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I Was the Other Woman

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    6 years ago. When he finally left his wife I

    thought this was it. Now we have our chance. I was very wrong and stupid. Fast forward to now we have 2.5 year old. Now I'm stuck with the real him. Selfish vindictive spiteful. Used my son against me a few times because I do not want to be with him anymore. He's a bully. These...
    nikifox nikifox 31-35 3 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    It's been 2 years and 5 months

    since I last heard from the married man I was seeing. He got scared when I found out I was pregnant and ran back to his wife and cut all communications after being with me for almost 3 years. I had to find out from his sister that he decided to end things. I didn't really get a...
    TemptingLust TemptingLust 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 5, 2014

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    Ahhhh 😁😊😅 Well everyone at work was

    rooting for me and the new super hot guy at work to talk to each other , people were telling him to come talk to me and people were telling me to go up to him and talk to him ..... Lol So he knew I was interested and I assumed he was interested Well after my second break I...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I don't want anymore secret friendships .

    .. I'm tired of being the other woman. Tired of its complicated ... You are an adult sort it out..I want something I can be proud off
    1spicygirl 1spicygirl 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    I was the other woman

    because it made me feel attractive. I also like the idea of knowing he had a choice and he was choosing me.
    Therealjason Therealjason 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    It's a year later and

    as crazy as it seems,I had an interview today and I think it went well just was kinda wishing I could share it with him,good,bad or ugly he was always the 1st person I wanted to share it with, but I have to remind myself he isn't there, makes me sad...
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 4 Responses May 15

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    Still painful sometimes.

    I still cry. I miss him. Accepting that i could no longer be with him is painful. They broke up a month ago, and then they are back again. I could have taken him if they were officially over. Its so painful. I applaud the other women out there for being patient with their man...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    Here are things I learned

    while I was the other woman. 1. It does not look pretty from the outside. - I recently watched a movie where a man was cheating and it was hard to watch since in was in the same situation BUT it just looked bad. I felt from the wife/girlfriend, I felt for the other woman and...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 5 Responses May 28, 2014

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    I Was Their Nanny

    Please don't judge me, I already know I did wrong. I was 19 when I went to England to work as a nanny for a loving family in a small village. He was 39, his wife was 42. She was lovely, had a great sense of humour and just made anyone love her. She was a make up artist and went...
    isybusy isybusy 22-25, F 12 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    Last year met a married man at first we were

    friend and and then lovers. I tell him it's over and walked away although we do close to each a bit hard to not see him, wife and kids. Just a matter of time before I do have a conversation with is wife because his son knows me. I use to go to his and his son was there. A bit...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F Mar 29

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    Young And Caught Under His Spell

    Never in my life have I been in love. I'm to young for that. I am a good person, I never really get into any trouble. I am helpful, loving and kind. I am a respectful young girl with a promising future. Or I was. I went to the beach this summer on the east coast to work. I got a...
    LostLittleLadyBug LostLittleLadyBug 18-21, F 25 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    I've been with a lot of men

    or women who were already in relationships, and I know I've probably caused fights and breakups. I feel so guilty about it. Sometimes I'm just too much of a wh-ore to be a good person :/
    KittyCunt KittyCunt 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    Twice !!! My heart is

    so fragile today... Today Is a special anniversary of the day we first met...You were a hurricane of confidence and sweetness.. I was a 'Mysterious Butterfly '*Your words* You were the only man to ever make me build castles in the air for two. This song ' Overjoyed By...
    mayabotanica mayabotanica 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    Advice from myself to all others out there in

    similar situations - never undo no contact when you know it's totally over beyond words. Never allow that scar to be ripped open. It's not worth the pain, but not only that, the mm will never change and suddenly leave his w. Even if it's been over for months or years, it still...
    CastNoShadows CastNoShadows 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 22

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    2008

    This was the year that my life truly started I believe. I was working as a private photographer and was hired by a woman to photograph her family's Christmas party. When I arrived, she was very very bitchy and expected me to do more then what she'd hired me for. Shortly after...
    FreyaQ FreyaQ 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    I miss him today for some unknown reason.

