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I Was Abandoned By My Father

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    Who Is My Father?

    My Name is Emily. I am seventeen years old, and during my seventeen years of existence I have never met my father. I can't pinpoint the moment I really realized I didn't have a father, it's just something I've always known. As a young child it never bothered me, but as the...
    emilylogan emilylogan 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2013

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    Going to Be Long, Never Talked About This Before

       I never really know how to start things, so I guess I'll just jump right in.    My two older sisters and I were abandoned by our father, Danny. It's bugged me for my entire life, but I just can't bring myself to talk to anyone about it, not family...
    Fielga Fielga 26-30 3 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    January 4th

    On January 4th, You carried me out of the hospital You took me home And made me your baby scratch that, I Was a baby. 8 pounds 1 foot White as snow I was perfect. I looked nothing like you but I was 50% yours You were over six feet dark as midnight with ghost skeletons in your...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 4 Responses May 4, 2013

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    Being Abandon By My Father,, :'(

    We are a happy family back then . Having a good life,no difficulties ,a loving father and mother,my life is perfect having all I need, until turning 12, that was the last birthday I celebrated with my father, 6th grade when I got bullied and un able to bare all the hurts I've...
    Jinri Jinri 22-25, F Oct 9, 2013

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    My Father Abandoned His 3 Sons As Adults- But It Still Hurts

    My father was close to all of his 3 boys. We did ski trips, and all manner of family activities. My folks divorced in the 1980s, and both remarried in the 1990s. Mom's 2nd husband is a wonderful guy, but Dad's 2nd wife hated all of us- she saw us as a threat and competition for...
    TitanicExplorer TitanicExplorer 36-40, M Jan 1, 2013

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    He only saw me after three days of my mother

    and grandparents bugging him and then he left after he saw me. I don't know what he looks like, I've never seen his picture. I only know his name and I'm not even sure if it's right or not. No one's sure who my dad is or so they say, I think they know something about him that...
    jules401 jules401 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 25

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    I Could Pass Him On the Street Without Knowing...

    I was abandoned by my father when I was a baby - less than a year old. I have no memory of him, and really, I'm thankful for that. I have never even seen a picture of him, and I'm thankful for that as well. He lives in the same city I live in. He always has. I could...
    eukaryote eukaryote 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    Loser Act Loser

    Who are you to judge me? you only see yourself in me,  when you said why I act this way, I told you because you are my father and I live with you, then you said I'm your kid? what?? what's that supposed to mean? you mean that you admit yourself that you are really a bad...
    Nelangsa Nelangsa 22-25, T Sep 5, 2013

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    Anger And Hate

    My father left when I was 17. I assumed all responsibilities of the household. Worked two jobs and school full time im am pretty successful now with a career amd money. But I still feel hate and anger . I cant let go the pain. Its starting to ruin my life. I depend on alcohol to...
    lombardi52 lombardi52 26-30, M Nov 5, 2013

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    I Still Resent Him For Leaving

    I just want to start of by saying that my father is not a bad person and he does love me even if he's not very good at showing it. He was not one of those fathers that left my mom, sister and me and didn't have anything to do with us again.  He payed child support and we...
    loudamy loudamy 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    Preacher's Lil Secret

    My father was a preacher and I only met him once. Even though he was married to my mother when she was pregnant with me he denied I was his daughter. My mother left him while pregnant with me and I don't think he knew about me until I found him when I was 21. However he denied...
    iajulz iajulz 36-40, F Sep 13, 2013

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    Something I Have To Say

    Hey dad, remember when I was 10 years old at the park? Remember me throwing a ball around picking it up by myself? Because you said something to me when I went up to you. You said "you're not human, just because you walk and breathe like us, doesn't mean you have a soul like us...
    Yearsgoby Yearsgoby 18-21, M 6 Responses May 12, 2013

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    My Father Abandoned Me... And Eventually, My Dad Did Too.

