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I Was Abandoned By My Mother

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    My Happy Toddlerhood

    My mother had me at a young age, 17, and my father was 19 or 20. They were happy for a while, your average hippy couple who smoked weed and led a life full of love. This changed however when my father decided to get serious in his job career and stopped smoking. My mother went...
    Hypnotixtic Hypnotixtic 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 12, 2012

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    57 year old male. State took me at age 5

    and two younger siblings and put us in a children's home. For 10 years she never tried to get us back. In fact, she went on and had 3 more kids in that time. We spent our childhood bouncing around foster homes. It's difficult to put the whole experience into words, so I'll make...
    5312a 5312a 56-60, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Abandoned By My Mother, A Teenagers Worst Nightmare.

    I was 12 when my mother left. My brother was 13, she told my dad, and us, that she was going to stay with her dying mother in Germany. That was in the September. I remember the morning my dad left to take her to the airport, it was early morning, she didn't wake us, I can...
    Gracelola Gracelola 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 26, 2013

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    My Mother Left When I Was Two

    My mother left me, my sister, and my Dad when I was barely two years old. My sister was nine. The only early memory I have of her in the house where she and my father lived, is sitting in the kitchen floor (it had red tile) taking juicy fruit gum out of her purse while she was...
    sittingprettyone sittingprettyone 31-35, F Sep 6, 2013

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    Poem From A Lifelong Dad

    Although you may have some doubt a mother's love you may be without Know that you will find inside that a father's love grows with time...
    dixiecupp1 dixiecupp1 41-45, M Sep 17, 2013

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    Trust

    I don't believe I'll ever truly trust another human being again. Im afraid to love and not be loved back. Ive attempted to have relationships with guys but I just put a guard up and push them away. My mother leaving was never even an idea in my head and she walked out of my life...
    ImNotSamToday ImNotSamToday 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    Your Daughter's Blood

    Your daughter's blood Would you even notice? Cut her gut Let it all spill out Then would you even hear her cries? You call her an *** As if that will make her love you Cut her inside Kill her from the inside out Then people won't notice You're doing it all No actual death No...
    chiamonkie chiamonkie 26-30, F Mar 12, 2012

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    My Birth Mom Abandoned Me At Birth

    I was adopted at birth by a very loving couple w/ 3 daughters of their own which i call my sisters. They have loved me & pretty much treated me as one of their own biological son & brother to which i am forever grateful. At a very young age right of the bat, they told me...
    joel750 joel750 41-45 6 Responses Jan 26, 2009

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    Fallout of a Failed Marriage

    I am a Chinese Canadian in my early 30s. My parents separated six years ago, well, more like my dad left my mom without any explanation, although their marriage has never been a loving one, and I'd say the poisonous relationship was killing them both mentally. Anyways, since then...
    prepost prepost 31-35 2 Responses Jun 5, 2009

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    My father left us when we came to Canada.

    So it was just my mother and me for the longest time. She was always out, with other men, not home. And when she was, she was drunk and she would try to hurt me, often choking me in a drunk rage. Then she met a man who lived in the middle of the country. She packed me and...
    PenRe PenRe 36-40 1 Response Jan 30

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    Dont Know What I Did

    when i was telve i went to school and when i came home i fond out my mom and her boyfrend moved without me.
    dbarooklyn dbarooklyn 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    Abandoned at the Age of 9

    I googled one of the most significant events of my life (being abandoned by my biological mother) and it led me here.  Now that I found a place to vent without being ashamed of my past, I want to share my story with all of you in detail, who also share my pain.  I never had a...
    Rudimer78 Rudimer78 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    Mommy?

    I was 5 or 6 when my mentally ill mother abandoned me.  We were at the post office with her boyfriend when she left.  I knew something wasn't right, I tried to follow her, but he held me back.  Ever since, I've lived with several relatives who have been great to me...
    chocchipkookie93 chocchipkookie93 18-21, F 15 Responses Nov 4, 2007

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    My biological mother abandoned me.

    Essentially since birth, she never really acted as a mother to me. She finally have up entirely w/even being around me when I was 3. Luckily for me, my grandparents took over for her & have been my real parents for as long as I've been alive.
    OldSoul246 OldSoul246 18-21, F Dec 3, 2013

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    My mother abandon me twice actually.

