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    Read somewhere today

    that some people come into your life just to teach you how to let go... Kind of comforting
    emadelemur emadelemur 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2014

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    So I saw him the other day.

    My friend had a party and he was there. My friend had already warned me he was going to be there and I told myself I was fine with that but I was really nervous because I hadn't seen or spoke to him in months. I got to the party and what a coincidence he just arrived too. Just...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    I was the other woman unknowingly at first &

    all it got me was pain,heartache,lies,deciet,low self esteem & for my loyalty I got called every nasty name in the book & horrible things said to me for doing the right thing & ending it. I loved him unconditionally & I'll miss what we had at one time, but too much has been said...
    Lovingmyselffirst Lovingmyselffirst 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2014

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    No matter what happened.

    Even though he went back to his family. I still think my man is a great guy. I wish him happiness. I wish myself a new relationship with a single man soon / someday. Maybe someone like him. But single. I still miss him everyday. And i know i still love him. (Sigh) but what can...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2014

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    That's it. After nearly 3 long years of a

    roller coaster ride, ups downs, highs, lows. Lots of good times but more upset and heartbreak than you would imagine. It's over. I am set free from this situation completely. No contact no more false hopes nothing. I pick myself up and my life starts now. I will never ever be...
    CastNoShadows CastNoShadows 26-30, F 12 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    I'm trying not to get my hopes up,

    but you know how that goes. He told me in our long text last night that he wanted to try and see me. it'll break my heart if he doesnt. He is the one who mentioned it, so there may be hope. I pray to God that there is, I miss him so much.
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    Young And Caught Under His Spell

    Never in my life have I been in love. I'm to young for that. I am a good person, I never really get into any trouble. I am helpful, loving and kind. I am a respectful young girl with a promising future. Or I was. I went to the beach this summer on the east coast to work. I got a...
    LostLittleLadyBug LostLittleLadyBug 18-21, F 25 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 4 days ago

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    I've been seeing a MM

    for 1.5 years. I have ended it. I have tried to end it so many times in the past (it became too painful and my own life was becoming more and more difficult and isolated), but I always end up seeing him again. This time I want it to be it. I am hoping to find strength and...
    magssf magssf 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I miss my mm a lot ..

    . He broke up with me 5months ago and I keep thinking about him .. cry a lot .. I miss him very much ..
    Pocarii Pocarii 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2014

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    Here are things I learned

    while I was the other woman. 1. It does not look pretty from the outside. - I recently watched a movie where a man was cheating and it was hard to watch since in was in the same situation BUT it just looked bad. I felt from the wife/girlfriend, I felt for the other woman and...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 6 Responses May 28, 2014

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    It's been 3 weeks since I've seen/been with my

    MM. I know it was the whole Holidays, his rehearsals, his family being over. I went to his Christmas service just to see him even from afar. Everytime I looked at him, I fought the tears back. I sat alone while his wife was there upfront by him. It reminded me how lonely my...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    We decided to remain friends

    and have been just that. I still held on to hope that someday we would meet and see what kind of connection we had. It was wrong to hope on my part, as I knew he would never take me back. Today he tells me he has fallen in love. Just months after I was his everything. Im in...
    DeadHeartsAreEverywhere DeadHeartsAreEverywhere 31-35, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I Fell Into The Trap Of A Married Man

    There is no good thing about an affair, unless you are not in love with the person. You can easily rid yourself of them. Jealousy, pain and loneliness is not worth ruining a marriage. If I could go back and change it, I definitely would. Married men just want you at first, then...
    LittleEdithBeale LittleEdithBeale 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    I was looking through the pictures on my phone

    and I came across all of the screenshots from all of the conversations I ever had with ex-MM. I was reading through some of them and I just can't believe him! So wishy-washy and full of it! He said all these wonderful nice things to me that seemed to show that he cared then 2...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I am in the same situation

    as you are. I was with my MM for over 3 years and has a 3 year old daughter. He told me he would leave his wife when his daughter was a year old. He moved out ,but always struggled with not seeing his daughter enough. He eventually filed for divorce , but then put it on hold...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    Something happened the last few days.

    Almost a month ago MM broke off our affair stating he wanted to work on his marriage. He still wanted to be friends. Ok I'll try. I am a private duty nurse and on New Year's Day I lost my patient to his advanced age. I tried to call him. The phone ringing and stuff didn't sound...
    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    I was the other woman

    because it made me feel attractive. I also like the idea of knowing he had a choice and he was choosing me.
    Therealjason Therealjason 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Happy Thanksgiving, my MM.

