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I Wish People Understood "taken In Hand"

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 464 People

    Living Taken In The Hand With Dd

    It's just as so many have said before, two people can't lead while dancing, so it is the same with marriage. One person leads the other follows. Don't get me wrong, it's not like the husband does all the decision making behind the wife's back. Although there are probably some...
    Hasehdgdl Hasehdgdl 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    He's Not So Sure About This Lifestyle. How Can I Convince Him?

    i was hinting in the direction of my wanting this lifstyle.. he's not so sure. he doesn't really seem to get it. he says that he doesn't want to be my crutch... help!
    subwife21 subwife21 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    Friends In TIH

    My husband and I were talking about our group of friends. All though they are great, Id like to meet new friends. Friends with the same lifestyle. None of ourfriends are married or have kids. So its hard to get together most time with people who understand the married life with...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2013

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    It Just Feels Right....

    Having recently reevaluated what I want in a relationship, what has worked for me in the past, my natural confidence and leadership traits, I have taken a keen interest in this concept of "Taken In Hand". I never knew there was a name for it, I didn't really realize, both what I...
    1LonelyXHubby 1LonelyXHubby 56-60, M 8 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    I Wish...

    I wish we didn't have to hide our marital principles from our family and friends. They would have a better understanding of my own metimorphasis. Our taken in hand marriage has changed many aspects of my behavior for the better. Even the closest people in my life Have noticed...
    Klt3shottie Klt3shottie 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    I'm A Novice Submissive Looking For Guidance.

    My name is Mary and I'm a submissive. In day to day life I think of myself as a strong and independent woman. When it comes to the erotic, to sexual things though, I find myself feeling - wanting to be - submissive to a man, to be a good little girl who does as she's told. I want...
    Mary26 Mary26 26-30, F Dec 31, 2011

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    The Only Women I Could Beat The **** Out Of..................

    Interesting title huh> For some of you, this story is not going to be what you expected, its nto even a story really, i like to think of it as a statement. This is a conversation beetween myself and another member of ep. youneeda said: hey skeater: 'silencedshy' and I shared 2...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    How I Have Benefited From Being Taken In Hand

    There's nothing that annoys me more than to read comments that tell me that my relationship is abusive and damaging because I have first hand experience and understanding that this is simply not true. I have benefited enormously from domestic discipline but have never shared how...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Didn't Know It Had A Name

    During our marriage my wife and I have had our problems, and the last two years especially he hasn't been happy, been bossy, and generally been a *****. It came out in a heated argument that she had always wanted me to take control. She wanted limits and such. I'm a laid back...
    Secondsun Secondsun 51-55, M 3 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    People Are So Scared Of What They Dont Understand...

    My husband and I have been in a dd relationship for almost 10 years now...and I will tell you well be together till one of us passes and I am very confident of that fact...wanna know why? Because com husbands are happy husbands, they don't ask for anything unreasonable and they...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 1, 2012

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    Spanked Over Text And Facebook Addiction

    My husband of 3 years has told me many times, quite nicely, that I spend too much time texting and on Facebook. A couple of days ago, I was on Facebook and he told me that I needed to get off of the computer and do something more constructive. I got very angry with him, said that...
    WarmBottom WarmBottom 36-40, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    I Think Some Of You Women Want To Role Play, I Assure You There Is A Difference...

    My daddy (nick) and I have been together for 9 years, practicing our d/d lifestyle for all 9 of those years, and i just last year decided (after asking daddy of course) if i could write about it on ep, which he allowed only if he could read what i had written beofre publishing it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    Understanding Taken In Hand ,,,,,,

    I have been learning and searching for a few years now to find who I am and what I am as far as relationships go, I have always been naturally submissive.  Society has taught that it is weak for a women to be that way and that women are equal to men in all areas. I...
    bettygirl45 bettygirl45 46-50, F 17 Responses Jul 19, 2010

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    My Hero

    At my work place, all the ladies -most of them are divorced mature women- are "in love" with my hubby. They adore how he is constantly checking on me, his respectful and loving ways, his support with the children, how he takes care of everything... Last week I had a stomach ache...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    My Punishment!

    My husband andi are recently new to the dd lifestyle, and I can't seem to get a handle on myself. I keep opening my mouth when I ought to shut it, I keep failing to complete all my chores on my daily lists, I keep slamming the front door, being disrespectful or rude to my husband...
    Ddgirl219 Ddgirl219 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 30, 2012

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    How My Tih Relationship Began

    I would like to tell you about the night my Taken In Hand relationship began. It was on my birthday a few years ago. I had been on an emotional roller coaster for close to a year, as my dad had been diagnosed with cancer, went through treatments, surgery and eventually passed...
    jerseygerl jerseygerl 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Didn'T Know It Had A Name 2

    I wrote some time ago about how our TIH relationship started ("Didn't know it had a name"), but I'm adding a bit to fill in some gaps in case anyone is interested. My wife has an older sister who lives across the country and they are in almost constant contact via Skype...
    Secondsun Secondsun 51-55, M Jan 27, 2013

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    Questionable

    Not sure I understand this taken in hand relationship. Iam not too comfortable and not sure what to do about it or my feelings....
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 10, 2012

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    My TIH Journey

    There is so much to do! I am actively working on shaping my relationship with a woman I love so dearly. We practice a loving relationship but it is not 100% TIH. There are some aspects of the TIH I completely agree with and others where I am a bit dubious, either because I am not...
    wes4617 wes4617 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    Seems So Natural...

