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I Wonder If I Am a Bad Friend

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    Must Be Me

    I can't always be a shoulder. I know it's impossible to be perfect, but I wish that i could always be that shoulder. But at the same time I have to look out for myself because there seems to be a lack of shoulders for ME to cry on. It must be awful of me to be there for them, but...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F Jul 13, 2008

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    Drifter

    I don't exactly push people away...  I tend to sort of drift away from people instead. I'm generally a good friend at the surface. I'm always nice, I never want to cause conflict, I'm generous, I'm a good listener, I'm not boring, I will never reveal a close friend's secret...
    HeartsWillHold HeartsWillHold 18-21, F 2 Responses May 28, 2010

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    My bestfriend asked me

    for the answers for tonight's homework and I though she only needed a few. Turns out she wanted all of them! It's hard for me to say no so I waver it. I ended up saying no and she got mad at me. Now she's not answering my text. On her behalf she claims that whenever I need...
    unthinkablesoul unthinkablesoul 13-15, F Mar 30

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    I had a "friend" that was rarely available.

    And when I told her I had enough of her pretentiousness and constant unavailability, she then became concerned; by then I felt she was too late. As I get older, I don't want to feel so final and unforgiving. I teach my girls to be better friends, if they value the friendship...
    1LadyButterfly 1LadyButterfly 41-45, F Jan 22

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    I really wonder if I am.

    Like am I bad for being friends with him? Am I just a bad friend in general? Did I do something to make you mad?
    EmoSakurachan EmoSakurachan 16-17 Feb 7

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    I Always Look At Myself Fro...

    I always look at myself from someone else's shoes and I like to judge whether what I'm doing is a good thing or a bad thing depending on how I feel.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 18, 2009

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    I have been friends with this girl

    since fifth grade, but we had a falling out in our last year of junior high. She joined with two of my other friends, who all decided that I was a lesbian and had to tell them, or they would stop being friends with me. I told them that I didn't like girls, and they didn't...
    ArsenicTea ArsenicTea 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I Sometimes Wonder If Im a Bad Friend

    i sometimes wonder if i might be a bad friend i hope not
    F5Twister F5Twister 26-30, M Mar 13, 2008

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    I Shouldn't Be A Friend

    I push people away, and I'm always mean.  After knowing me for about 3 or 4 months, I have noticed and have been told that I'm mean.  My work partner is also a friend I hang out with sometimes on weekends, but he's told me I'm mean to him.  I was mean to my ex...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F Mar 8, 2010

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    I Can't Do Anything Right

    I've tried to be a good friend, tried to be there, but the harder I try, the more I seem to be doing wrong. I get told that I don't understand, that I wouldn't want to know; I always say the wrong thing. It's not that I don't care, coz I do, so much. It's just that I don't know...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 11, 2010

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    I Seriosly Don´t Know

    In fact I have been used by friends since I was a child. I remember that nobody in the kindergarden wanted to play with me, because I had not a mother ( !!!!!! ) Yes, they bullied me all the time that I had not a mother. I was not shy as kid, but I was very worry to get close to...
    Lilly78 Lilly78 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 10, 2012

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    There Must Be Something Wrong With Me..

    Sometimes I think I am a bad friend.. because sometimes I think I've made a new friend.. online or offline, and then after a while they just stop talking to me. So I just wonder if I've done something wrong. Then sometimes I find out that my friends are going through stuff...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2010

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    More than somebody thinks so, perhaps

    Well, in order to avoid misunderstandings, I must start saying that for me the concept of “friend” may be more or less different than your one, so, even if we all normally use the same word also for people we just have to stay in touch with - like schoolmates, co-workers, or...
    mat4 mat4 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Is It Only Me Or Them To?

    Idk anymore. I had awsome friends but I got a little depressed over something that happened in my life. I didn't share it with my friends at the time because I didn't want to worry them. I guess I got a little more silent and stuff. And at one point I told them what was wrong...
    ArgetGarm ArgetGarm 16-17, F Dec 11, 2011

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     I Am Not An Outgoing ...

