I Wonder If We All Expect Too Much From Relationships

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    Of Course.

    How could we not expect too much from our relationships? We live in a world where stylized ideals about everything from toothpaste to love are constantly rammed down our throats. Aren't all men built like Brad Pitt, with Bill Gates' money, and James Bond's charm? Aren't all...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Aug 10, 2009

    What does this group think of this response

    from my girlfriend, who says that she has never been "in love" in her 61 years? I am romantic and an idealist, she is practical and a realist. When I asked her how she felt about love, she answered, "Love is different things to different people." Is that true? What do you...
    jsteph1219 jsteph1219
    61-65, M
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2015

    A Poem, Not Mine

      Comes the dawn       After awhile you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and sharing a life, And you learn that love doesn’t mean possession, and company doesn’t mean security, and loneliness is universal. And you begin to...
    Mikenstein Mikenstein
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Apr 19, 2009

    Think We All Do

    That's why we get burned:p... Expectations, they almost usually just make us feel bad or something...Like, when we expect too much from someone, it's like, we feel that they're not giving us what we think we need, or want.
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Apr 18, 2009

    I wish my boyfriend did more

    for me. What sucks is that he already does so much but it's never enough for me. I want more but I realize that I have very unrealistic expectations. Does anyone ever feel like this?
    vickytoria1988 vickytoria1988
    26-30, F
    Nov 13, 2015

    I guess we all want too much from a relationship

    than show so little attention to that person then when they're gone you wish you could have gave them everything even your life. quick question how long do you get over a 5year relationship ? some say move on and I say I can you move on when you missing that person I miss the...
    popupshorty popupshorty
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 18, 2015

    I think between movies,

    books and the media, we've been almost brainwashed to think that to be a good relationship, you have to do crazy amazing things for each other all the time and it has to be this overwhelming, passionate love. Because of this, we sabotage good relationships because we think they...
    canadianlex canadianlex
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    alliecc11 alliecc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 4, 2015
    picklebobble picklebobble
    51-55, M
    1 Response Aug 4, 2015

    Unconditional love? C'mon it's a myth!

    I don't believe in its existence, from my own life experiences.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Jun 13, 2015

    I know I do. I want perfect.

    In any other part of my life I realize perfect is unattainable. I was so miserable for so long, I'd rather push people away.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jun 4, 2015

    Yes we do! We have way too much unrealistic

    expectations in our relationships. We don't want the man or the woman to cheat but we afraid to experiment in bed. Women don't like their men eyeing other women but we would won't even consider seducing him ourselves. Men and women don't want their partners talking to the...
    FelicitySmoak FelicitySmoak
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 23, 2015

    After much consideration based on the people

    I've met recently I guess that I really do expect too much. Honesty, openness, acceptance, trust, communication, mutual understanding is not to found in this medium. Good luck to us all.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jul 23, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    sadaccaa sadaccaa
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 5, 2015

    Sometimes I genuinely think we're programmed by

    school and TV/music and advertising to expect too much from another PERSON. Then life happens and we hopefully wake up to being more realistic and accepting of the imperfect love that comes into our lives.
    sahmmama sahmmama
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2015

    Not all but some, I think we just need to find

    someone with similar types and levels of expectations as us for everyone to be happy. It takes some honest and real investigating but then you should be able to decide to move forward or depart. I think the problem is most people hold back and don't communicate freely...
    AmusedBunny AmusedBunny
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 16, 2015

    I just want someone to want me

    as much as I want them. To put me first above everyone and everything else. To kiss me at any point in time just because he could. To travel with me and do things with me. To just experience life and everything it has to offer and can't wait to share that with me. It just feels...
    adelaider adelaider
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 3, 2014

    ~ I Know We Do. ~ Especially myself.

    Do to my love for reading, I think I've set my goal for my ideal relationship so high that it'll probably never be met. Because of this, I expect any relationship I have to go smooth, have a few bumps here and there, but I never calculated the "sexual tension" in as I created...
    AshenedSoul AshenedSoul
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2014

    Okay so I'm engaged and confused.

    My fiancé and I are very much in love with each other. We have known each other for 2 years. Recently I started noticing things from him. Okay we met in California where I'm from. He was in Cali when we met helping his family out with a business that soon after failed and he...
    spdrmnky86 spdrmnky86
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 2, 2015

    Thought someone could comprehend your

    personality after knowing them for years and then realizing they are oblivious or incapable of the concept.
    Acid1 Acid1
    70+, F
    Nov 28, 2015

    I've licked my wounds

    and repaired the relationship with my ex BF. I'm not sure how good this is for me because I'm still in love with him, but there's this beautiful energy & connection we share that I'm happy that I can still experience in my life. So it's bittersweet. I screwed up, & he says he...
    TheRightFitforLife TheRightFitforLife
    46-50, F
    Dec 25, 2015

    Sometimes I feel like I do.

