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I Was Disowned By My Family

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    They broke my heart, they left me to die on the

    streets, and they told me I was worthless everyday. The part that really hurts, is they were right the whole time.
    zoezatara zoezatara 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    I found this form and wanted to share my

    experience, I honestly don't have anyone to talk to.. and just wanted to be understood for a min. I am 26 years old now and has been disowned by my family 3 years ago. The reason why, is because I am lesbian and had chosen to live like that with my partner. When my family...
    AAlD AAlD 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I have been disowned by my mothers side of my

    family. Her mom and dad, my grandparents, were the most amazing people. They had four children, 3 boys and 1 girl, my mom. The family was very close and shared many happy times together. Not one missed Christmas birthday holiday etc. My mother went outside the family's beliefs...
    madkins madkins 31-35, F Dec 11, 2013

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    My Childhood

    I just woke up after seeing my boyfriend off to work, tried to lay down and go back to sleep and all I can think about is my mother and her having destroyed me mentally from her verbal and emotional abuse. As far as i can remember my mother wanted nothing to do with me. She was...
    TayloreTye TayloreTye 18-21, F 4 Responses May 10, 2013

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    Father's Family-My 17 year old brother murdered

    our parents in 2006 and set our apartment on fire because he was mad that our father hit him. He then woke our sister and I and led us outside like nothing was wrong. No one in our father's family will believe he did it though he's sitting in a French prison for it and disowned...
    BlackMoroccan BlackMoroccan 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 19

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    Disowned By My Friend Of 31 Years

    Yesterday I received a letter from Kate, my Southern Baptist friend, telling me that she has to distance herself from me now because I am in rebellion against God.  I met Kate in Birmingham, Alabama, 31 years ago when Mark entered the surgeon’s assistant program there...
    evanlaeys evanlaeys 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 12, 2009

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    I still live with them,

    but I've lived apart from them for years. Ever since I was 14 I've been threatened with being kicked out of the house every few months. It gets to the point where I'm moving the things and they forgive me.im 19 and have been gone for 6 months for basic training and army AIT...
    noahjoah123 noahjoah123 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    My experience is one

    that both came as a shock, and in some weird way, a confirmation of the fears I've always had regarding my parents and their conditional love of me. I've always been the "good girl" of the family. I'm the oldest of three children and the only daughter. I've always gotten good...
    Kaleesto Kaleesto 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    My family just turned on me

    and shut me out. I never did anything but I guess to them I did
    linaamro linaamro 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    It wasnt me personally

    who was disowned it was my mom, but in turn since i am her daughter my grandma no longer talks to me. The reason this happened is because my mom after a seventeen year marriage decided to end it with my dad. Thats not really what triggered it though my grandma was pretty mad...
    Pinkcatapult Pinkcatapult 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Finding My Own Value After Being Disowned By My Sisters

    Since the earliest time I could remember, my older sister didn't really much care for me. She and my younger sister were, and are now, good friends. I was the kid in the middle. When we were growing up, I didn't get the seat by the window. I was called names instead of my...
    songwriter61 songwriter61 51-55, F 6 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    My Mother...

    The interesting thing about families is that they can be functional or dysfunctional, just like any other relationship. Within those families, there are many different point of views on many different subjects. Usually in a family, the children look up to their parents for help...
    CastingShadows CastingShadows 18-21, F 14 Responses Aug 2, 2011

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    Mom Turned Family Against Me For No Reason

    I used to have a family and was very involved with them. My parents and I used to always go on trips, outings, or watch CSI together. My aunts and uncles would have us over for BBQs, and we would always talk and laugh about stuff. We would always have a thanksgiving dinner...
    cmfrecke cmfrecke 18-21 37 Responses Jul 31, 2010

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    Yes and I Have Dis...

