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I Want to Save My Marriage

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    I Am Trying To Save My Marriage After My Husband Had An Affair--and Child.

    I am searching for others who feel like I do and hope to find some who made it to the other side of this pain and confusion. About 2 years ago I found out my husband had had an affair 8 years before that. There had been blackmail & extortion ever since it happened since a child...
    tgtg tgtg 41-45 1 Response Oct 2, 2010

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    I Want To Save My Marriage

    I desperately want to save my marriage but my wife is distancing her self from me. I have been out of work for 3 months and I think she has lost faith in me. I don't know what to do.
    Help52 Help52 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 5, 2013

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    What Am I Supposed To Do At This Point?

    I almost feel that it was over before it started.  Our vows, which I took to heart, were never upheld from the beginning.Problem 1: Sex.  I am no sexaholic, I have no freaky fetishes, and I feel that I am thoroughly pleasing in that arena.  We were like rabbits for the first...
    TXschoolin TXschoolin 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 21, 2011

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    One More Try

    I've been in a rut , a terriable rut!  My husband, who I love very much says he wants a divorce, he's done!  I of course do not....  Long story short, I am bipolar, very hard on myself mentally, kids are at the ages......., quit my job to move, I have no job, and I...
    usmile4me usmile4me 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    I Want To Go Back To The Way We Were.

    I am a wife of a Navy submariner, so because of his schedule we didn't have much sex together in the same country to begin with. We had great communication, and we some how (at least I thought) made phone and video sex work until he would return home. Last August I found out I...
    sneetchy sneetchy 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2013

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    My New Coping Mechanism

    My husband wants to leave me and I am torn apart.  I've had a lot of trouble sleeping in the bed we used to share.  So I started a blog about it all.  I don't want to burden my friends and family with it, so I am trying to promote it in an anonymous way.  Making a post each...
    rahkeepschanging rahkeepschanging 26-30, F Jan 11, 2012

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    I Love Him Alot But Its Getting Hard To Live With Him..........

    we got married 2 years ago everything was fine for the first few months but after that my husband changed alot.he always gets angry on small things and never shares any feelings with me.we live in a joint family and my father in law and my mother in law are making my life hell.my...
    amangrewal2011 amangrewal2011 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    How Important Is Your Marriage To You?

    Married 34 years with three adult children, Dave and Ginny sat back to back in their home office. Ginny was scanning down through the inbox of her email when her heart lurched. One message was from an old boyfriend, and she clicked on it. As she put it, “Opening that email...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 17, 2013

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    The Title Says It All

    Hubby and I are putting the last year behind us.  It's pretty clear that a lot of the resentment started about a year ago, when the economy started to take it's toll on our business and personal finances.  It's amazing how things can spiral out of control from a trigger...
    piscesgal piscesgal 31-35, F 24 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    Relationship Contract?

    Are you or someone you know married or dating and have drawn up a contract in order to save their relationship? Do you wish you could make a contract of “I’ll do this, if you do this” with your spouse or significant other, but have hesitations? Or maybe you wish there were...
    ladaytimetalkshow ladaytimetalkshow 22-25, F Aug 6, 2012

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    I Suppose...

    When I joined Ep it was because I was looking for websites on sexless marriages. I have learned a lot from being here as pertains to why a spouse would deny sex to their SO. But not much in the way of saving the marriages. And I can understand it all now. I want my marriage...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    Your Love Never Fails! By Jesus Culture

    Nothing can separate Even if I ran away Your love never fails I know I still make mistakes But You have new mercies for me everyday Your love never fails Chorus: You stay the same through the ages Your love never changes There may be pain in the night but joy comes in the...
    perfectsky perfectsky 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2013

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    Can't Trust Him

    It been almost two years since my husband has cheated on me. He had an affier for a month in tell I found out. We took time apart for about 3 months but then slowly got back togeather he didn't admite to it at first but then he told me the truth. It's just so hard I'm so affried...
    Orianna08 Orianna08 22-25 Nov 26, 2012

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    The Fight!

    The fight begins when you are tired. You have nothing in your reserves but you must push forward. Love the world even if it doesn't love you. Find strength where there is no strength. Love even though your love has been taken away and you have no love to give.
    MrsFaithful MrsFaithful 36-40, F 2 Responses May 9, 2011

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    Where Do I Go From Here?

    I met my husband Alex about 2 years ago. We officially started dating on Oct. 11th, 2008. We got married on June 5th, 2009. The happiest day of my life. Now everything has gone downhill. I overheard him saying somethings about me to his friend so I confronted ...
    KiaraP KiaraP 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    My husband constantly choses to play video

    games instead of coming to bed with me. It really hurts that I pretty much have to lure him into bed with sex to get him to come lay with me. I just asked him if he would come and lay with me just until I fell asleep and he said that he was in the middle of a match. He then...
    mrsmoe13 mrsmoe13 22-25, F Sep 18, 2014

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    My Married Life...

    I will be two years married in May, and I am not sure i will make that. After one year dating from far away and another year living together with his roommates, we stayed about 3 months of our marriage in this house with 3 other people a flea...
    kikinha kikinha 31-35 2 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    My Husband Is Giving Up...

