I Wish Fathers Knew the Scars Left By Not Being Dads

Emotional scars left due to absent or abusive fathers and how it has infulenced your life's ecperiences as well as your life choices. 655 People

    Ignoring, yelling and throwing money at your

    kids won't make you a dad. You end up being a father.
    EmotionJammer EmotionJammer
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 17, 2015

    I last saw my dad at the age of four,

    and I only have a few memories of him. Mainly involving his addiction to alcohol, he loved it more than me I could say. Honestly, his addiction ruined us by sending him back to his old ways with the cops. I can even remember speaking to him through a glass wall in prison. I...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jul 24, 2015

    My own father told me in my face

    when I was 19 that he didn't want to raise a disabled child. So he's prejudiced over me? Nice wonderful Dad. He is not my dad, and He will never be my Dad! Yeah his name is on the birth certificate, but he and I will never have a relationship. It is his fault and he will never...
    noaht43 noaht43
    46-50, T
    Jul 25, 2015

    -an open letter- To my late absent Dad,

    I'm sorry to say but I don't remember you at all, like my older brothers do. I don't remember what you look like apart from the picture that hung on top of my staircase. Mom never spoke badly of you, and rarely would she talk about who you are or what you were like. From what...
    bugside bugside
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Oct 26, 2015

    I'm still trying to figure out how to cope with

    not having a father in my life. I have 3 older siblings, the oldest being 25. My father left when I was almost 2 years old. And was continually in and out of my life till I was 12. I haven't seen him since. I'm almost 18 now. 5 years I haven't seen him or heard from him other...
    alittleloveandsunshine alittleloveandsunshine
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    how do you cope with not having a father figure

    in your life? my biological father did some terrible things when he was with my mom and they separated when I was 6 months. he could care less about me now. he says he wants a relationship with him, I tell him to come visit, he bails every single time. happens in a cycle, and...
    lizygurl lizygurl
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 22, 2015

    If you're given a less-than-perfect model does

    that mean a life of less than perfect relationships? How much does a father figure, figure?
    MNI1982 MNI1982
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jul 30, 2015

    My father is the result of many years of

    smoking weed. The first time i found it i was 10 and it recked me because i thought he was a drug addict. His communication with me is seriously flawed.
    jacobcher jacobcher
    1 Response Dec 8, 2014

    my dad wasnt abusive.

    my dad wasnt completely absent. my dad didnt choose to be in his position. but my dad can be held to blame. it wasnt his choice that i went with my mum it wasn't his choice that he only gets every second weekend it wasnt his choice to get depression it wasnt his choice to...
    butterflykisses11 butterflykisses11
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 8, 2016
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 8, 2016

    i am black hole inside.

    because of what he did
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 18, 2015

    I hate the types of dads

    that think that they can buy their child's love. My dad being one. He can go months without speaking a word to me and suddenly I could be at his parents and he'll say oh what iPad do you want or something like that. Yes I took the iPad because it will be good for when I go to...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    Never really spoke to my dad

    so much. My moms a lesbian but I was made the old fashioned way (thanks to alcohol) I didn't meet him till I was 10. It was too late then. Our "hang outs" consisted of him taking me to the donut shop all the time and him playing scratchers all the time. Thanks for the great...
    ThatGuyEveryoneHates ThatGuyEveryoneHates
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 8, 2014

    You know what I hate the most is

    that my dad dissent smoke weed or get drunk all of the time and beat me. He is completely sober when he beats me. To think that he hates me that much is just sickening. My parents a r e still together even thought my mom brother and sister know what be does. They say it's my...
    misprisy101 misprisy101
    13-15, F
    Jul 25, 2015

    I'd thought the little one would be doing fine

    staying with my parents but I noticed he has more tantrums now and would kick or hit me or have a meltdown in public. Tonight as he was playing with his dinosaurs, he took two and said, "This is mummy dinosaur. And this is baby dinosaur." After that, he added another and said...
    majesticsea majesticsea
    26-30, F
    Feb 16, 2016
    selina1986 selina1986
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 14, 2016

    Let me just say this.

    As a parent you have a major responsibility. and that's to take care of your children. all of them. but in my case it's another thing. I'm taking care of my self. I need and I want all the time from my father. I'm sure I'm not the only one that's going through this at all...
    inspirationalguide98 inspirationalguide98
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 12, 2016

    my father left my mother befor i was born i sah

    him for the first time when i was 14 years old and the second time 4 years later. the last time i sah him was 3 month after my second child was born since then i only got a few texts and that is all. the worse is he lives in the same town only 5 min with car and hasn't even seen...
    sundina sundina
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    My dad has been in and out

    and completely out after maybe 12 or 13 yrs old for me. I didn't even get calls for my birthday. Now he occasionally texts me maybe 1-2 times every other month or so. I honestly haven't noticed any effects , but even though I rarely see his family no thanks to my mom. They ask...
    FutureVet2014 FutureVet2014
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 23, 2015

