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I Was An Unwanted Child

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    My Mother Saw Me As "punishment"

    I was conceived in the back seat of a car to unmarried parents in the early 1960s. My mother, therefore, "had to get married" and since her marriage was never good (both my parents are very dysfunctional people), she pretty much blamed me for forcing her into it. From the day I...
    Existentiality Existentiality 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 9, 2012

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    Don't Kill Me.. I Am A Hero! - stop abortion!

    I Am belong to 6billion unwanted child. My mother tried to abort me, he takes all kinds of herbal and drugs, sliding in the stair and punching her womb just to abort me.. but the Lord preserve my life. He allow me to be born, but my life become misery...  my lips is misaligned...
    dennasto dennasto 36-40 1 Response Nov 9, 2011

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    Help! I Am An Unwanted Child,abused And Abandoned By A Family

    I AM A HUMAN BEING, I GOT FEELINGS JUST LIKE YOU DO AND I AM VERY TIRED OF BEING PUNISHED BY THIS FAMILY I am writing this letter because there was a 1985 Chevy van tan in color and the plates on the vehicle number was WI this happened in Milwaukee, Wisconsin in spring 2001 and...
    charl10 charl10 51-55, F 1 Response Apr 6, 2012

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    Unsaid Thoughts

    i was unwanted child. they never plan me. after my mom gave birth to my brother 11 months later she gave birth me. at first my mom thought they are joking that shes pregnant, not just that 5 days after my birth my grandpa died because of me. i know in my mom's side they don't...
    Charlotte31 Charlotte31 18-21, F Jul 25, 2013

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    I Was An Unwanted Child

    This is an issue that has had a huge impact on my life and the lives of other people I have talked to who also know they were unwanted/unplanned children. It's not like parents go around telling us they never wanted us to be born (although some may), but in my experience...
    Tenebra Tenebra 31-35, F 56 Responses Sep 1, 2009

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    The Underdog

    As an unwanted child I was not encourage to do my best. After primary education (elementary) I proceed to high school (secondary education). It is mandatory for any incoming high school students (in the school where I took my secondary education) to take an examination for the...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 27, 2012

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    Curing The Dark Side In Me

       I was around 22 years old when I took my college degree. I felt a mixture of happiness and sadness -  my time has passed and  I thought that I am  the eldest among my batch but I was wrong, there were a few who are more older than I and there are those who are near my...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F Apr 12, 2012

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    I Feel Like An Accident

    I've known I was an unplanned pregnancy for a long time now, and that my parents only stayed together because of me, but it was a loveless marriage and I think that's affected my out-look at relationships. However, last night I overheard my dad and his girlfriend (who I don...
    onlyalone onlyalone 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 30, 2010

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    I was not planned & was told

    if I were a boy I wouldn't be here today. Although being a girl didn't make my life oh so perfect either. Every girl grows up to realise their mother was the best friend they've always had. Not me. My life has been full of arguments and mental pain. I have always hid my...
    ashxo12 ashxo12 18-21, F 3 Responses May 1

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    Unloved

    In my dream,  I was in our old house. I go inside my room which in my dream becomes my mother's room. She have a big cabinet,  I open it and saw her things and mine. In my dreams my mother died a day before (in reality she died many years ago).  In my dream I saw a vision of...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 24, 2012

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    Mother Teresa

    Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat. Mother Teresa 
    Behopefull Behopefull 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 21, 2011

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    Unwanted Child, Now What Is Next

    So, my mother finally confesses to me about 9 months ago something that changed my life forever. She told me the her and my father never wanted me and tried to give me up for adoption. I'm not sure what happened on to why they kept me. She told me that they were going to be...
    odream odream 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    No Where To Go

    I always grew up feeling unwanted. I was born into one abusive home, taken away sent to foster homes, then adopted into another abusive home. I just couldn't seem to get a family that wanted me. Was it something I said, the way I looked or am I supposed to learn something I...
    me2plz me2plz 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 15, 2010

