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I Was Abandoned By My Father

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    It Hurts So Much...

     I have been sitting here reading all of your stories and it is making me feel much better just knowing there are people who truly understand the damage that this experience yields.  This morning I was going through some old boxes of stuff, getting ready to move across...
    JoanieDearest JoanieDearest 22-25 8 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    So yes, since I was born,

    never really spent time with him. I was raised up by my mom's family, my great grandparents raised me. One time I overheard a conversation between my father and great grandma. He said he was sorry not being able to give her a baby boy, meaning I was a mistake. I was 5 years old...
    PineappleBeer PineappleBeer 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    I am lucky to have had my dad around

    as a kid. He was a normal dad and we never went without. There was happy times when I was little. If he'd left when I was a kid, I would have questions. But I don't as an adult. Him giving up on our family, walking out into a new one, and abandoning a relationship with my...
    shelbot shelbot 22-25, F 2 Responses May 8, 2015

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    I wasn't; my daughter has been.

    We split up when she was a baby, but he played 'daddy' for 8 years: visiting, taking her to the zoo, sending presents. Until he got bored, got a new girlfriend. Then he wanted nothing to do with her. She (and I) tried to call, email, Facebook, send letters, texts. He ignored...
    tryingtomaketomorrowbetter tryingtomaketomorrowbetter 36-40 1 Response Mar 7, 2014

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    He only saw me after three days of my mother

    and grandparents bugging him and then he left after he saw me. I don't know what he looks like, I've never seen his picture. I only know his name and I'm not even sure if it's right or not. No one's sure who my dad is or so they say, I think they know something about him that...
    Alexander401 Alexander401 16-17, T 4 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    I Could Pass Him On the Street Without Knowing...

    I was abandoned by my father when I was a baby - less than a year old. I have no memory of him, and really, I'm thankful for that. I have never even seen a picture of him, and I'm thankful for that as well. He lives in the same city I live in. He always has. I could...
    eukaryote eukaryote 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    I Hate Father's Day

    It happens every year, and every year I cringe at the ads on television and in the newspaper. Father's Day is June 17th. Do something special for dad! Right... Because he has done so much for me?! My parents divorced when I was two and I last saw my father when I was seven. In...
    JkMs JkMs 22-25 2 Responses Jun 11, 2012

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    My father didn't leave,

    but he was never here to begin with. Although he provides for my family financially, I feel like I don't even know him honestly. He puts no effort in getting to know me or my siblings. I just feel like a burden to him. I feel like the pain is equal.
    MN53 MN53 18-21, F Oct 18, 2015

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    I'm Done Trying!

    My parents devorced when I was 2yrs old due to my father's infidelity with my mother's bestfriend's sister. Being quite young, they basically dropped me off at my gandma's for her to raise me. My mother was always on the party and my father began his life dealing and using drugs...
    some1sDEZTINY some1sDEZTINY 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    This ain't for the faint of heart,

    so you've been warned... When I was four years old, not only was I diagnosed with mild Autism, (which would eventually become high-functioning Asperger's), my grandpa died, my mom and dad divorced when it was discovered he was caught with another woman and fostering a child...
    RayMasters181 RayMasters181 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    My father abandoned me

    and my siblings at age two. When I grew up though I heard a different story: he told his social worker that my mother had abandoned him. He never got married again because he said my mom was the only woman he would ever love. He drank his sorrows away and slept on the streets...
    QuestionMarks QuestionMarks 41-45, F Nov 19, 2015

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    We left when I was 7

    and I've seen him one other time when I was 10 it's been years and I don't miss him and I'm glad we left his drug addicted *** .
    lunaluna13 lunaluna13 18-21, F Mar 7, 2014

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    It's like Bungee Jumping I haven’t cried in

    so long, I forgot the taste of it, the salty feeling on my cheeks and my lips. I forget the pull of snot in my nose. Sometime I forget I have a heart, because if I try hard enough, I can forget it was ripped out. But all it takes is a moment, or a flash, at what I hold deep...
    JelliDreams JelliDreams 22-25, F Nov 8, 2014

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    He Left Me Twice

    When I was four, my Dad took off.  All my life, mom told me he was a womanizer and a drunk. I wasn't ever supposed to talk about him, not ever mention his name.  Shortly after he left, she remarried...my dad's younger brother!  My uncle became my step dad.  I was slowly...
    lostworlds lostworlds 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2011

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    I Am Writing a Collective Memoir About Daughters of Absentee Fathers

    My father abandoned me when I was 12. I am writing a collective memoir of other women's stories about their absentee fathers. I'm interested in hearing stories of women who have defied statistics-- women who have risen above the abuse and neglect they lived through and are...
    whatwehavelost whatwehavelost 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    My dad left when I was too young to remember.