    My father abandoned me shortly after I was born. My "normal" growing up was living in my grandparents' house, with my Mom-Mom, my Pop-Pop, and my mother. This was my life for the first few years of my childhood, and I was happy. When I was four, my Mom got married to the man who...
    DaddyLeft DaddyLeft 26-30, M 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Feel Like He Abandoned Me

    I guess my mom got pregnant by her boyfriend Derrik(my biological dad). He had plans for school and told my mom to get rid of me. My mom started dating Don(my dad that raised me), they got married and he became my dad raised me as his own. So anyways the parents of Derrik wanted...
    MissConfused89 MissConfused89 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2010

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    I Still Miss Him Every Day

    I am so happy I found a group of people who understand what I am feeling. I was raised by the brother of my real father (which is another story) from the age of 2. Even though circumstances weren't perfect, he was the perfect father. He was there for me and my little brother in...
    Elreev Elreev 18-21, F 24 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    Where's My Father I Don't Know...

    We use to had a happy family...full of love and harmony...that is all i can remember... My father left for greener pastures two-decades ago to california,promising that he'll do everything to raise us in a descent way,but that dream turned into broken promises... He never...
    tayara tayara 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Desterate to Meet the Man I Have Never Met!

    My mother met my father in abu dhabi 29 yrs ago, they had a fling, she fell pregnant, he chose not to marry her, meaning she had to then leave the country where she move to the UK as it was illegal to have a child out of wedlock. they stayed in contact via letters...
    allypetersdaughter allypetersdaughter 26-30 2 Responses Apr 27, 2009

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    It Hurts So Much...

     I have been sitting here reading all of your stories and it is making me feel much better just knowing there are people who truly understand the damage that this experience yields.  This morning I was going through some old boxes of stuff, getting ready to move across...
    JoanieDearest JoanieDearest 22-25 7 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    Criminal

    My father always made it clear that he never loved me. He left when I was 3, landing in jail. Again when I'm 8, I wasn't even trying to THINK about him because it hurt too much... the cops show up at my house. Looking for him. My life was plagued for years knowing that doors are...
    strawberrysparkle strawberrysparkle 18-21, F Aug 21, 2013

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    My father left me for dead in a foster home

    when I was 13 years old. My life basically fell apart when my parents split up and divorced when I was 7 years old. My father found out my mother was cheating on him. I remember being asked who I wanted to live with and I have no idea why I said my mother. I then went to live...
    LadyHawke68 LadyHawke68 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I Am Writing a Collective Memoir About Daughters of Absentee Fathers

    My father abandoned me when I was 12. I am writing a collective memoir of other women's stories about their absentee fathers. I'm interested in hearing stories of women who have defied statistics-- women who have risen above the abuse and neglect they lived through and are...
    whatwehavelost whatwehavelost 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    I just really wish there was people

    that understood, and wanted to talk about it
    Jacks1998 Jacks1998 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    A Day In My Life (abandoned at birth)

    Imagine going to your first day of kindergarten; mother and father at each side holding your hand. Now remove the father. That's right, you was abandoned at birth. Actually, at birth is an understatement. You were abandoned as soon as he found out your mom was pregnant. Now it's...
    DarkMoonlightMusic DarkMoonlightMusic 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    I wasn't; my daughter has been.

    We split up when she was a baby, but he played 'daddy' for 8 years: visiting, taking her to the zoo, sending presents. Until he got bored, got a new girlfriend. Then he wanted nothing to do with her. She (and I) tried to call, email, Facebook, send letters, texts. He ignored...
    tryingtomaketomorrowbetter tryingtomaketomorrowbetter 31-35 1 Response Mar 7

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    I'm Done Trying!

    My parents devorced when I was 2yrs old due to my father's infidelity with my mother's bestfriend's sister. Being quite young, they basically dropped me off at my gandma's for her to raise me. My mother was always on the party and my father began his life dealing and using drugs...
    some1sDEZTINY some1sDEZTINY 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    Dear Dad, It's me again.

    Your daughter. I don't suppose you remember me; why would you? You've never seen my face, except for when I was a baby (and let's face it, all baby faces look the same). I guess I can't blame you for not wanting to be a part of my life. If I were in your shoes, I'd probably...
    reddwolf reddwolf 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    The more I learn about how the world works,

    the more I realized how wronged I have been by my parents. Tonight, I dedicated a good hour to reading Steve Harvey's, "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man," and I couldn't help but feel hot and cold and frozen in my bed as I read the excerpt online. His words made me realize how...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    Why Was I Not Enough, Why?

