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I Was Abused By My Ex - Husband

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    I Got Flowers Today

      I Got Flowers Today It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today. I got...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    8 Years and Counting

    In December it will have been nine years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Through all the pain, heartache, sacrifice and tears I am still here. The scars remain even where the wounds have healed. Looking back, I was young and idealistic. I can remember my parents telling...
    CatastrophicDreamer CatastrophicDreamer 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2007

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    I Have Come To Terms With It

    But it has taken a while. I hadn't realized how much it had been hurting me. I had told myself that it didn't really matter, that it could have been much worse. For a long time I couldn't make sense of what had happened and felt as though it must have been my fault as much as his...
    Byebyebabyblue Byebyebabyblue 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2010

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    Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

    On Oct 3rd 1987 I was 19 I met a guy and I thought he was my dream come true he treated me great , we did everything together I even went on a week long trip to Fla. with him and his parents , 8 months later we got married about a month after that my dream turned bad...
    BEAUTIFULDISASTER BEAUTIFULDISASTER 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 14, 2006

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    It Was Just An Ex-boyfriend

    I was really lucky compared to the other people here. I was abused by a boyfriend, so it was very easy to get out of the relationship right away when the abuse started. It was a live-in, so it took me a few weeks to move out, but no long-term harm done. I'm just more careful than...
    Zandze Zandze 26-30, F May 2, 2007

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    How Can I Think of a Title For This...

    I got married out of desperation to get out of the house.  He seemed like a nice enough guy.  I knew him from church.  About two weeks in to being married he started to yell at me.  It got worse from there.  I really don't remember most of the 4 1/2 years...
    devotedsupporter devotedsupporter 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2006

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    Have Forgiven

    You know everything started out so great. Then he started hanging around the wrong type of people. The cheating staying out late the disrespect just having a bad attitude. I used to blame myself. I will say I was not perfect but what he gave I did not deserve. None of us do. With...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    I Will Not Be Broken

    What began as a beautiful relationship of equal respect and partnership ended with a Protection from Abuse Order- I'd never realized how much my pride could harm me until after I was free of him and left to reflect upon what went horribly wrong. I'm not someone that anyone would...
    AthenaAdAbsurdum AthenaAdAbsurdum 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2007

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    There Are Many Forms Of Abuse

    My ex husband abused me physicallty emotionallty and sexually. The emotional abuse by far was the worse. I could heal from the physical stuff but the emotional  abuse was harder to get through. He was never ever faithful to me and It ate me alive. I am a better person for having...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    See Another Story I Wrote On The Subject

    I reckon he has 2 personality disorders "psychloid" and "histrionic".
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F May 13, 2011

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    Many Years Ago Now

    When I was 16 I met my ex-husand-to-be. My home life was chaotic, dysfunctional and smothering. I guess, in a very innocent way, I  used him to escape. Not to say I didn't love him, but I was 100% primed to accept just about anything just to be loved and to get away from my...
    haecceity haecceity 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2007

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    One In Three Is One Too Many... a Call to Arms.

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    Well Not Husband But Boyfriend

    I was driving, he hit me with the back of his hand and broke my blood vessel in my eye, and messed up my lip, and then pulled me by the hair back and forth. He also emotionally, mentally abused me through out our three year relationship. I hate him
    celestialsun celestialsun 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2009

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    I used to tell him to hit me

    so people could see the scars he left on my heart with his words
    justmebroken justmebroken 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2014

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    Mentally . Emotionally

     i left two yrs ago today ...  and i am still recovering from the mental anguish i encountered ... he broke  me ... something i never thought could happen to me . i was so strong before i met him .  when i moved here i weighed 82 lbs  and didnt want to...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Who are we suppose to trust the most? Our parents, they are suppose to be the ones, who are suppose to protect from people, who could hurt you, not be the ones who are hurting you...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 5 hrs ago

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    I feel so much pain for all the abused children out there, maybe it was because I was one of them, I was in their shoes, and I know what they are feeling, and the paint that they...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I was blindsided one day when my husband called me out of the blue crying and told me that he had messed around and got another woman pregnant. He was away from me training in...
    forty6and2 forty6and2 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Anyone who lives in Arizona is aware of the cruddy job market. There aren't enough jobs to go around in the first place, and when you do find a job, you are likely to be abused in...
    LyraAlluse LyraAlluse 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    Hi I would like to vent a bit.I was going to put my spouse doesn't support me.But because of him being bipolar and stress from work I can understand his bipolar disorder.But I have...
    Fruitypunch15 Fruitypunch15 31-35 4 days ago

