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I Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now

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    How was I so stupid to think he actually loved

    me and cared about me at all....
    tigersfan195 tigersfan195 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    It really sucks when you realise

    that the person you always tried to defend and always thought was different turned out to be exactly who everyone was saying he was...you just lose all hope
    AppreciateLittleThingsInLife AppreciateLittleThingsInLife 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    The longer we are away from each other,

    the more I feel that you care less and less for me and that you're losing your feelings for me. I wish I knew then that "Absence makes the heart wander."
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I wish I could talk to my 16 year old self.

    I think about all the things I'd tell her: -Don't move in with that person. You will be hurt. And you will rationalize staying. The bruises will not compare to the psychological damage that will be inflicted upon you. -Heroin will destroy you. Do not be so foolish as to...
    C0deRed C0deRed 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 17

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    Man I didn't think it was going to be this

    difficult. I wish the only thing I had to worry about still was fighting with my parents to take a nap.. Who knew those were really the days..
    CassandraLynn96 CassandraLynn96 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    To Change Or Not To Change

    Sometimes I think if I knew then what I know now . I could have a different life . Not so many hard times and heartache .I could have avoided so many tears and fears . But then I realize because of these hard timesĀ  hard lesson fought and learned , I am the person I am today...
    softkitti softkitti 22-25, F 65 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    That moment when you've realized you made a

    wrong decision and you want everything to make sense but it doesn't and all you can do is cry and wish time would turn back. Then, as if the suffering of what the consequences brought about by your wrong choice were not enough, it mercilessly demands from you more courage so...
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 15

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    Playing paper, scissor ,

    rock on skype with your lover sounds so lame . Only Love can turn a grown up into a child... * Perfect moments*
    solongago2 solongago2 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    But I know that's impossible.

    Had anyone told me ten years ago, I would have laughed at him. That knowledge could not have been had without living through the consequences and seeing what a deep hole I've dug myself into. I can only hope I won't feel this way about the next ten years of my life, too.
    AndSto AndSto 26-30, M Jun 26

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    I have been foolishly innocent most part of my

    life. Being kind to another human has always been my religion. No matter what they did to me despite all my affection, I do not feel the need to judge them. I will continue to wish them well in life. About me? I exist only in my own world. To others, I am just a 'Thing' - Just...
    deceptiveoutofcloset deceptiveoutofcloset 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    But it's never too late to know,

    to know how to spot a narcissist. In fact I'm getting better at it. Ask them how they are at fault for an interaction gone wrong, they rarely admit fault. They blame others for almost everything including their mistakes - parent(s), for the way they turn out - their partner...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 15

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    letmeloveurmind letmeloveurmind 46-50, M 2 Responses Jun 15

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    Unforgettable love, That needs not be

    forgotten (For that would be an impossible task, anyhow)- Yet that must be Let go of. Set it free, Say goodbye; Know that love lost can always be found within.
    wildf1ower wildf1ower 26-30 7 Responses May 18

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    It is my intention that I never give myself to

    you without a significant purpose. And so, if my disposition gives you reason to go astray, please do not re-direct any false inclinations to be close to me again. I am without doubt ruled by emotions that are much stronger than my will to breathe. Free me if the intensity of my...
    OrphanBlackFan OrphanBlackFan 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    I guess i am starting to suffer from depression,

    i cannot talk to people coz they dont understand me, definately not my parents they wont understand me!! my friend are fake, and to be honest i dont gave any real friends so i cannot talk to them. i need somebody to talk to!! coz nobody understand me. i tried killing myself i...
    iamHurtSomuch iamHurtSomuch 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I wish I had recognized all the warning signs

    that my pervious relationship was dangerous!
    Cat052314 Cat052314 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    Addiction made me ignore the most important

    thing in the world to me. I wish wish wish I knew then that I was wasting the most important year of my life.
    Kimbizz Kimbizz 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    my wife of 14 yrs cheated on me.

    I found out day before fathers day almost a month ago. it still hurts and angers me so bad. I dont know how to move on.
    rcppr3 rcppr3 36-40, M 20 Responses Jul 17

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    In some ways, I don't.

    Although it's frustrating now to be married, unfulfilled, and unable to flex my man powers, if I had known back when.... I'd probably have died from exhaustion. Lol
    SonOfTheDelta SonOfTheDelta 46-50, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I wish I knew the guy I fall in love with back

    then was a terrible person...
    Issaaa Issaaa 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 8

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    I wish I wouldn't have married

    so young.. Wish I didn't rush to say yes. My life with you is so miserable and for some reason I'm still here... If I knew then that this is what my life would be with you now, I wouldn't have EVER said yes..
    x3NiNAx3 x3NiNAx3 18-21, F 30 Responses Jun 18

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    I was on vacation and

    that gave me time to get a bird-view on my life and my choices. Sadly, I didn't see a pretty view. I allowed my feelings to mask my life views and for awhile I was delusional. Sadly that awhile is a year or less but it is what it is. I feel ashamed because I thought that "may...
    StrongWoman9 StrongWoman9 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    I definitely wish I had known the paths my life

    would take in my earlier years.  Everyone has to pay their dues, and everyone develops and matures over time.  I just wish there had at least been enough understanding of the clues.  I knew I was different, I knew my true ideals didn't match up well with...
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 3 Responses May 4

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    I don't know how much I can take of this.

