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I Was Abandoned By My Father

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    He Left Me Twice

    When I was four, my Dad took off.  All my life, mom told me he was a womanizer and a drunk. I wasn't ever supposed to talk about him, not ever mention his name.  Shortly after he left, she remarried...my dad's younger brother!  My uncle became my step dad.  I was slowly...
    lostworlds lostworlds 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2011

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    I Could Pass Him On the Street Without Knowing...

    I was abandoned by my father when I was a baby - less than a year old. I have no memory of him, and really, I'm thankful for that. I have never even seen a picture of him, and I'm thankful for that as well. He lives in the same city I live in. He always has. I could...
    eukaryote eukaryote 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    Goodbye Letter From the Man Who Raised Me

    Letter from my dad: 6-3-2001 "Dear V. and S., I wanted to discuss what I'm writing to you with the four of us but unfortunately your mother didn't want that. I'm just writing you a fraction of what I've discussed with your mother. At this point I choose to let the contact...
    Elreev Elreev 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 10, 2009

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    My father left when I was one.

    I was back and forth between him and my mum for three years, until the court system said I couldn't see him anymore. After two years, he got his **** together and I was able to hang out with him and his new girlfriend now. After the wedding, I saw him three times, over a span...
    CrimsonDrake CrimsonDrake 18-21, M Jan 5

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    I was born when my mother was at the early age

    of twenty, my dad probably only a bit older. They were together for the first 6 months of my life, before hastily separating. I grew up driving between my dad and moms houses until I reached the age of 3 when my mother found a boyfriend, then I had to visit him aswell. My mum...
    inflictingpain inflictingpain 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    i don't remember about him at all.

    because of no contact for many years, 18,5 years by now i'm 19 years old, i have no attached feelings of him. i'm like, i don't even care about him at all. no feelings of love-but also no feelings of hate. my mom ever told me that he's a cold person, only talks when he needs to...
    shion13 shion13 18-21 1 Response Feb 20

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    One Day I'm Gonna Reunite With Him

    Someone once asked me about my dad and I told then about how he left me and my sister and mom when I was real little. He said I seem like the kind of person that is real needy in the acceptance department and he wanted to know if I thought it was because I was never accepted by...
    sabrynabrooklynne sabrynabrooklynne 18-21, F Sep 28, 2012

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    My dad left when I was too young to remember.

    I grew up wondering about him, and asking for answers that no one could adequately provide for me. I always heard "he doesn't care enough about you". "It's his loss". But that's not good enough; not when I feel like I'm losing, too. When I was 17, I decided that it was time to...
    allagainforyou allagainforyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    Anger And Hate

    My father left when I was 17. I assumed all responsibilities of the household. Worked two jobs and school full time im am pretty successful now with a career amd money. But I still feel hate and anger . I cant let go the pain. Its starting to ruin my life. I depend on alcohol to...
    lombardi52 lombardi52 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 5, 2013

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    Have you ever had a hero?

    Have you ever had a role model that was also a parental figure? Have you ever had full trust in someone special and then all of a sudden it gets shattered and you don't understand what's going on? I have. My hero, was also my Father. My role model, was also my Father. My special...
    Cassadilla1822 Cassadilla1822 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    Being Abandon By My Father,, :'(

    We are a happy family back then . Having a good life,no difficulties ,a loving father and mother,my life is perfect having all I need, until turning 12, that was the last birthday I celebrated with my father, 6th grade when I got bullied and un able to bare all the hurts I've...
    Jinri Jinri 22-25, F Oct 9, 2013

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    My Father Called Me A Satan.

    My father was a great man. He worked his way up, from having nothing, to almost having everything. From having to eat only bread on a paper plate for breakfast, lunch and dinner, to eating meat on silver plates. He earned his numerous awards, he's smart, and not to mention, a...
    meowgirl123 meowgirl123 16-17, F Sep 6, 2013

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    Every morning I wake up

    and sense what's around me. Do I feel happy?! Do I have the notion to hide how I truly feel about not having a father? Most people don't know that I am afraid of older males old enough to be my father. I don't know how to act around men of that stature. I was told that his mom...
    Kynearin Kynearin 22-25, F Apr 12

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    MemeMia MemeMia 22-25 1 Response May 24

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    I wasn't; my daughter has been.

    We split up when she was a baby, but he played 'daddy' for 8 years: visiting, taking her to the zoo, sending presents. Until he got bored, got a new girlfriend. Then he wanted nothing to do with her. She (and I) tried to call, email, Facebook, send letters, texts. He ignored...
    tryingtomaketomorrowbetter tryingtomaketomorrowbetter 31-35 1 Response Mar 7

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    I Still Miss Him Every Day

    I am so happy I found a group of people who understand what I am feeling. I was raised by the brother of my real father (which is another story) from the age of 2. Even though circumstances weren't perfect, he was the perfect father. He was there for me and my little brother in...
    Elreev Elreev 18-21, F 24 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    Just 9 Years Old, Wish He Had Killed Himself Instead.

