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I Will Never Be Someone's Back Up Plan

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 223 People

    Hav2letgo4us Hav2letgo4us 31-35, F Jun 15

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    I Shouldn't Be Here

    I don't mind being your backup plan, baby.I've got your back.;)
    sumnerkagan sumnerkagan 46-50, M Jul 17, 2012

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    I won't stick around

    for that. I have had someone try it with me before, and he ended up getting realizing he lost his chance when I went and fell for a girl instead. He kept calling for a bit, until he realized his being a man didn't mean he was 1st on my list.
    Cadiaaya Cadiaaya 26-30, F Jun 9

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    So my boyfriend admitted to me

    that the first 6 months he kept his ex as a backup plan. He told me he had heard horrible things about my last relationship from one of my exes so he was scared. He claims he loved me but how do you love someone and keep another ex strung along ? He claims he fell out of love...
    aquarius2383 aquarius2383 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 9

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    Thing is...you often don't realize until

    after the fact that you are somebody's backup plan. Red flags should not ignored. Don't wait around for someone to make up their mind what they want to do or until they can get their **** together. I had a lot more to say about this but I will exercise restraint at this...
    theSusanQ theSusanQ 51-55, F Dec 1, 2014

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    ...and I'm totally fine with it. I was raised by a single father who was never married so I grew up knowing that there's more to life than saying "I do." Plus, there are so many...
    SunshineMel SunshineMel 26-30, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Though it saddens me to break our relationship but I think both of us just don't deserve each other. We started as being friends and eventually fell in love with each other. I...
    nbsbgal nbsbgal 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    So I saved this very drunk rich girl's life last night. She even tried to kiss me and was singing to me. Anyways I saved her life, ( from two potential rapists ), and it felt...
    musicmatters1111 musicmatters1111 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    I'd rather fall in love with a woman's personality than looks. There are only so many looks available and I think having personalities that work together is more important and rare...
    Maybeincubus Maybeincubus 22-25, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Can someone who is a girl near DC fart on me pls? I'll let you do anything to me
    Esteban123901 Esteban123901 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    Letter to my future love.. Hey sweet guy, wow, what a day?! I thought about you alot today, like when my boss told me the joke that had me cracking up, and when I went on lunch...
    iamlovepeople iamlovepeople 31-35, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am 13 years old and I've never flown on a plane before. Most of my friends have flown on a plane at least once or twice but I have never had the opportunity to travel on an...
    hannahphillips hannahphillips 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Personality is definitely the first things to look for when you are actually serious about fiding someone, if you are not then then those one night stand with random hot strangers...
    kyoshac kyoshac 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    reply, reply, reply. geez you gonna give me a heart attackjust waiting for your text.
    Cubeball Cubeball 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Just got some more bad news. Gregg, my “father”, got everything in the divorce settlement because the Appeals Court saw no error in the findings. That means he made off with...
    NikkiNINTR NikkiNINTR 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Wow...what a feeling to have someone love you so much. I know kids often feel that way about their parents until they find a spouse of their own. I look around and I can see women...
    bgood79 bgood79 36-40, M 1 Response a week ago

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    It's like someone is playing a sick and twisted game with my life where anything that could lead to me being loved is prevented. I spend a lot of my time alone due to depression...
    TheFreeSpirit TheFreeSpirit 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm here now anyone around my age group interested in talking.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jun 22

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    If i think you have a great personality, you could be the weirdest looking person & id still think you were cute
    TahirC TahirC 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 21

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    Ermahgerd bruh. Thine words arrive later than weekends!
    Cosmic0Potato Cosmic0Potato 13-15, M 6 Responses Jun 21

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    My idea of great looks is a long way from society's supposed ideal.If you're a (very)overweight redhead witha good heart and brains,I'd do anything for you.
    jjb6560 jjb6560 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 21

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    to the cute guy I was talking to last night. thank you.
    beckjpeg beckjpeg 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    really feels good...a delay hurtz
    coolguy5544 coolguy5544 26-30, M Jun 20

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    it's always this way for me and it always will be
    bradley600 bradley600 16-17, M Jun 20

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    I prefer a quick reply. Get the conversation over with quickly so I don't have to hold my thoughts in all day.
    Vicvoss Vicvoss 16-17, M 3 Responses Jun 20

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    It must be nice to have someone to reply quickly, unfortunately all of my friends respond after like 4hours after I even wrote to them... *annoyed*
    Elliethecloud Elliethecloud 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 20

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    I don't know about you lot but it makes me feel important :)
    MrLazyCloud MrLazyCloud 18-21, M Jun 20

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    what do u do when you want something so bad, but know in your heart it will never happen? continuing hoping because its everything you want, even when it's breaking your heart? or...
    dkemama dkemama 31-35, F Jun 19

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    A person can be gorgeous on the outside but they can be horrible people on the inside. Personally, I think personality should always come first before looks. I'd rather find...
    bookaholic14 bookaholic14 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 17

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    sun86 sun86 26-30 Jun 17

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    Calling someone beautiful just for their looks doesn't mean they're actually beautiful. They could be the most gorgeous person you have ever seen but have a ugly personality...
    ColorlessColorxoxo ColorlessColorxoxo 16-17, M 2 Responses Jun 16

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    Physical beauty effortlessly attracts, but it easily fades. Inner beauty is harder to spot, but it endures... Having both will be a perfect combination though! :)
    Hopu Hopu 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    A relationship in which when i told him i wanted to leave him, he pulled out a knife and started to kill himself on my porch. Was forced to stay with him (even after rape) I wish i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 15

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    I hate when they don't replie it gets me worried about them.
    maahliyh maahliyh 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 15

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    Just met this homeless Iraq war veteran on my way to starbucks had a small chat with him for about 12 or 15 minutes. So he's a Marine and served two tours in Iraq his girlfriend...
    ILeo ILeo 22-25, M Jun 13

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    I will never forget that day that me and my Bestfriend first kissed.. Wish I could go back ? Yeah . Because that's when he was still living here .
    dezi1124 dezi1124 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    some ppl cant accept me for who i am so if ur one of them plz stop pretending to my face that ur my friend cos huny ur not
    amylouise123 amylouise123 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    yes... looks fade... its temporary.. its the person's characteristic and attitude im looking for. cause once uve get into relationship..personality is what matters most.. its...
    empire28 empire28 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 12

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    I am currently falling for someone based on personality - but I'm having a seriously hard time in the looks department. It's just not there for me, but everything else is so...
    infinitezen infinitezen 26-30, M 5 Responses Jun 11

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    A person's personality is the number one quality in my book. As much as I admire a handsome hunk, I'll NEVER date a man for his looks. Just imagine, I'm sitting in my office this...
    FelicitySmoak FelicitySmoak 31-35, F 10 Responses Jun 11

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    You see, I'm one of those girls that would fall for the ugliest guy in school because he's super sweet....I honestly don't care about your face, nor your disabilities. If you love...
    RobynQuill RobynQuill 70+, F 7 Responses Jun 11

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