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    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F Jan 24

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    I ended things with this mm

    but we live so close to each other. So it's been hard to not see him. But we do still talk and last time was in the park. He had this grin on his face and he came over to me. We talked but I do think he seeing another woman. Not sure weather he lives there still not seen him...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted in a while

    but I just wanted to update everyone on my situation. So it's been over 5 months since things ended and I feel good. Not to say that it was an easy 5 months, I definitely had my low point but I saw the end. Since things got exposed he broke up with his girl but I knew us getting...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2014

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    My ex MM had his big art show opening in London

    last weekend. He was written about in the Huffington Post. He is about to become very wealthy and famous. I'm happy for him. However, even though we have had no contact for about a month, hearing about him from friends, etc has triggered my feelings of missing him. So, this...
    nycgrrrl nycgrrrl 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2014

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    To all other women/past other women: I am

    happy to say I've moved on. A few days ago I saw him and it was the most awkward and heartbreaking experience. I haven't seen him in months and I suddenly run into him. I was stunned naturally and I can see he was too. We just stared at each other for minute unsure of what to...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    I've been with a lot of men

    or women who were already in relationships, and I know I've probably caused fights and breakups. I feel so guilty about it. Sometimes I'm just too much of a wh-ore to be a good person :/
    KittyCunt KittyCunt 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    No matter what happened.

    Even though he went back to his family. I still think my man is a great guy. I wish him happiness. I wish myself a new relationship with a single man soon / someday. Maybe someone like him. But single. I still miss him everyday. And i know i still love him. (Sigh) but what can...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F Jul 13, 2014

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    I don't want anymore secret friendships .

    .. I'm tired of being the other woman. Tired of its complicated ... You are an adult sort it out..I want something I can be proud off
    1spicygirl 1spicygirl 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Oh my God, I have been missing him

    so much the past few weeks. I miss being close to him, having him hold me, kiss me, touch me. I haven't saw him since August 29th and I thought I was doing so well and now this...the past few days have been almost unbearable. I just don't get it!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    Although its been almost 2 years

    since we been together last I still think of you everyday It's okay tho. I know we will most likely not be together Anytime in the future ! But hey who knows what the future holds ! I like to think your happy . But your pictures I can sense sadness in your eyes ! The same...
    ifollowmyownstar ifollowmyownstar 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2014

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    I was the other woman

    because it made me feel attractive. I also like the idea of knowing he had a choice and he was choosing me.
    Therealjason Therealjason 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I used to be TURKEY6 previously on this board

    but I deactivated for almost a year. I was the other woman in a strange tumultuous relationship for 2 years (off and on). We haven't spoken since about July of this year after a particularly nasty fight. He called me a name that I can't accept and I retaliated by saying the...
    tinyivory tinyivory 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    Still painful sometimes.

    I still cry. I miss him. Accepting that i could no longer be with him is painful. They broke up a month ago, and then they are back again. I could have taken him if they were officially over. Its so painful. I applaud the other women out there for being patient with their man...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    Here are things I learned

    while I was the other woman. 1. It does not look pretty from the outside. - I recently watched a movie where a man was cheating and it was hard to watch since in was in the same situation BUT it just looked bad. I felt from the wife/girlfriend, I felt for the other woman and...
    stella517 stella517 26-30, F 5 Responses May 28, 2014

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    Last year met a married man at first we were

    friend and and then lovers. I tell him it's over and walked away although we do close to each a bit hard to not see him, wife and kids. Just a matter of time before I do have a conversation with is wife because his son knows me. I use to go to his and his son was there. A bit...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F Mar 29

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    I was looking through the pictures on my phone

    and I came across all of the screenshots from all of the conversations I ever had with ex-MM. I was reading through some of them and I just can't believe him! So wishy-washy and full of it! He said all these wonderful nice things to me that seemed to show that he cared then 2...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    It's been 3 weeks since I've seen/been with my

    MM. I know it was the whole Holidays, his rehearsals, his family being over. I went to his Christmas service just to see him even from afar. Everytime I looked at him, I fought the tears back. I sat alone while his wife was there upfront by him. It reminded me how lonely my...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F Jan 1

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    And now I'm pregnant!

