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I Wonder If I Am a Bad Friend

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    I Can't Do Anything Right

    I've tried to be a good friend, tried to be there, but the harder I try, the more I seem to be doing wrong. I get told that I don't understand, that I wouldn't want to know; I always say the wrong thing. It's not that I don't care, coz I do, so much. It's just that I don't know...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 11, 2010

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    I Shouldn't Be A Friend

    I push people away, and I'm always mean.  After knowing me for about 3 or 4 months, I have noticed and have been told that I'm mean.  My work partner is also a friend I hang out with sometimes on weekends, but he's told me I'm mean to him.  I was mean to my ex...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F Mar 8, 2010

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    I Seriosly Don´t Know

    In fact I have been used by friends since I was a child. I remember that nobody in the kindergarden wanted to play with me, because I had not a mother ( !!!!!! ) Yes, they bullied me all the time that I had not a mother. I was not shy as kid, but I was very worry to get close to...
    Lilly78 Lilly78 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 10, 2012

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    I Sometimes Wonder If Im a Bad Friend

    i sometimes wonder if i might be a bad friend i hope not
    F5Twister F5Twister 26-30, M Mar 13, 2008

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    My bestfriend asked me

    for the answers for tonight's homework and I though she only needed a few. Turns out she wanted all of them! It's hard for me to say no so I waver it. I ended up saying no and she got mad at me. Now she's not answering my text. On her behalf she claims that whenever I need...
    unthinkablesoul unthinkablesoul 13-15, F Mar 30, 2014

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    I really wonder if I am.

    Like am I bad for being friends with him? Am I just a bad friend in general? Did I do something to make you mad?
    EmoSakurachan EmoSakurachan 18-21 Feb 7, 2014

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     I Am Not An Outgoing ...

     I am not an outgoing person...I'm a poet, and I tend to seek my own space perhaps too much.  Yet, I enjoy partying and miss it often but don't always know how to balance the two.  So, sometimes I feel I neglect my friends - and yet, my best friends (all 3 of them...
    bobbyjean bobbyjean 51-55 Jul 18, 2009

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    Please help I need advice!

    ! went to see a guy 200 miles away recently This guy is housemates with one of my long time friends She is angry with me because I didn't tell her I was visiting before hand and that I only phoned her once I was there I really like this guy and we are trying to work out what...
    Confuzed11 Confuzed11 22-25 Feb 21

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    I had a "friend" that was rarely available.

    And when I told her I had enough of her pretentiousness and constant unavailability, she then became concerned; by then I felt she was too late. As I get older, I don't want to feel so final and unforgiving. I teach my girls to be better friends, if they value the friendship...
    1LadyButterfly 1LadyButterfly 41-45, F Jan 22, 2014

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    I Always Look At Myself Fro...

    I always look at myself from someone else's shoes and I like to judge whether what I'm doing is a good thing or a bad thing depending on how I feel.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 18, 2009

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    i have this one friend ive been friend with

    for a long time, we talk all the time on messenger but someties i wonder if im really a good friend..:( i dont always do the things she wants i sometimes ignore her and just leave..when i say what i truly meant she gets all mad at me like i dont care what shes talking about but...
    JJsFate JJsFate 22-25, M Dec 9, 2014

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    There Must Be Something Wrong With Me..

    Sometimes I think I am a bad friend.. because sometimes I think I've made a new friend.. online or offline, and then after a while they just stop talking to me. So I just wonder if I've done something wrong. Then sometimes I find out that my friends are going through stuff...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F Feb 2, 2010

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    Must Be Me

    I can't always be a shoulder. I know it's impossible to be perfect, but I wish that i could always be that shoulder. But at the same time I have to look out for myself because there seems to be a lack of shoulders for ME to cry on. It must be awful of me to be there for them, but...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F Jul 13, 2008

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    I have been friends with this girl

    since fifth grade, but we had a falling out in our last year of junior high. She joined with two of my other friends, who all decided that I was a lesbian and had to tell them, or they would stop being friends with me. I told them that I didn't like girls, and they didn't...
    ArsenicTea ArsenicTea 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2014

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    More than somebody thinks so, perhaps

    Well, in order to avoid misunderstandings, I must start saying that for me the concept of “friend” may be more or less different than your one, so, even if we all normally use the same word also for people we just have to stay in touch with - like schoolmates, co-workers, or...
    mat4 mat4 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Is It Only Me Or Them To?

    Idk anymore. I had awsome friends but I got a little depressed over something that happened in my life. I didn't share it with my friends at the time because I didn't want to worry them. I guess I got a little more silent and stuff. And at one point I told them what was wrong...
    ArgetGarm ArgetGarm 16-17, F Dec 11, 2011

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    Drifter

    I don't exactly push people away...  I tend to sort of drift away from people instead. I'm generally a good friend at the surface. I'm always nice, I never want to cause conflict, I'm generous, I'm a good listener, I'm not boring, I will never reveal a close friend's secret...
    HeartsWillHold HeartsWillHold 18-21, F 2 Responses May 28, 2010

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