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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 80 People

    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2014

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    I'm no longer with him. For the last few weeks, I have been doing well. But the last few days it has started hitting me gain in waves, and I cry in my bed at night. I wish the pain...
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    I know those white scars anywhere. the ones that cake your back. I know that reaction anywhere, that one when aomeone moves their arms fast near you. The way you cringe even if...
    everyboby everyboby 18-21 Jan 11

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    I'm 18 years old and I was abused by my brother, starting when I was young (I'm not sure how old, maybe 9, 10 or 11ish) and ending when I was 16, when he committed suicide. I got...
    ThatBitch18 ThatBitch18 18-21, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Has anyone else that was abused ever ****** during the abuse/molestation? private message me
    hardluckguy73 hardluckguy73 36-40, M Jan 17

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    i was abused i was in foster care i was not able to trust people to keep my self calm i cut it was hard for me to try to live
    jazzyjaniah jazzyjaniah 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I have been with my husband for 5 years and we have been together a total of 13 years. I have been physically, emotionally, and verbally abused for the greater part of the...
    heartbroken3084 heartbroken3084 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 9

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    74th post..Well you might have noticed I haven't been posting here in a while. I'm still around. The 20th passed and I'm still alive. Had a bad week struggling all week with the...
    rana3434 rana3434 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Another horrible day. I sin to deal with my mother. Because The Lord doesn't come for me. She hurt me so bad. I wanted to commit suicide so badly today if I could. Why oh WHY is...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    My husband is Egypian Muslim. He is critical of everything I do. He picks on me for the littlest things. For instance, my skirt/dress is too short, my shirt too low, etc. I...
    Anaheimkaren Anaheimkaren 46-50 1 Response Dec 26, 2014

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    I was sexually abused twice by my dad when I was 13 . I was forced to report it . My case went cold because there was no evidence . I then found out my dads whole side of the...
    madisonbliss madisonbliss 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 10

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    I've just posted on here and this is my second experience. When I joined a new school in year 9 I met this guy I thought was amazing. By September (year 10) we were really close...
    Frankiehw Frankiehw 13-15, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    When I was 15 my dad took us shopping with my younger sister who was 12 at that time. He bought was clothes. However , a month later when I got home from school he told me that...
    cunning78 cunning78 22-25, F Jan 16

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    My uncle used to hit my with a belt and when ever i started to cry he would hit me harder one day he hit me so hard i started to bleed and i was 5 that day and it was my birthday...
    Rockinawaski Rockinawaski 13-15, F Jan 12

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    Today I told my sister why I am not close to my brother any more and how he sexually abused me
    painfullyloving painfullyloving 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    My mom verbally, emotionally, mentally abused me my whole life. I hate her for all that she's put me through.
    Tianaluvsyou Tianaluvsyou 16-17, F 6 Responses Jan 17

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    I think my husband hates me.....My childhood was REALLY bad. My current husband also had a childhood similar to mine but was not as lucky as me and his life took a different path...
    Lsngthsbttle Lsngthsbttle 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I feel pain for when the sweetest most affectionate giving things on this planet are getting abused. I'm against animal cruelty. It's makes me wanna hurt people that do that.
    peaceintruelove peaceintruelove 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    Hi everyone, I do hope my post gets read and hopefully helps somebody along the line.i will never forget the help SOLVER KING render to me in my marital life. i have been married...
    sharon1234524 sharon1234524 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I don't know if this is the right group to post in but I do miss my husband very much. This is the first time I am posting about this so this is a difficult and scary post for me...
    Gaffa1234 Gaffa1234 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I do believe that women should obey their husbands and I think that a great deal of problems in today's world can be contributed to the fact that this practice is no longer...
    KittyInDisguise KittyInDisguise 31-35, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    My husband I have been together since highschool and we knew we wanted to be together forever. After 3 years of marriage we decided we wanted to try new things on the bedroom and...
    nikkigabber22 nikkigabber22 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    I've been married for 5 years , but been with him since i was 16. we've been happy all these years ,i would let him go out with friends i trusted him he wouldn't do nothing dumb...
    armani88 armani88 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    I met him when I was 19. We got married when I was 20. We've been married a little over a year and already I can see my husband loving me less and less. I was born and raised in...
    marriedyoungandconfused marriedyoungandconfused 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    My husband is like a baby I may as well call him one of my children. We have three children, a 6, 5 and 3 year old. It's a miracle we are still together close to 9 years and I can...
    Ava237 Ava237 26-30 3 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I don't hate my husbands dog, he just annoys me so much. He's a lab and he is so needy. He follows me every where I go, is very jealous and always needs attention. My husband is...
    morgp14 morgp14 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2014

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    I was really sick the other day, in pain. Guess I have diverticulitis. I drove myself to the doctor, which was fine. That night it hurt really bad and I just wanted to take a...
    OnlyMySideOfTheStory OnlyMySideOfTheStory 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    I lived with my mom and her mom from birth till I was about 6. she was 16 raising me. I didn't know any different, it was the way I was raised, how I was influenced, the life I...
    summerwinterfallspring summerwinterfallspring 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    So for anyone who has never been hurt by your husband, you are lying to yourself and if you say you have never hurt them, you are also lying to yourself. No one is perfect and...
    Nannyxd Nannyxd 18-21, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been married for almost 11 years. My father in law used to live with us when he was alive. He was a good man. My husband was not allowed to drink because of his issues with...
    hopelesswoman hopelesswoman 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    So I really don't know how to talk about this, because I really never have went this deep into it due to fear. But for the past year I have been isolating myself and reliving it...
    mentallytortured mentallytortured 18-21, F 58 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    I had a severe physical health scare that meant two months at many different doctors and going through different procedures and they could not figure out why I was having this...
    catgirl192 catgirl192 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3

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