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I Wonder Why People Say Things They Don't Mean

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    Why, Why, Why?

    Why is it that when people become angry they start rattling off things they dont mean?  I have a terrible case of this!
    DayLateDollarShort DayLateDollarShort 31-35, F 3 Responses May 6, 2007

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    I Wish People Would Just Be Ho...

    I wish people would just be honest and up front. Sometimes i guess its just easier to say what people want to hear. I dont like people not saying what they mean,but i suppose they have their reasons.
    sunshine20 sunshine20 19-21, F Sep 4, 2007

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    Why the Bullshit?

    It seems that most people say things just to say them. They hold no truth...there is no reason...nothing. Example: I have been talking to this guy for about 4 years. About a year ago we started "dating" and blah blah blah. Anyway, the other day we were talking about...
    perfectlyunusual perfectlyunusual 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2008

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    I Have An Idea Why People Say ...

    I have an idea why people say stuff they donr mean. I have done it and I feel bad after. I think its due to the fact that they dont think before they speak. gets me all the time.
    irishwannabeky irishwannabeky 26-30, F Sep 4, 2007

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    I Hate People Saying Things They Don't Mean..

    I can get so broken just because of this.. although I know they didn't really mean it.. But I think there must be some background to why they say these things.. and it hurts me really bad from time to time.. my mum does it so often..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 30, 2007

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    They Are Genuinely Hurt Themselves...

    I think people say things they dont mean for a couple of reasons.  One reason is that they feel betrayed or deeply hurt themselves so they lash out.  I am personally guilty of this one.  Another reason could be the attacker has low self esteem or has a...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    It Happens All the Time

    Lol I must like be stupid.. I say things to people that I know are wrong or devoid of meaning - and in strange contexts -  and then I do facepalms and wonder why I said that. I'm so dumb!
    ironie ironie 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2008

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    It frustrates when some people say they love you

    or care much about you...and the first thing that you see is...stabbing you in your back or harm you badly...i am in critical position or situation right now as feel like i am walking away from everything in life...i stopped laughing as i used to have good laughs...i smile but...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M Jun 11

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    My Theory

    I believe people tend to get caught in the moment and believe they are "experiencing those feelings" when in reality that is not the case.  At some point they realize they are over their heads and their story changes. I'm trying to give the benefit of the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 14, 2009

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    Why?

    Why did he say he though he was falling for me and then found a girlfriend within the next week?  Why did he say he would always be ther and clearly wasn't?  Why did he say our "thing" was going to last a long time and then after a few months let it go without...
    crazyinlove88 crazyinlove88 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 30, 2008

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    I Want to Mean What I Say and Say What I Mean

    Yeah I wonder about that. I wonder about why people say things they don't mean, but even more, I wonder why people don't say things they mean! I think that would be a much better world. I wish I could always say what I mean but sometimes I just can't force myself. I can't do it.
    Wraither Wraither 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 30, 2007

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    I Dont Get It

    i dont think people say things they dont mean, i think they do mean them at the time its said. how many of us have said things to hurt someone when we are arguein or have fallin out? alot, we say things that we no will hurt them so at that point we really mean what we are saying...
    ashbash23 ashbash23 21-25, F Jan 4, 2008

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    Why Do They Do That??????

    I am still not sure on why,some people say things they just dont' mean
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings 26-30, F May 24, 2011

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    I Drink Alone

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LSUa64K9TsI&list=LLxi5I_VtPFLvtd2YHtwkq_A The other night I lay sleeping And I woke from a terrible dream So I called up my pal Jack Daniel's And his partner Jimmy Beam The other day I got invited to a party But I stayed home instead Just me...
    sharpTresHombre sharpTresHombre 41-45, M Aug 10, 2013

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    I Always Wonder Abouthtat Beca...

    I always wonder about that because even I say things that I don't mean, and I wonder why I say them....
    GTMarie GTMarie 18-21, F Sep 4, 2007

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    People Cry Out For Attation

    i use to date this crazy guy a few years ago. and he would tell me stories about how women used him and how they cheated. and he would say how he wanted to kill himself.. at first i felt sorry for him and told him it was going to be alright. we dated for 6 months and it was...
    thunderrider thunderrider 36-40, F Aug 9, 2013

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    I Dont Get It Either

    is there really any point to it? i mean maybe if youre trying to be nice, but youre gonna end up hurting the other person anyways when they find out you really didnt mean what you said.
    bells19 bells19 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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    Get Your Kicks On Route 66

    things like i love you, and i'm sorry... those are the worst. why lie about that. silence is better than lying. that is what you are doing if you say something you don't really mean you know. you are lying. if you don't love someone, don't tell them you do. not for sex, not for...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2007

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    People Cry Out For Attation

    i use to date this crazy guy a few years ago. and he would tell me stories about how women used him and how they cheated. and he would say how he wanted to kill himself.. at first i felt sorry for him and told him it was going to be alright. we dated for 6 months and it was...
    thunderrider thunderrider 36-40, F Aug 9, 2013

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    I Say Things I Dont Always Mean

    like i say what i dont really mean becalse i dont like to hurt people but you know what its hurting me so iam trying to stop that
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2008

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    Possibly My #1 Pet Peeve

    I just don't get it. It's like a variation on Tourette's Syndrome. The mouth has taken control. The long rant followed by the change of heart and the apology. It really confuses the rest of us you know.
    chovhani chovhani 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2007

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    You Really Do Have to Wonder S...

