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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 82 People

    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2014

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    my husband doesn't believe the basic Christian faith. my parents believe everything and have really strong political beliefs. i left them at 32 to move in and marry my now husband...
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    I was whipped with a belt a lot as a kid and teenager. My dad loved me, I know, but I do think this had a lasting effect. I can be self destructive and I also tend to be...
    AnalieseP AnalieseP 41-45, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I was once sexually abused by my former gynecologist. I was very young & couldn't believe what was happening to me. I was totally frozen. I never told anyone. Plus, I didn't have...
    Bluetangerine Bluetangerine 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    I don't understand how an entire family can wage a war on the person that saved 2 kids from an abusive grandmother and father. How can anyone justify defending the abusers while...
    letters2mymother letters2mymother 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    okay so there are some sick people in this world....i joined this group to read stories of people who have been through situations like mine and maybe help someone and maybe learn...
    xxxmeredithxxx xxxmeredithxxx 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    My Biological mother abused me when i was younger. i was around 4 when it started. i remember the first time like it was yesterday. i've never been able to let the image go. i don...
    silentwhisper17 silentwhisper17 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I was sexually abused by my brother when I was 5? Then I saw and hear things a girl shouldn't have.then my mother put my hand in her breastfeeding and asked me if I liked it. Some...
    isaidenough isaidenough 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    And sexually abused. The sad thing is when I want to talk about it with someone they dismiss me so easily because I'm male. Physically abused? I should have 'manned up' and fought...
    LukasMeoww LukasMeoww 16-17, T 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I was abused from the age of 6 by our next door neighbour who was in his 70s. I don't really remember how it all started as at the time I didn't know it was wrong, I used to like...
    Facethedemons Facethedemons 22-25, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    So I recently found out that the man that sexually abused me when I was 4 was just arrested for for touching a 10 year old inappropriately I really would like to help the victims...
    Scal92 Scal92 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 27

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    I abused prescription drugs on large scale during 1995 to 2000. I tried them in very potent and weird combinations. I mostly abused benzodiazepines. Now I find that my memory has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26

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    I feel mentally abused. I got a stormed through the door and why havent you paid the bill attitude. Its my fault there is no money and I dont have enough to go around. I really...
    hcsunshine hcsunshine 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    I was abused at three and abused for ten years from 7 to 15 starting cutting at seventeen and going from hospital to hospital but been saved at 19 or 20 years old where I learned...
    Nikkilight25 Nikkilight25 22-25 1 Response Aug 26

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    My mother has never liked me. I don't know why. She was mentally, emotionally, & physically abusive. It got worse after one of her boyfriends tried to molest me. She even went so...
    Tenanye Tenanye 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 25

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    when I was born my mother couldn't except me ... I still don't know why. However my dad loved me to bits and took really good care of me while my mum couldn't even look into my...
    kstra38 kstra38 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I am writing this to shed light on domestic violence and what happened to me. At first it was only on my Facebook and was set to "Friends Only" but I am now making it public and...
    Taylor62298 Taylor62298 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I am very sexual. Does this have to do with being sexually abused so much in my life? Or is it possible I am just one of those woman who have a naturally high sex drive? I don't...
    xoxo95 xoxo95 18-21, F 11 Responses Aug 23

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    I am 25 years old. My husband is 52. I know that there are people out there who would like to frown upon the age difference of my husband and I but i dont care. I am the happiest I...
    Butterflykiss707 Butterflykiss707 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I had anorexia and had to go to a treatment center for it and about 2 weeks after I got there I was locked in a basement,starved, and got one phone call to my parents. I was only...
    LateApology LateApology 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    GOD BLESS THE DAY THE MAN THAT HELP ME GET MY EX HUSBAND BACK Hello my name is Babarah from CANADA. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6...
    babarah33 babarah33 70+, F Aug 20

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    For about four years I was anorexic and I chose to starve myself to less than 90lbs and almost die. I could wrap my hands around my thigh and they would overlap . I eventually, 8...
    LateApology LateApology 16-17, F Aug 20

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    GOD BLESS THE DAY THE MAN THAT HELP ME GET MY EX HUSBAND BACK Hello my name is Babarah from CANADA. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6...
    babarah55 babarah55 70+, F Aug 20

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    GOD BLESS THE DAY THE MAN THAT HELP ME GET MY EX HUSBAND BACK Hello my name is Babarah from CANADA. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6...
    babarah55 babarah55 70+, F Aug 20

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    I can't say was, because it's still happening since she started dating her 4th boyfriend ( now husband )... Everyday, my mom would compare me to her friends kids and tell them how...
    Soullessangel16 Soullessangel16 16-17, F Aug 19

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    GOD BLESS THE DAY THE MAN THAT HELP ME GET MY EX HUSBAND BACK Hello my name is Babarah from CANADA. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6...
    babarah22 babarah22 70+, F Aug 19

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    GOD BLESS THE DAY THE MAN THAT HELP ME GET MY EX HUSBAND BACK Hello my name is Babarah from CANADA. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6...
    babarah22 babarah22 70+, F Aug 19