I Was In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

This is for those women and men who are unhappy in a relationship because of control issues...come in and share your story,...We are the ones who understand... 3,646 People

    It is a long story...

    Basically he would hurt me with his actions... For example, I used to live with him and knowing that I was having problems with my mom he would kick me out many times... I would forgive him and he would do it again and again... I can't believe I fell for his words... For three...
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    Feb 18, 2016

    Words Hurt Just As Bad

    I have been in an off and off relationship for 5 years. we have been/struggled through a lot, and i thought things were getting better, but now i am not so sure. He has always been verball abusive, which even today he denies saying "**** you you ******* *****" "you're going to...
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2013

    Ever after we broke up,

    it didn't really sink in how awful he was until I went back and read some of his comments from Hangouts and texting: "look i am aware that people see us together and make judgements. and sure its nice when people think highly of both people in a relationship because they appear...
    rock24of7 rock24of7
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2016

    Can we ever be happy

    and free of our abusers, after we've left?
    Singlemother78 Singlemother78
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 20, 2016


    This was a dream I had the night before breaking up with someone many many years ago. I didn't edit my memory, it's quite long and the narrative flow might seem a bit off. ------------------------------------------ I'm stepping outside of the huge castle, in fact I'm still...
    NekoGummy NekoGummy
    36-40, F
    Sep 22, 2013

    A few weeks ago I took a call at work.

    A man is asking to speak to one of my coworkers. His voice gives me the chills. I could hear the intent. Sense the hostility. He's clearly agitated and states that this is the third time he has called and that this is pertaining to my coworkers daughter and he needs to speak...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Oct 9, 2015

    Divorcing My Asperger Husband. Divorcing Christian.

    Greetings to everyone who needs help and to everyone who can provide it ! I am here not to blame people with neurological conditions for my problems. I am here looking for people's opinion about my case. I'm married for 18 years to an Asperger man. That he is in spectrum I...
    Squized Squized
    10 Responses Jan 28, 2013

    My mind is my biggest battlefield.

    Battling negative thoughts and happenings have been a struggle for almost a year, probably longer. The more distance I get from the fog of the last several years, the more I see I'm not complaining, I'm growing. I complain to those closest to me but they know me and they know...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Oct 21, 2014

    I have ended it. But I'm still afraid of her.

    It's not rational. I need to overcome this. I need to talk to someone in private. Please.
    kguy2 kguy2
    31-35, M
    1 Response Nov 25, 2015

    Is it insane to feel like the only person

    who could love me in the world is the same person that told me he hopes I kill myself? I am doing everything I can not to go back but I just don't feel lovable
    forevereternal9 forevereternal9
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 30, 2015

    I went on a "find your best self" retreat this

    weekend. No phones or Internet allowed. It was really enriching. When it came to my ex... The only word I expressed towards him was "NO!" No to his manipulation, no to his affection, no to his problems. I returned home and had to deal with him briefly, just through text. His...
    cloudedsky cloudedsky
    5 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    My Story

    i have been with my boyfriend for a year and one month. He started to get super controlling over me didnt want me hanging out with my friends and always put my family down then he started to put me down alot i would say thee very first time he hit me i was shocked.we had argued...
    kalikween28 kalikween28
    26-30, F
    111 Responses May 20, 2013

    When people hear, read,

    or see evidence of an abusive relationship. The first response is always.....Leave or various other insensitive comments surrounding that theme. These comments are not helpful. At all. It's easy to say this. But would you? Could you? Have the strength to leave. There's a price...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    Quick Update On My Story Divorcing My Asperger Husband.

    I gave divorce paperwork to my husband to sign. He didn't sign it yet. But OMG! Such an amazing change! On Sunday he took both boys to gym for 3 hours. Today he was cooking dinner with me when I came home from work. I don't buy it. I'm wondering what kind of tricks (dirty or not...
    Squized Squized
    3 Responses Jan 29, 2013
    lillyross lillyross
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    Hi. Was wondering if someone can help me.

    I recently left an abusive relationship. But I am reeealllly struggling to NOT go back to him. Um. He had beaten me up a lot as well as threatened me all the time it was SOOO many threats it was unreal. So why the hell do I wanna go back it makes no sense aàaah I'm struggling...
    amnotthattired amnotthattired
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 1, 2016

    I feel as if my abusive ex-boyfriend of four

    years still has a grasp on me. It's been nearly two years since I left him, and been with my current boyfriend. I truly feel anchored to my past...
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 4, 2016

    Intelligent Women Suffer Abusive Men Too

    Having survived an abusive three and a half relationship, two year marriage, I am happy to share my thoughts and offer any advice I can. My first marriage was not unhappy, but it was loveless and we had nothing but the children in common. I longed for a loving partner that I...
    carolinewirral carolinewirral
    8 Responses Jan 2, 2009

    My 4th grade teacher emotionally abused me.

