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I Was Manipulated By My Ex

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    And He Taught Me Well

    I am not a manipulative person whatsoever, I don't believe in emotional head games or tweaking a situation for a gain.  For the most part I am very open and honest when it comes to handling situations.  But there is one time I did use manipulation in full force.And it was an...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    He Never Existed

    I fell in love with a man that never existed. My ex claims that he just listened to me and made himself into whatever interested me. I was in love with my idea of love and my ex never wanted to see me go (so he says) so he hid his true self from me to keep me around. But when the...
    subeject101 subeject101 18-21 1 Response Sep 22, 2011

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    Grudge

    I was always one to hold grudges; yet, somehow, after all I have been through I can;t hold a grudge against him. I forgive you Dan, for all the manipulative things you have done to me. Of course, how all stories are, it didn't seem as bad in the moment but in hindsight it was...
    amyslife amyslife 18-21, F Jul 26, 2011

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    It Was Horrible

    The girl I lost my virginity to and the girl I was seeing right after I emerged from a coma. They both manipulated my every thought. Not at the same time because that was 2 years apart. I guess I let them into my mind way too much.
    Snookybear Snookybear 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 10, 2010

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    Gullible

    I would never have labeled myself as gullible, but yet I was manipulated and played by a guy who I thought cared about me. Isn't hindsight a painful thing? Loking back, I should've seen how he used me and spoke about me to his friends. But I convinced myself all guys were like...
    Faile Faile 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 13, 2007

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    So Many Things That I Now See...

    He would say, "My ex: wanted me to buy her things, wanted attention all the time, was always complaining.... I'm glad you're not like that." He would say he was 'too depressed' to do anything, to want me, to look for a job, to not have to be high all the time. Strange because...
    VfangzV VfangzV 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 13, 2012

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    A Wake Up Call

    my story is very long and very detailed, but its was huge life lesson that i had to learn the hard way.He was my ex boyfriend and my first boyfriend i was so emotionally attached to him and he knew it...first time he used me was 2 months after our break up we were out with two of...
    lulu55 lulu55 22-25, F Jul 13, 2012

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    That Was My Husbands Second Job

     he manipulated me from day one ..and i just dont even know how i allowed it to happen ...  but he had me weak .. and thats the only thing i can look back on .. I know when i handed him the control .. and i wish i hadnt done it .. I love hindsight ..
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F Jun 13, 2007

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    Three Ex Manipulators

    I used to have a tendincy to fall in love with men that manipulated me until I was rock bottem.. completely lost, depressed and hopeless. I did not understand that I was letting this happen and that it was my choice of men until the tirth one. I think being manipulated is like...
    Kiowa Kiowa 22-25, F 4 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I certainly was and wish I was spanked more than I actually was. I was caned as well.
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    a younger co-worker dropped by while I was enjoying my hottub... when she realized I was nude she stopped and covered her eyes while I got out and draped a towel around myself...
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    I don't know if writing about it is going to make me feel better or not, but here goes nothing anyways. Just a few days ago, summer school ended. We were amazingly happy about...
    KatieRosess KatieRosess 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    I met him online and he was the most charming person in the world. Was so interested in what i was like my thoughts, goals, philosophies on life. And so sweet. But somewhere it...
    Confused4959 Confused4959 22-25, F a week ago

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    Hello, my name is Diane and I am a junior at Rutgers. After the recent news concerning Mike Brown/Ferguson and police brutality, and reading about the protests occurring in NJ, I...
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    HollyD23 HollyD23 18-21, F Jul 20

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    LifeOnAThread LifeOnAThread 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    HollyD23 HollyD23 18-21, F Jul 20

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    Okay this is the first time that I have written my story.... . Well typed it . It all started when my mom (who I love so deeply) got married to this man when I was 5 years old ! I...
    shy9723 shy9723 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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