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I Was In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

This is for those women and men who are unhappy in a relationship because of control issues...come in and share your story,...We are the ones who understand... 3,147 People

    7.2.11 I met my ex boyfriend,

    "S". I thought he was so cute & funny & sweet. He lived in FL, I lived in NJ. I was only 13, & he was 14. We met online, & eventually gave each other our phone numbers & video chat names. Everything was fine. I told him all about my bullying issues & everything, & he acted like...
    njgirll njgirll 16-17, F Jul 27

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    The peace I have now

    that I was taken away from before truly shows that these relationships hold you back from loving yourself and loving others. Self-awareness is completely gone, which makes you become numb to your own feelings. Confused and lost, but deep down inside something tells you to leave...
    blowyamind blowyamind 22-25, F Apr 3

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    You were not my first choice,

    but you were my choice. You suddenly turned my attention towards you like unsuspecting fireworks We gazed into each other for hours It felt timeless. Like an infinite hourglass I watched as you became a part of me You were the bark to my tree holding me together and keeping me...
    l3eyond l3eyond 18-21, F May 2

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    I am beyond mad at my mother right now.

    Right now I am in an amazing relationship with an amazing United States sailor. And my mom just keeps attacking my relationship. But with my last relationship, which was two years of emotional abuse. Every time I would try to break up with him he would threaten suicide and blame...
    BabyGrasshopper BabyGrasshopper 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 20

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    He is mean, I know that sounds silly

    but that's the best way I can describe it, of course just like the rest of u the started out perfect, I fell so hard so fast now it's like if he wants to go to jack in the box and I want McDonald's I'm going against him, he says " who's side are u on are u my girlfriend or not...
    crazybeautiful26 crazybeautiful26 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 21

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    My Story

    i have been with my boyfriend for a year and one month. He started to get super controlling over me didnt want me hanging out with my friends and always put my family down then he started to put me down alot i would say thee very first time he hit me i was shocked.we had argued...
    kalikween28 kalikween28 22-25, F 116 Responses May 20, 2013

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    I'm still scarred from a 9-month relationship 4

    years ago. I think I project those fears onto my current bf.
    MinaMischa MinaMischa 22-25, F Jun 23

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    I made my escape with only two suitcases.

    I had to leave my kids. One is 18 and the other is 16. They are going to be older in a month. He has them all brainwashed that i am destroying the family by taking my things. They are just like him. His brainwashing of how I wont get a thing. I have to heal my reaction and to...
    iam2tesue iam2tesue 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    Several actually.People pays with you their own

    flaws...it sucks,and when you are in love you have this kind of veil that let you out of being objective.Because we love,we suffer...shouldn't be this way,that ain't no love...it is selfishness.But yeah...it is so hard to end that cycle when you love someone.One thing I have...
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F Nov 8

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    My ex of two years was emotionally abusive.

    I was living with her and she was very critical towards me. Ranging from how I washed the cast iron pan to how I'm not handy like her guy friends to my income to how cheap I was (I paid for 80% of the time we went out), to my performance as a man, and the list went on. She...
    sylworks sylworks 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 16

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    I Should Have Left THEN...

    My story is a lot like others. A series of events that looking back were all indicators of when it was time (or more than time) to walk away. My ex and I were together for a year. The year of the rollercoaster. I was so blind to it all in the beginning. Well not blind to the...
    JBird726 JBird726 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Don't Tear Me Down

    I was worthless, stupid and I could never survive without him.  I was incompetent as a mother.  Everything I ever did was wrong and I heard it everyday.  Nothing was ever good enough no matter how hard I tried and I gave it my all.  Past experience has shown...
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 21, 2008

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    he won't stop texting,

    calling and contacting me. I can't handle this. I have blocked him but he still finds ways to contact me. I cannot do it. help
    shandel shandel 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 3

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    My mind is my biggest battlefield.

    Battling negative thoughts and happenings have been a struggle for almost a year, probably longer. The more distance I get from the fog of the last several years, the more I see I'm not complaining, I'm growing. I complain to those closest to me but they know me and they know...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 21

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    So I mentioned before

    that I quietly broke away from my "friend." I wasn't sure if she figured it out. She hasn't. We are texting. Well, she texted me. As if everything's fine. As if I haven't been avoiding her for many months. And, I answered. She was just... I know it's a bad idea. But what if I...
    jentile jentile 18-21, F Aug 11

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    Emotional Abuse And Control Disguised As "My First Love"

    He was my first real boyfriend. We dated for 10 and a half months. I was 17 and he was 19. He seemed perfect. He was Cuban, I was Cuban. He had goals, I had goals. He was smart, I was smart. He was family oriented, I was family oriented. We had a lot in common it seemed. He told...
    mandypandi mandypandi 18-21, F 8 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    please thoughts and advice.

    im 15 and my bf is 16 we have been together for nearly 9 months now. we have broken up probably more than 5 times throughout. anyways things havent been so great lately. last night we had an argument over how he believes he wont see me over the summer since we live less than 1...
    kathy803 kathy803 22-25, F 1 Response May 29

