I Want to Stop Pushing People Away

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 378 People

    Problems With Holding On

    I've noticed that most people I come across wish that they could just let things go but I have a problem with holding on. I have so many people who claim to be friends of mine but they don't know the first thing about me. It isn't for lack of trying on their part it's just that I...
    HanaNoMizu HanaNoMizu
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2007

    Fruitless Talk

    At this dive I swear I would stay away But here I sit My shame I won’t give away The secret love I had is gone Has her life And carried on Still alone Writing crap on scraps Meaningless thoughts Suicide App’s Wasting time And money away Finding no joy In anything I do or...
    darkreality68 darkreality68
    41-45, M
    Sep 22, 2010

    Don'T We Need Love

    I was sold-out, done, had it up to the top and couldn't take anymore. Up until about 2 months ago. One morning I woke-up and I felt like I needed someone. Strange thing for me. I had pushed people away so much I would leave my phone at home wouldn't even care. I walked around...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy
    41-45, F
    Mar 29, 2013

    Whats Wrong??

    I’m 18, a freshman in college, intelligent, driven, playful, and caring. I know I’m attractive and usually always open to anyone. Problem? I don’t know why I never had a relationship. I want to, but at the same time I don’t. I know it’s a mix from fear of rejection, not...
    Jazzy9294 Jazzy9294
    1 Response Nov 8, 2012

    I really do, but it's

    so hard. I even get into these weeks where I become extra antisocial (if that's even possible) I won't leave my room unless it's for 3 reasons. -restroom -kitchen -school Otherwise I won't come out or speak to my family no matter what, it's like I become a mute. I don't know why...
    MarcyMay MarcyMay
    13-15, F
    Aug 27, 2015


    Well, I don't push people away all the time. I know who I do it to, and why. If someone seems too interested in me too soon, it kinda creeps me out a bit. I've learned to chill on that one some, however...some people need a li'l nudge in the opposite direction.    ...
    Maxine13 Maxine13
    18-21, F
    Dec 18, 2008
    takemetoparis takemetoparis
    18-21, F
    May 9, 2014

    You Say, I Say

    You say Hi, I say goodbye. You say hello, I say um, no. You say was up, I say letup You say how's your day, I say go away. You say lets chat right now, I say I can't right now.
    Naliruns Naliruns
    18-21, F
    Jan 18, 2011

    I recently got into a very emotional

    relationship with a friend and it started off one-sided, with him showing a lot of interest in me. He would always compliment me and call me because he said it was very comforting to speak to me. Soon after, I was wondering why he would even take interest in me, so I quietly...
    FaintSmile FaintSmile
    26-30, F
    Apr 9, 2014

    I want to , I really do .

    But I can't I am scared that I will hurt gem either with words or with my hand and I can't take that risk . I'm only good with strangers and online chat . I hate to talk to them with a fake smile on my face that totally fools them . I want some one to came and tell me " stop...
    Silentsuffer Silentsuffer
    16-17, F
    1 Response May 9, 2014

    It's Not Good.

    I've always pushed people away. Cause i feel like if someone really gets to know me, they're not gonna like what they see. I'm a pretty full on person. Not everyones cup of tea i guess. So i try and hide myself. A lot of the time i don't think people are even worthy of getting to...
    jasminjane jasminjane
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 17, 2008

    But How?

    How do I stop pushing people away? How do I let someone in? I am just too scared about getting hurt again that I don't let others in, and even when they do get in, I find a way to push them out =( i don't want to do that anymore :( how do i not push people away?
    deleted deleted
    Dec 6, 2009

    Its Ah-noying ><

    I dont know why i even push people away in the first place.. it just happens.... For example id want to talk to you one day and the next I avoid you completely hoping to god that you wont see me. Its not like im trying to be mean cause if i was... that'll be a different story but...
    Kzinlove Kzinlove
    13-15, F
    1 Response Feb 27, 2011

    I can't help but push my friends/best friends

    away idk why I do it but it hurts me after I realise what I have done
    worthlessdancer worthlessdancer
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 11, 2014

    I been dating this guy

    for about 10 months everything was fine but we always argue , he calls me names ect. And i got pregnant by him i am 5 months now and i am very emotional , i always been lile that and i feel like maybe hea losing feelings towards me. He started to get hair cuts when i usally...
    melaniee27 melaniee27
    18-21, F
    May 2, 2014

