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I Was In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

This is for those women and men who are unhappy in a relationship because of control issues...come in and share your story,...We are the ones who understand... 3,021 People

    I just divorced my abusive husband of 3 years.

    We dated over a year before we married and overall he was a terrific guy. He wasn't perfect by any means and he said some hurtful things to me but nothing like I was about to experience after the wedding. Almost immediately the verbal and emotional abuse started. He called...
    Setfree2013 Setfree2013 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    I'm still scarred from a 9-month relationship 4

    years ago. I think I project those fears onto my current bf.
    MinaMischa MinaMischa 22-25, F Jun 23

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    please thoughts and advice.

    im 15 and my bf is 16 we have been together for nearly 9 months now. we have broken up probably more than 5 times throughout. anyways things havent been so great lately. last night we had an argument over how he believes he wont see me over the summer since we live less than 1...
    kathy803 kathy803 22-25, F 2 Responses May 29

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    I made my escape with only two suitcases.

    I had to leave my kids. One is 18 and the other is 16. They are going to be older in a month. He has them all brainwashed that i am destroying the family by taking my things. They are just like him. His brainwashing of how I wont get a thing. I have to heal my reaction and to...
    iam2tesue iam2tesue 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    THIS IS A REAL AND LEGITMATE FORM OF ABUSE.

    I struggle with the fact that not only was my ex emotionally abusive, but so was my own father. I can legitimately say that I am ****** up because of it. I can't trust anyone, I can't ever shake the feeling that I'm going to be left alone with no one to love. I cannot get rid...
    cemarie128 cemarie128 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 23

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    Don't Tear Me Down

    I was worthless, stupid and I could never survive without him.  I was incompetent as a mother.  Everything I ever did was wrong and I heard it everyday.  Nothing was ever good enough no matter how hard I tried and I gave it my all.  Past experience has shown...
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F 9 Responses Jul 21, 2008

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    how to be loved by man

    and feel loved. I feel messed up. I put so much into it, but I always get blamed. Even on who gets up earlier. Ex was so upset about I don't get up early enough. "You know how important it is to get to my work early" "You can get up anytime you want" "You know I m older than you...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 2 Responses May 8

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    My Story

    i have been with my boyfriend for a year and one month. He started to get super controlling over me didnt want me hanging out with my friends and always put my family down then he started to put me down alot i would say thee very first time he hit me i was shocked.we had argued...
    kalikween28 kalikween28 22-25, F 117 Responses May 20, 2013

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    Thirty Years And Still Haven't Found The Strength To Leave...

    I am embarrassed to say I have been married for thirty years to my emotionally abusive husband. It seems I am a very slow learner. Early in the relationship the abuse was not so often of course, and I had no understanding at all as to what it was. It has only been the last few...
    lmaw lmaw 51-55 8 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    Use Me, Abuse Me.

    I was 17 when i first met my ex fiance' Chong. He was 18 at the time. I met him from a group of friends. He was an *** but i thought it was just a show for our male friends so i didn't pay no mind. We would joke and whatnot but he seemed like he had no interest in me until one...
    MissSpookiness MissSpookiness 26-30, F 4 Responses May 10, 2012

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    Your Decision, Your Life

    Oh, how wonderful it is to finally have some PEACE...Kiss   I may not have all the things I once had, but I now know what was missing that makes everything else obsolete.   I thank God everyday for the strength he gave me to take the steps I needed to walk away...
    LADYFAY LADYFAY 56-60, F 7 Responses Apr 10, 2008

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    When Love Hurts

    When Love Hurts I can relate to many women, who have been mentally and emotionally abused, by what started out as a loving, and caring relationship, then it turned into there own personal hell. I was in their shoes just a couple of years ago. I was led to believe that...
    LADYFAY LADYFAY 56-60, F 14 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    I'm 14 and he's 16. He was sweet then turned

    obsessive , clingy , needy , had jealousy and insecurity. He even wasn't comfortable with me wearing certain things or talking to my guy friends. He said if you break my heart i'll break yours talking crazy . I gave him two chances after ******* up multiple times and he was...
    ThePrettyOnee ThePrettyOnee 13-15 1 day ago

