I Went Through A Break Up That Changed My Life

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    When a relationship ends,

    doesn't mean the two persons had stopped loving each other. They just stopped hurting each other.
    HananAquarius HananAquarius
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 28, 2014

    It takes time to heal.

    I have good days and bad days. This time 5 months ago i was in a bad way, and even now, 5 months on i have trouble moving on. But its a new year, i can finally sleep and recover and mend my broken heart. I am busier than ever and have no contact with any of the people that...
    timthomp timthomp
    26-30, M
    Jan 6, 2016

    Last 7 month I tried to be friends with my ex

    but it becomes harder and harder. Sometomes he gives me hope and he gives me sweet words, but sometimes he ignores me and doesn't answer on my messages. Now it's been a week and it's the first time I didn't hear him so long and I miss him so ******* much. But I want him to text...
    Unintendedgirl Unintendedgirl
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 22, 2016

    After what happened with my molestation,

    I find it hard to be with anyone. This caused a lot of problems with my boyfriends. I couldnt bear the thought of them touching me. I use to shiver and close my eyes tight to remove the face that I actually see when my ex touched me. I hurt him real bad, I accused him of things...
    ClawdeenxWolf ClawdeenxWolf
    22-25, F
    Nov 17, 2015

    After almost 3 years of dating my best friend

    of over 7, it was time to go our separate ways and I learned more about myself during the recovery of the break up than I had the whole time I was with her.
    Jnstoneami Jnstoneami
    22-25, M
    Nov 18, 2015

    Don't u hate it when u date a guy

    and think he's the best thing that has happened to u and then all of a sudden he leaves u hanging? Yeah I know it sucks I dated a guy for 5 years turns out the whole time he was with me he was cheating on me with our best friend and he was making his friends lie to me about it...
    Youareallbeautiful Youareallbeautiful
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 16, 2014

    Right now actually. Cried

    for 5 solid days so far and it feels like it'll never stop hurting. Liking someone more than they like you is not much fun.
    favouriteweekend favouriteweekend
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Feb 9, 2016

    I know many are heartbroken.

    and yes it hurts and no one understands except your heart knows your pain.ask god for one thing.someone who loves you or a day when you are single and happy.give that man time to make it happen.dont run away from how you feel be honest about it and cry.sounds crazy I've been...
    Darkchild699 Darkchild699
    1 Response Apr 11, 2016

    I think about it everyday,

    It was a year ago today, and I havent moved on. I try, Meet new people, try new relationships, but I'm stuck in a moment in time I remember that last kiss, the tears, the guilt, then endless endeavour of trying to make a change and start again, but yet everything grounds to a...
    barnest2 barnest2
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Mar 6, 2014

    I found out my ex boyfriend was on the down

    low(gay) some time ago. I have screenshots of conversations to prove this. now he has a new girlfriend, & i want to tell her about this. should I? I have gotten over what happened between us, but I feel like people knew & didn't tell me & i wished someone would have said...
    MsBalleriffic MsBalleriffic
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2016

    I've been two times with the same guy,

    my first love, and I just can't forget all these little things about him. When another guy wants to date, I always day no because I just want my ex back. Love is so hard.
    Unintendedgirl Unintendedgirl
    22-25, F
    Mar 20, 2016

    For the good. It taught me how I should be

    treated and how I should treat others. Taught me to be open and not hide things at all because that's not a good way to start even a friendship. Taught me that true love is possible. In the end, I'm glad it happened. It made me a better person.
    ilovenewsocks ilovenewsocks
    41-45, F
    Dec 1, 2015

    Break down in a relationship will change you

    if you invested enough of yourself into it. You walk away with the knowledge that; You learn love isn’t always forever. You learn jealousy is the most dangerous emotion on Earth. You learn people are capable of doing really terrible things. You learn trust is the most...
    myownbox myownbox
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jun 8, 2015

    Two days ago, i had dinner with my ex boyfriend.

