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I Want to Save My Marriage

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    My New Coping Mechanism

    My husband wants to leave me and I am torn apart.  I've had a lot of trouble sleeping in the bed we used to share.  So I started a blog about it all.  I don't want to burden my friends and family with it, so I am trying to promote it in an anonymous way.  Making a post each...
    rahkeepschanging rahkeepschanging 26-30, F Jan 11, 2012

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    I Am Trying To Save My Marriage After My Husband Had An Affair--and Child.

    I am searching for others who feel like I do and hope to find some who made it to the other side of this pain and confusion. About 2 years ago I found out my husband had had an affair 8 years before that. There had been blackmail & extortion ever since it happened since a child...
    tgtg tgtg 41-45 1 Response Oct 2, 2010

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    What Am I Supposed To Do At This Point?

    I almost feel that it was over before it started.  Our vows, which I took to heart, were never upheld from the beginning.Problem 1: Sex.  I am no sexaholic, I have no freaky fetishes, and I feel that I am thoroughly pleasing in that arena.  We were like rabbits for the first...
    TXschoolin TXschoolin 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 21, 2011

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    The Fight!

    The fight begins when you are tired. You have nothing in your reserves but you must push forward. Love the world even if it doesn't love you. Find strength where there is no strength. Love even though your love has been taken away and you have no love to give.
    MrsFaithful MrsFaithful 36-40, F 2 Responses May 9, 2011

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    Too Little Too Late

    I love my husband dearly and couldn't imagine being without him. Unfortunately he does not feel like we are a good fit together. We are walking on eggshells now. I try so hard to be open and honest as possible because, at this point, its what is needed to make things work. I...
    simplycharis simplycharis 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    I Want To Go Back To The Way We Were.

    I am a wife of a Navy submariner, so because of his schedule we didn't have much sex together in the same country to begin with. We had great communication, and we some how (at least I thought) made phone and video sex work until he would return home. Last August I found out I...
    sneetchy sneetchy 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2013

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    One More Try

    I've been in a rut , a terriable rut!  My husband, who I love very much says he wants a divorce, he's done!  I of course do not....  Long story short, I am bipolar, very hard on myself mentally, kids are at the ages......., quit my job to move, I have no job, and I...
    usmile4me usmile4me 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Not Just Friends (tm Shirly P Glass)

    That's the book I'm reading right now. I wanted to let other people know about the book. If you are going through infidelity of a spouse or are the other person this book is right up your alley. Even if you are the unfaithful spouse, this book is for you. Not Just Friends by...
    NorthernOntarioMama NorthernOntarioMama 31-35, F May 31, 2011

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    Relationship Contract?

    Are you or someone you know married or dating and have drawn up a contract in order to save their relationship? Do you wish you could make a contract of “I’ll do this, if you do this” with your spouse or significant other, but have hesitations? Or maybe you wish there were...
    ladaytimetalkshow ladaytimetalkshow 22-25, F Aug 6, 2012

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    How Important Is Your Marriage To You?

    Married 34 years with three adult children, Dave and Ginny sat back to back in their home office. Ginny was scanning down through the inbox of her email when her heart lurched. One message was from an old boyfriend, and she clicked on it. As she put it, “Opening that email...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 17, 2013

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    Where Do I Go From Here?

    I met my husband Alex about 2 years ago. We officially started dating on Oct. 11th, 2008. We got married on June 5th, 2009. The happiest day of my life. Now everything has gone downhill. I overheard him saying somethings about me to his friend so I confronted ...
    KiaraP KiaraP 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    The Title Says It All

    Hubby and I are putting the last year behind us.  It's pretty clear that a lot of the resentment started about a year ago, when the economy started to take it's toll on our business and personal finances.  It's amazing how things can spiral out of control from a trigger...
    piscesgal piscesgal 31-35, F 24 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    I Love Him Alot But Its Getting Hard To Live With Him..........

    we got married 2 years ago everything was fine for the first few months but after that my husband changed alot.he always gets angry on small things and never shares any feelings with me.we live in a joint family and my father in law and my mother in law are making my life hell.my...
    amangrewal2011 amangrewal2011 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    My Married Life...

    I will be two years married in May, and I am not sure i will make that. After one year dating from far away and another year living together with his roommates, we stayed about 3 months of our marriage in this house with 3 other people a flea...
    kikinha kikinha 31-35 2 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    I Suppose...

    When I joined Ep it was because I was looking for websites on sexless marriages. I have learned a lot from being here as pertains to why a spouse would deny sex to their SO. But not much in the way of saving the marriages. And I can understand it all now. I want my marriage...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    If anyone out there can see me and who is dealing with the same problem pls chat with me!
    Lonliness1 Lonliness1 36-40 2 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    My Husband Is Giving Up...