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    I had known D since we were 10

    and began dating when we were 15 and dated for nearly 5 years. the first couple of years were like most high school relationships. We fell in love and people were jealous because we seemed so perfect for each other. Sometimes we thought it was such a good match, we assumed it...
    Alex2442 Alex2442 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    I Survived An Emotional Abusive Marraige/

    This story kinda Carry's on from another of mine, "A Mothers Love"I left my parents home when I was 19 and moved in with my then boyfriend. He was the first serious boyfriend I had had, was flattered i guess by the attention he showed me after years of being made to feel I was...
    gem1969 gem1969 41-45, F 4 Responses May 23, 2013

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    Quick Update On My Story Divorcing My Asperger Husband.

    I gave divorce paperwork to my husband to sign. He didn't sign it yet. But OMG! Such an amazing change! On Sunday he took both boys to gym for 3 hours. Today he was cooking dinner with me when I came home from work. I don't buy it. I'm wondering what kind of tricks (dirty or not...
    Squized Squized 46-50 5 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    I was in a emotional abusive relationship

    and I'm out of it now . My ex and I started dating freshman year of high school but we've known each other since 7th grade . He never used to be emotionally abusive to me . When we started dating he was amazing we were so in love and we became so close and then we got really...
    Loving1234 Loving1234 16-17, F Mar 31

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    Hi everyone. I was with a guy all through high

    school and basically grew up with him. He was not only my significant other but my best friend. He knew everything about me and I knew everything about him. We were together for six years. We were very happy but almost a year ago he broke up with me because he thought we were...
    l3eyond l3eyond 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 29

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    Called firstborn. Of an alcoholic father.

    Who loved image and alcohol. Not kids. Or wives. Or friends. Just image and alcohol. Those types mater covert abuse of mind. Or justification of said torture.
    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Divorcing My Asperger Husband. Divorcing Christian.

    Greetings to everyone who needs help and to everyone who can provide it ! I am here not to blame people with neurological conditions for my problems. I am here looking for people's opinion about my case. I'm married for 18 years to an Asperger man. That he is in spectrum I...
    Squized Squized 46-50 8 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    I Should Have Left THEN...

    My story is a lot like others. A series of events that looking back were all indicators of when it was time (or more than time) to walk away. My ex and I were together for a year. The year of the rollercoaster. I was so blind to it all in the beginning. Well not blind to the...
    JBird726 JBird726 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    flacobone flacobone 31-35, M 3 Responses May 30

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    I think I've been traumatised by my

    relationship with an abusive bf of 4 yrs.Got out of it last yr and have become reclusive.My son came to my house drunk(but happy) the other night and I found myself scared.My bf used to get abusive in drink! Can't believe I was scared around my lovely son.
    angelo64 angelo64 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    There isn't a topic for those already in a

    Emotionally Abusive relationship. So I decided to post what happened to me today: Before I begin, me and my partner have been together for six years going on seven. I have been the target of his emotional and passive aggressive abuse for a long time and have developed a numb...
    SoAntagonistic SoAntagonistic 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Yay for this group! It was online

    so I can't imagine what it would be like for someone irl, but he was just really controlling and manipulative and would guilt me into saying things lik that I loved him or something like that, and would try to "advise me" on who I should and shouldn't be friends with but it's...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F Mar 31

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    Survivors of emotionally abusive relationship

    tend to say that they are aware of the way they were being treated and opted to stay. What drew us is still a mystery. What made us stay is something I'd like to finally understand. My ex is pretty psychotic. Funny thing is he gave himself that nickname too. He would...
    Theboisterous Theboisterous 26-30, F 1 Response May 20

