I Was Emotionally Abused As a Child

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    Mom was a textbook narcissist

    and dad had a violent temper. They both screwed with our heads and manipulated us. Now we've all got trust issues.
    utahwriter utahwriter
    41-45, M
    1 Response Apr 24, 2014

    My dad did not like me much,

    i just did not always listen i guess. He would say stuff about me and my little brother and i could never keep my mouth shut at least that's how it started. Then he was fired and started drinking. it just got worse and worse. he never really hit me put he wold push me around...
    JadenWinters JadenWinters
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 15, 2014

    Not 5 minutes ago, I had a glass of milk

    leaving a half a gallon for my little brother. My mother walks in and says : "Are you F***ing kidding me, you're so selfish, I just want to scream at you right now. I'm so furious.!" My brother is the center of attention in the house and she pushed me aside to please her...
    xxNekoxx xxNekoxx
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Nov 17, 2015

    Outside Forces

    Let me start by saying that my parents were not bad, just clueless. My abuse started with my brother, 10 yrs older than me, and my sister 7yrs older than me. They both hated me. First I came so much later than them, if that wasn't enough, I was born with a lot of health issues...
    AcerDeville AcerDeville
    41-45, M
    Oct 14, 2013

    Anger is not something to be ashamed of.

    Anger is a natural response to injustice and can help break the cycle of abuse. Anger is a crucial part of recovery. Two weeks ago on 7/31/2015, I finally put the pieces together, saw the actions for what they were and realized my mother is not only a victim of a Narcissist...
    wowodeals wowodeals
    31-35, F
    Aug 15, 2015


    this is not a subject i like to talk about,but my dad was very abusive when he drank and there was physical abuse in later years, i don,t have much to sayabout it only that i am glad it is over.     cattlemoose
    mycuzinvinni mycuzinvinni
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2009

    It Never Ends.

    My first memory of being emotionally abused by my mother was when I was seven years old and I was in our front yard with our neighbors children, we were all girls in our bathing suits playing under the sprinkler. We had these plastic eggs that you could split in half that we were...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 14, 2013

    Hello, EP. How are you?

    I know I haven't posted since my arrival earlier this week. But I'll tell you why. You see, even as I try to pretend that everything is normal and status quo in my household, (for my own stability), I find myself slammed by the reality when I take the headphones off. And when...
    ArchSeven327 ArchSeven327
    18-21, M
    Mar 22, 2014

    I was abused in this way by my adopted father

    when I was really young and developed a mental illness because of it . I hid the effects of it for years until I went downhill and now am on disability due to those awful experiences
    4k5dii 4k5dii
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2014


    oh, i am so angry. oh, how could you. oh, i tried so hard to keep the last amount of everything i had so safe, while you ripped and tore at me. the only word that would describe your cruel punishing love- is hate. you must've so hated me. there's no other explanation for it...
    Cinderelly Cinderelly
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Sep 1, 2007

    Slow Dawning

    My parents always provided healthy meals a stimulating mental environment, shelter, education. They only hit me a few times, mostly when I was very small. Part of me wants to repeat the family line "they were great parents," "we were the perfect family" but I am afraid that if...
    anonymouses12 anonymouses12
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 9, 2013

    Emotional mixed with Mental.

    Six years of this. My bio-father hated that my mother divorced him, used her children as tools against her. He has ruined her good name, and still tries to get at her to this day. I wanted to be with my mum, but he would always say how horrible she was and that she never cared...
    SilverSerphant SilverSerphant
    18-21, F
    Dec 13, 2014

    Just A Knock To My Self Confidence...

    So just another story of how a child was made to feel worthless through a series of actions and comments that played on the mind. It sickens me to read so many stories of people who grew up in a childhood where they 'weren't good enough'. Because i don't think thats ever true...
    LunaWolff LunaWolff
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 25, 2012

    How can ppl joke about pedophiles preying on

    kids? I don't get it. It's not funny.
    xm6700 xm6700
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 30, 2014

    I'm 19 And I Didn't Know I Was Emotionally Abused Until College.

    My mother has bipolar. When I was very young, she was undergoing bipolar and menopause at the same time. I did not know until I was older why she acted so inconsistently towards me. I was terrified of my father until I was in college. I did not know when either of them would lash...
    tjton tjton
    9 Responses Feb 19, 2012

    OK, this might seem trivial to most people.

