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I Was the Other Woman

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    And It Hurts - I've been that other woman on more than one occasion and it sucks. I realized that it's not fair to anyone and we all suffer from it. I don't know why I did it but...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 15 Responses Oct 28, 2007

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    I Leave You To Be Married - I wonder, as I am reading an email from MM and he is telling me that he just wants me. How does he still come up with those words?? We haven't seen...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 3 Responses May 28, 2013

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    I was the other woman but didn't even know I was... While her hands touched mine she was thinking about her girlfriend and it makes me feel sick because I thought I was her real...
    BrokenAngel35 BrokenAngel35 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    Is it natural to get over him faster than I thought? I've been praying and crying but I still have so much peace at times I thought I would be breaking down. I just ended it a day...
    BrokenReborn BrokenReborn 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    Yesterday, after a year, I ended it with my MM. There was no drama. We both knew that it couldn't last forever, even though we fantasized several times about being together. There...
    Crazy4Rn Crazy4Rn 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Our Story - I no longer live in his heart....so there is no need to wake in his world. Our story is complete. The pages are written. It is filled with love, heartache and triumph...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    I feel sad today. I miss him. I love him still. It probably sounds nuts but I can feel that he misses me as well. We were connected on a soul level. He told me that it scared him...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    Young And Caught Under His Spell - Never in my life have I been in love. I'm to young for that. I am a good person, I never really get into any trouble. I am helpful, loving and...
    LostLittleLadyBug LostLittleLadyBug 18-21, F 27 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    Women And Men - I wanted to share some basic thoughts I have because I feel that men are suffering as much as we are in some form. One thing that we should realize is that human...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    I have decided to change my EP name being that Wheelz is his nickname and we are no longer involved. I am TheKatsMeow no longer Wheelzofluv. I must admit I think of him often. I...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    Everyone around me is either happily single or in a great relationship... I'm just over here being solo. Last night my friend invited me over to his friends place to play some Beer...
    IAmNotPeppercorn IAmNotPeppercorn 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    I Was the Other Woman - and it was the worst decision of my life. not only did i betray myself, but i betrayed my best friend in the whole world - it was her boyfriend. there's not...
    possibly possibly 18-21, F 10 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    Today I am tired, And resigning myself to the fact that never speaking to him or touching him again will be a reality. I will not compete or love anymore, I will not pine and then...
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    I Was Their Nanny - Please don't judge me, I already know I did wrong. I was 19 when I went to England to work as a nanny for a loving family in a small village. He was 39, his...
    isybusy isybusy 22-25, F 13 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    I sit here thinking how he is laying with her now. I am glad it is over. i don't think I could take it anymore. I probably would have done something that I would regret forever. At...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Buckle in, because this could be a long one. My first "adult" job out of high school was in an office, working as a secretary/personal assistant -- a horribly clich├ęd setting, I...
    mackenziesaxon mackenziesaxon 18-21, F Feb 12

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    I Fell Into The Trap Of A Married Man - There is no good thing about an affair, unless you are not in love with the person. You can easily rid yourself of them. Jealousy, pain and...
    LittleEdithBeale LittleEdithBeale 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    Couldn't Take It Anymore... - We met online but had so many connections it just seemed natural that our friendship developed into a relationship. I knew from the very beginning...
    kzoodiana kzoodiana 36-40, F 8 Responses Feb 10, 2012

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    We began as co-workers. He was married; I was 5-year's divorced and stable with my independence/schooling/future. Throughout my life, I've been more of a listener than a sharer...
    nowunderwatertime nowunderwatertime 46-50, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Time Heals All....... - It has been said that time heals all wounds. But I think the wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting it's sanity, covers them with scar tissue and it...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2013

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    I get so angry that I can't fall asleep @ night. I get angry when I find out ex MM steered new guy away from me by introducing him to slags... It's all true. Yeah yeah "you can do...
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    It has been a month since we have seen each other or spoke on the phone. The first two weeks I could not function and I really thought I was losing it. Then I snapped out of it. I...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Things to consider about affairs. Most never leave the marriage. You can do the research. Even if they do leave the marriage, only 3-5% of relationships that began as affairs...
    Judy54 Judy54 51-55 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    It's been 2 years and 5 months since I last heard from the married man I was seeing. He got scared when I found out I was pregnant and ran back to his wife and cut all...
    TemptingLust TemptingLust 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 5

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    there are these nights when I can't sleep at all because he haunts me. The only thing that keeps me from crying is knowing full well that as he lays down each night, I am in his...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I Did It... - I ended it. I didn't hear from him for several days, then he calls me yesterday as if nothing is wrong. I just realized that for 15 months, this has been entirely on...
    tallngreeneyed tallngreeneyed 46-50 11 Responses Dec 21, 2011

