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I Will Let My Needs Come First More Often

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 45 People

    Learning to Let Me Come First

    One of the hardest things for me to do is to let myself and my needs come before thoes in my family.  I am working on this in my life and my goal is to become the strong woman I know I am. I will also work on looking at myself and the changes I need to make in my life to...
    Grits4life Grits4life 46-50, F Jul 27, 2008

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    Because No One Else Does.

    I mean, if you're not putting yourself first, and no one else is either, who is making YOU a priority?? 
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 3 Responses May 28, 2009

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    What Are My Needs

    HI i was a herion addict for 30 yrs , and have been clean for 5 yrs totaly ,not even drinking , so the only thing i need before was drugs , now i help people to get and stay clean , which i love doing, but i fall into depression and get told i am not getting my needs met , so...
    mefoss mefoss 36-40 1 Response Sep 27, 2010

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    It's Okay to Be Selfish Sometimes

    Sometimes the person you need to take care of first is you, believe me I learned the hard way.
    vanessa34 vanessa34 26-30, F 1 Response May 28, 2009

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    To My Ex

    Sorry hon, it's not all about you, I have needs too and I'm gonna do them by myself because I was raised by all females and that's what I was taught to do. plus you just sat around being depressed and that doesn't take care of me.
    cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 19, 2008

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    Had to Tell Him to Tone Down the Complaining

    So my husband is not happy in his job... boo effin' HOOOOO!!!!  His salary is over the top, there's nobody looking over his shoulder, and hell-OH... he HAD a job.  That alone he should be grateful for.  But someone was promoted over him, and now he has to report to...
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 5, 2009

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    Feel Guilty

    There are days I just want to scream...... WHAT ABOUT ME!!   And then, when I do take time for myself and let my needs or wants come first...I feel guilty.
    PeedeeDog PeedeeDog 66-70 2 Responses Oct 19, 2008

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