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I Was In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

This is for those women and men who are unhappy in a relationship because of control issues...come in and share your story,...We are the ones who understand... 3,446 People

    I realized the other day

    that I don't say "no" to guys. Not in the sense I enjoy it, but I feel like I HAVE to please guys sexually even if I don't want to. After so many years of being called/treated like I'm "worthless", "pathetic", "stupid", I started believing them. I don't say "no" because a part...
    terrywill15 terrywill15 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    At the time, my best friend was my boyfriend,

    who became verbally and sexually abusive. No one understood how I felt. I finally had the courage the leave him and needless to say, it was definitely one of the best decisions I have ever made. Love yourself, and you will be loved (properly).
    peanutcups peanutcups 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    The Answers And Signs To Your Abuse

    I was a victim...I asked myself these questions but I finally found it. I was a victim of subtle emotional abuse. It was subtle because we had only been together for 10 months...and yet he was already showing so much of his true colors. The signs I noticed...they can be confusing...
    mandypandi mandypandi 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 3, 2013

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    I Should Have Left THEN...

    My story is a lot like others. A series of events that looking back were all indicators of when it was time (or more than time) to walk away. My ex and I were together for a year. The year of the rollercoaster. I was so blind to it all in the beginning. Well not blind to the...
    JBird726 JBird726 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    I was with a guy who did drugs

    and drank and was a family lawyer. I wrote the entire experience and it was so bad the moderators deleted it. We broke up eight months ago and I'm still traumatized. I'm seeking counseling He use to call me every name in the book, would kick me out of the house into the middle...
    mermaidslair mermaidslair 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 9

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    Okay well I'm new here anyway I was in an

    abusive relationship for a year. it fuxked me up mentally and emotionally. the day I broke up with her I overdosed I'm okay though obviously. Ever since the break up I haven't had a relationship in a year and that's new for me haha but I don't really mind it. I'm over her but I...
    meganmarie92 meganmarie92 22-25, F 2 Responses May 12

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    I was in a relationship

    for 4 years. We first started seeing each other when I was 17 he was 21. I thought he was my everything. In the beginning he was sweet and very devoted to me. About a year into the relationship things started to change, he began to make nasty passing comments or start fights. It...
    oceanicdreamer oceanicdreamer 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    A few months ago, I completely cut off my ex.

    We had a long and complicated history that involved a lot of emotional and verbal abuse. On his part, a lot of it was underhanded and manipulative. I constantly felt small and broken down and trapped. But I don't think he was doing it consciously. In his mind, all he was doing...
    MDubs MDubs 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 14

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    Survivors of emotionally abusive relationship

    tend to say that they are aware of the way they were being treated and opted to stay. What drew us is still a mystery. What made us stay is something I'd like to finally understand. My ex is pretty psychotic. Funny thing is he gave himself that nickname too. He would...
    Theboisterous Theboisterous 26-30, F 2 Responses May 20, 2014

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    I cheated on my husband,

    then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an emotionally abusive person. I was extremely depressed, and stressed, and didn't know yet that it was because of my husband. I...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 21, 2014

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    I suppose it doesn't matter

    now that we broke up, but I still feel it gripping on to me. My girlfriend was bi-polar, depression and family trouble. She was my first love, and it really left me hollow. When I first met her I fell in love with her smile. I loved the way she carried herself, and didn’t...
    Inviticus Inviticus 18-21, M Jan 19

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    Intelligent Women Suffer Abusive Men Too

    Having survived an abusive three and a half relationship, two year marriage, I am happy to share my thoughts and offer any advice I can. My first marriage was not unhappy, but it was loveless and we had nothing but the children in common. I longed for a loving partner that I...
    carolinewirral carolinewirral 46-50 8 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    My Story

    i have been with my boyfriend for a year and one month. He started to get super controlling over me didnt want me hanging out with my friends and always put my family down then he started to put me down alot i would say thee very first time he hit me i was shocked.we had argued...
    kalikween28 kalikween28 22-25, F 114 Responses May 20, 2013

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    They say you don't know what you've got till

    its gone. True, but in a slightly diferent way. took me maybe a month or two to realise her leaving was the best thing to ever happen to me. Of course she wanted me to come crawling back swearing how I would change. PHK NO!! So yesterday after another display of her amazing...
    theonlyonelikeme theonlyonelikeme 36-40, M Apr 25

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    I had been single for almost a year

    when I met someone. In the beginning. He was so charming. The conversations we had were so deeply intimate. He seemed to understand me. It was like he could read my thoughts. He reached deep down into my heart and soothed all my heart aches. I fell head over heels for this...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 3

