I Will Not Be Involved With Toxic People

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    nope. no. nunca. ---

    and you can tell.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 30, 2015

    Because there are no toxic people.

    I would never claim anyone is toxic. It's not even a real thing! People have different disabilities and disorders, personalities or lack there of, even brain damage or no conscience rarely. They can't hurt you, poison you. Except if they are physically violent. As far as the...
    stufy stufy
    51-55
    3 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    I had this friend, F.

    We went to school together and hung out in the same group. Then most of us went our separate ways, most of them continuing their education overseas. But we still kept in touch (through the wonders of internet) and whenever anyone of them were back home, we'd get together and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 12, 2015

    Compassionate people,

    have a hard time, sometimes, saying no to toxic people. They want to help, they care. The problem is toxic people only care about themselves and their own problems. They are not interested in you as a person, but only how you can serve them. I have had to get rid of a toxic...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Nov 22, 2015

    Where Do I Begin? This Pertains More To Endings.

    I entered this site when a close friend suggested I venture in and read a few stories posted by a couple my friend is very close to in real life. Their experiences reflected something I craved for myself. I came. I read. I have greatly enjoyed reading their stories and...
    sharonsub sharonsub
    26-30, F
    13 Responses Aug 18, 2013

    What Or Who Is A Toxic Person?

    This is an essentially subjective criteria.  A toxic person in one relationship may be a friend in another . . .  Each person is perceived differently by each other person.  There can be no ONE set of criteria for defining a "toxic person". For me, the following...
    enna30 enna30
    56-60, F
    9 Responses Sep 20, 2010

    I Will Not Tolerate Toxic People In My Life

    I will not tolerate toxic people in my life. My definition of a toxic person is someone very negative, argumentative, deliberately seeking to be in an opposing or combative situation. I see no point in incorporating this type of individual into my life in any shape or form. My...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Jun 29, 2013

    I have cut myself off from my immediate family

    this year. ( mother, father, brother) I have good and bad spells. Does it get easier? I feel like I'm grieving but they are all still alive. I am working on myself and I speak with a therapist once a month. She says there are many people that cut their families off BUT I...
    Beachstacy Beachstacy
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 31, 2015

    Extract from the book by Ben Stein : How to

    ruin your life. TREAT THE PEOPLE WHO ARE BAD TO YOU WELL. That's right. They'll soon change and be really,really good to you. Maybe.But whether they do or not,lets be honest about this: Some weird urge in you tells you to knuckle under and treat the people who are bad to you...
    berangere berangere
    66-70, F
    6 Responses Nov 12, 2014

    You ruined so much for me,

    and I was only trying to help you. But you're a selfish, self-righteous, know-it-all who think of no one but yourself, and when you don't get what you want, you get angry at the people you feel owe you, just because they had the misfortune of crossing your path at one time, now...
    maybemaybenotwhat maybemaybenotwhat
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 27, 2015

    Exactly. This is my resolve.

    I've stopped giving toxic people any power in my life. What irks me though is they don't care. They STILL think they are better than me. Shudder. It's just so sickening!
    QuestionMarks QuestionMarks
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2015

    Judged By The Company You Keep

    It doesn't take long to figure out the "Who's Who" on EP. When I feel wronged, I instinctively want to vindicate myself but why try? It just adds fuel to the fire. I refuse to participate in that crap. I know the truth and will not even try to prove it to anyone else.  Besides...
    akindheart akindheart
    56-60, F
    12 Responses Jun 3, 2013
    CODECRACKER2014 CODECRACKER2014
    41-45, M
    Feb 16
    lovelinessbathes lovelinessbathes
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 10, 2015

    Willingness

    The VA taught me the true meaning of the word willingness; choice plus action. This lesson has caused me to understand what one can do if willing. I now call upon the wilingness of all Americans in order to save American jobs, our educational system, our children and...
    infpisme infpisme
    46-50, M
    11 Responses Nov 9, 2011

    Abusers are toxic. Abuse happens in many

    different forms. Emotional manipulation is one of the most destructive ways a person can be abusive towards you. It's hard to recognize unless you know what to look for. There are symptoms though. No one lives in a psychological war zone with someone who "loves" you and doesn...
    BijouBlue BijouBlue
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Feb 26, 2015

    I won't get hurt again

    if I can help it. I only want people in my life who will make me feel better, not worse.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Nov 23, 2015

    I Can't Do It

    I've had a very tough year.  In fact it's not exaggerating to say that it's been the toughest year I've ever had.  At this start of a new year I am having to gather all my energy and resolve together to make major changes in my life.  Friends who have followed my story will...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Jan 4, 2012

    I do not do drugs or alcohol.

