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I Was In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

This is for those women and men who are unhappy in a relationship because of control issues...come in and share your story,...We are the ones who understand... 3,682 People

    I've stayed away from men

    for 5 years because the last relationship ended so badly. I ended up taking him to court. It was an awful experience. I don't trust easily anymore (not that it's always a bad thing - I was too trusting in the past). Perhaps someday the timing and circumstance will be in my favor...
    leavesandbeans leavesandbeans 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 26, 2015

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    The Answers And Signs To Your Abuse

    I was a victim...I asked myself these questions but I finally found it. I was a victim of subtle emotional abuse. It was subtle because we had only been together for 10 months...and yet he was already showing so much of his true colors. The signs I noticed...they can be confusing...
    mandypandi mandypandi 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 3, 2013

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    I cheated on my husband,

    then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an emotionally abusive person. I was extremely depressed, and stressed, and didn't know yet that it was because of my husband. I...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 21, 2014

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    Escape

    This was a dream I had the night before breaking up with someone many many years ago. I didn't edit my memory, it's quite long and the narrative flow might seem a bit off. ------------------------------------------ I'm stepping outside of the huge castle, in fact I'm still...
    NekoGummy NekoGummy 36-40, F Sep 22, 2013

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    My Story

    i have been with my boyfriend for a year and one month. He started to get super controlling over me didnt want me hanging out with my friends and always put my family down then he started to put me down alot i would say thee very first time he hit me i was shocked.we had argued...
    kalikween28 kalikween28 22-25, F 113 Responses May 20, 2013

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    I am 21 and my boyfriend is 27

    and we have been together for three years. Today after loosing a packet of tobacco, my boyfriend said to me that I'm so dumb and I have no brain and I'm like a vegetable. I think I suffer from depression, my brain commonly feels stiff so I tend to do not much in our flat when I...
    zainafatmi2015 zainafatmi2015 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2015

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    I Should Have Left THEN...

    My story is a lot like others. A series of events that looking back were all indicators of when it was time (or more than time) to walk away. My ex and I were together for a year. The year of the rollercoaster. I was so blind to it all in the beginning. Well not blind to the...
    JBird726 JBird726 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    So I haven’t been too good.

    I’ve been frightened. Frightened that I am going to fail. Fail at my job, at being a mum, being a good daughter so as to make my parents proud and failing at being true to myself in a world that thrives on conformity and social acceptance. But then the fear grows. It evolves...
    ArriB22 ArriB22 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 14, 2015

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    I went on a "find your best self" retreat this

    weekend. No phones or Internet allowed. It was really enriching. When it came to my ex... The only word I expressed towards him was "NO!" No to his manipulation, no to his affection, no to his problems. I returned home and had to deal with him briefly, just through text. His...
    cloudedsky cloudedsky 26-30 5 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    That girl. She was tired of being treated like

    ****, getting put last. She was tired of the mental, emotional and physical abuse, she tried to get away physically but he would let her leave. She tried to escape mentally and emotionally but she wasn't allowed to. She wasn't allowed to be happy, to be free, to leave, to speak...
    deadgirlsfairytale deadgirlsfairytale 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 27, 2015

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    I finally left. I told him we are breaking

    contact. Moms response "Why would you do that?! You two can stay friends". My jaw dropped as tears rolled. No one cares because he's not hitting me. I really need resources, someone to talk to.
    SieMe SieMe 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 11, 2015

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    My ex boyfriend used to violently spit in my

    mouth. To this day I am on the verge of tears when I see someone spit in public. He forced me to have sex with him and chased me around his house once in order to do so. I ended up locking myself in the bathroom and attempting to jump out of window. Dating him at 17 this was my...
    Zaylaphone Zaylaphone 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 13, 2015

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    Survivors of emotionally abusive relationship

    tend to say that they are aware of the way they were being treated and opted to stay. What drew us is still a mystery. What made us stay is something I'd like to finally understand. My ex is pretty psychotic. Funny thing is he gave himself that nickname too. He would...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 20, 2014

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    I'm happy that I can be free now.