    My whole life, I was never enough and always made to feel this way. Before I was even born, my biological "father" left and walked out on my mother, leaving her pregnant and with a young son (his also). He left for another woman, and another family. My entire life, I've never...
    knowsnobounds knowsnobounds 26-30 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    Once I moved away with my mother that's

    when it happened. Even when I stay with him during the summer he hangs out with his friends more then me. He always breaks promises . He has not done anything for me. He is never there for me .
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I Was Abandoned By My Father

    I don't know if it's better or worse, but my dad didn't leave when I was born, I grew up with him, and was really close with him, until I was 12, a year after my parents divorced. We were still really close, even then, and I loved staying with him, until one week I went to his...
    SomeoneIsAlreadyUsingTasha SomeoneIsAlreadyUsingTasha 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Goodbye Letter From the Man Who Raised Me

    Letter from my dad: 6-3-2001 "Dear V. and S., I wanted to discuss what I'm writing to you with the four of us but unfortunately your mother didn't want that. I'm just writing you a fraction of what I've discussed with your mother. At this point I choose to let the contact...
    Elreev Elreev 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 10, 2009

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    I was born when my mother was at the early age

    of twenty, my dad probably only a bit older. They were together for the first 6 months of my life, before hastily separating. I grew up driving between my dad and moms houses until I reached the age of 3 when my mother found a boyfriend, then I had to visit him aswell. My mum...
    inflictingpain inflictingpain 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    Every morning I wake up

    and sense what's around me. Do I feel happy?! Do I have the notion to hide how I truly feel about not having a father? Most people don't know that I am afraid of older males old enough to be my father. I don't know how to act around men of that stature. I was told that his mom...
    Kynearin Kynearin 22-25, F a week ago

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    Maybe This Time I'm Ready To Share

    I never talk about him. I never mention him. None of my friends have ever heard me speak of him. There is no one in my life that I call Dad. That is easily the word I have used the least since I learned to speak.The one time I have ever seen him, I was only 9 years old. I...
    Laria Laria 22-25, F 27 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    My Mom Abandoned Me Too

    When I was ten my mom sent one of my sisters and me to live with my dad and step-mom.  One day, not long after, I called my mom at work, and she was just gone.  *poof* Nobody seemed to know where she was.  She was gone for most of that year.  I believe...
    Gem1970 Gem1970 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2008

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    All I Had Were Pictures

    When I was a baby my mother dumped my (biological) father who was also her fiancee at the time because he was a cheater and was into drugs (not a lot, just a little). He was around until I was about a year old or so. When I was 2 and a half, my mom married my Stepdad, but...
    shelbershoe shelbershoe 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2010

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    My father left when I was one.

    I was back and forth between him and my mum for three years, until the court system said I couldn't see him anymore. After two years, he got his **** together and I was able to hang out with him and his new girlfriend now. After the wedding, I saw him three times, over a span...
    CrimsonDrake CrimsonDrake 18-21, M Jan 5

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    My Fathers Journey

    I was born and not treated right by my father. I thought this was completely normal. The older I got the more abnormal it all seemed. I mean I saw my dad maybe once a day for like 2 mins while he raided the fridge for food. Anyway, I was 13 and my family wanted to spend Christmas...
    Poppy001 Poppy001 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2013

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    My Father Left Me 40 Years Ago But I Still Feel The Pain Of That Little Girl In Me:((

    After soo many years and soo many spiritual work, counselling work, body work, I still feel pain of how my father left me. The way was cruel and I never got to come to turns with it. It left me with low self esteem, feeling of not being good enough, worthlessness, that I didn't...
    Sofka Sofka 51-55, F Sep 12, 2013

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    Abandoned

    My so called father abandoned me not once, but twice.  I guess the second time was my fault.  I was the one that contacted him, leaving myself open for him to hurt me once again. My original crime was being born.  I'm the product of a teen mom and unplanned...
    ShatteredSilk ShatteredSilk 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 17, 2008

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    I was born in 93. I am a product of an affair.

