I Wonder Why Childless Women Are So Scorned By Society

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    Fed Up

    I cant have children. I get fed up with women who try to tell me giving birth is the best thing you will ever do in your life. Women who have 1 child and get upset because they want more kids and cant or I want a girl/boy. I hate women who say to me you will never know love until...
    tamaraheeney tamaraheeney
    36-40
    5 Responses Sep 30, 2010

    Sometimes Like Makes Decisions For You.

    When I was a little girl I always new I would get married and have children.  I thought I would be married and have a child by the age of 30.  Sometimes life doesn't go to plan.  I like to think I've lived life responsibly.  I have worked hard, paid my way without help from...
    Halo101 Halo101
    36-40
    Nov 23, 2011

    I Guess I Have Some Time To Change My Mind...

    ...I am 27 years old and for the last few years I have been in the mind set that I do not want to have children. I have various psychological problems that are on-going and I don't think I would be capable of having a child without messing it up psychologically, I wouldn't intend...
    trixabell trixabell
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2010

    I found this today which helped me enormously -

    it may or may not help you depending upon your perspective but I hope it gives hope or is inspiring for some. There is definately a need to redress the crap childless and childfree woman are given by society along the lines of 'constructive discrimination' or redressing the...
    GardenFaery GardenFaery
    41-45
    Jan 14, 2014

    Not Scorned, But Ignored?

    My wife and i do not have kids and it is not that we didn't want them, it just never happened and we were not into the what I call heroics of going to a doctor and having endlesss tests and other invasive things. We just figured that if we cannot have them by natural normal means...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 25, 2012

    I'm Not Knocking Motherhood

    I want you to understand where I'm coming from. I'm not the stereotypical snooty, overeducated "career woman" who looks down her nose at women who decide to have children, or believes that all hands-on mothers are somehow weak, brainwashed cop-outs who aren't "living up to their...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme
    31-35
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2010

    I Either Vent Or I Start Throwing Things.

    I am a college student. We're elbow-deep in the term, which means lots of homework, midterms, reviewing, etc. So that's what I've spent most of this beautiful Sunday doing-- staying indoors, working on my education. One little problem. Or should I say, four or five little...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 23, 2011

    I'm 23 and people have told me my biological

    clock is ticking. Society really pressures women for children,and that is a mistake. Women need to be ready for a child.
    Rebecca321 Rebecca321
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 19, 2014

    Rant

    I'm 20 and newly married. My husband and I strongly agree that we do not want kids. Not now and not ever. Currently we live with my dad, who lives on disability. My husband works part-time on 8.35 an hour and I work full time on 7.75 an hour. Neither of us are college graduates...
    missynegative missynegative
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 15, 2008

    Not Sure How To Define It...

    I had a child who died before his first birthday, and I never had another one, so am I truly childless, or "the mother of a dead child" ? I don't like saying the latter, because not only does it still hurt, but it invites pitying questions that I'd generally rather not deal with...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 25, 2012

    You're Not Selfish

    I have read a lot of stories in this group, and one of the prevailing themes is that women who don't want children have been told that they are "selfish". Well, listen, you're not. Quite the opposite, actually. You're wise. When you really think about it, there are a lot of women...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme
    31-35
    Jul 10, 2010

    I had my tubes tied at 21.

    Since I was single it was an uphill battle at the time. It is a decision I have never regretted for a heartbeat.
    wordofwarning wordofwarning
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Feb 14, 2015

    I Wonder Why Childless Women Are So Scorned By Society Am Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr Or Abf Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 27, 2013

    Scorned For Not Having Kids, Hurts

    My story is like a lot of others, I know, however I cant help but feel alone in not being a mom,  because for me, even going to the grocery store is a reminder that I dont have kids - especially seeing girl scouts with their friends and mothers trying to...
    merijoe merijoe
    46-50
    4 Responses Apr 26, 2009

    Military Wife Childfee By Choice- Am I The Only One??

    Well, my title says it all. Thankfully we only have 6 years left, and hopefully the next move will be the last! I am fine with my friends at home- many have now had a child (ONE!), and I still love them and get along. Now, pick me up and move me into a community of insecure...
    PBcookies PBcookies
    36-40
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2013

    I Am Childless ..Big Deal!

    Lately, I've been asked by co workers if I have children. I tell them I am child less due to the fact that I have no husband. I emphasize that I am not willing to bear children for the simple fact of producing. I've always expected to get married and then have children...
    caramelLova1 caramelLova1
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 4, 2013

    Lots Of Nieces And Nephews But No Children

    I am 33 yrs. old and have been married for 3 and a half year. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for almost 2 years. I definitely feel the psi. And heartache of women who wish to have children but struggle to conceive. I have a large family of eight brothers and...
    laur1279 laur1279
    31-35
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2012

    They Are Simply Jealous!

    Have read all of your heartfelt comments.  Please, never feel as though you owe anyone any explanation as to why you are childless.  If they really have time to get into this with you then they do not have enough to do.  I have lost count of the times people...
    IrisElizabeth IrisElizabeth
    56-60, F
    5 Responses May 2, 2009

    I Don't Want Kids

     "I don't want kids" I told my mother when I was 12. "We'll see when you're older", she sighed as if children were for those with a refined palate."I don't want kids", I told my mother when I was 17. "You'll change your mind", she snorted as if children were the holy grail of a...
    Mdear Mdear
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2011

    Have No Idea

    many wemon have babies that should never have kids we were goibng t addopt a child as we knew we could never have children up front but you also had to be 21 and wife wife was killed at age 17
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2
    61-65, M
    Oct 18, 2011

    My Story

    I'm a woman in my forties who has chosen not to have children. Why did I choose not to have children? Well, I chose not to have children because I felt that there were many things I could not give a child with regards to time, energy, a family, etc but I do know I would have...
    seemedlikeagoodideaatthetime seemedlikeagoodideaatthetime
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 12, 2012

    Are They? Really?