    I Do It All the Time

    I don't let anyone in. Not even a boy.. I like (Which i don't have one..) Because I'm afried to be hurt like I have many times.
    ascs ascs
    22-25, F
    May 26, 2009

    I Cant Get Away From It

    i dont know how to stop pushing people away. its always because i believe something is too good to be true. when someone makes me feel good about myself or gives me hope, it kinda makes me mad because i feel like sooner or later down the road they are going to betray me. its only...
    RisaRisaBaby RisaRisaBaby
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 12, 2008

    I Feel So Alone

    Everytime I try to let someone in I completely push them away. I'm scared of having ties to people and feel like I just can't connect. When my friends are telling me about whatevers going on in their lives they just ramble on and never let me talk. I feel like...
    whatthehellisthis whatthehellisthis
    13-15, F
    Mar 3, 2010

    Push Comes To Shove

    I push the people who I want to know, and miss out on the chance that I have to grow. I am scared and I don't want to trust people with my heart, but I know that is the natural start. I go after people who push me farther away, and in my messed up mind that is okay. I don't pay...
    Naliruns Naliruns
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 18, 2011

    Defense Mechanism

    Whenever someone gets to close, I often find myself withdrawing. It seems like as soon as someone get close loud alarms start ringing in my brain, along with "Red Alert" and "Caution" signs at every turn. Its something I'm working on though. I just have to...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2008

    I hear their voices Asking me to talk to

    them Why can't I tell them What I feel I want to be alone I want to forget the pain But with them here I dont know What to do Should I ask for help?? Or should I think this alone??
    ShortLove1 ShortLove1
    18-21, F
    Apr 3, 2014

    I Dont Want To End Up Alone.

    Why can't i stop hurting the people who care for me. Its as if as soon as someone starts caring about me or wanting to get close to me, my brain goes on "ok let me ruin this" mood. i dont want to be like this anymore. as of now, i feel lik the few friends i have are all mad at me...
    WhiteOrchid403 WhiteOrchid403
    26-30, F
    Jan 23, 2010

    Yeah I push everyone away

    until im down to no friends.
    Livealil Livealil
    22-25, M
    1 Response May 9, 2014

    Like Daddy Like Daughter...****!

    Unfortunately I have a bad habit of doing that especially to the ones I love or care about. My dad did the same thing. I guess It's a defense mechanism so we don't get hurt, but we do anyways, because the ones we care about estrange themselves from us like we did them. I hate...
    Ivyflower Ivyflower
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 17, 2008

    The way I act puts the nail in the coffin

    for most people. You can only see someone you care about hate themselves so much, and start to self-destruct, before you give up on them. It must hurt them greatly to leave, but even more so to stay and watch me deteriorate. I just need to pick myself up and dust myself off. I...
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Nov 9, 2015

    I Think I Push People Away ...

    I think I push people away because I do not feel that I have a anything to say that they want to hear I feel like i sound stupid when i enter into a conversation.
    withoutpurpose withoutpurpose
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2009

    I don't know how.. About

    after a while I've had a friend I always end up pushing them away.. Because past events I don't feel I can't trust anyone or let anyone close to me, I'm afraid to get hurt .. And I know I will not know that person for long ... I have problems with letting my guard down and it's...
    m12355607 m12355607
    16-17, F
    Jan 28, 2014

    I can feel myself slowly pushing myself away

    from him. And it saddens me. I feel like there could be m0rę. He's right around the corner and I can't feel but want to run the other direction. I think I'm slowly getting lost, you maybe losing me in this sandy beautiful dry hot desert storm, these walls surrounding our future...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 28, 2014

    Pushing Love Away...

