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I Wish People Understood "taken In Hand"

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    I Think Some Of You Women Want To Role Play, I Assure You There Is A Difference...

    My daddy (nick) and I have been together for 9 years, practicing our d/d lifestyle for all 9 of those years, and i just last year decided (after asking daddy of course) if i could write about it on ep, which he allowed only if he could read what i had written beofre publishing it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    Didn'T Know It Had A Name 2

    I wrote some time ago about how our TIH relationship started ("Didn't know it had a name"), but I'm adding a bit to fill in some gaps in case anyone is interested. My wife has an older sister who lives across the country and they are in almost constant contact via Skype...
    Secondsun Secondsun 51-55, M Jan 27, 2013

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    How I Have Benefited From Being Taken In Hand

    There's nothing that annoys me more than to read comments that tell me that my relationship is abusive and damaging because I have first hand experience and understanding that this is simply not true. I have benefited enormously from domestic discipline but have never shared how...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Seems So Natural...

    I have only very recently learned what a Taken In Hand relationship is all about. This seems so natural to me. As a child, I found the greatest comfort in the mutual respect I had with my father. He was (and still is) everything a father should be. In my marriage I wanted...
    Rosalinn Rosalinn 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 21, 2012

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    I Bratted Tonight And....

    I wish I had not! Lol so my hubby and I are brand new to the CDD lifestyle we have been doing this for 4 days now and he has been maintenance spanking me in the mornings before he leaves for work and they really hurt and it has been softing my heart and making me want to Be...
    SHB1983 SHB1983 26-30, F 23 Responses Mar 5, 2011

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    I Wish...

    I wish we didn't have to hide our marital principles from our family and friends. They would have a better understanding of my own metimorphasis. Our taken in hand marriage has changed many aspects of my behavior for the better. Even the closest people in my life Have noticed...
    Klt3shottie Klt3shottie 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    Taken In Hand Relationships Are Not Abusive

    I absolutely love that my Husband is strong, confident and that he leads our relationship. I love to feel his strength, his reassurance and his dominance. This is never felt stronger than when he is disciplining me.It drives me crazy when ignorant, misguided people who have...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 31 Responses Nov 15, 2011

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    My Husband Spanks Me Regularly

    I've been married to my husband John for 17 years and we adopted a voluntary sub-dom approach to our marriage pretty soon after. He told he wanted to be dominant and take control while I was submissive and followed his instructions. He explained that he didn't want to use the sob...
    Polly88 Polly88 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 13, 2011

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    People Are So Scared Of What They Dont Understand...

    My husband and I have been in a dd relationship for almost 10 years now...and I will tell you well be together till one of us passes and I am very confident of that fact...wanna know why? Because com husbands are happy husbands, they don't ask for anything unreasonable and they...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 1, 2012

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    How My Tih Relationship Began

    I would like to tell you about the night my Taken In Hand relationship began. It was on my birthday a few years ago. I had been on an emotional roller coaster for close to a year, as my dad had been diagnosed with cancer, went through treatments, surgery and eventually passed...
    jerseygerl jerseygerl 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Understanding Taken In Hand ,,,,,,

    I have been learning and searching for a few years now to find who I am and what I am as far as relationships go, I have always been naturally submissive.  Society has taught that it is weak for a women to be that way and that women are equal to men in all areas. I...
    bettygirl45 bettygirl45 46-50, F 17 Responses Jul 19, 2010

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    My Hero

    At my work place, all the ladies -most of them are divorced mature women- are "in love" with my hubby. They adore how he is constantly checking on me, his respectful and loving ways, his support with the children, how he takes care of everything... Last week I had a stomach ache...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    Advice And Gameplan

    My husband and I are exploring TiH/ DD relationship. While we play with BDSM and M/S in our sexlife, we are seeing if a full HOH relationship would extend our connection. I love when my husband controls & beats me. I often feel like I need to serve him to care for him as a...
    MrsRMac MrsRMac 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    I'm A Novice Submissive Looking For Guidance.

