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I Was Affected By The Way I Was Raised

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    I Air On The Side Of Being Less Social

    My father is a very unpredictable man. When my parents were still together, he would either have an explosive temper or smother me to the point that he didn't take me seriously. Both my mother and I had to walk on eggshells in order not to get yelled at. He was impossible to...
    TheBabeWithThePower TheBabeWithThePower 13-15, F Sep 28, 2011

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    The Way I Am

    At first you will find me curious For you never see my face Just the top of my head And really long hair I'm always wearing a jacket Even in the burning hot summer I sit in the back in the farthest corner of the room I never speak Unless someone I consider an authority...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F Oct 20, 2011

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    Emotional Roller Coaster

    My father was and still to a large extent is a nut bag.  He is a Dr Jekyll (tolerable), Mr. Hyde (angry), experience, and the transformation is instantaneous.  He became an alcoholic while I was in grade school.  You never knew when he was going to blow his stack, but you did...
    sevensecrets2000 sevensecrets2000 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 5, 2011

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    Madii144 Madii144 18-21 1 Response Mar 20

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    An Empty Spot In My Heart

    My childhood wasn't horrific like other poor children in the world, but it wasn't fantastic either. I don't remember a lot from my younger years which is strange because I'm still a young person. However, I clearly remember the bad things. Starting off how I was pushed aside and...
    Dezaria Dezaria 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2013

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    I Wish I Was Raised Better..

    Love/dislike relationship with my family, i wish they raised me better, i do blame my parents for my life sucking so bad....they didn't teach me how to be, instead they made things worse with the way they did things... and now my kids suffer because of it...its like no matter how...
    XGreenEyedAngelX XGreenEyedAngelX 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2012

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    Trauma

    apart from being affect from being raised by different people, i underwent alot of denial mistreament and as a result i develop real trauma in that when am watching a movie i get so emotional
    acholi acholi 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 4, 2012

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    Some Good Some Bad

    I grew up poor, in a home where domestic violence and alcoholism were common. My mother married 3 times and each time, the guy was worse than the last one. Mom stayed gone a lot- sometimes working, sometimes bar-hopping. I became a surrogate mother to my younger brother. I took...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F Jan 27, 2011

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    So It Seems

    According to all my therapists, psychiatrists etc my childhood was/is the problem. Even reading descriptions of my various disorders the common theme among them is that they are caused by a dysfunctional childhood.
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2011

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    I Think I'm The Only One Who Thinks I Matter...

    Fifth grade. second trimester report card. I sat shaking in my downstairs, terrified of how my parents would react to my first, and only since, F on a report card. Reading. I wasn't much for it then and i always seemed to loose my reading logs... anyways, I walked out of the...
    NatalieNight NatalieNight 18-21, F 1 Response May 20, 2012

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    Tuff Times

    when i was a child i had an abusive father and an alcoholic mother, because of that now i feel i have to turn to men to feel loved.
    latinalinda6 latinalinda6 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 31, 2011

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    Sure Was!

    Yet I don't feel ready to speak about it. *sigh*
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    I was raised in church

    now I enjoy it. Raised Christian now I practice it.
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F Mar 23

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    I DO Remember

    Not that it's a very big deal - but why do some individuals think I can't possibly remember what happened to me when I was a little girl? Just because it happened thirty or forty years ago, that doesn't mean I don't recall incidents from childhood. In those days, technology was...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F 3 Responses May 25, 2013

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    Sharij

    My Father was alcoholic, I always thought it was my repsonbility to save him / help him.  My controlling mother put me in the middle because she thought it might help.  Chaotic childhood situation at 5.  Picked him off the steps, out of the driveway, etc.  I always thought...
    ShariJ ShariJ 41-45 Jun 25, 2011

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    Adult Then-child Now!