    Cue the daddy issues haha **** those bastards

    who don't have the ability to take responsibility for their actions You don't need him :)
    deleted deleted
    Jul 24, 2015

    My Father Left Us. He Cheated.

    we were a happy family. Me, my brother, mother and father. Or i just thought that everything was ok? Of course my parents argued , then it came really often. I pretend that i was sleeping but actually i stay awake to hear what about they argue. Yes, they argued just at night so...
    vulf vulf
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 26, 2013

    i swear he will never Learn

    until he's alone and doesn't have a choice to change and finally realize its time to grow up.
    BlueMoonx BlueMoonx
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 6, 2015


    deleted deleted
    Apr 9, 2016

    I have literal scars on my body.

    Whenever my Dad gets pissed, he takes it out verbally on the rest of his family. Throws things, breaks them. Punched a hole in a wall, twice. I think that I have panic attacks because of him. Every time he acts out, I panic and had to harm myself in order to calm down. He doens...
    Arkiex Arkiex
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    I was 17 years old and 3 months pregnant

    when I met him. I was all alone and so scared. We immediately took to each other and fell in love quick. It wasn't until after I had my son that things started to fall apart. His family fought me, my family fought him and because of this we fought each other a lot. We decided to...
    onlyhuman1 onlyhuman1
    26-30, F
    Jul 26, 2015

    My dad is mad that I still have never texted

    him "thanks" for my posted Christmas money. He phoned my mum ranting. Little does he know.... It's still in the card. I don't want the money dad. It's nonexistent like you were for seventeen years of my life. Seeing me once every six months to buy me a McDonald's is not being...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 19, 2016

    I am just appalled. Appalled

    and clueless by your character, heart and mind. You say, "I miss my son." You say, "Please come home. I need you and him. Just say it and I would do anything for you." I may be hurt but I don't keep him away from you. So I say you can meet us at the carnival. We'll spend time...
    majesticsea majesticsea
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 21, 2016

    many fathers completely understand.

    The mothers are so full of hatred that the only thing that matters is the revenge they get from keeping the children from the fathers. The don't care about the damage it causes the children.
    Cooltaz Cooltaz
    51-55, M
    Jan 15, 2016

    I remember when my mother would have bingo

    nights and take my older sisters... It was usually a Tuesday evening, a school night for all of us, and they'd be in bed by 9 pm... I think my father felt abandoned, he'd put me in a 3-piece suit and go to casinos until 3-4 AM... Believe it or not, I thought he was God at the...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 21, 2015

    I've never met my father.

    We live in the same country and I've spoken with him on phone,but he's refused to meet me. I don't know what my father looks like and don't know what having a dad looks like. I've been told I have an elder brother,but I don't know where he is or how to find him. I don't even...
    Fenicethered Fenicethered
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2015

    My father was barely there

    for me. I did not know him for 9 years of my live, then I had to move in with him. He and my Mom do not get along, and I always feel that if I wasn't born, they would both be living happily. My dad treats me as a stranger. Honestly, I call him by his first name. I have never had...
    Woofmow Woofmow
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2016

    I love him to death. I'm gonna cry writing this.

    It's just he used to emotionally abuse me and scare me by yelling. (he loves me, but takes out his stress in ridiculous ways) he's gotten a lot better now and shows how much he loves us. He's always worked a lot and I hardly ever saw him. Oh god here come the tears... Currently...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jan 14, 2016

    My oldest daughter is

    now 21..she never knew her real father until she was 18..having said that my husband has been her real daddy ever since she was about 11/2..she will tell you that she has an amazing daddy and could never ever imagine calling anyone else daddy..but still I can see the hurt in her...
    theheartofmemphis theheartofmemphis
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    He raised his legs in gesture

    as if to kick me but stopped. He threw a glass cup aiming at us and hurled vulgarities. He destroyed few of our furniture at home. He tried to assault my brother when my brother stood up for my son who was then an infant. I called the police then. Everytime these violent rages...
    majesticsea majesticsea
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 7, 2016

    If my father had been a daddy also I would

    still have a little respect for him..
    0210love 0210love
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    Tonight is one of those nights

    where I stay up and relive those heartbreaking moments. My son will not have his father by him in years to come. My husband will live with regret when he becomes an old man for not having been able to be a protective and loving father. I cry for the both of them. It will be a...
    majesticsea majesticsea
    26-30, F
    Feb 7, 2016

    My biological father has never been a real

    father to me. I was kind of being molested by him since I was about 6 or 7 until I was about 10 or 11. Mother was working overseas back then. Father would not let her know. When mother came home and settled in our home country, they finally separated legally for some other...
    beeceedee beeceedee
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 17, 2015
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