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I Wish People Understood "taken In Hand"

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 468 People

    Advice And Gameplan

    My husband and I are exploring TiH/ DD relationship. While we play with BDSM and M/S in our sexlife, we are seeing if a full HOH relationship would extend our connection. I love when my husband controls & beats me. I often feel like I need to serve him to care for him as a...
    MrsRMac MrsRMac 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    My Punishment!

    My husband andi are recently new to the dd lifestyle, and I can't seem to get a handle on myself. I keep opening my mouth when I ought to shut it, I keep failing to complete all my chores on my daily lists, I keep slamming the front door, being disrespectful or rude to my husband...
    Ddgirl219 Ddgirl219 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 30, 2012

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    Living Taken In The Hand With Dd

    It's just as so many have said before, two people can't lead while dancing, so it is the same with marriage. One person leads the other follows. Don't get me wrong, it's not like the husband does all the decision making behind the wife's back. Although there are probably some...
    Hasehdgdl Hasehdgdl 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    I Wish...

    I wish we didn't have to hide our marital principles from our family and friends. They would have a better understanding of my own metimorphasis. Our taken in hand marriage has changed many aspects of my behavior for the better. Even the closest people in my life Have noticed...
    Klt3shottie Klt3shottie 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    My Husband Spanks Me Regularly

    I've been married to my husband John for 17 years and we adopted a voluntary sub-dom approach to our marriage pretty soon after. He told he wanted to be dominant and take control while I was submissive and followed his instructions. He explained that he didn't want to use the sob...
    Polly88 Polly88 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 13, 2011

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    It Just Feels Right....

    Having recently reevaluated what I want in a relationship, what has worked for me in the past, my natural confidence and leadership traits, I have taken a keen interest in this concept of "Taken In Hand". I never knew there was a name for it, I didn't really realize, both what I...
    1LonelyXHubby 1LonelyXHubby 56-60, M 8 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Spanked Over Text And Facebook Addiction

    My husband of 3 years has told me many times, quite nicely, that I spend too much time texting and on Facebook. A couple of days ago, I was on Facebook and he told me that I needed to get off of the computer and do something more constructive. I got very angry with him, said that...
    WarmBottom WarmBottom 36-40, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    People Are So Scared Of What They Dont Understand...

    My husband and I have been in a dd relationship for almost 10 years now...and I will tell you well be together till one of us passes and I am very confident of that fact...wanna know why? Because com husbands are happy husbands, they don't ask for anything unreasonable and they...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 1, 2012

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    The Only Women I Could Beat The **** Out Of..................

    Interesting title huh> For some of you, this story is not going to be what you expected, its nto even a story really, i like to think of it as a statement. This is a conversation beetween myself and another member of ep. youneeda said: hey skeater: 'silencedshy' and I shared 2...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    Didn'T Know It Had A Name 2

    I wrote some time ago about how our TIH relationship started ("Didn't know it had a name"), but I'm adding a bit to fill in some gaps in case anyone is interested. My wife has an older sister who lives across the country and they are in almost constant contact via Skype...
    Secondsun Secondsun 51-55, M Jan 27, 2013

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    Seems So Natural...

    I have only very recently learned what a Taken In Hand relationship is all about. This seems so natural to me. As a child, I found the greatest comfort in the mutual respect I had with my father. He was (and still is) everything a father should be. In my marriage I wanted...
    Rosalinn Rosalinn 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 21, 2012

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    How My Tih Relationship Began

    I would like to tell you about the night my Taken In Hand relationship began. It was on my birthday a few years ago. I had been on an emotional roller coaster for close to a year, as my dad had been diagnosed with cancer, went through treatments, surgery and eventually passed...
    jerseygerl jerseygerl 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Friends In TIH

    My husband and I were talking about our group of friends. All though they are great, Id like to meet new friends. Friends with the same lifestyle. None of ourfriends are married or have kids. So its hard to get together most time with people who understand the married life with...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2013

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    Questionable

    Not sure I understand this taken in hand relationship. Iam not too comfortable and not sure what to do about it or my feelings....
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 10, 2012

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    My TIH Journey

    There is so much to do! I am actively working on shaping my relationship with a woman I love so dearly. We practice a loving relationship but it is not 100% TIH. There are some aspects of the TIH I completely agree with and others where I am a bit dubious, either because I am not...
    wes4617 wes4617 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    Didn't Know It Had A Name

    During our marriage my wife and I have had our problems, and the last two years especially he hasn't been happy, been bossy, and generally been a *****. It came out in a heated argument that she had always wanted me to take control. She wanted limits and such. I'm a laid back...
    Secondsun Secondsun 51-55, M 3 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    I'm A Novice Submissive Looking For Guidance.

    My name is Mary and I'm a submissive. In day to day life I think of myself as a strong and independent woman. When it comes to the erotic, to sexual things though, I find myself feeling - wanting to be - submissive to a man, to be a good little girl who does as she's told. I want...
    Mary26 Mary26 26-30, F Dec 31, 2011

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    Taken In Hand Relationships Are Not Abusive

    I absolutely love that my Husband is strong, confident and that he leads our relationship. I love to feel his strength, his reassurance and his dominance. This is never felt stronger than when he is disciplining me.It drives me crazy when ignorant, misguided people who have...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 31 Responses Nov 15, 2011

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    I Think Some Of You Women Want To Role Play, I Assure You There Is A Difference...

    My daddy (nick) and I have been together for 9 years, practicing our d/d lifestyle for all 9 of those years, and i just last year decided (after asking daddy of course) if i could write about it on ep, which he allowed only if he could read what i had written beofre publishing it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    He's Not So Sure About This Lifestyle. How Can I Convince Him?

    i was hinting in the direction of my wanting this lifstyle.. he's not so sure. he doesn't really seem to get it. he says that he doesn't want to be my crutch... help!
    subwife21 subwife21 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    I Bratted Tonight And....