    ! It doesn't matter how much you believe they'll leave for you. They don't in the end! The last time we spoke he was 'a couple weeks off leaving her' and I found out I was pregnant. he didn't want it and we haven't spoken in 9 weeks and he's still with her. I no longer want...
    katie39 katie39 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    6 years ago. When he finally left his wife I

    thought this was it. Now we have our chance. I was very wrong and stupid. Fast forward to now we have 2.5 year old. Now I'm stuck with the real him. Selfish vindictive spiteful. Used my son against me a few times because I do not want to be with him anymore. He's a bully. These...
    nikifox nikifox 31-35 3 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Two years ago, I became best friends with a

    married woman I would babysit/nanny for. Mid thirties, in great shape; she was like a big sister to me. We would go shopping and she would buy me clothes even. I felt she was coming on to me but didn't think much of it. Well, one day we shared a dressing room to try some new...
    emmsbody emmsbody 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    Something happened the last few days.

    Almost a month ago MM broke off our affair stating he wanted to work on his marriage. He still wanted to be friends. Ok I'll try. I am a private duty nurse and on New Year's Day I lost my patient to his advanced age. I tried to call him. The phone ringing and stuff didn't sound...
    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    I Was Their Nanny

    Please don't judge me, I already know I did wrong. I was 19 when I went to England to work as a nanny for a loving family in a small village. He was 39, his wife was 42. She was lovely, had a great sense of humour and just made anyone love her. She was a make up artist and went...
    isybusy isybusy 22-25, F 12 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    I still smell you on my pillows.

    Twenty day pass, and I thought the smell would be gone by now. Thought the distance would make me forget you, forget us, forget those moments we spent intertwined. In every inch of this apartment a memory. I remember your face while you entered thru the door, how you smiled, and...
    YankeesOTW YankeesOTW 26-30 3 Responses Mar 19

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    In almost every serious relationship I've been

    in, I've always been cheated on. It sucks. My parents have been married my whole life... One would think I would be anti-cheating right?? Well, that's what I thought... So, to make this short, sweet, and to the point; I fell in love with a man who wasn't really available... At...
    crazyolme15 crazyolme15 26-30, F Jan 31

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    Young And Caught Under His Spell

    Never in my life have I been in love. I'm to young for that. I am a good person, I never really get into any trouble. I am helpful, loving and kind. I am a respectful young girl with a promising future. Or I was. I went to the beach this summer on the east coast to work. I got a...
    LostLittleLadyBug LostLittleLadyBug 18-21, F 25 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    Ahhhh 😁😊😅 Well everyone at work was

    rooting for me and the new super hot guy at work to talk to each other , people were telling him to come talk to me and people were telling me to go up to him and talk to him ..... Lol So he knew I was interested and I assumed he was interested Well after my second break I...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I have not contacted him

    for 2 1/2 weeks. longest i've been able. but the thing is, he hasn't contacted me for over a month. I am really going out of my mind. i feel a little better, i guess, in that my hope is more dead than it was. i am gradually realizing this really did happen. he really did...
    hardtiming hardtiming 41-45 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I didn't know she had wife I found

    when she walked on us.
    GrecoItalianBella83 GrecoItalianBella83 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    I am in the same situation

    as you are. I was with my MM for over 3 years and has a 3 year old daughter. He told me he would leave his wife when his daughter was a year old. He moved out ,but always struggled with not seeing his daughter enough. He eventually filed for divorce , but then put it on hold...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F Jan 1

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    I Leave You To Be Married

    I wonder, as I am reading an email from MM and he is telling me that he just wants me. How does he still come up with those words?? We haven't seen each other for awhile yet he still feels the need. It's not as if we were ever in a place where I wanted him to leave his family...
    quietstorm48 quietstorm48 46-50, F 3 Responses May 28, 2013

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    Things to consider about affairs.

    Most never leave the marriage. You can do the research. Even if they do leave the marriage, only 3-5% of relationships that began as affairs end up in marriage. There is a 75% divorce rate for marriages that began as affairs. There are many more problems faced by a couple...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I Want To Know?