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    How I Can Change It

    I am married for 5 years now in begining everything was fine but after 2 years my husband started changing. He started ignoring me shouting at me without any reason made life a hell. I tried everything to make him happy to keep peace in my house but he always told me that i am...
    littlestars littlestars 26-30, F 25 Responses Aug 17, 2011

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    Emotional Abuse And Control Disguised As "My First Love"

    He was my first real boyfriend. We dated for 10 and a half months. I was 17 and he was 19. He seemed perfect. He was Cuban, I was Cuban. He had goals, I had goals. He was smart, I was smart. He was family oriented, I was family oriented. We had a lot in common it seemed. He told...
    mandypandi mandypandi 18-21, F 8 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    Escape

    This was a dream I had the night before breaking up with someone many many years ago. I didn't edit my memory, it's quite long and the narrative flow might seem a bit off. ------------------------------------------ I'm stepping outside of the huge castle, in fact I'm still...
    NekoGummy NekoGummy 36-40, F Sep 22, 2013

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    I cheated on my husband,

    then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an emotionally abusive person. I was extremely depressed, and stressed, and didn't know yet that it was because of my husband. I...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    You were not my first choice,

    but you were my choice. You suddenly turned my attention towards you like unsuspecting fireworks We gazed into each other for hours It felt timeless. Like an infinite hourglass I watched as you became a part of me You were the bark to my tree holding me together and keeping me...
    l3eyond l3eyond 18-21, F May 2

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    I Lost Two Years Of My Life And Several Friends To An Emotionally Abusive Boyfriend.

    Having broken up with my first real boyfriend at the age of 19, I was really frustrated and kind of lost. I dated around and made a few mistakes with men who didn't respect me, until I found "Kyle," who I thought was a sensitive, loving, intelligent man who just wanted to enjoy...
    phunfonics phunfonics 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 30, 2012

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    My now sorta ex got tired of having to commit

    to a serious relationship with me once she turned 21 (because she wanted to go out to bars and not have to worry about me staying home until I turn 21), but didn't she have the guts to break it off. So she instead has been gradually using me worse and worse for months in attempt...
    Mercey Mercey 18-21, M Mar 17

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    It's been almost 6 months

    since we broke up, and I'm happy. My life is so much better. I feel better, laugh more, I've lost 25 pounds, I've traveled to Europe. I've been offered a job across the country and I can't wait. I was hopeless, I thought he was the one, I thought he would change. I realized I...
    mousecop mousecop 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    The Abusive Man

    I was in an abusive relationship for a year and a half. This was during my undergraduate study.  It has been one of the most difficult and eye opening experiences in my life. For a very long time I didn't realise why I was feeling so on edge, I was scared of him a little without...
    SamanP SamanP 22-25 4 Responses Apr 20, 2012

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    My ex and I broke up weeks ago.

    It was an emotionally abusive relationship. We fight over small things and I always end up crying and wanted to leave the relationship because of all the harsh words he throws at me. I tried to discuss the problem with him but somehow he always managed to manipulate things and...
    Applepie4 Applepie4 22-25, F 5 Responses May 21

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    Have Self Respect, I Didn't

    I was in a emotionally abusive relationship. I couldn't handle my own stress and hers. I was insulted, berated, belittled and blackmailed. I had my heart broken multiple times and it tore me down; caused me to delve in a deep depression that has only lifted a few days ago. During...
    formermusician formermusician 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    He was a very insecure

    and inexperienced man who was also somewhat emotionally stunted. I really don't know what attracted me to him. Everything was an effort and he didn't really like being around me most of the time. I did all the work. He also consistently made me feel awful about myself. I met him...
    Cleansed Cleansed 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    Men Get Abused Too !

