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I Was the Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 802 People

    I Did It...

    I ended it. I didn't hear from him for several days, then he calls me yesterday as if nothing is wrong. I just realized that for 15 months, this has been entirely on HIS TERMS and that's not acceptable to me anymore. With Christmas and New Years coming, who will he be with...his...
    tallngreeneyed tallngreeneyed 46-50 11 Responses Dec 21, 2011

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    It has been a month since we have seen each

    other or spoke on the phone. The first two weeks I could not function and I really thought I was losing it. Then I snapped out of it. I made a list of all the terrible things he did or said. I wrote down the effect this would have on his children and mine. I prayed and cried and...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Everyone around me is

    either happily single or in a great relationship... I'm just over here being solo. Last night my friend invited me over to his friends place to play some Beer Pong with some people. The awkward thing is that I've had a crush on his friend for the longest, and we actually got a...
    IAmNotPeppercorn IAmNotPeppercorn 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    I sit here thinking how he is laying with her

    now. I am glad it is over. i don't think I could take it anymore. I probably would have done something that I would regret forever. At least now I can move on and meet someone who is NOT MARRIED!!!!!
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I never posted in this group.

    Today, I might call it quits or take a break from my MM until he files for his divorce. I'm meeting with him in the morning to discuss "us." Honestly, I debating to change my number, blocking him or just leaving things be if we decided to part... I'm just sad and depressed...
    Bailey1950 Bailey1950 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I Want To Know?

    I never thought of myself as the other woman until recently, maybe as I am married too. I had lots of major traumas in my life and a husband of many years who does not emotionally connect with me and could not support me through the traumas. I fell in love with my MM, truly...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    I Ended It

    Just now i ended it with my mm. I hope it stays ended. I cant cope with the constant explosion of emotions anymore. Its a game for the mm. A drug for the other woman. I know this now. Before the current mm i was always in control, nevet wanted or expected more. But then i met...
    helena09 helena09 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    I remember the first time I gazed upon him.

    My face lit up, it was like looking at this perfect image of a guy I always wanted. He was at my church with one of my friends and so my friend introduced me to him. I instantly fell for him. He had so much in common with me. From where we were born, to our college choice for...
    thaxton thaxton 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 2

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    Do we accept what we believe we deserve?

    This is a question I have been reflecting on today. In my case I think the answer may be yes. The question was an answer given to a question about why nice people date or marry real jerks. As soon as I heard it I had a stomach dropping moment and I cannot get the question...
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 5

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    I was the other woman

    but didn't even know I was... While her hands touched mine she was thinking about her girlfriend and it makes me feel sick because I thought I was her real love! 💔
    BrokenAngel35 BrokenAngel35 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    I will no longer post in this experience

    since I feel to do so would be to continue to dwell on someone who does not deserve my thoughts. I learned so much from this one and only affair I will ever experience. I learned that we women just want to love. And some men, married, take advantage of that. That is being used...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 3

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    Today I am tired, And resigning myself to the

    fact that never speaking to him or touching him again will be a reality. I will not compete or love anymore, I will not pine and then have anymore. Instead I will surrender, spite, pine and not have. Things will get better. Amen.
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    Hello Ladies I belong here now.

    It is over between my mm and I it took me a while to understand it but it is. 😭 Any help to make me forget he existed? Si don't wanna think of him anymore. I want to forget he ever existed. I am so heart broken. I cannot erase the past, just accept it and grow from this...
    Gweneth Gweneth 31-35 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    He Died In My Arms

    He Died In My Arms. Posted February 10th, 2012 at 9:12AM We met a little over a year ago...instant attraction both physical and emotional. Our bond grew with each passing day talking for hours when possible, sharing what was happening in each others lives....kids, grandkids no...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 10, 2012

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    Isnt it funny how when you treat them the same

    way they treated you they want to "cry"? Manipulator....
    Doodles2008 Doodles2008 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I have decided to change my EP name being

    that Wheelz is his nickname and we are no longer involved. I am TheKatsMeow no longer Wheelzofluv. I must admit I think of him often. I wonder if it was as real as it felt. I wonder about a lot. I know I made the right decision ending it that is the only thing I am sure of. I...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    We began as co-workers.

    He was married; I was 5-year's divorced and stable with my independence/schooling/future. Throughout my life, I've been more of a listener than a sharer, able to keep confidences, share (solicited) advice, provide a big shoulder. It was a "fit" for him to turn to me: I was...
    nowunderwatertime nowunderwatertime 46-50, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    there are these nights

    when I can't sleep at all because he haunts me. The only thing that keeps me from crying is knowing full well that as he lays down each night, I am in his thoughts haunting him as well. What a funny, sick game life can be.
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    Couldn't Take It Anymore...

