I Women Who Can't Have Children

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 338 People

    At the age of 30 I was newly married

    and we were excited to start a family. Then 8 months into the marriage I was diagnosed with liver and utirun cancer. To cure the utuirin cancer they had to perform a hysterectomy so we are now on able to have children. My family and husband have been great support but they...
    milesbailey milesbailey
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 19, 2016

    I Cannot Have Babies

    Hello I am 24 years old & I cannot have babies I was really after having a babie but now do not want one any more just because my boyfriend is selfish. I ask him if he would like to babysit with me he says no everytime I ask him. He say he hate babysitting & my boyfriend is huff...
    beckysarah123 beckysarah123
    26-30, F
    Nov 13, 2013

    Infertile Women

    Hi, I would like to share experiences with women who can't have children. How do u cope at work etc?? It must be hard sometimes seeing women of ur age with babies or pregnant? please show way of coping.
    elareen elareen
    201 Responses Feb 13, 2008

    The Battle To Keep Smiling

    Every day it's a battle to keep smiling ,while every one around you rejoice about a recent pregnancy or that precious new arrival, hiding your true feelings way down deep inside.  Three years ago, by chance a co-worker and I became pregnant at the same time.  As she was...
    bronx291 bronx291
    2 Responses Jun 4, 2010

    I trusted to love and marry my Jr.

    high school boyfriend never imagined he would have unprotected sex and bring an std home to me young and uneducated I carried this std inside destroying my productive organs for six months. during this time GYN doctors would not do pelvic exams while a woman monthly was on...
    Chinafrance Chinafrance
    46-50, F
    1 Response May 11, 2014

    I'm angry that I am 24 years old

    and can't have children. I have survived Triple Negative Breast cancer, and since I could not afford to freeze my eggs, I have to leave it up to chance whether or not I could ever have children. My doctor told me that I am not allowed to even try for 2 more years. ALL of my...
    cmbrown3093 cmbrown3093
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 29, 2015

    Getting Late

    I'm in my 40's and have pictured myself having a family since I was a child. I definitely made some poor choices in men through my 20's and 30's, never married any of them (thank goodness!) . I finally met a wonderful man in my late 30's. We've been together 4 years, married for...
    karbenny karbenny
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2013

    Moving Forward

    I guess I'm here just looking for a way to gain some kind of closure so I can live a happy life after years of sadness over not being able to have children. I'm a 36 year old, I've been pregnant twice, the first time ended in a miscarriage and the second time was a tubal which...
    Tricia1976 Tricia1976
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Apr 30, 2013

    I'm Angry.

    I want to thank my husband for finding you. I'm a very angry woman. I do not know how to cope with not having a child.  When I was married the first time  at 21, I was ready to have a child. Every year passed by, no child. We went to a dr. Had all the test done. No reason...
    debmclain debmclain
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Nov 23, 2011

    Ladies To Our Grief.

    I am 28 yrs old and have been married to my very wonderful husband of 8 years this June. We have never used contraception since being married so you can say we have been trying that long. I have had one pregnancy that ended up being an ectopic and lost my right tube. I only...
    whatwillbe77 whatwillbe77
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2013

    Women Who Can't Have Children

    I find no real way of coping with this. My husband and I tried for years and I couldn't become pregnant-I hit 38 and a miracle happened-I was pregnant-I was so excited. Went for the first ultrasound and the baby had died-there was no heartbeat. I was devastated-to be handed a...
    blacksky501 blacksky501
    4 Responses Oct 10, 2011

    I am devastated. For many years my husband

    and I have tried to have children. Yes, we have had our problems but this past weekend I received the following facebook message from my mother in law ... Diane Omberg: (me) You were never a mother and you will never be a mother (thank God). I am at a loss for words for...
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Feb 4, 2014

    Treated Like An Outsider Or An

    During my first marriage years ago, I was actually afraid to get pregnant because my first husband was an alcoholic and drug addict.  I used a spermatocide (foam product) which caused me to get a Bartholin (sp?) gland cyst and had to have removed TWICE.  Then after my...
    4LuvOfGod 4LuvOfGod
    11 Responses Sep 7, 2008

    Less Than A Woman?

