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I Wish People Understood "taken In Hand"

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 460 People

    Seems So Natural...

    I have only very recently learned what a Taken In Hand relationship is all about. This seems so natural to me. As a child, I found the greatest comfort in the mutual respect I had with my father. He was (and still is) everything a father should be. In my marriage I wanted...
    Rosalinn Rosalinn 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 21, 2012

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    Advice And Gameplan

    My husband and I are exploring TiH/ DD relationship. While we play with BDSM and M/S in our sexlife, we are seeing if a full HOH relationship would extend our connection. I love when my husband controls & beats me. I often feel like I need to serve him to care for him as a...
    MrsRMac MrsRMac 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    It Just Feels Right....

    Having recently reevaluated what I want in a relationship, what has worked for me in the past, my natural confidence and leadership traits, I have taken a keen interest in this concept of "Taken In Hand". I never knew there was a name for it, I didn't really realize, both what I...
    1LonelyXHubby 1LonelyXHubby 56-60, M 8 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    My Punishment!

    My husband andi are recently new to the dd lifestyle, and I can't seem to get a handle on myself. I keep opening my mouth when I ought to shut it, I keep failing to complete all my chores on my daily lists, I keep slamming the front door, being disrespectful or rude to my husband...
    Ddgirl219 Ddgirl219 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 30, 2012

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    I'm A Novice Submissive Looking For Guidance.

    My name is Mary and I'm a submissive. In day to day life I think of myself as a strong and independent woman. When it comes to the erotic, to sexual things though, I find myself feeling - wanting to be - submissive to a man, to be a good little girl who does as she's told. I want...
    Mary26 Mary26 26-30, F Dec 31, 2011

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    Questionable

    Not sure I understand this taken in hand relationship. Iam not too comfortable and not sure what to do about it or my feelings....
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 10, 2012

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    People Are So Scared Of What They Dont Understand...

    My husband and I have been in a dd relationship for almost 10 years now...and I will tell you well be together till one of us passes and I am very confident of that fact...wanna know why? Because com husbands are happy husbands, they don't ask for anything unreasonable and they...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 1, 2012

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    I Bratted Tonight And....

    I wish I had not! Lol so my hubby and I are brand new to the CDD lifestyle we have been doing this for 4 days now and he has been maintenance spanking me in the mornings before he leaves for work and they really hurt and it has been softing my heart and making me want to Be...
    SHB1983 SHB1983 26-30, F 22 Responses Mar 5, 2011

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    Understanding Taken In Hand ,,,,,,

    I have been learning and searching for a few years now to find who I am and what I am as far as relationships go, I have always been naturally submissive.  Society has taught that it is weak for a women to be that way and that women are equal to men in all areas. I...
    bettygirl45 bettygirl45 46-50, F 17 Responses Jul 19, 2010

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    How My Tih Relationship Began

    I would like to tell you about the night my Taken In Hand relationship began. It was on my birthday a few years ago. I had been on an emotional roller coaster for close to a year, as my dad had been diagnosed with cancer, went through treatments, surgery and eventually passed...
    jerseygerl jerseygerl 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    He's Not So Sure About This Lifestyle. How Can I Convince Him?

    i was hinting in the direction of my wanting this lifstyle.. he's not so sure. he doesn't really seem to get it. he says that he doesn't want to be my crutch... help!
    subwife21 subwife21 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    I Wish...

    I wish we didn't have to hide our marital principles from our family and friends. They would have a better understanding of my own metimorphasis. Our taken in hand marriage has changed many aspects of my behavior for the better. Even the closest people in my life Have noticed...
    Klt3shottie Klt3shottie 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    Living Taken In The Hand With Dd

    It's just as so many have said before, two people can't lead while dancing, so it is the same with marriage. One person leads the other follows. Don't get me wrong, it's not like the husband does all the decision making behind the wife's back. Although there are probably some...
    Hasehdgdl Hasehdgdl 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    Didn'T Know It Had A Name 2

    I wrote some time ago about how our TIH relationship started ("Didn't know it had a name"), but I'm adding a bit to fill in some gaps in case anyone is interested. My wife has an older sister who lives across the country and they are in almost constant contact via Skype...
    Secondsun Secondsun 51-55, M Jan 27, 2013

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    I Think Some Of You Women Want To Role Play, I Assure You There Is A Difference...

    My daddy (nick) and I have been together for 9 years, practicing our d/d lifestyle for all 9 of those years, and i just last year decided (after asking daddy of course) if i could write about it on ep, which he allowed only if he could read what i had written beofre publishing it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    How I Have Benefited From Being Taken In Hand

    There's nothing that annoys me more than to read comments that tell me that my relationship is abusive and damaging because I have first hand experience and understanding that this is simply not true. I have benefited enormously from domestic discipline but have never shared how...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Didn't Know It Had A Name

    During our marriage my wife and I have had our problems, and the last two years especially he hasn't been happy, been bossy, and generally been a *****. It came out in a heated argument that she had always wanted me to take control. She wanted limits and such. I'm a laid back...
    Secondsun Secondsun 51-55, M 3 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    My TIH Journey

    There is so much to do! I am actively working on shaping my relationship with a woman I love so dearly. We practice a loving relationship but it is not 100% TIH. There are some aspects of the TIH I completely agree with and others where I am a bit dubious, either because I am not...
    wes4617 wes4617 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    My Husband Spanks Me Regularly

    I've been married to my husband John for 17 years and we adopted a voluntary sub-dom approach to our marriage pretty soon after. He told he wanted to be dominant and take control while I was submissive and followed his instructions. He explained that he didn't want to use the sob...
    Polly88 Polly88 41-45, F 15 Responses Apr 13, 2011

