I Was Abused By My Boyfriend

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    My boyfriend has been jealous

    and controlling since day one. He tells me who I can hang out with and when, made me delete social profiles, tells me what I can't wear, calls me names when we fight. He wasn't ever physically abusive until two months after our one year anniversary. We were arguing while I was...
    marinadelmonroe marinadelmonroe
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Dec 3, 2014

    I Wasn'T Like That

    my boyfriend at the time was Tyler he was the only friend i had because i ditch them all for this other guy that left me, and Tyler remained my friend. One day in the hall at school i went to the bathroom and he grab me and pinned me against the wall, i asked him what he was...
    kim3286 kim3286
    1 Response Jun 27, 2013

    The Childhood Sweetheart Becomes The Childhood Nightmare

    When I was nine I went to my first church. I developed a crush on a tall handsome little boy lateef. Lateef liked me back and we started dating. But one day I saw him hitting his sister and I got scared.she didn't seem to care because it was normal for her. And I figured just...
    Beautifullbabey12 Beautifullbabey12
    1 Response Jul 17, 2012

    My Boyfriend And Dad Hit Me. Did I Cause This? Am I The Bad Person?

    Prolog: I grew up in an abusive environment. I never fit in with my family and witnessed and victim to my Dad and myself being called names, such as Fatty for me and Ugly for my Dad. My mother is a looks and money obsessed moron who constantly excluded me form everything and...
    Hermosa3907 Hermosa3907
    3 Responses Dec 30, 2010

    Hi I need a place to write

    and be anonymous hope this is a good place. I am together with my boyfriend who I really really love. He is my first boyfriend ever. But sometimes he is so mean that I cry the whole night alone in my room. I don't know why he is together with me because he is fit and sexy and I...
    inloveandscared inloveandscared
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    My ex abused me physically,

    mentally, and sexually. He would grab my arms so hard he left bruises, and there was one day I remember he tried to crush my head into the seat of his truck. And he molested me on a daily basis with increasing escalation...he all but raped me...and he had these awful mind games...
    kaikins kaikins
    Aug 19, 2014

    Highly Abusive Boyfriend. Has Anyone Experience This? I Feel Alone.

    At 17 years old. I just wanted to be loved and for a guy to want me. I met my now ex boyfriend at a 16 and up club . We got eachothers phone numbers. We lived about an hour and half apart. The next weekend , he went out and took me on a date. Things seemed perfect. And he asked...
    Londok Londok
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2013

    Lesson Learned

    It so crazy how i can just be laying down and all these flash backs come back , i could literally remember every time he hit me . like the one incident where he saw a name in my phone who he didnt recognize . he started out asking me questions i had so much fear inside i couldnt...
    punk19 punk19
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2011

    I have not been abused by an adult.

    But my classmates. I have a little sex and not very muscular boy. Communal showers or have to naked all is sport. Me were worth alot of derogatory thoughts. Reflections came after "some obligation" I had their faires. I refused to start it! But four on me and beat me. I have...
    Charlotte666 Charlotte666
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jan 23, 2014

    To Those Who Have Shared Their Story...

    To all of those who have had the grace to share their stories in this topic: Whoever was cruel enough to harm you isn't worth your time. If you've already managed to put a stop to it and start/have moved on, then that just shows how amazing you are! To those who are still...
    zipper42 zipper42
    7 Responses Jul 15, 2010

    My bf I just think he needs help he seems to

    like to pull my hair hard hit me eveything He screams an yells at me an it's getting worse and it started recently for no reason and I keep having to buy makeup I need a new life now I hate covering up the bruises etc
    Anabuddy321 Anabuddy321
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 17, 2014

    What Should I Do?

    I was abused by my boyfriend. First our relationship was cool. He was everything a girl could ever want in a guy, cute, funny, creative and then the jealous side of him just took over. The first time he hit me was when we were at a friends party and he wanted me to go home...
    Tatiana1 Tatiana1
    4 Responses Aug 27, 2010

    There Is Life After Abuse...