    I never thought of myself as the other woman until recently, maybe as I am married too. I had lots of major traumas in my life and a husband of many years who does not emotionally connect with me and could not support me through the traumas. I fell in love with my MM, truly...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    A few years ago I went through a rough time.

    I could say it was all the raging hormones clouding my judgement but really, I knew what I was doing. I don't expect any pity, in fact I'm pretty disgusted with my younger self for what I've done because I'd never do it now. I literally wish I could go back and make the right...
    cillasavage cillasavage 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    Advice from myself to all others out there in

    similar situations - never undo no contact when you know it's totally over beyond words. Never allow that scar to be ripped open. It's not worth the pain, but not only that, the mm will never change and suddenly leave his w. Even if it's been over for months or years, it still...
    CastNoShadows CastNoShadows 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I Fell Into The Trap Of A Married Man

    There is no good thing about an affair, unless you are not in love with the person. You can easily rid yourself of them. Jealousy, pain and loneliness is not worth ruining a marriage. If I could go back and change it, I definitely would. Married men just want you at first, then...
    LittleEdithBeale LittleEdithBeale 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    Yesterday, after a year,

    I ended it with my MM. There was no drama. We both knew that it couldn't last forever, even though we fantasized several times about being together. There are lots of reasons it probably wouldn't work between us: the age difference, our lifestyle differences, our religious...
    Crazy4Rn Crazy4Rn 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I've been seeing a MM

    for 1.5 years. I have ended it. I have tried to end it so many times in the past (it became too painful and my own life was becoming more and more difficult and isolated), but I always end up seeing him again. This time I want it to be it. I am hoping to find strength and...
    magssf magssf 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    It's been 6 days , had to count today

    because normally by a few days I'd unblock him just to see if he'd contact me Proud to say he hasn't been unblocked and he won't be nor do I desire any sort of contact from him I really am done this time , and yes I've hurt, I've cried , I've ached and gone through all the...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    it's been almost two months

    since my MM went back to his wife. I have started therapy. which I highly recommend to every woman that has ever suffered through the highs and lows of being in love with a man. I have slowly begun to heal and move on with my life. I have discovered that I was wrapped around his...
    justagirl44 justagirl44 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 10

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    It's been 2 years and 5 months

    since I last heard from the married man I was seeing. He got scared when I found out I was pregnant and ran back to his wife and cut all communications after being with me for almost 3 years. I had to find out from his sister that he decided to end things. I didn't really get a...
    TemptingLust TemptingLust 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 5, 2014

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    So many woman has been the other woman.

    I sympathize with them, because I used to be the other woman. I will never judge no one negatively, but I would just like to share my story. To be the other woman is not that awesome, even though at first i used to think that. I met my MM July 2013. Every moment spend with...
    Samysam Samysam 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    Today I saw this MM that I had a thing with

    last year. We had a talk he asked how I was etc. I am still getting over the flu. He seemed quite concerned. He was very serious at first. He asked after my son if I got a job now. I did not ask him much about his kids etc. I just said bet your happy you driving again and if he...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    I was the other woman,

    for several months, it ended on Christmas Eve after I ended it and she found out about us. You will always be the bad guy, and let's be honest, you are, you need to stay away from married men. Whenever people said this to me while I was seeing MM, my vision was clouded, I...
    meredithgreyxo meredithgreyxo 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    I had an affair with a man I worked with

    for three years. I knew he was married at the outset, but it was a "loveless marriage" and he was "going to get a divorce." Of course, that never happened. For all those years I did everything he asked, usually sexually, and then he would leave and go home to her. When she...
    point2thesky point2thesky 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    2008

    This was the year that my life truly started I believe. I was working as a private photographer and was hired by a woman to photograph her family's Christmas party. When I arrived, she was very very bitchy and expected me to do more then what she'd hired me for. Shortly after...
    FreyaQ FreyaQ 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    I was the other woman unknowingly at first &

    all it got me was pain,heartache,lies,deciet,low self esteem & for my loyalty I got called every nasty name in the book & horrible things said to me for doing the right thing & ending it. I loved him unconditionally & I'll miss what we had at one time, but too much has been said...
    Lovingmyselffirst Lovingmyselffirst 36-40, F Apr 22, 2014

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