    We met online but had so many connections it just seemed natural that our friendship developed into a relationship. I knew from the very beginning that he had a girlfriend but he always swore he was miserable with her and was going to break up with her because he loved me and...
    kzoodiana kzoodiana 36-40, F 8 Responses Feb 10, 2012

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    And It Hurts

    I've been that other woman on more than one occasion and it sucks. I realized that it's not fair to anyone and we all suffer from it. I don't know why I did it but deep down I knew that nothing would become of it. Still it hurt, and as much as I blamed him, I too was a...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 15 Responses Oct 28, 2007

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    2008

    This was the year that my life truly started I believe. I was working as a private photographer and was hired by a woman to photograph her family's Christmas party. When I arrived, she was very very bitchy and expected me to do more then what she'd hired me for. Shortly after...
    FreyaQ FreyaQ 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    I Fell Into The Trap Of A Married Man

    There is no good thing about an affair, unless you are not in love with the person. You can easily rid yourself of them. Jealousy, pain and loneliness is not worth ruining a marriage. If I could go back and change it, I definitely would. Married men just want you at first, then...
    LittleEdithBeale LittleEdithBeale 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    I think days will get better

    but i can't be sure... It always works out for people.... Every few years or so I tend to make mistakes that leave me reeling. I learn from them. I wish ex-MM would take me seriously when I said it's over...
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    It's all gone. I want to be next.

    How dare I shame my parents. How dare I shame myself. Small town girl went from quiet and respectful to the opposite. From now on it will no longer get better. Things are bad- not pretty bad yet but bad enough.
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I get so angry that I can't fall asleep @ night.

    I get angry when I find out ex MM steered new guy away from me by introducing him to slags... It's all true. Yeah yeah "you can do better" but I'm angry. My one shot with a pretty decent single man and ex-mm does this. I swear if his ******* wife daggers me one more time I'm...
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    I had a hard time today.

    It hit me that someone I loved completely lied and deceived me. That sucks. What sucks more? Being married to a douche like him. Thank goodness it's over. Yes I miss the way he made me feel at times...but overrall? He tore me to shreds and I am rebuilding a better me. D Wheeler...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    When my husband threatened to end our marriage

    i was so confused, restless and heartbroken. i did not know what to do. So i read an article about Love spells testimony of Mrs. Angela William of how she reunited with her ex. so i decided to make contact with her and she gave me the contact details of the spell caster that...
    gudheart gudheart 22-25, F Mar 12

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    Buckle in, because this could be a long one.

    My first "adult" job out of high school was in an office, working as a secretary/personal assistant -- a horribly clichéd setting, I know, but I suppose they are clichés for a reason. It was a government setting, and I worked for a high-profile man with a reputation people...
    mackenziesaxon mackenziesaxon 18-21, F Feb 12

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    I love that there is a group such

    as this! I am no longer the OW. The strength endured is sensational... Thank you Lord!
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    Women And Men

    I wanted to share some basic thoughts I have because I feel that men are suffering as much as we are in some form. One thing that we should realize is that human emotions are real even for men. But they ARE able to compartmentalize. They just are. And we have to except that...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    Yesterday, after a year,

    I ended it with my MM. There was no drama. We both knew that it couldn't last forever, even though we fantasized several times about being together. There are lots of reasons it probably wouldn't work between us: the age difference, our lifestyle differences, our religious...
    Crazy4Rn Crazy4Rn 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Young And Caught Under His Spell

    Never in my life have I been in love. I'm to young for that. I am a good person, I never really get into any trouble. I am helpful, loving and kind. I am a respectful young girl with a promising future. Or I was. I went to the beach this summer on the east coast to work. I got a...
    LostLittleLadyBug LostLittleLadyBug 18-21, F 27 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    I Leave You To Be Married

    I wonder, as I am reading an email from MM and he is telling me that he just wants me. How does he still come up with those words?? We haven't seen each other for awhile yet he still feels the need. It's not as if we were ever in a place where I wanted him to leave his family...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 3 Responses May 28, 2013

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    Long story short, the man I was with

    for over a year realizes he no longer has me, or his wife and is threatening suicide. I want nothing to do with him but these threats to himself are destroying me. Advice ?? This has reached the point of insanity.
    dcp1058 dcp1058 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Pullupgirl Has A New ID

    Watch out for afica24white it's her new tag.
    AnotherBondiBlonde1 AnotherBondiBlonde1 36-40, F 7 Responses May 31, 2013

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    Our Story

    I no longer live in his heart....so there is no need to wake in his world. Our story is complete. The pages are written. It is filled with love, heartache and triumph, happiness, erotic sensuality and undying emotions. It is our love story. You and me. Our breathtaking magical...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    How do you stay strong.

    ......and not go back? :-) I ended it six months ago.....there's been no contact for eight weeks.......help me please! :-)
    kjr71 kjr71 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    Putting The Pieces Back Together

    I gave my love to him and he tore my heart into a 1,000 piece puzzle. I was nothing more than a joke to him. I can't sleep, food has become my enemy and these tears, these tears have become my miserable new friend. I have fallen apart; my life proof positive that love is just...
    trynnasleepbrokenhearted trynnasleepbrokenhearted 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    Time Heals All.......