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    I was abused when I was a child. I'm 22 now and have a 1 year old and trying so hard to deal with my, I have had counselling on many occasions with different people and I still...
    JenniferSmith2658 JenniferSmith2658 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Sorry I haven't posted in about a week. It has been pretty tough for me these last few days. Today was awful too. So my parents were having some people over for lunch. The rule...
    soccergalxd soccergalxd 18-21, F 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've been with my husband for 15 years, after we lost our business 2 years ago he started hitting me. I'd give the entire world to leave him but I don't have 1 single family member...
    adultchildofasociopath adultchildofasociopath 31-35, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am an alcoholic and I went into Friendly House in 1975 , a home for women alcoholics I was there approximately a year. I was so insecure , I was almost timid as well , far from...
    MsOracle MsOracle 66-70, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I was raised in the Mormon church, though my parents weren't that into it they still had us go. I'm glad that my parents weren't as crazy Mormon as the other parents, they taught...
    wishiwasasheep wishiwasasheep 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Let me be frank I think people of all genders and sexualities should be accepted but I can't help that I had a bad experience. In every group I feel as though there is a few bad...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 days ago

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    In the past few years I have been shamed blamed and ridiculed for a decision to choose myself and my health over my own child. I had an abortion. Since then I have been diagnosed...
    MoonFlowerCloud MoonFlowerCloud 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    I have social anxiety, depression, PTSD, agoraphobia, and other extreme health issues that I don't get any assistance for, and I can't afford healthcare, so I have to deal with...
    LyraAlluse LyraAlluse 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I KNOW THIS IS QUITE LONG BUT I BEG YOU TO READ IT. I DESPERATELY NEED EMOTIONAL SUPPORT ASAP! I'm a 23 year old girl. I sadly still live with my family. Please don't disrespect me...
    PhTA PhTA 22-25 1 Response Jun 25

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    I have been verbally and mentally abused by my mom and dad, never really anything psychical, I mean.. I've been hit before, but nothing extreme. My mom is better about it, but my...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 25

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    This is quite a mouthful, I'm sorry. I just need to write it out. When I was around 7, my family made the move from California to Washington State. Now, around 10 years later, I've...
    buffybellissimo buffybellissimo 16-17 Jun 25

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    I was just thinking of something that's annoyed me (on and off) over the years--my husbands ex-wife and her behavior. When she was married to husband (over 16 years ago), she was...
    BetweenStates BetweenStates 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    I've always had a problem with my dad. I never felt like I was living up to my sister or being the kid he wanted. He pushed me to join sports but I had no interest in them. He made...
    emaseraptor emaseraptor 18-21, F Jun 24

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    we have been together for 10 years and last month, the week before Mother's Day, the other woman sent me a message on FB with a dummy account , stating that the lies stop here...
    Desert06 Desert06 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    Yeah I was being abused for years.I recently left. He always called me retarted, and slow. He made me watch videos of people dying. he started saying he wants to beat my brains in...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    Good Morning I really hope you find the time to read this email. I am a Police Officer in one of the biggest forces in the UK and I had the unfortunate experience of meeting...
    HARDY9849 HARDY9849 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    Hey everyone, i would like to post my experience, because i want to ask for suggestion... So my story begins, 2 years ago i met a guy, i was a freshman in college and he was my...
    wonderfulparis wonderfulparis 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    It's almost 1 am....I have to get up at 4 am for work. My jerk husband always teased the dog at bedtime because it's his idea of fun. So the dog sleeps in our bed. And is crowding...
    Karj Karj 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    Needing advice its a long story.... Sorry Sept 2010 I met my husband he was 18 I was 17 still in school. In Nov of the same yr we quit school and moved in with my dad we were...
    CassFitz CassFitz 22-25, F Jun 21

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    My wife physically abuses me. Last week she beat me so bad i was unconcious. I ended up in the ER.
    hornydevz hornydevz 31-35, M Jun 21

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    My dad was very abusive. One way was emotionally. He was my best friend, but would flip a 180 on me and become very hostile and mean. This was my childhood until he passed away...
    fami1001 fami1001 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 21