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I Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now

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    Married For 17 years,

    2 kids dysfunctional marriage life, can't take it any longer. I believe I am the problem. I Never exactly knew what the problem was, I just know that I was behind it. We have a broken marriage now, and I don't know if it can get fixed. I'm going to see a therapist in 2 weeks, I...
    codaman codaman 46-50, M 9 Responses Oct 13, 2015

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    Oso41412 Oso41412 46-50, F 11 Responses Jan 9

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    Why do we empaths are willing to put up

    and suffer the abuses of a narcissistic partner? We want the relationship to work so bad that rather than risk losing it, we would rather risk losing ourselves trying to save it? But do you know taking a step back is an absolute necessity. It's self-preservation! It's the...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 22 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    This sudden incomprehensible feeling of

    hollowness in my chest that left my heart plucked out from the ribcage in its entirety and it's called misery. I feel very lost and all alone. Why, why, why?
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 6 hrs ago

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    I definitely wish I had known the paths my life

    would take in my earlier years.  Everyone has to pay their dues, and everyone develops and matures over time.  I just wish there had at least been enough understanding of the clues.  I knew I was different, I knew my true ideals didn't match up well with...
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 3 Responses May 4, 2015

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    Which still isn't much!

    !!!!...,,,:;;//-@"
    Workingclassman Workingclassman 31-35, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    don't we all....if only

    that were possible
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 30, 2015

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    I feel like my whole life was a waste.

    I can't find any purpose to it all. I'm not suicidal or anything it just seems like at this age I should have done more. I've had so many problems and set backs. Everyone I know my age planned their lives well. I feel like I could have done more with my life and it seems to...
    pjay2015 pjay2015 46-50, F 16 Responses Aug 26, 2015

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    I was coming home to be with you even

    before I was supposed to leave this lonely country but I never knew until 2 days ago that for 6 months now you've been cheating on me and lying to me about it. Out of shock and rage, I called you LIAR when I discovered it but this made you extremely mad at me for calling you...
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I've never been a quitter,

    but this time I absolutely will. When every single day you can't find a reason to stay and when every single night you wish you were back to that place you had left to follow your dream, then there's really no use waiting for the time it's going to turn around because it...
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 31

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    "I wish I never liked you.

    I wish I didn't waste all those times talking to you or thinking about you. I wish I didn't worry or cared about all the times you ignored me. I wish I never got excited every time you made me feel special. I wish I never believed every word you said. I wish I never got my hopes...
    TjDee TjDee 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2015

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    Physical attractions are common,

    but mental connections are rare.
    j1nx3s j1nx3s 16-17, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I wish I would've started saving a long time ago

    when I was living with my parents. It's much harder trying to save when you are single, have a car note, student loans, and a barely paying job. Ugh.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 26, 2015

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    saashay saashay 26-30, F Jan 6

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    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses May 30, 2015

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    In school people used to be SO rude

    because I was curvy and not a size zero. It's funny how those same guys are trying to hit me up now
    CassandraLynn96 CassandraLynn96 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 3, 2015

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    Sometimes we break, sometimes we fall down.

    All it takes is one solid, true person to come along and care. Love and acceptance can open our hearts, pain can open our eyes, change can open our minds. It's so hard to stay positive when others and life happenings knock us down. Often things don't go our way or work out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 15

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    There are several things I would have done

    differently, including one major change that would have affected several things in my life. But, would I be the same person I am now?
    RocknRollCowboy71 RocknRollCowboy71 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 31

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    I should've stayed a virgin

    until I was in my 30s. Focused more on establishing myself in a career and building things up financially. I played early, ended up having kids, and playing catch-up for the last decade. Sheesh. I don't regret my children, but I regret my decisions.
    seijuroheiko seijuroheiko 36-40, M 1 day ago

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    Five years of being together,

    one year of being away from each other. For the past six months I was being cheated on and lied on. I only knew about this yesterday. I wish I knew then what I knew now.
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Extreme narcissists are created

    when a child receives a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation/attachment. This can happen when the parents, as narcissists themselves, are emotionally disconnected from their child. It creates a dysfunction in the ability for...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 10 Responses Sep 17, 2015

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    i wish I had known there are hidden oppressors,

    a congression of secret society members, lurking in the shadows all across the county - waiting to ruin innocent people's lives.
    MalaniaXmc MalaniaXmc 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    Playing paper, scissor ,

    rock on skype with your lover sounds so lame . Only Love can turn a grown up into a child... * Perfect moments*
    solongago2 solongago2 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 27, 2015

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    Being assertive is of utmost importance.

