I Wish I'd Never Had Children

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    I Want My Old Life Back!

    I have 2 kids, I do love them and do everything for them. But I feel like am nothing any more. Like I have lost my identity. I feel I put all my energy into them that I have nothing for myself. I just wish I knew that I was going to feel this way then I wouldnt have had children...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Oct 13, 2012

    No I'm Not Narcicisstic!

    But yes almost every night I end up crying and wishing I'd never had my kids. I fought hard for my kids. My stepdaughter was being physically and sexually abused. No one would believe me. No one. Now she's grown and she admits to the abuse. But when she was little and couldn't...
    rainbowprophet rainbowprophet
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 1, 2013

    Regret

    I got married when I was 19. 2 years into our marriage I was ready for a divorce. I was stupid and stayed. I knew before hand I never wanted kids. I drew up divorce papers and was ready to walk out the door when I found out I was pregnant. At first I was happy then I had a...
    Notcutouttobe Notcutouttobe
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Aug 3, 2012

    I have a horrific story to tell.

    Sometimes I can't believe this has really been my life. I was a woman who loved kids and always wanted them. Then real life started. My first child was an emergency c-section with fetal distress. A week after she was born we found out she had Turner's Syndrome. My second...
    over50andfried over50andfried
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Mar 11, 2014

    I'd Like To Ask A Question Of This Group:

    I have one child and severely regret having had him. I always wanted to have children and thought that it would "complete" me, and now I see just how wrong I was. Childbirth was torture, and it was only the beginning of the end, but it's for this reason that I chose not to have...
    MyFreedomOfChoice MyFreedomOfChoice
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2012

    3 Kids, No Life.

    I never wanted kids. I grew up wanting an education, a career and to eventually get married so I'd have someone to do things with...spend my life with. Kids were never in the equation. I never played "house" as a kid. Didn't play with dolls (except Barbies, woo!) Well, after...
    MamaDragon MamaDragon
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jul 31, 2012

    My Kids Are Making Me Depressed !

    i have a 1 and 2 year old i'm a stay at home mom with a husband who is a workaholic and doesn't think help him out enough i was sexually abused and necleted by my dad from 7 - 12 then my mom got married after she left my dad and my stepdad had a metal disorder and he would beat...
    danae417 danae417
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 22, 2010

    Probably Shouldnt Have Had Kids

    I've read the other stories here and seems as if all had abusive childhoods. I don't have that excuse. I got pregnant and had the baby against my better judgement. I was depressed and continued to be depressed (fell deeper into it) and thought I'd make a terrible mom. Sure I'm...
    pinkflowers1 pinkflowers1
    36-40, F
    29 Responses Feb 11, 2010

    If I Had One Wish

    Hi everyone, I am 31 years old, and a mother of 3. I had my children when I was pretty young, my first was at the age of 17. I then had twins at the age of 19. I had a pretty rough childhood and didn't even think about what it meant to make choices for myself or my future. It...
    whoihavebecome whoihavebecome
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Oct 12, 2013

    How Can I Feel This Way???

    After my divorce I had three teenage kids.  The emotional pieces to pick up after his abusive behavior and then complete and literal abandonment was at times overwhelming.  I had no love or support from family or understanding for that matter, just criticism. ...
    luv2hikegirl luv2hikegirl
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

    Thank You All For Sharing.

    I am a 32yo child free male and I had a vasectomy 12 days ago. I always realized that kids weren't for me and I always thought that there was something wrong with me. The reality of having kids became quite clear when I read about your experiences. Now I will be retiring at the...
    asrockct asrockct
    31-35
    6 Responses Nov 6, 2013

    Living In Hell

    We were thrilled to have a baby, it was the most wonderful thing, until later when we realized he had Aspergers, ocd and anxiety.  My life has been hell since he was about 4 or 5, with the meltdowns weird thought patterns and ocd.  He is 15 now and most days I wish I never woke...
    dsky8 dsky8
    51-55
    6 Responses May 6, 2012

    Why Not Give Them Up For Adoption?

