I Was In An Abusive Relationship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 535 People

    Or I still am in one.

    I'm not sure. At the moment he's not here and he says he's not coming back but he always comes back. I don't want him to come back. I am frightened of him coming back. He is emotionally abusive, I left a physically abusive relationship and this feels worse. It's so easy...
    paliglass paliglass
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 10, 2014

    Know Your Self-worth

    I was in an abusive relationship for almost five years.  As a result, I am now a paraplegic.  We started dating when I was 20 and the first year was amazing.  We had a great relationship, and all though I knew he had a bad temper, I never thought he would put his...
    UnperfectAngel UnperfectAngel
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2008

    Why though? I'm trying to understand

    why in relationships, one person finds it in their hearts to abuse the other? Then again why stay with an abuser. I'm contradicting myself but while I was dating my ex, I was naive. My world was small. The reason I stayed with him was because I glorified love. What I thought it...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Mar 7

    We still talk . I just have to keep

    that strong mindset that I've worked so hard to obtain . We had a friendship before and we have a friendship now . I just have to keep my lines drawn solid no matter how hard that can be . People only hurt you when you let them .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jul 8, 2015

    I was in an abusive relationship.

    ..abusive in every way...for a decade. While I was in it, I managed to survive. Near the end, I had a job I loved, some close friends and did volunteer work. It was like 2/3 of my life was good, and the other 1/3 was terrifying. When he finally discarded me, he did it in such a...
    allthefeels allthefeels
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 15

    Spent 3 years of my life with this "man".

    I would say it was wasted time but it wasn't as I for my wonderful amazing beautiful daughter out of it. :-) she makes the hell I went through for 3 years worth it. The being thrown to the ground, breaking of the phones, banging my head into a wall, pulling my hair, choking me...
    lovelylady20 lovelylady20
    18-21, F
    Aug 8, 2014

    My boyfriend has some anger issues

    and sometimes he just snaps. About a month ago he got upset and punched a wall so I tried to leave. When I got to the door he grabbed my purse and pulled me back. He slung me against the wall and punched me, resulting in a black eye. When I started crying he got even angrier. I...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 8, 2015

    Ladies plz look out for predators on this site

    looking to specifically date women in the codepency and abusive relationship groups. I've had some fishy messages already. #shameful
    milanmilan milanmilan
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 1, 2014

    This relationship ended quite a few months back

    but am still suffering psychological issues even to this day. In 2011 I met a man online (I know, bad move) named daniel. He was much older than me but he seemed like a nice guy so I decided to see him. He came over to my house and we walked around the neighborhood and had a...
    beeonka1 beeonka1
    18-21, F
    Jan 17, 2015

    I recently got out of a relationship.

    ..reason because he left to Miami for a couple of days and when he came back he was starting to be abusive and he would get mad with every little thing now idk if he had a hoe there of not but what I do know is that no boy I don't say Man cause true man don't beat on girls but...
    CallMeFaye CallMeFaye
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

    8 years. I was abused in all 3 prominent

    categories of abuse. I stayed only for one reason...I knew he'd never let me leave with my daughter. 2 broken ribs, dislocated shoulder, fractured jaw and collar bone, upwards of 100 black eyes and countless nightmares later, I decided to take my chances and get out. I endured...
    damagedwings damagedwings
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 18, 2015

    I don't hate my ex. I forgive my ex

    for what he did to me... but je will not be in my or my daughter's life until he gets some help and learns to deal with his anger in an appropriate manner.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 20, 2015

    I had dating this guy 2 years

    and every day I was subjected to mental, physical and emotional abuse. My parents kept telling me to leave him. But I never had the courage to leave him. I thought if I left him I wouldn't have no one. But it didn't matter to me because I thought it was ok that he was doing what...
    southernbelle07252013 southernbelle07252013
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 17, 2015

    My husband was a loving husband

    and father for first 10 years of our marriage. Five years ago he changed I don't know what happened he started to whip me and the girls alot harder than he had. I mean I believe in obeying my husband and we did practice domestic discipline but he crossed that line. 5 months...
    redneckwoman33 redneckwoman33
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2015

    I started dating this guy

    and everything was going well until he raped me, after that it all went downhill. He would threaten to kill himself if I didn't do certain things and he would hit me or shove me. I finally got the courage to break up with him, but then got back with him when I thought I was...
    IAmTheFire IAmTheFire
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    I blocked my abusive ex on social media.

    Its only a matter of time before he starts posting pictures of his latest victims . Sad part is he's friends with most of my family members. Im just going to tell them not to speak his name to me and that I've moved on. Im sure his narcissistic injury will kick in once he sees...
    milanmilan milanmilan
    41-45, F
    Sep 11, 2014

    A Story To Give Others Hope

    3.5 years. I should have known when I heard how his friends talked about girls. So disrespectful...more than the usual joking crap guys say. Our first year together was long distance when we both left for college. He ended up cheating on me three times....sex with three...
    sylvertongue sylvertongue
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 31, 2012

    I was in an abusive relationship.

