I Wonder Why People Say Things They Don't Mean

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 580 People

    It Happens All the Time

    Lol I must like be stupid.. I say things to people that I know are wrong or devoid of meaning - and in strange contexts -  and then I do facepalms and wonder why I said that. I'm so dumb!
    ironie ironie
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 24, 2008

    Most of us are in this habit.

    See under comments.
    neezee neezee
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    The Reason Behind It

    There's one word to it " efftards".
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 7, 2011

    I Always Wonder Abouthtat Beca...

    I always wonder about that because even I say things that I don't mean, and I wonder why I say them....
    GTMarie GTMarie
    18-21, F
    Sep 4, 2007

    Why Do They Do That??????

    I am still not sure on why,some people say things they just dont' mean
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings
    26-30, F
    May 24, 2011

    I Say Things I Dont Always Mean

    like i say what i dont really mean becalse i dont like to hurt people but you know what its hurting me so iam trying to stop that
    lunnas lunnas
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 24, 2008

    I Wish People Would Just Be Ho...

    I wish people would just be honest and up front. Sometimes i guess its just easier to say what people want to hear. I dont like people not saying what they mean,but i suppose they have their reasons.
    sunshine20 sunshine20
    18-21, F
    Sep 4, 2007

    People Cry Out For Attation

    i use to date this crazy guy a few years ago. and he would tell me stories about how women used him and how they cheated. and he would say how he wanted to kill himself.. at first i felt sorry for him and told him it was going to be alright. we dated for 6 months and it was...
    thunderrider thunderrider
    36-40, F
    Aug 9, 2013

    Oh They Mean It

    I have found that no one really says things they don't mean They say things they did not mean for you to hear or did not mean to say in that particular way Having had many instances of anger frustration and emotional distress i find it more that people shout and scream hurtful...
    tulick tulick
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

    Well where do I start .

    . at the beginning I suppose is a good place ..I joined ep made a few friends who seemed to be nice n honest ..told me nice 2 meet u ..will chat later ...did they ? No ..get over yourselves ... if thats your way of life ..id rather not be a part of it ..to those who spoke and...
    daddyneededplease daddyneededplease
    46-50, F
    Aug 5, 2014

    I Hate People Saying Things They Don't Mean..

    I can get so broken just because of this.. although I know they didn't really mean it.. But I think there must be some background to why they say these things.. and it hurts me really bad from time to time.. my mum does it so often..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 30, 2007

    Like My Co Worker....

    Who says she loves me a lot but I think her love for me is based on what I do for her. Take that all away and she isn't bothered. She hasn't been there for me when I have needed her and she constantly says she will do things and then doesn't bother. But then she will come up to...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 24, 2011

    I Do It Sometimes

    Sometimes I say things I don't mean, and as an afterthought, I don't know why I say them. Things like, "I want to die," or "I'm never going to get better." I think it's like two sides of my brain clashing with one another, and sometimes the "wrong side...
    paperalias paperalias
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 10, 2008

    Brains are always busy,

    so things that come out of one's mouth seems to be a cluster ****. Yes, you organize your thoughts, but its the pattern and the attitude which you present it. Did I say it correctly? probably not. you're not alone. though, if you're afraid of offending someone, its best not to...
    Kmacgurl93 Kmacgurl93
    22-25, F
    Dec 22, 2015

    Get Your Kicks On Route 66

    things like i love you, and i'm sorry... those are the worst. why lie about that. silence is better than lying. that is what you are doing if you say something you don't really mean you know. you are lying. if you don't love someone, don't tell them you do. not for sex, not for...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian
    31-35, F
    Dec 9, 2007

    I Want to Mean What I Say and Say What I Mean

    Yeah I wonder about that. I wonder about why people say things they don't mean, but even more, I wonder why people don't say things they mean! I think that would be a much better world. I wish I could always say what I mean but sometimes I just can't force myself. I can't do it.
    Wraither Wraither
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 30, 2007

    Possibly My #1 Pet Peeve

    I just don't get it. It's like a variation on Tourette's Syndrome. The mouth has taken control. The long rant followed by the change of heart and the apology. It really confuses the rest of us you know.
    chovhani chovhani
    46-50, F
    1 Response Sep 18, 2007

    Why, Why, Why?

    Why is it that when people become angry they start rattling off things they dont mean?  I have a terrible case of this!
    DayLateDollarShort DayLateDollarShort
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 6, 2007

    Why?

    Why did he say he though he was falling for me and then found a girlfriend within the next week?  Why did he say he would always be ther and clearly wasn't?  Why did he say our "thing" was going to last a long time and then after a few months let it go without...
    crazyinlove88 crazyinlove88
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 30, 2008

    I Dont Get It Either

    is there really any point to it? i mean maybe if youre trying to be nice, but youre gonna end up hurting the other person anyways when they find out you really didnt mean what you said.
    bells19 bells19
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 10, 2008

    Stop Wondering

    It's because so many people are idiots... Look at least half are below average intelligence. And the majority of the ones above average are hardly much better. Also emotions tend to get one's mouth in full gear before one thinks about what one is about to say.
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    1 Response Dec 31, 2007

    You Really Do Have to Wonder S...

    You really do have to wonder sometimes. They say the truth hurts, but is a lie any better?
    Scion Scion
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Sep 4, 2007

    I Have An Idea Why People Say ...

    I have an idea why people say stuff they donr mean. I have done it and I feel bad after. I think its due to the fact that they dont think before they speak. gets me all the time.
    irishwannabeky irishwannabeky
    26-30, F
    Sep 4, 2007

    People Cry Out For Attation

    i use to date this crazy guy a few years ago. and he would tell me stories about how women used him and how they cheated. and he would say how he wanted to kill himself.. at first i felt sorry for him and told him it was going to be alright. we dated for 6 months and it was...
    thunderrider thunderrider
    36-40, F
    Aug 9, 2013

    My Theory

    I believe people tend to get caught in the moment and believe they are "experiencing those feelings" when in reality that is not the case.  At some point they realize they are over their heads and their story changes. I'm trying to give the benefit of the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 14, 2009

    Most of time I really don't mean what I say,

    then I start blame myself & ask how I said that! Why I didn't say what I feel & need to say. By the way, I feel that I'm little crazy.. Noo, I'm big crazy
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 21, 2015

    I Dont Get It

    i dont think people say things they dont mean, i think they do mean them at the time its said. how many of us have said things to hurt someone when we are arguein or have fallin out? alot, we say things that we no will hurt them so at that point we really mean what we are saying...
    ashbash23 ashbash23
    22-25, F
    Jan 4, 2008

    I Think That They Really Do Me...

    I think that they really do mean them, it's just been built up for so long and comes out in anger!
    sarboo sarboo
    22-25, F
    Sep 4, 2007

    They Are Genuinely Hurt Themselves...

    I think people say things they dont mean for a couple of reasons.  One reason is that they feel betrayed or deeply hurt themselves so they lash out.  I am personally guilty of this one.  Another reason could be the attacker has low self esteem or has a...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jul 25, 2009
    apperentlyicanthavemynameagain apperentlyicanthavemynameagain
    22-25, F
    Dec 22, 2015

    Why the Bullshit?

    It seems that most people say things just to say them. They hold no truth...there is no reason...nothing. Example: I have been talking to this guy for about 4 years. About a year ago we started "dating" and blah blah blah. Anyway, the other day we were talking about...
    perfectlyunusual perfectlyunusual
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 22, 2008

    What's the Point?

    I have loved men who said they loved me too. Both, actually, said it first. Both, actually, said it before I wanted to. I think they get a kick out of the cruelty.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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