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I Was Affected By The Way I Was Raised

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    Wow, Where Does One Start?

    Yes, everyone is affected by the way they were raised. Most can out grow it, and move on, or were affected positively. I was none of the above. Since I can remember until I was 18 when I moved out, my mother considered me an accident, a very ungreatful accident. She called me a...
    runningfree87 runningfree87 22-25, F Jan 28, 2011

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    I was raised in a super over protective

    Christian family. I now live my life to be everything they are not. I don't judge people for their choices. I just don't want to be anything like them.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    Madii144 Madii144 18-21 1 Response Mar 20

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    My parents were (and still are) heroin addicts.

    It clicked in my head when I was ten or eleven that something wasn't right, wasn't normal. A bit of snooping and the pieces quickly fell into place. The internet confirmed the methadone; TV and movies confirmed the hypodermic needles and burnt bottle caps. Their needle exchange...
    DakotaRules DakotaRules 26-30, F 2 Responses May 28

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    AuntieShani AuntieShani 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 27

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    There's no doubt.I know I would be infinite

    times better than what I am with a proper education and family.I may be shy on my virtues but sure thing I grew strong and able of an extreme survival instinct...not with less scars that opens from time to time in wounds again. I suposse I am like a precious stone without polish...
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F Jul 11

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    Not in any bad way at all .

    My mom raised me perfectly . I cannot have been the boy i am today without her . She laid the foundation for my personality .. The love for music , respecting others .. These are all the things i would thank her for ~
    DanielXav DanielXav 16-17, M Dec 17, 2013

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    Which Is Not Necessarily A Bad Thing

    My mother spent a lot of time with me when I was very young to teach me.  This enables me now by opening up my mind and making me enjoy learning experiences.  I believe that this point in a person's life determines the person's success with learning.  If the child has a...
    BBUDS BBUDS 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    sashakimi3 sashakimi3 18-21, F May 2

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    "Why isn't there a commandment to "honor thy

    children" or at least one to "not abuse thy children"? The notion that we must honor our parents causes many people to bury their real feelings and set aside their own needs in order to have a relationship with people they would otherwise not associate with. Parents, like anyone...
    Aimee17 Aimee17 41-45, F 4 Responses May 7

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    Tuff Times

    when i was a child i had an abusive father and an alcoholic mother, because of that now i feel i have to turn to men to feel loved.
    latinalinda6 latinalinda6 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 31, 2011

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    I was positively affected

    because now I'm good at pleasing others and defusing fights, I'm a good, disciplined kid and I am negatively affected because I apparently have no understanding of relationships, love or trust. I'm good at sneaking lying and hiding. What's it like to be able to hug anyone or be...
    Anonliljokergirl Anonliljokergirl 16-17, F 3 Responses May 28

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    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I was raised with money,

    with staff at home, and with a silver cuttlery set in my mouth. I was also raised by my mom, one of the kindest people I've ever met. So, I guess I'm a mix of spoiled brat, and giver?
    LittleStain LittleStain 18-21, F Oct 8

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    I think every one is effected by how they were

    raised. Unfortunately that's not always for the better. This one of the scariest things about being a mother. All you want to do is not screw up your kids. I was effected by the was I was raised. I was raised in an emotionless house ware I was always scared and constantly...
    lullabymom lullabymom 46-50, F 1 Response May 10

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    So affected that when people say "Dumb"

    or "Stupid" it gets me angry and I cry about it later. I grew up in so much negativity that jokes are sometimes hard to accept.
    AcousticLover AcousticLover 16-17, F Aug 8

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    When I was young ( <5 ) my dad educated me

    early so I am ahead and good in school. So grateful
    madisonsevcik madisonsevcik 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    So It Seems

    According to all my therapists, psychiatrists etc my childhood was/is the problem. Even reading descriptions of my various disorders the common theme among them is that they are caused by a dysfunctional childhood.
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2011

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    AEnima426 AEnima426 16-17, M Jun 6

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    Had to share everything with my sisters,

    everything I ever owned was either from a thrift shop or a hand me down from my brothers. Homeless for the first 6 years of my life, was often starving, always sick and dirty, was always on my moms bad side, always either in trouble or being hit by her. Raped by my uncle for 5...
    GermanWildChild GermanWildChild 13-15, F 1 Response May 29

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    My family is First Nations

    so it really affected me due to residential school because my dad went but mom didn't but her parents did and the way the raised her just affected her and me because they were taught that if you do something wrong or talked back you had to be punished and I mean she didn't ever...
    Duchanne Duchanne 16-17, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I don't know how anyone could claim

    that they weren't. I have been affected in both positive and negative ways but I have chosen to take what I learned from those experiences to improve upon the person I am now.
    purplemusicprincess purplemusicprincess 31-35, F May 2

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    I DO Remember

    Not that it's a very big deal - but why do some individuals think I can't possibly remember what happened to me when I was a little girl? Just because it happened thirty or forty years ago, that doesn't mean I don't recall incidents from childhood. In those days, technology was...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F 3 Responses May 25, 2013

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    Man-hater

    I don't know how to care about men.  My mom laid all the sins in the world on me and my dad's shoulders, and refused to LET me give anyone but her even a sliver of attention or regard.  I was never ALLOWED to care about my dad or myself - and if I did give me or him any...
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 1, 2010

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    I Choose Not To Be That Person!