    Every time I get close to a girl I care for I end up pushing them away. I end up hurting them and I end up being hurt. All the time. I always wanted to show that person, how much that I care for them, how much that we can both be so happy when we're together. But I always show...
    TheHopelessRomantic TheHopelessRomantic
    Dec 11, 2011

    I've been in a relationship

    since November of 2013. Not a very long time but still long enough. I already know that I'm in love with her. I knew before I started dating her. We were the best of friends first and then we started dating. I really do love her..she means a lot to me and she has helped me get...
    bohemianbutterfly1887 bohemianbutterfly1887
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 2, 2014


    i need to stop pushing people away, im pushing the most important people away because i want to be alone. they think i jyst dont want to speak to them but they dont understand. all i want is to be alone, to think, to cry
    aloneinadarkroom aloneinadarkroom
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 10, 2013
    kirsty56 kirsty56
    18-21, F
    Mar 25, 2015

    I Push And Just Now Realized It

    When someone tries to get close as friends I don't want to be smothered..I don't want females('im a female who only gets along with guys)to call me, get in my business ec..I hate face book fake fake..Relationships with guys is a joke i just disappear. I actually do it a lot..my...
    overthinker80 overthinker80
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 15, 2012

    What Do I Do?

        I have had 2 serious boyfriends in the past, whom I seemed to let walk all over me. It's too hard for me to speak up. Both of these men hurt me very much, and multiple times. I let it happen because I never stood up to them. I even find myself letting people...
    kykk kykk
    22-25, F
    Nov 21, 2009

    I Can't Have Good Friendships Cuz of My Feelings...

    When i do meet someone nice who wants to be my friend, i tend to push them away and it's really frustrating for me. Just recently, i met a nice guy who had lots in common with me in my area and he wanted to hang out. Things were going great at first and we got along well, but...
    alwaysalone alwaysalone
    22-25, F
    Jul 11, 2008

    I Only Push Guys Away........

    Most people would say I'm a huge flirt and I am. I love flirting with guys, but then I get into an issue when they start to like me. Even if I like them back I'll push them away. Often times I'll just tell them I don't like them even if I do. I've pushed away so many amazing guys...
    PixiiHead PixiiHead
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 31, 2009


    I don't have this issue, but the best friend I ever had does. We met in febuary 2012. She practicly moved into my house shortly after that. She never left, we did everything together, we were buds, we read eachothers minds. I never had anyone treat me the way she did. I knew she...
    oximoronjes oximoronjes
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 14, 2012

    I'm So Sick and Tired!

    Just so sick and tired of always doing this. I consider myself a fairly strong individual but part of that reason is because of the icicle I carry around in my chest. I'm not a *****. I just don't let people get close. I have found a perfect mate for me but I feel like sometimes...
    HanaNoMizu HanaNoMizu
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2008

    I Don't Understand Why I Push People Away

    For as long as i can remember i keep pushing people away from me, wither it be my personality or because i don't even know i'm doing it. I lose sleep over this and i get frustrated a lot. Im surrounded by negative people all the time and i have one good friend if that, that i can...
    whoknowsyouo whoknowsyouo
    18-21, F
    Nov 22, 2009

    I've been talking to this guy

    for a few weeks. He works crazy long hours. So we only get to talk-talk on his days off, last night was one. We get to talking and I notice he's trying to ask me out. Instead of agreeing or accepting. I leave him hanging and stop talking to him... 😔 I really, really like this...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 2, 2014


    This was very aptly summarised by a very intelligent friend I have here. They recognised extent to which I can have a self-destructive element in my relationships.  Usually through my mm forget what the term was, something to do with  my use of words lol I do identify...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 24, 2008

    I Want To Share And Let Them In

    After being hurt repeatedly throughout my life, by family, friends, and lovers, I've spent a lot of time pushing people away. I worked hard to train myself not to depend on people. I didn't want them to see the real me, I didn't want them to get the chance to decide they didn't...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    Jan 12, 2012

    I'm Sorry.....

    I don't mean to... It's just a reaction. I feel that if I let anyone see what's inside of me, they wouldn't understand. So yes, I must push them away... Especially the one who means more to me than anything.... Why? I have no real clue.... I only wish that I could stop. I hide...
    linxoflife linxoflife
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 25, 2011

    I push people away and keep people distant.

    It's one of my biggest character flaws.
    zestymeatballs zestymeatballs
    22-25, F
    Jan 19, 2014


    i don't always like to be touched sometimes it really freaks me out and groups with all there loud noise...i just seem to keep pushing others away, better me then them right squash a spider before it bites you it makes me really upset though...i want freinds like you see on tv...
    bloodredhanded bloodredhanded
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 1, 2013
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