    It was three months ago and it felt so weird but also so good. Yesterday he had. Sollicitation so I texted him goodluck but he didnt even reply, I feel so bay now
    Unintendedgirl Unintendedgirl
    22-25, F
    Apr 7, 2016

    He was my everything

    but he's gone now. Im okay...he made me realize I cant trust anyone. He made me insecure and I had NO self esteem. But...I picked myself back up. Girls, don't cry over guys..they already smudged your mascara, dont let them ruin your life. Let them change it for the good. Let...
    HopelessAbandoment HopelessAbandoment
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 7, 2014

    I personally believe

    that a breakout can come from any relationship, not just a romantic relationship. The breakup that changed my life was when my dad started to lie to and ignore me. Now he's living in a different state, and it brought me out of a mental hole.
    sighselly sighselly
    13-15, F
    1 Response Apr 26, 2015

    I haven't completely been through the breakup.

    Heck it's only been a week since we parted ways for good. But I know it has already changed my life and will continue to change it. We first started talking when she was addicted to self harm. Me heart immediately went out to her and wanted to fix everything. I wanted to be her...
    Ticklishturtle21 Ticklishturtle21
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 6, 2015

    Hi everybody! I want to share my love-hate

    story. Well, its been 2 years and a half since I've been so deeply in love with a guy who tried to be a prince to me but he turned out to be someone else. I would like to focus my story regarding what happened three days ago. So, he was my ex already for 6 months. Although, he...
    zelp zelp
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 27, 2015

    My divorce changed me a lot.

    I learned how to be strong and how to be in my own without a relationship.
    xoPandoraBlack xoPandoraBlack
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 26, 2015

    It Hurted But Im So Thankful

    I moved to Mexico for the father of my children. I was three months pregnant with my daughter and my son was 2 years old then when he kicked me out with nothing. I took a taxi to the border and a greyhound bus home. I was to embarrassed to call my mom until I got in town and had...
    jlimones jlimones
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jul 8, 2013

    I ended a relationship

    that went on for just about 5 years. Out of those 5 years, nearly 2 were spent engaged. It was a long distance relationship with him the UK and me here in America and I had, over time, truly lost my desire to marry him. Any physical attraction had faded and I just wasn't seeing...
    MklynRsWhlr MklynRsWhlr
    26-30, F
    Jan 9, 2016

    Just wanted somewhere to write this I guess.

    I got in a pretty serious relationship when I just turned 17 and it was great for the most part, we could spend whole days together and not get sick of each other even after a year or two. I always had this idea that I can only ever be with one person when I was growing up, so...
    dch29 dch29
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2014

    Last summer my boyfriend of seven years with

    broke up with me out of the blue one night. I was devastated as I thought we were really good at that time (we were always good actually, we honestly never argued which seems crazy but it's true) and it shocked me to my core. We took a break from each other but after a couple of...
    tiffany567 tiffany567
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 23, 2016

    I can't stop thinking.

    Why do I even still care. Why am I think about this right now. Why can't I stop crying. Why can't I forget you. Why did you just leave me. Why did you have to do this to me. It's been almost a year since I've met you. I don't regret it. We had a good 5 months. It was great. I...
    PierceTheMaruaa PierceTheMaruaa
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2016

    7 days post break up with a sociopath Break

    up "number 10+ (no idea) a lot but this time I'm sure he won't pursue me again because I got a little crazy at the end in front of neighbors and he doesn't like "scenes" so I'm sure I'm safe from him coming back around. I'm sorry, but I'll be posting a lot of stories on this...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 21, 2015

    I went through a break up last year,

    and it changed my life. However this isn't a typical break up story because the person I broke up with, was my best friend. We were always together, like two peas in a pod. We did everything and went everywhere together. We would send each other motivating texts to help the...
    maltcandy maltcandy
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 24, 2016

    I dated someone that was wrong

    for me. The relationship was super confusing. After I just wanted to focus on myself. I still do. I'm happy its over because now I know I want to be with a good Christian.
    Findingyourway Findingyourway
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 27, 2015