    I post this just in case I get a chance in the future to prove I never stopped loving you or thinking about you. I had a great day but I always wonder, what if you were here with me?
    nvragain1024 nvragain1024 31-35, F Nov 27, 2014

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    6 years ago. When he finally left his wife I

    thought this was it. Now we have our chance. I was very wrong and stupid. Fast forward to now we have 2.5 year old. Now I'm stuck with the real him. Selfish vindictive spiteful. Used my son against me a few times because I do not want to be with him anymore. He's a bully. These...
    nikifox nikifox 31-35 3 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    I Was Their Nanny

    Please don't judge me, I already know I did wrong. I was 19 when I went to England to work as a nanny for a loving family in a small village. He was 39, his wife was 42. She was lovely, had a great sense of humour and just made anyone love her. She was a make up artist and went...
    isybusy isybusy 22-25, F 12 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    So many woman has been the other woman.

    I sympathize with them, because I used to be the other woman. I will never judge no one negatively, but I would just like to share my story. To be the other woman is not that awesome, even though at first i used to think that. I met my MM July 2013. Every moment spend with...
    Samysam Samysam 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My mm broke up with me 5 months ago ,

    since then he never wants to meet me as much as I lower down my self esteem beg him to meet me so many time. When I ask him is it he doesn't want to see me anymore, is it he want me out of his life , but he told me he never said he don't want to see me anymore , he will see me...
    Pocarii Pocarii 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    All I know is that I feel incredibly lonely.

    I miss him. I miss our talks, our laughs, our everything. It's been two weeks and it still feels as fresh as it was the first day.
    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I Did It...

    I ended it. I didn't hear from him for several days, then he calls me yesterday as if nothing is wrong. I just realized that for 15 months, this has been entirely on HIS TERMS and that's not acceptable to me anymore. With Christmas and New Years coming, who will he be with...his...
    tallngreeneyed tallngreeneyed 46-50 11 Responses Dec 21, 2011

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    Our Story

    I no longer live in his heart....so there is no need to wake in his world. Our story is complete. The pages are written. It is filled with love, heartache and triumph, happiness, erotic sensuality and undying emotions. It is our love story. You and me. Our breathtaking magical...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    I don't know what to do.

    I haven't seen our talked to AP since September and he messaged me out of the blue yesterday. I was a mess of emotions, but I kept my responses short. There are so many questions I want to ask him, but I'm so happy he's talking to me that I don't want to ruin it. He also...
    renae85 renae85 26-30 3 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    Two years ago, I became best friends with a

    married woman I would babysit/nanny for. Mid thirties, in great shape; she was like a big sister to me. We would go shopping and she would buy me clothes even. I felt she was coming on to me but didn't think much of it. Well, one day we shared a dressing room to try some new...
    emmsbody emmsbody 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    Still painful sometimes.

    I still cry. I miss him. Accepting that i could no longer be with him is painful. They broke up a month ago, and then they are back again. I could have taken him if they were officially over. Its so painful. I applaud the other women out there for being patient with their man...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    Does anyone of u ladies still have to see your

    MM even though it's over? OR work, live close to? Each time I gone in my kitchen looked out window over at his. I really not sure how to cope. Any advice please
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?

    v=eM213aMKTHg "and i wonder do i ever cross your mind,for me it happens all the time".......
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Although its been almost 2 years

    since we been together last I still think of you everyday It's okay tho. I know we will most likely not be together Anytime in the future ! But hey who knows what the future holds ! I like to think your happy . But your pictures I can sense sadness in your eyes ! The same...
    ifollowmyownstar ifollowmyownstar 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 22, 2014

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    I'm worth more than this.

    I'm worth more than your one text message a day. Than your 20 min phone call and that's it for the day. Than your "I can't make it happen this week". Than your "I have to go now she's here." Than your "I'm not alone." Than your "why are you being complicated?" Than...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    The only contact I have received from him

    several weeks ago was asking me not to respond to any contact from his wife. I respected his wishes when she contacted me and said that she prayed for me to find happiness in my life and not steal it from others. My intentions were not to steal happiness from her. Does she...
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I Want To Know?