    I have only very recently learned what a Taken In Hand relationship is all about. This seems so natural to me. As a child, I found the greatest comfort in the mutual respect I had with my father. He was (and still is) everything a father should be. In my marriage I wanted...
    Rosalinn Rosalinn 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 21, 2012

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    My Husband Spanks Me Regularly

    I've been married to my husband John for 17 years and we adopted a voluntary sub-dom approach to our marriage pretty soon after. He told he wanted to be dominant and take control while I was submissive and followed his instructions. He explained that he didn't want to use the sob...
    Polly88 Polly88 41-45, F 15 Responses Apr 13, 2011

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    I Bratted Tonight And....

    I wish I had not! Lol so my hubby and I are brand new to the CDD lifestyle we have been doing this for 4 days now and he has been maintenance spanking me in the mornings before he leaves for work and they really hurt and it has been softing my heart and making me want to Be...
    SHB1983 SHB1983 26-30, F 22 Responses Mar 5, 2011

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    Taken In Hand Relationships Are Not Abusive

    I absolutely love that my Husband is strong, confident and that he leads our relationship. I love to feel his strength, his reassurance and his dominance. This is never felt stronger than when he is disciplining me.It drives me crazy when ignorant, misguided people who have...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 31 Responses Nov 15, 2011

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    Advice And Gameplan

    My husband and I are exploring TiH/ DD relationship. While we play with BDSM and M/S in our sexlife, we are seeing if a full HOH relationship would extend our connection. I love when my husband controls & beats me. I often feel like I need to serve him to care for him as a...
    MrsRMac MrsRMac 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I wish I could say " I totally get it"...... how rapidly things change...... You bounce from one to another like a bored child. I wish I could say "I totally get it"..... but it...
    thataussie thataussie 36-40, M Jul 29

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    There so many things people wish they could change about themselves. They wish they were skinner,prettier, more handsome, richer, and had more friends. I even wish this myself...
    Idreamtowaketofindthefate Idreamtowaketofindthefate 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Actually, no. I want to see life through YOUR eyes. Accepting volunteers right now. Here's the deal: I get to inhabit your body for three days. I experience, feel and think...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I wish everyone could just get over petty differences and try to get along or at least try to be respectful to each other.
    WhatTheFrenchToast WhatTheFrenchToast 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    Happy 88th birthday to crooner Tony Bennett, I left my heart in San Francisco, The Good life are two of my TB favorites. Belated birthday wishes to great actress Myrna Loy who was...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Aug 3

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    I don't know what to do anymore. I have two older sisters that are so much better than me. They're major Christians and they're pretty... They're what my family wants them to be...
    justagirl11893 justagirl11893 13-15, F Jul 20

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    I witnessed this amazing moment the other day... Older lady with a cane and a cart full of groceries arrives at her car. A much younger man walks right past her without even...
    littlechief79 littlechief79 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    A true guy calls you beautiful, and loves you no matter what you look like. I hate hearing everyday that I'm hot, or my body is perfect.... that doesn't matter to me. What matters...
    DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    I feel like people stare at me everywhere when I'm walking on the street cars, people it's crazy I always wonder why and what they are thinking its enough to make anybody anxious!
    TashaBbb TashaBbb 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    You tell people what they don't wanna hear and then your left alone! Haha! My oh my!! I'm guessing I'm a difficult personality to get along with.... I usually get surrounded by...
    Incubusbunny Incubusbunny 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    I try to think that all people aren't the same and not base or judge them on past experiences but now it's just getting harder and harder.
    VivirLaVida VivirLaVida 16-17, F Jul 22

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    I dislike how religion and society makes people closed minded. Why cant others see that reality and reason is so much more than what they think or see of it?
    Noxious123 Noxious123 22-25 2 Responses Jul 27

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    If that was so .. Wow i could have saved my self from alot of greif pain money pity & ect.. But people sorda do in a way always see & hear how they are to others cuz u know one day...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 27

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    People judge me based on my size, my physical appearance. No body gives me a chance based on me, someone who's loving, caring, and friendly.
    macyymayy macyymayy 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 28

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    Respect is such a basic thing. And I don't see what's so difficult in giving respect. Respect to parents, siblings, peers, those younger than you. IF only people were just more...
    zozobar zozobar 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    some people just don't have respect anymore. it should be common sense to have respect. if I don't like u I won't respect u. if u don't respect me I won't respect u. but if it's a...
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F Aug 7

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    Why is it that no matter what I do, say, or think someone has to comment that it's weird or stupid? Like can't you just accept it and leave it alone. I'm not you, I do things...
    mhLILRED mhLILRED 18-21, F Aug 10

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    This is a place for sharing experiences... Not bullying and harassing people about their opinions. Debate is bound to happen, but name calling because you don't agree...wow...
    MsInked511 MsInked511 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    Happy birthday Alexander the great, 356 bc.
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 20

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    All the time as I am constantly misunderstood
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I smile but on the inside I'm shouting for help and theirs no one that cares enough to help their all just curious and then they just leave :/
    turtlesweqq turtlesweqq 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 20

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    Happy birthday to singers Cat Stevens and Kay Starr. Ernest Hemingway the author was also born today in 1899.
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Jul 21

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    Just so you know what your getting right out of the gate. Like the labels on food where it lists all the ingrediants. An expiry date wouldn't hurt either...lol
    cutsy cutsy 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    Happy Birthday to former lost in space star Mark Goddard.
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M Jul 24

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    That's why I finally went off on my boyfriend last night. He actually apologized to me. It felt good. I deserved that apology, and I'm glad I got it.
    stillYDGN stillYDGN 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    Happy Birthday to the great character actor Walter Brennan who was born on this date in 1894. My favorite Brennan movies include To Have and Have Not with Bogart and Bacall. Also...