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I Will Not Be Involved With Toxic People

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    Healing

    After a lot of years, I finally realized the true reason I needed all this extra padding.     I'm thin-skinned, very thin-skinned.   This is not to be confused with my pale skin as I am very fair as well.I have had many toxic people in my life.    Most of them were...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 8, 2011

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    Enough

    I've had enough of them thrust upon me in my family and work situations. So I will not let such people through the gates of my personal life.  That would be my own fault, wouldn't it.  I believe in vampires because there are just some people who suck your soul out slowly.  I...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 15 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    Ever since I quit my toxic friends

    and manipulative boyfriend, I feel good. Im going through withdrawal from the relationship. Besides that there is something freeing about silence filled with hope and joy. I no longer have to listen to these people, their problems, and met their needy demands...
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    How i wish this was me - completely.

    I know the that you become those you associate with. We used to call it fitting in with the wrong crowd. I also know u attract those like you. So i would like to hear your (yes u out there) thoughts on this. So i kinda have 3 parts to my my life. Kept separate for good...
    LifesCoach LifesCoach 36-40, M 6 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    Malevolent

    I think there is a point when we realize that we are enablers to the people who cause stress in our lives. I used to believe that I was very mature in my dealings with these individuals, but unfortunately I was merely helping them in achieving their self-destructive endeavors, by...
    thejoneses thejoneses 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    I am a college student

    and have been exposed to a lot of bad influences, I've met and hung around with these people and only live now to regret it. Luckily I had the mentality to realize these toxic influences and correct myself. A shout out to all those like me, have fun but pay close attention to...
    Life1sinteresting Life1sinteresting 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 18, 2014

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    Life is short and life can be hard.

    Toxic people make it a harder slog! I wont be around toxic people and neither should you. Surround yourself by like minded people, people who love you and care for you and your life will be better for it! Cut all negativity from you life and live the life that makes you...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 4 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    Willingness

    The VA taught me the true meaning of the word willingness; choice plus action. This lesson has caused me to understand what one can do if willing. I now call upon the wilingness of all Americans in order to save American jobs, our educational system, our children and...
    infpisme infpisme 46-50, M 11 Responses Nov 9, 2011

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    For years I had a neighbor (may God rest her

    soul) who was always instructing me on how to live my life and how to raise children. Apparently, her family was the most perfect on Earth. However, as years went by, both her children had dysfunctional marriages. Her son was expelled from college (this was not in America) for...
    azurelady azurelady 56-60, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    Me No Like Bad Vibe People

    This story was 'assigned' to me in my Writer's Challenge thread.  So here we go. First of all, I have a strict practice to stay away from toxic people and can think of NO ONE in my real life that would fit this description.  It's easy to avoid them by just living my...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry 46-50, F 30 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    I've spent my whole life around people

    who are toxic. By toxic I don't just mean people who steal, hurt other people, or someone who has a bad attitude. I'm also talking about people with baggage. People that can never be happy, who has such a negative outlook on life that they are killjoys, and people who constantly...
    saeteurn saeteurn 22-25, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    So I've been part of this site

    for quite some time and I appreciate being able to share my woes with those who understand from all over the world, but there are those who come here to tear others down when they are feeling low and that makes me sick! I recently posted about my feelings on my divorce process...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    Extract from the book by Ben Stein : How to

    ruin your life. TREAT THE PEOPLE WHO ARE BAD TO YOU WELL. That's right. They'll soon change and be really,really good to you. Maybe.But whether they do or not,lets be honest about this: Some weird urge in you tells you to knuckle under and treat the people who are bad to you...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 9 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Better Than Having No Job?

    What do you do when everyone at work, to varying degrees, is toxic? The environment is such that people scheme against each other, and you, every day? Back stab you. People regularly yell each and every day, Kick the career ladder out from under you in front of everybody with no...
    2Buddies 2Buddies 46-50, M 23 Responses Jun 16, 2011

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    Life is a lot better

    now that I have left my job. New management came in and felt they needed to revamp. We had a great team but slowly one by one, we all left. I was the last standing member who left. This narcissistic manager was Miss Martha Stewart in front of you but a back-stabber when you are...
    organizedmadness organizedmadness 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    Live and Learn.

    in my old age (ahem!) i simply don't have the emotional energy to maintain relationships with these people. i used to be able to, but at some point a few years ago i had to draw the line for my own mental and physical well-being. real friends don't make you miserable. live and...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2008