    So, I came across this board by googling, and I guess it's made me want kids less and less. However, I am wondering why some of you don't just give your kids up for adoption? It seems like it would be a good solution, and you could have the childless life you wish you could have...
    dpab dpab
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 1, 2013

    Suffocated

    Lets start by the fact that I married young..got divorced..met my sons father...broke up and married again. I have a 7 yr old who is ruining my life with his behavior. And a 4 yr old that is following Closely in his foot steps. Today was a bad day. We went to lunch and they...
    lostmom22 lostmom22
    31-35
    1 Response Oct 13, 2012

    A Message From A(nother) Childfree Teen

    The first thing I want to say is I am not making fun of anybody. Please don't think that. I just have something I want to share and I think it fits here (somehow). I would never mock somebody's hardships, let alone kick them while they're down. Thank you for sharing your stories...
    BelleofApril BelleofApril
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 9, 2012

    Don't Know That I Regret Having Kids Because There's So Much Love But Aaahhhh!!!! I Hate It Most Of The Time.

    I always knew I wanted kids but I think more for selfish reasons...passing on my excellent genetic material! hehe I don't think anyone could have talked me out of it but as soon as I got the first one home from the hospital I knew things had changed forever, and for the worse. No...
    kep308 kep308
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Nov 27, 2012

    I Should Not Have Had Children... And Mine Are Grown

    I had a wonderful childhood. I worked hard to be a good parent. I loved my children like CRAZY! We did all sorts of enriching activities with them. We took wonderful day trips to museums, hikes in nature, and vacations to see my loving family. They have relatives who are solid...
    JanetMary JanetMary
    56-60, F
    12 Responses Apr 11, 2012

    Grown Sons-No Relationship

    I am writing for support. I don't need condemnation. I do that very well. I graduated from college and married my high school sweetheart. We wanted children very much. After two years and a very high risk pregnancy, we had our first son. He was beautiful and the light of my life...
    HeartbrokenandForgotten HeartbrokenandForgotten
    51-55, F
    11 Responses Oct 16, 2013

    I Wish I Never Had Children!

    I feel the same way. I have 2 kids. I am so sick of everyone saying how precious this time is and how they grow up so fast. I feel that they can't grow up fast enough. I also have thought that other moms must be lying or fooling themselves when they say that parenthood is the...
    parentingsucks parentingsucks
    36-40, F
    69 Responses Nov 2, 2010

    Can't Enjoy My Children

    Unlike a lot of group members here I am incredibly lucky. I have an amazing husband who is a wonderful father. My 2 kids aged 5 & 1 are both lovely. We both have good jobs and don't struggle too much for money. Our house is lovely and we live in a great area. So wtf is my problem...
    Scarlettsea Scarlettsea
    31-35
    5 Responses Dec 27, 2012

    I sometimes wish I had never had children too.

    I started out relatively early. I was 20 when I had my daughter and 24 when I had my son. My daughters father was abusive in every way. My plan was to give her up for adoption, but her father would not let me. He told me he would try to get custody of her and he would not...
    BBMS BBMS
    46-50, F
    Mar 30, 2014

    I Wish I Never Had Kids

    I don't say this to many people - only my bf knows I feel this way. I have two kids, and I love them very much, but if i could turn back the hands of time I never would have had them. I would go a step further and say I would never have agreed to meet the man that is their father...
    ninaballerina65 ninaballerina65
    41-45, F
    10 Responses Mar 28, 2011

    I Love My Kids, But Geez!!!