    I was abused at 19 by my boyfriend at the time. We had been friends since i was 14, meeting through a teenage Christian group in town. He had always seemed like such a sap, falling head over heels with the several girlfriends i saw him with. He always seemed like he was getting...
    zipper42 zipper42
    6 Responses Jul 7, 2010

    Following Me

    I met  him though my brother he was his bestfriend i thought  he was amazing at first. until about 3 months into it and than he put a show on infront of everyone else when we were home he made me have sex to him in many ways if i didnt he would tie me down and stuff...
    Jessbabygirl1988 Jessbabygirl1988
    1 Response Apr 29, 2010

    He Was Too Good To Be True..

    so i met a guy outside of the mall that was smoking named Greg, we exchanged numbers and we started to talk and hang out a lot. after a couple of months i started to like him and he liked me. one day we were at his house talking, and all of a sudden he grabbed me...
    nikkix87 nikkix87
    13-15, F
    1 Response Dec 5, 2009

    Why This Keep Happening

    just last night i had a nervous break down like it was so strange cause i was watching the tv show Mob wives. and like this feeling came across me i got down on my knees and started to have all these flashbacks in myy head of all the time i was abused . i literatlly cried for and...
    punk19 punk19
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 3, 2012

    I Was Mentally, Verbally, And Physically Abused By My Boyfriend

    He basically wanted me all to himself.. Even when i wouldnt do something wrong he'd hit me. It would be anywhere from saying something he didn't like, or dressed a way he didn't like. he'd keep telling me he loves me so i'd go back. He beat me 6 times. the verbal abuse never...
    ann4444 ann4444
    22-25, F
    7 Responses May 17, 2012


    When I was visiting colleges with my friends, it was common for us to stay a couple days and go out and see what the night life was like on campus. One of the colleges we went to was in Illinois. We went out to one of the local bars. I am not good with large crowds of people so...
    jkhad jkhad
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 23, 2013

    Dont Say No.

    I was young. I admit, maybe i shouldnt have rushed in, think 'this is love' He was the boy everyone wanted. Tyler his name was, such a hot lad, cute, bubbly, made me smile, and loved me for who i was. This was my first, and what i thought would have been my only relationship. I...
    R003 R003
    Oct 2, 2012

    I Still Don't Know What To Think....

    The relationship I had with my abusive boyfriend was very different, I think from others. He hit me, but we got into mutual fights with eachother. I was brought up to defend myself so anytime I was hit, I would def try to hit back, or at least defend myself from the beating that...
    nativemel nativemel
    1 Response Jul 10, 2010

    The One Person You'd Least Expect To Be An Abuser

    Background: Statistics show that most women who are abused are usually a racial minority and have a low income. Just to let you all know not all women are like that. I am from a middle class family, I am white and native american (although I look as white as snow), and the town I...
    lilchemistrygirl lilchemistrygirl
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 21, 2012


    When I was 14, I fell madly in love with this boy. The problem was that he was 17, so of course my parents were against it! They told me that I should not be involved with him and would do everything in their power to keep me away from him. But he was so nice, how could they not...
    AlixxLove AlixxLove
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

    Beating The Devil...my Mindset When I Was In An Abusive Relationship.

    Yes, he has chosen his victim well. She was weak in flesh and mind. He tells, and she obeys. He withholds, and she wonders and asks. He tells her she is insecure, and she thinks it must be true, because why then would she always feel this way, this empty, this lonely, this...
    Hermosa3907 Hermosa3907
    4 Responses Dec 30, 2010

    I'm no longer with him.

    For the last few weeks, I have been doing well. But the last few days it has started hitting me gain in waves, and I cry in my bed at night. I wish the pain would go away. I wish it had never happened to me.
    LiveKindly LiveKindly
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 8, 2015

    I've been through hell

    and back with this guy he's been in my life for almost 8 years now. He's done it all; cheat, mental abuse, physical abuse and lies after lies. I really want to end this cycle. I feel alone. Stuff like this always pulls me back.
    Ireallycantsay Ireallycantsay
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 28, 2014

    I guess I just make posts on here bc I don't

    have anyone to really talk to. it's been a year since we broke up, but I'm still struggling with feeling okay about myself again. No matter how hard I try, I get reminded of what happened either by seeing him on campus, physical pain, or the constant questions bc of one of the...
    KayandtheCelloCats KayandtheCelloCats
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 12

    I am no longer with my abuser,

    but I feel like he is still controlling and hurting me. I can't stop thinking about him. He left me after stonewalling me. The day before he started stonewalling me he said he loved me and cared for me. And now he is just gone. And I miss him regardless of all of the abuse. I...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2014

    It will now be almost a month

    since I left my abuser. But the pain, however, is still affecting my life. Right after I left him I was feeling numb--I couldn't experience the grief and pain I was in. But since the last few days it has been hitting me in waves. I get flashbacks and nightmares and I well up in...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 5, 2014

    At first everything was great.

    He was exactly what I was looking for. He completely swept me off my feet. Everything was perfect until one day we went to his friends wedding. He got drunk and punched me in the face. My mouth was swollen and I could taste blood. He left me in a parking lot that night...
    uhohello uhohello
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 30, 2015
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