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I Wonder If I Am a Bad Friend

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    Must Be Me

    I can't always be a shoulder. I know it's impossible to be perfect, but I wish that i could always be that shoulder. But at the same time I have to look out for myself because there seems to be a lack of shoulders for ME to cry on. It must be awful of me to be there for them, but...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F Jul 13, 2008

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    More than somebody thinks so, perhaps

    Well, in order to avoid misunderstandings, I must start saying that for me the concept of “friend” may be more or less different than your one, so, even if we all normally use the same word also for people we just have to stay in touch with - like schoolmates, co-workers, or...
    mat4 mat4 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I really wonder if I am.

    Like am I bad for being friends with him? Am I just a bad friend in general? Did I do something to make you mad?
    EmoSakurachan EmoSakurachan 18-21 Feb 7, 2014

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    There Must Be Something Wrong With Me..

    Sometimes I think I am a bad friend.. because sometimes I think I've made a new friend.. online or offline, and then after a while they just stop talking to me. So I just wonder if I've done something wrong. Then sometimes I find out that my friends are going through stuff...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F Feb 2, 2010

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    Please help I need advice!

    ! went to see a guy 200 miles away recently This guy is housemates with one of my long time friends She is angry with me because I didn't tell her I was visiting before hand and that I only phoned her once I was there I really like this guy and we are trying to work out what...
    Confuzed11 Confuzed11 22-25 Feb 21

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    Is It Only Me Or Them To?

    Idk anymore. I had awsome friends but I got a little depressed over something that happened in my life. I didn't share it with my friends at the time because I didn't want to worry them. I guess I got a little more silent and stuff. And at one point I told them what was wrong...
    ArgetGarm ArgetGarm 16-17, F Dec 11, 2011

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    My bestfriend asked me

    for the answers for tonight's homework and I though she only needed a few. Turns out she wanted all of them! It's hard for me to say no so I waver it. I ended up saying no and she got mad at me. Now she's not answering my text. On her behalf she claims that whenever I need...
    unthinkablesoul unthinkablesoul 13-15, F Mar 30, 2014

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    I have been friends with this girl

    since fifth grade, but we had a falling out in our last year of junior high. She joined with two of my other friends, who all decided that I was a lesbian and had to tell them, or they would stop being friends with me. I told them that I didn't like girls, and they didn't...
    ArsenicTea ArsenicTea 22-25, F Aug 14, 2014

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     I Am Not An Outgoing ...

     I am not an outgoing person...I'm a poet, and I tend to seek my own space perhaps too much.  Yet, I enjoy partying and miss it often but don't always know how to balance the two.  So, sometimes I feel I neglect my friends - and yet, my best friends (all 3 of them...
    bobbyjean bobbyjean 51-55 Jul 18, 2009

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    I Sometimes Wonder If Im a Bad Friend

    i sometimes wonder if i might be a bad friend i hope not
    F5Twister F5Twister 26-30, M Mar 13, 2008

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    I Can't Do Anything Right

    I've tried to be a good friend, tried to be there, but the harder I try, the more I seem to be doing wrong. I get told that I don't understand, that I wouldn't want to know; I always say the wrong thing. It's not that I don't care, coz I do, so much. It's just that I don't know...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 11, 2010

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    Drifter

    I don't exactly push people away...  I tend to sort of drift away from people instead. I'm generally a good friend at the surface. I'm always nice, I never want to cause conflict, I'm generous, I'm a good listener, I'm not boring, I will never reveal a close friend's secret...
    HeartsWillHold HeartsWillHold 18-21, F 2 Responses May 28, 2010

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    I Seriosly Don´t Know

    In fact I have been used by friends since I was a child. I remember that nobody in the kindergarden wanted to play with me, because I had not a mother ( !!!!!! ) Yes, they bullied me all the time that I had not a mother. I was not shy as kid, but I was very worry to get close to...
    Lilly78 Lilly78 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 10, 2012

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    I had a "friend" that was rarely available.

    And when I told her I had enough of her pretentiousness and constant unavailability, she then became concerned; by then I felt she was too late. As I get older, I don't want to feel so final and unforgiving. I teach my girls to be better friends, if they value the friendship...
    1LadyButterfly 1LadyButterfly 41-45, F Jan 22, 2014

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    I Always Look At Myself Fro...