    It has been said that time heals all wounds. But I think the wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting it's sanity, covers them with scar tissue and it allows you to move on and live. But they are never forgotten. They however, make you stronger, because it allows you to...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2013

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    I Feel So Weak

    I feel so weak right now. All I want to do is reach out to you and run back into your arms. I would give anything to hear your voice. We haven't spoken in 5 days and it feels like we've been apart for a lifetime. I’m at work and I can’t focus. I’m fighting the tears in my...
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2013

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    I remember when we first kissed In my porch a

    summers night You had to sneak into my house After midnight so no one would see you We didn't want your girlfriend to find out It was fun being sneaky I know we had something real Just the timing was wrong Sometimes I wish I could kiss you Again and again. Night after night...
    ifollowmyownstar ifollowmyownstar 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Yesterday

    Yesterday, I was clever and tried to change the world.....today I am wise and decided to change myself.
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I haven't seen him face to face

    since August 8th. over 2 months of no contact and then at exactly midnight, EXACTLY midnight on the eve of my birthday, his familiar text tone rang. And scared the sh*t out of me as I lay in bed laughing at Zoey Deschanel. I wasn't really laughing a whole lot those days, so it...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 20

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    thank God I am starting to feel better.

    After a year and a half of fooling myself into believing he loved me and it would work out, I see the light at the end of the tunnel. He called today to ask if we could stay in contact because he "cares about me so much". I told him I think that is a bad idea because we will end...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    Wife keeps looking @ me.

    Just wanna hit her and say: I'm NOT THE ONE ANYMORE THOSE OTHER THREE ***** are aggrh
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F Apr 8

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    yesterday I reached the end of grief

    and willingly accepted anger. He robbed me of the choice to know it all. He lied about his kids, his wife. everything. He keeps saying " I didn't do anything!" a clueless jerk who got what he deserved. the truth that he and I knew was given to his wife. I know it was selfish...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    It's been 2 years and 5 months

    since I last heard from the married man I was seeing. He got scared when I found out I was pregnant and ran back to his wife and cut all communications after being with me for almost 3 years. I had to find out from his sister that he decided to end things. I didn't really get a...
    TemptingLust TemptingLust 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 5

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    I Was Their Nanny

    Please don't judge me, I already know I did wrong. I was 19 when I went to England to work as a nanny for a loving family in a small village. He was 39, his wife was 42. She was lovely, had a great sense of humour and just made anyone love her. She was a make up artist and went...
    isybusy isybusy 22-25, F 13 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    I never messsed with a married man

    but ive been with a man that was still in a relationship.It all started as a lie ..i had just started a new job and previously just gotten out of a six year relationship with a son involved had been fell out of love with my boyfriend but only stayed in it for my son..so that...
    clo417 clo417 22-25 Feb 7

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    Things to consider about affairs.

    Most never leave the marriage. You can do the research. Even if they do leave the marriage, only 3-5% of relationships that began as affairs end up in marriage. There is a 75% divorce rate for marriages that began as affairs. There are many more problems faced by a couple...
    Judy54 Judy54 51-55 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Is it natural to get over him faster

    than I thought? I've been praying and crying but I still have so much peace at times I thought I would be breaking down. I just ended it a day ago and I sleep like a baby and wake up hopeful.. Is this normal? How long did it take you to get over your mm? I wasn't with a mm, but...
    BrokenReborn BrokenReborn 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    I feel sad today. I miss him.

    I love him still. It probably sounds nuts but I can feel that he misses me as well. We were connected on a soul level. He told me that it scared him at times, the feelings he would have when we were near each other, He called it "overwhelming and intoxicating". He is gone now...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I Was the Other Woman

    and it was the worst decision of my life. not only did i betray myself, but i betrayed my best friend in the whole world - it was her boyfriend. there's not a day i don't look back and hate myself for what i did. i ruined so much through my inability to make good judgement. i...
    possibly possibly 18-21, F 10 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    Being The Other Woman

    I've been reading and reading and it sadly doesn't surprise me how judgmental some people can be, but on the flip side it doesn't surprise me to see kind words and encouragement. Being the other woman is probably the hardest life experience I've ever endured, yet somehow it...
    harderthanithought harderthanithought 31-35, F 13 Responses Jul 4, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    MM asked to meet up today.. Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 22 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    A Warning I've been on every side of an affair that a person can be on. I've been the scorned spouse. I've been the cheater. I've been the other woman. And I am not biased here...
    DogsOfJezebel DogsOfJezebel 26-30 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    So I am new to this site.... Had to find a way to talk about everything I am going thru... So I am involved with a man that has been in a relationship with another woman for 13...
    Jlynn1424 Jlynn1424 22-25, F 3 Responses