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I Wish I'd Never Had Children

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    Wasted Time - I spent my youth raising my 3 children. I have driven so many miles to soccer and basketball and football and cheerleading and plays and on and on. I volunteered at...
    honeyhoneycoop honeyhoneycoop 66-70 10 Responses Oct 15, 2010

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    Still Got Time.... - im 21 years old i found out recently that im pregnant..... 6 weeks today..... im terrified to be honest..... my partner and i have been debating the idea but i...
    jom91 jom91 18-21 8 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Suffocated - Lets start by the fact that I married young..got divorced..met my sons father...broke up and married again. I have a 7 yr old who is ruining my life with his behavior...
    lostmom22 lostmom22 31-35 1 Response Oct 13, 2012

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    If I Had One Wish - Hi everyone, I am 31 years old, and a mother of 3. I had my children when I was pretty young, my first was at the age of 17. I then had twins at the age of 19...
    whoihavebecome whoihavebecome 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    How Can I Feel This Way??? - After my divorce I had three teenage kids.  The emotional pieces to pick up after his abusive behavior and then complete and literal abandonment...
    luv2hikegirl luv2hikegirl 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    Never Know What You're Going To Get... - if I take on a task I will give 110% & do it well. always. so I have provided her with the very best, coddled her, traveled with her...
    annabee3 annabee3 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    I Want My Old Life Back! - I have 2 kids, I do love them and do everything for them. But I feel like am nothing any more. Like I have lost my identity. I feel I put all my energy...
    Leeanne10 Leeanne10 31-35 4 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    No I'm Not Narcicisstic! - But yes almost every night I end up crying and wishing I'd never had my kids. I fought hard for my kids. My stepdaughter was being physically and...
    rainbowprophet rainbowprophet 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2013

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    Amen Sisters! - My username is Finallyat50 because I have been looking for a group of people like this for 21 years. Let me be clear...I love my kids. I just hate being a parent...
    finallyat50 finallyat50 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    I'd Like To Ask A Question Of This Group: - I have one child and severely regret having had him. I always wanted to have children and thought that it would "complete" me, and now...
    MyFreedomOfChoice MyFreedomOfChoice 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 29, 2012

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    Oh where to start....I got married when I was 20. (I'm 27 now, about to be 28). For the past 7 years it has been just me and my husband. So, here goes my tale. My brother got a POS...
    factsarefacts factsarefacts 26-30 2 Responses Feb 26

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    Thank You All For Sharing. - I am a 32yo child free male and I had a vasectomy 12 days ago. I always realized that kids weren't for me and I always thought that there was something...
    asrockct asrockct 31-35 4 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Grown Sons-No Relationship - I am writing for support. I don't need condemnation. I do that very well. I graduated from college and married my high school sweetheart. We wanted...
    HeartbrokenandForgotten HeartbrokenandForgotten 51-55, F 10 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    I Wish I Never Had Kids - I don't say this to many people - only my bf knows I feel this way. I have two kids, and I love them very much, but if i could turn back the hands of time...
    ninaballerina65 ninaballerina65 41-45, F 9 Responses Mar 28, 2011

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    Living In Hell - We were thrilled to have a baby, it was the most wonderful thing, until later when we realized he had Aspergers, ocd and anxiety.  My life has been hell since he...
    dsky8 dsky8 51-55 6 Responses May 6, 2012

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    www - IdoNOTwantKids - com = CHILDFREE dating - I hope this isn't considered spam, but I REALLY think the link should be provided somewhere on this site:www . IdoNOTwantKids . com...
    IdoNOTwantKids IdoNOTwantKids 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 12, 2012

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    I Should've Been Smarter - WHen I was younger I always had issues with confidence and the constant need for love. I never got it much at home, so a new boyfriend was always the...
    brecrutch101 brecrutch101 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    I Wish I Never Had Children! - I feel the same way. I have 2 kids. I am so sick of everyone saying how precious this time is and how they grow up so fast. I feel that they can't...
    parentingsucks parentingsucks 36-40, F 47 Responses Nov 2, 2010

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    A Note From A Childfree Teen - To everyone on here who despises their decisions to parent ant for all of you who are troubled and upset in your lives, I am sorry. I truly hope that...
    MomoIsCFBC MomoIsCFBC 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Feel Trapped - I love my kids in my own way, but I wish I hadn't had them.I was abused as a kid. Basically, growing up my life was ruled by my crazy, abusive...
    zippydippy81 zippydippy81 31-35 5 Responses Jan 14, 2010

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    Why Not Give Them Up For Adoption? - So, I came across this board by googling, and I guess it's made me want kids less and less. However, I am wondering why some of you don't just...
    dpab dpab 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    It Started With One Pregnancy - I got pregnant for the first time on or about my 26th birthday. I had met a man six months before who came into my life in a way that made all my...
    lemc25 lemc25 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 26, 2013

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    I Love My Kids, But Geez!!! - I love my kids, even my stepkid, but I never realized I would suck so much at parenting. I was abused sexually, verbally, psychologically, only a...
    anattama anattama 41-45, F 9 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    Don't Know That I Regret Having Kids Because There's So Much Love But Aaahhhh!!!! I Hate It Most Of The Time. - I always knew I wanted kids but I think more for selfish reasons...
    kep308 kep308 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    Regret - I got married when I was 19. 2 years into our marriage I was ready for a divorce. I was stupid and stayed. I knew before hand I never wanted kids. I drew up divorce papers...
    Notcutouttobe Notcutouttobe 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 3, 2012

