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I Was Abused By My Boyfriend

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 101 People

    The One Person You'd Least Expect To Be An Abuser

    Background: Statistics show that most women who are abused are usually a racial minority and have a low income. Just to let you all know not all women are like that. I am from a middle class family, I am white and native american (although I look as white as snow), and the town I...
    lilchemistrygirl lilchemistrygirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 21, 2012

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    My bf I just think he needs help he seems to

    like to pull my hair hard hit me eveything He screams an yells at me an it's getting worse and it started recently for no reason and I keep having to buy makeup I need a new life now I hate covering up the bruises etc
    Anabuddy321 Anabuddy321 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    My Boyfriend And Dad Hit Me. Did I Cause This? Am I The Bad Person?

    Prolog: I grew up in an abusive environment. I never fit in with my family and witnessed and victim to my Dad and myself being called names, such as Fatty for me and Ugly for my Dad. My mother is a looks and money obsessed moron who constantly excluded me form everything and...
    Hermosa3907 Hermosa3907 18-21 3 Responses Dec 30, 2010

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    To Those Who Have Shared Their Story...

    To all of those who have had the grace to share their stories in this topic: Whoever was cruel enough to harm you isn't worth your time. If you've already managed to put a stop to it and start/have moved on, then that just shows how amazing you are! To those who are still...
    zipper42 zipper42 26-30 6 Responses Jul 15, 2010

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    What Should I Do?

    I was abused by my boyfriend. First our relationship was cool. He was everything a girl could ever want in a guy, cute, funny, creative and then the jealous side of him just took over. The first time he hit me was when we were at a friends party and he wanted me to go home...
    Tatiana1 Tatiana1 18-21 4 Responses Aug 27, 2010

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    Beating The Devil...my Mindset When I Was In An Abusive Relationship.

    Yes, he has chosen his victim well. She was weak in flesh and mind. He tells, and she obeys. He withholds, and she wonders and asks. He tells her she is insecure, and she thinks it must be true, because why then would she always feel this way, this empty, this lonely, this...
    Hermosa3907 Hermosa3907 18-21 3 Responses Dec 30, 2010

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    The Childhood Sweetheart Becomes The Childhood Nightmare

    When I was nine I went to my first church. I developed a crush on a tall handsome little boy lateef. Lateef liked me back and we started dating. But one day I saw him hitting his sister and I got scared.she didn't seem to care because it was normal for her. And I figured just...
    Beautifullbabey12 Beautifullbabey12 16-17 1 Response Jul 17, 2012

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    I Wasn'T Like That

    my boyfriend at the time was Tyler he was the only friend i had because i ditch them all for this other guy that left me, and Tyler remained my friend. One day in the hall at school i went to the bathroom and he grab me and pinned me against the wall, i asked him what he was...
    kim3286 kim3286 16-17 1 Response Jun 27, 2013

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    Lesson Learned

    It so crazy how i can just be laying down and all these flash backs come back , i could literally remember every time he hit me . like the one incident where he saw a name in my phone who he didnt recognize . he started out asking me questions i had so much fear inside i couldnt...
    punk19 punk19 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2011

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    I Still Don't Know What To Think....

    The relationship I had with my abusive boyfriend was very different, I think from others. He hit me, but we got into mutual fights with eachother. I was brought up to defend myself so anytime I was hit, I would def try to hit back, or at least defend myself from the beating that...
    nativemel nativemel 22-25 1 Response Jul 10, 2010

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    He Was Too Good To Be True..

    so i met a guy outside of the mall that was smoking named Greg, we exchanged numbers and we started to talk and hang out a lot. after a couple of months i started to like him and he liked me. one day we were at his house talking, and all of a sudden he grabbed me...
    nikkix87 nikkix87 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2009

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    Dont Say No.