    Just a 9 year old boy when he left. He was a great father. He owned a small business and I was his right hand man. I was living in the actual 'American Dream'. Small town, mom and dad, and no worries, then he just took off. 17 year later he E-Mailed me and we got in a heated...
    thewriterwithnobook thewriterwithnobook 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 4, 2012

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    Once I moved away with my mother that's

    when it happened. Even when I stay with him during the summer he hangs out with his friends more then me. He always breaks promises . He has not done anything for me. He is never there for me .
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I Still Resent Him For Leaving

    I just want to start of by saying that my father is not a bad person and he does love me even if he's not very good at showing it. He was not one of those fathers that left my mom, sister and me and didn't have anything to do with us again.  He payed child support and we...
    loudamy loudamy 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    I'm Done Trying!

    My parents devorced when I was 2yrs old due to my father's infidelity with my mother's bestfriend's sister. Being quite young, they basically dropped me off at my gandma's for her to raise me. My mother was always on the party and my father began his life dealing and using drugs...
    some1sDEZTINY some1sDEZTINY 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    My father left me for dead in a foster home

    when I was 13 years old. My life basically fell apart when my parents split up and divorced when I was 7 years old. My father found out my mother was cheating on him. I remember being asked who I wanted to live with and I have no idea why I said my mother. I then went to live...
    LadyHawke68 LadyHawke68 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    Maybe This Time I'm Ready To Share

    I never talk about him. I never mention him. None of my friends have ever heard me speak of him. There is no one in my life that I call Dad. That is easily the word I have used the least since I learned to speak.The one time I have ever seen him, I was only 9 years old. I...
    Laria Laria 22-25, F 27 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    It Hurts So Much...

     I have been sitting here reading all of your stories and it is making me feel much better just knowing there are people who truly understand the damage that this experience yields.  This morning I was going through some old boxes of stuff, getting ready to move across...
    JoanieDearest JoanieDearest 22-25 7 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    If someone asked me what was my childhood like

    Id reply with I didn't really have a childhood My father suffered from depression really bad. It was so bad when I was only a baby if I cried he would lock me in a room till I stopped, he couldn't stand me in the house coz I made to much noise for his liking so my mam took me...
    lolletsgo lolletsgo 16-17, M 3 Responses May 6

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    Why Am I Even Telling This Story?

    I think because I am semi-conscience, so tired right now I'll share this...Because normally NO ONE will hear me talk about my father. Basically, he was/is an alcoholic, and who knows what else. I haven't seen him since I was 8, but I can still remember some "good"...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 26, 2009

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    Dear Dad, It's me again.

    Your daughter. I don't suppose you remember me; why would you? You've never seen my face, except for when I was a baby (and let's face it, all baby faces look the same). I guess I can't blame you for not wanting to be a part of my life. If I were in your shoes, I'd probably...
    reddwolf reddwolf 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 7

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    Why Was I Not Enough, Why?

    My whole life, I was never enough and always made to feel this way. Before I was even born, my biological "father" left and walked out on my mother, leaving her pregnant and with a young son (his also). He left for another woman, and another family. My entire life, I've never...
    knowsnobounds knowsnobounds 26-30 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    "Why don't you have a daddy,

    mommy?"..Probably the most painful question I have ever been asked. Trying to explain to my children why they only have one grandpa breaks my heart. My dad left my mother when I was a few months old. I have never heard another word from him. My mother raised me by herself until...
    beth0511 beth0511 22-25, F 1 Response May 22

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    I Was Abandoned By My Father

    I don't know if it's better or worse, but my dad didn't leave when I was born, I grew up with him, and was really close with him, until I was 12, a year after my parents divorced. We were still really close, even then, and I loved staying with him, until one week I went to his...
    SomeoneIsAlreadyUsingTasha SomeoneIsAlreadyUsingTasha 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    I Love My Father Even After He Abandoned Me

    I remember when I was a child in the comforts of my home with my mother and father.  One day I could hear them arguing, then my dad was gone and he didn't come back.  My father abandoned me.  I cried until I was almost 50 years old and as I am writing this...
    shasha10 shasha10 51-55, F 8 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    A Day In My Life (abandoned at birth)

    Imagine going to your first day of kindergarten; mother and father at each side holding your hand. Now remove the father. That's right, you was abandoned at birth. Actually, at birth is an understatement. You were abandoned as soon as he found out your mom was pregnant. Now it's...
    DarkMoonlightMusic DarkMoonlightMusic 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    I Am Writing a Collective Memoir About Daughters of Absentee Fathers

    My father abandoned me when I was 12. I am writing a collective memoir of other women's stories about their absentee fathers. I'm interested in hearing stories of women who have defied statistics-- women who have risen above the abuse and neglect they lived through and are...
    whatwehavelost whatwehavelost 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    So yes, since I was born,

    never really spent time with him. I was raised up by my mom's family, my great grandparents raised me. One time I overheard a conversation between my father and great grandma. He said he was sorry not being able to give her a baby boy, meaning I was a mistake. I was 5 years old...
    PineappleBeer PineappleBeer 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 15

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    About three years ago in September,

    I was physically abandoned by the man I once considered my hero. He was my best friend, my hero, and my protector. I miss him but he wants absolutely nothing to do with me. I understand that he wants his Wife and me to have a friendship but it'll never happen. I know her to well...
    Cassadilla1822 Cassadilla1822 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Where's My Father I Don't Know...

