I Will Answer Any Question You Dare Ask Forum & Chat Board | How could a guy be cold, cruel and uncaring after break up?

For a lot of guys, this is common, but that's not to say it's right. This is not only immature, but also a defense mechanism. This is probably your typical guy that is scared to show vulnerability. You're better off without a guy like that. Now, if YOU'RE the one that broke up with him, it's is a reasonable reaction. Self Preservation. But it doesn't sound like that is the case.
When my last ex and I split, They didn't want to have anything to do with me. It hurt a little, but I had to respect that. I would probably feel the same. It's not necessarily the most constructive approach, but if you're trying to get over someone that is trying to maintain a presence in your life, Honestly, the cold shoulder is probably the fastest and easiest way to go. It's messed up, but a natural reaction. I've been on both sides of it. Neither one feels good though.

 

I have always been perplexed by this question. Why is it surprising that a someone is cold toward a person he/she has broken up with? The primary phrase there is BROKEN UP. This individual has chosen, for whatever reason, that they no longer wish to be associated with the now former significant other. It is natural to pull away and change the focus elsewhere.
On the occasions that I have decided to end a relationship I am nearly always much colder toward that person due to the fact that the relationship didn't work out. I no longer have a need or a reason to be warm and cuddly to them.
That said, I am not an outright a-hole to anyone, unless they have it coming.

 

Well, if you are breaking up just do it n be done with each other but if your breaking up and for some reason cant get away from each other I can see where some frustration could come into play. If you break up, you need to get away from each other and dont talk or someone is going to snap and soy some nasty ****.

 

Men use this strategy as a menas to protect their delicate ego. By being rude and indifferent they build their wall of resistance in an effort to protect themselves. It does take a mature (in experience) male to be able to walk away and maintain a relationship.