    .. first time when i was 12 she took my sister and left me with my father and went to California. she returned after 6 months and 3 years after left again...im now 37 years old and im still battling with the pain and the hurt.
    mouse718 mouse718 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 18

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    Lost

    When I was 14, my mom left my dad. He was an abusive alcoholic and tormented us daily. Sometimes it got so bad, I thought he would kill us. Us being my mother and two kids, my brother and myself. She left when he was at work, so he wouldn't know. She left when we where at school...
    mommadre mommadre 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 3, 2013

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    The Unspeakable

    I was abandoned by my Mother when i was 9 years old.  For many years I never mentioned this to friends.  I was afraid and ashamed.  I will never fforget the  footsteps, down the hall and down the stairs.  I crept out of bed and saw the taxi pulled up...
    rmaxwell605 rmaxwell605 56-60 1 Response Sep 12, 2010

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    Please Help Me Help A Little Girl Whose Mom Has Left Her

    I take care of a little girl (5 years old) whose mother has been in & out of her life & has left town again. She is like a daughter to me & I love her like she came out of my belly. I have been caring for her for a little over 2 years. She knows that I love her but she and I both...
    mrslavender mrslavender 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    Forgive Her? One Day. Forget What She Did? Never

    My mom left my 2 brothers and I when we were kids. I was probably about 5 years old. To be honest, I could have probably dealt with the abandonment part by now, but it's the fact that she left us with the most vile person I've ever met, her mom. Her mom subjected her to so much...
    semanticitnames semanticitnames 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    Alone

    I was abandoned by my birth mother. I know nothing about her. I have looked but obviously she is not looking for me. I was adopted by a woman who could not have children. I was raised by her but I have never felt a connection to her. Now that I am an adult she actually despises...
    ashlicata ashlicata 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    my mother left me when I was 5.

    ...and she was replaced by a very abusive stepmother. I am 47 and i still live with the constant trauma....although to the outside world i appear o.k....i supper from crushing depression because of this. I have 4 kids who thank god i love to death...and now raising them i realize...
    anka1918 anka1918 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    11 years since she left.

    5 years since I last saw her. The only time I contact her is once every 2 months via facebook to check if my half brothers who I havent met are well. But thats all she is. A person behind a screen on the other side of the planet. Shes not there to help, not there to be a mother...
    somebodylisten somebodylisten 13-15, F Dec 19, 2013

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    The Story Of My Life..

    I'd never in a million years believe that my parents would divorce. I thought I was one of those lucky kids in the movies that their parents would grow old together. Oh, how I was wrong. 11 years old. May 15, 2011 the day reality came. First of all I'm 14 years old and I'll be 15...
    ImNotSamToday ImNotSamToday 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    In Desperate Need Of Closure

    The history between my mother and I is very complicated and extensive, but at the age of 29, I have only recently realized what a profound impact her actions have had on my entire life. This sudden recognition has caught me somewhat by surprise since I have not seen this woman...
    gb84 gb84 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 16, 2013

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    My Mother Escaped to Hungry Horse Mt and Is Worthless.

    I decided to take this down and i thank those that shared with me -- it meant a lot. 
    shadowfire65 shadowfire65 41-45 2 Responses Nov 26, 2008

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    A Movie That Took Me Out Of Feeling Numb About My Mother's Abandonment

    So I watched this movie last night, called Mothers Boys, about a mother who leaves her husband & 3 boys for a few months, then comes back for a while only to turn around and leave for 3 years. The movie starts with her coming back and hoping everything would be normal. The movie...
    acquade acquade 31-35 1 Response Jul 31, 2013

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    Thoughts

    Once your mother abandons you, you feel nobody really wants you... Not really! You're damaged goods. Like a broken piece of unwanted jewellery in a pawn brokers. Even if you still have a bit of sparkle left after being bashed about and used by everyone, you and everyone else...
    flossyfee flossyfee 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 3, 2013

