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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    I was sexually and physically abused by my dad from as far as I can remember until I was 12. Then I was physically and mentally abused by my step father until I was 17. My mom...
    sada9999 sada9999 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 13

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    My mother abused me all my life...verbally , mentally and physically. The abuse was there since I can remember. She constantly beat me and called me names , told me I was stupid...
    ToTiJeZivot ToTiJeZivot 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 16

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    14 years ! Took me three years and more than 20K to divorce him , but it was the best thing I ever did .
    ToTiJeZivot ToTiJeZivot 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 17

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    My earliest memory was when I was three. My father locked me in a closet because he was drunk. I was scared and in there for a long time. Still to this day I don't know how long I...
    StormianaGraymane14 StormianaGraymane14 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 1

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    I don't understand how an abuser does not feel any shame or guilt that compels him to do the right thing. The day before he left me, after I was emotionally beaten down and at my...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F Nov 15

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    As of Monday night I am no longer with my abuser. Even though I don't have to experience the continued abuse, I feel incredibly empty and depressed. I feel like I should be happy...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    I was and still am :L someday everything will be ok <3
    xkittyxxx xkittyxxx 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I want to start a group for women and. men about same sex rape and sexual abuse. I want to shed light on a secret that is dark
    thesecrettearkeeper thesecrettearkeeper 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 27

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    Although the abuse ended nearly four years ago and I haven't seen him since, I still have emotional and physical scars. I'm still afraid of men. I don't even want a relationship, I...
    sheghost sheghost 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 9

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    I am no longer with my abuser, but I feel like he is still controlling and hurting me. I can't stop thinking about him. He left me after stonewalling me. The day before he started...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    15th post. My panic attack yesterday left me emotionally and physically drained. The way I'm feeling today, there is no way in the world I am going to beat this fight. I would much...
    rana3434 rana3434 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's a long story, but I rejoined this site specifically to talk about this. I'm so confused right now. I love my husband, he's not a bad guy, but the passion and the 'in love...
    JustSymone JustSymone 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 17

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    I was adopted when I was about 2 years old. I was born in Bolivia, and my adoptive parents are from the United States. I don't look like them, but I also don't know anything about...
    MarissaRose26 MarissaRose26 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 2

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    I have been married for 10years and together for 14yrs. I have a 3year old and am heavily pregnant with my 2nd son ( 8months) I have endured a mostly loveless, mostly sexless...
    Autumnpeace Autumnpeace 36-40, F Oct 31

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    Sexual abuse ( Rape ) is a terrible thing done by people ( not necessarily terrible people ) but by people who are really messed up in the head. It has scarred me for life I'm not...
    RyRyOfAwesomness RyRyOfAwesomness 13-15, M 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    24th post. Before anyone reading this thinks my life has been just one bad thing after another, I'm going to set the record straight. Many of the years of fun were only marred by...
    rana3434 rana3434 36-40, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    22nd post. Ok lets go into my health, just so I can give a history on how I think my depression might have been triggered, and slowly began to rise. All through my life I was very...
    rana3434 rana3434 36-40, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    23rd post. Not long after I recovered from the kidney stone, I started getting upper abdominal pain. They would come and go in spurts, and at the beginning a couple of panadol...
    rana3434 rana3434 36-40, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    It started when I was 11 yo. Today it has become a normal thing to do at home and I´m sort of chill with it... When it happens it feels good... but if I think about it by my self...
    Patman96 Patman96 18-21, M 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    History always repeats itself for me. After the horrible Thanksgiving I had last year My husband has invited his dysfunctional alcoholic family again I've had enough bring yelled...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 14

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    I have been with my husband for more than 5 years. His ex wife is the epitome of drama & so are his children. He & his ex divorced more than 12 years ago. The kids are all over the...
    fedupwithallofthem fedupwithallofthem 36-40, F Nov 11

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    My husband and i have been having issues, i feel disconnected from him. He smokes a lot of weed(to the point of being useless) i do too but i am active and always finding new...
    latinaBonita latinaBonita 22-25, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I'm twenty two years old & I'm gonna write a story of my life hopefully to help others and let them know that if anyone's been through sexual abuse that your not alone. It is a...
    caitlinbrooke81 caitlinbrooke81 18-21 Nov 11

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    It started when I was six, I think. Things were going downhill with my mom and her abusive husband--my ex-step loser--and all I really had was my brother, who's three years older...
    infintyandbeyond infintyandbeyond 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 7

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    Technically, he is now a "dry drunk," because he no longer drinks (he has end stage liver disease), and he refused any help medically or psychologically to dry out. His behavior...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 16

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    It is an awful thing to see on the outside a child that has been abused. The problem is that there are so many varying degrees of abuse and dysfunctional families especially from...
    teekitten teekitten 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Before I share my story, I want to let people know a few things. 1) I'm comfortable enough to post this with the EP community because most of you aren't judgmental or rude. 2) I am...
    kaitybobaityxo kaitybobaityxo 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 26

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    When i was eleven years old i was sexualy abused by some guys from my classs in my classroom. I don't know how many times happen, or who did it. I was so stupid and thought that...
    ReynaSPQR ReynaSPQR 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 6

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    Men don't get abused. Women get abused. Women get hit by mans all the time over some pity bull. Unless your a teenager boy then maybe but men don't get hit on. The only hit they...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 7

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    I'm currently in a relationship that I only recently realized was emotionally abusive. I spent my childhood watching my mother get physically slapped around and told she was...
    emoteemo emoteemo 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 8

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    I think I was an abused child. Growing up (4-8) my mom would get angry over the littlest things like me forgetting to put my shoes in the closet or missing the garbage when I put...
    salemwinters salemwinters 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 16

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