                  I am slowly recovering from my reaction of amazement to finding an experience with this title. Maybe a few decades ago I would not have been so surprised, but... now?       ...
    Dawnriser Dawnriser
    66-70, F
    5 Responses Apr 27, 2009

    Childless And A Mess

    I am 26married for 4 yearshad three miscarriageshave polycystic ovarieshave endometriousis1 miscarriage by ivf with three further ivf without successnot coping with mental side of such a child society
    tilly85 tilly85
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 5, 2012

    No Kids For Me

    I'm 34 years old and have no children by choice.  I grew up the only child of a single mother and on welfare.  At a very young age I set standards for myself when it came to having children.  1)  I must be in a good and stable relationship when I decide...
    ShatteredSilk ShatteredSilk
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Oct 15, 2008

    I Want To Be A Mother, Not Simply Have Children...why Can't People Get This!?

    I have been transparent, lamenting out loud regarding my infertility. Some well-meaning folks have said to me “you have a husband now, you should be grateful” or “you should be grateful for what you have, not focusing on what you don’t have.” Being childless isn’t a...
    whatswrongwithme46 whatswrongwithme46
    46-50
    3 Responses Feb 25, 2013

    I Know

    I'm unmarried with no children and it's a very awkward position to be in. I have a married sister who has three kids and I'm self-conscious around her. Whenever I go out and see married people around my age with a family of their own, I feel so small and dorky! It's not that I...
    MySweetLord MySweetLord
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Aug 31, 2009

    I Don't Describe Myself As "childless"

    Like many of you lovely ladies in this group, when I've stated I don't want to have children I've been patronised, ridiculed, and felt pressured by society, friends and family (my mother wants to pay for my eggs to be frozen, "in case I change my mind"). I know lots of women who...
    JessBaker JessBaker
    36-40
    4 Responses Sep 14, 2012
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 10

    Forgotten Womb

    I'm 33 yrs. old, single, childless (medical reasons), and it hurts more than anything I know. Up until about a year ago I couldn't stand to hear of someone I knew being pregnant. It was very difficult for me to express happiness for them. I would always cry myself to sleep that...
    Forgottenwomb Forgottenwomb
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Aug 4, 2012

    32 And Left Behind

    It's official...I am the last of my friends to be unattached and childless. Not by choice either. I'm educated, have a good job, friendly, loyal, loving, compassionate, and not a dog either! Just a couple of weeks ago, my last single-and-carefree friend announced she was...
    SXDX380 SXDX380
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 14, 2012

    The Urge Is Absent

    I'm 35, single, and have no children. I don't say childless because 1) I don't feel that I nor my life is less for not having children and 2) I don't believe that having kids is going to enhance or make my life more (children are neither furniture nor accessories). That said, I...
    Togleby Togleby
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Sep 26, 2012

    I'll tell you why: PEOPLE ARE FUCKTARDS!

    !! THAT'S WHY!!! Everyone has the RIGHT to choose whether or not they want to have children. Hell, there's parents out there who shouldn't be parents at all and for some reason they don't get a bashing. They're the real monsters, not people who are childless. Here are my reasons...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2015

    My Two Daughters

    I have two daughters...People seem to have an opinion regarding both of them...My oldest is 28...been with her husband a total of five years...and married to him for one...Well different people...ranging from her friends...family...down to the people that she works with is always...
    singer1960 singer1960
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Sep 20, 2008

    Why Your Childless Girl Friends Are Worth Their Weight In Gold

    When you become a mom, remember to hold onto your childless girl friends, because more than ever, they will be worth their weight in gold. That's right, most of us new moms ditch those single gals, whose priorities are now so different from ours. But in spite of the radical...
    MaxineR MaxineR
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 4, 2012

    Think Before You Speak

    I am 44 yrs old with no children. I have been married previously, and I am currently married. I do not have children due to medical reasons. But people assume and judge me immediately upon hearing that I do not have children. In my thirties people looked curious, now in my...
    rachel717 rachel717
    46-50, F
    29 Responses Oct 15, 2008

    I Don't Get It.. I Think People With Kids Must Be Jealous Of Their Freedom.

    my version of the "American Dream" is quite different from most of the people I know: For one reason or another: most people want to get married (as soon as humanly possible, most likely to the wrong person) and have kids (also as quickly as possible and most likely with the...
    wack1985 wack1985
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Apr 12, 2010

    Never Have And Never Will

    I think I decided not to have children in my early teens, I'm now 35. I was told at the time that I would change my mind when the biological clock kicked in but it never has and I'm even more adamant to this day that it's not a life choice for me. Thankfully I'm engaged to a...
    Effeoh Effeoh
    31-35
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2013

    I Am A Valuable Person

    I thought I was fine.  My life has not gone as planned; however it has been better than I ever imagined.   Then last year my husband's daughter passed away.  When this most difficult event is brought up the first thing nearly everyone has asked "did she have...
    shireneu shireneu
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 25, 2010

    No Support Groups For Women Without Children.

    I found out at 35 (20 years ago) that I had polycystic ovaries and endometriosis. I can still remember going for my pre-op appointment for the hysterectomy and being in the waiting room on well baby day. I was hysteric. There was a kind nurse that noticed me bawling my head...
    pjacobs16 pjacobs16
    51-55
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

    Empty Nest

    for 25 years i wanted to have a baby or three, to be pregnant and go through that whole process. i believe now that because of my troubled childhood, i needed to bond with someone who loved me unconditionally, even if it were only for a time. i wanted to have something in common...
    1almatrevino 1almatrevino
    51-55, F
    May 11, 2012
    AfterFall AfterFall
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2015
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