     My GF is a young and narcissistic - I'm sure she has some personality disorder - ever seen the movie "anger management" ? . She get volatile and abusive. Slams doors and shouts and screams - she slapped me across the fac because I had the nerve to fall asleep...
    bigyin bigyin 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    I Thought I Was Emotionally Invincible

    Its been about 2 weeks since I let go of my best friend. I've been crying non stop since then. Not eating much. I lost 12lbs in a week and a half. Im not sleeping much. I've been smoking and drinking beyond belief. I cut my self and I wanted to die. I dont want go outside...
    loudsilence1 loudsilence1 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2013

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    Words Hurt Just As Bad

    I have been in an off and off relationship for 5 years. we have been/struggled through a lot, and i thought things were getting better, but now i am not so sure. He has always been verball abusive, which even today he denies saying "**** you you ******* *****" "you're going to...
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    we are freshman in highschool,

    age 15, he's 16. at the beginning of our relationship he acted as if he didn't know me, he'd never sit with me at lunch, or ever try and spend time with me. he said it was "public affection issues" i broke up with him 2 months later. during that breakup his friends would poke...
    katiebrooks005 katiebrooks005 13-15, F Apr 5

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    I Am Just Starting To See....

    The extent of the abuse and control I allowed this man to have over me. I'm really amazed, I truly wasn't aware that it was as deep as it was. I have just gotten off the phone with a House Of Ruth legal volunteer, at the end of the conversation she asked me 2 last questions that...
    LadyHawke68 LadyHawke68 41-45, F 6 Responses May 3, 2012

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    I wish I could agree with the "was".

    I think I am, but I feel it is my fault so I can't leave. When I met him he was so charming, I fell in love at first sight. He moved into my place just shy of a month. He told me he was going to marry me, that I was the best woman he had ever met, that I was amazing. Then I...
    TiffRoo TiffRoo 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    The peace I have now

    that I was taken away from before truly shows that these relationships hold you back from loving yourself and loving others. Self-awareness is completely gone, which makes you become numb to your own feelings. Confused and lost, but deep down inside something tells you to leave...
    blowyamind blowyamind 22-25, F Apr 3

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    My ex of two years was emotionally abusive.

    I was living with her and she was very critical towards me. Ranging from how I washed the cast iron pan to how I'm not handy like her guy friends to my income to how cheap I was (I paid for 80% of the time we went out), to my performance as a man, and the list went on. She...
    sylworks sylworks 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 16

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    I was with my ex officially

    for about nine months. We got together at the very end of my senior year of high school. I knew he had been after me all year, but I had been focused on other things. I decided I'd give him a chance and have some fun that summer, then call it off before I left for school. At...
    annemore1994 annemore1994 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    ashleympressler ashleympressler 13-15, F 3 Responses May 20

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    Finally Untethered

    I have one relationship in my past that I tend to make a lot of references to.* At this point I am able to discuss this person and this situation and even who I was at the time without any sense of emotional connection, which I really consider to be healthy given the amount of...
    castallare castallare 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2009

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    Its Why I Am The Way I Am

    When use to look at me you would see a such a happy, smiling, and outgoing girl. My personality i am intelligent, caring, loving, compassionate, sweet, honest, i love my body, and myself and others. When he entered my life he was a gentlemen or at least that is what I thought and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    Intelligent Women Suffer Abusive Men Too

    Having survived an abusive three and a half relationship, two year marriage, I am happy to share my thoughts and offer any advice I can. My first marriage was not unhappy, but it was loveless and we had nothing but the children in common. I longed for a loving partner that I...
    carolinewirral carolinewirral 46-50 8 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    7.2.11 I met my ex boyfriend,

    "S". I thought he was so cute & funny & sweet. He lived in FL, I lived in NJ. I was only 13, & he was 14. We met online, & eventually gave each other our phone numbers & video chat names. Everything was fine. I told him all about my bullying issues & everything, & he acted like...
    njgirll njgirll 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    I just broke up with my girlfriend

    that I have been with for 8 years now. I struggle with a addiction problem that she just can't accept. She becomes abusive and violent when I relapse. I have been trying to stay sober and clean but there is just something instead that feels empty in me. I can't talk to her or...
    lovelife2014 lovelife2014 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 13

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