    So the first thing I did was go in my fridge & ate a big piece of red velvet cake lol. but I guess I'm okay. I have to find my confidence again & love myself again.
    FreeSpirit02 FreeSpirit02 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    It's been 11 months. Looking at it

    now I have come such a far way from the person I was 11 months ago but today I am ANGRY with him. He left me with so much of his debt and this month is so hard paying off debt which is not even mine! We do communicate and he is aware of the situation I'm in paying off all of our...
    cloudedsky cloudedsky 26-30 3 Responses Jul 11, 2015

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    i didn't really realize it at the time.

    he was my first love, so i thought it was normal that my stomach— not my heart— would jump when he came near. i thought it meant that we were in love when he constantly checked in on me when we weren't together. and i thought he was being funny and cute when he said i'd be...
    neuropunk neuropunk 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2015

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    Words Hurt Just As Bad

    I have been in an off and off relationship for 5 years. we have been/struggled through a lot, and i thought things were getting better, but now i am not so sure. He has always been verball abusive, which even today he denies saying "**** you you ******* *****" "you're going to...
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    I am stuck in a controlling relationship

    and I feel so alone. I often wonder...If he were hitting me would i have more support in leaving him? He does Physical things but not hitting. I figure my Mom pushes me to stay with him because of my depression and anxiety, this way I'm someone else's problem. But what about...
    SieMe SieMe 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 6, 2015

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    I have ended it. But I'm still afraid of her.

    It's not rational. I need to overcome this. I need to talk to someone in private. Please.
    kguy2 kguy2 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2015

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    Intelligent Women Suffer Abusive Men Too

    Having survived an abusive three and a half relationship, two year marriage, I am happy to share my thoughts and offer any advice I can. My first marriage was not unhappy, but it was loveless and we had nothing but the children in common. I longed for a loving partner that I...
    carolinewirral carolinewirral 46-50 8 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    Things are really crazy in my life right now

    and I'm trying my best to manage it all. I am realizing more each day how messed up/dysfunctional my marriage truly was. I am so glad that I am not with him but the scars are still there. I really thought he loved me and that's why I stayed then I got really sick and ended up...
    AGreeneyedbutterfly80 AGreeneyedbutterfly80 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 9, 2015

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    I still haven't dealt with my previous

    relationship...I was with him for 4 years and he controlled me and put me down I eventually put my foot down and got away but now 2 and a half years later I still have it eating away at me and I feel I can't move forward in life as I have lost all my confidence. Every time...
    xblondex xblondex 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 28, 2015

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    Quick Update On My Story Divorcing My Asperger Husband.

    I gave divorce paperwork to my husband to sign. He didn't sign it yet. But OMG! Such an amazing change! On Sunday he took both boys to gym for 3 hours. Today he was cooking dinner with me when I came home from work. I don't buy it. I'm wondering what kind of tricks (dirty or not...
    Squized Squized 46-50 4 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    I just divorced my abusive husband of 3 years.

    We dated over a year before we married and overall he was a terrific guy. He wasn't perfect by any means and he said some hurtful things to me but nothing like I was about to experience after the wedding. Almost immediately the verbal and emotional abuse started. He called...
    Setfree2013 Setfree2013 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    I had been single for almost a year

    when I met someone. In the beginning. He was so charming. The conversations we had were so deeply intimate. He seemed to understand me. It was like he could read my thoughts. He reached deep down into my heart and soothed all my heart aches. I fell head over heels for this...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 3, 2015

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    I am looking for someone

    who is want to and the old woman for Christmas .
    cougarloving cougarloving 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 14, 2015

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    How I Can Change It

    I am married for 5 years now in begining everything was fine but after 2 years my husband started changing. He started ignoring me shouting at me without any reason made life a hell. I tried everything to make him happy to keep peace in my house but he always told me that i am...
    littlestars littlestars 26-30, F 26 Responses Aug 17, 2011

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    Is it happening again?

    Have I fallen for the nice-guy act once more, only to wind up shattered and decieved? My fears are multiplying, and I very much hope that I'm wrong.
    iamrae22 iamrae22 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2015

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    When people hear, read,

    or see evidence of an abusive relationship. The first response is always.....Leave or various other insensitive comments surrounding that theme. These comments are not helpful. At all. It's easy to say this. But would you? Could you? Have the strength to leave. There's a price...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 8 Responses Sep 28, 2015

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    When Love Hurts

    When Love Hurts I can relate to many women, who have been mentally and emotionally abused, by what started out as a loving, and caring relationship, then it turned into there own personal hell. I was in their shoes just a couple of years ago. I was led to believe that...
    LADYFAY LADYFAY 56-60, F 14 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship.

