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I Was An Abused Spouse

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    Spousal Abuser Compounds(apartments Complexes) -   My letter is rather rough draft form,   I was a spousal abuse victim for 20 some years. We are told too many...
    kkwtzpp kkwtzpp 46-50 1 Response Apr 1, 2009

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    If You Listen To This, It May Save A Life..... - On September 24, 2000, my best friend was shot dead by her husband. She suffered abuse at his hands for years, before he finally...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    I Have My Children and They Have Me - I met my kids' dad when I was 19..He was a year younger than me and seemed really quiet and shy...beautiful smile and I fell for him like a...
    66me 66me 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2009

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    It's honestly the worst thing ever and I would never wish abuse upon my worst enemy. I can't take back this past year and a half and I regret it every day. It truly does suck. I...
    cak22 cak22 18-21, F Mar 31

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    I was sexually abused by my grandfather and his dog. I have looked on a lot of abuse sites but have never been able to find anyone else who was abuse by using an animal to do the...
    Veraspain Veraspain 16-17, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I was sexually abused by two of my brothers for four years. A hell that gave me nightmares. Still haunts me to this day.
    gr8love gr8love 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    My mom psychologically tortured me and my two older siblings growing up. She is an extremist Christian and has borderline personality disorder. She is not diagnosed by I am a...
    SilianRail SilianRail 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    My mom used to bully me, she used to hit me and call me fat. She made me do things that a child shouldn't have done.
    jimijmay jimijmay 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I've been through hell and back with this guy he's been in my life for almost 8 years now. He's done it all; cheat, mental abuse, physical abuse and lies after lies. I really want...
    Ireallycantsay Ireallycantsay 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    but looks like it's against the rules of this website to say anything about it.
    josieWhimWham josieWhimWham 41-45 2 Responses a week ago

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    This is something I have a hard time admitting and even though I have talked about the abuse to people I trust, I never let them know it was him. 10 years after the last incident...
    shierahawke88 shierahawke88 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    Meant for someone else, but not for me. Love was out to get me. That's the way it seemed. Disappointment haunted all my dreams... Then I saw his face. And now I'm a believer...
    ladypirate108 ladypirate108 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I was abused and I thank them all now because I know that no one can hurt me ever again I survived and I am stronger than anything that anyone can ever throw at me. if you were...
    trianglelakeboy trianglelakeboy 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    I have only told a few people during the last 24 years. The first time I told my cousin, and she told her Mom. I remember the night when my Mom received a call from her sister...
    pensacola123 pensacola123 36-40 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I feel like I've been abused by my brother he punches me tackles threatens me and then he makes me promise not to tell I don't know what to do please help me
    Halseyhope Halseyhope 13-15, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    When I was a child, I had an uncle that raped me over and over. I feared him, I was taken into a room as my pants was pulled down to my ankles and he forced himself inside me. I...
    Mark223 Mark223 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 3

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    I've been on this site now for a little while and am trying to create a support group for people who are working to cope with chronic pain in their spouse. This site would help...
    JustKeepSinging JustKeepSinging 26-30 Mar 31

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    I'd be glad if some patient soul would care to read and help me disentangle my thoughts... as to how these issues may be perceived..... If your spouse loves you but chooses to...
    nik7891 nik7891 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Everybody who I've told what she does to me says that she is abusive, but I'm still not sure. I know that she's narcissistic because in all the articles I read about it almost all...
    jules401 jules401 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    My husband of 19 years has always been difficult but I never suspected he may have Aspbergers until I had started therapy for myself to help me cope with a life I have lived since...
    artbabe artbabe 41-45, F Mar 25

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    My mom just told me the other day that I might have been sexually abused when I was 4. I was like, "What do you mean, "might" ? " She would drop me off at daycare when she went to...
    innerself000 innerself000 18-21 1 Response Apr 7

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    Oh Thank God Above that I have found this page!! Where were you 3 years ago when the box was opened and my husband's childhood came crashing in? I have read so many books and gone...
    JaneEllenB JaneEllenB 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Well I just want to post that some time has passed and I have learned a lot. First I wake up every morning and I love the person staring back at me. I have integrity and a life...
    Sugar973 Sugar973 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I've been sexually abused by my uncle and my grandfather both different days,thank god I wasnt raped, but there was a lot of fingering and as a little kid it hurt so bad,my uncle...
    Score16 Score16 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I was sexually abused by my step grandfather I mean I remember I was at least 6 years old. But who is to say he wasn't sexually abusing me since before then
    Reynastaxx Reynastaxx 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I was sexually abused by my older brother and was raped by my two cousin when I was a little girl from that day till now I wish I wasn't here in this world n I still wonder in...
    ezzyrock ezzyrock 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 30

