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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 81 People

    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2014

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    I was sexually abused by my aunt and uncle while I lived with them from the age of 14 until I was 18. It then continued with my mum, but in a differant way.Sometimes I wonder if...
    TheFoxhound8421 TheFoxhound8421 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 28

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    I spent 5 years in a relationship with someone who never really loved me. What do I know maybe he did but in his own sick kind of way. I spent 5 years lying to myself and thinking...
    Solitude112 Solitude112 18-21, F Mar 12

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    It was for a long time, until I moved out and even now when I visit I get smacked around. That's why I almost never visit my family.
    Insanity404 Insanity404 18-21, F Mar 16

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    My Husband was the last man I said I love you to besides my dad but that is not the same kind of love.I tell him every day That I love him when I go outside and look up at the sky...
    HazelWolf HazelWolf 36-40, F Mar 6

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    Ep won't let me post this read my other story details below.
    iwantgirlwedgieslaves16 iwantgirlwedgieslaves16 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    Age of offense: 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, and 9 Age I spoke up: 14 Current age: 15 Number of therapists: 4 going on 5 Number who listened so far: 0 Friends I told: 7 Friends I lost: 5 2...
    Sarabell00 Sarabell00 13-15, F Mar 15

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    This morning, I told my mother I want to sleep in and wouldn't be able to have breakfast with her and my father. And she slapped me across the face. Did I deserve it ? Because...
    Dove06 Dove06 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I was abused by my father countless of times already. Just lateky, he abused me again. Just because I forgot to get uniform outside, I left it there overnight. I did not even know...
    IAmStrongerNow IAmStrongerNow 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    I’ve come to terms with my inability to form relationships, this stems from multiple factors in my life including abuse, unavailable/narcissistic parents, and giftedness. I now...
    Deadinsideguy Deadinsideguy 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    I was abused from the age of 14 by my Aunt and Uncle who I lived with. It continued until I was 18. I still stay in touch with them and it's even talked about, sometimes I think it...
    TheFoxhound8421 TheFoxhound8421 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 28

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    Every three years there has been a family tradition of going on a family vacation trip in my husbands family, this was supposed to be the eleventh such trip since my husbands...
    isis55 isis55 51-55, F 4 days ago

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    Sometimes I wish I would have died when he first raped me. It's too much some days it is really too much and I don't know when I am going to crack. Why grown men and women abuse...
    innocentsoul innocentsoul 18-21 1 Response Mar 15

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    i recently started seeing a therapist to deal with some things from my childhood. i worked so hard to be a functioning person that i have repressed and suppressed many of my...
    paris348 paris348 22-25, F 4 hrs ago

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    My son was home sick yesterday and my husband got pissed had his parents friends say something t me about it what jerks stay out of my life kids get sick I hate living in the same...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I have been working with two partners for several years on the development of a scientific product. We sometimes commiserate that our significant others do not understand how...
    ginger1979 ginger1979 41-45, F Mar 3

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    This is sad!!!!! There are only 4people in this group????WOW!!! I will never cheat on someone who is loyal to me. My husband is loyal, and so am I. I have cheated once before not...
    lemonadestreet lemonadestreet 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    When I live with my mom and it was me and her it was fine when she meet her husband I would get beat or no food for days I used to run away cuz my mom never wanted me there she...
    brezzyb brezzyb 22-25, M 20 hrs ago

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    I found out at age 29 that this man who molested, belittled, sexually abused, emotional abused, and who still lives in my deceased mother's home wasn't my real father....my mother...
    sbelle211 sbelle211 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    I was sexually abused when I was 10 by my 14 year old cousin. He did it for several months. And threatened me if I told anyone. His mother would watch me in the mornings during...
    nicoledn nicoledn 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's taken me a few years to understand what exactly was happening but when I finally did because of this cop that came to talk to my class about all sorts of stuff, sexual abuse...
    disparateyouth disparateyouth 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    My step dad used to try and 'toughen me up' when he realised I just wasn't like that he started mentally abusing me, he would say I was a girl for not liking fighting and would...
    LeighUK LeighUK 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 1

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    I was sexually abused by my uncle at the age of 5 till 11.... Im 17 now and i finally went to the police it was the best decision i ever made, please if this has happend to you i...
    helpmeplease1973 helpmeplease1973 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    Oh boo hoo I was molested anal made to dress in little girls clothing all this people wringing about being abused should get over themselves i was 10 and I was forced to wear...
    subsissy1989 subsissy1989 26-30, M 5 Responses Mar 6

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    The more I think about it the more disgusted I am. My dad sexually abused me for years and I didn't know it. I've told one other person my entire life. If your reading this your...
    XsOfTheSoul XsOfTheSoul 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 12

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    I didn't finish school..i remember growing up with my mother nagging my father about money..she always beat us if she ran out of money..she would tell us to work for ourselves at...
    lezia88 lezia88 26-30, F Mar 9

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    Sometimes it's hard to get my bestie to understand where I'm coming from, because she's never really had to deal with being sexually harassed and (thank goodness) she's never been...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    A message to my Ex I hate you, I love you You broke me You killed me You ruined my life You hurt me in so many different ways You abused me for 1 full year You drained what ever...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I lost my husband my love my soul to cancer November 2014 Tribute to my dear husband. Today marks fore month since the death of my dear husband . It was on this same day that I...