I Will Never Be Someone's Back Up Plan

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    So my boyfriend admitted to me

    that the first 6 months he kept his ex as a backup plan. He told me he had heard horrible things about my last relationship from one of my exes so he was scared. He claims he loved me but how do you love someone and keep another ex strung along ? He claims he fell out of love...
    aquarius2383 aquarius2383
    31-35, F
    Jun 9, 2015

    Thing is...you often don't realize until

    after the fact that you are somebody's backup plan. Red flags should not ignored. Don't wait around for someone to make up their mind what they want to do or until they can get their **** together. I had a lot more to say about this but I will exercise restraint at this...
    theSusanQ theSusanQ
    51-55, F
    Dec 1, 2014

    I won't stick around

    for that. I have had someone try it with me before, and he ended up getting realizing he lost his chance when I went and fell for a girl instead. He kept calling for a bit, until he realized his being a man didn't mean he was 1st on my list.
    Cadiaaya Cadiaaya
    26-30, F
    Jun 9, 2015

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