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    I'M Sorry But You And Your Dark Cloud Can Go As Far Away From Me As Possible

    I am already a person who struggles with her own inner negativity. I will no longer allow someone to rain on me, all over my hope. I was with a guy who was too broken to have ever been a good mate for me, he was dark and told me he was (as in mind and spirit). I accepted him but...
    JasmineLove45 JasmineLove45 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    Judged By The Company You Keep

    It doesn't take long to figure out the "Who's Who" on EP. When I feel wronged, I instinctively want to vindicate myself but why try? It just adds fuel to the fire. I refuse to participate in that crap. I know the truth and will not even try to prove it to anyone else.  Besides...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 14 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    I will only surround myself with genuine people.

    I want positive influences and role models, especially for my son. I don't care if you ***** and gossip about me. I'm not a people pleaser. I'm not going to put up an appearance for societies sake. If i don't like you, then I chose not to engage with you. Respect my boundaries...
    GroundedButterfly81 GroundedButterfly81 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2014

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    What Or Who Is A Toxic Person?

    This is an essentially subjective criteria.  A toxic person in one relationship may be a friend in another . . .  Each person is perceived differently by each other person.  There can be no ONE set of criteria for defining a "toxic person". For me, the following...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    Success Defeating Behaviours.

    I came across a very interesting and enlightening little book.It has 35 chapters and they are as follow. 1) Don't learn any useful skills. 2) Don't learn any self discipline. 3) Never accept responsibility for anything that goes wrong. 4) Critisize early and often. 5) Never be...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 7 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    Here I Go Again!!

    I have had this girl repeatedly show up in my life over the years. I have never had anyone do this to me. She stalked me and threated harm to me and my family. I moved to get away from her and her toxic behaviors. I once had a relationship with her.....but, I realized that she...
    picgirl picgirl 31-35, F 27 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    You don’t ever have to feel guilty about

    removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing...
    ReligiouslyLusty ReligiouslyLusty 31-35 1 Response May 6, 2014

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    Characteristics Of A Toxic Relationship And More

    I have had toxic relationships and they were not pretty. I found some helpful things for people who are going through nasty relationships with people who are toxic. It took me a while to realize that they were but, it came to light.The Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship are...
    FreshBeginning FreshBeginning 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 17, 2011

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    DRAMA people I just want put up with.

    If you bring DRAMA with you I let them go. Specially family. I can't stand people that just keep screwing up and come whinnying to me. Hey then stop being stupid . Stop letting people screw you. Stop giving money to any one. You know they arent going to pay you back. So stop...
    jeankachew jeankachew 51-55, F 1 Response a week ago

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    My husband is toxic. For

    so long I thought I was the problem- I felt unlovable because he ignored me, worthless because my opinions and thoughts weren't validated, crazy because he'd twist everything around, and invisible because he managed to make everything about him and what he wanted. When I finally...
    cinaflower cinaflower 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    I Am Not Damaging My Health

    I am at the age where I am living for myself and no one else. Screw what other people think, if I think you are a bad person I will cut you off as soon as possible. I am not wasting my time any more.
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    Reality Check...

    Well we cannot help to be involved with toxic people because the universe is just a very small place teeming with dissimilar personalities. More often than not, we interact with some of them in our households and workplace. Sometimes, they are those who are close to us but we...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    A Waste Of Time

    Why should I waste my time with nasty, toxic people when there are so many nice people to get to know?  Life is too short for me to want to be involved with toxic people.  Unfortunately there are some in close circles anyway that I can't do anything about.  I just...
    gman1023 gman1023 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2010

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    Where Do I Begin? This Pertains More To Endings.

    I entered this site when a close friend suggested I venture in and read a few stories posted by a couple my friend is very close to in real life. Their experiences reflected something I craved for myself. I came. I read. I have greatly enjoyed reading their stories and...
    sharonsub sharonsub 26-30, F 14 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    If you get involved with someone

    that has a bad attitude, a critical spirit, a judgemental demeanor, and a knack for seeing the negative..Be prepared for all of that to eventually be directed at you. Then get the hell out! Now I know how to spot toxic before it spots me! I hope..
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 15 Responses Jan 22

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    I just wish that there were few toxic people.