    I am a little embarrassed to say anything. but I used to get angry sometimes when I was young, which is perfectly normal. But I would really express myself loudly and explicitly. So much so that you would say I was "freaking out". I was about 6 and very emotional and easily...
    PinkHeartCrystals PinkHeartCrystals
    41-45, F
    May 18, 2015

    i realized how deadly emotional abuse was

    when i got older...my whole life it was normal to me... my family all talked to eachother in ugly ways......my father was very verbally abusive to my mother and to me and still is till this day .....i was always just told i was the sensitive denfensive one so i hated myself as a...
    warriormom89 warriormom89
    26-30, F
    Feb 18, 2014

    I saw this article today

    and thought I would share it: http://www.alternet.org/personal-health/when-parents-still-abuse-their-adult-children
    Soulseeker80 Soulseeker80
    31-35, F
    Oct 12, 2015

    Living With Fear

    I want to preface this. I came from an upper middle class family. My mother was extremely beautiful and talented performer. My father was a very successful businessman. I am a "professional success", and if you saw me, you would never, ever think this happened to me. You would...
    mljs58 mljs58
    1 Response May 20, 2013

    it was my mom that did this to me.

    for that reason i hate for it and i have no reason to love her.
    jsmith19941978 jsmith19941978
    36-40, M
    1 Response Oct 27, 2015

    Mentally Abused For Years

    No one in my family was allowed to acknowledge me or talk to me when i was young. I was extremely lonely and isolated. My grandmother moved in when my father was sent to prison to "help" my mom, thats when my nightmare began. My grandmother had major issues with my personality...
    anglinapie anglinapie
    4 Responses Mar 9, 2013

    For the last couple of months,

    I've been facing the emotional abuse and neglect my parents inflicted on me as a child. It hurts. It's just pain, pain all the time; I see the toxic cycle of abuse everywhere, and I see all the broken bits and pieces of myself in everything I do. It hurts to think I was...
    beneaththestars beneaththestars
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 14, 2014

    I Was Abused And Kidnapped

    i was abused as a kid from 3 to 19 when i was 11 i got kidnapped for 9 months i got away the first chance i got i never bin the same i was also abused at home and at school i hated my life and i prayed to god every night to kill me take me away what did i do so wrong...
    magicianguy magicianguy
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Sep 30, 2013

    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 18, 2015

    This is quite a mouthful,

    I'm sorry. I just need to write it out. When I was around 7, my family made the move from California to Washington State. Now, around 10 years later, I've raised my baby brother almost single-handedly at a time when I wasn't even allowed outside, watched my mother transform into...
    buffybellissimo buffybellissimo
    1 Response Jun 25, 2015

    My parents never cared about me

    and my little sister. My mother has issues with mental illness and was always extremely unstable. She would threaten to kill herself if i did anything wrong. She always said i was useless and stupid and she didnt want me and i should die. My father was never really around, he...
    BeautifulScarsOnCriticalVeins BeautifulScarsOnCriticalVeins
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 18, 2015

    **** three more years.

    **** "it's not that bad." **** "I understand." **** "be strong." **** "get out more." **** "make friends." **** "we love you." ****. ****. ****. ****. ****. ****. **** my life. I'm not looking for attention. I'm not exaggerating. I'm not dramatic. I'm not stupid. I...
    llene llene
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Feb 7

    They talked about me bullied me my mom,

    auntie & sister I never fit in... anywhere my Auntie told me I couldn't do track.. in my mom seems the domy get it just cause you have a home don't make it OK.. shell by me something whenever she did something wrong
    michaelaelise12 michaelaelise12
    16-17, F
    Jun 23, 2014

    It seems a lot of people on here we're abused

    by one or both of their parents while there parents were in relationships...
    Outoftheashes87 Outoftheashes87
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 28, 2014

    I did not realized it was abuse Name calling u

    own child putting u own child down calling them dump stupid or the B word until I got into counseling yep my own mom I suffer cause of it now I have low self esteem and I get depress alot cause of it but I am doing the best I can and I try to in a positive life
    nicegirl15 nicegirl15
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 3, 2015

    There was once a guy from my Christian school

    (I was initially Christian going in as an eighth grader) who I really liked. He had a feminine edge to his behavior, but I overlooked it because it was an integral part of him that I equally loved about him. I say overlooked because, at the time, I wasn't aware of my sexuality...
    ArchSeven327 ArchSeven327
    18-21, M
    Mar 18, 2014

    Emotionally Abused Survivor...