    My name is Mary and I'm a submissive. In day to day life I think of myself as a strong and independent woman. When it comes to the erotic, to sexual things though, I find myself feeling - wanting to be - submissive to a man, to be a good little girl who does as she's told. I want...
    Mary26 Mary26 26-30, F Dec 31, 2011

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    My Punishment!

    My husband andi are recently new to the dd lifestyle, and I can't seem to get a handle on myself. I keep opening my mouth when I ought to shut it, I keep failing to complete all my chores on my daily lists, I keep slamming the front door, being disrespectful or rude to my husband...
    Ddgirl219 Ddgirl219 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 30, 2012

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    My TIH Journey

    There is so much to do! I am actively working on shaping my relationship with a woman I love so dearly. We practice a loving relationship but it is not 100% TIH. There are some aspects of the TIH I completely agree with and others where I am a bit dubious, either because I am not...
    wes4617 wes4617 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    He's Not So Sure About This Lifestyle. How Can I Convince Him?

    i was hinting in the direction of my wanting this lifstyle.. he's not so sure. he doesn't really seem to get it. he says that he doesn't want to be my crutch... help!
    subwife21 subwife21 26-30, F 8 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    Spanked Over Text And Facebook Addiction

    My husband of 3 years has told me many times, quite nicely, that I spend too much time texting and on Facebook. A couple of days ago, I was on Facebook and he told me that I needed to get off of the computer and do something more constructive. I got very angry with him, said that...
    WarmBottom WarmBottom 36-40, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    Living Taken In The Hand With Dd

    It's just as so many have said before, two people can't lead while dancing, so it is the same with marriage. One person leads the other follows. Don't get me wrong, it's not like the husband does all the decision making behind the wife's back. Although there are probably some...
    Hasehdgdl Hasehdgdl 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    Friends In TIH

    My husband and I were talking about our group of friends. All though they are great, Id like to meet new friends. Friends with the same lifestyle. None of ourfriends are married or have kids. So its hard to get together most time with people who understand the married life with...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2013

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    It Just Feels Right....

    Having recently reevaluated what I want in a relationship, what has worked for me in the past, my natural confidence and leadership traits, I have taken a keen interest in this concept of "Taken In Hand". I never knew there was a name for it, I didn't really realize, both what I...
    1LonelyXHubby 1LonelyXHubby 56-60, M 8 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Didn't Know It Had A Name

    During our marriage my wife and I have had our problems, and the last two years especially he hasn't been happy, been bossy, and generally been a *****. It came out in a heated argument that she had always wanted me to take control. She wanted limits and such. I'm a laid back...
    Secondsun Secondsun 51-55, M 4 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    Questionable

    Not sure I understand this taken in hand relationship. Iam not too comfortable and not sure what to do about it or my feelings....
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 10, 2012

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    The Only Women I Could Beat The **** Out Of..................

    Interesting title huh> For some of you, this story is not going to be what you expected, its nto even a story really, i like to think of it as a statement. This is a conversation beetween myself and another member of ep. youneeda said: hey skeater: 'silencedshy' and I shared 2...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    I surely cannot be the only one who has ever had a dream or ever found a profession that they absolutely loved. I have always loved animals, they make me happy and I feel that...
    Dollface493 Dollface493 18-21, F Mar 20

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    I don't know, like I wish people would whisper to other people as they say me and go, "Oh my god she is SO pretty!" I wish they would come up to me and tell me how gorgeous I am...
    SeanaO SeanaO 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I wish people would stop saying that my parents aren't strict and all of this bullshit, you don't know me or my parents, so it's none of your ******* business. Sorry. I honestly...
    dontfeartheripper dontfeartheripper 13-15, F Mar 28

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    I wish people saw through my eyes. The images that I find on ceilings are so hard to explain to people because I feel like they don't have as much imagination as I feel they would...
    Diana14R Diana14R 18-21, F Apr 3

