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I Wish I Was the One That Was Taken Care of

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    No You Don't

    The majority of my life was spent taking care of others. It began with my drunken drug addict mother when i was 8 and did'nt stop until all my kids left...not even then really. Unfortunately my health is such that in many ways now I need to be taken care of. I don't feel relief...
    bitterdregs bitterdregs 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2009

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    I Thought I Was Marrying a Strong, Protective Type...

    But... nah.  Mom told me I should've just lived w/ him.  He's diabetic (type 1) & she said, "Do you want to wind up being a nurse maid all your life?"  But I didn't listen.  He's not sick... but I've had to rescue him from insulin shock more...
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 12, 2009

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    Not Me - I Don't Like Being Catered To

    I have severe arthritis in both knees, but despite this, I am independent and live alone. I have learned to do or make do for myself, employing the aid of a walker when I need to go outside or on the street for something. One of the things I can "do", with the help of a ride, is...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Aug 25, 2013

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    Just Once, I Would Like to Be ...

    Just once, I would like to be taken care of instead of caring for everyone else.
    turtlemusic28 turtlemusic28 26-30, F May 17, 2008

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    but Not In the Way Many May...

    but not in the way many may percieve this question, i would just like to have someone ....is help the right word? ,with the daily things i work through.
    thinkb4ispeak thinkb4ispeak 31-35, F 1 Response May 18, 2008

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    Yes and No. ...

    Yes and NO. Me and my husband take care of each other, but I love being the one taking care of everybody else. It makes me happy .
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F May 18, 2008

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    I Always Have Taken Care Of...

    I always have taken care of other people. Having some of that affection love and care coming my way would be really great.
    emommag emommag 36-40, F 1 Response May 18, 2008

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    On My Own

    I'm a single mum, and I was devastated when my children's dad left a year and a half ago. They were only 3 and 5 then. Luckily we've remained good friends and share custody of our kids. However, things keep going wrong for me love-wise. i was with someone but he was so wrapped up...
    LauraRose222 LauraRose222 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2008

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    I Had Always Been The Strong One In My Relationships.....

    Still am in many ways. I wanted someone to take care of me for a change. I was always the emotionally strong one. Finally I have someone that we are on an equal page. She takes care of me and I take care of her. It is such a relief to finally have someone in my life like that...
    Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 30, 2013

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    Carer

    Since my Mum died when I was 14 I have been a carer for my Dad. I feel like I don't have a Dad and long for someone to look after me. I hate the role reversal, I just want some love and someone to make things alright when they go wrong.
    vivalagloria vivalagloria 22-25, F Sep 3, 2008

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    I Have Always...

    been the one to take care of others...worrying about their welfare, offering my shoulder to cry on on, my arm to lean on, my ear to  listen, my hand to hold...I can't remember the last time someone took care of my needs.. I'm freakin' tired...
    allycat419 allycat419 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    Tired

    Some days I wish someone would take care of me.  I don't mean pamper me or anything.  I just want someone to watch a movie with me that I want to watch.  I am married but some days I feel like the single mom.  when do I get a day to myself?  Or when can I...
    crazyinlove88 crazyinlove88 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2008

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    Can You See Me?

    Not the best of days, but none the less it was a day in the life of a woman who travels through the world almost invisible.   So invisible am I that while someone who I thought would know better allowed me to hear a conversation that was certain to hurt my feelings. ...
    Freestanding Freestanding 51-55, F 43 Responses Jul 30, 2008

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    After 13 Years

       After 13 years of being the one that has to take care of everything, it would be nice to be taken care of. This may sound weak or needy, but it is a very real desire in my heart. I don't mean all the time, just part of the time.  
    Percheron Percheron 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    If Only....

    I would love to have someone to cuddle with, build memories with, to take care of while they take care of me. I can't even remember what it feels like to feel loved, and safe in another's arms.
    seaoftears seaoftears 46-50 May 17, 2008

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    sergey Already Takes Care O...

    sergey already takes care of me,  i just hope it stays that way
    penguinluve4 penguinluve4 18-21, F May 18, 2008

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    No Way Out...

