I Wasn't Taught Life Skills, So Am Learning

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    My family has never practised forgiveness.  Most of the folks in the area where I grew up are just as stern and harsh and unforgiving as my own kin.  We all come from a long line of settlers and homesteaders.  I'm sure it's in our blood, and this is just another of the old...
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    1 Response Jan 7, 2012

    This Is the Title For My Entry.

    You can read my blog if you want to know more details.  My mom only taught me how to rely on her.  Whenever I needed something done that I didn't know how to do, she would just do it for me.  As the old saying would go, she gave me the fish, but didn't teach me how...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan
    22-25, M
    18 Responses Apr 15, 2008

    Like Some People On Here

    My mom was controlling and micromanaged everything I did. if i didn't do something she did it for me, if she didn't like how i did something she redid it. If I tried to do something she would take over. I could never do anything right. And I was never allowed to do anything on my...
    SummerWind18 SummerWind18
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Dec 17, 2009

    Class Is In Sesson!

    Yep. My mother kept me sheltered from the world and tried to keep me away from the darker things in life. I know she was trying to help, but I went out into the world, totally unprepared! And many people took advantage of me, the girl "with the rose-colored glasses"...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Nov 25, 2008

    It Would Be Nice To Have A Handbook

    Things were probably not explained to me very often or all that well when I was young. I wish I learned more immediately important lessons like confidence, patience, how to deal with difficult people, how to persevere and be a man, how to pick up chicks, how...
    Explodey Explodey
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 2, 2010

    I Still Can't Use a Can Opener...

    i can't believe there are other people who feel this way... my mother went about raising me in such an absurd way. i didn't even realize until this past year that i dint ever recall being taught manners. i mean seriously, my mom never told me to be polite or taught me anything...
    blondieMcgee blondieMcgee
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 15, 2008

    I'm Not Sure How This Society Works

    My childhood was hell, and when I was 13 my mother dropped dead of a brain anyerism with no warning on a holiay weekend sunday morning. Me, my sister and my brother stayed with our abusive step father for a few months, then moved in with our father who said that we ere already...
    AngelaDark AngelaDark
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Oct 27, 2007

    Willing to Learn

    I am thankful that I tend to be a quick learner.  I had never seen a check in detail until I had my first bank account at the age of 20.  I had never written a check until I went to pay for the first thing I bought, a bed.  The lady at the register had to help me...
    Krypton Krypton
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 17, 2009

    Finding My Own Peace Of Mind

    I too had an overbearing mother...who tried to control every single move and every thought in your head...she always thought the worst of you, like satan is whispering evil things in your ear and you might be tempted or something.. geez. Growing up I just figured she's just like...
    turquesa turquesa
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2011


    I was raised in a poor family who didn't teach me any life skills. They didn't tell me that working was "mandatory". They didn't have a business or occupation planned out for me. My parents own nothing, they just rent everything and/or use credit. I was very sheltered and left...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe
    Feb 22, 2011

    Bad Hygiene :/

    When i was a kid, my mother never made me brush my teeth. I never bothered doing it even daily but now being almost 19 years old, I have an alarm reminding me twice daily to brush my teeth. I feel so ridiculous every time i hear that alarm, I should know to do it regardless. But...
    UnclearOrigin UnclearOrigin
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2013

    Well, To Be Fair...

    i think there are a lot of things that just come naturally to 99% of the human population, so its not like my parents neglected to teach me these things, so much as i could have used a little extra help :) i am trying to learn that failure is a necessary evil (there are worse...
    dirtybarefoothippie dirtybarefoothippie
    22-25, F
    3 Responses May 9, 2011

    Distant Fathers Beware!

    I grew up in an intact family, the middle child of three. My father was a catholic priest who left the priesthood when he fell in love with my mother, a nurse. She took care and nurtured everyone and everything while he battled his demons or whatever.... which perhaps caused him...
    ShellyHeartAche ShellyHeartAche
    36-40, F
    Jun 16, 2012

    I'm Glad Someone Understands

    One day in the library a book hollered to me, "Over here!" I looked at the title and I couldn't imagine the answer, but I was intrigued. It's called, "How Much Is Enough?" There are three authors, and offhand I remember two, Jean I. Clarke and Connie Dawson. I love this book...
    FeelingOrange FeelingOrange
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 11, 2012

    Overprotective To Point Of Withholding Life.

