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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 83 People

    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2014

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    LOST ... need help plz, I'm ashamed and I hate seeing him hurt. We have been married for 8 faithful years. I have been unhappy with him for awhile. He has had 7 knee surgerys in 3...
    shygirl1986 shygirl1986 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    When I was little my mom was a nurse. She would leave and I would get sad, she would tell me to go get in my step dad's bed so I would go back to sleep, that was okay for a while...
    42chwgca 42chwgca 16-17, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I've been married almost 2 years, have a 8 month old. My husband has come into my life and changed it for the worst. He's loving and caring 1in and the next he's emotional...
    jammiejam89 jammiejam89 26-30, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Suddenly the a-hole wakes up and decides to have a bath so he can get the pc keyboard back. He doesn't wash himself he just splashes himself in water and that's his "bath" and mum...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 46-50 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    I literally just realized that I don't love me husband anymore. We have two children and have been married 2 years but together for 10, he was 27and i was 19. Our relationship...
    idhaun idhaun 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I do indeed believe this principle...and sometimes it is so hard! We recently have had a major change in our lives....our son and his children are now living with us. Our empty...
    soulbabble soulbabble 51-55, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    There are certain expectations involved when you are married, each spouse has taken vows in front of our Lord, to love, honor and cherish, in sickness and in health, for richer or...
    aerosnz1 aerosnz1 56-60, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I can 't stand my husband I can't stand my husband etcetera....So i married a jerk .he only cares about themselves if i say anything about how i feel i get screamed at he actually...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    WASH DAY!!!! It was that time of the week again. oh i hate this day, this the day when the popular girls at school target someone less popular then them and decide to clean her up...
    sasahsworld sasahsworld 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    4 years ago i caught my husband sex texting a co-worker. it was only one night he said , it meant nothing and he didnt know why he did it apart from he was drunk. Fast forward to...
    MrsF25 MrsF25 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    My name is May. Here i want to share a little story of experience with the world on how i got my husband back when i almost lose him. Well i'm not a big talker so i'm just going to...
    may19191 may19191 31-35, F 6 days ago

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    It started when I was 9 lasted till I was 13 he was my Mom's bf he made me feel so special and grown up!
    Megansback Megansback 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    My boyfriend who has been hurt as well as I have asked me the other day what was wrong and I told him I was upset he says you know by you being upset you never forgave him you must...
    Eloradanan98 Eloradanan98 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I really need help. I think I may have been sexually abused when I was younger, but I'm not sure? It's really conflicting, because the person who did it was my mom. Nearly every...
    Samuelss17 Samuelss17 16-17 2 Responses Feb 1

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    I was abused many times over the years as a kid. The most frequent/egregious abuser was my stepfather. It made me distant myself from people. It impacted my ability to be intimate...
    GodHatesMe2010 GodHatesMe2010 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    When I was three years old my parents were killed in a car accident. And I was sent to live with my aunt and uncle. My aunt and uncle loved me very much although my aunt was very...
    meneme2013 meneme2013 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 31

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    Is another question worth asking "Is it OK to use diapers even if you are potty trained?" The feeling when I was young was that it was a black and white kind of thing - either you...
    paddyred paddyred 66-70, M 4 Responses Jan 31

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    I need to tell this to the world, hoping to find people that have the same situation as i do or give me some advice. My mother likes to call me a prostitute, a sl*t, a wh*re. She...
    tictactoe88 tictactoe88 22-25, F Jan 29

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    my name is Taylor, age 20. I have two kids with my husband of 3 years. I've wanted to leave my husband for 4 months because he has been sexually and physically abusive. if I could...
    Taylorlovesagain Taylorlovesagain 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 29

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    My husband and I have had a terribly rocky last three years together. He's cycled, going from adoring me to blaming me; he's begged me to stay and he's insisted I leave. He's...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F Jan 29

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    Well can things get any worse. Can a person feel any more broken and when you feel like it cant get any worse...it does! My husband wasn't just having an affair... It was with a...
    Mostfabdon Mostfabdon 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    I can't say I hate his family. But there's a few I truly dislike that I don't want to be around them. His mother and sister...Mostly his sister. She's nothing but a hot head and...
    simplyme12345 simplyme12345 18-21, F Jan 27

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    Well, I guess it started when we lost my mom. Part of me blamed myself even though I was younger. And my dad blamed me too. Ever since then he's lashed out at me a lot, and hurt me...
    JadeCrystalLake JadeCrystalLake 13-15, F Jan 27

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    I was abused as a child. I've never talked about it. this is the most I've ever talked about it now but I've been holding it in for 15 years. I've been able to usually keep a hold...
    LittleBird131 LittleBird131 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 27

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    My parents believed this: Spare the rod, spoil the child. I was beaten with wooden boards, belts and switches. To them it was discipline, to me It made me scared and angrier.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 24

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    But sometimes I wonder if it was abuse at all. I wonder if I'd be way less ****** up if labels like that didn't tell me to be victimized. I was so young I didn't think of myself as...
    apresm0i apresm0i 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 24

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    I have been abused as a child...
    NikkiButlerGreen NikkiButlerGreen 26-30, T