    I know they may have personal issues but then they can seek help and not hurt others.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 1, 2014

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    You'll know who the toxic people are

    because they're draining to be around. They either always are asking for a favor, really needy, or constantly talking about their problems - just stuck in the muck - the pity part - want a lot of attention. They're not very independent.
    LoveinthisLife LoveinthisLife 51-55, F 4 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    I decided to end my 32 year friendship with my

    best friend because of her toxic relationship with her scumbag boyfriend. It was so toxic, it made our friendship toxic. Couldn't take anymore and on Father's Day, I very nicely asked her not to contact me anymore - for anything. She only called me when she needed something...
    AgoraPhobicsince1990 AgoraPhobicsince1990 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2014

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    Forrest Church, Unitarian mister,

    once said: Choose your enemies wisely because you tend to become more like them. So if you don't like toxic people, don't become one. You won't know it when you do it, but other people will let you know.
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 14, 2014

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    I Will Not Tolerate Toxic People In My Life

    I will not tolerate toxic people in my life. My definition of a toxic person is someone very negative, argumentative, deliberately seeking to be in an opposing or combative situation. I see no point in incorporating this type of individual into my life in any shape or form. My...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 6 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    I will of course always listen

    and try to help but I really dislike drama and people who cause it. There's always drama going on with the women at work. I try my best to avoid it of course but it seems like everyone is always dragged into their drama by having to listen to their conversations to actually...
    Plungeintoadream Plungeintoadream 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 1, 2014

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    gracegodduaghter gracegodduaghter 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 17, 2014

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    I asked God to rid of all toxic people in my

    life and He heard my prayer. Last year, my so called best friend and I stopped talking. I did my best to bridge the gap, but the rift was so great that it failed. My other friends have been telling me too that she had been speaking maliciously about me. It's so disappointing...
    krimsonlove krimsonlove 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F Jan 13, 2014

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    I will fill my life with love

    and joy. Happiness, I'll spread it more in this crazy world.
    ezzy2014 ezzy2014 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 29, 2014

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    I Can't Do It

    I've had a very tough year.  In fact it's not exaggerating to say that it's been the toughest year I've ever had.  At this start of a new year I am having to gather all my energy and resolve together to make major changes in my life.  Friends who have followed my story will...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 7 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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    So after 4 attempts at leaving my partner

    who was emotionally, verbally and turning physically abusive. I finally didn't let his guilt trips keep me there. I moved into my own place. Then a week later I found out I'm pregnant hahahah oh Murphy's Law... You're a real ****. I'm sure Murphy knows my biggest fear in life is...
    itdoesntmatter99 itdoesntmatter99 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    This is something I feel really strongly about.

    As someone who has had quite a few toxic people in my past, I now realise that that negativity is the worst possible thing you can invite into your life. Seriously. This is not me condemning 'toxic' people - just because people are bad FOR YOU does not necessarily make them bad...
    headversusheart headversusheart 22-25, F 3 Responses May 4, 2014

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    They will steal your sanity,

    make your thoughts crazy, put thoughts there was not there before, and you do not know why they are there, they just begin to show up there......They make your world miserable, hard words, poor actions, carelessness.....They send your stress up, send you in depressions, soon you...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I wish to live by this

    for the rest of my life. Stress has killed many people, and all these bad people stress me out a lot. I just don't need it. I may be stuck with a few toxic people (family mainly), but I'm not going to let them bother me. And once I'm free, none of them will ever be a problem for...
    Kairisheartless Kairisheartless 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 30, 2014

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    I Said Goodbye To You Today

    Hey Beautiful. I know you didn't hear me, but I said goodbye to you today. I'm just so tired of trying to reach out to you. I'm tired of giving. I'm tired of your constant misunderstanding, and the stories you twist together in your head. I've grown so weary of your jealousy...
    cbrf3rider cbrf3rider 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    I am 55 years old and have 3 children with my

    ex-husband, from whom I have been divorced for 23 years. After we divorced,he tried to destroy me through my children, and he did a pretty pretty good job it. I always wanted to be good mother and he ruined that possibility for me. I think I did a decent job while the kids...
    lksummit lksummit 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Toxic

    I have had alot of toxic people come and go out of my life. They have too much negativity to pour out on people. I am a person that gives people the benefit of the doubt....but then....when everything is all said and done....you wrong me...thats it!! Ive learned the hard way too...
    picgirl picgirl 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    I walk away from those type of ppl,

    they are always the ones making trouble for others trying to better their lives!! Don't have time for that!! I'm a good person, but a good person can only take so much before you are just done!! There has been one person in my life consistently that I have forgiven many times...
    Lilmomma1617 Lilmomma1617 31-35, F May 4, 2014

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