I Was Affected By The Way I Was Raised

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    I can relate to being raised by a very strict

    Catholic mother. Since we were children, we were so straight laced. we would pray all of the time, and listen...like good obedient children I guess. But soon that ended. During this time my parents would contradict everything they were teaching us, and we would just sit in our...
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    Apr 16, 2015

    I didnt feel.loved or.

    as if anyone.cared.for me. Now I have a hard.time.on being proud of myself and trsuting people.
    energymustmove energymustmove
    18-21, F
    Apr 17, 2015

    I Can Relate To The Daddy Issues

    i can relate to the daddy issues. The household i grew up in my dads word was the final word and i still think he hates me. in my whole life he has only told me he was proud once. everything i ever did or do now is not good enough, he told me once when i was in high school that i...
    belledawn1 belledawn1
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Oct 27, 2010

    My Boyfriend keeps telling me to stop being

    so antisocial and talk more to people . I do talk to people more when he isn't around I was raised that the man is supposed to talk and take charge of everything. The woman is to keep silent and be seen not heard. When he's gone I can speak and give my opinions to another woman...
    MariahDove MariahDove
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 6, 2014

    I was just asked by a guy I started hanging out

    with "why are you so sensitive?" How am I supposed to answer that? I'm pretty sure I can blame my childhood for my sensitivity.
    ilovenickiminaj ilovenickiminaj
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 17, 2015

    I think every one is effected by how they were

    raised. Unfortunately that's not always for the better. This one of the scariest things about being a mother. All you want to do is not screw up your kids. I was effected by the was I was raised. I was raised in an emotionless house ware I was always scared and constantly...
    lullabymom lullabymom
    51-55, F
    2 Responses May 10, 2014

    "Why isn't there a commandment to "honor thy

    children" or at least one to "not abuse thy children"? The notion that we must honor our parents causes many people to bury their real feelings and set aside their own needs in order to have a relationship with people they would otherwise not associate with. Parents, like anyone...
    Aimee17 Aimee17
    41-45, F
    4 Responses May 7, 2014

    My parents were (and still are) heroin addicts.

    It clicked in my head when I was ten or eleven that something wasn't right, wasn't normal. A bit of snooping and the pieces quickly fell into place. The internet confirmed the methadone; TV and movies confirmed the hypodermic needles and burnt bottle caps. Their needle exchange...
    DakotaRules DakotaRules
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 28, 2014

    now I expect people to say bad things to me,

    hurt me, do bad things to me and I barely have friends because when people are nice to me I fall for the trap and end up getting hurt all over again.
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    2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

    I was affected by the way I was raised greatly.

    Because I was raised not of others, but by myself. It makes me very different. Instead of having guidance or influence, I had to do and find everything myself my own way. My so called parents didn't let me go to school, they kept me out illegally and hid me from the government...
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    Apr 16, 2015
    urlaame urlaame
    18-21, F
    Oct 9, 2014

    There's no doubt.I know I would be infinite

    times better than what I am with a proper education and family.I may be shy on my virtues but sure thing I grew strong and able of an extreme survival instinct...not with less scars that opens from time to time in wounds again. I suposse I am like a precious stone without polish...
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    Jul 11, 2014

    yeah I think this is

    why I turned out the way I did.
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    Dec 7, 2015

    Years of emotional neglect = Borderline

    Personality Disorder (seeking to compensate for the lack of attention, creating unstable relationships and unwittingly destroying the remnants of self-esteem)
    marinderso marinderso
    1 Response Apr 16, 2015

    I was raised by a mother

    who hated me and expressed her hate toward me every chance she had , my father was in and out of my life .. when he was in my life he was always drunk .. he was and still is an hopeless alcoholic .. my mother was also an addict ( meth , crack , and whatever else she could get...
    imperfectbeauty imperfectbeauty
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Dec 17, 2014

    I was raised in a super over protective

    Christian family. I now live my life to be everything they are not. I don't judge people for their choices. I just don't want to be anything like them.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2014

    tune brought joy to my household,

    music washes away nothing but inflames memories & raw emotions
    miimii0069 miimii0069
    31-35, F
    Aug 18, 2015
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 8, 2014
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 26, 2015
    Madii144 Madii144
    1 Response Mar 20, 2014

    I Choose Not To Be That Person!