    You are not being domineering or mean by telling someone what you need. Taking care of yourself is actually your responsibility. Standing up for yourself might not come naturally to you, especially if you were raised to be obedient or if you are just a shy or passive person...
    PurpleGremlin PurpleGremlin 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    When I was younger, I wish I knew

    that it's okay to be yourself. That popularity isn't everything. Loving yourself is. I wish someone said that if you are different, it's beautiful, because being like everyone else is boring.
    ZenGrrrlLioNESS ZenGrrrlLioNESS 46-50, F 14 Responses Jan 9

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    I wish I knew you were a liar.

    I wish I knew the real you. Yet I still wish we could be cool. I still wish I didn't know what I know now. I still wish that all this is a dream and even tho most of the time i don't see how you're actually killing me
    Katelyn516 Katelyn516 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    One in three women will experience

    violence/abuse from a man they know. And if you've ever been in an abusive relationship, you'll know it doesn't start out that way. It can feel as if you never saw it coming, or that when you began to see what was happening, it felt too late, too hard or too embarrassing to try...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 25, 2015

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    It's not like I haven't know

    and yet you deny what's palpable, deny angrily in furies of indignation. This should have been the clue. I guess I accepted your word at face value, wanting to chalk it up to imagination. Yet the sensation continued. I didn't understand, couldn't see thru the mixed messages...
    sinloymanoi sinloymanoi 51-55 Dec 31, 2015

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    They swear they don't want to loose you,

    but they act like they don't want to keep you.
    j1nx3s j1nx3s 16-17, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    This morning I realized what is the best

    immediate cure of my depression...I was so down and yet trying to take the bad feeling away...and so, I cried inside my room until my eyes were swollen hoping I will feel better afterwards...but it didn't work...then I thought of giving away all the pancakes I made this morning...
    MistyRachel MistyRachel 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 27, 2015

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    cloudi cloudi 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 6

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    How love is lost... Ours was a quiet

    destruction, Unraveling with such exquisite subtlety, That I can neither blame you, nor me for remaining oblivious, until it was much too late. Step by misstep, Slip by slope, Tick by tock- Walls resurrected, Distance settled, Closeness crumbled- Until all that remained...
    wildf1ower wildf1ower 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 31, 2015

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    Tossing and turning on my bed Uncertainties

    rolling in my head Heart's been breaking but not dead Sanity barely hanging on a thread
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 28, 2015

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    life is a rollercoaster there's those moments

    in life that make you want to just burst then there are other moments where you just want to be a kid again and do things over.
    irishgal86 irishgal86 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2015

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    I was so insecure and naive.

    I would have been a lot happier and got a lot more sex if only I knew then what I know now!
    Sierra338 Sierra338 41-45, M Dec 21, 2015

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    Hi! Im actually new here

    and i badly need help or advice. Ive been in a relationship with this guy for 4 years now. Everything is great. My family and friends like him. His family and friends like me as well. If ill rate the relationship im having right now ill give an 8. Its not perfect but its ok for...
    archtm archtm 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    If I knew then what I know now,

    I never would of stared to care.
    wackyzacky wackyzacky 18-21, M Jan 23

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    I wish I appreciated being innocent

    and carefree when I was in my teens as when you're an adult, your eyes are open more and you learn that the world is corrupt
    EmaHope EmaHope 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 18, 2015

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    That moment when you've realized you made a

    wrong decision and you want everything to make sense but it doesn't and all you can do is cry and wish time would turn back. Then, as if the suffering of what the consequences brought about by your wrong choice were not enough, it mercilessly demands from you more courage so...
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 15, 2015

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    Would you have loved me,

    Imperfections and all? Who am I to ask? I did not have the courage to stay and find out. Maybe I chose sorrow instead. Maybe I like the eternal ache of wanting what I'll never have. Maybe means yes, of course, because I chose the pain of losing you, over you. Except...
    wildf1ower wildf1ower 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 19, 2015

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    letmeloveurmind letmeloveurmind 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 15, 2015

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    How was I so stupid to think he actually loved

    me and cared about me at all....
    tigersfan195 tigersfan195 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    Would I do it differently

    if I had the chance to do it all over again? It's hard when there is so much in your life that you cling to yet you still question your happiness. Is "overall happiness" worth the risk of losing today's reasons for getting out of bed? Sometimes I think maybe my expectations...
    RememberTomorrow RememberTomorrow 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 13

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    One of the best article I came across .

    .. Do you often engage in conversations with your narcissist that leave you feeling like you were talking to a brick wall or worse, maybe leave you feeling like banging your head against a brick wall? Perhaps, it has even crossed your mind that you would have been better off...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 30, 2015

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