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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2014

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    I've had many experiences. I share them anonymously with others, for obvious reasons. I cannot recall my first experience, but I know it all began in childhood. I've seen numerous...
    ProfessorPhoton ProfessorPhoton 26-30, M 1 hr ago

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    I was abused as kid for about 3 years, abused phisically and mentally by my own parents, my educators, and my friend. it was long rough 3 years in my elementary days, I got no...
    giga6164 giga6164 22-25, M 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I was on written approved unpaid bereavement leave for the sudden death of my brother, my office manager screwed up on getting a substitute hygienist for my schedule and texted me...
    screwedrdh64 screwedrdh64 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    I HATE my husband's ex...I finally said it! My husband dated this woman for a few months when he realized she was wrong for him and told her he didn't see this having a future bc...
    LAE1005 LAE1005 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Wow I don't even know where to start….but in a nutshell, my father has been emotionally manipulative and abusive for his entire life. I did not really feel the wrath of his evil...
    kimalee77 kimalee77 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Growing up being a product of a drug addict is hard. It's not that I chose to be alive so why put a child on the earth if you can't raise it, nor do you want to. Well let's start...
    Amberrjade27 Amberrjade27 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    GOD BLESS THE DAY HOW I GET MY EX HUSBAND BACK Hello my name is Babarah from CANADA. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my...
    babarah babarah 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I mean, my mom was an alcoholic. She would get violent. She often burned me with her cigarettes. I don't like having to be reminded of my experiences with that b*tch. Hey, she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been plagued by contempt for my father for many years, and I'm trying to figure out if it's just an issue with my brain, with me as a person, or if I was actually emotionally...
    expandingforward expandingforward 36-40, M 4 days ago

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    When I was three years old my parents were killed in a car accident. And I was sent to live with my aunt and uncle. My aunt and uncle loved me very much although my aunt was very...
    meneme2050 meneme2050 18-21, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I was molested by my step brother on multiple accounts. Just kissing me "innocently". I was also abused as a child and my father touched me inappropriately once and apologized...
    lovlife101 lovlife101 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    i was physically abused by my parents ever since i was 4-5 it was mostly my mother but my father also did sometimes and i absolutely hated how he watched me getting hit and did or...
    BloodyIris BloodyIris 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I found out my husband had been cheating on me for 5 months and then found out a couples weeks later I was pregnant. I love my husband so much and was beyond crushed when I found...
    momma2one momma2one 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I recently confronted my LG's about their past and current behavior at the dinner table. I have been abused physically, mentally, verbally and emotionally abused by them since I...
    HelloEla HelloEla 18-21, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Up front my dad is a great guy. He would do anything for us kids, anything for just about anyone, very supportive. He never misses a sporting event and would feel guilty if he did...
    tigertail123 tigertail123 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    The real focus of this story is my amazing husband. I cannot believe how blessed i am to have him as my partner all these years. He has remained steadfast and true, while i have...
    goodbnbad goodbnbad 41-45, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's so sad. How many of us women are being abused? Physically, mentally, emotionally,etc. Why do men think they can do this? What makes someone put up with it for years? You are...
    deleted deleted 26-30 a week ago

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    It all started when my mom moved her and myself out of my grandmother's home into an apartment with her new boyfriend, my unborn sister's father. I was six going on seven. Moving...
    Shug16 Shug16 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am 13 going to be 14 in a month. I have been abused by my family since I was in 2nd grade. my dad was the 1 to start to abuse me. he used to just yell and scream at me bur now he...
    misprisy101 misprisy101 13-15, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I know a girl is being sexually abused in Germany, I need somebody to give me the German child protective services cause I haven't been able to find it thru googling.
    Rabbi613 Rabbi613 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I felt used and abused emotionally in my marriage. I used to take pride how patient and forgiving I can be. Then I met a guy who was in a similar situation with his wife. We worked...
    deleted deleted 26-30 a week ago

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    It's sad that I don't like my husband's new favorite game, but I don't. I can't even stand listening to him talk about it. He explains to me how he now takes long lunches at work...
    Dookwook Dookwook 31-35, F Jul 21

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    I was an abused child, but not physically, however I was sheltered and isolated a lot. Not being able to develop social skill because of my autism, well that's important to learn...
    WokenandOpen WokenandOpen 31-35, M Jul 21

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    Age 4 to 12 I was sexually abused by my brother who is 7 years older then me. There's two main factors as to what caused this. One, my family was in a strict Christian church. Two...
    winterbugs winterbugs 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    I am gloriously 40 next month, genuinely looking forward to it. I also have a 23 year old daughter from a previous (read, teenage fling) relationship. I love my daughter...
    milotank milotank 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    I have been separated from my husband for 11 months now. We were together for 3 years and have two children together. We fought some but not really bad until after I had my second...
    shoxic shoxic 22-25, F Jul 19

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    My 1st serious boyfriend B emotionally abused me. He would call me names all the time put me down, make me feel bad for not wanting to do something. He knew about my depression and...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I've been told many times I have an addictive personality, and because of that I do struggle with addictions. I abused pills for many years, and its something I still worry about...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F Jul 18

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