    Yes and i have disowned them just about 10 days ago. It hurts like hell,  because for some STUPID reason i still love them BUT they will not DESTROY my life anymore NOR will they get their ugly, abusive hands or minds on my wounderous children!!
    AlwaysRemembers AlwaysRemembers 41-45, F 1 Response May 3, 2007

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    Losing a Family

    I was married for 15 years, had 4 kids, and a nice home... we had it all, that was until Sep 22, 2005 when my husband passed away. He was fine, in great health, but his heart gave way. I stayed at the hospital with him every minute until they pulled the plug.  At the time...
    icepinkbabe icepinkbabe 41-45, F 44 Responses Mar 29, 2006

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    Isolated

    Sadly, I lost my husband 17th June 2008 after 35 years of marriage. I then lost my dad February 2009.  I am 55 years old.  Much of my childhood and sadly much of my marriage has revolved around alcohol.  I would not describe my relationship with my mum as...
    shadow111 shadow111 51-55, F 4 Responses May 23, 2009

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    Don't Need Ungreatful People In My Life

    actually i disowned my family - my wife and i were young when we got together and my family just couldn't accept my love for my wife to-be and they would always belittle her and try to figure way to make us break up, but it never worked, they would always tell me to take her back...
    footless footless 66-70, M 13 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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    BPD Mother, Peacekeeper Father...Boundaries Were The Last Straw.

    My story is kind of long so bear with me. I decided to set boundaries today with my parents...my mother is most definitely BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and my father is the ignorant peacekeeper in the family. My older brother has most recently decided to support my...
    renae0027 renae0027 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2013

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    My Sisters Hate Me

    Both of my sisters have stopped speaking to me since I lost my job and moved back in with our mother. I made overtures to both of them to be friendly, asked what I had done to offend them and basically turned myself inside out trying to reconcile with them. My mother concluded...
    HeadHeldHigh HeadHeldHigh 46-50, F 14 Responses May 17, 2011

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    Family Disowned Me Because I Broke Law.

    A few months back I committed a crime, only now 5 months later did it come out. Anyways the crime involved a family member and now it feels like I have nobody. Im looking to move out soon because it also feelslike me and my mum are drifting apart, out of all the family she's...
    IHelpUUHelpMe IHelpUUHelpMe 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 16, 2013

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    I don't know what I did,

    but my family isn't my family. And it sucks.
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    Me, Too...

    I told the truth about a horrible, abusive situation, and was forever shunned for my "courage".  *It is a hard thing -  to do what you feel to be right, and then to get "kicked in the teeth" for it.  And, yes, knowing that I did the right...
    JusDifferent JusDifferent 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 30, 2007

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    Disowed At Daddy'S Funeral

    My mother didn't even call and tell me daddy had died. I found out 9 days later through my best friend. Who told me my mother, sister and brother didn't want me there. Well I went any way! After all that was my Daddy! Adopted at 3 months he always loved me as his own. My mother...
    brisgirl20 brisgirl20 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 7, 2013

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    Whole Family Annihilated

    I've been disowned by my entire family.  My mother abused me sexually until she figured out I was old enough to know what she was doing was wrong.  Both parents mentally and emotionally abused me frequently. I remember one time specifically when I got the courage up to...
    Theeb Theeb 26-30 4 Responses Mar 11, 2008

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    I Would Cry and Cry If I We...

    I would cry and cry if I were and remembered it vividly. But if I don't remember it much, then... Well, given my present self, I'd just bounce back up, and start over, I mean, it isn't my fault they lost someone as great as me. ^ ^ And I'd try to find them, and love them!!
    Melia1992 Melia1992 16-18, F 2 Responses May 3, 2007

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    I am 18 years old and currently a senior in

    high school. My parents kicked me out because they didn't like my boyfriend. I got kicked out last year when I was 17 but they let me come home. It's been 3 months, I suffer from bipolar disorder so this has all been very hard. I'm still looking for a job and trying to graduate...
    Rachaelannee Rachaelannee 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    When I was young my mother left me.