    I met a man less than 5 months ago. From the moment I met him I knew I wanted to spend my life with him. He was still married although they had been seperated for awhile. He has a 7 year old son and I have 3 and 4 year old girls. We got engaged right away, he said hed marry me...
    jenni4582 jenni4582 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    Too Little Too Late

    I love my husband dearly and couldn't imagine being without him. Unfortunately he does not feel like we are a good fit together. We are walking on eggshells now. I try so hard to be open and honest as possible because, at this point, its what is needed to make things work. I...
    simplycharis simplycharis 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    Empty

    If anyone out there can see me and who is dealing with the same problem pls chat with me!
    Lonliness1 Lonliness1 36-40 2 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    Not Just Friends (tm Shirly P Glass)

    That's the book I'm reading right now. I wanted to let other people know about the book. If you are going through infidelity of a spouse or are the other person this book is right up your alley. Even if you are the unfaithful spouse, this book is for you. Not Just Friends by...
    NorthernOntarioMama NorthernOntarioMama 31-35, F May 31, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Today is hard. The finality of Wednesday is really hitting me now. I don't want my marriage to be over. I know he had an affair, but I'm not ready to be a divorced, single mom...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 16 hrs ago

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    Klara Balogova was 18, penniless and heavily pregnant when she rode thousands of miles from Slovakia to England to marry a man she had never met. She knew he did not want her, or...
    valha11a valha11a 46-50, M 1 hr ago

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    I got out. Best decision of my life. Every situation is different, and ending a marriage (particularly when there are children involved, which there are for me) is a serious...
    ericseviltwin ericseviltwin 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    I've been with my husband for 9 years, married for 8; we don't have kids and I'm 35; he is 40. We have struggled through our marriage at times as a result of my husband's drinking...
    SadPanda35 SadPanda35 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have been married for 4 years to a truck driver. He is a mommy boy. I have to do everything for him. He does not like to keep a job. Most of the time I feel quite lonely and...
    Jackiecarter Jackiecarter 36-40, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    1. Name? - K 2. Male or female? Female, or as my husband claims, gnome. 3. Were you named after anyone? Nope! Not even Christ. 4. Does your name mean anything? "Christian." I...
    GeorgeSands GeorgeSands 31-35, F 2 Responses May 13

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    I am 22 years old. And I live in nearly sexless marriage. I didn't realize how miserable it could be. I thought maybe it would at least wait until I was older and my children to...
    Searchingformyshalom Searchingformyshalom 22-25, F 7 Responses Apr 26

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    So I am looking for someone who is very well educated in religion to talk too. Not so much about the politics of it (abortion, same sex marriage etc.) but just wanting to learn...
    Fullofsunshine Fullofsunshine 26-30, F 3 hrs ago

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    i like this thing, maybe because i want to travel, and i want to travel with a purpose maybe. my dad did something like that,,,,he married my mom who lived 16hrs(train or bus...
    Camouflage Camouflage 22-25, M May 7

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    I'm so tired of waking up every morning to my husband screaming at me. He tells me that I've ruined his life, that he hates me, and that I've been plotting to make him miserable...
    GumboChick GumboChick 31-35, F 4 Responses May 11

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    I'm out. Fully out. In my own house with my daughter. The divorce isn't final legally.. But emotionally, mentally and physically it's done. The transition was made and life has...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 22 Responses Apr 30

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    Project: Get a life. Day 1. Goals: 1. Marry a depressed white guy and turn both our lives around. Save our souls for a few years, till youth lasts and then I say goodbye to life...
    kiddishguypete kiddishguypete 26-30, M 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 36-40, M 4 Responses May 5

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment. She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F Apr 26

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment. She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    Guys I need some help and some advise. Be kind please I'm very fragile. 6 weeks ago my boyfriend and best friend of two years left me. Heartbroken doesn't even begin to cover it...
    Lostnemo Lostnemo 18-21, F 2 Responses May 4

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    As I said I was the controller in my marriage, The operational word in this sentence is "was". Now everything is out of my control and my husband is ruling everything with an iron...
    isis55 isis55 51-55, F May 9

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    I know it sounds funny, but you are out tomorrow. I've hoped I paid my dues, but I'm not happy when I try to save you. I want to be free to know what I should do. I'm hooked on an...
    Isis27 Isis27 36-40 May 12

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    Let's see were do I begin... Maybe this is just what I needed to say. I sadly didn't wait until marriage. I'm on the short side of 33 and you know what I truly wish I had. To those...
    Beanbella Beanbella 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    Sharia law is not direct in the Quran (the Islamic holy book), but is made from interpretations of the Quran and Hadith (recorded sayings of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)). The...
    heyimalive heyimalive 18-21, T Apr 30

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    Sharia law is not direct in the Quran (the Islamic holy book), but is made from interpretations of the Quran and Hadith (recorded sayings of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)). The...
    heyimalive heyimalive 18-21, T Apr 30

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    I use to be sad, angry, uptight, but then I realized that toxic people where pulling me down. I can love them from a distance. My job is to save the world one person at a time, and...
    thastonechick thastonechick 36-40, F 1 Response May 7

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