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    I was in a relationship

    for 4 years. We first started seeing each other when I was 17 he was 21. I thought he was my everything. In the beginning he was sweet and very devoted to me. About a year into the relationship things started to change, he began to make nasty passing comments or start fights. It...
    oceanicdreamer oceanicdreamer 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    Intelligent Women Suffer Abusive Men Too

    Having survived an abusive three and a half relationship, two year marriage, I am happy to share my thoughts and offer any advice I can. My first marriage was not unhappy, but it was loveless and we had nothing but the children in common. I longed for a loving partner that I...
    carolinewirral carolinewirral 46-50 7 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    I don't know if I can call

    that an abusive friendship, but it was what it felt like. I'm 13, she's 15. She constantly froze me out, treated me like ****, but then suddenly she would turn around and confront me with her sexual attraction towards me. Every time something good happened to me, she would put...
    Colourfi Colourfi 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 25

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    how to be loved by man

    and feel loved. I feel messed up. I put so much into it, but I always get blamed. Even on who gets up earlier. Ex was so upset about I don't get up early enough. "You know how important it is to get to my work early" "You can get up anytime you want" "You know I m older than you...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 2 Responses May 8

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    I Lost Two Years Of My Life And Several Friends To An Emotionally Abusive Boyfriend.

    Having broken up with my first real boyfriend at the age of 19, I was really frustrated and kind of lost. I dated around and made a few mistakes with men who didn't respect me, until I found "Kyle," who I thought was a sensitive, loving, intelligent man who just wanted to enjoy...
    phunfonics phunfonics 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 30, 2012

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    Thirty Years And Still Haven't Found The Strength To Leave...

    I am embarrassed to say I have been married for thirty years to my emotionally abusive husband. It seems I am a very slow learner. Early in the relationship the abuse was not so often of course, and I had no understanding at all as to what it was. It has only been the last few...
    lmaw lmaw 51-55 8 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    My ex was emotionally abusive through out our

    relationship. He would get angry every time I didn't do something he wanted. He would curse at me, tell me I wasn't attractive, and he didn't want a girl like me. Towards the end he kept pushing me away and seemed colder than usual. I suspected he had found someone else. I found...
    forevereternal9 forevereternal9 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 29

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    Divorcing My Asperger Husband. Divorcing Christian.

    Greetings to everyone who needs help and to everyone who can provide it ! I am here not to blame people with neurological conditions for my problems. I am here looking for people's opinion about my case. I'm married for 18 years to an Asperger man. That he is in spectrum I...
    Squized Squized 46-50 9 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    Every time I click send I get

    so angry at myself for encouraging her to get close again. Every time I try to ignore her I feel so terrible for not being a good friend. Even though I'm the one who decided months ago that you are most definitely not my friend. I've reread my angry notes to you (that I never...
    jentile jentile 18-21, F Aug 23

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    I was in a long term relentionship with a woman

    who would belittle, degrade and humiliate me on a daily basis. She withheld affection from me and made me feel unworthy of her time and affection. I started to question if it was just all in my head. Before I met her I was very confident but now I'm desperately trying to find...
    slj2014 slj2014 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 15

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    When Love Hurts

    When Love Hurts I can relate to many women, who have been mentally and emotionally abused, by what started out as a loving, and caring relationship, then it turned into there own personal hell. I was in their shoes just a couple of years ago. I was led to believe that...
    LADYFAY LADYFAY 56-60, F 14 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    I Am Just Starting To See....

    The extent of the abuse and control I allowed this man to have over me. I'm really amazed, I truly wasn't aware that it was as deep as it was. I have just gotten off the phone with a House Of Ruth legal volunteer, at the end of the conversation she asked me 2 last questions that...
    LadyHawke68 LadyHawke68 41-45, F 6 Responses May 3, 2012

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    Quick Update On My Story Divorcing My Asperger Husband.

    I gave divorce paperwork to my husband to sign. He didn't sign it yet. But OMG! Such an amazing change! On Sunday he took both boys to gym for 3 hours. Today he was cooking dinner with me when I came home from work. I don't buy it. I'm wondering what kind of tricks (dirty or not...
    Squized Squized 46-50 4 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    If you finish reading this

    and provide advice, suggestions, or insight - I will think the world of you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. So this is complicated and I'm not sure where to begin....about a year ago I experienced a broken engagement. It was one of the hardest things I have endured but...
    CloseItForSure CloseItForSure 31-35, M 3 Responses Sep 2

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    I just got out of an emotionally abusive

    relationship. I need some place to talk about it due to most people not understanding and me flipping out on them. I was with him for almost 3 years. He meant the world to me. He was wonderful at first...and then it progressed to this bizarre verbal and emotionally abusive state...
    freebird1990 freebird1990 22-25 3 Responses Oct 4

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    Men Get Abused Too !