    I don't and won't put up with the drama that comes with it. I seen it destroy a family 1st hand and I lost love ones to overdoses. Life is too short to waste my time partying.
    Tigerrascal Tigerrascal
    51-55, F
    Apr 21

    Life is short and life can be hard.

    Toxic people make it a harder slog! I wont be around toxic people and neither should you. Surround yourself by like minded people, people who love you and care for you and your life will be better for it! Cut all negativity from you life and live the life that makes you...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Dec 25, 2014

    I am so tired of attracting,

    narcissistic, self-involved friends. are there any normal people anymore?
    myjason myjason
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Feb 6

    DRAMA people I just want put up with.

    If you bring DRAMA with you I let them go. Specially family. I can't stand people that just keep screwing up and come whinnying to me. Hey then stop being stupid . Stop letting people screw you. Stop giving money to any one. You know they arent going to pay you back. So stop...
    jeankachew jeankachew
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Jan 23, 2015

    If you get involved with someone

    that has a bad attitude, a critical spirit, a judgemental demeanor, and a knack for seeing the negative..Be prepared for all of that to eventually be directed at you. Then get the hell out! Now I know how to spot toxic before it spots me! I hope..
    BijouBlue BijouBlue
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Jan 22, 2015

    Unfortunately I come from a very abusive family

    and as the oldest of 3 girls I was always targeted for emotional, physical, and even spiritual abuse. I felt obligated to continue having a relationship with my toxic mother and toxic sister but recently decided I just can't do it any more. I feel better but a little sad at the...
    marijoy77 marijoy77
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jul 14, 2015

    Always be on guard against sarcastic comments

    which stings and wounds others. Some people think its harmless but that stuff is poisonous.
    toreffects toreffects
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Feb 23

    You know I used to know this; i would seriously

    get aggressive if people treated my family, friendsand myself. But after my divorce; I guess I was trying to repair a relation that tragically ended, and would not be fixed. I have always tried to accept people and their frailties, but there are just some people who will say or...
    druidmaster druidmaster
    56-60, M
    Oct 10, 2015

    Bla.. Bahhumbug If only we could escape

    ourselves sometimes.. Sigh
    PastelLime PastelLime
    31-35
    2 Responses Dec 24, 2015

    Spent so much time being involved with them that

    even I have finally learned my lesson.
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Nov 22, 2015

    Removing a two toxic

    and dangerous friendships has made my life so much better. It has to be done sometimes. Not exactly fun but worth the discomfort in the long run.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 3, 2015

    I think I've had enough of people

    who can't seem to move on from their past. They are comfortable attacking people for their past hurts even though they were not even in their past...I asked "what does that have to do with me?" So , I'm cutting the cords and I'm not turning back.
    toreffects toreffects
    31-35, M
    Nov 23, 2015

    I just removed 5 toxic people from my life.

    They were manipulative, obsessive and just overall horrible people. Last night it was hard, but waking up this morning I've never felt better.
    Thatgirlanna Thatgirlanna
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 7, 2015

    Better Than Having No Job?

    What do you do when everyone at work, to varying degrees, is toxic? The environment is such that people scheme against each other, and you, every day? Back stab you. People regularly yell each and every day, Kick the career ladder out from under you in front of everybody with no...
    2Buddies 2Buddies
    46-50, M
    23 Responses Jun 16, 2011

    Enough

    I've had enough of them thrust upon me in my family and work situations. So I will not let such people through the gates of my personal life.  That would be my own fault, wouldn't it.  I believe in vampires because there are just some people who suck your soul out slowly.  I...
    holloway64 holloway64
    46-50, M
    13 Responses Dec 12, 2012

    Characteristics Of A Toxic Relationship And More

    I have had toxic relationships and they were not pretty. I found some helpful things for people who are going through nasty relationships with people who are toxic. It took me a while to realize that they were but, it came to light.The Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship are...
    FreshBeginning FreshBeginning
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Oct 17, 2011

