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I Will Not Be Involved With Toxic People

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    I don't think they will leave us alone.

    They are jealous for themselves and their mum! And the husbands enjoy their visit. I had a boyfriend with three grown up daughters of his own, he adores them and obeys them out of guilt of having me after he divorced their mother. Whenever I told him about how bad they treated...
    pnina pnina 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    I just removed 5 toxic people from my life.

    They were manipulative, obsessive and just overall horrible people. Last night it was hard, but waking up this morning I've never felt better.
    Thatgirlanna Thatgirlanna 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am bold and strong enough now; to cut ties,

    to say goodbye, to walk without a single look behind,and not get getting hurt by it.. I am no longer tempted with the crowds as most crowds are toxic..
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 4 Responses Jun 4

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    lovelinessbathes lovelinessbathes 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    I Can't Do It

    I've had a very tough year.  In fact it's not exaggerating to say that it's been the toughest year I've ever had.  At this start of a new year I am having to gather all my energy and resolve together to make major changes in my life.  Friends who have followed my story will...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 7 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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    I am 55 years old and have 3 children with my

    ex-husband, from whom I have been divorced for 23 years. After we divorced,he tried to destroy me through my children, and he did a pretty pretty good job it. I always wanted to be good mother and he ruined that possibility for me. I think I did a decent job while the kids...
    lksummit lksummit 56-60, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Extract from the book by Ben Stein : How to

    ruin your life. TREAT THE PEOPLE WHO ARE BAD TO YOU WELL. That's right. They'll soon change and be really,really good to you. Maybe.But whether they do or not,lets be honest about this: Some weird urge in you tells you to knuckle under and treat the people who are bad to you...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 8 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    They are recognizable by manipulative,

    controlling, cunning, selfish and aggressive personality traits, especially when they have some sort of power over you that they abuse to exploit your "vulnerability" knowing perfectly well that you are dependent in certain ways upon the resources they own. They however hardly...
    serenity044 serenity044 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 9

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    Not for long. Unless they run everything.

    Then i just help victims cope. And hope for help back.
    Converted Converted 46-50, M Mar 23

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    No matter what they say,

    the story underneath it never changes.
    SilverSearching SilverSearching 31-35, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Success Defeating Behaviours.

    I came across a very interesting and enlightening little book.It has 35 chapters and they are as follow. 1) Don't learn any useful skills. 2) Don't learn any self discipline. 3) Never accept responsibility for anything that goes wrong. 4) Critisize early and often. 5) Never be...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 6 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    Negative people who try to tear me down will be

    deleted from my life and I will be happier.
    KiannaJ KiannaJ 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 13

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    They will steal your sanity,

    make your thoughts crazy, put thoughts there was not there before, and you do not know why they are there, they just begin to show up there......They make your world miserable, hard words, poor actions, carelessness.....They send your stress up, send you in depressions, soon you...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Willingness

    The VA taught me the true meaning of the word willingness; choice plus action. This lesson has caused me to understand what one can do if willing. I now call upon the wilingness of all Americans in order to save American jobs, our educational system, our children and...
    infpisme infpisme 46-50, M 11 Responses Nov 9, 2011

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    When you delete toxic people from your

    environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe. It the circumstances warrant it, leave thise people behind and move on when you must. Seriously, be strong and know when enough is enough! Letting go of toxic people don't mean you heat them, or that you wish them harm ; it simply...
    Zelaleme Zelaleme 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    I Said Goodbye To You Today

    Hey Beautiful. I know you didn't hear me, but I said goodbye to you today. I'm just so tired of trying to reach out to you. I'm tired of giving. I'm tired of your constant misunderstanding, and the stories you twist together in your head. I've grown so weary of your jealousy...
    cbrf3rider cbrf3rider 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    halohai halohai 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    I always seem to find people

    that use me. I'm a good listener and I draw people that need listening ears. The sad fact is that those people are commonly very selfish and have no idea how to return the favor. I listen and they hit on me when I'm in need. I listen and they bring all their kids over to my...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 2 Responses May 16

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    Hazardous People Can Pass Me By

    I'm have to deal with some very toxic people with my job. I'm a doctor that deals with some very mentally messed up people. In my private live, I refuse to be involved with toxic people. I have a very small circle of "friends" on EP which I screen carefully. I'm not here to find...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    Judged By The Company You Keep

    It doesn't take long to figure out the "Who's Who" on EP. When I feel wronged, I instinctively want to vindicate myself but why try? It just adds fuel to the fire. I refuse to participate in that crap. I know the truth and will not even try to prove it to anyone else.  Besides...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 14 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    I don't like to be around people

    who like to argue, or those that like to start conflicts for no reason. They get off on getting a reaction out of people and they don't see how insecure it makes them look.
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 16

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    Abusers are toxic. Abuse happens in many

    different forms. Emotional manipulation is one of the most destructive ways a person can be abusive towards you. It's hard to recognize unless you know what to look for. There are symptoms though. No one lives in a psychological war zone with someone who "loves" you and doesn...
    BijouBlue BijouBlue 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 26

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    I've been around toxic people all my life,

    my mom seems to have histrionic personality disorder, and I just recently realized that and that the people I've surrounded myself with are/were just like her. Emotionally abusive and psychologically destructive. Now I'm struggling to have friendships. I just moved in with a...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I've spent my whole life around people

    who are toxic. By toxic I don't just mean people who steal, hurt other people, or someone who has a bad attitude. I'm also talking about people with baggage. People that can never be happy, who has such a negative outlook on life that they are killjoys, and people who constantly...
    saeteurn saeteurn 22-25, M 3 Responses Jan 23

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    Where Do I Begin? This Pertains More To Endings.

