I Wasted My Energy On a Friendship That Meant Nothing

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    I've wasted my time on

    so many friendships that didn't serve me with unhealthy boundaries. I'm almost embarrassed at myself that I put up with their behavior for so long and whenever I would ask them to stop they wouldn't. They never respected me or took me seriously. But it's hilarious to me, people...
    ladysapio ladysapio
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 28, 2015

    Learn from your mistakes.

    What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Time wasted could just mean you should learn from your past mistakes
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    My best friend is not my best friend anymore,

    I guess. She had a crush on me and told me a few weeks ago. A few days after, she wrote that she couldn't do it -in an SMS. It sounded as if her mom had written it for her. That's what she always does, when things get tricky, asks her mom to fix it. I couldn't even call her back...
    Vakuum Vakuum
    16-17, T
    Oct 24, 2015

    So I brought my friend a 5SOS ticket

    and overall it was $587 (and she hasn't paid me pack yet) which where I'm from it's EXPENSIVE and at class she told me that she might sell her ticket because she might not like them next year. W T F That really hurt me My mum isn't the richest person but she spent that much so...
    jesscax jesscax
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 27, 2014
    midox7 midox7
    26-30, M
    Oct 24, 2015

    I was good friends with someone

    for a very long time but it was a one way things,I was always there and offered her support, we became friends at an early age around 12 I think,I always stuck up for her and in return she was never really good to me,my parents always told me that she was no good but I was...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Oct 24, 2015

    I got stabbed in the back

    and she spread a rumor about me. Now people think I'm a man stealer. Never put time and energy into people who don't give a **** about you. Luckily, her bad karma caught up to her.
    thebookaholic thebookaholic
    22-25, F
    Jun 21, 2015

    After seven years of being best friends with

    someone, she decided I wasn't good enough for her. Because I had morals.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Dec 2, 2014

    I wasted three years of my life to a girl

    that told me she wanted to disappear from my life and called me a ***** in the process. For wearing shorts and a tank top in the summer of 8th grade, mind you. She had always been the controlling, everything we do is what I want to do friend. I always went along with it because...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin
    22-25, F
    May 23, 2015

    I wouldn't say I "wasted" my energy.

    People drift in and out of our lives as they grow and change and it's nice to put some effort in even if you're not friends forever. Making people feel wanted and appreciated is nice :) HOWEVER. A few times I have tried very hard to be friends with people for various reasons...
    ThunderWaffles ThunderWaffles
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 3, 2014
    midox7 midox7
    26-30, M
    Oct 24, 2015

    Love Is Never Wasted

    I used to think the love I invested into some peoples' lives, who ended up rejecting me, had been wasted. But then I heard a wise person, (can't recall who it was), who said: "Love is never wasted. The love you spend on others is recorded in your "Karma Account" whether the...
    kulshady kulshady
    41-45, M
    Jul 30, 2013

    When I was 17 I met two teenage girls from

    France online, we became close friends and eventually I flew all the way to France to meet them in the summer of 2013. Now 4 years later I am no longer friends with both of them, things ended very badly. Not only did I waste my energy on two friendships that clearly in the end...
    TarikP TarikP
    22-25, M
    Nov 10, 2015
    midox7 midox7
    26-30, M
    Oct 24, 2015

    Definitely experienced this recently,

    my best friend of over 15 years openly admitted to me that she has had ill feelings towards me for a while, while I've always thought she loved me like a sister..turns out she was just my friend for her own benefit. Now I have cut her off, she wants to be friends again. .I can't...
    Crazy2LetUknow Crazy2LetUknow
    26-30, F
    Aug 17, 2015

    friendships and relationships are a disaster

    when I'm around. I don't know why people **** on me but they do and it hurts and I dunno who to trust and all I want is to have friends who I connect with and relate to.
    hurtwontheal hurtwontheal
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 28, 2016

    Who still hangs out with all of their friends

    from high school? I use to be close with mines but I wasn't so lucky like other people are.
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    Aug 16, 2015
    Roz2014 Roz2014
    46-50, F
    Nov 12, 2014

    I've had quite a few number of friends in my

    life so far and sadly I am no longer friends with most of them. To the reader reading this that sounds pretty bad, but honestly sometimes there are people that are just bad for you. Sure, maybe there is a point in time where you need that person in your life. However, people...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    I remember this woman I met online

    that me and her talked and flirted and were Realy into each other well a year later we got into a bit of a argument Realy dumb and pointless one but she instantly flipped out and told me how much of a sorry excuse of a human I was and before I could reply she blocked me off...
    Lachdanan Lachdanan
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jun 21, 2015

    i have learnt that at times people are to

    indifferent to be in a relationship.
    turbolove13 turbolove13
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 5, 2014

    I have been betrayed many times.

