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I Wasted My Energy On a Friendship That Meant Nothing

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    All My Life

    it seem as if I give out more than I get back. People walk into my life and then walk out. Is it that freaking easy??? Am I not worth enough in your eyes to stay a part of your life for the rest of mine???? I call myself a "life'r" once I care about you, I will care...
    Loopylu Loopylu 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    Im Sorry

    I created this group out of anger and frustration. I had been let down by someone I thought that would never let me down. But maybe in having expectations about that person was letting them down in the first place. If I count all the friendships that ended up in nothing, I...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 12 Responses Nov 24, 2009

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    I grew and grew to like the guy.

    I really liked him a lot. There was moments we talked about meeting and having s.ex. Going on dates. I liked a lot. He liked me a lot. I asked him if his single, he said yes. Yesterday we decided to Skype. I saw him I smiled I can't help myself. I saw his hand. It had a ring...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F Nov 12, 2014

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    Kind Of Still Am...

    I am kind of still wasting my energy on a friendship that means nothing. I keep waiting and waiting and waiting, for hopes that she will come around and start talking to me again, for I don't even know the reason why we are not even friends anymore! i keep hoping she will contact...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 9, 2009

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    Say Farewell to Your Fairweather Friends...

    ... And not a second too soon. RAYMONDE- "No One Can Hold A Candle To You" That song above is actually a tribute to vocalist, James Maker's good friend. Those opening two lines are inspiring and the song's chorus is: "No one can hold a candle to you When it...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 5, 2009

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    Dammmmnnnn right!!!!!

    And I sure don't want to be friends with one. Good thing is that im no longer worried which means that i no longer care. Just sharing.
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2014

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    Roz2014 Roz2014 41-45, F Nov 12, 2014

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    I wasted my energy on someone.

    .. Learned my lesson...only put in what you get from a friendship. It shouldn't be one sided. slw
    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    So I brought my friend a 5SOS ticket

    and overall it was $587 (and she hasn't paid me pack yet) which where I'm from it's EXPENSIVE and at class she told me that she might sell her ticket because she might not like them next year. W T F That really hurt me My mum isn't the richest person but she spent that much so...
    jesscax jesscax 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 27, 2014

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    My "Friendships"

    Ever had friends who claim to be there when you're down? See when my friends are down I would be there to help them back up because I feel like I care too much. No one is there when I down or when I like to have a conversation with someone...im ignored or they reply with a hi and...
    dreamwithinareality dreamwithinareality 18-21, M Jul 11, 2013

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    I'm Confused

    Yeah, it seems I've been fooled and that's completely normal nowadays. So, next time when someone will try to do it again by acting like a friend and saying things only a best friend can say, I'm gonna stop wondering if that's true or not, I'm gonna whoop their ***! I mean, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 3, 2009

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    I feel like some people just use me in

    friendship! and say sorry, then I forgive, then still do it, say sorry, and I'm just like never again *****! XD
    tiashepherdx tiashepherdx 13-15, F Aug 2, 2014

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    After seven years of being best friends with

    someone, she decided I wasn't good enough for her. Because I had morals.
    BriJC BriJC 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Can Friendships Really Mean Nothing?

    I believe you can learn something from every experience you've had. Everyone has something you can learn from them. I don't feel there is a friendship that is truely a waste of time. There could be friendships that end badly, but you did end up learning something from them...
    wack1985 wack1985 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 3, 2009

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    What A Crock...

    Now I won't go into great detail about what transpired but I had a friend, who I thought was my best friend, who practically stabbed me in the back when I needed her the most.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2011

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    I wouldn't say I "wasted" my energy.

    People drift in and out of our lives as they grow and change and it's nice to put some effort in even if you're not friends forever. Making people feel wanted and appreciated is nice :) HOWEVER. A few times I have tried very hard to be friends with people for various reasons...
    papercastles papercastles 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    Like All My Life...

     Still haven't found a true friend... but there's no where else to try to find anyone... Oh god, why do I waste my time with them?
    BrownEyedMystery BrownEyedMystery 18-21 Dec 3, 2009

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    Crazy and Nuerotic

    What can you do when you give a person chance after chance only to realize they are neurotic and completely undeserving of your friendship?  Well in real life you have a long talk and hope you don't have to get a restraining order to keep her away from you and on EP you use...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 8 Responses Oct 5, 2009

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    Two Faced

    My so called best friend since 5th grade (im in 9th) is a total *****. i had no idea how easy she could just turn on me! i told her everything about me, and everything i had ever done as all best friends do. little did i know that one day she would use it against me, and all...
    cheesemcfoodlepants cheesemcfoodlepants 18-21, F Nov 15, 2011