    Hi guys, I'm in a difficult situation right now and could do with some advice. My Mum died when I was young and my Dad is disabled. He's also recently been diagnosed with diabetes and now he's suffering from bronchitis I feel so sorry for him. The trouble is it has now dawned...
    angelface21 angelface21 22-25, F Dec 10, 2012

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    If

    if my mother had taken care of me, my life would be very different. she was able to care for me to some extent, but that was limited to food and board. none of my emotional needs got met and so i have learned to meet them on my own.
    kittten kittten 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2007

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    Always Giving Rarely Receiving.

    Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love taking care of people and I love being there for those around me... But there comes a time when I wish there was soemone to hold me when I cry, to talk through my problems, to make me a cup of tea and tell me it will be ok and that they are...
    sapphiresky sapphiresky 16-18, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2007

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    A Dream

    I wish I had someone that I could just fall into.  he would hold me tight when I cried, and I could really let down and cry in front of him. NO ONE(not even my best and closest friend) has ever seen more than sobs from me and the one person that I did break...
    cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal 18-21, F Dec 19, 2007

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    Provider

    I love that I get to take care of my wife. For her it's an emotional need. I'm there to support her and get her through the downers of life. It's a feeling that I've had since we first met and it continues today. I hope she'll always have a need for me.
    StressRelief4Me StressRelief4Me 26-30, M Jul 8, 2010

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    I Am Sick

    I just want someone to take care of me.  Bring me hot soup and iced tea.  Rub my shoulders and watch TV with me.
    snugglebunny156 snugglebunny156 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 26, 2008

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    Very, Very Tired

    I am strong and sure and know who I am and who I want to be. This attracts broken souls and lonely people. I will listen to your problems, be a shoulder for you to cry on, help you carry the burden too heavy for your shoulders alone and never ask for anything in return. I will...
    INTPisMe INTPisMe 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 11, 2011

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    Very Much This.....

    I am a very nurturing and loving person who is always willing to help. I am a good listener and intuitive. I work with children and so these traits come in very useful. All day I care for them and put my absolute heart and soul into the job. I am the one they look to for care and...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    Protect Me

    Growing up (with abuse) you rarely feel taken care of.  In fact it is more a feeling of being left to the wolves.  I have been taking care of myself ever since I can remember.  I fell into a life of taking care of those around me, so much so that no one has ever...
    Freestanding Freestanding 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 7, 2007

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    One Can Dream

    I am used to taking care of others, I have been doing it the majority of my life. My mom has manic depression and wasn't diagnosed till I was about nine so I spent a lot of time before that trying to make, and keep, her happy. That wasn't easy. I also have always been the peace...
    DelightfulBabe08 DelightfulBabe08 26-30 3 Responses Sep 28, 2008

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    As a Nice Change....

    As a nice change, i'd simply like a friend to listen to me.  I'd like a friend notice the difference between 'hmm not bad' and 'yes i'm really good' like i seem to do.  I'd like a friend to realise when i'm lying and to be persistant in asking what's wrong, and do...
    denialsworld denialsworld 18-21, F 1 Response May 18, 2008

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    I Really Do

    A good friend of mine told me something today that really hit home. I want everyone to think that I am OK - that I am over the divorce - that I am fine. I am anywhere BUT fine.  I do need time - I need time to just realize - I died...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 7 Responses May 3, 2009

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    If Only....

    I would love to have someone to cuddle with, build memories with, to take care of while they take care of me. I can't even remember what it feels like to feel loved, and safe in another's arms.
    seaoftears seaoftears 46-50 May 17, 2008

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    Everyone But Me...

    I have always been the momma hen. I was the one who took care of my friends when they were sad. I was the one who went out of her way to help people in need. Not because I wanted something out of it but just because I believe everyone should have someone to count on. I never...
    quizkitty quizkitty 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 17, 2011

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    Pamper Me

    Make me food, go get me a drink, think of me first... I'd be putty in your hands if only I felt like you thought I was worth it
    justjudyblue2 justjudyblue2 36-40, F Apr 20, 2008

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    Just Once

    Seems like I am always waiting on this one taking care of that one. I would love to be the one getting taken care of for a change. A litle bit of pampering goes a long way let me tell you. To have someone cook me dinner and give me a massage and put me to bed and well just take...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    It Should Be About Me Now

    I am so tired of taking care of others, I just wish I had some one to look after me. Is is so bad to ask for that?
    Jan 18, 2013

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