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I Will Not Be Involved With Toxic People

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    Reality Check...

    Well we cannot help to be involved with toxic people because the universe is just a very small place teeming with dissimilar personalities. More often than not, we interact with some of them in our households and workplace. Sometimes, they are those who are close to us but we...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    I am a college student

    and have been exposed to a lot of bad influences, I've met and hung around with these people and only live now to regret it. Luckily I had the mentality to realize these toxic influences and correct myself. A shout out to all those like me, have fun but pay close attention to...
    Life1sinteresting Life1sinteresting 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 18

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    Success Defeating Behaviours.

    I came across a very interesting and enlightening little book.It has 35 chapters and they are as follow. 1) Don't learn any useful skills. 2) Don't learn any self discipline. 3) Never accept responsibility for anything that goes wrong. 4) Critisize early and often. 5) Never be...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 7 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I Said Goodbye To You Today

    Hey Beautiful. I know you didn't hear me, but I said goodbye to you today. I'm just so tired of trying to reach out to you. I'm tired of giving. I'm tired of your constant misunderstanding, and the stories you twist together in your head. I've grown so weary of your jealousy...
    cbrf3rider cbrf3rider 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    I am 55 years old and have 3 children with my

    ex-husband, from whom I have been divorced for 23 years. After we divorced,he tried to destroy me through my children, and he did a pretty pretty good job it. I always wanted to be good mother and he ruined that possibility for me. I think I did a decent job while the kids...
    lksummit lksummit 51-55, F 3 Responses Nov 30

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    Here I Go Again!!

    I have had this girl repeatedly show up in my life over the years. I have never had anyone do this to me. She stalked me and threated harm to me and my family. I moved to get away from her and her toxic behaviors. I once had a relationship with her.....but, I realized that she...
    picgirl picgirl 31-35, F 27 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    Characteristics Of A Toxic Relationship And More

    I have had toxic relationships and they were not pretty. I found some helpful things for people who are going through nasty relationships with people who are toxic. It took me a while to realize that they were but, it came to light.The Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship are...
    FreshBeginning FreshBeginning 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 17, 2011

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    Me No Like Bad Vibe People

    This story was 'assigned' to me in my Writer's Challenge thread.  So here we go. First of all, I have a strict practice to stay away from toxic people and can think of NO ONE in my real life that would fit this description.  It's easy to avoid them by just living my...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry 46-50, F 30 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    My husband is toxic. For

    so long I thought I was the problem- I felt unlovable because he ignored me, worthless because my opinions and thoughts weren't validated, crazy because he'd twist everything around, and invisible because he managed to make everything about him and what he wanted. When I finally...
    cinaflower cinaflower 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 22

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    You don’t ever have to feel guilty about

    removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing...
    ReligiouslyLusty ReligiouslyLusty 31-35 1 Response May 6

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    I Am Not Damaging My Health

    I am at the age where I am living for myself and no one else. Screw what other people think, if I think you are a bad person I will cut you off as soon as possible. I am not wasting my time any more.
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    Where Do I Begin? This Pertains More To Endings.

    I entered this site when a close friend suggested I venture in and read a few stories posted by a couple my friend is very close to in real life. Their experiences reflected something I craved for myself. I came. I read. I have greatly enjoyed reading their stories and...
    sharonsub sharonsub 26-30, F 15 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    You'll know who the toxic people are

    because they're draining to be around. They either always are asking for a favor, really needy, or constantly talking about their problems - just stuck in the muck - the pity part - want a lot of attention. They're not very independent.
    LoveinthisLife LoveinthisLife 51-55, F 4 Responses Sep 1

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    I will only surround myself with genuine people.

    I want positive influences and role models, especially for my son. I don't care if you ***** and gossip about me. I'm not a people pleaser. I'm not going to put up an appearance for societies sake. If i don't like you, then I chose not to engage with you. Respect my boundaries...
    GroundedButterfly81 GroundedButterfly81 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    I Will Not Tolerate Toxic People In My Life

    I will not tolerate toxic people in my life. My definition of a toxic person is someone very negative, argumentative, deliberately seeking to be in an opposing or combative situation. I see no point in incorporating this type of individual into my life in any shape or form. My...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 6 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    I will of course always listen

    and try to help but I really dislike drama and people who cause it. There's always drama going on with the women at work. I try my best to avoid it of course but it seems like everyone is always dragged into their drama by having to listen to their conversations to actually...
    Plungeintoadream Plungeintoadream 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 1

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    Maybe it's a pretentious attitude

    but anytime I notice that someone is just 'bad' to be around; there's nothing that's going to keep me around them. It's not a vendetta but I make it a goal to not be involved with toxic people. If someone is detrimental to my life or the people I care About, I will not be...
    misternobrain misternobrain 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 9

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    Help! My Cousin Is Clingy.

