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I Will Never Be Someone's Back Up Plan

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 188 People

    Thing is...you often don't realize until

    after the fact that you are somebody's backup plan. Red flags should not ignored. Don't wait around for someone to make up their mind what they want to do or until they can get their **** together. I had a lot more to say about this but I will exercise restraint at this...
    theSusanQ theSusanQ 51-55, F Dec 1, 2014

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    I Shouldn't Be Here

    I don't mind being your backup plan, baby.I've got your back.;)
    sumnerkagan sumnerkagan 46-50, M Jul 17, 2012

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