    I was young. I admit, maybe i shouldnt have rushed in, think 'this is love' He was the boy everyone wanted. Tyler his name was, such a hot lad, cute, bubbly, made me smile, and loved me for who i was. This was my first, and what i thought would have been my only relationship. I...
    R003 R003 16-17 Oct 2, 2012

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    I Was Mentally, Verbally, And Physically Abused By My Boyfriend

    He basically wanted me all to himself.. Even when i wouldnt do something wrong he'd hit me. It would be anywhere from saying something he didn't like, or dressed a way he didn't like. he'd keep telling me he loves me so i'd go back. He beat me 6 times. the verbal abuse never...
    ann4444 ann4444 22-25, F 4 Responses May 17, 2012

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    I am no longer with my abuser,

    but I feel like he is still controlling and hurting me. I can't stop thinking about him. He left me after stonewalling me. The day before he started stonewalling me he said he loved me and cared for me. And now he is just gone. And I miss him regardless of all of the abuse. I...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    Why This Keep Happening

    just last night i had a nervous break down like it was so strange cause i was watching the tv show Mob wives. and like this feeling came across me i got down on my knees and started to have all these flashbacks in myy head of all the time i was abused . i literatlly cried for and...
    punk19 punk19 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2012

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    Following Me

    I met  him though my brother he was his bestfriend i thought  he was amazing at first. until about 3 months into it and than he put a show on infront of everyone else when we were home he made me have sex to him in many ways if i didnt he would tie me down and stuff...
    Jessbabygirl1988 Jessbabygirl1988 18-21 1 Response Apr 29, 2010

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    My ex abused me physically,

    mentally, and sexually. He would grab my arms so hard he left bruises, and there was one day I remember he tried to crush my head into the seat of his truck. And he molested me on a daily basis with increasing escalation...he all but raped me...and he had these awful mind games...
    kaikins kaikins 18-21 Aug 19

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    Intervention

    When I was visiting colleges with my friends, it was common for us to stay a couple days and go out and see what the night life was like on campus. One of the colleges we went to was in Illinois. We went out to one of the local bars. I am not good with large crowds of people so...
    jkhad jkhad 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 23, 2013

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    I've been through hell

    and back with this guy he's been in my life for almost 8 years now. He's done it all; cheat, mental abuse, physical abuse and lies after lies. I really want to end this cycle. I feel alone. Stuff like this always pulls me back.
    Ireallycantsay Ireallycantsay 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    There Is Life After Abuse...

    I was abused at 19 by my boyfriend at the time. We had been friends since i was 14, meeting through a teenage Christian group in town. He had always seemed like such a sap, falling head over heels with the several girlfriends i saw him with. He always seemed like he was getting...
    zipper42 zipper42 26-30 6 Responses Jul 7, 2010

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    Flashbacks

    When I was 14, I fell madly in love with this boy. The problem was that he was 17, so of course my parents were against it! They told me that I should not be involved with him and would do everything in their power to keep me away from him. But he was so nice, how could they not...
    AlixxLove AlixxLove 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    I have not been abused by an adult.

    But my classmates. I have a little sex and not very muscular boy. Communal showers or have to naked all is sport. Me were worth alot of derogatory thoughts. Reflections came after "some obligation" I had their faires. I refused to start it! But four on me and beat me. I have...
    Charlotte666 Charlotte666 56-60, M 1 Response Jan 23

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    Highly Abusive Boyfriend. Has Anyone Experience This? I Feel Alone.

    At 17 years old. I just wanted to be loved and for a guy to want me. I met my now ex boyfriend at a 16 and up club . We got eachothers phone numbers. We lived about an hour and half apart. The next weekend , he went out and took me on a date. Things seemed perfect. And he asked...
    Londok Londok 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2013

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    I was sexually and physically abused by my dad from as far as I can remember until I was 12. Then I was physically and mentally abused by my step father until I was 17. My mom...
    sada9999 sada9999 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 13

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    My mother abused me all my life...verbally , mentally and physically. The abuse was there since I can remember. She constantly beat me and called me names , told me I was stupid...
    ToTiJeZivot ToTiJeZivot 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 16