    You really do have to wonder sometimes. They say the truth hurts, but is a lie any better?
    Scion Scion 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    Stop Wondering

    It's because so many people are idiots... Look at least half are below average intelligence. And the majority of the ones above average are hardly much better. Also emotions tend to get one's mouth in full gear before one thinks about what one is about to say.
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 1 Response Dec 31, 2007

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    I Think That They Really Do Me...

    I think that they really do mean them, it's just been built up for so long and comes out in anger!
    sarboo sarboo 21-25, F Sep 4, 2007

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    The Reason Behind It

    There's one word to it " efftards".
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2011

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    What's the Point?

    I have loved men who said they loved me too. Both, actually, said it first. Both, actually, said it before I wanted to. I think they get a kick out of the cruelty.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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    I Do It Sometimes

    Sometimes I say things I don't mean, and as an afterthought, I don't know why I say them. Things like, "I want to die," or "I'm never going to get better." I think it's like two sides of my brain clashing with one another, and sometimes the "wrong side...
    paperalias paperalias 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 10, 2008

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    Like My Co Worker....

    Who says she loves me a lot but I think her love for me is based on what I do for her. Take that all away and she isn't bothered. She hasn't been there for me when I have needed her and she constantly says she will do things and then doesn't bother. But then she will come up to...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 1 Response May 24, 2011

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    Oh They Mean It

    I have found that no one really says things they don't mean They say things they did not mean for you to hear or did not mean to say in that particular way Having had many instances of anger frustration and emotional distress i find it more that people shout and scream hurtful...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    We'll sometimes I say a lot of things I don't say one day I was having a real bad day, and someone who used to be my friend had text me, then I was talking to him and I told him...
    Chasemanning Chasemanning 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 14

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    Ugh it's like the lowest of the low.😒😣😫😩😔👿😡😠😟😦😧
    Tyelioo Tyelioo 13-15, F Jul 5

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    People don't believe GOD exist for these reasons: 1- they are more into science 2- things happen in their life and they lost faith (basically weak in faith) 3-they are more of...
    sashakimi4 sashakimi4 18-21, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's weird i'm not jealous of my close friends best friend... I'll call this close friend Maria. But when Maria talks to this one girl Saidee i get so jealous. saidee is a girl in...
    Idonthaveanameanymore Idonthaveanameanymore 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    Letting go of hurtful people doesn´t mean you hate them...it just means you love yourself...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Hellooooo world ! Don't make babies by default ! It is not an ooops I just wanted sex...oh well,let's be parents. Bring wanted babies and if you do the "oops" thing,be consequent...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    So I have a friend who I've known for about 3 and a half years now. I've had feelings for her for quite some time, the thing is she was married when I first met her. She is...
    Twitch313 Twitch313 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 21

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    A guy that gives a lot of mixed signals and seems confusing. Should they be pursued or are they just a waste of time ?
    Tric202 Tric202 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I often say it, but when I do it feels my heart's going to explode and I'm going to die. Arghhh..
    ladyshin ladyshin 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rK6wppya5cs. It's a romanian song for the most beautifull girl on EP and in this world!You know who you are.You mean the world for me and I will...
    DanyB25 DanyB25 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    Who hasn't? Anyone who hasn't at least applied a stereotype to someone are either too young to reason or are lying. It's what makes us human, picking on someone else's differences...
    OneFive OneFive 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    The girl I like went to her home country for a whole month and I missed her so much ,I didn't realize how much I really liked her until we were apart ,she's coming home next week I...
    Life8227 Life8227 16-17, F Jul 21

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    Sorry I've been sad and angry so please excuse me if I'm rude.
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    You should never bully someone it makes them really sad sometimes people act like they don't care but they really do some people care so much that they commit suicide why would you...
    samaia01 samaia01 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    I love my family. Don't get me wrong. They mean well and have good intentions. I don't feel like I can fully be myself around them. Sometimes it's just the disbelieving looks...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F Jul 12

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    I watched a movie about something like this. The whole premise of it is that the kid says on camera that he is going to kill himself and gets the reactions from his parents and...
    BigBlittleb123 BigBlittleb123 16-17, M 4 Responses Jul 21

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    Had to write this after reading a question, because it seems many people on EP say they don't have friends. Understandable, believable as we are on here and being social. Some of...
    dustypork dustypork 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    I'm the kind of person that loves freely, but to give my love isn't easy. Yeah I love my friends and family, but I never say I love you often. It's not that I don't love them, I...
    KukeretheFox KukeretheFox 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 19

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    one crazy conversation... acquaintance: "Hey, you want to have kids one day?" me: "No." acquaintance: "Why not? You seem like you’d be a good mom. Or is it that you don’t...
    Neiymara Neiymara 22-25, F Jul 8

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    so I met this guy online on a chatting site in 2012. He was 17, I was 16. We hit it off really well and he eventually asked me to be his girlfriend. I agreed. The only problem was...
    shay328 shay328 18-21, F Jul 7

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    I can understand how people romanticize marriage and build it up with words like commitment, faithfulness, loyalty, etc. A marriage in itself doesn’t actually have the power to...
    GiantKaiju GiantKaiju 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 12

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