    Friends or lovers on which i invested time and energy. I don't know if it was for a reason, but time is the great healer, isn't it?
    Awkward26 Awkward26
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 18, 2016

    All My Life

    it seem as if I give out more than I get back. People walk into my life and then walk out. Is it that freaking easy??? Am I not worth enough in your eyes to stay a part of your life for the rest of mine???? I call myself a "life'r" once I care about you, I will care...
    Loopylu Loopylu
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 25, 2009

    In the end, I was being used,

    it wasn't a friendship that meant anything to them. I don't miss it. I'm happier now without them.
    SurpriseMeToday SurpriseMeToday
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    Can Friendships Really Mean Nothing?

    I believe you can learn something from every experience you've had. Everyone has something you can learn from them. I don't feel there is a friendship that is truely a waste of time. There could be friendships that end badly, but you did end up learning something from them...
    wack1985 wack1985
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 3, 2009

    I used to be friends with this chick I work

    with. She called me "Sissy" and we legit acted like sisters, but then my girlfriend and I started having problems between us. Lia wanted to go shopping and, since Mariela was in a good mood, I didn't want to waste it so I said no, thank you and stayed with Mariela instead. Lia...
    Lilyhammer420 Lilyhammer420
    26-30, F
    Nov 11, 2015

    I thought we we're friends.

    I thought we were for a couple months.We told each other we loved each other, acted gay ect. I even gave her a basket of candy with a stuffed animal and a note she gave me a basket of candy and a stuffed animal too but no note even though she said she was going to give me one...
    wassup305 wassup305
    18-21, F
    May 23, 2015

    at least it meant nothing to her.

    we were friends for six years. we stopped talking in Dec 2013 and started talking again in June of this year. she just got off probation, started doing coke, and was trying to get knocked up. I tried watching after her and guiding her into a better direction. the day before...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Oct 24, 2015

    i like meeting new people

    but it always back fires on me only because i wear my heart on my sleeve. if i rock for/with you i expect you do the same for me. idk man its hard to find loyal people
    QueenDDxxx QueenDDxxx
    18-21, F
    Jun 20, 2015

    I have done this many times.

    It sucks. I feel like I'm doing that right now, probably because everyone in school are fake *******, so um, yeah. Enjoy this. Cherish it and love it.
    deleted deleted
    Jun 20, 2015

    a nice cold shower after spending a ****** day

    with ungrateful *** friends gooodnight
    QueenDDxxx QueenDDxxx
    18-21, F
    Jul 4, 2015

    i cant wait until fourth of july im going to a

    beach house with some friends do you guys have any exciting plans??
    QueenDDxxx QueenDDxxx
    18-21, F
    Jun 30, 2015

    Im Sorry

    I created this group out of anger and frustration. I had been let down by someone I thought that would never let me down. But maybe in having expectations about that person was letting them down in the first place. If I count all the friendships that ended up in nothing, I...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes
    26-30, F
    11 Responses Nov 24, 2009
    lunaticunicorn lunaticunicorn
    13-15, F
    4 Responses Oct 23, 2015
    Cocrispy Cocrispy
    26-30, M
    8 Responses Oct 24, 2015

    I have a best friend

    but lately she hasn't been talking to me but I see her post pics of her bf on Facebook nd I'm getting tired of it
    bluehearts159 bluehearts159
    16-17, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2015

    All that we ever went through was

    for nothing huh, the I loves you's and I'm always here for and I'll never leave your side was lies right? You never cared. You never loved me lol , i was just there. After all you did choose a relationship over me. That's how little I ever mattered to you. & I see that will...
    Nadiarenee Nadiarenee
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Oct 11, 2015

    I feel like some people just use me in

    friendship! and say sorry, then I forgive, then still do it, say sorry, and I'm just like never again *****! XD
    tiashepherdx tiashepherdx
    16-17, F
    Aug 2, 2014

    Crazy and Nuerotic

    What can you do when you give a person chance after chance only to realize they are neurotic and completely undeserving of your friendship?  Well in real life you have a long talk and hope you don't have to get a restraining order to keep her away from you and on EP you use...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Oct 5, 2009

    I wasted my energy on someone.

    .. Learned my lesson...only put in what you get from a friendship. It shouldn't be one sided. slw
    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jan 25, 2015
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