    Our values come from our environment when we are children. I was taught to lie, cheat, steal and manipulate. I witnessed murder and rape. Drugs were used around our house at all times. Abuse was rampant, while food was scarce. There are many things I have seen that are far to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 3, 2012

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    My Boyfriend keeps telling me to stop being

    so antisocial and talk more to people . I do talk to people more when he isn't around I was raised that the man is supposed to talk and take charge of everything. The woman is to keep silent and be seen not heard. When he's gone I can speak and give my opinions to another woman...
    MariahDove MariahDove 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 6

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    My Mother Doesnt Deserve The Title...

    This woman... I cant even tell you the amount of times she has let me down! It took me 23 years to get away from her. She never really cared about my success in life... I tried until I was 16 to impress her... Always looking for an "I love you" that was never going to come... Not...
    LaceyJane08 LaceyJane08 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2013

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    Bell'S Palsy

    Are you a nervous person? Do you get a swollen sinus cavity in one or both nostrils? Do you have difficulty articuating what you want to say and the words come out garbled? You may have what my doctor told me was known as "Bell's palsy''. The worst part of having something like...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2013

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    I Wish I Was Raised Better..

    Love/dislike relationship with my family, i wish they raised me better, i do blame my parents for my life sucking so bad....they didn't teach me how to be, instead they made things worse with the way they did things... and now my kids suffer because of it...its like no matter how...
    XGreenEyedAngelX XGreenEyedAngelX 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2012

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    I Can Relate To The Daddy Issues

    i can relate to the daddy issues. The household i grew up in my dads word was the final word and i still think he hates me. in my whole life he has only told me he was proud once. everything i ever did or do now is not good enough, he told me once when i was in high school that i...
    belledawn1 belledawn1 22-25, F 8 Responses Oct 27, 2010

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    All Too Familiar

    my mom got pregnant with me at 16 nobody wanted me except her as i got a little older she met my brother and sisters dad he sexually abused me while my mom was out stripping for money my siblings dad turned to crack when my brother died and drug my mom down with him i grew up...
    stillhere16 stillhere16 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Yeah - This Is What They Taught Me

    Love is an addictive poison Drink a little and it's got you hooked Bowing to it's control This little sip has got you begging for more Always hungering Always hunting, searching for scraps Scraps because you can't afford lavish love Yes there's a deficit in your bank account The...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Kids Don'T Lie..Or Do They?

    Well, to a certain extent... Lying, like other behaviors, is a "learned" reaction. Some kids couldn't lie if their life depended on it. Others will try it, but their stuttering, red faces, or lack of a sensible answer to being questioned give them away. There are kids who have...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Mar 28, 2013

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    An Empty Spot In My Heart

    My childhood wasn't horrific like other poor children in the world, but it wasn't fantastic either. I don't remember a lot from my younger years which is strange because I'm still a young person. However, I clearly remember the bad things. Starting off how I was pushed aside and...
    Dezaria Dezaria 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2013

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    Emotional Roller Coaster

    My father was and still to a large extent is a nut bag.  He is a Dr Jekyll (tolerable), Mr. Hyde (angry), experience, and the transformation is instantaneous.  He became an alcoholic while I was in grade school.  You never knew when he was going to blow his stack, but you did...
    sevensecrets2000 sevensecrets2000 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 5, 2011

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    Yes I Was, But It Does Not Determine My Future!

    Yes I was affected by the way I raised. Some things were very hard and terrible to endure like beatings until I was bleeding, and the mental abuse. But I chose not to do that to my kids. I did learn that blood family members will always be there for you; that I liked travel and...
    wjk1849 wjk1849 46-50, M Mar 24, 2013

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    I was raised by a mother

    who hated me and expressed her hate toward me every chance she had , my father was in and out of my life .. when he was in my life he was always drunk .. he was and still is an hopeless alcoholic .. my mother was also an addict ( meth , crack , and whatever else she could get...
    imperfectbeauty imperfectbeauty 18-21, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    I Blame A Lot Of Stuff On My Upbringing, Which Is Probably A Bit Childish.

    Anyone who knows one of my earlier posts will know my general situation, but let me clarify it. I was home schooled until roughly the end of primary school. Even when I went to school I had very underdeveloped social skills and didn't even crave talking to anyone, including my...
    SeekingSerendipity SeekingSerendipity 18-21, F Jan 25, 2013

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    Sharij

    My Father was alcoholic, I always thought it was my repsonbility to save him / help him.  My controlling mother put me in the middle because she thought it might help.  Chaotic childhood situation at 5.  Picked him off the steps, out of the driveway, etc.  I always thought...
    ShariJ ShariJ 41-45 Jun 25, 2011

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    urlaame urlaame 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9

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    You Would Be Too

    We are all a product of our environment.If I were to write out this story, it would be long, and I haven't the energy it would take to put something so painful into writing. I haven't the heart right now to force the memories back up to the front of my mind... So I will just...
    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 25, 2011

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    Scared Of The Adults

    For the first twenty years of my life, I can't remember but a few evenings when Daddy was sober - or at least, sober enough to talk to. He was a full-fledged alcoholic who got moodier and moodier as the evening turned into night and the drinks mounted up. The bottle of whiskey he...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Mar 19, 2013

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    Sicarium Sicarium 36-40, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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