    I got out, but he keeps contacting me and saying all these things that sound good, but I know he doesn't mean it... It is sad when you find out that the person you loved never existed. It was all a big act...
    ImConvinced ImConvinced 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    In my marriage I lived

    and owned an old farm house. The house itself was surrounded by ferns. Mosquito heaven I called it. It looked absolutely horrible. They had literally taken right over, wild and twisted into everything. I hated them. So I set to work and started to pull them all out and redo my...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 10, 2015

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    Between February 10 thru April 23 i was in an

    emotionally abusive relationship. Because of that one relationship I am afraid to get into another because i dont want it to happen again...
    fallenone2401 fallenone2401 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2015

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    with some physical outbursts under financial domination. I suffered from posttraumatic stress disorder from the relationship with having anxiety, sleeplessness, being frightened easily and feeling emotionally numb and useless. Certain attitudes and behaviours of how people are...
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 11, 2015

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    With my mother. Having extricated myself from

    that relationship and Drawn some healthy boundaries, I am beginning to look at other relationships differently. For one, my marriage. I catch myself requesting things like "please don't use my name like a curse word". That elicited a pyrotechnic flow of anger, and he went...
    notsocomplex notsocomplex 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 18, 2015

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    I dated a girl for nearly 5 years.

    Despite the fact that she would beat me up I stayed with her. I would do anything to try to make her happy. She later cheated on me and left me
    Christuner666 Christuner666 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 31, 2015

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    So yeah I was.....how can a guy be in one you

    may ask.....well its damn easy when she is a complete narcissistic woman......I would wish this on my worst enemy......she gaslighted me from the start and eventually broke me down to the point where I almost killed myself and 3 months ago she just left me......she made me...
    huckleberrybunches huckleberrybunches 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 15, 2015

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    Sometimes, when someone is in an emotionally

    abusive relationship, they have no idea. Sometimes, we are completely oblivious to the fact that our lovers are even treating us wrong. Why? Because we become accustomed to their abuse and because we love them, we put up with it because we are fearful of losing them or what we...
    goodbyeghosts goodbyeghosts 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 27, 2014

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    The worst part of this is just feeling like I

    can't leave the person that is hurting me so much. Why? Why can't I just see what he's done and just drop him? He's not even my bf. There's no foundation there. He's said he "enjoys breaking down girls who think they are better".
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2015

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    He called me hateful words &

    when I went back to apologize he blocked me
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    Is it insane to feel like the only person

    who could love me in the world is the same person that told me he hopes I kill myself? I am doing everything I can not to go back but I just don't feel lovable
    forevereternal9 forevereternal9 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 30, 2015

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    I just dated a guy for just about two months

    (and the two months started on the day we started talking). He was a great guy and we INSTANTLY clicked and everything felt sooo right. It was literally like something so special between us and it felt like maybe it was from a movie. Long story short, he was emotionally abusive...
    ambamx3 ambamx3 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    I'm feeling...numb, to be honest.

    I broke up with him, failed at going No Contact, spent two HORRIBLE months considering going back together and suffering from worse abuse than when we were actually together. He was my first love. That's the one thing I'm having the hardest time forgiving (and everyone says if...
    womaninchains womaninchains 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    A few weeks ago I took a call at work.

    A man is asking to speak to one of my coworkers. His voice gives me the chills. I could hear the intent. Sense the hostility. He's clearly agitated and states that this is the third time he has called and that this is pertaining to my coworkers daughter and he needs to speak...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 9, 2015

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    Divorcing My Asperger Husband. Divorcing Christian.

    Greetings to everyone who needs help and to everyone who can provide it ! I am here not to blame people with neurological conditions for my problems. I am here looking for people's opinion about my case. I'm married for 18 years to an Asperger man. That he is in spectrum I...
    Squized Squized 46-50 12 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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