    A Waste Of Time

    Why should I waste my time with nasty, toxic people when there are so many nice people to get to know?  Life is too short for me to want to be involved with toxic people.  Unfortunately there are some in close circles anyway that I can't do anything about.  I just...
    gman1023 gman1023
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2010

    Just because you're my sister doesn't mean I

    have to put up with your negativity. I love you, I don't like you though. Negativity breeds negativity and when I'm around you, you bring me down. You want me in your life, on YOUR terms. I'm sorry that you are pissed at me because I couldn't make time for you when my son...
    Arubaskies Arubaskies
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 10

    It's difficult to leave the person behind,

    especially when you care for them. But if the relationship is toxic, it needs to be done. I'm having a hard time with this.
    Salamander2 Salamander2
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 14

    Me No Like Bad Vibe People

    This story was 'assigned' to me in my Writer's Challenge thread.  So here we go. First of all, I have a strict practice to stay away from toxic people and can think of NO ONE in my real life that would fit this description.  It's easy to avoid them by just living my...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry
    46-50, F
    30 Responses Sep 27, 2009

    I hold on to people way too long Being an

    adopted child I value people way more than they value me. Sometimes you just have to walk away.
    chastewhisperer chastewhisperer
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 11

    I Said Goodbye To You Today

    Hey Beautiful. I know you didn't hear me, but I said goodbye to you today. I'm just so tired of trying to reach out to you. I'm tired of giving. I'm tired of your constant misunderstanding, and the stories you twist together in your head. I've grown so weary of your jealousy...
    cbrf3rider cbrf3rider
    41-45, M
    1 Response Oct 7, 2013

    I am working on not absorbing other peoples

    negative energy. In order to do that I need to really know myself and be at peace with who my true self is. once I fully understand there will be no need to not be involved or to cut people off there will be a level of understanding and a level of empathy without sympathy.
    sleepingbeauty667 sleepingbeauty667
    36-40, F
    Jan 9

    I guess i have to shut mysef from my toxic self.

    LOL. i hate my self thinking that i am mad at something. *sigh*
    noxicillin noxicillin
    26-30, F
    Nov 23, 2015

    Most of the time, the toxic people will be the

    ones who are closer to you. Their dramas pulling you deep in their webs of miseries that the only way to stop from being emotionally unstable is to say NO. Been in that menagerie for several weeks. Have to take a different path. The tragic thing is that this person have...
    hawksnravens hawksnravens
    41-45, F
    Mar 22

    No matter what they say,

    the story underneath it never changes.
    SilverSearching SilverSearching
    31-35, M
    Aug 29, 2015
    CODECRACKER2014 CODECRACKER2014
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Feb 4

    An ex of mine is extremely toxic.

    He's like an out of control storm. He's had a rather disturbing childhood I guess, but he lashes he pain on others. I've had to completely distance myself from him because he's always doing something that just really hurts. He's made me feel pain I've never understood you could...
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jul 21, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 25, 2013

    I'm finding it hard to describe the people I'm

    with. I've come on holiday with a work friend and his brother and it's almost like we are from different planets. My soul bounces off the flow, energy and simplicity of others, humble folk. It currently seems everything is a drama. I can't comprehend negativity. My heart...
    TrySN TrySN
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 30

    Success Defeating Behaviours.

    I came across a very interesting and enlightening little book.It has 35 chapters and they are as follow. 1) Don't learn any useful skills. 2) Don't learn any self discipline. 3) Never accept responsibility for anything that goes wrong. 4) Critisize early and often. 5) Never be...
    berangere berangere
    66-70, F
    6 Responses Oct 24, 2013

    Hazardous People Can Pass Me By

    I'm have to deal with some very toxic people with my job. I'm a doctor that deals with some very mentally messed up people. In my private live, I refuse to be involved with toxic people. I have a very small circle of "friends" on EP which I screen carefully. I'm not here to find...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    18-21, M
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    Apr 21
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    18-21, F
    Apr 21
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    22-25, M
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    18-21, M
    4 Responses Apr 20
    I never thought of it as an affair..... It started here, on EP, with a reply to her story about the Status Quo. She was involved with a man on-line, but it wasn't fulfilling, it...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Apr 20
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