    I wasn't potty trained till I was 4. I couldn't read till I was 6. The first time I went to a birthday party I was 10. The first time I slept at someone's house 12. But its more then that. I wasn't even aloud to use a butter knife till I was 12. I had to take baths with help till...
    Amandaline Amandaline
    18-21, F
    Aug 17, 2012

    Moistened 3-piece Jigsaw Puzzle

      Father sits among coffee stains and shelves of musky books. He's read those books, all of them, at least once. He stares longingly into his half-empty mug, listening to his stomach howl for dessert. Even though he is not fat, he thinks so, and he passes on the...
    universecontinues universecontinues
    Jun 29, 2008

    I'm Behind In Life.

    I was born to two teenaged, unmarried parents.  It was all they could do to keep me fed and clothed all my life.  I was a very well behaved child.  They would get compliments on my behavior, I never got a bad report from a teacher. I was smart, smarter than...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 25, 2009

    I Just Want To Take My Life Skills To The Next Level

    I do know some life skills. I can cook stuff (lazy - I microwave whatever lol kinda want to learn to cook more) I can do washing, cleaning (hide behind add to get out of it sometimes lol). But things like balancing finances Ive never understood. I moved out from home only once...
    TotallyAmazing TotallyAmazing
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Dec 3, 2009

    I Don't Think I Will Ever Have a Boyfriend Or Even Want So-call Friends.

    I am 19 years old and I don't technically ever have a bf. I get creep out by guys especially, because I have so many bad experiences dating. And I don't understand why the guy that I don’t care for are after me (sometimes aka stalkers) and the ones that I like have...
    Nelehhiennart Nelehhiennart
    2 Responses Oct 19, 2008

    I Have So Felt This Way.

    Really seem to be moving toward a sense of belonging though. Being lonely - it just gets old and tired, It's more fun to belong to everyone and know it's all right.
    mbug44 mbug44
    36-40, F
    1 Response Oct 19, 2007

    I Just Don't Know, Sorry.

    In social situations and relationships I come off as cold or rude or I do something that I think is right but it's totally off the mark. it's because instead of teaching me life skills, my parents were too busy calling me worthless and invalidating me. so I went to high...
    cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 19, 2008

    Daddy's Little Girl?

    My mother was both bad with and severely scared of money, so my father worked hard to keep me away from it's stresses and all that financial matters entail. I had to sneak my first credit card, secretly figure out college loans... He didn't allow it with me, but taught it all to...
    FallGirl FallGirl
    22-25, F
    Dec 8, 2007

    Ranting About Emoitons

    (i wrote this in july 2007 .. i had NO IDEA which group to put this in but it seems to me expressing emotions is a life skill so.. here goes) You know, I get a lot of **** for feeling things. People wanna know, why i cant close my eyes and tap my glasses and pretend that im...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 14, 2010

    An Understatement.

    I didn't know how to properly sweep a floor before my first job let alone have any really useful life skills.  I am terrible with money and i am impulsive as hell.  You see my parents were _always_ working and not around to teach me anything, practical morally...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 30, 2008

    My Story

    I had a great childhood , My parents took care of me , but after i finished my primary school , I start to play around and don't car because the cool guys were like this so i wist my time and go to college . after i toke a degree in math I work as a teacher and that make...
    mradel4ever mradel4ever
    31-35, M
    Sep 18, 2009

    Experience Is the Greatest Teacher

    Experience is the greatest teacher, but the tuition is high.
    loopnscc loopnscc
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Dec 31, 2007

    How to Cope

    My mom was the type of person who was never happy with anything I did. I learned how to be a door mat from an early age, but she also taught me that being an excellent employee would always pay off. I have always put all of me into whatever work I'm doing and I keep finding out...
    Artisina Artisina
    46-50, F
    Mar 13, 2008