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    Miracle

    It took me a while to write this chapter of my life. Even until now it is hard for me to remember everything that had happen after the abortion of my baby. I just felt so sad like I lost an important part of me which could have made me whole. Moreover I was not able proceed with...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2012

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    Visions Of Being Born

    In hypnotherapy, i had a vision of going through the birth canal and being born. The doctor said "It's a boy" and in the vision, Dad is embracing me warmly, Doctor is signing the paperwork and my birth mother is turning her head in disgust, having wanted nothing but girls. She...
    astounded1088 astounded1088 31-35, M May 7, 2012

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    Teenagers

    My mother's pregnancy was exactly the type of pregnancy that should have ended in abortion. This isn't something I say lightly. Neither my mother nor my father were fit to be parents in any way, shape, or form. My father was a 17, had a scholarship for college, was a rodeo buff...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    A Change Of Path

         A few days after I graduated from high school our family had a get together one of the agenda was to tell me what their plan for me was. My sister (the eldest among the siblings) said that they are willing to let me live in their house as long as I took care of it. The...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    I Feel Not Worthy

    How could I learn to live a normal life or a life that is possible for me to nurture my mental health?  I grow up knowing that I am an unwanted child. I was often encourage to think of myself as a person not worthy to be love, cared and accepted. At school I did not do my best...
    robelinadevina robelinadevina 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 26, 2012

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    Once An Unwanted Child Always An Unwanted Child......You Feel Unwanted In The World

    I was an unwanted child. My Parent's history reads like a horrible fiction novel. My Mother came to adolescence during WWII in Britain, she grew up in Plymouth which was a large Naval Port and also the last bit of land in Southern England, which was bombed heavily due to being a...
    StalwartRabbit StalwartRabbit 51-55 2 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    My Story

    I too, was an unwanted child.  My mother left home with a widowed man, not really knowing him more than a short time, to escape  her impoverished childhood in the deep south, in 1930, a desperate girl 20, looking to escape to a better life.  My father 40, whose beloved wife...
    karpinenjune1 karpinenjune1 70+ 2 Responses Nov 15, 2011

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    Mom

    My mom was an accountant who knew that adopting a child woule get her son breakes...she realy didnt want me........and when she died she left all the money she had to somone who hated her.................The system didnt protect me......I hope its better now...................
    imani1965 imani1965 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 4, 2010

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    I Need To Blame Someone

    Ok, the fact is i'm unwanted, so sad but true, happen on me. I'm born from a secret wife, oncemore, it's hurt me deeply, can u ever imagin live with step mother and her children who hate you so much, torture,abbusive words, and i must live with. they treat me so bad, even for...
    fallenfromthesky fallenfromthesky 22-25, F 13 Responses Dec 3, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    My mother had 7 children. She lost 6 and I was left with her because I was a baby, Idk how that worked out but it happened. My siblings had terrible lives. Some were adopted early...
    BOJ1988 BOJ1988 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    Mother didn't raise any wimps. Kidzone in Fort Sill Oklahoma...now THAT was the children's paradise! It looks so gigantic in my mind, but that's probably because I was so much...
    1stepforward3shovesback 1stepforward3shovesback 16-17, M Sep 2

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    Hello everyone. You may call me discipline :) I don't want to give away my real name until I have gotten to know you all better personally, anyway. Back on topic. I have never been...
    Disciplining Disciplining 13-15, F 9 Responses Sep 6

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    Hello everyone. You may call me discipline :) I don't want to give away my real name until I have gotten to know you all better personally, anyway. Back on topic. I have never been...
    Disciplining Disciplining 13-15, F 5 Responses Sep 6

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    I tried to go to a church group once, to talk about what happened. I hadn't talked about it since I was a child. I sat and listened to others but said nothing. It was like I was...
    SleeplessNites SleeplessNites 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 3

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    I need some help now.. really I was a victim of emotional abuse. My father never ceased to criticise me, underestimate me, hated me, told me i am good for nothing . (if you are...
    ShadowlessSoul ShadowlessSoul 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I used to have this dream. A haze of white and gold covering everything the entire "video" of what was happening. When I was young this dream happened a lot and I would wake...
    Astelmarie Astelmarie 18-21, F Aug 26