     My GF is a young and narcissistic - I'm sure she has some personality disorder - ever seen the movie "anger management" ? . She get volatile and abusive. Slams doors and shouts and screams - she slapped me across the fac because I had the nerve to fall asleep...
    bigyin bigyin 46-50, M 5 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    Survivors of emotionally abusive relationship

    tend to say that they are aware of the way they were being treated and opted to stay. What drew us is still a mystery. What made us stay is something I'd like to finally understand. My ex is pretty psychotic. Funny thing is he gave himself that nickname too. He would...
    Theboisterous Theboisterous 26-30, F 1 Response May 20

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    I Thought I Was Emotionally Invincible

    Its been about 2 weeks since I let go of my best friend. I've been crying non stop since then. Not eating much. I lost 12lbs in a week and a half. Im not sleeping much. I've been smoking and drinking beyond belief. I cut my self and I wanted to die. I dont want go outside...
    loudsilence1 loudsilence1 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2013

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    Called firstborn. Of an alcoholic father.

    Who loved image and alcohol. Not kids. Or wives. Or friends. Just image and alcohol. Those types mater covert abuse of mind. Or justification of said torture.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 28

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    I'm 14 and he's 16. He was sweet then turned

    obsessive , clingy , needy , had jealousy and insecurity. He even wasn't comfortable with me wearing certain things or talking to my guy friends. He said if you break my heart i'll break yours talking crazy . I gave him two chances after ******* up multiple times and he was...
    ThePrettyOnee ThePrettyOnee 13-15, F Jul 28

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    I just divorced my abusive husband of 3 years.

    We dated over a year before we married and overall he was a terrific guy. He wasn't perfect by any means and he said some hurtful things to me but nothing like I was about to experience after the wedding. Almost immediately the verbal and emotional abuse started. He called...
    Setfree2013 Setfree2013 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    At first it was the best,

    then slowly I was manipulated . i was turned against friends , made to feel guilty about most everything i did, and verbally abused and lied to. not white lies ,but very sneaky, hurtful ones.i allowed myself to be treated that way because i was truly in love - not temporary- the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 15

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    The Answers And Signs To Your Abuse

    I was a victim...I asked myself these questions but I finally found it. I was a victim of subtle emotional abuse. It was subtle because we had only been together for 10 months...and yet he was already showing so much of his true colors. The signs I noticed...they can be confusing...
    mandypandi mandypandi 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 3, 2013

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    flacobone flacobone 31-35, M 3 Responses May 30

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    My ex and I broke up weeks ago.

    It was an emotionally abusive relationship. We fight over small things and I always end up crying and wanted to leave the relationship because of all the harsh words he throws at me. I tried to discuss the problem with him but somehow he always managed to manipulate things and...
    Applepie4 Applepie4 22-25, F 6 Responses May 21

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    I cheated on my husband,

    then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an emotionally abusive person. I was extremely depressed, and stressed, and didn't know yet that it was because of my husband. I...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 21

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    It's been almost 6 months

    since we broke up, and I'm happy. My life is so much better. I feel better, laugh more, I've lost 25 pounds, I've traveled to Europe. I've been offered a job across the country and I can't wait. I was hopeless, I thought he was the one, I thought he would change. I realized I...
    mousecop mousecop 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    The Abusive Man

    I was in an abusive relationship for a year and a half. This was during my undergraduate study.  It has been one of the most difficult and eye opening experiences in my life. For a very long time I didn't realise why I was feeling so on edge, I was scared of him a little without...
    SamanP SamanP 22-25 4 Responses Apr 20, 2012

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    ashleympressler ashleympressler 13-15, F 3 Responses May 20

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    I didn't think at the time it was abusive.

    Thinking back.. it was., he would punch my legs out of anger. he would throw me on the ground, he would put his cigerette out on me. but i would almost prefure the physical abuse over the emotinal... the emmotinal is what ruined me.. i would llove to share my whole story, if...
    tiannadianee tiannadianee 18-21, F Oct 28

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    How I Can Change It

    I am married for 5 years now in begining everything was fine but after 2 years my husband started changing. He started ignoring me shouting at me without any reason made life a hell. I tried everything to make him happy to keep peace in my house but he always told me that i am...
    littlestars littlestars 26-30, F 25 Responses Aug 17, 2011

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    I think. Here's my story.

    When we first met, I thought he was sweet, charming and opinionated individual. He was passionate and adored me to no end. He would often call me on nights we weren't together just to hear my voice, saying it was the sweetest voice he had ever heard. He called me angel, his...
    cheersbabe cheersbabe 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 17

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    Escape

    This was a dream I had the night before breaking up with someone many many years ago. I didn't edit my memory, it's quite long and the narrative flow might seem a bit off. ------------------------------------------ I'm stepping outside of the huge castle, in fact I'm still...
    NekoGummy NekoGummy 36-40, F Sep 22, 2013

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    Your Decision, Your Life

    Oh, how wonderful it is to finally have some PEACE...Kiss   I may not have all the things I once had, but I now know what was missing that makes everything else obsolete.   I thank God everyday for the strength he gave me to take the steps I needed to walk away...
    LADYFAY LADYFAY 56-60, F 7 Responses Apr 10, 2008