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I Wasn't Taught Life Skills, So Am Learning

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    Moistened 3-piece Jigsaw Puzzle

      Father sits among coffee stains and shelves of musky books. He's read those books, all of them, at least once. He stares longingly into his half-empty mug, listening to his stomach howl for dessert. Even though he is not fat, he thinks so, and he passes on the...
    universecontinues universecontinues 22-25 Jun 29, 2008

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    Forgiveness

    My family has never practised forgiveness.  Most of the folks in the area where I grew up are just as stern and harsh and unforgiving as my own kin.  We all come from a long line of settlers and homesteaders.  I'm sure it's in our blood, and this is just another of the old...
    atadir atadir 51-55, M 1 Response Jan 7, 2012

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    Like Some People On Here

    My mom was controlling and micromanaged everything I did. if i didn't do something she did it for me, if she didn't like how i did something she redid it. If I tried to do something she would take over. I could never do anything right. And I was never allowed to do anything on my...
    SummerWind18 SummerWind18 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 17, 2009

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    Well, To Be Fair...

    i think there are a lot of things that just come naturally to 99% of the human population, so its not like my parents neglected to teach me these things, so much as i could have used a little extra help :) i am trying to learn that failure is a necessary evil (there are worse...
    dirtybarefoothippie dirtybarefoothippie 22-25, F 3 Responses May 9, 2011

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    Life?

    Growing up I pretty much raised myself. I saw how everyone around me acted and decided "wow....I really do not want to be like these people". Deciding to become something other than what everyone in my family was basically isolated me from them. I never had them to talk...
    perfectlyunusual perfectlyunusual 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 20, 2008

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    Xaxa = An Evil Demon Of A "friend"..workplace Set Up

    i will focus on what i have learned from this fiend--(ex-friend)--this @sshole taught me the ff: - only trust God and yourself 100% until the end of time---the others? 10-20%?---it depends but not a hundred - think before you talk--if possible,check people's backgrounds first...
    pinklipstick pinklipstick 31-35, F May 5, 2011

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    My Story

    I had a great childhood , My parents took care of me , but after i finished my primary school , I start to play around and don't car because the cool guys were like this so i wist my time and go to college . after i toke a degree in math I work as a teacher and that make...
    mradel4ever mradel4ever 31-35, M 3 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    Bad Hygiene :/

    When i was a kid, my mother never made me brush my teeth. I never bothered doing it even daily but now being almost 19 years old, I have an alarm reminding me twice daily to brush my teeth. I feel so ridiculous every time i hear that alarm, I should know to do it regardless. But...
    UnclearOrigin UnclearOrigin 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    I'm Not Sure How This Society Works

    My childhood was hell, and when I was 13 my mother dropped dead of a brain anyerism with no warning on a holiay weekend sunday morning. Me, my sister and my brother stayed with our abusive step father for a few months, then moved in with our father who said that we ere already...
    AngelaDark AngelaDark 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 27, 2007

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    I'm young and learning.

    Anyone got any advice?
    shaunrain shaunrain 16-17, M Jul 18

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    This Can't Be It!?

    I am a 26yr old mom of three and a full time college student earning my B.A. in Architecture.  Every day I encounter a new problem that I feel like I've never been taught how to deal with.  My mom was overbearing and tried to bring me up in the "church".  I don't share her...
    SpoiledRose808 SpoiledRose808 26-30 3 Responses Feb 26, 2011

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    I Don't Think I Will Ever Have a Boyfriend Or Even Want So-call Friends.

    I am 19 years old and I don't technically ever have a bf. I get creep out by guys especially, because I have so many bad experiences dating. And I don't understand why the guy that I don’t care for are after me (sometimes aka stalkers) and the ones that I like have...
    Nelehhiennart Nelehhiennart 18-21 2 Responses Oct 19, 2008

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    Willing to Learn

    I am thankful that I tend to be a quick learner.  I had never seen a check in detail until I had my first bank account at the age of 20.  I had never written a check until I went to pay for the first thing I bought, a bed.  The lady at the register had to help me...
    Krypton Krypton 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 17, 2009

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    Distant Fathers Beware!

    I grew up in an intact family, the middle child of three. My father was a catholic priest who left the priesthood when he fell in love with my mother, a nurse. She took care and nurtured everyone and everything while he battled his demons or whatever.... which perhaps caused him...
    ShellyHeartAche ShellyHeartAche 36-40, F Jun 16, 2012

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    Ranting About Emoitons

    (i wrote this in july 2007 .. i had NO IDEA which group to put this in but it seems to me expressing emotions is a life skill so.. here goes) You know, I get a lot of **** for feeling things. People wanna know, why i cant close my eyes and tap my glasses and pretend that im...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 14, 2010

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    Learning..

    When I say skills, it is really very small stuffs in day to day life..Maybe other's won't even consider them as anything to learn..I was bought up in a very weird manner and I never realized it until I was about 20..By that age all my friends knew how to handle their own matter...
    MeDaphne MeDaphne 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2012

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    I Have So Felt This Way.

    Really seem to be moving toward a sense of belonging though. Being lonely - it just gets old and tired, It's more fun to belong to everyone and know it's all right.
    mbug44 mbug44 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2007

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    Daddy's Little Girl?

    My mother was both bad with and severely scared of money, so my father worked hard to keep me away from it's stresses and all that financial matters entail. I had to sneak my first credit card, secretly figure out college loans... He didn't allow it with me, but taught it all to...
    FallGirl FallGirl 21-25, F Dec 8, 2007

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    An Understatement.

