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I Was the Other Woman

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    I was looking through the pictures on my phone

    and I came across all of the screenshots from all of the conversations I ever had with ex-MM. I was reading through some of them and I just can't believe him! So wishy-washy and full of it! He said all these wonderful nice things to me that seemed to show that he cared then 2...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    I haven't posted in a while

    but I just wanted to update everyone on my situation. So it's been over 5 months since things ended and I feel good. Not to say that it was an easy 5 months, I definitely had my low point but I saw the end. Since things got exposed he broke up with his girl but I knew us getting...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2014

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    my affair lasted almost 7yrs.

    it's over now it's been almost a year ago since it ended,still love and miss him even though he was a jerk
    tonia3 tonia3 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 23

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    That's it. After nearly 3 long years of a

    roller coaster ride, ups downs, highs, lows. Lots of good times but more upset and heartbreak than you would imagine. It's over. I am set free from this situation completely. No contact no more false hopes nothing. I pick myself up and my life starts now. I will never ever be...
    CastNoShadows CastNoShadows 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    So many woman has been the other woman.

    I sympathize with them, because I used to be the other woman. I will never judge no one negatively, but I would just like to share my story. To be the other woman is not that awesome, even though at first i used to think that. I met my MM July 2013. Every moment spend with...
    Samysam Samysam 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    6 years ago. When he finally left his wife I

    thought this was it. Now we have our chance. I was very wrong and stupid. Fast forward to now we have 2.5 year old. Now I'm stuck with the real him. Selfish vindictive spiteful. Used my son against me a few times because I do not want to be with him anymore. He's a bully. These...
    nikifox nikifox 31-35 3 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    A few years ago I went through a rough time.

    I could say it was all the raging hormones clouding my judgement but really, I knew what I was doing. I don't expect any pity, in fact I'm pretty disgusted with my younger self for what I've done because I'd never do it now. I literally wish I could go back and make the right...
    cillasavage cillasavage 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    Ahhhh 😁😊😅 Well everyone at work was

    rooting for me and the new super hot guy at work to talk to each other , people were telling him to come talk to me and people were telling me to go up to him and talk to him ..... Lol So he knew I was interested and I assumed he was interested Well after my second break I...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I still smell you on my pillows.

    Twenty day pass, and I thought the smell would be gone by now. Thought the distance would make me forget you, forget us, forget those moments we spent intertwined. In every inch of this apartment a memory. I remember your face while you entered thru the door, how you smiled, and...
    YankeesOTW YankeesOTW 26-30 3 Responses Mar 19

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    Still painful sometimes.

    I still cry. I miss him. Accepting that i could no longer be with him is painful. They broke up a month ago, and then they are back again. I could have taken him if they were officially over. Its so painful. I applaud the other women out there for being patient with their man...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    I Fell Into The Trap Of A Married Man

    There is no good thing about an affair, unless you are not in love with the person. You can easily rid yourself of them. Jealousy, pain and loneliness is not worth ruining a marriage. If I could go back and change it, I definitely would. Married men just want you at first, then...
    LittleEdithBeale LittleEdithBeale 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    It's been 3 weeks since I've seen/been with my

    MM. I know it was the whole Holidays, his rehearsals, his family being over. I went to his Christmas service just to see him even from afar. Everytime I looked at him, I fought the tears back. I sat alone while his wife was there upfront by him. It reminded me how lonely my...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F Jan 1

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    Last year met a married man at first we were

    friend and and then lovers. I tell him it's over and walked away although we do close to each a bit hard to not see him, wife and kids. Just a matter of time before I do have a conversation with is wife because his son knows me. I use to go to his and his son was there. A bit...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Oh my God, I have been missing him

    so much the past few weeks. I miss being close to him, having him hold me, kiss me, touch me. I haven't saw him since August 29th and I thought I was doing so well and now this...the past few days have been almost unbearable. I just don't get it!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    tatabagor tatabagor 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    I came across this article

    and thought it was eye opening. http://www.yourtango.com/2015259034/five-brutal-truths-i-want-my-husbands-mistress-to-know
    justagirl44 justagirl44 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I Did It...