    I grew up wondering about him, and asking for answers that no one could adequately provide for me. I always heard "he doesn't care enough about you". "It's his loss". But that's not good enough; not when I feel like I'm losing, too. When I was 17, I decided that it was time to...
    allagainforyou allagainforyou 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2014

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    JustAnotherNobody000 JustAnotherNobody000 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    The more I learn about how the world works,

    the more I realized how wronged I have been by my parents. Tonight, I dedicated a good hour to reading Steve Harvey's, "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man," and I couldn't help but feel hot and cold and frozen in my bed as I read the excerpt online. His words made me realize how...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F Mar 8, 2014

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    He left when I was 3 years old,

    I remember I cried for weeks after. Im now 16 and have just found out that half my family doesnt even know I exist :(
    JayQuill JayQuill 16-17, M Aug 6, 2015

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    Is the phrase -"father like son" true?

    My boyfriend's father left his family when he was just 4. My boyfriend always tells me how he finds children annoying and pretty much just doesn't like them. Is this a sign that he is not a family man like his father? He was raised by his mother and they always talk on the phone...
    berrybanana berrybanana 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    I just really wish there was people

    that understood, and wanted to talk about it
    Jacks1998 Jacks1998 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30, 2014

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    i'm almost 18 people say these are the happy

    day's well not for me my dad does not live with mom and i any more he said he could not take it any more some time's no wait all the time they make it seem like its my fault i'm to young to feel this way over the few year's of me come in out to my dad he he pulled me out of his...
    transfag transfag 18-21 1 Response Jun 27, 2014

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    MemeMia MemeMia 22-25 1 Response May 24, 2014

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    Every morning I wake up

    and sense what's around me. Do I feel happy?! Do I have the notion to hide how I truly feel about not having a father? Most people don't know that I am afraid of older males old enough to be my father. I don't know how to act around men of that stature. I was told that his mom...
    Kynearin Kynearin 22-25, F Apr 12, 2014

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    I'm always in fear that the man I decided to

    marry and have a family with will end up being like my dad and completely abandon our children and ruin them emotionally as my father did to me. It seemed to be a reoccurring thing in my family seeing as it happened to my mom and it happened to my cousins.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 19, 2015

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    Hi everyone i never talk about this to anyone

    im currently 16 i was abandoned by my father when i was 6,7 and i really loved him. He used to beat my mom everyday and i saw but i always was thinking that he would stop and be nice he then cheated on my mom and she was depressed with everything (they were together 8 years ) so...
    sklmm sklmm 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 12, 2015

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    January 4th

    On January 4th, You carried me out of the hospital You took me home And made me your baby scratch that, I Was a baby. 8 pounds 1 foot White as snow I was perfect. I looked nothing like you but I was 50% yours You were over six feet dark as midnight with ghost skeletons in your...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 4 Responses May 4, 2013

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    He left my mom, brother,

    and me. Sold my brothers car (my brother wanted to sell it but wanted more money) for way less that it was worth and kept 90% if the money and used it to get married and go on a cruise.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 18, 2015

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    Just 9 Years Old, Wish He Had Killed Himself Instead.

    Just a 9 year old boy when he left. He was a great father. He owned a small business and I was his right hand man. I was living in the actual 'American Dream'. Small town, mom and dad, and no worries, then he just took off. 17 year later he E-Mailed me and we got in a heated...
    thewriterwithnobook thewriterwithnobook 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 4, 2012

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    Our Dad Left Us! I was five years old

    when it happened, just after President Kennedy was shot. My younger sister Gretchen was four, and my little sister Audrey was one as I recall. I was too young to know exactly what was going on, but I vaguely remember arguments between my parents. Then around January of 1964 my...
    BadPam BadPam 56-60, F 10 Responses Aug 10, 2015

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    My Father Abandoned His 3 Sons As Adults- But It Still Hurts

    My father was close to all of his 3 boys. We did ski trips, and all manner of family activities. My folks divorced in the 1980s, and both remarried in the 1990s. Mom's 2nd husband is a wonderful guy, but Dad's 2nd wife hated all of us- she saw us as a threat and competition for...
    TitanicExplorer TitanicExplorer 36-40, M Jan 1, 2013

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    I found some songs that describe him.