    I think sometimes I just hate being single and wish I had someone special to talk to. 😞
    Lostinlove41 Lostinlove41 41-45, F 2 Responses May 7

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    I was the other woman,

    for several months, it ended on Christmas Eve after I ended it and she found out about us. You will always be the bad guy, and let's be honest, you are, you need to stay away from married men. Whenever people said this to me while I was seeing MM, my vision was clouded, I...
    meredithgreyxo meredithgreyxo 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    Yes oh yes! I was a member of the Other woman

    club. It was really difficult to leave it behind. . . It took me three years before i could walk into a space that held "our" memories.Without feeling like deaths' leftover. Now i can barely remember his taste and touch. . . He sent me a message a cute picture of a golden...
    mayabotanica mayabotanica 41-45, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Yesterday, after a year,

    I ended it with my MM. There was no drama. We both knew that it couldn't last forever, even though we fantasized several times about being together. There are lots of reasons it probably wouldn't work between us: the age difference, our lifestyle differences, our religious...
    Crazy4Rn Crazy4Rn 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Taumilynn Taumilynn 36-40 May 10

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    No matter what happened.

    Even though he went back to his family. I still think my man is a great guy. I wish him happiness. I wish myself a new relationship with a single man soon / someday. Maybe someone like him. But single. I still miss him everyday. And i know i still love him. (Sigh) but what can...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F Jul 13, 2014

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    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F Jan 24

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    Being The Other Woman

    I've been reading and reading and it sadly doesn't surprise me how judgmental some people can be, but on the flip side it doesn't surprise me to see kind words and encouragement. Being the other woman is probably the hardest life experience I've ever endured, yet somehow it...
    harderthanithought harderthanithought 31-35, F 13 Responses Jul 4, 2013

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    I had an affair with a man I worked with

    for three years. I knew he was married at the outset, but it was a "loveless marriage" and he was "going to get a divorce." Of course, that never happened. For all those years I did everything he asked, usually sexually, and then he would leave and go home to her. When she...
    point2thesky point2thesky 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    I came across this article

    and thought it was eye opening. http://www.yourtango.com/2015259034/five-brutal-truths-i-want-my-husbands-mistress-to-know
    justagirl44 justagirl44 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    Couldn't Take It Anymore...

    We met online but had so many connections it just seemed natural that our friendship developed into a relationship. I knew from the very beginning that he had a girlfriend but he always swore he was miserable with her and was going to break up with her because he loved me and...
    kzoodiana kzoodiana 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 10, 2012

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    It's been 6 days , had to count today

    because normally by a few days I'd unblock him just to see if he'd contact me Proud to say he hasn't been unblocked and he won't be nor do I desire any sort of contact from him I really am done this time , and yes I've hurt, I've cried , I've ached and gone through all the...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    So this is it... My first post in the "WAS"

    section... I have now ended the "affair" and I haven't seen him in 2 weeks. He was begging me to see him at the weekend. It took a lot, but I refused. He asked why I won't see him as friends, he still wants me in his life etc, he can't live without me. This enraged me for...
    DefinitelyDollie DefinitelyDollie 22-25, F 4 Responses May 12

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    I haven't posted in a while

    but I just wanted to update everyone on my situation. So it's been over 5 months since things ended and I feel good. Not to say that it was an easy 5 months, I definitely had my low point but I saw the end. Since things got exposed he broke up with his girl but I knew us getting...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2014

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    I Want To Know?

    I never thought of myself as the other woman until recently, maybe as I am married too. I had lots of major traumas in my life and a husband of many years who does not emotionally connect with me and could not support me through the traumas. I fell in love with my MM, truly...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Our Story

    I no longer live in his heart....so there is no need to wake in his world. Our story is complete. The pages are written. It is filled with love, heartache and triumph, happiness, erotic sensuality and undying emotions. It is our love story. You and me. Our breathtaking magical...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    Things to consider about affairs.