    I love my kids, even my stepkid, but I never realized I would suck so much at parenting. I was abused sexually, verbally, psychologically, only a little bit physically I guess, but pretty egregiously neglected much of the early childhood years (before the sexual violence started...
    anattama anattama
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Jun 4, 2009

    Wasted Time

    I spent my youth raising my 3 children. I have driven so many miles to soccer and basketball and football and cheerleading and plays and on and on. I volunteered at the school. I was a brownie troop leader. I read to my kids and made sure they got their shots and visits to the...
    honeyhoneycoop honeyhoneycoop
    66-70
    10 Responses Oct 15, 2010

    I Should've Been Smarter

    WHen I was younger I always had issues with confidence and the constant need for love. I never got it much at home, so a new boyfriend was always the answer for me. Sex was love for me.. and I spent most of my teens convincing myself that my boyfriends loved me and the sex was...
    brecrutch101 brecrutch101
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 14, 2012

    www - IdoNOTwantKids - com = CHILDFREE dating

    I hope this isn't considered spam, but I REALLY think the link should be provided somewhere on this site:www . IdoNOTwantKids . com It is a 100% free dating site strictly for people that do NOT have or want kids.  Unlike all the other dating sites, this site is specifically for...
    IdoNOTwantKids IdoNOTwantKids
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 12, 2012

    A Note From A Childfree Teen

    To everyone on here who despises their decisions to parent ant for all of you who are troubled and upset in your lives, I am sorry. I truly hope that not every day is a living hell, and that something goes right and you have a chance at happiness, whether that involves giving...
    MomoIsCFBC MomoIsCFBC
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Mar 28, 2012

    Feel Trapped

    I love my kids in my own way, but I wish I hadn't had them.I was abused as a kid. Basically, growing up my life was ruled by my crazy, abusive mother. She isolated me from my peers, beat me, you name it. She even tried to choke me once and also tried to hit me...
    zippydippy81 zippydippy81
    31-35
    4 Responses Jan 14, 2010

    It Started With One Pregnancy

    I got pregnant for the first time on or about my 26th birthday. I had met a man six months before who came into my life in a way that made all my apparent screw-ups before seem meaningful in that they must have led me to him. Yes, it really was that good. When I saw one pink line...
    lemc25 lemc25
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2013

    I was seventeen when I got pregnant -- My

    boyfriend (at the timetook me from abortion clinic to abortion clinic trying to get me to have an abortion as I cried and begged to keep my baby (little did I know) Once she was born, he and his family took me to court and tried to have her put up for adoption - again I begged...
    BrookeandAJSUCK BrookeandAJSUCK
    51-55
    3 Responses Jul 26, 2014

    I'm 30 and feel like I'm missing out

    because all my friends have kids and a partner.Reading all your stories makes me feel better
    Confused848 Confused848
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 15, 2015

    Hi. Just joined this site

    and this topic is the reason why I did. I have 3 bio kids, 5 total including my grown stepkids. I have always considered myself a mother first, and everything else second. But with the three oldest now grown or practically grown, I am rethinking my whole life plan. In the...
    lahammar lahammar
    31-35, F
    Mar 23

    Never Know What You're Going To Get...

    if I take on a task I will give 110% & do it well. always. so I have provided her with the very best, coddled her, traveled with her, taught her, supported her in every way, including making her little ego feel important. because that's also part of the deal, you know. you have...
    annabee3 annabee3
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Dec 17, 2012

    Still Got Time....

    im 21 years old i found out recently that im pregnant..... 6 weeks today..... im terrified to be honest..... my partner and i have been debating the idea but i know hes sold on keeping the baby, me? i have good days i feel positive and think yeah i could do it i guess today is...
    jom91 jom91
    18-21
    8 Responses Jan 17, 2013

    Oh where to start....

    I got married when I was 20. (I'm 27 now, about to be 28). For the past 7 years it has been just me and my husband. So, here goes my tale. My brother got a POS knocked up, and neither of them could take care of their child. They just didn't have a responsible bone in their bodies...
    factsarefacts factsarefacts
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 26, 2014

    Amen Sisters!

    My username is Finallyat50 because I have been looking for a group of people like this for 21 years. Let me be clear...I love my kids. I just hate being a parent. For me, it is nothing but fear, pain, and guilt. I find no joy in parenting. It is a prison. Perhaps because I...
    finallyat50 finallyat50
    51-55, F
    8 Responses Apr 17, 2013
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