    Growing up I surrounded myself around my two girl cousins, who were young and bad influences, to have that "older female role model in my life. Then they went on about their bad ways and I found comfort in my aunt. She was the youngest of six kids (11 year difference), and she...
    ohmyele717 ohmyele717 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 6

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    Gay Orphan

    I'm a 29 year old gay man who enjoys a wonderful relationship with my husband of five years. I'm Australian, and grew up in a country town in rural Australia. I had a Christian upbringing with an extremely 'involved' Mother who did everything for us, but also demanded total...
    DrPete DrPete 26-30, M 8 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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    They didn't say this outright,

    but my mom Basically ignores me all the time, she even says things out loud meant to let me Know that she doesn't care, my siblings all take her side because she's the mother of course. They don't know about the things she's said to me. I'm only staying with them because my dad...
    defiantheart defiantheart 26-30, F Jan 5

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    Disowned Or Tough Love

    Well, this story is about one of my close family members. To be honest my 18 year old little sister. It all starts like this; my little sister has been dating this guy since she graduated high school. The guy is (from what sources say) about 14 years older than her. Well she...
    lortricez lortricez 22-25, F Apr 9, 2013

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    No Reason

    I am an only child and thought I came from a loving extended family. Looking back I now realize that I was never really part of it. I am a quiet straight laced individual. I haveaccept everyone and do all I can to be caring and maintain harmonious relationships. I wear my heart...
    ragdoll811 ragdoll811 46-50 1 Response Apr 11, 2013

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    Jacked!!!

    I met my dad when I was 13. I lived in hell for 3 years watching him beat my sisters and Letting my step mom beat me. It got so bad i ran away. They got me back but my senior year in Hugh school i moved back in with my mom. I joined the air force in 2000. My dad and i were always...
    gillax gillax 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    Young

    I was the unwanted Child, yet daddys favorite. A secret got out. Daddy cheated Mommy went to rehab. 2 girls left alone. Sister slashed her wrists, and then moved away Parents got divorced Daddy got a new family, threw out the trash (his daughter) Mommy got into drugs more, and...
    PlaygirlSiNeR PlaygirlSiNeR 18-21, F 17 Responses Jun 19, 2012

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    My Sisters Have Disowned Me....

    I have been crying for the past few days now because my sisters have disowned me, over a very trivial thing. I must say that while i was a child, i wasnt a very nice sister, being the eldest and being blamed for absolutely everything didnt help. I just had a bad temper but...
    jaxcy jaxcy 41-45, F Jun 9, 2013

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    Family Shunning And Disownment

    DISOWNMENT and SHUNNING is psychological torture. It is relational aggression, serial bullying and psychic murder.   Rejected wolves die out of the pack.  The rejectee feels like he's/she's suffocating and withering:  Here's my story. My two sisters were 12 and fourteen years...
    mariacivetta mariacivetta 61-65, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    My Sister Disowned Me

    Since my parents have both died my sister is the only family I have here in Ohio. She is 44 and I am 45 and we have never been really close. In October my son beat the hell out of me and my sister blames me for it. I showed her pics of my face and I can remember the exact words...
    Paige42986 Paige42986 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    On the 22nd of December I met a Girl

    who I am currently dating. After my 18th birthday I came out to my Parents. They did not take it well. I decided it was time for me to leave. I moved in with my best friends family. When I went to pick up the last of my stuff, My dad looked at me and told me that I was the sole...
    oniwolf3 oniwolf3 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    My family are very religious

    so divorce was out of the question. After I left my ex my family wanted nothing more to do with me! Very hurtful and it took a while to move on from it but I have an amazing bunch of people around me now and see myself very blessed.
    formieyesonly formieyesonly 41-45, F 13 Responses May 29

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    My Story

    I always remembered growing up in a dysfunctional family. My parents separated when I was five. And when my dad remarried 20 months later, he wasn't around much. When I was twelve, my mum's partner molested me - although it only happened once, it was a horrible experience. I told...
    Zeekoo Zeekoo 22-25 Oct 27, 2013

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    Pepper Sprayed While Pregnant