    She spit on me and called me an idiot.
    saboosa saboosa
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Feb 18, 2016

    I am here because I need your help.

    I am not the victim though. I am the abuser and I want to stop. I can't afford therapy. My issues stem from not feeling worthy or having self esteem or confidence. My girlfriend is beautiful and talented and alot of people think so. It makes me feel jelouse and scared she sees I...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Feb 3, 2016

    I still am, ever since my daughters father

    and I parted.. He still makes fun of me..talks bad to me and isn't the greatest person to be around. In my head we been through a lot. He got into a relationship fast ...I was hurt...of course I felt really ugly..I still do..he always says it...I tell him it bothers me and I...
    Readmeastory82 Readmeastory82
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2016

    It's been almost 6 months

    since we broke up, and I'm happy. My life is so much better. I feel better, laugh more, I've lost 25 pounds, I've traveled to Europe. I've been offered a job across the country and I can't wait. I was hopeless, I thought he was the one, I thought he would change. I realized I...
    mousecop mousecop
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 22, 2013

    Three years ago, and I am NOT proud of my

    actions at all, I walked away from the toxic, painful morass my marriage had become. My family was and is very supportive of me, except my children. I am currently staying with my children and their dad so he can work 60-plus hours a week. We have joint custody, and I left...
    Libra67 Libra67
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 6, 2016

    When Love Hurts

    When Love Hurts I can relate to many women, who have been mentally and emotionally abused, by what started out as a loving, and caring relationship, then it turned into there own personal hell. I was in their shoes just a couple of years ago. I was led to believe that...
    56-60, F
    14 Responses Apr 17, 2008

    I finally left. I told him we are breaking

    contact. Moms response "Why would you do that?! You two can stay friends". My jaw dropped as tears rolled. No one cares because he's not hitting me. I really need resources, someone to talk to.
    SieMe SieMe
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Sep 11, 2015

    I just divorced my abusive husband of 3 years.

    We dated over a year before we married and overall he was a terrific guy. He wasn't perfect by any means and he said some hurtful things to me but nothing like I was about to experience after the wedding. Almost immediately the verbal and emotional abuse started. He called...
    Setfree2013 Setfree2013
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

    Sometimes, when someone is in an emotionally

    abusive relationship, they have no idea. Sometimes, we are completely oblivious to the fact that our lovers are even treating us wrong. Why? Because we become accustomed to their abuse and because we love them, we put up with it because we are fearful of losing them or what we...
    goodbyeghosts goodbyeghosts
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 27, 2014

    I dated a girl for nearly 5 years.

    Despite the fact that she would beat me up I stayed with her. I would do anything to try to make her happy. She later cheated on me and left me
    Christuner666 Christuner666
    31-35, M
    1 Response Oct 31, 2015

    I Should Have Left THEN...

    My story is a lot like others. A series of events that looking back were all indicators of when it was time (or more than time) to walk away. My ex and I were together for a year. The year of the rollercoaster. I was so blind to it all in the beginning. Well not blind to the...
    JBird726 JBird726
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Sep 24, 2013

    How I Can Change It

    I am married for 5 years now in begining everything was fine but after 2 years my husband started changing. He started ignoring me shouting at me without any reason made life a hell. I tried everything to make him happy to keep peace in my house but he always told me that i am...
    littlestars littlestars
    26-30, F
    26 Responses Aug 17, 2011

    I just dated a guy for just about two months

    (and the two months started on the day we started talking). He was a great guy and we INSTANTLY clicked and everything felt sooo right. It was literally like something so special between us and it felt like maybe it was from a movie. Long story short, he was emotionally abusive...
    ambamx3 ambamx3
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 10, 2016

    I realized the other day

    that I don't say "no" to guys. Not in the sense I enjoy it, but I feel like I HAVE to please guys sexually even if I don't want to. After so many years of being called/treated like I'm "worthless", "pathetic", "stupid", I started believing them. I don't say "no" because a part...
    terrywill15 terrywill15
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 28, 2015

    So I haven’t been too good.

    I’ve been frightened. Frightened that I am going to fail. Fail at my job, at being a mum, being a good daughter so as to make my parents proud and failing at being true to myself in a world that thrives on conformity and social acceptance. But then the fear grows. It evolves...
    ArriB22 ArriB22
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    i didn't really realize it at the time.

    he was my first love, so i thought it was normal that my stomach— not my heart— would jump when he came near. i thought it meant that we were in love when he constantly checked in on me when we weren't together. and i thought he was being funny and cute when he said i'd be...
    neuropunk neuropunk
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 30, 2015

    With my mother. Having extricated myself from

    that relationship and Drawn some healthy boundaries, I am beginning to look at other relationships differently. For one, my marriage. I catch myself requesting things like "please don't use my name like a curse word". That elicited a pyrotechnic flow of anger, and he went...
    notsocomplex notsocomplex
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 18, 2015