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    My earliest memory was when I was three. My father locked me in a closet because he was drunk. I was scared and in there for a long time. Still to this day I don't know how long I...
    StormianaGraymane14 StormianaGraymane14 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 1

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    I don't understand how an abuser does not feel any shame or guilt that compels him to do the right thing. The day before he left me, after I was emotionally beaten down and at my...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F Nov 15

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    When my husband found out he told me he wouldn't have married me if he had known I was "defective."
    musicchick30 musicchick30 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 10

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    As of Monday night I am no longer with my abuser. Even though I don't have to experience the continued abuse, I feel incredibly empty and depressed. I feel like I should be happy...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    14 years ! Took me three years and more than 20K to divorce him , but it was the best thing I ever did .
    ToTiJeZivot ToTiJeZivot 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 17

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    I was and still am :L someday everything will be ok <3
    xkittyxxx xkittyxxx 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 19

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    Although the abuse ended nearly four years ago and I haven't seen him since, I still have emotional and physical scars. I'm still afraid of men. I don't even want a relationship, I...
    sheghost sheghost 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 9

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    My boyfriend has always been lovely but controlling, he was abused as a child and went to therapy for ages. He always blames me for things, makes me feel so bad. I'm so depressed...
    Swhite415 Swhite415 22-25 Nov 16

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    I am a fairly introverted, creative, intelligent, independent, and empathetic young woman. I take pride on being all of those things. I love art and music, and express myself...
    zsigginz zsigginz 18-21, F Oct 29

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    It started my senior year of high school. We were just friends at the time and he had a girlfriend. Around April my prom date and I got in to a huge fight and so I asked .. lets...
    thinkingoutloudx thinkingoutloudx 18-21, F Oct 28

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    I was adopted when I was about 2 years old. I was born in Bolivia, and my adoptive parents are from the United States. I don't look like them, but I also don't know anything about...
    MarissaRose26 MarissaRose26 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 2

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    15th post. My panic attack yesterday left me emotionally and physically drained. The way I'm feeling today, there is no way in the world I am going to beat this fight. I would much...
    rana3434 rana3434 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    hehe Im 18 still waiting for ny first kiss :p I've have never ever had a boyfriend. Im not really attractive so I don't blame them. Sometimes I really feel lonely and embarrassed...
    JN96 JN96 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I have read a lot of articles and blogs online about women who are in love with their abusers, but its often chocked up to Stockholm Syndrome. Meaning, their boyfriends and...
    elleboogie elleboogie 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm twenty two years old & I'm gonna write a story of my life hopefully to help others and let them know that if anyone's been through sexual abuse that your not alone. It is a...
    caitlinbrooke81 caitlinbrooke81 18-21 Nov 11

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    I was sexually abuse by my cousins from the age if 7 to 9. He use to touch me and make me touch him. I never thought it affected me or meant anything because I blocked it out for...
    jenjen94 jenjen94 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    Finally broke up with my boyfriend got him out. Of course I handed him$ right before the breakup but my bad. I'll take the loss much better than getting abused verbally!! I never...
    justina12 justina12 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 1

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    I am in so much pain. My boyfriend has abused me for so many years, and every week for the last year and a half. I feel broken. My health is in the gutter and I lost my job because...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 6

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    Sorry for the long story! Im 17 and my sister is almost 25. When she moved to Australia for her job, She met this guy over online dating who is 32. They started dating and at...
    tessagj14 tessagj14 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 8

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    It is an awful thing to see on the outside a child that has been abused. The problem is that there are so many varying degrees of abuse and dysfunctional families especially from...
    teekitten teekitten 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 19

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    I love rough sex, and being dominated and abused and thrown around.
    herbalhippe herbalhippe 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 15

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    When i was eleven years old i was sexualy abused by some guys from my classs in my classroom. I don't know how many times happen, or who did it. I was so stupid and thought that...
    ReynaSPQR ReynaSPQR 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 6

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    Men don't get abused. Women get abused. Women get hit by mans all the time over some pity bull. Unless your a teenager boy then maybe but men don't get hit on. The only hit they...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 7

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