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I Want To See A Successful Marriage

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    People keep asking me whether i'm married. Why? 1, do i look like i should be married? Or,,look like im married? With kids maybe? 😕 2, Why would my status concerns u anyway? It...
    bellabong bellabong 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I believe I have an ungrateful wife.
    MatthewARamos MatthewARamos 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses Apr 13

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    It's a tale as old as time - stay for the kids. I have always said I would stay for the sake of my daughter. I would decide what direction to take after she leaves home. That...
    Steph613 Steph613 41-45, F 8 Responses Mar 27

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    I have so many qualities of a good wife and he just takes it all for granted. I no longer look at him as the man Love and just see our marriage as business arrangement and I am...
    Jayne0915 Jayne0915 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    Why meet others? A short while ago, someone wrote a story about ILIASM meetups. At the time, Mettamomma asked me what I got out of meeting people from ILIASM IRL that I could get...
    zsuzsilowinger zsuzsilowinger 36-40, F 15 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I discovered this board about a week ago, by chance, and by reading the many posts surrounding this issue, it's been an eye-opener to say the least, and not just because I now know...
    copperdoodle copperdoodle 41-45, F 11 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I don't know if my story is the same, or different...some of us know nothing and everything about the reasons why we're here. I'm in my mid 30's, my husband is 50ish. We've been...
    DichotomyInMotion DichotomyInMotion 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    There are many instances of people here, especially newbies, claiming that everything is good but the sex. I have even said it myself . But we all know that sex is far from the...
    SuntObosit SuntObosit 56-60, M 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    My wife and I have been married for 13 years, together for 16 years. We love each other dearly and share many fundamental values. We have two great children under ten. We have a...
    1100R 1100R 41-45, M 7 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I want to live life to the full, there's a whole world out there and I know I'm not livening it to its full potential, I'm tired of the same people and same things if I was giving...
    johnm1995 johnm1995 18-21, M 7 hrs ago

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    Does anyone really leave this group without leaving the marriage? I don't think its possible, interested to hear opinions. Thanks.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 8 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    My parents have been married for years but it seems so much harder to stay married these days. I have countless friends who've married and divorced/separated already. It makes me...
    NaturalEye NaturalEye 31-35, M 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    I'm keen to hear the other side of the story. What do "refusers" say? Do any of them visit this blog? If my wife said to me, "I really need my back scratched every day, and you...
    DownunderDude DownunderDude 41-45, M 12 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    21 years of marriage, trust violated, I'm done, I've been a good man, husband, father, but when it comes to emotions and the understanding of handling compressed situations . Your...
    DMS777 DMS777 41-45, M 7 hrs ago

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    here are some advices for you all and stop looking at the clock! I'll finish soon. 1- Never fall for a teacher, especially in literature class, bad idea. 2- Always respect your...
    Donotletmego Donotletmego 26-30, F Apr 2

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Hi all, thanks for reading i hope you can offer some words of wisdom to a girl who is stuck! I can't tell you where all the time has gone - but in 2007, now 7 years ago a boy I...
    sulkypuss101 sulkypuss101 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Illusions That Kept Me Trapped in Sexless Marriage If you read my first EP story, you will get the impression that the sexlessness started with the conception of my child 4 years...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    This was something I thought was a phase, but the more I grow older, the more I realize that I truly would find more peace without being in a marriage. I'm going to turn 23. Today...
    franny21 franny21 22-25, F Apr 9

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    Quotes that helps me: Do not chase a money, once you are successful, money will come to you. Failure is not failure till you decide that you failed. Running away from you...
    kati99 kati99 18-21, F Mar 23

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    My husband and I got married in March 2010 and had our first child by October that year. We had our second child January 2013 and by the end of that month my hubby told me he was...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Ive been married for 13 y. And Ive been living in a sexless marriage for the past 4 or 5 maybe more. We have three kids and there was always an excuse for not having sex with...
    aking1973 aking1973 41-45, M 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    Overview: Male 47 ; Australia; Dated (celibate) a young Catholic lady for seven years; Married for seven more years (sexless after honeymoon); no children (guess why); We have had...
    angelwanderer angelwanderer 46-50 27 Responses Apr 1

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    For months now I have been working on my outlook on life. I have no wish to die or to run away. Perhaps go away but that is still being negotiated. See I love my wife, and we've...
    sjmckstan sjmckstan 36-40, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    A Discovery of Self....When I first started coming to this website I had a typical everything was okay bar the sex attitude. I still wanted to divorce but I didn't want to hurt my...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 3

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses Apr 14

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses Apr 15

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    As you know, this is a chronic disease with no known cure found in the Dermatology world. We are treating with Microcurrent and have had amazing results! The microcurrent is a very...
    drebertchiro14 drebertchiro14 56-60 6 days ago

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    We all want to be that girl, to be special, to be loved. We want him to look at us and see his future, see his heart. We want to be worth it, worth any risk and any pain so that...
    heartfire heartfire 31-35, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    March 22 at 8 am my marriage officially ended... my husband is very sad.. I am the only one he has ever loved, and the thought of him finding a new girl makes him feel sick... not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F Mar 24

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    I wanna grow up and either be a singer or doctor ..so I hope I'm successful with either one ..chat anyone ??
    rebrosa rebrosa 13-15, F Apr 4

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    A successful woman is one who can build a strong foundation with the bricks others have thrown at her..
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Almost the entire time I was in my dysfunctional marriage I kept quiet about it. I made excuses. I glossed over things. My husband drank (was an alcoholic) and no one ever knew...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 15 Responses Apr 8

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    "You'll never leave where you are, until you decide where you want to be." Saw this on a sign today and it seems to sum up my position. I saw my trusted counselor last week that...
    tresses tresses 36-40, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm a little bit tired of sexlessness one-up-manship that's been taking place in this forum recently. We haven't had sex in 15 months.... Reply: that's nothing We've had sex...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 22 Responses 1 day ago

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    I had a meeting with stbx yesterday. At first I was scaredto go. Scared bbecause I had just sorted through my feelings on why I felt so empty and why I felt like I had wanted to...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 23

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    I'm a 35 year old African lady, married with four lovely kids, even though people see me and think I'm 22, never married let alone 4 kids . I will be married for 13 years in April...
    Imasadwife Imasadwife 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    Another thing missing from this sexless marriage, besides intimacy, love and respect is fun and laughter. (Jeez, what exactly do I get from this marriage) I thought that I had...
    Gingersnapped Gingersnapped 51-55, F 13 Responses Mar 25

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    I've been livin' for the moment, but I just can't have my way and I'm afraid to go to sleep 'cause tomorrow is today People tell me, life is sweeter but I don't hear what they say...