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    Being The Other Woman - I've been reading and reading and it sadly doesn't surprise me how judgmental some people can be, but on the flip side it doesn't surprise me to see kind...
    harderthanithought harderthanithought 31-35, F 13 Responses Jul 4, 2013

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    Putting The Pieces Back Together - I gave my love to him and he tore my heart into a 1,000 piece puzzle. I was nothing more than a joke to him. I can't sleep, food has become my...
    trynnasleepbrokenhearted trynnasleepbrokenhearted 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    I Want To Know? - I never thought of myself as the other woman until recently, maybe as I am married too. I had lots of major traumas in my life and a husband of many years who...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Yesterday - Yesterday, I was clever and tried to change the world.....today I am wise and decided to change myself.
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Pullupgirl Has A New ID - Watch out for afica24white it's her new tag.
    AnotherBondiBlonde1 AnotherBondiBlonde1 36-40, F 7 Responses May 31, 2013

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    He Died In My Arms - He Died In My Arms. Posted February 10th, 2012 at 9:12AM We met a little over a year ago...instant attraction both physical and emotional. Our bond grew with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 10, 2012

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    I think days will get better but i can't be sure... It always works out for people.... Every few years or so I tend to make mistakes that leave me reeling. I learn from them. I...
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Isnt it funny how when you treat them the same way they treated you they want to "cry"? Manipulator....
    Doodles2008 Doodles2008 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I remember when we first kissed In my porch a summers night You had to sneak into my house After midnight so no one would see you We didn't want your girlfriend to find out It was...
    ifollowmyownstar ifollowmyownstar 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I never messsed with a married man but ive been with a man that was still in a relationship.It all started as a lie ..i had just started a new job and previously just gotten out of...
    clo417 clo417 22-25 Feb 7

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    I never posted in this group. Today, I might call it quits or take a break from my MM until he files for his divorce. I'm meeting with him in the morning to discuss "us...
    Bailey1950 Bailey1950 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    It's all gone. I want to be next. How dare I shame my parents. How dare I shame myself. Small town girl went from quiet and respectful to the opposite. From now on it will no...
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    thank God I am starting to feel better. After a year and a half of fooling myself into believing he loved me and it would work out, I see the light at the end of the tunnel. He...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    yesterday I reached the end of grief and willingly accepted anger. He robbed me of the choice to know it all. He lied about his kids, his wife. everything. He keeps saying " I...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    Long story short, the man I was with for over a year realizes he no longer has me, or his wife and is threatening suicide. I want nothing to do with him but these threats to...
    dcp1058 dcp1058 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    I Will Never Be Again - He said he loved me for about a month, and that he loved me more than he loved her, till I went crazy jealous because he would not leave her. He admitted he...
    jlimones jlimones 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 9, 2013

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    I had a hard time today. It hit me that someone I loved completely lied and deceived me. That sucks. What sucks more? Being married to a douche like him. Thank goodness it's over...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    I Feel So Weak - I feel so weak right now. All I want to do is reach out to you and run back into your arms. I would give anything to hear your voice. We haven't spoken in 5 days...
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2013

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    2008 - This was the year that my life truly started I believe. I was working as a private photographer and was hired by a woman to photograph her family's Christmas party. When I...
    FreyaQ FreyaQ 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    When my husband threatened to end our marriage i was so confused, restless and heartbroken. i did not know what to do. So i read an article about Love spells testimony of Mrs...
    gudheart gudheart 22-25, F Mar 12

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    Do we accept what we believe we deserve? This is a question I have been reflecting on today. In my case I think the answer may be yes. The question was an answer given to a...
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 5

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    I will no longer post in this experience since I feel to do so would be to continue to dwell on someone who does not deserve my thoughts. I learned so much from this one and only...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 3

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    and think because I miss the physical presence of him that I have still wanted to speak to him or see him again. But I have had the opportunity and for some good reason it just...
    TheKatMeows TheKatMeows 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    How do you stay strong.......and not go back? :-) I ended it six months ago.....there's been no contact for eight weeks.......help me please! :-)
    kjr71 kjr71 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    I remember the first time I gazed upon him. My face lit up, it was like looking at this perfect image of a guy I always wanted. He was at my church with one of my friends and so my...
    thaxton thaxton 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 2

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    I Ended It - Just now i ended it with my mm. I hope it stays ended. I cant cope with the constant explosion of emotions anymore. Its a game for the mm. A drug for the other woman...
    helena09 helena09 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 5, 2012