    I never thought of myself as the other woman until recently, maybe as I am married too. I had lots of major traumas in my life and a husband of many years who does not emotionally connect with me and could not support me through the traumas. I fell in love with my MM, truly...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Things to consider about affairs.

    Most never leave the marriage. You can do the research. Even if they do leave the marriage, only 3-5% of relationships that began as affairs end up in marriage. There is a 75% divorce rate for marriages that began as affairs. There are many more problems faced by a couple...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Hi ****** We met walking home from school

    remember you telling me about your kids. I then remember each time I saw you we say hi. I knew you was a MM and you lived opposite me. Still can't believe on this site we met and you said Oh you forgotten me. I said no because you have a W. I then remember your father was ill...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F Dec 13, 2014

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    Oh my God, I have been missing him

    so much the past few weeks. I miss being close to him, having him hold me, kiss me, touch me. I haven't saw him since August 29th and I thought I was doing so well and now this...the past few days have been almost unbearable. I just don't get it!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    It's been 2 years and 5 months

    since I last heard from the married man I was seeing. He got scared when I found out I was pregnant and ran back to his wife and cut all communications after being with me for almost 3 years. I had to find out from his sister that he decided to end things. I didn't really get a...
    TemptingLust TemptingLust 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 5, 2014

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    Yesterday, after a year,

    I ended it with my MM. There was no drama. We both knew that it couldn't last forever, even though we fantasized several times about being together. There are lots of reasons it probably wouldn't work between us: the age difference, our lifestyle differences, our religious...
    Crazy4Rn Crazy4Rn 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    To all other women/past other women: I am

    happy to say I've moved on. A few days ago I saw him and it was the most awkward and heartbreaking experience. I haven't seen him in months and I suddenly run into him. I was stunned naturally and I can see he was too. We just stared at each other for minute unsure of what to...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    I haven't posted in a while

    but I just wanted to update everyone on my situation. So it's been over 5 months since things ended and I feel good. Not to say that it was an easy 5 months, I definitely had my low point but I saw the end. Since things got exposed he broke up with his girl but I knew us getting...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2014

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    I Leave You To Be Married

    I wonder, as I am reading an email from MM and he is telling me that he just wants me. How does he still come up with those words?? We haven't seen each other for awhile yet he still feels the need. It's not as if we were ever in a place where I wanted him to leave his family...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 3 Responses May 28, 2013

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    we were together for 7 months

    and I decided to end things 2 months ago. There were so many empty promises and it was mentally exhausting. We decided straight up that although we have feelings for eachother we would wait a few months to work things out with our partners and go from there. I ended things with...
    katie39 katie39 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    tatabagor tatabagor 36-40, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I used to be TURKEY6 previously on this board

    but I deactivated for almost a year. I was the other woman in a strange tumultuous relationship for 2 years (off and on). We haven't spoken since about July of this year after a particularly nasty fight. He called me a name that I can't accept and I retaliated by saying the...
    tinyivory tinyivory 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    2008

    This was the year that my life truly started I believe. I was working as a private photographer and was hired by a woman to photograph her family's Christmas party. When I arrived, she was very very bitchy and expected me to do more then what she'd hired me for. Shortly after...
    FreyaQ FreyaQ 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    Couldn't Take It Anymore...

    We met online but had so many connections it just seemed natural that our friendship developed into a relationship. I knew from the very beginning that he had a girlfriend but he always swore he was miserable with her and was going to break up with her because he loved me and...
    kzoodiana kzoodiana 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 10, 2012

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    *sigh* Three weeks without him.

    It still seems so surreal that he is no longer in my life. I did the "right" thing. I walked away from the deepest love I have ever felt all because he is married. And in his absence, all I feel is Emptiness Sadness Failure I failed. Funny how as the OW, I feel failure. I...
    insouciant1 insouciant1 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 23, 2014

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    It's been 6 days , had to count today

    because normally by a few days I'd unblock him just to see if he'd contact me Proud to say he hasn't been unblocked and he won't be nor do I desire any sort of contact from him I really am done this time , and yes I've hurt, I've cried , I've ached and gone through all the...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    Being The Other Woman

    I've been reading and reading and it sadly doesn't surprise me how judgmental some people can be, but on the flip side it doesn't surprise me to see kind words and encouragement. Being the other woman is probably the hardest life experience I've ever endured, yet somehow it...
    harderthanithought harderthanithought 31-35, F 13 Responses Jul 4, 2013

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