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    my mom married 3 times. each guy treated her worse than the one before. the last one was my dad who abused her, his kids, her kids by previous marriages, and anyone else within...
    Transluminal2010 Transluminal2010 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I WAS AN ABUSED CHILD, but I was also led to be good. When I acted out in rage, my friend Jared, who was beaten so badly as a kid that he was emancipated at fifteen picked me up...
    raylynn24 raylynn24 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 9

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    Child abuse is not the way. When my Mom abused me I was very angry and sad and I don't know what was going through my messed up head but I wanted to have children just so they...
    Qwerkyqwerty Qwerkyqwerty 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    All through my childhood my mother abused me, physically, mentally and sexually. A lot of people never understand that a woman can sexually abuse a child but believe me there are...
    liberosis liberosis 41-45, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I posted a question hoping for genuine answers. But instead i got abused. What was the question? I'd rather not say. I'm not going through it again. I'm sure there's plenty of...
    thestranger89 thestranger89 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    The say sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt...I think Id rather get beaten with sticks and stones because words can pierce more than a two edged sword...
    auraboreale auraboreale 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I am actually curious and have more of a question regarding this topic. Why do people who have been sexually abused desire to be hurt in such a way again? Or why do they turn into...
    TheSimsWePlay TheSimsWePlay 22-25, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    GIVE but don't allow yourself to be used LOVE but don't allow your heart to be abused TRUST but don't be naive LISTEN to others but don't loose your own voice!!
    Sandyshaw13 Sandyshaw13 36-40, F a week ago

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    In complete denial....... Hello all. I have read many posts of yalls dealing with this issue. I came searching for answers and help/support because I feel very alone and scared. I...
    ashoryb ashoryb 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    We began as co-workers. He was married; I was 5-year's divorced and stable with my independence/schooling/future. Throughout my life, I've been more of a listener than a sharer...
    nowunderwatertime nowunderwatertime 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    We've been married for almost a year. I love this man with all my heart its been like a yo-yo all of our relationship after we got married he stopped caring about anything I've...
    thankgodimloved thankgodimloved 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    I have had an eventfull week. My roof leaked and I had to climb up and fix it as my partner was so off his head on crack. He disappeared and I tracked him with the GPS on his phone...
    winstonpeaky1 winstonpeaky1 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    In high school I was a great student. ignoring the fact that I was undocumented and focusing on my studies. My dream was to go to a big name conservatory and create music and art...
    Arieamarxus1 Arieamarxus1 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    My wife and I were married for just over a year and our son was just not even a year old when my wife became severely disabled from an anoxic brain injury. She was non responsive...
    tstanley2014 tstanley2014 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 30

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    15 years ago I met my husband, senior year of high school. I became pregnant with our oldest son 3 short months after we started dating (just after graduation). He was a raver...
    karieanne karieanne 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I thought I had a great relationship with my ex. We were together for fifteen years and had two children together. I was a happy at home dad that took care of the home and she was...
    fifteenyearslost fifteenyearslost 36-40, M Apr 2

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    Has anyone had a boyfriend, friend or spouse that does things that may cause triggering? How did you handle talking to them about it? As people can probably tell my other stories I...
    funsnowgal funsnowgal 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    i do can relate my situation right now and i don't know what to do.. it's almost 3weeks when he stepped out on our own house without even saying any words with our childrens...
    angelkish angelkish 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I'm at a crossroads now, as I have four young children with my husband of 8 years, who has undiagnosed Autism. I have always just given my husband his way. I thought I was just...
    GMetz34 GMetz34 31-35, F Mar 20

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    Hello. I wrote a post in July about me and my husbands spiraling issue. His issue. I am so scared/worried because not much has changed since my last post. Things have taken a turn...
    roxio1983 roxio1983 22-25, F Mar 21

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    3 years ago this May my husband fell over after a week of tests they found out he had a brain tumor that was crushing his brain stem. He had 2 surgeries, 7 cardiac arrests and...
    jenjen42 jenjen42 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    So many thoughts run thoughts and feelings my head for the past few weeks. So much insecurity is back. I feel like when we talk we get nowhere. Example...you were texting with...
    smurphette smurphette 31-35, F Mar 24

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    We have agreed to separate. He says he can't be faithful. I respect him for telling me. I knew for some time that he was seeing someone else. After the initial shock and after...
    Phat4Ever Phat4Ever 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 31

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