    We use to had a happy family...full of love and harmony...that is all i can remember... My father left for greener pastures two-decades ago to california,promising that he'll do everything to raise us in a descent way,but that dream turned into broken promises... He never...
    tayara tayara 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Going to Be Long, Never Talked About This Before

       I never really know how to start things, so I guess I'll just jump right in.    My two older sisters and I were abandoned by our father, Danny. It's bugged me for my entire life, but I just can't bring myself to talk to anyone about it, not family...
    Fielga Fielga 26-30 3 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    Preacher's Lil Secret

    My father was a preacher and I only met him once. Even though he was married to my mother when she was pregnant with me he denied I was his daughter. My mother left him while pregnant with me and I don't think he knew about me until I found him when I was 21. However he denied...
    iajulz iajulz 36-40, F Sep 13, 2013

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    All I Had Were Pictures

    When I was a baby my mother dumped my (biological) father who was also her fiancee at the time because he was a cheater and was into drugs (not a lot, just a little). He was around until I was about a year old or so. When I was 2 and a half, my mom married my Stepdad, but...
    shelbershoe shelbershoe 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2010

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    New Beginning

    My dad abandoned my family when I was 15 but he had checked out long before this. It was the best thing that he ever did for us. He was a selfish, ingnorant man who didn't care about anyone but himself. Now 10 years later my mother has marries an amazing man who I am proud to...
    evilkitty10 evilkitty10 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2013

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    i'm almost 18 people say these are the happy

    day's well not for me my dad does not live with mom and i any more he said he could not take it any more some time's no wait all the time they make it seem like its my fault i'm to young to feel this way over the few year's of me come in out to my dad he he pulled me out of his...
    transfag transfag 18-21 1 Response Jun 27

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    I was born in 93. I am a product of an affair.

    My story is twisted and sometimes I don't understand it because of all the lies I was told as a child. My father would only come around to have sexwitth my mother. He would not suspend any time with me at all, the only time I would see him was when he came around for sex with my...
    CiaraMorales CiaraMorales 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    We left when I was 7

    and I've seen him one other time when I was 10 it's been years and I don't miss him and I'm glad we left his drug addicted *** .
    lunaluna13 lunaluna13 18-21, F Mar 7

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    I Feel Like He Abandoned Me

    I guess my mom got pregnant by her boyfriend Derrik(my biological dad). He had plans for school and told my mom to get rid of me. My mom started dating Don(my dad that raised me), they got married and he became my dad raised me as his own. So anyways the parents of Derrik wanted...
    MissConfused89 MissConfused89 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2010

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    The more I learn about how the world works,

    the more I realized how wronged I have been by my parents. Tonight, I dedicated a good hour to reading Steve Harvey's, "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man," and I couldn't help but feel hot and cold and frozen in my bed as I read the excerpt online. His words made me realize how...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    My Father Left Me 40 Years Ago But I Still Feel The Pain Of That Little Girl In Me:((

    After soo many years and soo many spiritual work, counselling work, body work, I still feel pain of how my father left me. The way was cruel and I never got to come to turns with it. It left me with low self esteem, feeling of not being good enough, worthlessness, that I didn't...
    Sofka Sofka 51-55, F Sep 12, 2013

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    He only saw me after three days of my mother

    and grandparents bugging him and then he left after he saw me. I don't know what he looks like, I've never seen his picture. I only know his name and I'm not even sure if it's right or not. No one's sure who my dad is or so they say, I think they know something about him that...
    jules401 jules401 13-15, T 4 Responses Feb 25

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    My Father Abandoned His 3 Sons As Adults- But It Still Hurts

    My father was close to all of his 3 boys. We did ski trips, and all manner of family activities. My folks divorced in the 1980s, and both remarried in the 1990s. Mom's 2nd husband is a wonderful guy, but Dad's 2nd wife hated all of us- she saw us as a threat and competition for...
    TitanicExplorer TitanicExplorer 36-40, M Jan 1, 2013

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    My Fathers Journey

    I was born and not treated right by my father. I thought this was completely normal. The older I got the more abnormal it all seemed. I mean I saw my dad maybe once a day for like 2 mins while he raided the fridge for food. Anyway, I was 13 and my family wanted to spend Christmas...
    Poppy001 Poppy001 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2013

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    January 4th

    On January 4th, You carried me out of the hospital You took me home And made me your baby scratch that, I Was a baby. 8 pounds 1 foot White as snow I was perfect. I looked nothing like you but I was 50% yours You were over six feet dark as midnight with ghost skeletons in your...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 4 Responses May 4, 2013

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    I just really wish there was people

    that understood, and wanted to talk about it
    Jacks1998 Jacks1998 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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