    I am 33 years old and I have had menstural problems since I was 17. This has included two bouts with abnormal menstural bleeding and endemitriosis. My last one ended with me on the operating table, loosing my ability to have children in order to save my life. I feel alone and...
    cgravesthoma cgravesthoma
    36-40, F
    8 Responses May 6, 2013

    so i go for my surgery on Thursday i have to be

    up before 6 45 am because that's when i go to the hospital. I am getting tubal ligation, done but instead of just getting them cut and tied they are completely removing my Fallopian tubes, so kinda nervous but thursday can't come fast enough because i'd rather be recovering from...
    Alexia85 Alexia85
    31-35, F
    Feb 9, 2016

    My co-worker brought her 11 week old baby to

    work today and I broke down. I have accepted the fact God doesn't want me to have kids. I use to have these brake downs and run and tell someone, but I kept getting criticized by people who do have them or don't want them. So today when I had my brake down I didn't tell anyone...
    dsimon21 dsimon21
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2014

    When Will It Stop Hurting?

    I'm almost 35, I'm married to a wonderful man, have a good job and have the lovely home I always wanted.  But I'll never have children. Ok, now that I've stopped crying after typing that last sentence I'll try again! My husband and I only met 4 years ago but fell...
    Summer2805 Summer2805
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Apr 5, 2010

    Not Infertile, But Had To Have Hysterectomy

    Hello. I hope that I would be welcomed here, because even though I'm not infertile, I'm like you all because I can't have kids of my own. I had to have a total hysterectomy years ago, because of a major bleeding problem. I have read a lot of your stories, and agree. I too have a...
    AmyMiller AmyMiller
    2 Responses Aug 16, 2011

    I am 25 years old, I have three angels looking

    over me. Two of my angels I didn't know very long they were early miscarriages. The last one was a still born his heart stopped at 6months. I dream everyday what life would be like with at least one of my angels on earth. Would I still be depressed? would I still want a way out...
    toni525 toni525
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 20, 2015

    I So Sad I Can Never Become Pregnant

    I was pregnant when I still teenage and I had abortion. After that I working and often get sexualy transmited diseases. Now I married, I really want to get pregnant but I cant. Doctor say my falopian tube broken and my ovary damaged from all infections I had before. I so sad...
    tirowki tirowki
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 24, 2011

    My Personal Death Sentence

    I had always wanted (3) children, but had said I didn't want kids because I never thought, in amilluion years, that I'd  ever even get the chance to fall in love. To mem, the two were to come hand-in-hand. At 26, I met my first boyfriend, who latter became my husband. We...
    snowlady snowlady
    36-40, F
    Nov 30, 2009

    I'm A Women Who Can't Have Kids

    Im a 32 year old women who can't have kids and can't adopt and my so called friends say that i should  grow up and get over it I have even stard to do my dogs as kids to try to help with the paine and it dose help untill some one makes a dume statement about it . I...
    pipperpheobe pipperpheobe
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 29, 2009

    hey when i was 15 i got told i couldn't have

    children my boyfriend at the time was so supportive so understanding and in doing so it put me off the physical side of a relationship he soon got bored and although he was always supportive he cheeted on me serval time took me a while to deal with this and soon i thought it...
    dreams15 dreams15
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 25, 2014

    It Never Stops Hurting

    I am 44 yo and have been married to a wonderful man for 18 yrs. We never thought we would not be able to have children. We started trying when I was 27yrs old and first we were told "It takes time" all my friends started to have their babies and it broke my heart. We had 9...
    rcrb rcrb
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jun 12, 2012

    i don't want tomorrow to come.

    Sure, i'll go through the motions of painting a happy face and everything else that is part and parcel of Mother's day... just like i did on Friday when a friend pulled a card out of her son's reading bag. i'd be more than happy to lie here in my bed and drown in my own misery...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    Mar 4, 2016

    I Want To Give A Baby

    Hi I am Italian and I came in U.S.A. 12 years ago I live in California I am from a princely order family going back to the Roman Empire, The Domitian. I already havey a beautiful and super intelligent ten year old girl. I am interested in finding a woman who wants to have babies...
    Alessandro108 Alessandro108
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 21, 2013

    With God All Things Are Possible !