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    My Hero

    At my work place, all the ladies -most of them are divorced mature women- are "in love" with my hubby. They adore how he is constantly checking on me, his respectful and loving ways, his support with the children, how he takes care of everything... Last week I had a stomach ache...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    Taken In Hand Relationships Are Not Abusive

    I absolutely love that my Husband is strong, confident and that he leads our relationship. I love to feel his strength, his reassurance and his dominance. This is never felt stronger than when he is disciplining me.It drives me crazy when ignorant, misguided people who have...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 31 Responses Nov 15, 2011

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    Spanked Over Text And Facebook Addiction

    My husband of 3 years has told me many times, quite nicely, that I spend too much time texting and on Facebook. A couple of days ago, I was on Facebook and he told me that I needed to get off of the computer and do something more constructive. I got very angry with him, said that...
    WarmBottom WarmBottom 36-40, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    The Only Women I Could Beat The **** Out Of..................

    Interesting title huh> For some of you, this story is not going to be what you expected, its nto even a story really, i like to think of it as a statement. This is a conversation beetween myself and another member of ep. youneeda said: hey skeater: 'silencedshy' and I shared 2...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    Friends In TIH

    My husband and I were talking about our group of friends. All though they are great, Id like to meet new friends. Friends with the same lifestyle. None of ourfriends are married or have kids. So its hard to get together most time with people who understand the married life with...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I recently had to get completely changed in a big group changing room. There were no curtains or anything. And I don't have a problem with anyone seeing me naked (I'm a nudist...
    19andNaked 19andNaked 18-21, M Jul 2

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    I am a woman who is bald by choice and I wish people were more open minded about everything. Just because someone or something is different, doesn't make it bad. Open your mind...
    cgpyrtle cgpyrtle 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    I wish I could say " I totally get it"...... how rapidly things change...... You bounce from one to another like a bored child. I wish I could say "I totally get it"..... but it...
    thataussie thataussie 36-40, M 1 hr ago

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    Call me a hippy, but there's so much senseless killing going on these days. I'm not just talking about Gaza, or Crimea, I'm talking about everywhere. Its just getting out of hand...
    HeyIThappens HeyIThappens 18-21 Jul 19

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    Actually, no. I want to see life through YOUR eyes. Accepting volunteers right now. Here's the deal: I get to inhabit your body for three days. I experience, feel and think...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    Without going into too much detail....from last September until about February or March was one of the darkest periods of my life for exactly this reason. My husband, people I had...
    Env06 Env06 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I don't know what to do anymore. I have two older sisters that are so much better than me. They're major Christians and they're pretty... They're what my family wants them to be...
    justagirl11893 justagirl11893 13-15, F Jul 20

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    I witnessed this amazing moment the other day... Older lady with a cane and a cart full of groceries arrives at her car. A much younger man walks right past her without even...
    littlechief79 littlechief79 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    A true guy calls you beautiful, and loves you no matter what you look like. I hate hearing everyday that I'm hot, or my body is perfect.... that doesn't matter to me. What matters...
    DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt 16-17, F 21 hrs ago

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    The other day I had to get completely changed in a group changing room. There were a few other guys there. Being naked in front of people is no big deal to me (I'm a nudist and...
    19andNaked 19andNaked 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 2

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    Even though I strongly that whatever happens is for my own good, it would be nice to have people around you who understand your intentions, know that I wouldn't hurt them in any...
    FiercyTiger FiercyTiger 26-30, M Jul 3

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    But people are selfish it's who they are!
    catxfreak catxfreak 18-21, F Jul 5

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    People sharing birthday dates today are singers Steve Lawrence and Jerry Vale.
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Jul 8

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    I really don't give a **** what people think. I just hate being played for like I am a fool. Nobody likes to be played for like a fool.
    xMisunderstoodgirlx xMisunderstoodgirlx 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I always get people who say to me "oh Zoe, you're actually smarter than you look." It's like an insult in a compliment! Aha :)
    Zoewithoutthei Zoewithoutthei 16-17, F Jul 10

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    Happy birthday in Heaven to actress Barbara Stanwyck. She was a wonderful actress, Stella Dallas and Double Indemnity are must sees. An early birthday greeting to James Cagney...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Jul 16

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    Why do kids tease each other in schools? Do they realize the impact that has on a person self-esteem. Why are most people racist? We all have the same blood running through our...
    strawberry38 strawberry38 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    I try to think that all people aren't the same and not base or judge them on past experiences but now it's just getting harder and harder.
    XFallingAngelX XFallingAngelX 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    I dislike how religion and society makes people closed minded. Why cant others see that reality and reason is so much more than what they think or see of it?
    Noxious123 Noxious123 22-25 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    If that was so .. Wow i could have saved my self from alot of greif pain money pity & ect.. But people sorda do in a way always see & hear how they are to others cuz u know one day...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    People judge me based on my size, my physical appearance. No body gives me a chance based on me, someone who's loving, caring, and friendly.
    macyymayy macyymayy 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Happy birthday in Heaven to actress Susan Hayward and singer Lena Horne. Both coincidentally born in 1917.
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Jun 30

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    Kill them with kindness. Can work but when you've been nothing but kind to them every time they come in for treatment and treat you like shiznit!! It's hard not to explode...
    carebear1019 carebear1019 31-35, F Jul 1

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    Happy birthday to the wonderful actress Olivia DeHavilland who is 98 today. I would recommend The film The Strawberry Blonde, Olivia is so sweet in there. http://www.tcm.com...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 1

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    Happy birthday in Heaven to the great actor Charles Laughton. I would recommend such movies as Witness For the Prosecution, The Hunchback of Notre Dame, This Land Is Mine and...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Jul 1

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    Well, on the bright side, he most likely isn't responsible for being nonexistent.