    I entered this site when a close friend suggested I venture in and read a few stories posted by a couple my friend is very close to in real life. Their experiences reflected something I craved for myself. I came. I read. I have greatly enjoyed reading their stories and...
    sharonsub sharonsub 26-30, F 14 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Better Than Having No Job?

    What do you do when everyone at work, to varying degrees, is toxic? The environment is such that people scheme against each other, and you, every day? Back stab you. People regularly yell each and every day, Kick the career ladder out from under you in front of everybody with no...
    2Buddies 2Buddies 46-50, M 23 Responses Jun 16, 2011

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    Me No Like Bad Vibe People

    This story was 'assigned' to me in my Writer's Challenge thread.  So here we go. First of all, I have a strict practice to stay away from toxic people and can think of NO ONE in my real life that would fit this description.  It's easy to avoid them by just living my...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry 46-50, F 30 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    If you get involved with someone

    that has a bad attitude, a critical spirit, a judgemental demeanor, and a knack for seeing the negative..Be prepared for all of that to eventually be directed at you. Then get the hell out! Now I know how to spot toxic before it spots me! I hope..
    BijouBlue BijouBlue 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 22

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    DRAMA people I just want put up with.

    If you bring DRAMA with you I let them go. Specially family. I can't stand people that just keep screwing up and come whinnying to me. Hey then stop being stupid . Stop letting people screw you. Stop giving money to any one. You know they arent going to pay you back. So stop...
    jeankachew jeankachew 51-55, F 6 Responses Jan 23

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    Life is a lot better

    now that I have left my job. New management came in and felt they needed to revamp. We had a great team but slowly one by one, we all left. I was the last standing member who left. This narcissistic manager was Miss Martha Stewart in front of you but a back-stabber when you are...
    organizedmadness organizedmadness 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    I have to leave behind my "family"

    and "friends". Being is such a small town, they will make u feel as though you are better than everybody else for stuff people do everyday. Small Town gossip is a killer. I have to move or will become one of them. They are so toxic and it is spreading. It has gotten to the point...
    bigdreamssmalltown bigdreamssmalltown 31-35, F 2 Responses May 17

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    Removing a two toxic

    and dangerous friendships has made my life so much better. It has to be done sometimes. Not exactly fun but worth the discomfort in the long run.
    bluegreenseascape bluegreenseascape 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    i hate my mother in law.

    . she is so fake and a liar .. she only cares about herself and not her own flesh n blood .
    ritskixx ritskixx 36-40, F 1 Response May 24

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    Life is short and life can be hard.

    Toxic people make it a harder slog! I wont be around toxic people and neither should you. Surround yourself by like minded people, people who love you and care for you and your life will be better for it! Cut all negativity from you life and live the life that makes you...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    wonderingirl45 wonderingirl45 36-40, F Feb 2

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    nope. no. nunca. ---

    and you can tell.
    spinsterC spinsterC 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    I asked God to rid of all toxic people in my

    life and He heard my prayer. Last year, my so called best friend and I stopped talking. I did my best to bridge the gap, but the rift was so great that it failed. My other friends have been telling me too that she had been speaking maliciously about me. It's so disappointing...
    krimsonlove krimsonlove 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    A Waste Of Time

    Why should I waste my time with nasty, toxic people when there are so many nice people to get to know?  Life is too short for me to want to be involved with toxic people.  Unfortunately there are some in close circles anyway that I can't do anything about.  I just...
    gman1023 gman1023 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2010

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    Unfortunately I come from a very abusive family

    and as the oldest of 3 girls I was always targeted for emotional, physical, and even spiritual abuse. I felt obligated to continue having a relationship with my toxic mother and toxic sister but recently decided I just can't do it any more. I feel better but a little sad at the...
    marijoy77 marijoy77 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 14

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    I'M Sorry But You And Your Dark Cloud Can Go As Far Away From Me As Possible

    I am already a person who struggles with her own inner negativity. I will no longer allow someone to rain on me, all over my hope. I was with a guy who was too broken to have ever been a good mate for me, he was dark and told me he was (as in mind and spirit). I accepted him but...
    JasmineLove45 JasmineLove45 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    I will of course always listen

    and try to help but I really dislike drama and people who cause it. There's always drama going on with the women at work. I try my best to avoid it of course but it seems like everyone is always dragged into their drama by having to listen to their conversations to actually...
    Plungeintoadream Plungeintoadream 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 1, 2014

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    What Or Who Is A Toxic Person?

    This is an essentially subjective criteria.  A toxic person in one relationship may be a friend in another . . .  Each person is perceived differently by each other person.  There can be no ONE set of criteria for defining a "toxic person". For me, the following...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    I Will Not Tolerate Toxic People In My Life

    I will not tolerate toxic people in my life. My definition of a toxic person is someone very negative, argumentative, deliberately seeking to be in an opposing or combative situation. I see no point in incorporating this type of individual into my life in any shape or form. My...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 3 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    Enough

    I've had enough of them thrust upon me in my family and work situations. So I will not let such people through the gates of my personal life.  That would be my own fault, wouldn't it.  I believe in vampires because there are just some people who suck your soul out slowly.  I...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 14 Responses