    Hi Everyone Before I logged into the website, I was feeling sorry for myself, asking the question WHY WHY WHY? but reading the stories of the women, it really hurts to know what you are going through.  I have been diagnosed with stage 3 endo, i need to go for a secong laprascopy...
    naidooc naidooc
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2011

    Deaparate For A Baby

    When i was 16 i got in a relationship which i was in for a year, then i found out he'd cheated when the hospital and got checked for STD's it turned out he had gave me chlamydia which was pretty much distroying my falopian tubes. i have been for fertility tests and i can have...
    emmet1984 emmet1984
    3 Responses Feb 10, 2011


    I have had problems with being able to conceive and due to life circumstances I know I haven't always been able to take care of myself the way I need too. I had a hysterectomy last year in July of 2010. My sister just had her fourth baby. I am angry. Angry at the situation. The...
    deebatree deebatree
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 19, 2011

    Me, Myself And Infertility

    Myself and my husband have been trying for over two years to conceive with no luck. I was diagnosed with PCOS 2 years ago- (when me and the hubby were trying to conceive) and am now going to have an operation and endoscopy soon. Doctors suspect that I have something on my...
    candy85 candy85
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 9, 2013

    And it begins... of course,

    i'm talking about the annual hike in pregnancy announcements! To make matters worse, the worst place for it today happens to be a Facebook group for people who have lost babies. While i admit that i am happy for these people, i also hurt to know that, even after all of my...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2016

    Mixed Up

    I had endometriosis for almost 20yrs, it ruined my life. My first marriage ended in disaster. 6 operations with no success, the cysts just kept returning, doctors decided full hysterectomy was best. I am struggling with the news of friends and family falling pregnant as I have...
    Pinknoddle Pinknoddle
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2013

    Tther'S Purpose In Everything We Go Through In Life!

    I grew up in Portugal; I was born in Lisbon and lived there until the age of 18. I have one sister who is 12 years older than me. She became my "mom” when our mother died. I was 12. ​ My mother was a very connected person to higher knowledge, she cleared home space and used...
    shambalah shambalah
    41-45, F
    May 3, 2013


    I am 25 years old. My husband and I cannot have children together because of a blood disorder he has. We both want children but until I reach my weight goal, (God willing) am fertile and we can save the money for artificial insemination we will not be able to have kids. It hurts...
    ShoaShoa ShoaShoa
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2010

    *exhales deeply* I am 41 years old.

    I've been married 10 years. Before i even married, I was pregnant "crazy"! All i ever wanted as soon as i was a women as a child. After marriage, and doing it right in God's eyes, pregnancy was certain for me! I dreamed of morning sickness and excruciating labor pains. Dr after...
    rednsexy001 rednsexy001
    41-45, F
    May 31, 2015

    I m not sure if I belong in this group,

    but a lot of your stories sound similar in ways, so I am hoping to ... I am not sure ... find some support? Answers? Advice? So here is my story.... My family has a rare genetic colon caner that runs very deep. Especially more on my mother's side. So much more that out of 7...
    lauralynn027 lauralynn027
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 19, 2014

    Can't Have Children

    I am 28 years old and will never know what it feels like to be pregnant or to be called mommy.  I've been in hospital every 4 months that the nursing staff refers to me as family by now.  Last week I went for a hystorectomy, I had to choose between a healthy life or to keep...
    mnttengels mnttengels
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 20, 2011

    Able But Forbidden

    I'm not even in my twenties and yet I already know that my children won't be mine. I was diagnosed with a severe bone marrow disorder when I was 14 and I relapsed just this past summer. I'm back on year long medication and check ups. Am I still physically able to have children...
    twirltheflag twirltheflag
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 3, 2013

    Barren Betty

    I am 45 years old and had a hysterectomy 15 years ago. I was bitter and angry at first, since being a mommy was up on my list. I felt empty inside. It took alot of years and tears to come to terms with this. I was not able to go to baby showers for years. Everyone I knew gave...
    JahDawta JahDawta
    4 Responses May 14, 2010