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    Love Is Never Wasted

    I used to think the love I invested into some peoples' lives, who ended up rejecting me, had been wasted. But then I heard a wise person, (can't recall who it was), who said: "Love is never wasted. The love you spend on others is recorded in your "Karma Account" whether the...
    kulshady kulshady 41-45, M Jul 30, 2013

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    Most Of The Time...

    even a sucky friendship yields some knowledge, something to learn. But I have had one or two where I was betrayed and I have'nt ever been able to find anything I was supposed to learn from it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 18, 2009

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    i have learnt that at times people are to

    indifferent to be in a relationship.
    turbolove13 turbolove13 26-30, F Dec 5, 2014

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    This happened to me. Was loyal,

    kind, great listener, selfless. Ended up that she used me, lied to me, never ever liked me, parents and sister hated me, never stuck up for me and kept things from me. It was so many years ago now. But it hurts me still how she moved on in a day and I never existed to her...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response May 15, 2014

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    Okay, so I'm no longer bestfriends with a person who meant the world to me. That specific person was easy to talk to and great to have around. Our friendship kinda got off track...
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    I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships , forced interactions ,or unnecessary conversations !
    DaddysCupcake DaddysCupcake 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    I just want to know it's over. I ruined it, which means I'm not the one who wants to step away from it. It started with them shutting and not talking to me or anyone I knew. I...
    davegvon davegvon 26-30, M Feb 14

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    I had a very close friend. We were friends for four years. When we first met I thought he was the one for me. We started going out and broke up because he wanted another woman...
    WhooDatGirl WhooDatGirl 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 15

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    I miss someone who once meant the world to me. He was the most conceited, but humble guy at the same time. He could've been the perfect representation of an oxymoron. We never...
    31Point5Million 31Point5Million 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    In 100 years almost everyone alive will be dead. So what's the point? There is no God, no devil, no afterlife and no reason for life. Oblivion awaits us in death, nothing else.
    JohnoCA JohnoCA 18-21, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I have had several people tell me - "I will not contact you first. If you want to be in my life, you will have to contact me." These people said this to all their "friends...
    LostandFading LostandFading 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    Nothing begins and nothing ends that is not paid for with pain and tears. Curse the day and pray for light knowing that you have given all and found no limit to these sorrows. My...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 13 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    To be able to give your heart even when you feel you have nothing left to give To stay up listening to them say the same thing week in week out about the man that don't deserve...
    purpleturtle5 purpleturtle5 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    I have enough stories on EP to define me 80%, but not too many people read. There is an entire Encyclopedia of me here, so I get annoyed with the "Tell me about yourself" messages...
    shimmeringrose shimmeringrose 31-35, F 8 Responses Feb 11

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    I don't know if everyone believe in friend soulmates. I believe in this stuff because I've a friend like that since middle school. I got her back last July over a serious issue she...
    ghostbat86 ghostbat86 26-30, F Feb 13

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    The below sayings is old but applies till date and if followed by all then no problems at all. Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions...
    FightingTillTheEnd FightingTillTheEnd 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 15

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    i let him in, let down my gaurds then immediately threw em back up. i lingered to his every word waiting for the indication for me to follow. ?? guess it's not meant to be
    timidher timidher 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    Ok, so this is something that has really damaged my life badly and I just need to vent it somewhere. It will be very long and I apologise for going off on tangents...
    inexperiencedguy94 inexperiencedguy94 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Confidence is built by experience. People share something about themselves, other people respond to what was shared and a dialogue happens. I would say, that this experience will...
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M 3 Responses Feb 14

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    I'm going to be honest. None of my friendship that I have with guys last. The reason why it doesn't last is because the guy always want sex from me. Why can't me and a guy just...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    I wasted my time on a beta and his brother. Oh joy.
    AlphaBloodMoon AlphaBloodMoon 13-15, F Feb 2

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    I had a fwb, but I guess we just wasted our time on each other.
    DanielPhillips DanielPhillips 18-21, M Feb 3

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    I really am. don't form a friendship with me if you're not in it for the long run. I don't have time for temporary people on my life. I've formed friendships with people who I...
    LostandFading LostandFading 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    I am 30 years old. Plain and simple, I've wasted the life God gave me. There are years of my life that are just a blur due to my frequent marijuana use. I have many regrets and...
    zarpanzur zarpanzur 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 5

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    It feels like I have wasted my life. I sometimes think that I am worthless.
    Shereen84 Shereen84 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 6

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    I hope one day to be able to look back and say I had some great friendships that grew and evolved. Not grew then withered bitterly on the vine. Longest friendship lasted years but...
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    Little did he know, him ignoring me taught me how to live without him. At the time, I was confused and distraught. I wanted to know why. I began to blame myself by dissecting my...
    UnaLOME UnaLOME 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 12

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