    I met a man less than 5 months ago. From the moment I met him I knew I wanted to spend my life with him. He was still married although they had been seperated for awhile. He has a 7 year old son and I have 3 and 4 year old girls. We got engaged right away, he said hed marry me...
    jenni4582 jenni4582 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    Your Love Never Fails! By Jesus Culture

    Nothing can separate Even if I ran away Your love never fails I know I still make mistakes But You have new mercies for me everyday Your love never fails Chorus: You stay the same through the ages Your love never changes There may be pain in the night but joy comes in the...
    perfectsky perfectsky 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2013

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    I Want To Save My Marriage

    I desperately want to save my marriage but my wife is distancing her self from me. I have been out of work for 3 months and I think she has lost faith in me. I don't know what to do.
    Help52 Help52 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 5, 2013

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    Can't Trust Him

    It been almost two years since my husband has cheated on me. He had an affier for a month in tell I found out. We took time apart for about 3 months but then slowly got back togeather he didn't admite to it at first but then he told me the truth. It's just so hard I'm so affried...
    Orianna08 Orianna08 22-25 Nov 26, 2012

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    I am going to take the Love Dare!

    I only hope that it is not too late to salvage my marriage!!!
    fishin4eyes fishin4eyes 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    "This invention saves marriages!" "What is it?" "Mouth duct tape!"
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    Wow....it's been a while since I've written anything of real substance here on EP. The reason I've chosen to today is because it is my one year anniversary of being on EP, with...
    Hushedvoices Hushedvoices 36-40, F 7 hrs ago

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 6 hrs ago

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    Two sorts of property that should be distributed during the settlement are Local community or marital property and individual property. Neighborhood or marital property is made of...
    Eveline1062z Eveline1062z 31-35, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I am scared of marriage, I almost hate it. It is because I do not want to form a scattered family, they are not even a family, they hate each other, I do not want to bring such...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 1 hr ago

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    This may be helpful for those who are planning to divorce. " Getting Divorced? Don't Be Nice ...I regularly hear people tell me they want to be nice to their soon-to-be ex. They...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Jul 24

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    I'm sure we all have read the story of the guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet of his failed attempts at sexual advances. I've read more than a few articles on the story...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 8 Responses 1 hr ago

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    A couple more signs of marital recovery. I keep telling the betrayed wives who message me, focus on actions, not words. My husband said all the right words when he cheated. But...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 5 days ago

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    You can cry all day long and pray, but that's not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that's not faith and faith is...
    Brandnue Brandnue 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Moving on: I am packing up my office and my home this week. I am moving out of state and starting a new job. ( I have posted part of this update a little earlier.) But a posting...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    ​I dont know much about the government but I know it does not work. I am homeless and I want to save the world. I believe it will take drastic measures. The reward is usually...
    davidcrazyj davidcrazyj 36-40, M 3 hrs ago

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    Today is mine and my husband's 10 year anniversary. I'm not thrilled at all. Quite frankly, I'm depressed. Nothing about today is exciting for me. I've been unhappy food the past 5...
    lonelysara1211 lonelysara1211 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 30

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    Some thoughts on forgiveness. When I first posted here 3 years ago, I was struggling with forgiveness. My situation is very unusual for this place, in being a "success" story...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 10 Responses Aug 13

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    Used to think i was going to meet a perfect girl, someone i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Used to think i'd get married and everything will be just fine, but that...
    jafetgx jafetgx 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Summoning Reinforcements - Those of you who have been following my story as I extract myself from the clutches of a sexless marriage know the shame my STBX has been inflicting on...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 27 Responses Jul 28

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    This marriage of ours has been teetering on the brink of failure for some time now and I am really struggling to cope with the absence of sex. My wife is an alcoholic / pain pill...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 2

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    I am only in it because I need his financial support for our kids. He cheated on me last year and it ruined our 20 year marriage. He lied repeatedly and I am exhausted with all...
    Lifeissad789 Lifeissad789 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    Oh well my secret is out and as much as I hate to say it I live in a sexless marriage. My story does not quite start like a fairytale as when we met we were both recovering from...
    mysteryjourney mysteryjourney 36-40, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I play videogames, a lot. There's something interesting about most videogames. Usually someone loved is in danger, and you have to go save that person. But then, to save this...
    jafetgx jafetgx 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    I made a comment in another site, that I would like to get some replies to it here, as this site is more marriage focused. Here it is (small changes to reflect site lingo...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    Seeking Therapy I’ve made my first step. I am seeing a therapist. This is not to try and repair my sexless marriage. I have realized that my sex life, the passion, the lust...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 8 Responses Jul 24

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    A tense conversation this morning, but not an explosion. Is that progress? My wife accused me of not listening to her when she was ranting about the counselor. She said that "a...
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 8 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Interesting lyrics, I wonder how many can relate in this experience, not me thank goodness.... If you ain't got two kids by 21, You're probably gonna die alone At least that's...
    peoplewho peoplewho 41-45, M 4 hrs ago

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    H gets mad and frustrated with me for not jumping up and cooking for him when he sleeps all day and then is up at 10 p.m. He thinks I'm supposed to cater to him. I think if he can...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 16 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    We have had our final talk about “all” of the issues that I was having. The zoning out on the phone looking to buy snakes that are $800 a pop when we need a new car because...
    vonbender2010 vonbender2010 22-25, F 10 mins ago

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    Marriage is a huge leap of faith! If more people took their vows seriously than there would be less cases of divorce. Anyone who's married know that it's not easy & a lot of work...
    bubblysunshine bubblysunshine 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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