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I Will Not Be Involved With Toxic People

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    I will only surround myself with genuine people.

    I want positive influences and role models, especially for my son. I don't care if you ***** and gossip about me. I'm not a people pleaser. I'm not going to put up an appearance for societies sake. If i don't like you, then I chose not to engage with you. Respect my boundaries...
    GroundedButterfly81 GroundedButterfly81 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    How Do I Know If I Am A Toxic Person?

    I've been a big ball of negativity ever since my wife left me early on during this deployment. On top of losing the one friend I had here because she was killed during an attack at her gaurd post, I've been struggling to say anything positive and I battle...
    AbandonedArchangel AbandonedArchangel 26-30, M 9 Responses Jun 21, 2010

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    Here I Go Again!!

    I have had this girl repeatedly show up in my life over the years. I have never had anyone do this to me. She stalked me and threated harm to me and my family. I moved to get away from her and her toxic behaviors. I once had a relationship with her.....but, I realized that she...
    picgirl picgirl 31-35, F 27 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    Its A Rule Of Thumb For Me!

    I enjoy my life and I value my goals and feelings, so I have this rule.I will not have toxic people in my life or deal with them online.If you have to control people in your life or manipulate them, you might be a toxic person.If you lie back-stab or hide items or facts from the...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    You don’t ever have to feel guilty about

    removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing...
    ReligiouslyLusty ReligiouslyLusty 31-35 1 Response May 6

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    Willingness

    The VA taught me the true meaning of the word willingness; choice plus action. This lesson has caused me to understand what one can do if willing. I now call upon the wilingness of all Americans in order to save American jobs, our educational system, our children and...
    infpisme infpisme 46-50, M 11 Responses Nov 9, 2011

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    Toxic

    I have had alot of toxic people come and go out of my life. They have too much negativity to pour out on people. I am a person that gives people the benefit of the doubt....but then....when everything is all said and done....you wrong me...thats it!! Ive learned the hard way too...
    picgirl picgirl 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    They Are Dementors

    Toxic people get their strength from making other people miserable. It is as if the unhappiness of the person they are cornering drives their lives and energizes them. They possibly get their sense of worth or superiority by making other people feel worthless. They are like...
    heiwa heiwa 22-25, F 9 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    I walk away from those type of ppl,

    they are always the ones making trouble for others trying to better their lives!! Don't have time for that!! I'm a good person, but a good person can only take so much before you are just done!! There has been one person in my life consistently that I have forgiven many times...
    Lilmomma1617 Lilmomma1617 31-35, F May 4

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    Characteristics Of A Toxic Relationship And More

    I have had toxic relationships and they were not pretty. I found some helpful things for people who are going through nasty relationships with people who are toxic. It took me a while to realize that they were but, it came to light.The Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship are...
    FreshBeginning FreshBeginning 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 17, 2011

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    I Said Goodbye To You Today

    Hey Beautiful. I know you didn't hear me, but I said goodbye to you today. I'm just so tired of trying to reach out to you. I'm tired of giving. I'm tired of your constant misunderstanding, and the stories you twist together in your head. I've grown so weary of your jealousy...
    cbrf3rider cbrf3rider 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    Success Defeating Behaviours.

    I came across a very interesting and enlightening little book.It has 35 chapters and they are as follow. 1) Don't learn any useful skills. 2) Don't learn any self discipline. 3) Never accept responsibility for anything that goes wrong. 4) Critisize early and often. 5) Never be...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 10 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    This is something I feel really strongly about.

    As someone who has had quite a few toxic people in my past, I now realise that that negativity is the worst possible thing you can invite into your life. Seriously. This is not me condemning 'toxic' people - just because people are bad FOR YOU does not necessarily make them bad...
    headversusheart headversusheart 22-25, F 3 Responses May 4

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    I Will Not Tolerate Toxic People In My Life

    I will not tolerate toxic people in my life. My definition of a toxic person is someone very negative, argumentative, deliberately seeking to be in an opposing or combative situation. I see no point in incorporating this type of individual into my life in any shape or form. My...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 6 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    Ah The Toxic Ones!!