    I love my cuz, but she is extremely needy and clingy. If i don't call her every day she starts complaining that no one cares about her. She will say annoying things like hi stranger! Then I have to explain why I haven't called or answered her call. She is very cheap with money...
    trbmom trbmom 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2013

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    I decided to end my 32 year friendship with my

    best friend because of her toxic relationship with her scumbag boyfriend. It was so toxic, it made our friendship toxic. Couldn't take anymore and on Father's Day, I very nicely asked her not to contact me anymore - for anything. She only called me when she needed something...
    AgoraPhobicsince1990 AgoraPhobicsince1990 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    Extract from the book by Ben Stein : How to

    ruin your life. TREAT THE PEOPLE WHO ARE BAD TO YOU WELL. That's right. They'll soon change and be really,really good to you. Maybe.But whether they do or not,lets be honest about this: Some weird urge in you tells you to knuckle under and treat the people who are bad to you...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 7 Responses Nov 12

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    This is something I feel really strongly about.

    As someone who has had quite a few toxic people in my past, I now realise that that negativity is the worst possible thing you can invite into your life. Seriously. This is not me condemning 'toxic' people - just because people are bad FOR YOU does not necessarily make them bad...
    headversusheart headversusheart 22-25, F 3 Responses May 4

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    I just wish that there were few toxic people.

    I know they may have personal issues but then they can seek help and not hurt others.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    How i wish this was me - completely.

    I know the that you become those you associate with. We used to call it fitting in with the wrong crowd. I also know u attract those like you. So i would like to hear your (yes u out there) thoughts on this. So i kinda have 3 parts to my my life. Kept separate for good...
    LifesCoach LifesCoach 36-40, M 6 Responses Aug 4

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    Judged By The Company You Keep

    It doesn't take long to figure out the "Who's Who" on EP. When I feel wronged, I instinctively want to vindicate myself but why try? It just adds fuel to the fire. I refuse to participate in that crap. I know the truth and will not even try to prove it to anyone else.  Besides...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 14 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    So I've been part of this site

    for quite some time and I appreciate being able to share my woes with those who understand from all over the world, but there are those who come here to tear others down when they are feeling low and that makes me sick! I recently posted about my feelings on my divorce process...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    gracegodduaghter gracegodduaghter 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    What Or Who Is A Toxic Person?

    This is an essentially subjective criteria.  A toxic person in one relationship may be a friend in another . . .  Each person is perceived differently by each other person.  There can be no ONE set of criteria for defining a "toxic person". For me, the following...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    Hazardous People Can Pass Me By

    I'm have to deal with some very toxic people with my job. I'm a doctor that deals with some very mentally messed up people. In my private live, I refuse to be involved with toxic people. I have a very small circle of "friends" on EP which I screen carefully. I'm not here to find...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    I will fill my life with love

    and joy. Happiness, I'll spread it more in this crazy world.
    ezzy2014 ezzy2014 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 29

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    My "sick" Friend

    This is one of the very best things about getting a little older. Somewhere along the path of life, I miraculously realized that I am in total control over my choices of the people in which I choose to share my life with. There was (yes WAS) this one friend that was constantly...
    hillbillycrone hillbillycrone 56-60, F 6 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    For years I had a neighbor (may God rest her

    soul) who was always instructing me on how to live my life and how to raise children. Apparently, her family was the most perfect on Earth. However, as years went by, both her children had dysfunctional marriages. Her son was expelled from college (this was not in America) for...
    azurelady azurelady 56-60, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    Enough

    I've had enough of them thrust upon me in my family and work situations. So I will not let such people through the gates of my personal life.  That would be my own fault, wouldn't it.  I believe in vampires because there are just some people who suck your soul out slowly.  I...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 15 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    Malevolent

    I think there is a point when we realize that we are enablers to the people who cause stress in our lives. I used to believe that I was very mature in my dealings with these individuals, but unfortunately I was merely helping them in achieving their self-destructive endeavors, by...
    thejoneses thejoneses 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    Toxic