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    Probably Shouldnt Have Had Kids - I've read the other stories here and seems as if all had abusive childhoods. I don't have that excuse. I got pregnant and had the baby against...
    pinkflowers1 pinkflowers1 36-40, F 30 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    3 Kids, No Life. - I never wanted kids. I grew up wanting an education, a career and to eventually get married so I'd have someone to do things with...spend my life with. Kids...
    MamaDragon MamaDragon 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 31, 2012

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    My Kids Are Making Me Depressed ! - i have a 1 and 2 year old i'm a stay at home mom with a husband who is a workaholic and doesn't think help him out enough i was sexually abused...
    danae417 danae417 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 22, 2010

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    I Should Not Have Had Children... And Mine Are Grown - I had a wonderful childhood. I worked hard to be a good parent. I loved my children like CRAZY! We did all sorts of enriching...
    JanetMary JanetMary 56-60, F 9 Responses Apr 11, 2012

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    I have a horrific story to tell. Sometimes I can't believe this has really been my life. I was a woman who loved kids and always wanted them. Then real life started. My first...
    over50andfried over50andfried 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    A Message From A(nother) Childfree Teen - The first thing I want to say is I am not making fun of anybody. Please don't think that. I just have something I want to share and I...
    BelleofApril BelleofApril 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    I sometimes wish I had never had children too. I started out relatively early. I was 20 when I had my daughter and 24 when I had my son. My daughters father was abusive in every...
    BBMS BBMS 41-45, F Mar 30

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    Can't Enjoy My Children - Unlike a lot of group members here I am incredibly lucky. I have an amazing husband who is a wonderful father. My 2 kids aged 5 & 1 are both lovely. We...
    Scarlettsea Scarlettsea 31-35 3 Responses Dec 27, 2012

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    I joined this website mainly because I feel I can't talk to anyone else about what I'm thinking. This is a good place to vent my frustrations about my life and not be judged or...
    Wednesdayschild15 Wednesdayschild15 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Whats the point? I wish I never existed.
    billthecleric billthecleric 26-30, M 6 days ago

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    Bare with me, its going on 1am in the morning. I'm sitting here in the living room, dark and crying my eyes out. I just need to write this out, because if I don't, I have a feeling...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    I wish I did not exist at all. I am not suicidal but I also feel that I am done living. There is no point to getting up every morning to go about your day, make money, get an...
    Girlincrisis Girlincrisis 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I was born in 1999, and am currently 14 years old. I have always been a talkative and kind person, but a few years ago my step dad and mom got divorce, and I haven't talked to my...
    UnwantedShadow UnwantedShadow 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I have been thinking lately about never having been born and the comfort it may give me. I beleive in an afterlife and beleive we all come here from that plane of existence to...
    CTcitzen CTcitzen 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    All I do is cause stress for my family and am a big sinkhole of wasted resources. My parents would be better off without me.
    skullcracker123456789 skullcracker123456789 16-17, M Mar 18

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    I was brought up with three siblings, the older two hated my father especially the older brother who was from a previous marriage. They egged one another on and accused my father...
    Tigermoth35 Tigermoth35 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    All i had was two flings like 5 years ago. They are even interested in me. I've never had sex. I just want a gf that can hold hands and hug. I never wish for too much. I am willing...
    gitzai gitzai 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 2

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    Very proud of the fact I can say I have never had an STD
    mongo275 mongo275 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I've been sexually active since I was young and I've never had any std and I hate condoms with a passion.
    shadowwolfeut shadowwolfeut 51-55, M 2 Responses Mar 16

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    I've never had a real boyfriend. I had a two week thing with a guy who had not yet come out of the closet. No, not a sex thing. But.. there were some heavy make out sessions. He...
    WhoNeedsNormal WhoNeedsNormal 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    I've never had sex, but I'm willing to do most people. The idea of doing it with a stranger turns me on so much. Does that make me a wh*re?
    Done453 Done453 16-17, F a week ago

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    Its not the fact that i'm a 13 year old who's complaining. But the fact that i'm turning 19 this year and i've never had a boyfriend. Never even been kissed. Or more accurately...
    Lifeshouldsparkle Lifeshouldsparkle 18-21, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend. Not that i'm itching for one. The thing is I don't even have guy friends! I've been in an all-girls school since primary till high school and...
    littlederps littlederps 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    I have never had any guys interested in me and I haven't been kissed..nothing. It makes me very depressed and I think I will be alone my whole life. All of the couples I see makes...
    Ginger135 Ginger135 16-17, F 8 Responses Mar 24

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    I'm 21 and I have never been in a relationship. My father says it's a bad thing I've never had a girlfriend. For a while he thought I was gay. I can tell you I'm definitely not gay...
    mattjrocha mattjrocha 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 3

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    I'm turning 22 this year and I've never had a boyfriend. I just feel like I'm missing out on some big experience of life. Everyone around me has been on relationships or talked to...
    smnthavgeorge smnthavgeorge 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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