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I Was An Unwanted Child

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 112 People

    My Story

    I too, was an unwanted child.  My mother left home with a widowed man, not really knowing him more than a short time, to escape  her impoverished childhood in the deep south, in 1930, a desperate girl 20, looking to escape to a better life.  My father 40, whose beloved wife...
    karpinenjune1 karpinenjune1 70+ 2 Responses Nov 15, 2011

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    Curing The Dark Side In Me

       I was around 22 years old when I took my college degree. I felt a mixture of happiness and sadness -  my time has passed and  I thought that I am  the eldest among my batch but I was wrong, there were a few who are more older than I and there are those who are near my...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F Apr 12, 2012

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    The Underdog

    As an unwanted child I was not encourage to do my best. After primary education (elementary) I proceed to high school (secondary education). It is mandatory for any incoming high school students (in the school where I took my secondary education) to take an examination for the...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 27, 2012

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    I Was An Unwanted Child

    This is an issue that has had a huge impact on my life and the lives of other people I have talked to who also know they were unwanted/unplanned children. It's not like parents go around telling us they never wanted us to be born (although some may), but in my experience...
    Tenebra Tenebra 31-35, F 57 Responses Sep 1, 2009

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    Once An Unwanted Child Always An Unwanted Child......You Feel Unwanted In The World

    I was an unwanted child. My Parent's history reads like a horrible fiction novel. My Mother came to adolescence during WWII in Britain, she grew up in Plymouth which was a large Naval Port and also the last bit of land in Southern England, which was bombed heavily due to being a...
    StalwartRabbit StalwartRabbit 51-55 2 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    Miracle

    It took me a while to write this chapter of my life. Even until now it is hard for me to remember everything that had happen after the abortion of my baby. I just felt so sad like I lost an important part of me which could have made me whole. Moreover I was not able proceed with...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2012

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    Mother Teresa

    Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat. Mother Teresa 
    Behopefull Behopefull 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 21, 2011

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    Mom

    My mom was an accountant who knew that adopting a child woule get her son breakes...she realy didnt want me........and when she died she left all the money she had to somone who hated her.................The system didnt protect me......I hope its better now...................
    imani1965 imani1965 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 4, 2010

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    Unwanted Child, Now What Is Next

    So, my mother finally confesses to me about 9 months ago something that changed my life forever. She told me the her and my father never wanted me and tried to give me up for adoption. I'm not sure what happened on to why they kept me. She told me that they were going to be...
    odream odream 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    No Where To Go

    I always grew up feeling unwanted. I was born into one abusive home, taken away sent to foster homes, then adopted into another abusive home. I just couldn't seem to get a family that wanted me. Was it something I said, the way I looked or am I supposed to learn something I...
    me2plz me2plz 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 15, 2010

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    Visions Of Being Born

    In hypnotherapy, i had a vision of going through the birth canal and being born. The doctor said "It's a boy" and in the vision, Dad is embracing me warmly, Doctor is signing the paperwork and my birth mother is turning her head in disgust, having wanted nothing but girls. She...
    astounded1088 astounded1088 31-35, M May 7, 2012

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    I Feel Not Worthy

    How could I learn to live a normal life or a life that is possible for me to nurture my mental health?  I grow up knowing that I am an unwanted child. I was often encourage to think of myself as a person not worthy to be love, cared and accepted. At school I did not do my best...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 26, 2012

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    Don't Kill Me.. I Am A Hero! - stop abortion!

    I Am belong to 6billion unwanted child. My mother tried to abort me, he takes all kinds of herbal and drugs, sliding in the stair and punching her womb just to abort me.. but the Lord preserve my life. He allow me to be born, but my life become misery...  my lips is misaligned...
    dennasto dennasto 36-40 1 Response Nov 9, 2011

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    I Feel Like An Accident

    I've known I was an unplanned pregnancy for a long time now, and that my parents only stayed together because of me, but it was a loveless marriage and I think that's affected my out-look at relationships. However, last night I overheard my dad and his girlfriend (who I don...
    onlyalone onlyalone 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 30, 2010

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    I Need To Blame Someone

    Ok, the fact is i'm unwanted, so sad but true, happen on me. I'm born from a secret wife, oncemore, it's hurt me deeply, can u ever imagin live with step mother and her children who hate you so much, torture,abbusive words, and i must live with. they treat me so bad, even for...
    fallenfromthesky fallenfromthesky 22-25, F 13 Responses Dec 3, 2009

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    Teenagers

    My mother's pregnancy was exactly the type of pregnancy that should have ended in abortion. This isn't something I say lightly. Neither my mother nor my father were fit to be parents in any way, shape, or form. My father was a 17, had a scholarship for college, was a rodeo buff...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    Unsaid Thoughts

    i was unwanted child. they never plan me. after my mom gave birth to my brother 11 months later she gave birth me. at first my mom thought they are joking that shes pregnant, not just that 5 days after my birth my grandpa died because of me. i know in my mom's side they don't...
    Charlotte31 Charlotte31 18-21, F Jul 25, 2013

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    Help! I Am An Unwanted Child,abused And Abandoned By A Family

    I AM A HUMAN BEING, I GOT FEELINGS JUST LIKE YOU DO AND I AM VERY TIRED OF BEING PUNISHED BY THIS FAMILY I am writing this letter because there was a 1985 Chevy van tan in color and the plates on the vehicle number was WI this happened in Milwaukee, Wisconsin in spring 2001 and...
    charl10 charl10 51-55, F 1 Response Apr 6, 2012

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    A Change Of Path

         A few days after I graduated from high school our family had a get together one of the agenda was to tell me what their plan for me was. My sister (the eldest among the siblings) said that they are willing to let me live in their house as long as I took care of it. The...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    I am a part of the unwanted club.

    .I was a surprise times two. From the time the test turned that unlucky color and that meant a trip to the scrape and slide and now...Now I'm just an unlucky mistake alone and alone I come to the surprise of none but one. Into the world I come...another unwanted one.
    khewster khewster 36-40, F Oct 9

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    My Mother Saw Me As "punishment"

    I was conceived in the back seat of a car to unmarried parents in the early 1960s. My mother, therefore, "had to get married" and since her marriage was never good (both my parents are very dysfunctional people), she pretty much blamed me for forcing her into it. From the day I...
    Existentiality Existentiality 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 9, 2012

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    Unloved

    In my dream,  I was in our old house. I go inside my room which in my dream becomes my mother's room. She have a big cabinet,  I open it and saw her things and mine. In my dreams my mother died a day before (in reality she died many years ago).  In my dream I saw a vision of...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 24, 2012

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    I was not planned & was told

    if I were a boy I wouldn't be here today. Although being a girl didn't make my life oh so perfect either. Every girl grows up to realise their mother was the best friend they've always had. Not me. My life has been full of arguments and mental pain. I have always hid my...
    ashxo12 ashxo12 18-21, F 3 Responses May 1

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    Hey. I'm a long time lurker. I don't know how to say this but I was a victim when I was 5 and again when was 11. I don't know if I can type out the stories that happened yet so i...
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    i mean.. sometimes people just totally blank me out. i try for people all the time, i try my best to not leave them out and treat them with kindness, and it's like nobody even...
    alliixxxx alliixxxx 13-15, F Dec 7

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