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    Ive been talking to this guy

    and I really like him and he says he really likes me too, but we argue a lot and he always finds a way to put the blame on me and make me feel bad, he's called me stupid and a ***** just today I posted a picture of me in shorts and a bathing suit top giving my dog a bath as a...
    Mimi3430 Mimi3430 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    Four and a half years

    and it's finally over. I don't know how to feel. He was my first love, and everything to me. No matter how much hurt and pain I felt in the relationship, I still loved him and did everything I could for him. But now it's just over. My best friend and the love of my life is...
    ChristinaWolf ChristinaWolf 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    So yeah I was.....how can a guy be in one you

    may ask.....well its damn easy when she is a complete narcissistic woman......I would wish this on my worst enemy......she gaslighted me from the start and eventually broke me down to the point where I almost killed myself and 3 months ago she just left me......she made me...
    huckleberrybunches huckleberrybunches 36-40, M 5 Responses Feb 15

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    Escape

    This was a dream I had the night before breaking up with someone many many years ago. I didn't edit my memory, it's quite long and the narrative flow might seem a bit off. ------------------------------------------ I'm stepping outside of the huge castle, in fact I'm still...
    NekoGummy NekoGummy 36-40, F Sep 22, 2013

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    I still am . The girl has been institutionalize

    do tons of times and she's a mixture of bipolar and manic depressive... She constantly has me walking on eggshells, she calls me names like fucktard all the time for no apparent reason
    jangofett56037 jangofett56037 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 21

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    I was in an emotionally,

    verbally, and physically abusive relationship for nearly three years. I wrote and entire blog about what i went through, how i got out, and how i moved on. If you're in this situation, i know it feels very lonely, hopefully my story can help someone. lifeofschy . blogspot...
    LifeofSchy LifeofSchy 22-25, F Feb 8

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    My ex cheated on me with 4 women.

    . and before that he broke 3 of my ribs... and dislocated my knee then decided not to call an ambulance.. and he decided i should walk home with it.. he got away with it due to his "mental health status" :(
    MorticansDaughter98 MorticansDaughter98 16-17, F 5 Responses Jan 27

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    Quick Update On My Story Divorcing My Asperger Husband.

    I gave divorce paperwork to my husband to sign. He didn't sign it yet. But OMG! Such an amazing change! On Sunday he took both boys to gym for 3 hours. Today he was cooking dinner with me when I came home from work. I don't buy it. I'm wondering what kind of tricks (dirty or not...
    Squized Squized 46-50 4 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    Words Hurt Just As Bad

    I have been in an off and off relationship for 5 years. we have been/struggled through a lot, and i thought things were getting better, but now i am not so sure. He has always been verball abusive, which even today he denies saying "**** you you ******* *****" "you're going to...
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    I finally broke up with my emotionally abusive

    boyfriend and ever since he has been blowing my phone up on facebook, snapchat, instagram, calling and texting. I blocked him on every single social media site and blocked his number. he has found more ways to contact me using other people's phones and called me. unfortunately...
    xoash1049 xoash1049 18-21, F 3 Responses May 29

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    It's been 11 months. Looking at it

    now I have come such a far way from the person I was 11 months ago but today I am ANGRY with him. He left me with so much of his debt and this month is so hard paying off debt which is not even mine! We do communicate and he is aware of the situation I'm in paying off all of our...
    cloudedsky cloudedsky 26-30 5 Responses Jul 11

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    When Love Hurts

    When Love Hurts I can relate to many women, who have been mentally and emotionally abused, by what started out as a loving, and caring relationship, then it turned into there own personal hell. I was in their shoes just a couple of years ago. I was led to believe that...
    LADYFAY LADYFAY 56-60, F 14 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    It's been almost 6 months

    since we broke up, and I'm happy. My life is so much better. I feel better, laugh more, I've lost 25 pounds, I've traveled to Europe. I've been offered a job across the country and I can't wait. I was hopeless, I thought he was the one, I thought he would change. I realized I...
    mousecop mousecop 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    Divorcing My Asperger Husband. Divorcing Christian.

