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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    KnightingaleAM KnightingaleAM 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    My ex abused me physically, mentally, and sexually. He would grab my arms so hard he left bruises, and there was one day I remember he tried to crush my head into the seat of his...
    kaikins kaikins 18-21 1 Response 1 day ago

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    For any of you on here that lived through child abuse. How did you do it? I've been being abused since I was 5 year old. I don't think I can handle it anymore. If I tell people the...
    lostinmyfight lostinmyfight 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    I loved a Guy I Was secretly seeing.I made a mistake by sleeping with his bestfriend And not telling him sooner.he saw me today.I thought he had calmed down but I Was wrong.at...
    itsalwayspink itsalwayspink 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I was young it started when I was 7 n continued till I was 9 years old . then I moved away. I would see my mom for days on end ... I was a little girl and I had to take care of my...
    youngadult14 youngadult14 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    I hate my ex with so much passion. Because my skin is very sensitive, he left me with all these scars, physically (and mentally), and all these bruises that are slowly fading away...
    MacabreCannibal MacabreCannibal 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    My sister (3 yrs older) sexually abused me when I was 11. She was abused by my grandfather. I get flashes of her holding me down kissing and touching me - I felt guilty, sick and...
    lulumonta lulumonta 13-15, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    My mother abandoned me two years ago while I was going through a divorce. She found out that I had been seeing another man while I was still married, and really lashed out at me...
    Amelia3611 Amelia3611 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    Ok to make this brief, my husbands stepsister is the person who introduced us. When I actually started going out with him she did a complete U-turn and became quiet nasty. By the...
    hopingformiracles hopingformiracles 22-25 3 days ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Jul 21

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    What do I miss the most ? He was so good at always making me feel wanted. I never had to wonder if he loved me and still wanted me. He didn't even need to say it. His actions...
    NotmyCircusNotmymonkeys NotmyCircusNotmymonkeys 41-45, F 1 hr ago

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    I'm trying to do the right thing not only for myself, but for my family, especially for my beautiful baby daughter, to whom I might never apologize enough for not choosing well her...
    mery81 mery81 31-35, F Jul 22

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    Hello everyone. I don't know what to do. I have been sexually abused by my brother and his friend when I was 6 ans they were 13, and that for several times. I feel raped, i...
    Satiee Satiee 13-15 4 Responses Jul 25

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    I had recently gotten out of a three year relationship when I met my current husband. He was an old friend, well liked by a lot of people. I thought I knew him. We wound up...
    breakingout2014 breakingout2014 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    *sigh* Sometimes i hate life, my life that is. but i should be grateful that im even alive is because of God. what do you do when your older sister reads your journal, which she...
    nekokitty13 nekokitty13 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    It happened to me twice with two different people. Both men were friends of family members. The first time i was 3. It was my fathers best friend. I don't recall much of that...
    dreamerrose dreamerrose 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I can't remember my childhood, I barely remember anything that happened before I hit age 7. I've been to therapy a lot since I was in 3rd grade. I started hating myself in 3rd...
    mysteriousanonymous mysteriousanonymous 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    Hi... Im 22 years ols and that may not seen like a lot but i had a very hard life... Abused since i was a little girl, sex comes very naturaly to me!! 8 months ago i met a...
    nataliesexywtp nataliesexywtp 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    I was being abused in my home by my father until I was 9. I was than put into foster care where I thought it would end. Guess what it didn't. I'm still being abused by my foster...
    oreoelizabeth oreoelizabeth 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 9

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    Hi guys, I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm wondering, am I verbally abused? My father and I have clashed for as long as I remember, and he can get quite nasty when he's mad. I'm a...
    Nightlife707 Nightlife707 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Hi guys, I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm wondering, am I verbally abused? My father and I have clashed for as long as I remember, and he can get quite nasty when he's mad. I'm a...
    Nightlife707 Nightlife707 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Hi guys, I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm wondering, am I verbally abused? My father and I have clashed for as long as I remember, and he can get quite nasty when he's mad. I'm a...
    Nightlife707 Nightlife707 13-15, F a week ago

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    When I started this new account i said I would use it to share more of my story. Well that didn't work out to well considering I've only posted two or three experiences about my...
    LivviyLove LivviyLove 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I was sexually abused ever since I could remember. Later on I figured out I was molested from before I was 2 until I was 12. I was molested by my older male cousin and my older...
    MgkLez96 MgkLez96 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    I was sexually abused. There I said it... I've never really fully admitted it before. half the time I just think it was a really bad dream. it was about a year ago when I was 12. I...
    mackhunter1111 mackhunter1111 13-15, T 2 Responses Aug 5

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    I had a parent who was probably bipolar. From the age of 3 i was smacked around , called a *****, kicked in the stomach..etc. She killed herself when i was 14. I was partly...
    youcantbreakme youcantbreakme 31-35, F Aug 11

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    Nanny occupations are pretty much vast here in the Philippines. Some had to cross their fingers and travel from provinces to cities for a job. Poverty is trending up here that's...
    lastpostfor lastpostfor 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    I was sexually abused by my ex boyfriend...I have bruises and scars...
    Sparkles321 Sparkles321 18-21, F Jul 25

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    I was sexually abused by my ex boyfriend I have bruises and cuts and now have have scares and he raped me and now I have a baby
    newerebe newerebe 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 25

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    I want nothing more than to forget it... Sometimes I have nightmares of what happened in my childhood on the outside everything seemed perfect most people looked at my household...
    Forbiddenkisses Forbiddenkisses 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    ever since i was little me and my siblings have been abused by our oldest brother. our parents left a lot and went on a lot of vacations and left us home alone with him. he moved...
    whatyourheartisfor whatyourheartisfor 16-17, F Aug 11

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    My brother abused me for 7 years. I just recently was able to find that courage to tell someone. Now I'm free from the physical abuse but I'm still scarred. It affects my life so...
    xaliroox xaliroox 16-17, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    18 years ago my mother's boyfriend, at the time, sexually abused me. Twice. After the second time, i went to tell my mother the next morning and she didnt believe me. And still...