    Being lonely and having no one to talk to has really got to me. Some days I'm good. But sometimes there comes a time where I just don't want to deal life with anymore.
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22 22-25, M 4 Responses Jun 3

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    A follow-up to my earlier post.

    Not an easy task for most of us, but we must try .. How To Permanently Detach From A Narcissist There is a lot of information already on the internet about the "no contact rule" and how to implement it. The problem is with the passage of time, people develop relationship...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 5 Responses Jul 2

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    "I wish I never liked you.

    I wish I didn't waste all those times talking to you or thinking about you. I wish I didn't worry or cared about all the times you ignored me. I wish I never got excited every time you made me feel special. I wish I never believed every word you said. I wish I never got my hopes...
    TjDee TjDee 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 29

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    I am shackled to your memory

    and I am broken. Everytime I take a step further away from the past, the chain makes metallic noise and stops me on my track. Then I go back into my cell, dark and lonely.
    LeeLooLeeLoo LeeLooLeeLoo 26-30, M 5 Responses May 2

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    I wish I knew then, what I know now.

    .. Wouldn't dive in, wouldn't bow down...
    momstermom momstermom 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 18

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    The most important career choice you'll make is

    who you marry. http://www.businessinsider.com.au/how-relationships-affect-wealth-2015-7
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 5 Responses Jul 8

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    Why do we empaths are willing to put up

    and suffer the abuses of a narcissistic partner? We want the relationship to work so bad that rather than risk losing it, we would rather risk losing ourselves trying to save it? But do you know taking a step back is an absolute necessity. It's self-preservation! It's the...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 20 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    But, I think I would have still done it all the

    same way. I'm happy with me, and who i am.
    higherminded higherminded 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses May 30

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    I see all these younger kids (15 - 30),

    and some of the responses they have to the pains in their lives. Some of you out there have some real wisdom in your young age. I am a late bloomer in almost every way, and I am somewhat envious or jealous of you for the wisdom and experiences you've gained. But I do not...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    I wish i knew how to love my mom

    unconditionally, i wish i knew the things i know now about her sickness, i wish i knew things what i know now. About relationships I wish i knew my dad earlier the way i know him now... And list goes on!
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jun 23

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    One of the best article I came across .

    .. Do you often engage in conversations with your narcissist that leave you feeling like you were talking to a brick wall or worse, maybe leave you feeling like banging your head against a brick wall? Perhaps, it has even crossed your mind that you would have been better off...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 11 Responses Jun 30

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    If I had known that my friends

    and family where right about my ex I would never have left with him. If I could have seen through the lies and abuse I wouldn't have been with him for so long. However, if I never went through all that Hell, if I had the knowledge I have now, I might have never met the nicest...
    GoldenHeart69 GoldenHeart69 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 8

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    My heart is heavy from too many wounds.

    He thinks I am stupid When I confront him on his **** he tells me I'm tripping I need to take my meds I twist **** I'm crazy I'm actually none of those things. What I AM a daughter of God A woman who is intelligent Loyal Thoughtful Strong Non-Judgmental And who cares to...
    revenge4me revenge4me 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    I now know that romance,

    at least for myself, is a fantasy, nothing more. Real life, real relationships, are tough on a person. There is no "happily ever after"! People are going to let you down and you just have to learn to deal with it. This would have saved me years of disappointment and hurt if I...
    LonesumnTx LonesumnTx 51-55, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    I wish I knew that I shouldn't waste my

    feelings n all my time to someone that doesn't care bout me
    Negiin Negiin 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 17

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    In life nothing comes with an instruction

    manual, we can only draw on our own experiences to gain knowledge. I no longer think I have purpose in life, I have Children and a partner and reasonably well off. I am not happy though, within myself I feel like an empty shell and hope I can find someone to relate to on here...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses May 3

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    I wish I would've started saving a long time ago

    when I was living with my parents. It's much harder trying to save when you are single, have a car note, student loans, and a barely paying job. Ugh.
    VanitySux VanitySux 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    desistories desistories 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    I have learned a lot about women,

    and I now know that they are (Most but not all ) out for a free ride sugar daddy. Keep that in my guys when you have all those hormones raging. The love and affection ends between the 3rd and 7th year of marriage. Be a care giver if you must guys but know you will regret it...
    MikeMachinist MikeMachinist 61-65, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    It's my personal experience,

    that it's harder to forgive a friend than an enemy.
    IntrovertGirl99 IntrovertGirl99 18-21, F 7 Responses May 17

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    manders86 manders86 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    The truth is a funny thing.

    Humans are driven to find it. Yet, very often, the truth hurts us. Human curiosity looks illogical when described this way. Really, the drive to find the truth makes sense; it would have been a necessary trait for our ancestors living in harsh environments and looking for...
    DepressedDemigod DepressedDemigod 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 29

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