    I ended it. I didn't hear from him for several days, then he calls me yesterday as if nothing is wrong. I just realized that for 15 months, this has been entirely on HIS TERMS and that's not acceptable to me anymore. With Christmas and New Years coming, who will he be with...his...
    tallngreeneyed tallngreeneyed 46-50 11 Responses Dec 21, 2011

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    I was the other woman

    because it made me feel attractive. I also like the idea of knowing he had a choice and he was choosing me.
    Therealjason Therealjason 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I had an affair with a man I worked with

    for three years. I knew he was married at the outset, but it was a "loveless marriage" and he was "going to get a divorce." Of course, that never happened. For all those years I did everything he asked, usually sexually, and then he would leave and go home to her. When she...
    point2thesky point2thesky 26-30, M Feb 12

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    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F Jan 24

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    My ex MM had his big art show opening in London

    last weekend. He was written about in the Huffington Post. He is about to become very wealthy and famous. I'm happy for him. However, even though we have had no contact for about a month, hearing about him from friends, etc has triggered my feelings of missing him. So, this...
    nycgrrrl nycgrrrl 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2014

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    Being The Other Woman

    I've been reading and reading and it sadly doesn't surprise me how judgmental some people can be, but on the flip side it doesn't surprise me to see kind words and encouragement. Being the other woman is probably the hardest life experience I've ever endured, yet somehow it...
    harderthanithought harderthanithought 31-35, F 13 Responses Jul 4, 2013

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    Two years ago, I became best friends with a

    married woman I would babysit/nanny for. Mid thirties, in great shape; she was like a big sister to me. We would go shopping and she would buy me clothes even. I felt she was coming on to me but didn't think much of it. Well, one day we shared a dressing room to try some new...
    emmsbody emmsbody 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    it's been almost two months

    since my MM went back to his wife. I have started therapy. which I highly recommend to every woman that has ever suffered through the highs and lows of being in love with a man. I have slowly begun to heal and move on with my life. I have discovered that I was wrapped around his...
    justagirl44 justagirl44 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 10

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    I Want To Know?

    I never thought of myself as the other woman until recently, maybe as I am married too. I had lots of major traumas in my life and a husband of many years who does not emotionally connect with me and could not support me through the traumas. I fell in love with my MM, truly...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Today I saw this MM that I had a thing with

    last year. We had a talk he asked how I was etc. I am still getting over the flu. He seemed quite concerned. He was very serious at first. He asked after my son if I got a job now. I did not ask him much about his kids etc. I just said bet your happy you driving again and if he...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?

    v=eM213aMKTHg "and i wonder do i ever cross your mind,for me it happens all the time".......
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Things to consider about affairs.

    Most never leave the marriage. You can do the research. Even if they do leave the marriage, only 3-5% of relationships that began as affairs end up in marriage. There is a 75% divorce rate for marriages that began as affairs. There are many more problems faced by a couple...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I am in the same situation

    as you are. I was with my MM for over 3 years and has a 3 year old daughter. He told me he would leave his wife when his daughter was a year old. He moved out ,but always struggled with not seeing his daughter enough. He eventually filed for divorce , but then put it on hold...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F Jan 1

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    And now I'm pregnant!