    Yes it would be a perfect world if we didn't have to involve ourselves with toxic people. The unfortunate of this is we do have to face them from time to time. A work environment can involve toxic people. We have to learn to keep a shield up. The more unfortunate is being...
    aradia11 aradia11 51-55, F Jul 7, 2013

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    Me No Like Bad Vibe People

    This story was 'assigned' to me in my Writer's Challenge thread.  So here we go. First of all, I have a strict practice to stay away from toxic people and can think of NO ONE in my real life that would fit this description.  It's easy to avoid them by just living my...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry 46-50, F 30 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    I decided to end my 32 year friendship with my

    best friend because of her toxic relationship with her scumbag boyfriend. It was so toxic, it made our friendship toxic. Couldn't take anymore and on Father's Day, I very nicely asked her not to contact me anymore - for anything. She only called me when she needed something...
    AgoraPhobicsince1990 AgoraPhobicsince1990 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    Better Than Having No Job?

    What do you do when everyone at work, to varying degrees, is toxic? The environment is such that people scheme against each other, and you, every day? Back stab you. People regularly yell each and every day, Kick the career ladder out from under you in front of everybody with no...
    2Buddies 2Buddies 46-50, M 23 Responses Jun 16, 2011

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    You don’t ever have to feel guilty about

    removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing if a person owns...
    Ally95xx Ally95xx 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4

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    Toxic Family

    My family is toxic, they are cruel and negative people, and I no longer have place for them in my life,Ever since I can remember, my only dream was getting out of there. Then I did. I met someone who took me away from all of that. But I was not rid of them yet. It took me over...
    Lullacus Lullacus 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2013

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    I am a college student

    and have been exposed to a lot of bad influences, I've met and hung around with these people and only live now to regret it. Luckily I had the mentality to realize these toxic influences and correct myself. A shout out to all those like me, have fun but pay close attention to...
    Life1sinteresting Life1sinteresting 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 18

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    True Colors

    I like people, I do! But some are just out for themselves. There is of course a reason why they are, but regardless, they are greedy, manipulative, scandalous, judgmental jerks. I don't like snooty, or rude. Gossiping is such a turnoff. For example: when I first met my husband's...
    sizzzlin69 sizzzlin69 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 22, 2013

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    I Can't Do It

    I've had a very tough year.  In fact it's not exaggerating to say that it's been the toughest year I've ever had.  At this start of a new year I am having to gather all my energy and resolve together to make major changes in my life.  Friends who have followed my story will...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 7 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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    Help! My Cousin Is Clingy.

    I love my cuz, but she is extremely needy and clingy. If i don't call her every day she starts complaining that no one cares about her. She will say annoying things like hi stranger! Then I have to explain why I haven't called or answered her call. She is very cheap with money...
    trbmom trbmom 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2013

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    Zero Tolerance

    I'm currently in a state of having Zero Tolerance for anything or anyone negative in my life. I've learned that you can't change a person. After many disappointments & betrayal from family, close friends & relationships my guards are up. Im no longer surprised when someone shows...
    tessakitty tessakitty 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2013

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    Reality Check...

    Well we cannot help to be involved with toxic people because the universe is just a very small place teeming with dissimilar personalities. More often than not, we interact with some of them in our households and workplace. Sometimes, they are those who are close to us but we...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    Judged By The Company You Keep

    It doesn't take long to figure out the "Who's Who" on EP. When I feel wronged, I instinctively want to vindicate myself but why try? It just adds fuel to the fire. I refuse to participate in that crap. I know the truth and will not even try to prove it to anyone else.  Besides...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 14 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    Enough

    I've had enough of them thrust upon me in my family and work situations. So I will not let such people through the gates of my personal life.  That would be my own fault, wouldn't it.  I believe in vampires because there are just some people who suck your soul out slowly.  I...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 16 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    What Or Who Is A Toxic Person?

    This is an essentially subjective criteria.  A toxic person in one relationship may be a friend in another . . .  Each person is perceived differently by each other person.  There can be no ONE set of criteria for defining a "toxic person". For me, the following...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    A Lifelong Lesson

    When I was younger, with more tolerance and naivety, I would let marginally bizarre people into my life for entertainment value, if nothing else. Often, we became long-term friends.  This is a tribute to my better judgment and their integrity. But, a few were so toxic, I still...
    angsty angsty 61-65, F 5 Responses Apr 7, 2013

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    A Waste Of Time

    Why should I waste my time with nasty, toxic people when there are so many nice people to get to know?  Life is too short for me to want to be involved with toxic people.  Unfortunately there are some in close circles anyway that I can't do anything about.  I just...
    gman1023 gman1023 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2010

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    I Am Not Damaging My Health

    I am at the age where I am living for myself and no one else. Screw what other people think, if I think you are a bad person I will cut you off as soon as possible. I am not wasting my time any more.
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    Sometimes if you don't want to involve with

    toxic people you must have this unpleasant experience that happen to me once a will at first i got angry now i don't give a ****,let them be as toxic as they want to be we never going to be friends.
    blackweirdcat blackweirdcat 46-50, F Dec 8, 2013