    Was as in I have escaped and am now in a safe environment. It has been four years now, since I have learned what safe feels like. Just how lovely it is to feel safety.I was my father's daughter. He was an angry man, full of harsh words and flaring tempers. But I admired him. I...
    SkySeasoning SkySeasoning
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 23, 2014

    sadly am still single to this day yes my age is

    messed up on here I know. but she basically tried to get me hurt by her friends never talked to me unless forced or even hugged me. it ended up with her making up stories about me that where lies to get popular. even saying I placed a bomb or somthing and that's why here friend...
    zenishappy zenishappy
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 24, 2015

    I has my abusive ex too many chances.

    The last time we recently broke up was because he was selling Xanax behind my back which I used to have a horrible drug problem with. When I found out I got so upset and he called me a stupid **** and threatened to pull me out in the street by my hair . Then he texted me and...
    leaom22 leaom22
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 14, 2014

    I had an abusive boyfriend

    when I was a freshman in high school. He was my first boyfriend, and my first love. He left me a scar to forever remember him by. I still remember it vividly, he held a razor blade to my shoulder and told me that if I loved him I would trust him.. I loved him so much. Blood...
    BlueJeanBuddha BlueJeanBuddha
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Oct 29, 2015

    Finally out and over my 2 year abusive

    relationship. It sucked being treated like **** all that time.
    blindlove91 blindlove91
    22-25, M
    1 Response Oct 8, 2014

    I should have sought out help sooner,

    that was my fault for staying. I emotionally, sexually, and physically abused. My mom helped me kick him out when I showed her how he hurt me and told her what he did to me. When he was finally gone I discovered I was pregnant but it was too late for an abortion, I was too...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 4, 2015

    Learning To Stand On My Own

    In this "experience" I use the word "he" because my relationships were with men, but this applies to anyone in any type of abusive relationship. I know what its like to be in a an abusive relationship. I was in a 5 year marriage to an abusive husband. Then an 11 year marriage to...
    Robinrenee68 Robinrenee68
    3 Responses Nov 26, 2013

    It Wasn't Physically

    Not very often would our fights get that physical, but there was times when it did, it was more emotionally, and verbally abusive. I just recently got out of the relationship. I don't think either of us, were mature enough to get into that serious of a relationship that quick. We...
    xSilentlySufferingx xSilentlySufferingx
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 3, 2010

    My ex was mentally, emotionally,

    and physically abusive. I don't want to go into detail about the relationship right now bug I will tell you that it left me more broken than ever before in my life. He recently has been calling me again. I don't know what to do. It's been 5 years. I should feel strong. But he...
    kaygrace93 kaygrace93
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2013

    I got stuck with a guy

    who was bipolar and extremely aggressive. He would hit me, shake me, and press on my back to restrict my breathing. He would also tell me "**** you" "you're an *******" "you're fat" and a lot of other stuff. A year after breaking up he stalked me and contacted me saying he...
    Darkwinlight143 Darkwinlight143
    18-21, F
    Mar 4

    I'm 23 years old with currently no boyfriend .

    I broke up with an abusive one I was living with, and now I'm alone again. I feel too old to be alone , me and him were supposed to get married and now I'm back to square one . This is a horrible lonely feeling
    leaom22 leaom22
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 12, 2014

    Reading everyone's experiences on here is

    truily heartbreaking ... I've never been in an abusive relationship, but my mom is married to a man who treats her horribly he also treats me horribly. I can only hope that someday she finds the courage to leave him.
    ggujmbgukm ggujmbgukm
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 11, 2015

    Funny how things change.

    My ex who was very physically & emotionally abusive just had his current girlfriend arrested on domestic violence charges. She beat his a$$. And she called me to help bail her out of jail. It isn't fun, is it Richard?
    hadyourchance hadyourchance
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 29, 2014

    i feel like I need closure,

    and I know I can't get it and sometimes the fact that I can't get it depresses me and makes me hate myself
    mandatehpanda mandatehpanda
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 11, 2015

    As A Guy

    I am a pretty tough mo fo, not bragging at all, you will see the relevance shortly. I was jumped by four Indians in a bar that I was not supposed to be in one night, I fought guys with blood coming out of my eyes, nose, mouth and ears all at once and never backed off! I have...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Mar 11, 2011

    HE isolated me from my friends.

    HE made my hate my family. HE told me what to wear. HE called me horrible names. HE made me do inappropriate things I did not want to do. HE forced me into sex. I told him I wasn't ready. HE said I couldn't wear makeup. it made me "fake". HE said I couldn't dye my hair. HE said...
    anonyie453 anonyie453
    13-15, F
    1 Response Mar 16

    Emotionally and physically.

