I Will Not Say "Gay" Or "Retard" to Offend

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    I Say "That's Gay" All the Time.

    I say "that's gay" all the time.  The funny thing is, my best friend is the one that said it so much I started to say it, she's gay.  I asked her if it was offensive, she said, "that's gay". LOL  
    TheOtherMe TheOtherMe
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 24, 2008


    I'll use the four letter words, and *****, but I would never use "gay" or "retard' as an insult. I think it might be because I myself am not straight, and find some amount of pride in that. But I am not lesbian. I am bi. I don't know why I don't use them to offend others, but I...
    MaiaTheBroken MaiaTheBroken
    18-21, F
    Jan 22, 2012

    My Children

    Two of my three children are "mentally retarded" although the proper word for it is "special abilities." I am gay. I am very offended to hear either word used in the incorrect context. It is discrimination, and it needs to stop.
    Freeingtibet Freeingtibet
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 10, 2013

    I Say Them

    But I always feel bad right after. And yet they still slip out. =/
    deleted deleted
    16 Responses Dec 5, 2008

    Oh Laura, You Absolute

     actually, sometimes i say 'retard' but normally i'm calling myself it so.. that doesn't count. i'd never call anyone them to offend. anyway, i've got an imagination, if i wanted to insult someone.
    frankspencer frankspencer
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Nov 26, 2009
    deleted deleted
    Aug 8, 2014

    These Words

    These words,Get on my goat,Gay, and retard,I'won't use 'em,Why lower oneself,Offending,Just not worth it!
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    Mar 25, 2012

    No Way!

    I never go out of my way to offend. It's just not nice!! It hurts people and it's just a shame so many people use it to offend. There's nothing wrong with being gay and it just shouldn't be used as an insult!!
    Luangi Luangi
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2007

    Weapon Words

    My father used the word "retard" against me constantly when I was growing up.  I'm still sensitive to it; the word hurts.  And while "gay" was never used as a weapon against me, I still can see the wounds it leaves.Words can hurt more than any blade or club; "gay" and "retard...
    Plaid Plaid
    31-35, F
    Feb 9, 2012

    Why Is Are These Even Being Used As An Insult?!

    I never have or never will use these as an insult. But Really now IT'S 2013 PEOPLE, WHY ARE GAY AND RETARD USED AS INSULTS!
    BellaRayZamora BellaRayZamora
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 4, 2013


    I feel soo guilty using these terms where they shouldn't be used. I don't mean to offend the groups that it will definitely offend, but I apologize to everyone out there anyway. Sorry. I will watch myself never to use them out of context again.
    mixedview mixedview
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 1, 2007
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