    Our values come from our environment when we are children. I was taught to lie, cheat, steal and manipulate. I witnessed murder and rape. Drugs were used around our house at all times. Abuse was rampant, while food was scarce. There are many things I have seen that are far to...
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    Nov 3, 2012

    Had to share everything with my sisters,

    everything I ever owned was either from a thrift shop or a hand me down from my brothers. Homeless for the first 6 years of my life, was often starving, always sick and dirty, was always on my moms bad side, always either in trouble or being hit by her. Raped by my uncle for 5...
    GermanWildChild GermanWildChild
    16-17, F
    2 Responses May 29, 2014

    we all are affected by how we are raised!

    ......That's the whole Point! :-) to quote a famous Chinese Proverb : "Give me a child until he is 10 years old,and he will follow my ways for life" & the Bible "Train up a child in the way he should go..and when he is old, he will not depart from it"
    IFoundYourDiary IFoundYourDiary
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 16, 2015

    Scared Of The Adults

    For the first twenty years of my life, I can't remember but a few evenings when Daddy was sober - or at least, sober enough to talk to. He was a full-fledged alcoholic who got moodier and moodier as the evening turned into night and the drinks mounted up. The bottle of whiskey he...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine
    61-65, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2013

    Not in any bad way at all .

    My mom raised me perfectly . I cannot have been the boy i am today without her . She laid the foundation for my personality .. The love for music , respecting others .. These are all the things i would thank her for ~
    DanielXav DanielXav
    18-21, M
    Dec 17, 2013
    alejandragucci alejandragucci
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 8, 2015

    my father was a drunk

    and physically and verbally abusive to me. when i was 4 i was learning to count to 20 and kept confusing the number elevan with Levitz. i have told others tjis story and they thought it was cute... for me i got slapped accross the face and told to go back to my room and in 10...
    jdanyone jdanyone
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    I feel as though through the hardships I faced

    everyday at home, gives me the disgusted feeling of never wanting to take the same route with a family of my own. It also has taught me courage and gave me the strength to never take any type of abuse from anyone although I was not abused as a child I went through the cycle of...
    liveurDream liveurDream
    22-25, F
    Apr 16, 2015

    i come from the land of shut up

    and do as you are told. never speak back. don't be loud. be seen not heard. because of this i tend to be a soft spoken person. i have tried to be a louder person, i'm just not. it's so ingrained in me to be quiet loud is no longer an option. so please forgive me and have...
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    4 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    My dad was an alcoholic

    and my dad and my mom use to fight a lot about money and his problem with alcohol. I would start to cry whenever they fought. I remember one day my brother got hit by my mom and I stood there with tears in my eyes. I couldn't do anything at the time. If me and my brother did...
    PandaGirl28X PandaGirl28X
    May 25, 2015

    You Would Be Too

    We are all a product of our environment.If I were to write out this story, it would be long, and I haven't the energy it would take to put something so painful into writing. I haven't the heart right now to force the memories back up to the front of my mind... So I will just...
    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 25, 2011
    Sicarium Sicarium
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 17, 2014

    Growing up I was taught to never share ANYTHING

    about personal things of my family. Because of this I've never really been able to speak up or speak out about my life to anyone, even close friends, in fear that they will tell others. I'm also prone to be more reserved about things and I always keep to myself. I hate it.
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    3 Responses Apr 17, 2015

    I was raised in a ****** up family.

    . My dad hid playboys constantly and i remember finding them when i was 6, ****** me up as a kiddo, backwards family, they might as well have been divorced, seperate bank accounts, my dad always hid stuff from all of us, same with mom, they payed all the attention in the world to...
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    Jun 6, 2015

    yes. I think your life at ages 4-9 will

    strongly determine your psyche.
    wildnfree15 wildnfree15
    70+, M
    Dec 12, 2015

    i am living proof that raising your kids in an

    obsessively Christian environment will not end the way you plan. they teach judgement. oh they're not a good person because they committed this sin or that sin. you know I'd pick an honest sinner any time. i try not to be anything my family is. at least i can say I'm happy...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    When I was young ( <5 ) my dad educated me

    early so I am ahead and good in school. So grateful
    SpaceGlitch SpaceGlitch
    16-17, F
    Dec 16, 2014
    AEnima426 AEnima426
    18-21, M
    Jun 6, 2014

    So affected that when people say "Dumb"

    or "Stupid" it gets me angry and I cry about it later. I grew up in so much negativity that jokes are sometimes hard to accept.
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    Aug 8, 2014
    AuntieShani AuntieShani
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 27, 2014

    I was positively affected

    because now I'm good at pleasing others and defusing fights, I'm a good, disciplined kid and I am negatively affected because I apparently have no understanding of relationships, love or trust. I'm good at sneaking lying and hiding. What's it like to be able to hug anyone or be...
    Anonliljokergirl Anonliljokergirl
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 28, 2014
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