    My ex girlfriend would hit me. She would never reply to me when I tried to talk to her in p
    jaebirda jaebirda
    16-17, T
    1 Response Nov 3, 2015

    every so often in my life now,

    i think of things that happened during my relationship with James that i still can't believe i withstood. last Christmas, i had come home from my parent's house and he immediately started arguing with me about some ******* thing, which escalated into him becoming violent. he...
    burntoutstars burntoutstars
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 17, 2015

    I Finally Left

    Me and my boyfriend were dating for 3 years. We first met in high school 14, while I was a freshman he was a senior, and it continued from there. Right away he kept me from talking to friends that I used to talk to, since I was so young I didn't notice until people were telling...
    ymexperience ymexperience
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 26, 2013

    I was with this guy for a year

    and a half. And we were pretty happy. I should've seen the signs at the beginning though when he would threaten to leave me every couple of weeks or so. But then after a year he started to get violent. Whenever I would try to leave him he would threaten to throw my stuff off our...
    kenyle kenyle
    22-25, T
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015

    I dated a girl for nearly 5 years.

    Despite the fact that she would beat me up I stayed with her. I would do anything to try to make her happy. She later cheated on me and left me
    Christuner666 Christuner666
    26-30, M
    Oct 31, 2015

    Hello to all the members of this group.

    Well done on being in the past tense "was" in an abusive relationship. I was in 3. I went from violence to mental abuse to one where he was ok until we married and he was put in prison after 8months of marriage because he became so abusive. Abusive men are not always easy to...
    paliglass paliglass
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 16, 2015

    Hey guys, I'm making my Graduating thesis film

    soon! It's about domestic violence and the struggles one goes through when overcoming that abuse. Anything helps! Share the link, Donate, or do both! I would greatly appreciate anything you guys can do to help. Being a survivor myself, I want to give something to the community...
    mandatehpanda mandatehpanda
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 15, 2015

    Its been over a year Luke.

    a year since you took my life away. All that i lived for was taken in a split second. I'm now a better woman then i could ever be because I've taken all the pain you've caused me and put it in to my life. Its coming up to the date that we we're set to be married and im happy...
    Lottiedee Lottiedee
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 11, 2015

    I just wanted to discuss the meaning of

    and differences between, in my mind, being a victim or a survivor of domestic abuse because it is something that I struggled with defining myself as for a long time. When I finally mustered up the strength to leave the relationship that caged me for four years, I found that...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 15, 2015

    Soo umm I was in an abusive relationship.

    ..I couldn't get out for the longest time..I was scared to tell anybody..I finally told my best friend last week and she called the cops for me..my ex is now in jail but I am scared for when he gets out..
    DitzyBlonde DitzyBlonde
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 21, 2015

    After going to a conference about gender

    violence and prostitution, i realized that my ex was trying to pimp me out. text book boyfriend pimp. He belittled me, tried to control me in every way possible, acted like he was searching for a job but made no real attempts. He kept talking about how we would make so much...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 6, 2015

    I was in an abusive relationship 8 months ago

    and sadly he raped me and I am pregnant. I have no idea what I am going to do I am by myself . how am I going to explain everything to the child when he grows up?? I need help....
    CarolineGrey CarolineGrey
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 16, 2014

    The last 4, almost 5 years of my marriage I was

    single. I cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, kept the house and yard up, including mowed the 2.5 acres down to the lake. Slept in the spare room, I might as well have been as I say single. I'm very much a peaceful guy, and want to do what is right. I continued to go to...
    texas2themax texas2themax
    1 Response Apr 1

    Recently, I made it known to new people about

    my experience and they're endless support has been so great. Since I'm making a film about what had happened to me, and the aftermath of it, it's given me such great strength to know that I could possibly help others and educate those in the dark.
    mandatehpanda mandatehpanda
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 17, 2015

    It's been about two years

    and I'm finally feeling okay about talking about it so I figured it's time to share my story so others know that they're not alone. Let's start from the beginning, I met this guy, let's call him Jake, when I was in first grade and we were really good friends for a while. But I...
    onceuponasummer onceuponasummer
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 20, 2014

    I Sheltered the Light

    Years ago, forever ago, it seems like a lifetime ago, I was in a physical/mentally abusive relationship. I got out fast! I wrote this poem years later and just wanted to share it. BATTERED ************************* YOU GATHER THE SHADOWS I SHELTER THE LIGHT MY VISIONS...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Sep 14, 2009

    I want to be an inspiration to someone,

    so I'm going to tell you about my experience. I was a young and had very low self esteem. I met this guy that promised me the world, but turned out to be the devil reincarnated. As always, the relationship started out well. I was emotionally a wreck. My father had died and I...
    MzLauryn MzLauryn
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 8, 2015
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