    ! It doesn't matter how much you believe they'll leave for you. They don't in the end! The last time we spoke he was 'a couple weeks off leaving her' and I found out I was pregnant. he didn't want it and we haven't spoken in 9 weeks and he's still with her. I no longer want...
    katie39 katie39 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    2008

    This was the year that my life truly started I believe. I was working as a private photographer and was hired by a woman to photograph her family's Christmas party. When I arrived, she was very very bitchy and expected me to do more then what she'd hired me for. Shortly after...
    FreyaQ FreyaQ 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    I was the other woman,

    for several months, it ended on Christmas Eve after I ended it and she found out about us. You will always be the bad guy, and let's be honest, you are, you need to stay away from married men. Whenever people said this to me while I was seeing MM, my vision was clouded, I...
    meredithgreyxo meredithgreyxo 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 9

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    Yesterday, after a year,

    I ended it with my MM. There was no drama. We both knew that it couldn't last forever, even though we fantasized several times about being together. There are lots of reasons it probably wouldn't work between us: the age difference, our lifestyle differences, our religious...
    Crazy4Rn Crazy4Rn 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Young And Caught Under His Spell

    Never in my life have I been in love. I'm to young for that. I am a good person, I never really get into any trouble. I am helpful, loving and kind. I am a respectful young girl with a promising future. Or I was. I went to the beach this summer on the east coast to work. I got a...
    LostLittleLadyBug LostLittleLadyBug 18-21, F 25 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    I've been seeing a MM

    for 1.5 years. I have ended it. I have tried to end it so many times in the past (it became too painful and my own life was becoming more and more difficult and isolated), but I always end up seeing him again. This time I want it to be it. I am hoping to find strength and...
    magssf magssf 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    To all other women/past other women: I am

    happy to say I've moved on. A few days ago I saw him and it was the most awkward and heartbreaking experience. I haven't seen him in months and I suddenly run into him. I was stunned naturally and I can see he was too. We just stared at each other for minute unsure of what to...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    I was planning a wedding with what I thought

    was the love of my life; he was married & had recently had a kid. This was many years ago, but it took years to get over the heartbreak & humiliation. Fast forward to last year & my ex reaches out to me. I'm in a great relationship & he's now in a sexless marriage (or so he...
    DreamGolfer DreamGolfer 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    I used to be TURKEY6 previously on this board

    but I deactivated for almost a year. I was the other woman in a strange tumultuous relationship for 2 years (off and on). We haven't spoken since about July of this year after a particularly nasty fight. He called me a name that I can't accept and I retaliated by saying the...
    tinyivory tinyivory 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    Our Story

    I no longer live in his heart....so there is no need to wake in his world. Our story is complete. The pages are written. It is filled with love, heartache and triumph, happiness, erotic sensuality and undying emotions. It is our love story. You and me. Our breathtaking magical...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    Read somewhere today

    that some people come into your life just to teach you how to let go... Kind of comforting
    emadelemur emadelemur 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2014

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    So I saw him the other day.

    My friend had a party and he was there. My friend had already warned me he was going to be there and I told myself I was fine with that but I was really nervous because I hadn't seen or spoke to him in months. I got to the party and what a coincidence he just arrived too. Just...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    In almost every serious relationship I've been

    in, I've always been cheated on. It sucks. My parents have been married my whole life... One would think I would be anti-cheating right?? Well, that's what I thought... So, to make this short, sweet, and to the point; I fell in love with a man who wasn't really available... At...
    crazyolme15 crazyolme15 26-30, F Jan 31

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    I didn't know she had wife I found

    when she walked on us.
    GrecoItalianBella83 GrecoItalianBella83 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    Here are things I learned

    while I was the other woman. 1. It does not look pretty from the outside. - I recently watched a movie where a man was cheating and it was hard to watch since in was in the same situation BUT it just looked bad. I felt from the wife/girlfriend, I felt for the other woman and...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 6 Responses May 28, 2014

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    I Leave You To Be Married

    I wonder, as I am reading an email from MM and he is telling me that he just wants me. How does he still come up with those words?? We haven't seen each other for awhile yet he still feels the need. It's not as if we were ever in a place where I wanted him to leave his family...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 3 Responses May 28, 2013

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    My mm broke up with me 5 months ago ,

    since then he never wants to meet me as much as I lower down my self esteem beg him to meet me so many time. When I ask him is it he doesn't want to see me anymore, is it he want me out of his life , but he told me he never said he don't want to see me anymore , he will see me...
    Pocarii Pocarii 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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