I slept on the coach on Monday (my choice), and had yet...
    RestonLonely RestonLonely 46-50, M 11 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    For those with children who are thinking of divorcing or outsourcing, a word of caution. I won't go into my background as of now, how I grew up and how little I knew and understood...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 11 Responses Sep 15

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    Question: is your Refuser generally happy or miserable? My wife and I have fixed our problems for the most part and our sex is still fairly frequent albeit predictable (that is...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 18 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Just had it out again with Lucy. Wether its desperation to save her status or our marriage I'm unsure. Reset sex or heartfelt change who can tell. But with every effort she makes I...
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 10 Responses Sep 12

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    It will be 4 years in a few weeks that we have been married. 6 months after we married everything fell apart. He became distant, cruel, and emotionally abusive. I stood up to him...
    ditsheyo ditsheyo 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    My marriage is being restored! I asked the Holy Spirit of God for wisdom and He guided me to do something I thought was crazy. Even more surprising to me it's how it worked on that...
    Danizuk Danizuk 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    As is typical, last night when I came to bed she was asleep. I snuggled up beside her and even in her sleep she pushed me away, even her subconscious mind wants to have nothing to...
    happyhayseed happyhayseed 56-60, M 7 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Okay so my husband told me he dont talk or be around his ex-wife.......but today i found out he still be with her and talk to her and everything......he called me unknown and i...
    JayysForever JayysForever 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Every day that I have no contact with my crush, I'm going to upload a song. ;-)"Ship of Fools" by World PartyWe're setting sail to the place on the mapFrom which no one has ever...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F Sep 3

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    Be careful with these people even long after your gone. I am raising my children alone. He is involved zero. Never calls them and never sees them. This has gone on for 2 years...
    HAR1978 HAR1978 46-50, F 9 Responses Sep 21

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 15 Responses 4 days ago

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    It is small acts of kindness that save us, save the world. It is good people continuing to do good things despite the effect they may or may not have. It is loving each other for...
    lilHuman lilHuman 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 18

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