    Today, I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months

    because of a gut feeling. I am an extremely intuitive person and when my gut tells me something feels wrong, I'm almost always right (say 90% of the time). I've been feeling this way for 4 months. I cannot pin the feeling to a specific action or behavior he is doing, so I...
    misskatiesue misskatiesue
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 9, 2015

    ive been sort of seeing a new guy ive taken a

    liking to. I know I post about my ex so much, and about missing him. and I do. SO much. But, this guy takes my mind off of him completely. He is a dom. He has the sweetest accent. And he is very kind to me, and there for me when i need him to be. And he randomly texts me to tell...
    ConfusedMinaB ConfusedMinaB
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 21, 2015

    Please read if your going through a bad breakup!

    Hey everyone, I went through a brutal breakup about 3 months ago, I was in so much pain, didn't know how I would cope, never thought I would be happy again. I thought my life was over..... But now I am happier than ever, getting back my old self, which I lost in the...
    timthomp timthomp
    26-30, M
    5 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    Well my boyfriend and I were in love

    for months until my friends spread a rumour that I was saying he was gay because they don't want us together. He hates me, wont talk to me and is dating again.
    anonshh anonshh
    41-45, F
    Nov 3, 2015

    You Undid Me

    You undid everything I once was. I am no longer who I used to be. My skin doesn’t fit me, my thoughts are not my own. What once was pure is tainted; once unbruised, broken. My hopes were once so fresh and grandeur and my dreams were nearer. What is left of me is a tattered soul...
    ambrosei ambrosei
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2013

    One day you'll crave the depth of my love

    and my soul to save you from the shallow existence that you've chosen. you'll be lonely, you'll feel empty, and you'll look back at me, the woman that loved you so deeply, for so long and stood beside you through it all. you'll look desperately for the smallest hint of life in...
    stargazer8 stargazer8
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Apr 6, 2014

    I didn't want it to be true.

    I didn't want to fall out of love with my ex. He is one of the funniest, sweetest men I've ever met. He promised me the world, marriage, a place to escape my parents, love. I thought I loved him too, I thought I wanted to give him the world. And then I felt it. As he held me...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    i could be the first to tell you

    that i was foolish, that i've been played. everyone's played the victim a time or two in their life. but there comes a point when you have to grow up and realize you're not the /only/ victim. its a cruel world. we're all victims. so yeah, i could sit here and tell you the story...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 31, 2015

    this post is directed to those

    who have been through the most painful break ups, but still managed to get over it.i have a question for you . How long did it take for you to fully ''recover'' and stop thinking about the person, dreaming about the person and missing the person ? i don't want to think about her...
    sabbracaddabraa sabbracaddabraa
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Mar 25, 2016

    An open letter to my ex: Dear ----- I can't

    believe it's been a year since we last spoke. In the 12 years we were together I never though you would not be in my life. In some form I always thought we would always be best friends even if we were not together. We saw and experience so much together from young teens to...
    Madmanwithabox29 Madmanwithabox29
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jul 21, 2015

    The devil stole my heart.

    (sorry it's quite long) I was with my ex partner for 8 years, he was my best friend but really no more then that.we got together when we were both 16 and it was comfortable but that's all it was, we sat down one day and decided we had grown apart and it was time to go our...
    CityLove8 CityLove8
    31-35, F
    Dec 7, 2013

    When your ex says ?you?

    ll never find anyone like me? Just smile and reply ?that?s the point?.
    VishwaVishu VishwaVishu
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    I hadn't cried for a week

    or more. I thought I was over it somehow. I didn't want to be over it. I searched for some song that would trigger the flood of tears, and I got what I wanted. The Phantom of the Opera, in particular the Point of No Return. That song is the trigger for me. To continue the sad...
    Invulgarant Invulgarant
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Aug 14, 2014

    the past is the past

    for a reason.. so learn from it... pick yourself up dust ya shoulders off and dive into the future with your head up and your chest out.. life's what we make it so let's make it badass!!!!:
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 26, 2015

    He was the love of my life.

