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I Will Not Be Involved With Toxic People

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    Success Defeating Behaviours.

    I came across a very interesting and enlightening little book.It has 35 chapters and they are as follow. 1) Don't learn any useful skills. 2) Don't learn any self discipline. 3) Never accept responsibility for anything that goes wrong. 4) Critisize early and often. 5) Never be...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 6 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    Compassionate people,

    have a hard time, sometimes, saying no to toxic people. They want to help, they care. The problem is toxic people only care about themselves and their own problems. They are not interested in you as a person, but only how you can serve them. I have had to get rid of a toxic...
    justmerae1 justmerae1 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 22, 2015

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    Characteristics Of A Toxic Relationship And More

    I have had toxic relationships and they were not pretty. I found some helpful things for people who are going through nasty relationships with people who are toxic. It took me a while to realize that they were but, it came to light.The Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship are...
    FreshBeginning FreshBeginning 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 17, 2011

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    Life is short and life can be hard.

    Toxic people make it a harder slog! I wont be around toxic people and neither should you. Surround yourself by like minded people, people who love you and care for you and your life will be better for it! Cut all negativity from you life and live the life that makes you...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 31-35, M 3 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    You ruined so much for me,

    and I was only trying to help you. But you're a selfish, self-righteous, know-it-all who think of no one but yourself, and when you don't get what you want, you get angry at the people you feel owe you, just because they had the misfortune of crossing your path at one time, now...
    maybemaybenotwhat maybemaybenotwhat 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    Bla.. Bahhumbug If only we could escape

    ourselves sometimes.. Sigh
    PastelLime PastelLime 31-35 2 Responses Dec 24, 2015

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    I have cut myself off from my immediate family

    this year. ( mother, father, brother) I have good and bad spells. Does it get easier? I feel like I'm grieving but they are all still alive. I am working on myself and I speak with a therapist once a month. She says there are many people that cut their families off BUT I...
    Beachstacy Beachstacy 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2015

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    Abusers are toxic. Abuse happens in many

    different forms. Emotional manipulation is one of the most destructive ways a person can be abusive towards you. It's hard to recognize unless you know what to look for. There are symptoms though. No one lives in a psychological war zone with someone who "loves" you and doesn...
    BijouBlue BijouBlue 36-40, F 7 Responses Feb 26, 2015

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    I think I've had enough of people

    who can't seem to move on from their past. They are comfortable attacking people for their past hurts even though they were not even in their past...I asked "what does that have to do with me?" So , I'm cutting the cords and I'm not turning back.
    toreffects toreffects 31-35, M Nov 23, 2015

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    They are recognizable by manipulative,

    controlling, cunning, selfish and aggressive personality traits, especially when they have some sort of power over you that they abuse to exploit your "vulnerability" knowing perfectly well that you are dependent in certain ways upon the resources they own. They however hardly...
    consciousness811 consciousness811 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 9, 2015

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    If you get involved with someone

    that has a bad attitude, a critical spirit, a judgemental demeanor, and a knack for seeing the negative..Be prepared for all of that to eventually be directed at you. Then get the hell out! Now I know how to spot toxic before it spots me! I hope..
    BijouBlue BijouBlue 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 22, 2015

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    Judged By The Company You Keep

    It doesn't take long to figure out the "Who's Who" on EP. When I feel wronged, I instinctively want to vindicate myself but why try? It just adds fuel to the fire. I refuse to participate in that crap. I know the truth and will not even try to prove it to anyone else.  Besides...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 13 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    I have to leave behind my "family"

    and "friends". Being is such a small town, they will make u feel as though you are better than everybody else for stuff people do everyday. Small Town gossip is a killer. I have to move or will become one of them. They are so toxic and it is spreading. It has gotten to the point...
    bigdreamssmalltown bigdreamssmalltown 31-35, F 2 Responses May 17, 2015

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    I hold on to people way too long Being an

    adopted child I value people way more than they value me. Sometimes you just have to walk away.
    chastewhisperer chastewhisperer 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I Said Goodbye To You Today

    Hey Beautiful. I know you didn't hear me, but I said goodbye to you today. I'm just so tired of trying to reach out to you. I'm tired of giving. I'm tired of your constant misunderstanding, and the stories you twist together in your head. I've grown so weary of your jealousy...
    cbrf3rider cbrf3rider 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    i hate my mother in law.

    . she is so fake and a liar .. she only cares about herself and not her own flesh n blood .
    ritskixx ritskixx 36-40, F May 24, 2015

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    I guess i have to shut mysef from my toxic self.

    LOL. i hate my self thinking that i am mad at something. *sigh*
    noxicillin noxicillin 26-30, F Nov 23, 2015

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    No matter what they say,

    the story underneath it never changes.
    SilverSearching SilverSearching 31-35, M Aug 29, 2015

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    Unfortunately I come from a very abusive family

    and as the oldest of 3 girls I was always targeted for emotional, physical, and even spiritual abuse. I felt obligated to continue having a relationship with my toxic mother and toxic sister but recently decided I just can't do it any more. I feel better but a little sad at the...
    marijoy77 marijoy77 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 14, 2015

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    Exactly. This is my resolve.