    Dear father by sum 41, emotionless by good charlotte, the story of my old man by good charlotte, and broken angel by Boyce avenue. I've been think about my dad more and more lately. I wanna try and ask around at his high school (I go to his old high school) and see if anybody...
    Alexander401 Alexander401 16-17, T 1 Response Nov 22, 2014

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    Going to Be Long, Never Talked About This Before

       I never really know how to start things, so I guess I'll just jump right in.    My two older sisters and I were abandoned by our father, Danny. It's bugged me for my entire life, but I just can't bring myself to talk to anyone about it, not family...
    Fielga Fielga 26-30 3 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    Daddy, where are you?

    My father was the person I've loved the most during my life. Until I was 12, he was my best friend, my listener, my star in the darkness. After my parents' divorce, my world started crumbling. Eventually, my father stopped visiting me. On my 13th birthday, he didn't come to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 17, 2015

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    All I Had Were Pictures

    When I was a baby my mother dumped my (biological) father who was also her fiancee at the time because he was a cheater and was into drugs (not a lot, just a little). He was around until I was about a year old or so. When I was 2 and a half, my mom married my Stepdad, but...
    shelbershoe shelbershoe 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2010

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    I was born when my mother was at the early age

    of twenty, my dad probably only a bit older. They were together for the first 6 months of my life, before hastily separating. I grew up driving between my dad and moms houses until I reached the age of 3 when my mother found a boyfriend, then I had to visit him aswell. My mum...
    inflictingpain inflictingpain 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 5, 2014

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    A Day In My Life (abandoned at birth)

    Imagine going to your first day of kindergarten; mother and father at each side holding your hand. Now remove the father. That's right, you was abandoned at birth. Actually, at birth is an understatement. You were abandoned as soon as he found out your mom was pregnant. Now it's...
    DarkMoonlightMusic DarkMoonlightMusic 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    Dear Dad, It's me again.

    Your daughter. I don't suppose you remember me; why would you? You've never seen my face, except for when I was a baby (and let's face it, all baby faces look the same). I guess I can't blame you for not wanting to be a part of my life. If I were in your shoes, I'd probably...
    reddwolf reddwolf 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    My father left me for dead in a foster home

    when I was 13 years old. My life basically fell apart when my parents split up and divorced when I was 7 years old. My father found out my mother was cheating on him. I remember being asked who I wanted to live with and I have no idea why I said my mother. I then went to live...
    LadyHawke68 LadyHawke68 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 17, 2014

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    Why Am I Even Telling This Story?

    I think because I am semi-conscience, so tired right now I'll share this...Because normally NO ONE will hear me talk about my father. Basically, he was/is an alcoholic, and who knows what else. I haven't seen him since I was 8, but I can still remember some "good"...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 26, 2009

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    Maybe This Time I'm Ready To Share

    I never talk about him. I never mention him. None of my friends have ever heard me speak of him. There is no one in my life that I call Dad. That is easily the word I have used the least since I learned to speak.The one time I have ever seen him, I was only 9 years old. I...
    Laria Laria 22-25, F 26 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    "Why don't you have a daddy,

    mommy?"..Probably the most painful question I have ever been asked. Trying to explain to my children why they only have one grandpa breaks my heart. My dad left my mother when I was a few months old. I have never heard another word from him. My mother raised me by herself until...
    beth0511 beth0511 26-30, F 1 Response May 22, 2014

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    Have you ever had a hero?

    Have you ever had a role model that was also a parental figure? Have you ever had full trust in someone special and then all of a sudden it gets shattered and you don't understand what's going on? I have. My hero, was also my Father. My role model, was also my Father. My special...
    Cassadilla1822 Cassadilla1822 18-21, F Aug 24, 2014

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    Today my father left me

    and my mother who is suffering from MS. He found another woman who was apparently more important to him than his thirty year marriage and his only child. He left without even bothering with a goodbye, which shows how little he cares I guess. It's ultimately a good thing, his...
    whimsy15 whimsy15 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    My Father Abandoned Me... And Eventually, My Dad Did Too.

    My father abandoned me shortly after I was born. My "normal" growing up was living in my grandparents' house, with my Mom-Mom, my Pop-Pop, and my mother. This was my life for the first few years of my childhood, and I was happy. When I was four, my Mom got married to the man who...
    DaddyLeft DaddyLeft 26-30, M 8 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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