    Back story: My sisters have not talked to me since my wedding several months ago. They did not show up and talked **** to family members and friends. I have talked more about this in other notes, if you wanna check it out. But it was based on me becoming a step mother which they...
    cellogal cellogal 26-30, F Oct 28, 2013

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    Being A Lesbian

    I now have no family they want nothing to do with me they called me a mistake said I was wrong I feel to guilty to be happy. my low self-esteem already makes me want to scream and bleed now this
    Applelovergod Applelovergod 22-25 2 Responses Sep 1, 2013

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    She Died No Forgiveness Now

    Last fall my mother died without forgiving me. It's a somewhat complex story. It started in 2002. My mom had come down to help me and live with me in 1999 when I got divorced from my husband. I had 3 great young kids and needed the help. It was great for the first couple of...
    dlmarshall dlmarshall 46-50 7 Responses Mar 17, 2011

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    Disowned For Love

    I am 22 years old, two semesters away from graduating with my RN. I am currently 36 weeks pregnant. I was on birth control when I conceived, and although the timing was inconvenient, I was overjoyed. I've always wanted to be a mother. When I told the father, he asked me to have...
    xlorna xlorna 22-25, F 10 Responses May 12, 2012

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    I've been in an interracial relationship

    for several months with a man I work with. I'd liked him for almost a year before we started dating and became close friends during the course of my crush on him. My family later found out I was in an interracial relationship; with my father being an Indian single parent, he...
    benijones benijones 18-21, F Dec 2, 2013

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    I'm Alone

    I sent my dad and brother a text message last week. I'm going to spend the week of Christmas in Southern GA where my family live. I wanted to let them know I'd be around. My brother who I would (still) take a bullet for sent me the following FB msg: "Unless you're hurt or in...
    Derangedjdub Derangedjdub 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    My Grandmother Disowned Her Eldest Son, Not His Eldest Children

    My grandmother risked EVERYTHING to give life to my father. It was the 1970s in Kabul, Afghanistan. How good do you think the illegitimate child of a 14 year old prostitute was recieved? Horrible! Firzhan was a harami, a bastord&it was almost certain that his unknown father was a...
    IndigotheWanderer IndigotheWanderer 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2013

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    A Part Of My Story.

    Born and raised in Hawaii I lived a great life up until now. This is actually really painful to reflect on and I've been doing everything in my power to avoid it but ultimately I have to face reality and this is my way of doing that. I was one of those goody two shoes girls who...
    gmichele0 gmichele0 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2013

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    My homophobic family had found out about my

    bisexuality and I got disowned.
    LilithAbney LilithAbney 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 18

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    My Family Is Extremely Well Off And They Disowned Me. Im Homeless Jobless Now And Have No Friends The Old Ones Were So Called Friends...

     My life was once great. I stayed with my father and was extremely fortunate. Had a nice vehicle drivers license dadada. Good looking g/f z etc, etc... Well when I turned 17 I started smoking weed and hanging out with the wrong ppl. I made some bad decsions. Lost my license...
    enzo1052001 enzo1052001 26-30, M 5 Responses Jul 9, 2010

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    I was a pk in a very religious church.

    I had to be perfect, but I was never quite sure what that meant. So I followed every rule, did every religious thing, got straight A's (then scholarships and more straight A's), married a Christian man, had 10 kids, homeschooled (by now I was following EVERYONE's rules), and on...
    7boyz3girlz 7boyz3girlz 46-50 Jul 15

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    She won't talk to me. And she's dying. Recently she had surgery on her feet and she just got ran over while she was riding on her motorcycle. She still has other surgeries that she...
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    I'm the oldest child in my family, 32 years old now. As long as I can remember I have always felt abnormal, and could never understand how my friends were able to be sole...
    ladybutterfly82 ladybutterfly82 31-35, F Jun 29

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    I can't stand my family.. Since I was young my real dad left when I was young I don't even know who he is and my mother she never gives me the time of day, when my step dad and...
    Arwenlethena Arwenlethena 22-25, F Jul 14

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