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    Sometimes it literally just hurts me hearing things that people say to each other. I think I just feel too much for other people and it's probably not good for me because it's all...
    Destrxctive Destrxctive 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    I really do wish people would realize the type of damage they can do to someone, the pain they can inflict with actions such as lying, cheating , stealing . whatever their dirty...
    Briinx Briinx 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    Really. I mean, nice to know you "Stay Up Late" when it's obvious enough it's already 2 in the morning where you at, but I really wish people would really have the energy to...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 Mar 20

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    Strays: The different colors of paints splattered all over the place. A hand slithers through colors with definite grace The deepening reds upon the ceiling wall Can not be...
    JohnsonJess JohnsonJess 18-21, F Apr 8

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    Strays: The different colors of paints splattered all over the place. A hand slithers through colors with definite grace The deepening reds upon the ceiling wall Can not be...
    JohnsonJess JohnsonJess 18-21, F Apr 8

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    Strays: The different colors of paints splattered all over the place. A hand slithers through colors with definite grace The deepening reds upon the ceiling wall Can not be...
    JohnsonJess JohnsonJess 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Beliefs I've live my four score and ten and I certainly believe in a god. I've been raised a Christian my whole life and I have struggled with what I did or didn't believe when...
    SuperFisherMan SuperFisherMan 66-70, M 3 Responses Apr 10

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    Don't people realize that if they could learn not to hurt people there wouldn't be as much evil in the world? Maybe some people would have complete family's, some people wouldn't...
    Awakened92 Awakened92 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    Wish they would see what im going through
    ezzyrock ezzyrock 13-15, F Mar 30

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    I hate when someone talks behind your back and you can hear everything they're saying about you but you pretend as if you don't. I hate being treated like dirt. I wish I had a...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    Right now I really feel like people don't give me the credit I deserve. I'm currently working in job positions that do not require any college education yet I have a psychology...
    betweenlustandlove betweenlustandlove 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    The ladies I work with are very nice and mean well, but I wish they would leave me alone. My job is going soon and I'm in the middle of my separation just trying to sort things out...
    bahalana75 bahalana75 36-40, F Apr 2

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    While I certainly respect the views, opinions, and experiences expressed on this site, one thing seems to be amiss. Not Many write about what it is like to lose a loved one due to...
    fallencub74 fallencub74 36-40, M Apr 4

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    My mom is being an absolute b*tch right now. She is literally attacking everyone like it's a huge deal. I didn't hear the kids fighting. I don't know why she started getting...
    PitchDaffy PitchDaffy 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    Just think how much easier life would be if people did come with warning labels. It would surely save you from certain things such as drama.
    breeziebee breeziebee 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    My best friend dosent have the self confidence she should .She is a good warm sincere person who has a lot of love to give but is very shy and unable to be open with the people she...
    Nevergonnagiveuup Nevergonnagiveuup 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    See the beauty in things as well as people. I try to look for positive things and try to focus less on the negative things. It's been a hard transition when you're born and raised...
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    today when I was in school, this kid was sat by the stairs crying and nobody even noticed him. He was only little and he had this big bruise on his face and it made me feel sick...
    JustTiggz JustTiggz 16-17, F 12 Responses Apr 2

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    I was just on youtube listening to a music playlist, and Justin Beiber's 'Baby' came on. I actually quite like the song, I like Justin's music on the whole but I'm not a fan. I...
    T4RD15 T4RD15 26-30 1 Response Apr 9

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    I know people don't always mean it but they ignore me. The rare instances that I speak, I'm spoken over. My friend lose track if me. That's pretty normal because of my small...
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids 13-15, F Apr 10

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    Why don't people seek the truth anymore? Why depend on google for answers?
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M a week ago

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    Some people take life too seriously on here. I suggest they take a walk through a cancer ward one day and know what a real problem is in life. I am sick of all the BS on here...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Why are there people who are too insensitive for the feelings of others?!..you show kindness but still they hurt you..you chose not to fight back and understand them but still they...
    shalei shalei 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Spent years in sexless marriage, got fat, lost confidence and endure the hell of an ever increasing sex drive...but I do nothing about it. I don't date and only leave the house...
    Free247 Free247 36-40, F Apr 10

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    This world would be so different if everyone was trustworthy.