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    My mother is and was an alcoholic she lost

    custody to me when I was three, I am being raised by my father. She moved very far away when she lost me and my half brother, I saw her when i was five for like a week and then I didn't see her again til I was fourteen for four days. We only talk on the phone and text. She never...
    sheri11 sheri11 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    I Don't LOVE HER

    My mother left me when i was just a little baby. Maybe 1 day old, who knows. I kept getting juggled around by relatives. One month with my grandma, another month with my aunt, the following month with my uncle. This went on till I was about 5/6 years old and her eldest brother...
    darkafricanchild darkafricanchild 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    I Don't Remember And Know My Mother Who Gave Me Birth, I Just Know That She Was A Women With A Beautiful Heart

    I know that she is a woman with beautiful heart because my heart is like her's. A loving and compassionate heart who always feels for others happiness and well being OVER self. I know, whoever she is and where ever she is, she would still be missing me and in all the likelihood...
    viperssting viperssting 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    My mom abandoned me when I was 7.

    I'm nearly 26 now and it bothers me more now than it did growing up. the sad part is my grandmother on my dads side adopted me so she could've visited me whenever she wanted but chose not to. up until the age 18 she visited 3 times... when I turned 18 she moved back in with my...
    misunderstoodgirl88 misunderstoodgirl88 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    Three years ago my mum

    and dad broke up. Me and my 18 year old brother took iver looking after my 3 you her brothers. She went out with guys. She's get drunk. Spend all her time on the phone. And in December she abandoned us completely. We (me and the 18 year old) looks after the other 3. But we had...
    hayzkid hayzkid 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    The other day I was working on a project

    for my studies. It's an emotional art piece - it's about me coming to find my own self, to ground in myself rather than in other people. However, part of this story is where I was before I had to find myself - it's a scene of how I felt about my mom, as though because of her...
    onelife22 onelife22 22-25, F Apr 7

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    15 Years Since My Mom Abandoned Me.

    She's not perfect. No one is. My mother was teen mom who ended up dropping out at 15! She had her first child at 15! She met my dad several years later and had my brother. Then she really started getting into drinking and drugs. Two years later she was pregnant with me. Her and...
    Xochristina13 Xochristina13 13-15, F Sep 29, 2013

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    Feelings Expressed In A Cheesy Poem? Yup.

    Laying in the fields burried beneath yellow flowers I think of you, my mother. 15 years later Sitting in my own living room writing to you, my mother no longer. When you left that little girl did it hurt? Because it hurt me. Mothers... How could it be that one would leave her...
    hopefulnonetheless hopefulnonetheless 26-30 2 Responses May 12, 2013

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    Today I called my mother to tell her

    that I noticed that she did not call me on my birthday, on thanksgiving, on christmas or NYE. She is 73..I am 43. She said it wasn't a good time to talk and asked if she could call later..I said yes, please do..and she hung up without saying anything more. I am the youngest of...
    mywords mywords 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 2

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    Poem - With My Story. X

    Missing You ©  Laura Schoolcraft Where have you gone My heart beats faster and faster every time I say your name, Did you ever love me? Do you love me now? I think of you day in and day out and Yet you are so far away I don't know what to...
    sparkle84 sparkle84 22-25 1 Response Jul 28, 2009

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    Abandoned For Someone Else.

    I was 14 at the time, living with my mother, father and my 7 year old little brother. I knew my parent's had their issues, they normally argued at least once a day, provoking each other like children just to get a response. My childhood was also pretty unsettled. My dad worked a...
    AnonGirls AnonGirls 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2013

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    I'M Scared

    My mother abandoned me when I was 18 months old and now I'm always terrorfied of losing my father I have awful nightmares about losing him and I freak out.
    alikitty87 alikitty87 26-30 2 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    Pick Up The Pieces And Move Forward

      i originally found myself in search of a good self-help book geared specifically for adults that feel they still suffer from parental abandonment from childhood. I came across this blog and felt compelled to respond because my mother is crap and possibly "mentally-ill." My...
    kidkilo26 kidkilo26 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    Abandoned After Divorce

    My parents married while my mother was 7 months pregnant with me. She had a son from a previous boyfriend. My father felt that it was his duty to marry her, so he did. During the pregnancy my mother used pot and alcohol. I don't have FAS, but I do have sensory issues that could...
    mariebella mariebella 22-25 5 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    Glad She's Gone