    I didn't know how to properly sweep a floor before my first job let alone have any really useful life skills.  I am terrible with money and i am impulsive as hell.  You see my parents were _always_ working and not around to teach me anything, practical morally...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2008

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    How to Cope

    My mom was the type of person who was never happy with anything I did. I learned how to be a door mat from an early age, but she also taught me that being an excellent employee would always pay off. I have always put all of me into whatever work I'm doing and I keep finding out...
    Artisina Artisina 46-50, F Mar 13, 2008

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    Life Skills Weren't Taught

    I wasn't taught life skills so I'm learning, but I've learned quick.
    TheAsianSensation TheAsianSensation 16-17, M Feb 16, 2010

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    It Would Be Nice To Have A Handbook

    Things were probably not explained to me very often or all that well when I was young. I wish I learned more immediately important lessons like confidence, patience, how to deal with difficult people, how to persevere and be a man, how to pick up chicks, how...
    Explodey Explodey 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 2, 2010

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    Sex, Drugs, And Rock&roll,...

    ... is a ghastly perception on "love, laugh, live". its basically a rebellious interpretation.sex as love. ironically enough, people say that sex is a way of expressing love as mush as other would say that sex is an object of lust. these days, love and sex practically go hand in...
    prettystoned07 prettystoned07 18-21, F Aug 19, 2011

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    This Is the Title For My Entry.

    You can read my blog if you want to know more details.  My mom only taught me how to rely on her.  Whenever I needed something done that I didn't know how to do, she would just do it for me.  As the old saying would go, she gave me the fish, but didn't teach me how...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 19 Responses Apr 15, 2008

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    I'm Glad Someone Understands

    One day in the library a book hollered to me, "Over here!" I looked at the title and I couldn't imagine the answer, but I was intrigued. It's called, "How Much Is Enough?" There are three authors, and offhand I remember two, Jean I. Clarke and Connie Dawson. I love this book...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 11, 2012

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    Experience Is the Greatest Teacher

    Experience is the greatest teacher, but the tuition is high.
    loopnscc loopnscc 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 31, 2007

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    I Just Want To Take My Life Skills To The Next Level

    I do know some life skills. I can cook stuff (lazy - I microwave whatever lol kinda want to learn to cook more) I can do washing, cleaning (hide behind add to get out of it sometimes lol). But things like balancing finances Ive never understood. I moved out from home only once...
    TotallyAmazing TotallyAmazing 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 3, 2009

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    I Still Can't Use a Can Opener...

    i can't believe there are other people who feel this way... my mother went about raising me in such an absurd way. i didn't even realize until this past year that i dint ever recall being taught manners. i mean seriously, my mom never told me to be polite or taught me anything...
    blondieMcgee blondieMcgee 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2008

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    Finding My Own Peace Of Mind

    I too had an overbearing mother...who tried to control every single move and every thought in your head...she always thought the worst of you, like satan is whispering evil things in your ear and you might be tempted or something.. geez. Growing up I just figured she's just like...
    turquesa turquesa 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    My Story

    I had a great childhood , My parents took care of me , but after i finished my primary school , I start to play around and don't car because the cool guys were like this so i wist my time and go to college . after i toke a degree in math I work as a teacher and that make...
    mradel4ever mradel4ever 31-35, M Sep 18, 2009

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    I'm Behind In Life.

    I was born to two teenaged, unmarried parents.  It was all they could do to keep me fed and clothed all my life.  I was a very well behaved child.  They would get compliments on my behavior, I never got a bad report from a teacher. I was smart, smarter than...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2009

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    Really...

    I was raised in a poor family who didn't teach me any life skills. They didn't tell me that working was "mandatory". They didn't have a business or occupation planned out for me. My parents own nothing, they just rent everything and/or use credit. I was very sheltered and left...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Feb 22, 2011

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    Learning Now

    The hard part about this is i think my parents did try to teach me how to do the most basic of things...but they just didnt stick with it..My parents where devorsed and both had different rules at there house..i think i might have given up on trying to learn them because nothing...
    mymunchkin mymunchkin 22-25, F Apr 23, 2012

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    Trust

    It's not in my nature to trust people. My parents both had suspicious natures and always assumed the worst about everyone. I learned to do the same. If anything, the student surpassed his teachers. I must have spent too much of my life rubbing elbows with similar people. I...
    atadir atadir 51-55, M 3 Responses Oct 27, 2011

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    Overprotective To Point Of Withholding Life.

    I wasn't potty trained till I was 4. I couldn't read till I was 6. The first time I went to a birthday party I was 10. The first time I slept at someone's house 12. But its more then that. I wasn't even aloud to use a butter knife till I was 12. I had to take baths with help till...
    Amandaline Amandaline 16-17, F Aug 17, 2012

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    New Ideas

    I am looking for some help surrounding learning life skills .. and would really appreciate your help!  If you click on the link below, it will take you to a survey which will take you about 5 mins to complete and you could win £50 of high street vouchers too!Thank you!http...
    Emma5036 Emma5036 26-30, F Nov 17, 2011

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    I Just Don't Know, Sorry.

    In social situations and relationships I come off as cold or rude or I do something that I think is right but it's totally off the mark. it's because instead of teaching me life skills, my parents were too busy calling me worthless and invalidating me. so I went to high...
    cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 19, 2008

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    Class Is In Sesson!

    Yep. My mother kept me sheltered from the world and tried to keep me away from the darker things in life. I know she was trying to help, but I went out into the world, totally unprepared! And many people took advantage of me, the girl "with the rose-colored glasses"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 25, 2008

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