    Greetings to everyone who needs help and to everyone who can provide it ! I am here not to blame people with neurological conditions for my problems. I am here looking for people's opinion about my case. I'm married for 18 years to an Asperger man. That he is in spectrum I...
    Squized Squized 46-50 12 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    flacobone flacobone 31-35, M 3 Responses May 30, 2014

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    I still haven't dealt with my previous

    relationship...I was with him for 4 years and he controlled me and put me down I eventually put my foot down and got away but now 2 and a half years later I still have it eating away at me and I feel I can't move forward in life as I have lost all my confidence. Every time...
    xblondex xblondex 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    CatalinaPetrova CatalinaPetrova 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I been in an Abusive relationship not physically

    but mentally. As a guy with dyslexia, ADD, and being in special ed from my ex she would put me down. To point I believed but once I caught her cheating I ended things. I took therapy I'm still in therapy my new girlfriend helps out.
    LoyaltynTrust93 LoyaltynTrust93 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    How I Can Change It

    I am married for 5 years now in begining everything was fine but after 2 years my husband started changing. He started ignoring me shouting at me without any reason made life a hell. I tried everything to make him happy to keep peace in my house but he always told me that i am...
    littlestars littlestars 26-30, F 26 Responses Aug 17, 2011

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    That girl. She was tired of being treated like

    ****, getting put last. She was tired of the mental, emotional and physical abuse, she tried to get away physically but he would let her leave. She tried to escape mentally and emotionally but she wasn't allowed to. She wasn't allowed to be happy, to be free, to leave, to speak...
    deadgirlsfairytale deadgirlsfairytale 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 27

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    My mind is my biggest battlefield.

    Battling negative thoughts and happenings have been a struggle for almost a year, probably longer. The more distance I get from the fog of the last several years, the more I see I'm not complaining, I'm growing. I complain to those closest to me but they know me and they know...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    Still married to him!

    If he had not done a cold turkey switch, much like he did with drinking, in how he treated me...I'd have been splitsvill last June. On his part it was never intentional, when I started being assertive (as opposed to shutting down and stuffing my emotions to survive) there...
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F 1 Response May 7

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    I have been in many emotionally abusive

    relationships, I am in one now even. I know it's me that picks them of course, I stopped believing in changing them. I can't cure them , and loving them through it all is tearing me apart. I feel broken, I feel used. I'm beginning to wonder if I am trying to fix me while I...
    beemer78 beemer78 36-40, F Feb 22

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    I Thought I Was Emotionally Invincible

    Its been about 2 weeks since I let go of my best friend. I've been crying non stop since then. Not eating much. I lost 12lbs in a week and a half. Im not sleeping much. I've been smoking and drinking beyond belief. I cut my self and I wanted to die. I dont want go outside...
    loudsilence1 loudsilence1 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2013

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    Between February 10 thru April 23 i was in an

    emotionally abusive relationship. Because of that one relationship I am afraid to get into another because i dont want it to happen again...
    fallenone2401 fallenone2401 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    I Survived An Emotional Abusive Marraige/

    This story kinda Carry's on from another of mine, "A Mothers Love"I left my parents home when I was 19 and moved in with my then boyfriend. He was the first serious boyfriend I had had, was flattered i guess by the attention he showed me after years of being made to feel I was...
    gem1969 gem1969 41-45, F 4 Responses May 23, 2013

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    So, the last girlfriend I had,

    as those of you in my circle know, messed with my head pretty bad. I hadn't spoken to her in weeks and I was starting to feel a little better. But she contacted me last night, to rub it in that her baseball team just swept my team in a three game series. I don't know why...
    twistedAndJaded twistedAndJaded 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 26

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    My BF can be very abusive,

    emototinal and other ways. Love to meet others like me, that some reason stay, or maybe talk to a guy like him to get his point of view. thanks
    Want2BGood Want2BGood 16-17 3 Responses Apr 17

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    Emotional Abuse And Control Disguised As "My First Love"

    He was my first real boyfriend. We dated for 10 and a half months. I was 17 and he was 19. He seemed perfect. He was Cuban, I was Cuban. He had goals, I had goals. He was smart, I was smart. He was family oriented, I was family oriented. We had a lot in common it seemed. He told...
    mandypandi mandypandi 18-21, F 8 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    My ex of two years was emotionally abusive.

    I was living with her and she was very critical towards me. Ranging from how I washed the cast iron pan to how I'm not handy like her guy friends to my income to how cheap I was (I paid for 80% of the time we went out), to my performance as a man, and the list went on. She...
    sylworks sylworks 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I just divorced my abusive husband of 3 years.

    We dated over a year before we married and overall he was a terrific guy. He wasn't perfect by any means and he said some hurtful things to me but nothing like I was about to experience after the wedding. Almost immediately the verbal and emotional abuse started. He called...
    Setfree2013 Setfree2013 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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