    When my sister was born my parents decided it would be easier to split the work, my dad would take care of me and my mom would take care of my sister. Well for a couple of years thats how it was, until my mom stopped being around she was constantly in and out of our lives. As we...
    southernlove96 southernlove96 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2012

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    Met My Mum After 16 Years

    I had very vague memory about my mum since I was young. The only thing I ever remember was her bringing me to get my first ear piecing with my dad. Soon after that, my dad left too. That never really bothered me because I'm being taken care by my awesome granny. I gradually...
    xIsabelly xIsabelly 22-25 Aug 30, 2013

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    Left Behind In A Broken Nation- It's been 13

    years since I saw my mother last at age 7. I saw her less than a month after my father was arrested in Russia and thanks to my grandmother's lies we were seized from our non-Russian non-White mother. My grandmother lied because she didn't approve of my parents marriage and didn...
    2ndGenPuppet 2ndGenPuppet 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    Someone Needs To Apologize

    I have read the posts here and find it heartbreaking. Not so much because of the abandonment, but because manie blame themselves for the actions of others. Someone needs to apologise for the selfish and self centered acts of others that did damage to victims of this...
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 5 Responses Feb 14, 2010

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    After 8 Years She'S Gonna Visit

    We've been talking for a while and I know she's trying now. It's caused some problems between me and my dad because he feels like I'm screwing him over by just takin her back after he did all the work to raise us. Anyway she'll be here this Wednesday because I told her I was...
    southernlove96 southernlove96 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    My Mother Left Us And Never Looked Back

    She left when I was a baby and my twin sisters were 4yo. My Dad never spoke bad of her and always said it was his fault not ours. He couldn't make her happy. He was a great man and never even raised his voice to us. He died last year and I live with my sister. We still know...
    Tis99 Tis99 16-17, M 10 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    God Punished My Mother.

    My Mother told me "Don't make me chose between you and your father because you will lose. You will grow up and leave me but your father will be with me forever." She told me this after she discovered the truth about him... he was a molester. He molested me. Ironically, on...
    HamSa0908 HamSa0908 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 1, 2012

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    I Don't Remember Her At All

    From what I've been told my mom wasn't that great of a person. When I was born my dad got full custody of me because she was flaky and you could never count on her, she was never on time with child support also if she bothered to pay. She also had two other children all from...
    taynaynay taynaynay 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2013

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    With Any Help..

    I've went through my period, dances, Homecoming, first kisses, first dates, even crushes without a mom. It's not a feeling many people in the world have so.. nobody quite understands. I'm so afraid that one day my mom won't be there to watch me try on wedding dresses and she won...
    ImNotSamToday ImNotSamToday 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    I Don't Know What To Do

    my parents divorced right after i was born then my mother abandoned me. when i was four years old my dad died and i started living with my grandmother. i was the one to inherit my dad's things but then my mother came back saying that she will take my dad's property and take me as...
    yordi800 yordi800 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    ABANDONED

    HI IM HERE BECAUSE MY GRANDAUGHTER IS THE ONE WHO WAS ABANDONED.  SHE IS 10 YEARS OLD AND SHE HAS BEEN WITH ME AND MY HUSBAND SINCE MAY OF THIS YEAR.    HER MOTHER IS MY HUSBAND BIOLOGICAL DAUGHTER.  SHE IS FROM THE ISLAND OF JAMAICA, MY HUSBAND AND I SENT...
    LADYENYCE LADYENYCE 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    My mom does drugs and abandoned me for 3 days at her friends house and forgot where I was when I was younger.
    sillygirl008 sillygirl008 16-17, F Apr 8

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    Once I moved away with my mother that's when it happened. Even when I stay with him during the summer he hangs out with his friends more then me. He always breaks promises . He has...
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    My dad left when I was too young to remember. I grew up wondering about him, and asking for answers that no one could adequately provide for me. I always heard "he doesn't care...
    allagainforyou allagainforyou 18-21, F Apr 4

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    I just really wish there was people that understood, and wanted to talk about it
    Jacks1998 Jacks1998 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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