     I am not an outgoing person...I'm a poet, and I tend to seek my own space perhaps too much.  Yet, I enjoy partying and miss it often but don't always know how to balance the two.  So, sometimes I feel I neglect my friends - and yet, my best friends (all 3 of them...
    bobbyjean bobbyjean 51-55 Jul 18, 2009

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    It is such an odd thing to lose a friend. Even more so when your friend is around your age. When the memories you made with that person is still fresh in your mind because they...
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    So, this girl, she is my best friend. She is also my cousin, so we've known each other since we were born and stuff. She used to be kinda mean, so didn't like her. But then she...
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    No promises. I could never find it in my heart to completely turn my back on someone who wants to be my friend. Once I know your do I try but if I don't think we can be friend...
    RandomDudeFriend RandomDudeFriend 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 10

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    I love my husband dearly, but I need a friend or two. You know...just somebody to talk to about anything...go to have coffee with or shop. I used to have that...but I made a bad...
    catsmeow59 catsmeow59 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    pixiedust0415 pixiedust0415 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 4

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    heyheyyybae heyheyyybae 13-15, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Love. 4 simple letters but the making itself isn't so simple. It has been said people come in and out of your life for many reasons and in still trying to figure out why he went...
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    September 2010 It was obvious Ryan and Kaylah were besties for life. Everyone could see that. Summer was almost ending and school was about to start. I actually didn’t made it...
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    Not to death. I met her in college and we were as close as a man and a woman can be without being boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife. People would often think we were...
    Ankokushin Ankokushin 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 16

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    I was in marching band, it was the senior show of my first year. One of my best friends, Bill (name changed, obviously) invited me to come down underneath the football stands to...
    Sulu2000 Sulu2000 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    Is it bad that I feel bad when my boyfriend texts other women? Even though they are just friends. Am I asking too much to have him all to myself? He says he loves me and I have...
    jlkreul jlkreul 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I just joined and would like to broaden my experience on here. Looking to make new friends as I'm bored living in a remote place that is about 1.5hrs from any town. Friend me up...
    undecidedgal undecidedgal 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    Hi! I'm new and I only have a couple friends so far so if anybody wants a new friend add me! :)
    Jess2002 Jess2002 13-15, F 25 mins ago

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    I was born with really bad eye sight with my left being twice as weak as my right and my left being over -9. I also have astigmatism. And to top it off my left eye is also...
    booyah73 booyah73 41-45, M 4 days ago

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    Preview I was 15 when I couldn’t handle it anymore, so I decided to go and talk to him. I told him it was great that they were such good friend, but that it was getting too much...
    mydailylifeasme mydailylifeasme 18-21, F Oct 5

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    Late night, I went to a mini concert at a college. It was me, my older brother and his gf. We made it up to the front and there was this guy in front of us. He was talking to my...
    justagirl18 justagirl18 16-17, F Sep 27

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    I just recently caught feelings for my cousin's best friend, they've been friends for about a year or so but I only met her about 3 or 4 months ago. We have been practicing for my...
    Thuganomics Thuganomics 13-15, M 1 Response Oct 1

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    I sit quietly letting the tears fall freely once again. I look around and I am assaulted by constant reminders. Things that I once looked forward to sharing with you, objects once...
    LittleBirds0827 LittleBirds0827 36-40, F Oct 7

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    I sit quietly letting the tears fall freely once again. I look around and I am assaulted by constant reminders. Things that I once looked forward to sharing with you, objects once...
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    I sit quietly letting the tears fall freely once again. I look around and I am assaulted by constant reminders. Things that I once looked forward to sharing with you, objects once...
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    I sit quietly letting the tears fall freely once again. I look around and I am assaulted by constant reminders. Things that I once looked forward to sharing with you, objects once...
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    I sit quietly letting the tears fall freely once again. I look around and I am assaulted by constant reminders. Things that I once looked forward to sharing with you, objects once...
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    I sit quietly letting the tears fall freely once again. I look around and I am assaulted by constant reminders. Things that I once looked forward to sharing with you, objects once...
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    I sit quietly letting the tears fall freely once again. I look around and I am assaulted by constant reminders. Things that I once looked forward to sharing with you, objects once...
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    I sit quietly letting the tears fall freely once again. I look around and I am assaulted by constant reminders. Things that I once looked forward to sharing with you, objects once...
    LittleBirds0827 LittleBirds0827 36-40, F Oct 7

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    This is really going to stupid because I haven't had a bad life by any stretch of the imagination. Growing up, my parents definitely wouldn't have won any awards and we never had...
    collegiatepanda collegiatepanda 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 7

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    False Friendships/Nobody posted on my Facebook wall on my birthday I'm 27 today, so old enough you would think that this kind of insubstantial little circumstance wouldn't bother...
    coffeejunkie87 coffeejunkie87 26-30 2 Responses Oct 9

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    I wanted him to stay in my life. Even though I’ve cried, felt like I was going to die, and drank alcohol a few times before over someone I was in love with not loving me, I’ve...
    Roshunn Roshunn 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    This, above all else, is the greatest experiences I have had the honor to go through. As of the 15th of next month, I will be in a long distance relationship with a man I met on...
    PriorP92 PriorP92 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I met Martin on ep last year.. He wanted to die.. He was very very down.. I still have contact with him everyday even if he left EP.. Martin is now 54.. A long time ago, he got...
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