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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 81 People

    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2014

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    I visited my mother today. I had a great time, but for some reason, as I was walking home I started to think my ex-stepfather. He tried to sexually abuse me when I was 15 years old...
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    This morning, I told my mother I want to sleep in and wouldn't be able to have breakfast with her and my father. And she slapped me across the face. Did I deserve it ? Because...
    Dove06 Dove06 18-21, F Mar 21

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    Every three years there has been a family tradition of going on a family vacation trip in my husbands family, this was supposed to be the eleventh such trip since my husbands...
    isis55 isis55 51-55, F Mar 22

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    I recently read a story which bought back some memories I thought I had forgotten... When my mum was being physically abused and my step dad made me dress as a girl, he told me to...
    LeighUK LeighUK 41-45, M 8 hrs ago

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    I had been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's a head coach for a traveling softball team & one of his assistant coaches (who has a daughter on the team) is female. Apparently they...
    jahill1721 jahill1721 18-21, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    My husband just recently told me that when he married me he didn't get what he wanted. I suspected this even before we got married and I told him about it but he would deny it and...
    Truthbtold1 Truthbtold1 41-45 9 hrs ago

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    I lost my Husband just over 2 years ago. He passed away in his Sleep. No signs just one morning work up cold and he was dead next to me. people say it was a good way for him he did...
    xlovingxxxangelx xlovingxxxangelx 41-45, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    The best revenge I've done is taking good care of myself. I grow my hair long. I reinvent myself. I change my wardrobe to a more trendy and happy no longer the typical wife and...
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09 46-50, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I'm at this junction. We have been married 10 years, we have 3 beautiful boys, and my husband will always pick the xbox over us. I guess I knew it from the beginning. The day we...
    valwand3 valwand3 26-30, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I know exactly where I was on 9/11/01. I was in labor and had twins that day in a local hospital. I called my family physician early that morning after my water broke. He...
    computerfemale computerfemale 41-45, F 4 hrs ago

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    Yes I do think my husband is sexy 😍 especially when he does this face
    JeepGirl4 JeepGirl4 18-21, F 14 hrs ago

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    went out of town for 3 days, (husband wont go with you because he doesn't like the town) dishes still in sink from before I left (I had to leave straight from work) nothing done...
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1 41-45, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I read someone's experience on this site that was scapegoated as a child. I come from a large family of six and in it there were two golden children and two scapegoats. My father...
    RhondaGail RhondaGail 61-65, F Apr 8

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    When I live with my mom and it was me and her it was fine when she meet her husband I would get beat or no food for days I used to run away cuz my mom never wanted me there she...
    brezzyb brezzyb 22-25, M Mar 25

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    I was not just emotionally abused by my mother. I was physically and emotionally abused. My mother would scream and yell at me when I cried. She would tell me to stop crying, OR...
    SupressedOne SupressedOne 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I found out at age 29 that this man who molested, belittled, sexually abused, emotional abused, and who still lives in my deceased mother's home wasn't my real father....my mother...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 22

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    Thinking about death and life every night. side by side life and death. My insomnia is really horrible. I stop taking meds at this moment,and i've been taking counseling. sorry i...
    Juri0902 Juri0902 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    It's taken me a few years to understand what exactly was happening but when I finally did because of this cop that came to talk to my class about all sorts of stuff, sexual abuse...
    disparateyouth disparateyouth 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 24

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    I've been sexually abused by my father since I was a little girl, around 9. Whenever my mom travelled for work, which was often, he would come to me and touch me, kiss me, force me...
    Kay06 Kay06 18-21, T 3 Responses Apr 1

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    From the age of 6 to 11 I was sexually abused by a family friend's son who was only 3 years older than me. I told a counselor about this who told my mom who was furious at me for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 3 days ago

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    A message to my Ex I hate you, I love you You broke me You killed me You ruined my life You hurt me in so many different ways You abused me for 1 full year You drained what ever...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Give Me Back My Children!-In November 1999 I arrived back in the United States after 10 years abroad first in the Army then married. I was back for my father's funeral but I didn't...
    Cherokeebelle Cherokeebelle 41-45, F Apr 11

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    Feel Pain For All Abused Children
    pullups22 pullups22 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    Well, let me introduce myself. I am a thirty-something year old wife and mother. Roughly 3 years ago, I discovered that my husband of over 10 years was and had been in an actual...
    Aworkingprogression Aworkingprogression 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    My husband and I have not had sex for the last 5 years. We have been married for 10 years now. Initially I used to make an effort. Now I am just disinterested. Yes, it does get...
    tycoonbabe tycoonbabe 36-40, F Mar 23

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    I have been married to my husband for a year 1 1/2. we have known each other for 3 years...he is the love of my life and a great man he would give the shirt off his back to anyone...
    alwayslove8387 alwayslove8387 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    So yesterday we were talking about movies and their sequels. My husband: So the fast and the furious sequels just keep getting better. Me: that's such a typical guy film, it...
    Emojinoid Emojinoid 31-35, F Apr 2