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I Was a Battered Wife

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    It took me 30 years to heal enough to tell

    anyone about my first marriage. I had the best boyfriend. He adored me. I was studying interior design, he was trying to decide between college and work. The sex, oh the sex was incredible! The things we did and the places we did them! He was so handsome with an amazing...
    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    A New Day....

    Today was a day that I will never forget, just like everything that has happened the past 3 months that I can't seem to shake off. I've come to the cope with the pain that comes with the realization and ultimately the acceptance of the end of a long DREAM. Yes, that's what I said...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F Nov 24, 2009

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    Total Stranger

    I was a bettered wife and I didn't even know about it.....I took me 12 years and 3 kids to realize how bad it really was. After 10 years of being together and going through the emotional turmoil that involves a drug addict I found out who my husband really was. I never...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 29, 2009

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    New Understanding....

    Today was a rough day and if I would've started writting earlier I would've probably made you want to choke me...so, after enough meditation and crying and meditation, here I am. I did not realize what a huge impact and how twisted I've had been living for so long, now I see. You...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2009

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    The Aftermath.....

    OK....hello again, so today I had a meeting with the school teacher and then again, reality stroke again. I am forced once again to make a decision I thought I wold never have to face...my son is so traumatized by so much instability that he is failing in school. I was thrown...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2009

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    I Just Want To Heal.....

    Did it ever occur to you that you could feel so hurt for such a long time and that someone that you adored could hurt you with such magnitude that what you have left is a whole bunch of nothing??? Have you ever asked yourself how did you get here and was there a chance to prevent...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 17, 2009

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    New View

    Ok so here I am again and this time sooner than expected....I am beginning to see things in a very different way. I don't know if it's because for the first time in my life I feel free, don't get me wrong, I am deep inside wounded and in pain, but I fell like finally I can...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 25, 2009

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    I Was For 10 Years.........

    I was a battered wife for 10 years....those years I have lost forever. I come from a long line of hard Italian family on my father's side, and just as hard on my mother's side which is Irish........ It was an arranged marriage by my father....he wanted dealings with the family...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2010

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    Behind Closed Doors

    my husband is a control freak and very jealous and possessive.so when he started using cocaine (about 23 years ago) he became very parranoid and violent too..it went on a long time and I have been in womens refuges a few times through the years..he is still very moody but has...
    kyocera kyocera 56-60 1 Response Jul 21, 2008

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    In The Meantime.....

    I am in the ''meantime"...... The "meantime" is that time in your life when you either choose or was forced to close a chapter in your life in order to begin another one. I choose 'LIFE", a healthy one anyways for me and my 3 boys. I decided to continue...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    Change The Way You Look At It......simple!

    It's been a while since I write anything....I've been through enormous emotional turmoil. I guess this is what we have to go through as part of the healing process. Even dough that deep sorrow it's still there, deep inside....right there were you pushed it and still now and then...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F Dec 22, 2009

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    Forgive...don't Ever Forget..

    It's been a while from the last time I was here. I was at a different place back then...mentaly,physicaly,but most of all emotionaly. Don't know how to describe it or if you could ever understand...when I first discovered this place I really didnt know what exactly I was looking...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 17, 2010

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    A Womans Body As I See It..

    I love the Female body As I see it.. The female body was made out of sugar and spice and everything nice. Not made just to bear children, do dishes, wash clothes and do a mans bidding. But to be worshiped, touched with care, and her body completely kissed with reverence...
    beckyanne1 beckyanne1 61-65, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2010

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    Define Battered.....

    Sometimes it's overwhelming to me the thought of me seeing myself as a battered wife, I sometimes think that maybe I'm just taking everything out of proportions and because I'm hurting I want a definition or an excuse for the pain that I am suffering and had been suffering the...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2009

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    As I said I was the controller in my marriage, The operational word in this sentence is "was". Now everything is out of my control and my husband is ruling everything with an iron...
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    I have to say I was first shocked to fine out my wife was cheating. I think I was also lucky. Soon after marrying, she confided that her previous bfs had accused her of cheating...
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    wcsteel wcsteel 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 25

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    RestlessWarrior1 RestlessWarrior1 46-50, M Apr 28

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    We were out in Peterborough UK at Christmas. Last bar of the night, pretty packed. My wife was backed up to a group of four guys at the bar. She leaned into me to tell me her...
    SleepingWifeUK SleepingWifeUK 31-35, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Hey, we needed another story up here. So I was caught wearing pantyhose. Now first off I do love to wear them. If I lived in a colder climate I would wear them all winter long as...
    cdLisas cdLisas 56-60, T 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I know from my own experience that married men don't always leave the wife. I am the wife. I found out two years ago my husband had an affair with some married woman that he met...
    Truthbetold81 Truthbetold81 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 26

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    When I went to bed last night. My wife turns to me and says - baby can you do me a favor? I said - what? She says- I have something in my ***, can you take it out. Got caught...
    MarriedMann MarriedMann 31-35, M 15 Responses Apr 28

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    Question: do any of you women feel like a failure once it ends? Almost like he's sitting back with his wife laughing at how stupid i was for believing his lies? My Ex-mm and his...
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    I had been through a lot with him. We were pretty damaged as teenagers so we bonded over the shared pain. We were close like family. 12 years ago, I found out he had slept with my...
    Etdos Etdos 41-45, M 2 Responses May 8

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    And I should be ashamed of myself. I shouldn't be leading other women on know full well that I am taken. I shouldn't be treating my wife with such disrespect and I can't believe...
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    well my wife makes killer cash so //i am the house ***** i cook clean and do the wash and play the guitar and the ps4 no lye .but i do get board sometimes
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    I adore my wife and totally agree w her having her bf she enjoys and is comfortable with. She has said she would let me have a gf if they got along and the lady knew i wasnt...
    cunninglinguist1 cunninglinguist1 41-45, M 5 Responses May 6

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    I'm planning with my wife to have sex in front of a guy. Does someone have been in this situation? How it was ?
    frenchguy32 frenchguy32 31-35, M 8 Responses May 6