    I wish I had not! Lol so my hubby and I are brand new to the CDD lifestyle we have been doing this for 4 days now and he has been maintenance spanking me in the mornings before he leaves for work and they really hurt and it has been softing my heart and making me want to Be...
    SHB1983 SHB1983 26-30, F 22 Responses Mar 5, 2011

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    Understanding Taken In Hand ,,,,,,

    I have been learning and searching for a few years now to find who I am and what I am as far as relationships go, I have always been naturally submissive.  Society has taught that it is weak for a women to be that way and that women are equal to men in all areas. I...
    bettygirl45 bettygirl45 46-50, F 17 Responses Jul 19, 2010

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    My Hero

    At my work place, all the ladies -most of them are divorced mature women- are "in love" with my hubby. They adore how he is constantly checking on me, his respectful and loving ways, his support with the children, how he takes care of everything... Last week I had a stomach ache...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    How I Have Benefited From Being Taken In Hand

    There's nothing that annoys me more than to read comments that tell me that my relationship is abusive and damaging because I have first hand experience and understanding that this is simply not true. I have benefited enormously from domestic discipline but have never shared how...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Prove always say they'd rather have one true friend then a bunch of aqantencies I wish I had some I have one true friend been friends for 17 yrs wouldn't give her up for anything...
    unluckyiguess unluckyiguess 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Yeah.. I wish. But wishes never come true for me..
    WhySufferxx WhySufferxx 13-15, M 2 Responses Sep 1

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    i have been experiencing some rotten people that i thought was my friends, my best friends.... but they just abandonned me at the time where i needed them.... they left me at the...
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    I try to be patient with my coworkers because I learned that being frustrated with them only creates unnecessary tension ( exception to constructive criticism , or absolutely need...
    romi777 romi777 31-35, F Aug 24

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    All my life my parents would finish my sentences to translate in a way that would get me in trouble or take what I say and twist it to put me down. I hate when people who barely...
    wintershawl wintershawl 36-40, F Aug 31

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    I opened a newspaper (with the intention to actually read it O.O) for the first time in a long while. I'm Scottish, so it is one of the popular Scottish papers. I was absolutely...
    abracakyle abracakyle 22-25, M Sep 5

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    What happened? There used to be a time were people will do good deeds for each other all the time! But now everyone seems like a bully. I think to world would be more at peace if...
    PaleUglyStar PaleUglyStar 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 22

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    Ok I've reached the end of EP for me. A friend that I had been talking to out of the blue just blocked me. It hurts bc we just chatted last night! I don't get it. I put too much...
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    Would stop acting so damn self righteous and judging people over petty ****, like they're some kind of sinless Christ like person. As if, some words to those people. Sorry to be...
    HeyIThappens HeyIThappens 18-21 5 days ago

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    I honestly can not stand it when people start talking over you because you said something and they don't let you finish t is quite frustrating and annoying
    EnvyTheGinger EnvyTheGinger 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    You will be shocked when you discover how easy it is in life to part ways with people forever. That's why when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it.
    charmee26 charmee26 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 7

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    One time I asked a question on MyFitnessPal about fasting. It turns out the people on there are all pretentious snobs who think they are fecking Gods gift to nutrition. I've never...
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    Like c'mon, really? xD God knows how old you are yet you decide to sit behind a computer screen and troll another group of people that have nothing to do with you. Hahaha Your...
    TheOnlySmartKing TheOnlySmartKing 16-17, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Us humans are selfish animals, forcing people into the world into growing up to being productive and submissive or we could care less about them. A conditional existsnce...
    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 23 hrs ago

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    I always find it easier and more interesting when i develop my own curiosity about something and research it on my own. Than when the teacher gives me instructions to carry out...
    silentkev silentkev 22-25, M Aug 22

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    What you did hurt me in so many ways and when I confronted you about it, all you ever say is I'm trying to start ****. No, I'm unhappy in the relationship and I want a change. But...
    Togepi07 Togepi07 18-21, F Aug 24

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    ...First bf gets mad bc he has to take a day off to watch our son bc our son is ill & the sitter is too. THEN he's mad because I'm sick & he decides to work tonight. Is this how it...
    mistypop182 mistypop182 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 27

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    But. They will be. Few can be as awesome as me. And even i block some here. Lol.
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    Happy birthday to retired jockey Jerry Bailey who turns 57 today. Also born today singer Dinah Washington(1924) and actress Ingrid Bergman(1915).
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    Happy birthday in heaven to the splendid splinter HOFER Ted Williams(1918-2002) of the Boston Red Sox.The greatest hitter to ever live! Williams served both in WW2 and Korea. He...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Aug 30

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    Happy birthday in heaven to the great actor Alan Ladd who was born on this date in1913. He was the star of probably the greatest western ever made: SHANE, a must see!!!
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Sep 3

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    And mean what they say.After all actions speak louder than words.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    WARNING:I have a tendency to be deceitful and lie a lot you would be better off staying away, this should have been some Of my so called friends labels!
    Cutetyl Cutetyl 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    Happy birthday in heaven to singer Patsy Cline born on this date in 1932.
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Sep 8

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    👼Never get tired of doing little things to others,because those little things may mean so much to them💖big sweet smile for you all☺️
    Serenita Serenita 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    Born on this date in 1934, baseball and NY Yankee's great Roger Maris. Also born in 1915, the great actor Edmond O'Brien who will be forever remembered for the great film noir, D.O...
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