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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 15 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    It's honestly the worst thing ever and I would never wish abuse upon my worst enemy. I can't take back this past year and a half and I regret it every day. It truly does suck. I...
    cak22 cak22 18-21, F Mar 31

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    I was sexually abused by my grandfather and his dog. I have looked on a lot of abuse sites but have never been able to find anyone else who was abuse by using an animal to do the...
    Veraspain Veraspain 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 10

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    My mom psychologically tortured me and my two older siblings growing up. She is an extremist Christian and has borderline personality disorder. She is not diagnosed by I am a...
    SilianRail SilianRail 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    When I was a little boy my mother took all her problems out on me. She blamed me for her "stress" and when other things were going bad she'd find something to get mad at me about...
    CharlesFosterKane CharlesFosterKane 22-25, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    When I was about 3 years old my stepfather came In to my room and sat on the bed and just looking at this want on for awhile and then he put his hand on my **** and started...
    bigcock1966 bigcock1966 46-50 2 days ago

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    My mom used to bully me, she used to hit me and call me fat. She made me do things that a child shouldn't have done.
    jimijmay jimijmay 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I've been through hell and back with this guy he's been in my life for almost 8 years now. He's done it all; cheat, mental abuse, physical abuse and lies after lies. I really want...
    Ireallycantsay Ireallycantsay 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    but looks like it's against the rules of this website to say anything about it.
    josieWhimWham josieWhimWham 41-45 2 Responses Apr 10

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    I notice when I got into husbands Email he had a number of replies on I had an affair, he was writing about me but did not give the whole story. He did not say how he left on...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F Mar 23

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    I have only told a few people during the last 24 years. The first time I told my cousin, and she told her Mom. I remember the night when my Mom received a call from her sister...
    pensacola123 pensacola123 36-40 2 Responses Mar 27

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    This is something I have a hard time admitting and even though I have talked about the abuse to people I trust, I never let them know it was him. 10 years after the last incident...
    shierahawke88 shierahawke88 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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    Meant for someone else, but not for me. Love was out to get me. That's the way it seemed. Disappointment haunted all my dreams... Then I saw his face. And now I'm a believer...
    ladypirate108 ladypirate108 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I was abused and I thank them all now because I know that no one can hurt me ever again I survived and I am stronger than anything that anyone can ever throw at me. if you were...
    trianglelakeboy trianglelakeboy 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    We were together 17 years he was my husband, my best friend,my soul mate, and the father of my children. He died suddenly with complications to a heart surgery which I had to make...
    kmcgloughlin kmcgloughlin 41-45, F Apr 3

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    My husband is amazing! He had to work to get me to go out on that first date but that's all it took! We met at work, where I currently work although he no longer works here. He...
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby 26-30, F 3 hrs ago

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    I was disvorce at 2009, and now I think I will try to find a man who want to be my husband. A man who really care about me and my daughters. I wish I can meet him.
    zemya zemya 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    My Husband shouting on my three years boy the boy become anger on me say no to me , and afraid of his father nerves most of time when my husband is around what I have to do this...
    Dinimimi Dinimimi 36-40, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F a week ago

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F a week ago

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    My abuse started when I was married to my ex-husband. He would make me call him in late for work and then he would rape me. This went on for about three years. I also remember...
    randi123456 randi123456 56-60, F Mar 31

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    Everybody who I've told what she does to me says that she is abusive, but I'm still not sure. I know that she's narcissistic because in all the articles I read about it almost all...
    jules401 jules401 13-15, F 5 Responses Mar 29

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    My mom just told me the other day that I might have been sexually abused when I was 4. I was like, "What do you mean, "might" ? " She would drop me off at daycare when she went to...
    innerself000 innerself000 18-21 1 Response Apr 7

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    i hate this dog shes a sad fat pitbull... it doesnt really even do anything that bad except follow me around so that everytime i turn i trip over her.... she just totally creeps me...
    midgesterious midgesterious 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    I've been sexually abused by my uncle and my grandfather both different days,thank god I wasnt raped, but there was a lot of fingering and as a little kid it hurt so bad,my uncle...
    Score16 Score16 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I was sexually abused by my step grandfather I mean I remember I was at least 6 years old. But who is to say he wasn't sexually abusing me since before then
    Reynastaxx Reynastaxx 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I was sexually abused by my older brother and was raped by my two cousin when I was a little girl from that day till now I wish I wasn't here in this world n I still wonder in...
    ezzyrock ezzyrock 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 30

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    my mom married 3 times. each guy treated her worse than the one before. the last one was my dad who abused her, his kids, her kids by previous marriages, and anyone else within...
    Transluminal2010 Transluminal2010 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I WAS AN ABUSED CHILD, but I was also led to be good. When I acted out in rage, my friend Jared, who was beaten so badly as a kid that he was emancipated at fifteen picked me up...
    raylynn24 raylynn24 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 9

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    Child abuse is not the way. When my Mom abused me I was very angry and sad and I don't know what was going through my messed up head but I wanted to have children just so they...
    Qwerkyqwerty Qwerkyqwerty 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    All through my childhood my mother abused me, physically, mentally and sexually. A lot of people never understand that a woman can sexually abuse a child but believe me there are...
    liberosis liberosis 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 10

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    The say sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt...I think Id rather get beaten with sticks and stones because words can pierce more than a two edged sword...
    auraboreale auraboreale 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I am actually curious and have more of a question regarding this topic. Why do people who have been sexually abused desire to be hurt in such a way again? Or why do they turn into...
    TheSimsWePlay TheSimsWePlay 22-25, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    my father mentally , physically, and emotionaly abused me as a child
    JamesB20 JamesB20 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    Emotional abuse isnt only insults and shouting at you. If they ignore you it is abuse aswell. Ive been ignored all my life from my schoolmates, work collegues and my sister...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    For The Love of Sage- All troubles in my 17 year marriage begin with a little girl called Sage. She is the mixed race child my husband fathered during his 1st year in America...
    FromBehindTheIronCurtain FromBehindTheIronCurtain 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 29

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    We met because I started working at a university in a new city and he was my supervisor. After two weeks there we slept together and I became pregnant with twins. When I told him...
    valkyriebird valkyriebird 36-40 Apr 3

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    GIVE but don't allow yourself to be used LOVE but don't allow your heart to be abused TRUST but don't be naive LISTEN to others but don't loose your own voice!!
    Sandyshaw13 Sandyshaw13 36-40, F Apr 10