    A Change In Heart

    I was told that I couldn't have children years ago.  Childhood sexual abuse + infection + scarring = hostile womb.  When I was told in high school that I couldn't have children I didn't care.  I might have even been relieved.  Growing up I never had any...
    theglassishalffull theglassishalffull
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 11, 2010

    i am 30 years old and i have wanted to be a

    mother since my early 20's and my ex and i tried multiple times but nothing took i lost the baby before it was even developed. So i found out because of my epilepsy and the medicine i am on for the my seizures, that there was a huge possibility that if i had one while being...
    Alexia85 Alexia85
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 14, 2016

    Found Out At 16 I'd Never Have Children

    Worrying time growing up. I was 16 and still hadnt started my periods so not thinking to much me and my mam went to the doctors to see if it was "normal". I got sent to see a gynaecologist who operated and put a camera inside to have a look around. he found that i had workin...
    kimshepherd81 kimshepherd81
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 20, 2013

    No Children...so I Guess Jewelry And Travel

    I am trying to come to terms with not ever being a mommy, mom, ma, or mother. My husband's ***** is disformed. The only treatment he will try is to get back in shape and take prostate vitamins. We have been together 13 years. Married nearly 7. We married to have kids. Right...
    naneki73 naneki73
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 14, 2010

    Ripped Off

    I am a single 41yr old. like many others can,t have kids and have always wanted them. The reason i can.t have them is that I,m riddled with arthritis and have been since I was 22yrs old, the medication that I take if I was to have a child would be deformed. Without the medication...
    aprildiamond aprildiamond
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Nov 2, 2009

    Not a Possibility

    At the age of 16 my right ovary twisted up and died and had to be removed. A year later the same thing happened to the left. Doctor's still don't know why.  I've had a long time to come to terms with it but it still hurts. I hate it especially when people say " Oh so...
    amandapm27 amandapm27
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Apr 3, 2009

    It Started At The Age 19..

    Finding out your pregnant, should be the best time of your life.. But what if your scared because you been told your body cant handle you being pregnant because you have ovarian cyst, endometrious? 6 surgeries to get cyst removed no female should go though that after 6 i was done...
    areed332 areed332
    26-30, F
    Nov 21, 2013

    Hysterectomy At 26...Not What I Expected...

    Hello, my name is Karen. I had my only daughter three years ago. She was born after 39 hours of labor. I was induced and they made me wait 31 hours before they broke my water and then I had to wait eight more hours before they finally made me an offer of a c-section. I had my...
    winwaterlamingo winwaterlamingo
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 22, 2013

    Don'T Assume...

    Don't assume that I don't want children Don't assume that I don't like children Don't ask me why I can't have children Don't continuously remind me that I don't have children Don't stop including me in dinners and get togethers because you have children and I don't Don't assume I...
    Parrisss Parrisss
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2013

    My Story

    Me and my husband been trying to have kids for two years. We found out he has a viercal seal. Its a vain that heats up the ***** and kills it. It cost alot of money. Well my Cusin was pregantand asked us to take the baby. We were so excited we bought him everything u can thank of...
    mandiecoop mandiecoop
    1 Response May 26, 2013

    I Can't Cope.

    I am 18 years old, and I am unable to have children. I discovered this when my dad thought I had appendicitis and took me to the hospital when I was 15. When I arrived there, turns out I was born without an appendix.... And without a kidney... And, without a uterus. The doctors...
    AMitchell13 AMitchell13
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 5, 2012

    Cut, Tied And Soldered

    So I'm 34 years old and have suffered from PCOS for a long time. I nearly bled to death twice and I found myself looking for a new gynecologist this last time. He told me straight out that I would never be able to have children of my own. He told me that I needed surgery to save...
    cgravesthoma cgravesthoma
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

    I am a ***** donor to a pair of lesbians.

    I was asked while out shopping with my kids one day and I thought why not. So I asked that I not be apart of the child's life no matter what. But I did ask to know when the child would be born. Is this strange?
    threshold75 threshold75
    41-45, M
    Mar 19, 2014

    Feeling Sad And Guilty Of Bad Choices As A Teenager...

    I have read a few storys and am starting to feel the pain that i thought was gone. I made some very bad choices that cost me the blessing and beauty of being a mother. I became pregnant at the age of 16 and my mother made me have an abortion. i had a chance to tell the lady when...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 13, 2013
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