    My story is twisted and sometimes I don't understand it because of all the lies I was told as a child. My father would only come around to have sexwitth my mother. He would not suspend any time with me at all, the only time I would see him was when he came around for sex with my...
    CiaraMorales CiaraMorales 18-21, F Dec 24, 2013

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    Just 9 Years Old, Wish He Had Killed Himself Instead.

    Just a 9 year old boy when he left. He was a great father. He owned a small business and I was his right hand man. I was living in the actual 'American Dream'. Small town, mom and dad, and no worries, then he just took off. 17 year later he E-Mailed me and we got in a heated...
    thewriterwithnobook thewriterwithnobook 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 4, 2012

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    I Love My Father Even After He Abandoned Me

    I remember when I was a child in the comforts of my home with my mother and father.  One day I could hear them arguing, then my dad was gone and he didn't come back.  My father abandoned me.  I cried until I was almost 50 years old and as I am writing this...
    shasha10 shasha10 51-55, F 8 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    My Father Called Me A Satan.

    My father was a great man. He worked his way up, from having nothing, to almost having everything. From having to eat only bread on a paper plate for breakfast, lunch and dinner, to eating meat on silver plates. He earned his numerous awards, he's smart, and not to mention, a...
    meowgirl123 meowgirl123 13-15, F Sep 6, 2013

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    I'm Collateral Damage.

    I haven't been thinking about the loathing I harbor for my father in a long time, but when I got a bit too drunk one weekend, i spilled the beans, so to speak, to a couple of my classmates, whom i speak to, but I don't share anything meaningful about my life to them. For some...
    Carryonmywaywarddaughter Carryonmywaywarddaughter 18-21, F Sep 3, 2013

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    My Life Is Dysfunctional.

    My biological father was a child molester and beat my mom. She left him when I was a year old and married someone she met at church. That man was the only father I knew. My mother became an alcoholic and the man she married from church that I call 'Dad' smokes weed every day. She...
    undecided4 undecided4 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 14, 2013

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    My dad left when I was too young to remember.

    I grew up wondering about him, and asking for answers that no one could adequately provide for me. I always heard "he doesn't care enough about you". "It's his loss". But that's not good enough; not when I feel like I'm losing, too. When I was 17, I decided that it was time to...
    allagainforyou allagainforyou 18-21, F Apr 4

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    i don't remember about him at all.

    because of no contact for many years, 18,5 years by now i'm 19 years old, i have no attached feelings of him. i'm like, i don't even care about him at all. no feelings of love-but also no feelings of hate. my mom ever told me that he's a cold person, only talks when he needs to...
    shion13 shion13 18-21 1 Response Feb 20

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    New Beginning

    My dad abandoned my family when I was 15 but he had checked out long before this. It was the best thing that he ever did for us. He was a selfish, ingnorant man who didn't care about anyone but himself. Now 10 years later my mother has marries an amazing man who I am proud to...
    evilkitty10 evilkitty10 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2013

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    We left when I was 7

    and I've seen him one other time when I was 10 it's been years and I don't miss him and I'm glad we left his drug addicted *** .
    lunaluna13 lunaluna13 18-21, F Mar 7

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    Taken To 2 Strangers And Left For Over 6 Months

    Hello All, My sister and I were taken to two strangers when we were 2 and 3 and a half. These people lived in a trailer park somewhere in Maryland. We were gone from our mother and grandparents for over 6 months. My father paid them 5 dollars a week instead of 10 dollars to our...
    waterdance waterdance 70+ 1 Response Jun 11, 2013

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    Why Am I Even Telling This Story?

    I think because I am semi-conscience, so tired right now I'll share this...Because normally NO ONE will hear me talk about my father. Basically, he was/is an alcoholic, and who knows what else. I haven't seen him since I was 8, but I can still remember some "good"...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 26, 2009

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    At age 15 my father placed me in a foster home

    and never claim be back. I have meet my father again during my older life but he is a person of broken promises and takes advantage of me. I cut him out of my life 3 years ago as I had enough. A month ago I had my uncle told me I should express how I feel to my father. So...
    ChillyWilly82 ChillyWilly82 31-35, M Jan 18

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