    First of all, I just wanted to say that I was not physically abused (I think). When I was 15, I moved to the U.S. with my little sister to live with my estranged father as my mother could not afford to raise my sister and I anymore. I knew she wanted us to have a better education...
    iampim iampim
    3 Responses Nov 29, 2012

    42 And Still Dealing

    I have been seeing a psychologist for close to a year now. She has uncovered the emotional abuse I received as a child. My parents made sure we had food, clothing, shelter, education, medical care... but it seems there should be more to being a parent. I can recall thinking that...
    qtbug qtbug
    41-45, F
    4 Responses May 31, 2012

    My father was extremely emotionally abusive to

    me as a child and young adult. He is extremely manipulative and plays such games that it's only now that I am 28, I am realising how abusive he was. He was a very angry man, he would aggressively swear and yell for hours on end, even from age three I can remember this. I would...
    freyaB freyaB
    Apr 12, 2015

    I was made to smell,kiss

    and then lick my fathers feet as discipline. He said it was to keep me in check. It went from once.....to every night when he came in from work. He says it's not abuse as it didn't inflict pain.....
    davidc148 davidc148
    46-50, M
    May 30, 2015

    Sure Was ...

    i was by NO means a chubby kid ... as a matter of fact i was always referred to as, "monkey" for 'spider monkey' because i was always tall and thin... nonetheless, once my stepfather grew disenchanted with his marriage to my mom and he began to drink more and more...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jun 22, 2007

    There's not really much I can say about it in

    text, but now it finally comes out...baby steps right?
    cocopuff3438 cocopuff3438
    1 Response May 31, 2014

    A Cycle Of Abuse

    My parents were both mentally ill. They both came from abusive backgrounds. Growing up I favored my mother because my father was physically abusive and mean. My mother was quiet but was affectionate, meaning I could count on her for a hug, whereas my dad had a terrible temper...
    Zestify Zestify
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Sep 3, 2013

    Not only by my parents,

    but from other kids, and even teachers at school, they all used to say I can't do this because I have autism, I can't do that because of it, and for the same reason I was told that I won't get far in life and function like a normal human being. I dealt with it the wrong way by...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 23, 2015

    she was 19 and I was 8,

    at a party for new year as I was asleep in bed, she come into my bed and started to cuddle me. This felt very nice, and the smell of alcohol from her breath added to it in a strange way too, and she started to tell me that because I was a good little boy and deserved a kiss. I...
    robforyou robforyou
    46-50, M
    1 Response Aug 10, 2014

    When i was 13...i don't know

    if anyone will read this i just feel i need to get this in writing because i have told only my therapist and my dad. My therapist didn't help much, and my dad apologized for putting me through what i went through. But i always feel unfulfilled when i tell the story because i...
    Sawke Sawke
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 27, 2015

    I have a question if this is abuse.

    Here is my story. When I was a child I always seemed to be in denial about anything relating to my father. The memories are just starting to come up now as I type this. I can remember most of what everything was about. When we would have a small disagreement about something...
    AquaDragon2014 AquaDragon2014
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Sep 28, 2014

    Had to disown family.

    My Dad always locked-up. My Mom told me she hated daily. She never showed any emotion, other than anger. She was very cruel, she denies everything. I had to deal with guilt, shame and anger of disowning them. But I am better off alone.
    chrislvnv chrislvnv
    3 Responses Aug 15, 2015

    'Step-Brother Jail' -Greetings.

    What I'm about to describe here has not been adequetely described to another human being in this much detail. Even my parents do not know the ins and outs of this. Parts of this will enrage you, will sadden you, may have you smile at some points, however, the main part of this...
    LysanderFremont LysanderFremont
    26-30, M
    5 Responses Jan 8, 2014

    I'm not sure how to start this.

    ...but I need a place to seek support. My mother was emotionally abusive to me my entire life. Her problems stem from being sexually abused growing up, having an alcoholic mother and a father who was gone a lot due to his career. She's never received any counseling for these...
    AlphaBroadway AlphaBroadway
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2013

    Every Story Ever Told.

    How many times have we heard "Why are you doing this to me?" I know I have heard it more than I can count. It is never the fault of the mother or father, but of the child themselves. I am a twenty-three year old woman. I have been emotionally abused as a child. I have arrived...
    Stopviolence Stopviolence
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 16, 2013

    "Not a big deal"

     Sometimes I wished I had suffered more "severe" kind of abuse and not "just" emotional abuse (I had some physical abuse as well but mostly the abuse I suffered was emotional/mental - both at home and school). The reason I feel this way sometimes is that even myself, or that is...
    julie295 julie295
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 6, 2013

    Emotionally Crippled

    When I was a kid my dad would refuse to even talk to me. He was basically there to punish me, and that's it. Whenever something happened or I did anything wrong, he would beat me (typical, right?). You would expect my mom to always be there for me and comfort me but when I was...
    dudeme65 dudeme65
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Oct 14, 2012
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