    All in all one could look from a birds eye view and think my childhood was perfect...I am an only child, I asked for whatever I wanted and I got it. I had a roof over my head, good kind Grandparent's and single Mother to care for me, who would to this day give me the world if...
    PoisonJestersMask PoisonJestersMask 22-25, T Oct 9, 2010

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    Mum And Dad

    My parents told me they hated me that i was ugly and worthless My dad made me stand on a chair once and say over and over i was stupid fat and ugly and no one would love me They beat me and treated me like i didnt matter. Which is ok because know my parents are totally normal...
    Hanalou Hanalou 18-21 4 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    My Mother Doesnt Deserve The Title...

    This woman... I cant even tell you the amount of times she has let me down! It took me 23 years to get away from her. She never really cared about my success in life... I tried until I was 16 to impress her... Always looking for an "I love you" that was never going to come... Not...
    LaceyJane08 LaceyJane08 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2013

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    I Am Affected By The Way I Was Raised.

    My Mother >&&. Father Are Drug Addits.( Diffrent Drugs). Sinsc The Age Of 9 I Was The Man And Woman Of My House. I Practially Raised My Little Sister, I Still Take Care Of Her, She Is My Life, My Love.. My Reason To Do Better (Besides My Bf] I Am 19 Y.o FeMale who has been tryin...
    JustMeB JustMeB 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    You Would Be Too

    We are all a product of our environment.If I were to write out this story, it would be long, and I haven't the energy it would take to put something so painful into writing. I haven't the heart right now to force the memories back up to the front of my mind... So I will just...
    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 25, 2011

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    Not in any bad way at all .

    My mom raised me perfectly . I cannot have been the boy i am today without her . She laid the foundation for my personality .. The love for music , respecting others .. These are all the things i would thank her for ~
    DanielXav DanielXav 13-15, M Dec 17, 2013

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    Which Is Not Necessarily A Bad Thing

    My mother spent a lot of time with me when I was very young to teach me.  This enables me now by opening up my mind and making me enjoy learning experiences.  I believe that this point in a person's life determines the person's success with learning.  If the child has a...
    BBUDS BBUDS 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    Yeah - This Is What They Taught Me

    Love is an addictive poison Drink a little and it's got you hooked Bowing to it's control This little sip has got you begging for more Always hungering Always hunting, searching for scraps Scraps because you can't afford lavish love Yes there's a deficit in your bank account The...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Effects Of A Narcissistic Parent

    I found this article today and wanted to share it: http://www.voicelessness.com/disc3//index.php?topic=2039.0
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 18, 2010

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    Repeated Lives

    I always remembered my father fondly. He was a good dad, doting and loving. He died when I was 10, and I missed him so, so much for decades. However, after talking with my brother and sister over the years, I am getting a clearer view of my childhood home.No one has ever been...
    rumspringa02 rumspringa02 70+, F Sep 9, 2012

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    My Heads So Full I Think My Heads Going To Explode!!!

    i have alot of things going on at the moment as it is, so far this year ive been disowned, told i can no longer see my younger siblings, sent an abusive email from my mother calling me a cold hearted creature for taking her latest pregnancy really badly. Shes extremally depressed...
    vintagedresses vintagedresses 22-25 1 Response Dec 22, 2011

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    Mama, Where's Daddy?

    Here is another room in the deep chambers of my heart.I have to look for the key because it's a place I very seldom go.As I open the door, the cobwebs and dust fall from the shadows of my mind.Once again I find myself at the age of seven.Things are strangely silent at home today...
    Waymor Waymor 46-50, M Oct 3, 2012

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    All Too Familiar

    my mom got pregnant with me at 16 nobody wanted me except her as i got a little older she met my brother and sisters dad he sexually abused me while my mom was out stripping for money my siblings dad turned to crack when my brother died and drug my mom down with him i grew up...
    stillhere16 stillhere16 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    I Blame A Lot Of Stuff On My Upbringing, Which Is Probably A Bit Childish.

    Anyone who knows one of my earlier posts will know my general situation, but let me clarify it. I was home schooled until roughly the end of primary school. Even when I went to school I had very underdeveloped social skills and didn't even crave talking to anyone, including my...
    SeekingSerendipity SeekingSerendipity 18-21, F Jan 25, 2013

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    I Choose Not To Be That Person!