    Most never leave the marriage. You can do the research. Even if they do leave the marriage, only 3-5% of relationships that began as affairs end up in marriage. There is a 75% divorce rate for marriages that began as affairs. There are many more problems faced by a couple...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I found this place by chance

    while looking for a break up support group. Not too long ago, I found whom I thought was the perfect man for me. He was smart, kind, giving, protective, good looking, he had his own business, and to add to that - hilarious. He wooed me, and I am not easy to woo. He really...
    NativeBoxerGirl NativeBoxerGirl 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 28

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    And now I'm pregnant!

    ! It doesn't matter how much you believe they'll leave for you. They don't in the end! The last time we spoke he was 'a couple weeks off leaving her' and I found out I was pregnant. he didn't want it and we haven't spoken in 9 weeks and he's still with her. I no longer want...
    katie39 katie39 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 1 Response May 10

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    I ended things with this mm

    but we live so close to each other. So it's been hard to not see him. But we do still talk and last time was in the park. He had this grin on his face and he came over to me. We talked but I do think he seeing another woman. Not sure weather he lives there still not seen him...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Question: do any of you women feel like a

    failure once it ends? Almost like he's sitting back with his wife laughing at how stupid i was for believing his lies? My Ex-mm and his wife are wealthy, successful, have two "perfect" daughters who get whatever they want and need while I live paycheck to paycheck, struggle to...
    Lostinlove41 Lostinlove41 41-45, F 10 Responses May 5

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    I know from my own experience

    that married men don't always leave the wife. I am the wife. I found out two years ago my husband had an affair with some married woman that he met at our kids school. When I found out I gave my husband the option to leave. 50/50 with the kids and assets. I told him I didn't...
    Truthbetold81 Truthbetold81 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 26

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    When I was a teenager; young

    and completely stupid! And it usually does not end well. I have certainly learned from that mistake! I am a better person today because of it. Circumstances really do make us what we are...
    FelicitySmoak FelicitySmoak 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 23

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    I didn't know she had wife I found

    when she walked on us.
    GrecoItalianBella83 GrecoItalianBella83 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    I was looking through the pictures on my phone

    and I came across all of the screenshots from all of the conversations I ever had with ex-MM. I was reading through some of them and I just can't believe him! So wishy-washy and full of it! He said all these wonderful nice things to me that seemed to show that he cared then 2...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    That's it. After nearly 3 long years of a

    roller coaster ride, ups downs, highs, lows. Lots of good times but more upset and heartbreak than you would imagine. It's over. I am set free from this situation completely. No contact no more false hopes nothing. I pick myself up and my life starts now. I will never ever be...
    CastNoShadows CastNoShadows 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    Two years ago, I became best friends with a

    married woman I would babysit/nanny for. Mid thirties, in great shape; she was like a big sister to me. We would go shopping and she would buy me clothes even. I felt she was coming on to me but didn't think much of it. Well, one day we shared a dressing room to try some new...
    emmsbody emmsbody 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    I Fell Into The Trap Of A Married Man

    There is no good thing about an affair, unless you are not in love with the person. You can easily rid yourself of them. Jealousy, pain and loneliness is not worth ruining a marriage. If I could go back and change it, I definitely would. Married men just want you at first, then...
    LittleEdithBeale LittleEdithBeale 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    Although its been almost 2 years

    since we been together last I still think of you everyday It's okay tho. I know we will most likely not be together Anytime in the future ! But hey who knows what the future holds ! I like to think your happy . But your pictures I can sense sadness in your eyes ! The same...
    ifollowmyownstar ifollowmyownstar 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2014

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    I was planning a wedding with what I thought

    was the love of my life; he was married & had recently had a kid. This was many years ago, but it took years to get over the heartbreak & humiliation. Fast forward to last year & my ex reaches out to me. I'm in a great relationship & he's now in a sexless marriage (or so he...
    DreamGolfer DreamGolfer 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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