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    Healing

    After a lot of years, I finally realized the true reason I needed all this extra padding.     I'm thin-skinned, very thin-skinned.   This is not to be confused with my pale skin as I am very fair as well.I have had many toxic people in my life.    Most of them were...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 8, 2011

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    Malevolent

    I think there is a point when we realize that we are enablers to the people who cause stress in our lives. I used to believe that I was very mature in my dealings with these individuals, but unfortunately I was merely helping them in achieving their self-destructive endeavors, by...
    thejoneses thejoneses 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    I Refuse to Be

    In the past, I have had people around me who were the human equivalent of drinking cyanide. Now I just can't even bear to have toxic people near me. Even if at first I don't think a person is toxic, and then I slowly start to see them for who they really are, the moment I feel...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    I wish to live by this

    for the rest of my life. Stress has killed many people, and all these bad people stress me out a lot. I just don't need it. I may be stuck with a few toxic people (family mainly), but I'm not going to let them bother me. And once I'm free, none of them will ever be a problem for...
    Kairisheartless Kairisheartless 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    My "sick" Friend

    This is one of the very best things about getting a little older. Somewhere along the path of life, I miraculously realized that I am in total control over my choices of the people in which I choose to share my life with. There was (yes WAS) this one friend that was constantly...
    hillbillycrone hillbillycrone 51-55, F 5 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Can Toxic People Control Themselves?

    Sometimes, I ask myself if the toxic people can truly control themselves, because they appear to have a difficulty with that... And I wonder why they do it, why they release all of their anger recklessly, why they don't care if they hurt you with what they say, and why can't they...
    Melybird Melybird 26-30 2 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    The1960texan The1960texan 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    Hazardous People Can Pass Me By

    I'm have to deal with some very toxic people with my job. I'm a doctor that deals with some very mentally messed up people. In my private live, I refuse to be involved with toxic people. I have a very small circle of "friends" on EP which I screen carefully. I'm not here to find...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    Forrest Church, Unitarian mister,

    once said: Choose your enemies wisely because you tend to become more like them. So if you don't like toxic people, don't become one. You won't know it when you do it, but other people will let you know.
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 14

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    I'M Sorry But You And Your Dark Cloud Can Go As Far Away From Me As Possible

    I am already a person who struggles with her own inner negativity. I will no longer allow someone to rain on me, all over my hope. I was with a guy who was too broken to have ever been a good mate for me, he was dark and told me he was (as in mind and spirit). I accepted him but...
    JasmineLove45 JasmineLove45 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    Live and Learn.

    in my old age (ahem!) i simply don't have the emotional energy to maintain relationships with these people. i used to be able to, but at some point a few years ago i had to draw the line for my own mental and physical well-being. real friends don't make you miserable. live and...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2008

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    Maybe it's a pretentious attitude

    but anytime I notice that someone is just 'bad' to be around; there's nothing that's going to keep me around them. It's not a vendetta but I make it a goal to not be involved with toxic people. If someone is detrimental to my life or the people I care About, I will not be...
    misternobrain misternobrain 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 9

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    The Other Side (amended)

    I am paranoid of BEING the toxic person that gets shunned .... even if I make corrections though, I guess it is potentially out of my hands (which I'm not saying as an excuse). I don't claim to be perfect, and I always seek to improve myself so that I can be better to those I...
    AldousHuxtable AldousHuxtable 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 15, 2013

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    Where Do I Begin? This Pertains More To Endings.

    I entered this site when a close friend suggested I venture in and read a few stories posted by a couple my friend is very close to in real life. Their experiences reflected something I craved for myself. I came. I read. I have greatly enjoyed reading their stories and...
    sharonsub sharonsub 26-30, F 16 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    How To Deal With Selfish And Manipulative People

    We all meet them at some stage
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 3 Responses Oct 10, 2013

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    "sometimes Family Is The Toxic People"

    God has truly blessed me to make it to a milestone turning point in my life, and I finally see who the toxic people were in my life. I felt obligated to keep certain people in my life because of who they were and what they was suppose to mean to me, but once I accepted the fact...
    Autum2013 Autum2013 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Because I have struggled with depression, anxiety, stress, marriage issues, I have a strong B.S. tolerance. I'm pretty darn proud of it. However, there comes a point, when I can...
    Musicalangel13 Musicalangel13 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I was involved with the mother of a friend of mine. He never found out. It was very complicated because she became a widow suddenly. It was all very tragic. I know that it...
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