    Our values come from our environment when we are children. I was taught to lie, cheat, steal and manipulate. I witnessed murder and rape. Drugs were used around our house at all times. Abuse was rampant, while food was scarce. There are many things I have seen that are far to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 3, 2012

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    Naturally

    I'm naturally influenced today by the way I was raised, good and bad. Sometimes, my goofs are due to my upbringing, but so are a lot of good things. I can credit my upbringing for that and feel grateful. Other times, I'm often sad when I see where my upbringing was lacking. There...
    Goslyn Goslyn 31-35, T Jul 16, 2013

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    I Have "daddy Issues"

    Growing up, I can remember days when I would cry to my mom and beg her to bring me with her to work so that I wouldn't be left at home with my dad. It wasn't because he would abuse me...but he had his own way of making me feel horrible. At the time, I didn't realize what he was...
    ozarkchick14 ozarkchick14 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 3, 2010

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    Kids Don'T Lie..Or Do They?

    Well, to a certain extent... Lying, like other behaviors, is a "learned" reaction. Some kids couldn't lie if their life depended on it. Others will try it, but their stuttering, red faces, or lack of a sensible answer to being questioned give them away. There are kids who have...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2013

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    .....

    Like everyone.
    MushroomFaerie148 MushroomFaerie148 22-25, F 1 Response May 3, 2010

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    I Can Relate To The Daddy Issues

    i can relate to the daddy issues. The household i grew up in my dads word was the final word and i still think he hates me. in my whole life he has only told me he was proud once. everything i ever did or do now is not good enough, he told me once when i was in high school that i...
    belledawn1 belledawn1 22-25, F 8 Responses Oct 27, 2010

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    Of Course....

    Thats the whole point of it though right?
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M Aug 30, 2010

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    I Would Like To Share Two Quotes With You.

    These are both quotes from the book, "Five People You Meet In Heaven". It is one of my favorites and these two quotes I took to heart from my favorite chapter of the book. Both of my parents weather they realize it or not have tarnished me and now I have a distance between both...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 2, 2010

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    A Psychotic, A Tyrant, And A Bully All Rolled Into One

    This is VERY lengthy, so please bear with me here. My Mother, simply put, is the meanest, angriest, most unpleasant person I know. She is a psychotic, a tyrant, and a bully all rolled into one. My parents split up when I was around 5-6 years old. I'm not exactly sure of the year...
    wishiwasabrady wishiwasabrady 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    My Changing Life

    Hi all, i have had a rough couple of years. I have a daughter in law who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder. She has caused so much trouble that i have told my son, i just cannot have her in my house anymore. The upshot he wont see me and said i will never see him, or...
    homely60 homely60 61-65 Jan 22, 2012

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    My Severely Dysfunctional Life. Turning 32 And Feeling Like Crap

    It takes a bit much for me to write a coherent sentence these days. It's an ignoble fall for someone who once fancied himself a writer of sorts and imagined fondling copies of a best-seller to call his own. Alas, I am a god -damned failure. I am going to turn 32 soon and I have...
    coginwheel coginwheel 31-35, M Jul 9, 2012

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    Bell'S Palsy

    Are you a nervous person? Do you get a swollen sinus cavity in one or both nostrils? Do you have difficulty articuating what you want to say and the words come out garbled? You may have what my doctor told me was known as "Bell's palsy''. The worst part of having something like...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2013

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    Scared Of The Adults

    For the first twenty years of my life, I can't remember but a few evenings when Daddy was sober - or at least, sober enough to talk to. He was a full-fledged alcoholic who got moodier and moodier as the evening turned into night and the drinks mounted up. The bottle of whiskey he...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2013

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    Man-hater

    I don't know how to care about men.  My mom laid all the sins in the world on me and my dad's shoulders, and refused to LET me give anyone but her even a sliver of attention or regard.  I was never ALLOWED to care about my dad or myself - and if I did give me or him any...
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 1, 2010

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