    I have never loved anyone like I love/loved him. I thought I had been in love, until I fell for him. It changes everything. Now it's over and I thought I would never get over it. I still have a long way to go, but I feel stronger and wiser. Maybe I am a better person now? It...
    silvis silvis
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2015

    I was a rebound girl.

    The girl that the guy uses to get over his "amazing ex". Lots of pain depression and agony. To cut a long story very short - I learnt to love myself, and then I realised what a silly situation it was - here I was letting some punk facilitate my insecurities -( we all have them...
    ludiludi ludiludi
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2014

    It has been one year

    and almost four months since my last relationship. So I was with this guy (lets call him Jimmy) For not too long, maybe three, four months and since the first day we spoke it was like this immediate connection. We met at college, we were both in the same math class. We started...
    pinkycheeck pinkycheeck
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 1, 2015

    I went through a break up

    that changed my life for the better in the long run, but my heart still hurts. I still dream about him and they are very vivid, very emotional dreams. Recently I have started analyzing my dreams which does help a bit, but it doesn't make them stop. The odd thing is is that if...
    YoucancallmeJuliet YoucancallmeJuliet
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jun 15, 2014

    I broke up with my ex one year ago.

    Now, from that distance, I really understand why we couldn't go on any longer. Clinging to that relationship was basically an expression of deepest self-hatred, because I neglected my needs only to be with him. In hindsight, breaking up was one of the most emancipated thing I...
    LunaInvicta LunaInvicta
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 13, 2015

    I'd say the relationship more

    than the break up changed me. I've always given my all to those I love and expect others to do the same, if others don't I feel either they don't understand how much I try for them or I'm not doing enough to make them happy. so, I try harder. This was a rinse repeat method that...
    BecosThisIsMe BecosThisIsMe
    26-30, M
    1 Response Dec 22, 2015

    “Some people believe holding on

    and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.
    raquel80 raquel80
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Dec 3, 2014

    My ex took my son from me

    when he was 4 days old. Even after, I tried to work things out so that we could somehow be a family for our child. After years of joint custody, my ex screwed me out of having joint custody and I lost everything. I know that one day I'll get the opportunity to let him (my son...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 15, 2016

    Don't Give Power To Your Ex To Control Your Life

    Don't give power to your ex to control your thoughts, emotions, feelings and life from now on. You are a free woman/ man without him/ her. You alone had the power to control yourself. Brave on all heartbroken people, we have the power to lead our lives in peace and happiness!
    sunnyagain sunnyagain
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 28, 2013

    I loved someone blindly

    who didn't love me back....
    deleted deleted
    Jan 11, 2016

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    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    Janecc11aa Janecc11aa
    26-30, F
    Nov 18, 2015

    I wanted to write this

    for everyone who's going through a heartbreak including myself. Today is the day. It's time to move on, we already know how a heartbreak looks like but we need to stop crying, suffering and pick ourselves up. I know it isn't easy, I'm going through this painful experience too...
    American19 American19
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 29, 2015

    Today I laughed so hard

    and the sound was so foreign in my own ears I stopped and tried to find out where it was coming from, I started crying when I realized it was me. Al looked at me with this confused and puzzled expression and I couldn't help it, I started laughing again I laughed so hard that my...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2015

    Nothing breaks you more at your core

    than loosing someone you love. Whether by rejection, abandonment, casualty or death...the wake inevitably last for years. We exists in a world where each person must build his or her dreams upon the foundations of failure. Each loss becomes a lesson and opportunity for learning...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Dec 12, 2013

    I guess that I more or less went through an

    entire relationship that changed my life for the worse, but the break-up was the change for the better. I was only a young, sensitive girl with a kind heart. I fell in love with a guy 2 years older than me. My first love, and my only since. But then came the cheating. The list...
    himlavalv himlavalv
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 2, 2016
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