    Maybe that's why I had trouble with relationships before. I think it's the way love is commercialized. No relationship is perfect and people who pretend there's are, are lieing. Faimlies, friends and couples have fights. I think it makes them stronger i the end.
    Runenox Runenox
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Apr 23, 2015

    I might . I expect you to act like a mature

    adult. I expect you not to get on my nerves . I expect you to be nice to me . but iknow noone will treat me as good as I treat myself
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    Jun 5, 2015

    In this day and age, we can't help

    but to do so. Which is why I wanted to overcome my past, by changing the person that made me this way...myself...so I did. I use to never be this good if a guy. So I took time to sought out my problems, and fixed them. And how do I know I have? Simple, by observing the stuff my...
    Sheismybestfriend Sheismybestfriend
    31-35, M
    Nov 18, 2014

    my bf just went to 711.

    it's literally 2 blocks away. he was gone almost an hour :/
    losee44 losee44
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 20, 2015

    I just want a tall guy

    that doesn't mind if I smoke w33d or drink and lets me be me. Is that too much to ask?
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 23, 2015

    I think we all have our own expectations on a

    relationships. although society eds to let people know who they should date or e with. that is really not all true. I think we should be with a person who will accept you for who you are and for what is inside you. let's face it we all have our flaws and none of us is really...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 23, 2015

    I find myself asking this question.

    ..why are there so many people feeling the same way. You see the posts, you feel what they feel. You relate but yet we stay in relationships for other reasons. Kids, sex, money,security to name a few. But yet we post and need more. What do we want? Am I willing to take that leap...
    Givingup766 Givingup766
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Aug 3, 2015

    Having had a very good relationship with my

    late wife for 38 years I can honestly say this: Why should one expect anything when it's about giving to your partner everything you possibly can. Above all be honest with each other about everything and love each other in any way you can. Trust me, do this and you will never...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 11

    The If's

    If we are expecting our mate to make us happy then we are expecting too much. In order to be a great partner I think it is important to realize that we are two individuals that love one another and work toward common goals but that ultimately we are responsible for only ourselves...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Apr 19, 2011

    Complete Me

    I think we often have expectations from relationships that are not fair to ourselves or the other person. We get into relationships because they make us happy, because we enjoy spending time with the other person, and usually because they bring out a part of ourselves that we...
    scorpioBaby scorpioBaby
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 9, 2010

    It was that blasted snake's fault,

    I reckon. Tempting Eve to bite the apple - and now, we never seem to be able to be truly satisfied, no matter what our wealth or status. I had a calling this year to return to the rural idyll of my childhood, before the oaks regained their leaves and everything became overgrown...
    treborsniknej treborsniknej
    56-60, M
    Apr 23, 2015

    I Think We Do

    It seems to me that no one is interested in a real, practical, dedicated modern relationship. Everyone wants this unattainable fairy tale, and then they are shocked and hurt when that doesn't happen. I don't ask much from a partner/partners. I ask for honesty, kindness, and long...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2011

    Perfect group!!! I think I definitely expect

    way too much from relationships. It's my biggest revelation this year and past years! I'm glad I've had it. But, it is hard to stomach, still... Very hard. I'll never give up on most things I want, which are prominently "healthy" relationships. Over the past few years, I've had...
    LwrenSD LwrenSD
    26-30, F
    Jun 4, 2015

    Stop Setting Such a High Bar

    I think most people, girls especially, expect way too much from their partner. I'm all for expecting love and respect and honesty, but some things are unnecessary. It's great when a guy opens your car door for you, but this is 2009 not 1959, don't expect every guy to do it. Not...
    scruffy21 scruffy21
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Aug 10, 2009

    Very Much So

    Often relationships form after a physical attraction, we then try and enforce a connection within that relationship in order that it is seen as justifiable to lust after this particular person- that there are actually feelings attached. We then become self-centred, a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 22, 2008

    I once read "everybody's trying to FIND the

    right person, but nobody's trying to BE the right person". Made me think.
    mssparkles mssparkles
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 4, 2015

    As a child, I based my ideas of how friends

    and romantic partners should be on how they were in books. I still haven't quite managed to shake this idea yet...but yes, I do think we expect too much.
    ThunderWaffles ThunderWaffles
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 24, 2015

    an intelligent one who understands me

    and doesn't do lots of drama: that's ALL I want. They come around and everything is perfect at first. Then they act some drama and I get pissed. The shortest was over a year before we split. but I'm so so rattled that I just started now again and the dramas are on within a week...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 5, 2015

    Set the bar for your expectations.

    You built relationships after a lifetime commitment. So don't let go any of your relationships even if all your expectations go unnoticed.
    hiddentears hiddentears
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 12, 2015
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