    I have had alot of toxic people come and go out of my life. They have too much negativity to pour out on people. I am a person that gives people the benefit of the doubt....but then....when everything is all said and done....you wrong me...thats it!! Ive learned the hard way too...
    picgirl picgirl 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    They Are Dementors

    Toxic people get their strength from making other people miserable. It is as if the unhappiness of the person they are cornering drives their lives and energizes them. They possibly get their sense of worth or superiority by making other people feel worthless. They are like...
    heiwa heiwa 22-25, F 9 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    They will steal your sanity,

    make your thoughts crazy, put thoughts there was not there before, and you do not know why they are there, they just begin to show up there......They make your world miserable, hard words, poor actions, carelessness.....They send your stress up, send you in depressions, soon you...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 2

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    I'M Sorry But You And Your Dark Cloud Can Go As Far Away From Me As Possible

    I am already a person who struggles with her own inner negativity. I will no longer allow someone to rain on me, all over my hope. I was with a guy who was too broken to have ever been a good mate for me, he was dark and told me he was (as in mind and spirit). I accepted him but...
    JasmineLove45 JasmineLove45 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    I Can't Do It

    I've had a very tough year.  In fact it's not exaggerating to say that it's been the toughest year I've ever had.  At this start of a new year I am having to gather all my energy and resolve together to make major changes in my life.  Friends who have followed my story will...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 7 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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    A Waste Of Time

    Why should I waste my time with nasty, toxic people when there are so many nice people to get to know?  Life is too short for me to want to be involved with toxic people.  Unfortunately there are some in close circles anyway that I can't do anything about.  I just...
    gman1023 gman1023 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2010

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    Willingness

    The VA taught me the true meaning of the word willingness; choice plus action. This lesson has caused me to understand what one can do if willing. I now call upon the wilingness of all Americans in order to save American jobs, our educational system, our children and...
    infpisme infpisme 46-50, M 11 Responses Nov 9, 2011

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    True Colors

    I like people, I do! But some are just out for themselves. There is of course a reason why they are, but regardless, they are greedy, manipulative, scandalous, judgmental jerks. I don't like snooty, or rude. Gossiping is such a turnoff. For example: when I first met my husband's...
    sizzzlin69 sizzzlin69 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 22, 2013

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    I walk away from those type of ppl,

    they are always the ones making trouble for others trying to better their lives!! Don't have time for that!! I'm a good person, but a good person can only take so much before you are just done!! There has been one person in my life consistently that I have forgiven many times...
    Lilmomma1617 Lilmomma1617 31-35, F May 4

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    Live and Learn.

    in my old age (ahem!) i simply don't have the emotional energy to maintain relationships with these people. i used to be able to, but at some point a few years ago i had to draw the line for my own mental and physical well-being. real friends don't make you miserable. live and...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2008

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    Sometimes if you don't want to involve with

    toxic people you must have this unpleasant experience that happen to me once a will at first i got angry now i don't give a ****,let them be as toxic as they want to be we never going to be friends.
    blackweirdcat blackweirdcat 46-50, F Dec 8, 2013

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    Toxic Family

    My family is toxic, they are cruel and negative people, and I no longer have place for them in my life,Ever since I can remember, my only dream was getting out of there. Then I did. I met someone who took me away from all of that. But I was not rid of them yet. It took me over...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2013

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    I wish to live by this

    for the rest of my life. Stress has killed many people, and all these bad people stress me out a lot. I just don't need it. I may be stuck with a few toxic people (family mainly), but I'm not going to let them bother me. And once I'm free, none of them will ever be a problem for...
    Kairisheartless Kairisheartless 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    Healing

    After a lot of years, I finally realized the true reason I needed all this extra padding.     I'm thin-skinned, very thin-skinned.   This is not to be confused with my pale skin as I am very fair as well.I have had many toxic people in my life.    Most of them were...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 8, 2011

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    So after 4 attempts at leaving my partner

    who was emotionally, verbally and turning physically abusive. I finally didn't let his guilt trips keep me there. I moved into my own place. Then a week later I found out I'm pregnant hahahah oh Murphy's Law... You're a real ****. I'm sure Murphy knows my biggest fear in life is...
    itdoesntmatter99 itdoesntmatter99 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 3

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    Better Than Having No Job?

    What do you do when everyone at work, to varying degrees, is toxic? The environment is such that people scheme against each other, and you, every day? Back stab you. People regularly yell each and every day, Kick the career ladder out from under you in front of everybody with no...
    2Buddies 2Buddies 46-50, M 23 Responses Jun 16, 2011

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