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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    I was abused by my mother... For so long while growing up while I was younger hit me for what seem for no reason! If I didn't do as she asked quickly as she wanted she'd hit or...
    shexlove shexlove 22-25, F Jul 7

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    I can't get over the things I've experienced or the fact my mom doesn't believe me till this day. She doesn't know the whole story though, no ones know. I can't come out with it...
    RebeccaReynolds RebeccaReynolds 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm mentioning the whole situation I was into in this story. Here is my story. I used to be a happy girl till the age 11, when I got to know my dad was dead. Mum said he got a...
    Astronggirl212 Astronggirl212 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    I was emotionally abused by my mother all of my life. The abuse started as i was 9 and continued till last year. As i lived with my parents in my mother country i was hurt every...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    My mother was never physically abusive, but she certainly emotionally abused and neglected us. If I would write down everything that she did, then I would have one unbelievable...
    LostMittens LostMittens 31-35, F Jul 14

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    My family has been abused too long, ever since I was young I have been targeted by my dad,there was a lot of physical but mostly mental. Things only got physical if I wouldn't...
    adamj0907 adamj0907 26-30, M 4 days ago

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    Its really sad that i still am to this day.
    dontliike dontliike 16-17 2 Responses Jun 27

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    I'm kinda depressed... (Dear dad.. I thought of you today but that is nothing new... I thought about you yesterday and days before that to...I think of you in silence..and even...
    jdunlap jdunlap 16-17, M Jul 3

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    I have so much anger and hurt right now. I'm mad at myself and mad at him. I don't understand how I could let this happen.
    lovedumb lovedumb 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I'm going to keep posting. I think it helps. I was abused by my babysitters husband. Whenever he could take over my bath time he would touch me. I remember telling him to stop...
    JMay1994 JMay1994 18-21, F Jul 7

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    I was abused by my father first when I was five. He would touch me and make me touch him. When I was six it got worse with sex. My brother walked in and saw it and my father asked...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 24

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    While I was growing up I was abused daily by my oldest brother. He would beat me repeatedly. He blacked my eye on more than one occasion. There was nothing I could do about it. My...
    nephthysbaby nephthysbaby 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    and he thought i would cry wtf? seriously the guy thinking he could call me names would make me whimper........ or the fact that he says i was abused as a child would make me...
    indigowitch indigowitch 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 25

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    Today I got this really strange phone call from a woman and all she said was HAPPY BIRTHDAY. It was my husband's birthday yesterday. I think my husband might be cheating on me with...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I was a victim of domestic abuse I was abused by my boyfriend would love to talk to some of you guys to ease the pain
    Prettybirds Prettybirds 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    I found out about an emotional affair that my husband was involved in on April 1st. He assures me that he has had no contact with her, but I am super paranoid!!! I have become...
    statham18 statham18 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    They know that I was always polite and would use it againts me they would buy things for my kids that my kids didnt like and iwould be polite and say that they like it .so I...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 10 hrs ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I'm trying to do the right thing not only for myself, but for my family, especially for my beautiful baby daughter, to whom I might never apologize enough for not choosing well her...
    mery81 mery81 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    He slept with one of my closest friends last night when I was out shopping....
    HeartBroken93 HeartBroken93 18-21, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Battered, Heartbroken, and Sick For My Babies-Married to him for 13 years while he kept me virtual prisoner in a foreign country and turned downright PSYCHO when drunk. Finally he...
    IStillGotIt IStillGotIt 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    I was born into a family on August 21, 1998. My mother had prayed for a baby and I would be the first of four that would be born. At 4:00 the doctors would announce that a baby...
    RosalinaHansan RosalinaHansan 13-15, F Jul 8

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    I was born into a family on August 21, 1998. My mother had prayed for a baby and I would be the first of four that would be born. At 4:00 the doctors would announce that a baby...
    RosalinaHansan RosalinaHansan 13-15, F Jul 8

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    I am currently 14, When I was about four I lost my mom in a vicious custody battle. I lived with my dad and did not see my mom at all. I met my grandparents a while before i lost...
    RayneZ RayneZ 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    By my stepdad...I certain it started earlier but I place my first realization of what was happening to me around age 7 or 8. It went in thru my teen years. My mother didn't...
    graygrace graygrace 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I recently separated form my husband of 14 years because of recurring issues with his sexuality as well as my infidelity
    dianaprince1965 dianaprince1965 46-50, F Jul 12

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    I am sick and tried of my husband ******* other women I just want to let go and be a tramp. Have fun and try anything once. Time to explore....
    makemedirty makemedirty 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 2

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    My body has become a symbol for who I am. I'm so small showing my deepest desire to slip away into nothingness. I have cut my arms to mar the skin as if to be a constant reminder...
    PoetGirl97 PoetGirl97 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I wasn't sexually abused. because I refuse to believe it. there's no proof, none at all. ~except the nightmares, constant, horrid nightmares of sticky disgusting broken glass...
    SystemShutdown SystemShutdown 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    I was sexually abused at around the age of 9 by my brother it was repeated till the age of 12. At the age of 14 i found this was wrong and told my pastoral manager at school who...
    RandomSomeone RandomSomeone 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I was about 6 when my older step brother who is about 7 years older than me, sexually abused me. I've tried so hard to block it out, thankfully I only have a short memory of it. It...
    nzm87 nzm87 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    I'm not sure if I was sexually abused. When I was 14, a much older man in his late 40's took an interest in me and my being naive and fatherless decided I liked the attention. He...
    danielle1423 danielle1423 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 11

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    As a child my father was on drugs, amd my mother 'took care' of my brother and I. Its a complicated situation as I was the only one physically abused. I was picked up by the hair...