    Xaxa = An Evil Demon Of A "friend"..workplace Set Up

    i will focus on what i have learned from this fiend--(ex-friend)--this @sshole taught me the ff: - only trust God and yourself 100% until the end of time---the others? 10-20%?---it depends but not a hundred - think before you talk--if possible,check people's backgrounds first...
    pinklipstick pinklipstick
    31-35, F
    May 5, 2011

    My Story

    I had a great childhood , My parents took care of me , but after i finished my primary school , I start to play around and don't car because the cool guys were like this so i wist my time and go to college . after i toke a degree in math I work as a teacher and that make...
    mradel4ever mradel4ever
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Sep 18, 2009

    Life Skills Weren't Taught

    I wasn't taught life skills so I'm learning, but I've learned quick.
    TheAsianSensation TheAsianSensation
    18-21, M
    Feb 16, 2010

    This Isn't Easy

    i wish i culd be rich so i could just live the way i want to live. if i could just get to college and get into writing or something else i'm good at and that i don't have to be a pretend version of myself to do. i hate customer service. apparantly i'm good at it. i hate it
    AngelaDark AngelaDark
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 22, 2007

    Come to Find Out....

    I was always praised for being mature and well-rounded, strong-minded, etc. But I think I plateued at some point. I often find, in dating, that men can easily recognize things about me that I don't even realize until I'm called out on them... things that fit the name of this...
    mefirstGIMME mefirstGIMME
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 18, 2008

    Never Had Responsibility

    I was never gien any responsibility or diciplined as a kid. I wasn't a bad kid or anything. But I kind of am now. And my mom does nothing about it. I have no chores. I don't know how to do laundry or anything like that. I mean I clean my room, but that's because I don't wanna...
    Melody08 Melody08
    18-21, F
    Mar 6, 2008

    One Class

    My parents never told me anything so I didn't really understand many details about sex until ninth grade when I had my sex ed class. I'm still learning about things and I'm 19. I'm also still learning social skills that I should have learned long ago.
    cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 2, 2008

    This Can't Be It!?

    I am a 26yr old mom of three and a full time college student earning my B.A. in Architecture.  Every day I encounter a new problem that I feel like I've never been taught how to deal with.  My mom was overbearing and tried to bring me up in the "church".  I don't share her...
    SpoiledRose808 SpoiledRose808
    3 Responses Feb 26, 2011


    It's not in my nature to trust people. My parents both had suspicious natures and always assumed the worst about everyone. I learned to do the same. If anything, the student surpassed his teachers. I must have spent too much of my life rubbing elbows with similar people. I...
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    2 Responses Oct 27, 2011

    New Ideas

    I am looking for some help surrounding learning life skills .. and would really appreciate your help!  If you click on the link below, it will take you to a survey which will take you about 5 mins to complete and you could win £50 of high street vouchers too!Thank you!http...
    Emma5036 Emma5036
    26-30, F
    Nov 17, 2011

    Learning Now

    The hard part about this is i think my parents did try to teach me how to do the most basic of things...but they just didnt stick with it..My parents where devorsed and both had different rules at there house..i think i might have given up on trying to learn them because nothing...
    mymunchkin mymunchkin
    22-25, F
    Apr 23, 2012

    Sex, Drugs, And Rock&roll,...

    ... is a ghastly perception on "love, laugh, live". its basically a rebellious interpretation.sex as love. ironically enough, people say that sex is a way of expressing love as mush as other would say that sex is an object of lust. these days, love and sex practically go hand in...
    prettystoned07 prettystoned07
    18-21, F
    Aug 19, 2011


    When I say skills, it is really very small stuffs in day to day life..Maybe other's won't even consider them as anything to learn..I was bought up in a very weird manner and I never realized it until I was about 20..By that age all my friends knew how to handle their own matter...
    MeDaphne MeDaphne
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2012

    I'm young and learning.

    Anyone got any advice?
    shaunrain shaunrain
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 18, 2014

    Don't call me sir I've stabbed someone I have

    skill I know the torture tricks I can crack your neck Bdk Mob why me I'm crip 3hunnak I'm going to hell I spray paint I've got into lots of fights I've been on the run I've had the cops called on me It's fun and games Until you kill a innocent man I will never hurt the innocent...
    swaged104 swaged104
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jul 29, 2015
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