    I've stopped giving toxic people any power in my life. What irks me though is they don't care. They STILL think they are better than me. Shudder. It's just so sickening!
    QuestionMarks QuestionMarks 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 22, 2015

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    I am so tired of attracting,

    narcissistic, self-involved friends. are there any normal people anymore?
    myjason myjason 41-45, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    Where Do I Begin? This Pertains More To Endings.

    I entered this site when a close friend suggested I venture in and read a few stories posted by a couple my friend is very close to in real life. Their experiences reflected something I craved for myself. I came. I read. I have greatly enjoyed reading their stories and...
    sharonsub sharonsub 26-30, F 14 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Me No Like Bad Vibe People

    This story was 'assigned' to me in my Writer's Challenge thread.  So here we go. First of all, I have a strict practice to stay away from toxic people and can think of NO ONE in my real life that would fit this description.  It's easy to avoid them by just living my...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry 46-50, F 30 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    I just removed 5 toxic people from my life.

    They were manipulative, obsessive and just overall horrible people. Last night it was hard, but waking up this morning I've never felt better.
    Thatgirlanna Thatgirlanna 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 7, 2015

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    I Will Not Tolerate Toxic People In My Life

    I will not tolerate toxic people in my life. My definition of a toxic person is someone very negative, argumentative, deliberately seeking to be in an opposing or combative situation. I see no point in incorporating this type of individual into my life in any shape or form. My...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 3 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    I won't get hurt again

    if I can help it. I only want people in my life who will make me feel better, not worse.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 23, 2015

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    I am bold and strong enough now; to cut ties,

    to say goodbye, to walk without a single look behind,and not get getting hurt by it.. I am no longer tempted with the crowds as most crowds are toxic..
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 4 Responses Jun 4, 2015

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 31, 2015

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    A Waste Of Time

    Why should I waste my time with nasty, toxic people when there are so many nice people to get to know?  Life is too short for me to want to be involved with toxic people.  Unfortunately there are some in close circles anyway that I can't do anything about.  I just...
    gman1023 gman1023 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2010

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    I am working on not absorbing other peoples

    negative energy. In order to do that I need to really know myself and be at peace with who my true self is. once I fully understand there will be no need to not be involved or to cut people off there will be a level of understanding and a level of empathy without sympathy.
    sleepingbeauty667 sleepingbeauty667 31-35, F Jan 9

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    Spent so much time being involved with them that

    even I have finally learned my lesson.
    savoy2 savoy2 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 22, 2015

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    DRAMA people I just want put up with.

    If you bring DRAMA with you I let them go. Specially family. I can't stand people that just keep screwing up and come whinnying to me. Hey then stop being stupid . Stop letting people screw you. Stop giving money to any one. You know they arent going to pay you back. So stop...
    jeankachew jeankachew 51-55, F 5 Responses Jan 23, 2015

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    Enough

    I've had enough of them thrust upon me in my family and work situations. So I will not let such people through the gates of my personal life.  That would be my own fault, wouldn't it.  I believe in vampires because there are just some people who suck your soul out slowly.  I...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 13 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    Removing a two toxic

    and dangerous friendships has made my life so much better. It has to be done sometimes. Not exactly fun but worth the discomfort in the long run.
    warmways warmways 46-50, F Sep 3, 2015

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    Just because you're my sister doesn't mean I

    have to put up with your negativity. I love you, I don't like you though. Negativity breeds negativity and when I'm around you, you bring me down. You want me in your life, on YOUR terms. I'm sorry that you are pissed at me because I couldn't make time for you when my son...
    Arubaskies Arubaskies 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    An ex of mine is extremely toxic.

    He's like an out of control storm. He's had a rather disturbing childhood I guess, but he lashes he pain on others. I've had to completely distance myself from him because he's always doing something that just really hurts. He's made me feel pain I've never understood you could...
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 21, 2015

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    I had this friend, F.

    We went to school together and hung out in the same group. Then most of us went our separate ways, most of them continuing their education overseas. But we still kept in touch (through the wonders of internet) and whenever anyone of them were back home, we'd get together and...
    sophiebelle27 sophiebelle27 26-30, F Sep 12, 2015

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    Negative people who try to tear me down will be

    deleted from my life and I will be happier.
    KiannaJ KiannaJ 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 13, 2015

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    What Or Who Is A Toxic Person?

    This is an essentially subjective criteria.  A toxic person in one relationship may be a friend in another . . .  Each person is perceived differently by each other person.  There can be no ONE set of criteria for defining a "toxic person". For me, the following...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    Extract from the book by Ben Stein : How to

    ruin your life. TREAT THE PEOPLE WHO ARE BAD TO YOU WELL. That's right. They'll soon change and be really,really good to you. Maybe.But whether they do or not,lets be honest about this: Some weird urge in you tells you to knuckle under and treat the people who are bad to you...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 8 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Because there are no toxic people.

    I would never claim anyone is toxic. It's not even a real thing! People have different disabilities and disorders, personalities or lack there of, even brain damage or no conscience rarely. They can't hurt you, poison you. Except if they are physically violent. As far as the...
    stufy stufy 51-55 4 Responses Dec 8, 2015

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    nope. no. nunca. ---

    and you can tell.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 30, 2015

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    "Some people are like clouds.

    When they disappear, it's a beautiful day."
    TulipBaby TulipBaby 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 22, 2015

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    CODECRACKER2014 CODECRACKER2014 41-45, M 3 Responses a week ago

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