    I always look at myself from someone else's shoes and I like to judge whether what I'm doing is a good thing or a bad thing depending on how I feel.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 18, 2009

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    i have this one friend ive been friend with

    for a long time, we talk all the time on messenger but someties i wonder if im really a good friend..:( i dont always do the things she wants i sometimes ignore her and just leave..when i say what i truly meant she gets all mad at me like i dont care what shes talking about but...
    JJsFate JJsFate 22-25, M Dec 9, 2014

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    I Shouldn't Be A Friend

    I push people away, and I'm always mean.  After knowing me for about 3 or 4 months, I have noticed and have been told that I'm mean.  My work partner is also a friend I hang out with sometimes on weekends, but he's told me I'm mean to him.  I was mean to my ex...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F Mar 8, 2010

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    I have the worst friends. I'm always there for them and yet they are constantly ditching me or they'll go weeks without talking to me. ;( ;( ;(
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    Recently, I just ended my friendship with my best friend. During this period of time, it really was a difficult and painful experience. I couldn't believe that we actually ended...
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    Yesterday I made a new friend. My uncle's girlfriend. I didn't realize we'd talk at all but she's actually funny and nice to talk to. I hope the friendship lasts. Speaking of true...
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    My first and only love was my best friend. We knew each other since we were starting kindergarten when I first rejected him bc he had 12 girlfriends but he liked it, asked for hugs...
    groovyhugsbunny groovyhugsbunny 18-21, F May 13

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    Okay so this is kind of a question, I'm a 20 something year old woman, the guy in question is also in his 20s. I met this guy over Xbox live. Well him and two other people he was...
    AriumBlack22 AriumBlack22 22-25, F 1 Response May 4

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    I was friends with this girl…let’s call her N…for about a year, not a long time I know, but I thought we were really good friends and got along well. Obviously, I was wrong...
    chibikari chibikari 26-30, F 15 hrs ago

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    Just having a bad day, wondering where I went wrong in my life. I feel like such a failure some days, like today. I don't know how I managed to end up married and divorced before...
    ifollowmyownstar ifollowmyownstar 31-35, F May 7

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    I grew up on the edge of a mid sized town . (in a modest pink house my grandfather painted when I was 2. I later painted it again when I was 12.. because of my moms favorite color...
    NotHooray NotHooray 56-60, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I have a friend who is super self conscious about her weight and appearance..she has been tearing me down a lot recently. I wonder if she even realizes that she does it? I found a...
    oyeabunstyle oyeabunstyle 26-30, F Apr 26

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    I always wonder what would my life would have been like if I wasn't born in what seems to be my imagination. If people genuinely knew my existence and made a celebration out of it...
    deathnotefreak deathnotefreak 18-21, F 2 Responses May 4

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    I have known my best friend for 3 years. We met through band, but our friendship didn't truly start until I sat beside him in biology on the first day of school. He was a freshman...
    Cheyenne555 Cheyenne555 18-21, F Apr 30

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    I’ve been dreaming twice at night lately. First when I dream I am, as the best way I can describe it, a ghost. I can walk through walls, hover, fly and such. Each time I go dream...
    LoveLessOne97 LoveLessOne97 18-21, F 1 Response May 3

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    Okay. Let's talk about my previous best friend. I met her when we're are thirteen and we hit off really well and that's how we become best friend. I really do care about her, and...
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    I believe i am genuinely a bad person. Am i proud of it? No but do i have the will to change it? No. I am a pathological liar, ever since i was a little girl. I do not lie to cause...
    neptunemermaids neptunemermaids 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    Ok, ever since i got problems with my back i have been a bad person/depressed from time to time. When i in my normal mood im happy,full of life, i exercise and im very peacefull...
    mannenspeci mannenspeci 22-25, M May 12

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    Right, so a while ago I lost my best friend that I had known for eight years. She didn't die or anything, she got a boyfriend and, well, you know how it is. She text me saying that...
    TwitterHolix TwitterHolix 13-15, F 1 Response May 12

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    I wonder how and why some don't seem to mind living without touch. I've read a lot of extreme stories here, and mine is not one of those. There is contact in my relationship. It's...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    I used to wonder this all the time, and then I found out. Earlier this year, I ended up in a hospital for making an attempt on my life. I went completely radio silent on my friends...
    sullygirl611 sullygirl611 18-21, F 2 Responses May 3

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    i have a bad vision, my minus right now is -8,5 without them i can see anything because it's very blurry vision, i got my first glasses when i was 1st grade in elementary school...
    wazza2604 wazza2604 16-17, M Apr 23

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    I see so many people joined this group, but I wonder how many of those can really find a friend on here that they can talk to... it is hard, isn't it? I also wonder if anybody will...
    ayako18 ayako18 31-35, F 5 Responses May 6

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    I had been through a lot with him. We were pretty damaged as teenagers so we bonded over the shared pain. We were close like family. 12 years ago, I found out he had slept with my...
    Etdos Etdos 41-45, M 2 Responses May 8

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    I had a lot of friends in high school, usually one best friend while the others were not as close. Then I turned to making bad choices, I got in trouble with my bad choices, and...
    wiredweirdness wiredweirdness 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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