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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 15 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Where do I start? My dads an alcoholic My older brother hates me My mum doesn't even talk to me I was sexually abused by my grandad from the age of 6 to 12/13. I may write more...
    tltlc tltlc 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    My ex abused me physically, mentally, and sexually. He would grab my arms so hard he left bruises, and there was one day I remember he tried to crush my head into the seat of his...
    kaikins kaikins 18-21 1 Response Aug 19

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    When I was 4 years old my parents were divorced. I remember 2 police cars driving up the road while my mother and dad were yelling at each other. My mother got custody of me and my...
    mymindhurts mymindhurts 18-21, F Sep 4

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    I loved a Guy I Was secretly seeing.I made a mistake by sleeping with his bestfriend And not telling him sooner.he saw me today.I thought he had calmed down but I Was wrong.at...
    itsalwayspink itsalwayspink 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 16

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    I was young it started when I was 7 n continued till I was 9 years old . then I moved away. I would see my mom for days on end ... I was a little girl and I had to take care of my...
    youngadult14 youngadult14 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    Jason: he said he loved me, he proposed to me, he hurt my family to the point of them hating me ,he hurt me he punched me in my stomach knowing I was carrying our baby, I lost the...
    cupidzgift cupidzgift 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    My dads an alcoholic and my mom is always paranoid, if I do somthing and they find out they'll either hit me or just call me a worthless piece of ****, tell me I'll never get...
    shaunrain shaunrain 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 29

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    I cheated on my ex husband with a childhood boyfriend who has a habit of coming in and out of my life. He was my first kiss and a few other firsts... We did it at the bottle shop...
    lilbirdydoll lilbirdydoll 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 2

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    Never talked about it more then two or three times in my life and yesterday I just said it to my best friend and I saw his reaction then I knew I never told him that I was abused...
    Dengel85 Dengel85 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 26

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    My sister (3 yrs older) sexually abused me when I was 11. She was abused by my grandfather. I get flashes of her holding me down kissing and touching me - I felt guilty, sick and...
    lulumonta lulumonta 13-15, F 8 Responses Aug 17

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    My stepfather abused me weeks after we moved in with him. I was 16. He screwed me behind my moms back for two years. He just died, I am not sad.
    caitlintells caitlintells 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I was physically mentally and emotionally abused by my ex boyfriend. I dream about him all the time. I can't stop dreaming about him. So I messaged him today. Why do I still care...
    reneelove1 reneelove1 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I found my husband when I was so broken and so NOT looking. For two years he was my best friend and listened to me and encouraged me. He helped me believe in myself and asked for...
    scnpctk143 scnpctk143 41-45, F 15 hrs ago

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    I am not feeling well, waiting to have surgery... But I get up early every morning and make my husband lunch, I make dinner, I take care of the kids, I wash his laundry... The day...
    Mistakemaker80 Mistakemaker80 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    I have a friend, who I will call Melissa (not her real name) who has more than her share of challenges in life. I have known her most of my life as we attended the same grade...
    ginger1979 ginger1979 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    After Leigh told us that her MM had passed away and how she hoped he had cleared his phone...and foreverwanting more shared that her OM's GF found pitures in his phone resulting in...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Ok to make this brief, my husbands stepsister is the person who introduced us. When I actually started going out with him she did a complete U-turn and became quiet nasty. By the...
    hopingformiracles hopingformiracles 22-25 1 Response Aug 17

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    10 year old Yemeni girl smiling after she was granted a divorce from her husband- a 30 year old man.Nujood Ali was nine when her parents arranged a marriage to Faez Ali Thamer, a...
    Bewail Bewail 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    I am physically and mentally abused by my younger brother. He punches me and says really hurtful things to me everyday. He may be younger than me but he is so much more stronger...
    Robin1226 Robin1226 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Oh my beloved future husband. Where art thou? :| I wonder what you are doing right now. Wether you have a girlfriend or not. What kind of person you are, what kind of things you...
    Angelina1992 Angelina1992 18-21, F 6 hrs ago

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    I started this profile to vent my frustration. I have had 2 profiles removed and have deleted 3 because of ignorant inbred retards . Too all the azzholes who make threaths and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 2

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    where do you start... at the beginning I guess. It all started when I was 4, I can remember trying to tell my mother about it,, She either didn't want to except it or didn't...
    wnme wnme 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    On Sexual Abuse I will go, with the reason I am composing this letter, this is I'm sending this missive, because my daughter who is 8, was sexually assaulted, By my 22 year old...
    IrmaH IrmaH 36-40 Aug 21

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    On Sexual Abuse I will go, with the reason I am composing this letter, this is I'm sending this missive, because my daughter who is 8, was sexually assaulted, By my 22 year old...
    IrmaH IrmaH 36-40 2 Responses Aug 21

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    My foster mom had me sexually abused in the hospital. By a "doctor". I was seven. I had many many hospital stays growing up, treating my chronic lung condition. I'm a victim of...
    iMinnow iMinnow 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    In more ways than one- well, the first time I was saved by God was at the same time all of you were saved, when my savior Jesus died for us. I'm sure God has saved me in many other...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Aug 29

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    When I was 14 I had been put on a work experience project by the school. I was working for two weeks in a hotel. The manager there was in his mid 20's and after the placement was...
    monstahmash monstahmash 22-25, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    This is a sensitive subj to talk about, when I was 5-6 I was sexually abused by my uncle, I still remember everything although in 16 now. I never did something about it, I still...
    myownmind2 myownmind2 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    Welp.. Here goes nothing At the time I was only in the 4th grade.. My mothers brothers and sisters only had boys.. So I was pretty much the only girl (at the time) me and my 2...
    ThebeautBird ThebeautBird 18-21, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    My brother abused me for 7 years. I just recently was able to find that courage to tell someone. Now I'm free from the physical abuse but I'm still scarred. It affects my life so...
    xaliroox xaliroox 16-17, F 6 Responses Aug 16

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    Yes I have been beaten, abused, and punched.......but you know what? I'm not going to let that affect my way of life......in fact in the end I will hug and thank them because I...
    XannaleiseX XannaleiseX 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 23

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    I was sexually abused and I feel like no one else knows how I feel x x x
    elizabethjay elizabethjay 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 31

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    I have been physically abused by my alcoholic dad ever since I was in 3rd grade. He went to jail for a couple years but is now back. It has gotten better now that I am bigger and...
    ihill032299 ihill032299 16-17, M