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    When you live in a small town, you don't think about someone harming you...Everyone knows everybody, people are either very charming, reserved, or just take everyone for granted..I...
    prettyface1 prettyface1 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    I was touched and stuff when I was a child and it's done something me I think. Growing up I felt the urge to touch other younger to me and do things with them, and I was oblivious...
    theycallmeharry theycallmeharry 22-25, M Sep 1

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    I remember a bright green, absolutely inhuman light outside my window and illuminating my room one night when I was a child.
    portal3 portal3 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I was abandoned in the hospital where I was born, became a ward of the state and foster child. I was adopted at six months to replace the family's stillborn female infant. The...
    MalloryMel MalloryMel 41-45, F Sep 5

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    22 Alternatives to Punishment by Jan Hunt -- The Natural Child Project Many parents recognize the harmful effects of physical and verbal punishment. They know that yelling...
    findmeholdmeloveme findmeholdmeloveme 18-21 5 Responses Sep 1

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    I feel unwanted because no one seems to notice me. I just deleted my profile on a dating site because no one bothered to message me or even message me back. I have been hurt...
    redphoenix02 redphoenix02 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I said I was lonely. I said, I wish we could talk. I opened my heart, made myself vulnerable. U came home at 2:30 in the morning to flop on the couch and sleep. I spent my night in...
    SummerChristmas SummerChristmas 36-40, F Aug 31

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    It's not because I'm single it's just i feel so unwanted I don't want to feel like this and I dot know why I do feel like this, I'm so lost, but I have found that when I'm laying...
    gabichal gabichal 13-15, F Aug 26

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    I'm sitting with my two oldest friends. I brought Malibu coconut rum, because they wanted it, but I'm the only one drinking it and I'm getting really bad vibes and an awful gut...
    onceafunnything onceafunnything 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 6

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    I will like to share a bit of my school years. Back when I was at the shool I was very skinny and very slim. Typical like most stories most guys called me nicknames like: "the...
    ClaudiaSUN ClaudiaSUN 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 3

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    All I've ever wanted since I was 12 was to be happily married and have a family. But through the years all I've seemed to find is players and ppl who treat me like crap. Is...
    markieb1968 markieb1968 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 28

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    Sometimes I just feel like I'm a waste of everyone's time and that no one wants to give me a chance to show that I can love. Unconditionally.
    rayray87 rayray87 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    'If You Love Someone with Alcoholic Parents' It's a great article by a blogger Amy Eden and all credit goes to her, absolutely, I don't mean to steal it, just to share because it...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 6

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    Just recently I began researching on middle child traits. I've found out that middle child syndrome is very real and it's not only me who suffers from it. Growing up, I have...
    123eat 123eat 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    I recently attended a concert with a family I am friends with. While we were there waiting for it to start some volunteers from Compassion International were walking around trying...
    DaniMacDoo DaniMacDoo 18-21, F Aug 29

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    I'm 62 - I now hear how many grandkids? At 23, I was seeing a fertility specialist and was told I can not have children. OK, we'll adopt. No problem. In fact, childlessness...
    GreyLadyBird GreyLadyBird 61-65 Aug 30

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    I dreamt of being a mom as far back as I can remember. My dad had decided I was going to college and I was going, but I wanted to be a mom too.I can remember that I wanted twins. A...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 16 Responses Sep 2

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    I have a friend, who I will call Melissa (not her real name) who has more than her share of challenges in life. I have known her most of my life as we attended the same grade...
    ginger1979 ginger1979 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Yemeni child bride, eight, dies of internal injuries on first night of forced marriage to groom five times her age ByMatt Blake Published: 19:20 AEST, 9 September 2013 | Updated...
    Ilovechildrenlots Ilovechildrenlots 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    4.5 yrs ago my husband of 12 yrs left me and our 3 kids for another woman. It was New Yrs and as I sat at home with our then 6 yr old daughter and 9 mo. Old twin boys I received a...
    strongerbytheday strongerbytheday 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 20

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