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I Wish People Understood "taken In Hand"

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 485 People

    How I Have Benefited From Being Taken In Hand

    There's nothing that annoys me more than to read comments that tell me that my relationship is abusive and damaging because I have first hand experience and understanding that this is simply not true. I have benefited enormously from domestic discipline but have never shared how...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

    I'm A Novice Submissive Looking For Guidance.

    My name is Mary and I'm a submissive. In day to day life I think of myself as a strong and independent woman. When it comes to the erotic, to sexual things though, I find myself feeling - wanting to be - submissive to a man, to be a good little girl who does as she's told. I want...
    Mary26 Mary26
    26-30, F
    Dec 31, 2011

    Spanked Over Text And Facebook Addiction

    My husband of 3 years has told me many times, quite nicely, that I spend too much time texting and on Facebook. A couple of days ago, I was on Facebook and he told me that I needed to get off of the computer and do something more constructive. I got very angry with him, said that...
    WarmBottom WarmBottom
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 11, 2012

    The Only Women I Could Beat The **** Out Of..................

    Interesting title huh> For some of you, this story is not going to be what you expected, its nto even a story really, i like to think of it as a statement. This is a conversation beetween myself and another member of ep. youneeda said: hey skeater: 'silencedshy' and I shared 2...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 22, 2013

    My TIH Journey

    There is so much to do! I am actively working on shaping my relationship with a woman I love so dearly. We practice a loving relationship but it is not 100% TIH. There are some aspects of the TIH I completely agree with and others where I am a bit dubious, either because I am not...
    wes4617 wes4617
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Jan 9, 2012

    My Punishment!

    My husband andi are recently new to the dd lifestyle, and I can't seem to get a handle on myself. I keep opening my mouth when I ought to shut it, I keep failing to complete all my chores on my daily lists, I keep slamming the front door, being disrespectful or rude to my husband...
    Ddgirl219 Ddgirl219
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 30, 2012

    He's Not So Sure About This Lifestyle. How Can I Convince Him?

    i was hinting in the direction of my wanting this lifstyle.. he's not so sure. he doesn't really seem to get it. he says that he doesn't want to be my crutch... help!
    subwife21 subwife21
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Feb 19, 2012

    Understanding Taken In Hand ,,,,,,

    I have been learning and searching for a few years now to find who I am and what I am as far as relationships go, I have always been naturally submissive.  Society has taught that it is weak for a women to be that way and that women are equal to men in all areas. I...
    bettygirl45 bettygirl45
    46-50, F
    12 Responses Jul 19, 2010

    Living Taken In The Hand With Dd

    It's just as so many have said before, two people can't lead while dancing, so it is the same with marriage. One person leads the other follows. Don't get me wrong, it's not like the husband does all the decision making behind the wife's back. Although there are probably some...
    Hasehdgdl Hasehdgdl
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 7, 2012


    Not sure I understand this taken in hand relationship. Iam not too comfortable and not sure what to do about it or my feelings....
    deleted deleted
    Jun 10, 2012

    I Bratted Tonight And....

    I wish I had not! Lol so my hubby and I are brand new to the CDD lifestyle we have been doing this for 4 days now and he has been maintenance spanking me in the mornings before he leaves for work and they really hurt and it has been softing my heart and making me want to Be...
    SHB1983 SHB1983
    26-30, F
    22 Responses Mar 5, 2011

    A New Beginning! With DD,

    communication is key. We have proven this time and time again. However, I truly feel this time we turned a new leaf. We sat down twice this week to go over things and make new rules. Then after the first time, I made a list of things to go over. We talked about each thing in...
    silencedshy silencedshy
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 15, 2015

    My Hero

    At my work place, all the ladies -most of them are divorced mature women- are "in love" with my hubby. They adore how he is constantly checking on me, his respectful and loving ways, his support with the children, how he takes care of everything... Last week I had a stomach ache...
    anonimacy anonimacy
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Jul 22, 2012

    Advice And Gameplan

    My husband and I are exploring TiH/ DD relationship. While we play with BDSM and M/S in our sexlife, we are seeing if a full HOH relationship would extend our connection. I love when my husband controls & beats me. I often feel like I need to serve him to care for him as a...
    MrsRMac MrsRMac
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 4, 2012

    It Just Feels Right....

    Having recently reevaluated what I want in a relationship, what has worked for me in the past, my natural confidence and leadership traits, I have taken a keen interest in this concept of "Taken In Hand". I never knew there was a name for it, I didn't really realize, both what I...
    1LonelyXHubby 1LonelyXHubby
    56-60, M
    6 Responses Jan 8, 2012

    People Are So Scared Of What They Dont Understand...

    My husband and I have been in a dd relationship for almost 10 years now...and I will tell you well be together till one of us passes and I am very confident of that fact...wanna know why? Because com husbands are happy husbands, they don't ask for anything unreasonable and they...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Dec 1, 2012

    This is so misunderstood by society,

    .like most things that are different and is by far the best of BDSM and D/s relationships in my mind. I love all aspects of TIH.
    Kman4You Kman4You
    36-40, M
    Apr 6, 2015

    Friends In TIH

    My husband and I were talking about our group of friends. All though they are great, Id like to meet new friends. Friends with the same lifestyle. None of ourfriends are married or have kids. So its hard to get together most time with people who understand the married life with...
    silencedshy silencedshy
    26-30, F
    Jan 25, 2013

    Seems So Natural...

    I have only very recently learned what a Taken In Hand relationship is all about. This seems so natural to me. As a child, I found the greatest comfort in the mutual respect I had with my father. He was (and still is) everything a father should be. In my marriage I wanted...
    Rosalinn Rosalinn
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jul 21, 2012

    I Think Some Of You Women Want To Role Play, I Assure You There Is A Difference...

    My daddy (nick) and I have been together for 9 years, practicing our d/d lifestyle for all 9 of those years, and i just last year decided (after asking daddy of course) if i could write about it on ep, which he allowed only if he could read what i had written beofre publishing it...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Dec 4, 2012

    I Wish...

    I wish we didn't have to hide our marital principles from our family and friends. They would have a better understanding of my own metimorphasis. Our taken in hand marriage has changed many aspects of my behavior for the better. Even the closest people in my life Have noticed...
    Klt3shottie Klt3shottie
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Feb 9, 2011

    Taken In Hand Relationships Are Not Abusive

    I absolutely love that my Husband is strong, confident and that he leads our relationship. I love to feel his strength, his reassurance and his dominance. This is never felt stronger than when he is disciplining me.It drives me crazy when ignorant, misguided people who have...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    32 Responses Nov 15, 2011

    How My Tih Relationship Began

    I would like to tell you about the night my Taken In Hand relationship began. It was on my birthday a few years ago. I had been on an emotional roller coaster for close to a year, as my dad had been diagnosed with cancer, went through treatments, surgery and eventually passed...
    jerseygerl jerseygerl
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 12, 2012

    My Husband Spanks Me Regularly

    I've been married to my husband John for 17 years and we adopted a voluntary sub-dom approach to our marriage pretty soon after. He told he wanted to be dominant and take control while I was submissive and followed his instructions. He explained that he didn't want to use the sob...
    Polly88 Polly88
    41-45, F
    14 Responses Apr 13, 2011
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