    So yeah I was.....how can a guy be in one you

    may ask.....well its damn easy when she is a complete narcissistic woman......I would wish this on my worst enemy......she gaslighted me from the start and eventually broke me down to the point where I almost killed myself and 3 months ago she just left me......she made me...
    huckleberrybunches huckleberrybunches
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    The worst part of this is just feeling like I

    can't leave the person that is hurting me so much. Why? Why can't I just see what he's done and just drop him? He's not even my bf. There's no foundation there. He's said he "enjoys breaking down girls who think they are better".
    musicandnotes musicandnotes
    26-30, F
    Dec 26, 2015

    In my marriage I lived

    and owned an old farm house. The house itself was surrounded by ferns. Mosquito heaven I called it. It looked absolutely horrible. They had literally taken right over, wild and twisted into everything. I hated them. So I set to work and started to pull them all out and redo my...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    It's been 11 months. Looking at it

    now I have come such a far way from the person I was 11 months ago but today I am ANGRY with him. He left me with so much of his debt and this month is so hard paying off debt which is not even mine! We do communicate and he is aware of the situation I'm in paying off all of our...
    cloudedsky cloudedsky
    3 Responses Jul 11, 2015

    He called me hateful words &

    when I went back to apologize he blocked me
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 23, 2015

    Is it happening again?

    Have I fallen for the nice-guy act once more, only to wind up shattered and decieved? My fears are multiplying, and I very much hope that I'm wrong.
    iamrae22 iamrae22
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 12, 2015

    My ex boyfriend used to violently spit in my

    mouth. To this day I am on the verge of tears when I see someone spit in public. He forced me to have sex with him and chased me around his house once in order to do so. I ended up locking myself in the bathroom and attempting to jump out of window. Dating him at 17 this was my...
    Zaylaphone Zaylaphone
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Oct 13, 2015

    I had been single for almost a year

    when I met someone. In the beginning. He was so charming. The conversations we had were so deeply intimate. He seemed to understand me. It was like he could read my thoughts. He reached deep down into my heart and soothed all my heart aches. I fell head over heels for this...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Apr 3, 2015

    I cheated on my husband,

    then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an emotionally abusive person. I was extremely depressed, and stressed, and didn't know yet that it was because of my husband. I...
    Regrets472 Regrets472
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Jul 21, 2014

    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    with some physical outbursts under financial domination. I suffered from posttraumatic stress disorder from the relationship with having anxiety, sleeplessness, being frightened easily and feeling emotionally numb and useless. Certain attitudes and behaviours of how people are...
    myownbox myownbox
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Aug 11, 2015

    I Survived An Emotional Abusive Marraige/

    This story kinda Carry's on from another of mine, "A Mothers Love"I left my parents home when I was 19 and moved in with my then boyfriend. He was the first serious boyfriend I had had, was flattered i guess by the attention he showed me after years of being made to feel I was...
    gem1969 gem1969
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 23, 2013

    When I was 13 years old,

    I met this guy and he was about 5 years older than me. We ended up becoming very close and i felt that I could share anything with him, even though he gave really harsh critiques and advice. As years passed, I started to develop feelings for him, but never really had the courage...
    theskysharbor theskysharbor
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 15, 2016

    The Answers And Signs To Your Abuse

    I was a victim...I asked myself these questions but I finally found it. I was a victim of subtle emotional abuse. It was subtle because we had only been together for 10 months...and yet he was already showing so much of his true colors. The signs I noticed...they can be confusing...
    mandypandi mandypandi
    22-25, F
    8 Responses Apr 3, 2013

    Survivors of emotionally abusive relationship

    tend to say that they are aware of the way they were being treated and opted to stay. What drew us is still a mystery. What made us stay is something I'd like to finally understand. My ex is pretty psychotic. Funny thing is he gave himself that nickname too. He would...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 20, 2014

    I just got out of a toxic emotionally abusive

    relationship, he says he screamed because i didn't listen or try to fix things between us. But i never really felt i could trust him, i loved him but i never met his family. He has a traditional Muslim family. We talked about marriage and children, we really love kids...
    sweetbooboo sweetbooboo
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 30, 2015

    I am looking for someone

    who is want to and the old woman for Christmas .
    cougarloving cougarloving
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship.

    I got out, but he keeps contacting me and saying all these things that sound good, but I know he doesn't mean it... It is sad when you find out that the person you loved never existed. It was all a big act...
    ImConvinced ImConvinced
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    I'm feeling...numb, to be honest.

    I broke up with him, failed at going No Contact, spent two HORRIBLE months considering going back together and suffering from worse abuse than when we were actually together. He was my first love. That's the one thing I'm having the hardest time forgiving (and everyone says if...
    womaninchains womaninchains
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 5, 2016

    I'm happy that I can be free now.

    So the first thing I did was go in my fridge & ate a big piece of red velvet cake lol. but I guess I'm okay. I have to find my confidence again & love myself again.
    FreeSpirit02 FreeSpirit02
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 24, 2016
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