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I Wonder Why People Say Things They Don't Mean

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    People Cry Out For Attation

    i use to date this crazy guy a few years ago. and he would tell me stories about how women used him and how they cheated. and he would say how he wanted to kill himself.. at first i felt sorry for him and told him it was going to be alright. we dated for 6 months and it was...
    thunderrider thunderrider 36-40, F Aug 9, 2013

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    I Want to Mean What I Say and Say What I Mean

    Yeah I wonder about that. I wonder about why people say things they don't mean, but even more, I wonder why people don't say things they mean! I think that would be a much better world. I wish I could always say what I mean but sometimes I just can't force myself. I can't do it.
    Wraither Wraither 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 30, 2007

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    I Always Wonder Abouthtat Beca...

    I always wonder about that because even I say things that I don't mean, and I wonder why I say them....
    GTMarie GTMarie 18-21, F Sep 4, 2007

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    I Dont Get It

    i dont think people say things they dont mean, i think they do mean them at the time its said. how many of us have said things to hurt someone when we are arguein or have fallin out? alot, we say things that we no will hurt them so at that point we really mean what we are saying...
    ashbash23 ashbash23 21-25, F Jan 4, 2008

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    I Think That They Really Do Me...

    I think that they really do mean them, it's just been built up for so long and comes out in anger!
    sarboo sarboo 21-25, F Sep 4, 2007

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    I Hate People Saying Things They Don't Mean..

    I can get so broken just because of this.. although I know they didn't really mean it.. But I think there must be some background to why they say these things.. and it hurts me really bad from time to time.. my mum does it so often..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 30, 2007

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    Why, Why, Why?

    Why is it that when people become angry they start rattling off things they dont mean?  I have a terrible case of this!
    DayLateDollarShort DayLateDollarShort 31-35, F 3 Responses May 6, 2007

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    Why?

    Why did he say he though he was falling for me and then found a girlfriend within the next week?  Why did he say he would always be ther and clearly wasn't?  Why did he say our "thing" was going to last a long time and then after a few months let it go without...
    crazyinlove88 crazyinlove88 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 30, 2008

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    You Really Do Have to Wonder S...

    You really do have to wonder sometimes. They say the truth hurts, but is a lie any better?
    Scion Scion 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    Like My Co Worker....

    Who says she loves me a lot but I think her love for me is based on what I do for her. Take that all away and she isn't bothered. She hasn't been there for me when I have needed her and she constantly says she will do things and then doesn't bother. But then she will come up to...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 1 Response May 24, 2011

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    I Drink Alone

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LSUa64K9TsI&list=LLxi5I_VtPFLvtd2YHtwkq_A The other night I lay sleeping And I woke from a terrible dream So I called up my pal Jack Daniel's And his partner Jimmy Beam The other day I got invited to a party But I stayed home instead Just me...
    sharpTresHombre sharpTresHombre 41-45, M Aug 10, 2013

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    Well where do I start .

    . at the beginning I suppose is a good place ..I joined ep made a few friends who seemed to be nice n honest ..told me nice 2 meet u ..will chat later ...did they ? No ..get over yourselves ... if thats your way of life ..id rather not be a part of it ..to those who spoke and...
    daddyneededplease daddyneededplease 41-45, F Aug 5

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    I Dont Get It Either

    is there really any point to it? i mean maybe if youre trying to be nice, but youre gonna end up hurting the other person anyways when they find out you really didnt mean what you said.
    bells19 bells19 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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    Oh They Mean It

    I have found that no one really says things they don't mean They say things they did not mean for you to hear or did not mean to say in that particular way Having had many instances of anger frustration and emotional distress i find it more that people shout and scream hurtful...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

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    Get Your Kicks On Route 66

    things like i love you, and i'm sorry... those are the worst. why lie about that. silence is better than lying. that is what you are doing if you say something you don't really mean you know. you are lying. if you don't love someone, don't tell them you do. not for sex, not for...
    lostcancerian lostcancerian 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2007

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    Possibly My #1 Pet Peeve

    I just don't get it. It's like a variation on Tourette's Syndrome. The mouth has taken control. The long rant followed by the change of heart and the apology. It really confuses the rest of us you know.
    chovhani chovhani 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2007

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    I Say Things I Dont Always Mean

    like i say what i dont really mean becalse i dont like to hurt people but you know what its hurting me so iam trying to stop that
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2008

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    I Have An Idea Why People Say ...

    I have an idea why people say stuff they donr mean. I have done it and I feel bad after. I think its due to the fact that they dont think before they speak. gets me all the time.
    irishwannabeky irishwannabeky 26-30, F Sep 4, 2007

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    Why the Bullshit?

    It seems that most people say things just to say them. They hold no truth...there is no reason...nothing. Example: I have been talking to this guy for about 4 years. About a year ago we started "dating" and blah blah blah. Anyway, the other day we were talking about...
    perfectlyunusual perfectlyunusual 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2008

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    What's the Point?

    I have loved men who said they loved me too. Both, actually, said it first. Both, actually, said it before I wanted to. I think they get a kick out of the cruelty.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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    Why Do They Do That??????

    I am still not sure on why,some people say things they just dont' mean
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings 26-30, F May 24, 2011

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    People Cry Out For Attation

    i use to date this crazy guy a few years ago. and he would tell me stories about how women used him and how they cheated. and he would say how he wanted to kill himself.. at first i felt sorry for him and told him it was going to be alright. we dated for 6 months and it was...
    thunderrider thunderrider 36-40, F Aug 9, 2013

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    They Are Genuinely Hurt Themselves...

    I think people say things they dont mean for a couple of reasons.  One reason is that they feel betrayed or deeply hurt themselves so they lash out.  I am personally guilty of this one.  Another reason could be the attacker has low self esteem or has a...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    It Happens All the Time

    Lol I must like be stupid.. I say things to people that I know are wrong or devoid of meaning - and in strange contexts -  and then I do facepalms and wonder why I said that. I'm so dumb!
    ironie ironie 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2008

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    My Theory

    I believe people tend to get caught in the moment and believe they are "experiencing those feelings" when in reality that is not the case.  At some point they realize they are over their heads and their story changes. I'm trying to give the benefit of the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 14, 2009

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    I Do It Sometimes

    Sometimes I say things I don't mean, and as an afterthought, I don't know why I say them. Things like, "I want to die," or "I'm never going to get better." I think it's like two sides of my brain clashing with one another, and sometimes the "wrong side...
    paperalias paperalias 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 10, 2008

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    I Wish People Would Just Be Ho...

    I wish people would just be honest and up front. Sometimes i guess its just easier to say what people want to hear. I dont like people not saying what they mean,but i suppose they have their reasons.
    sunshine20 sunshine20 19-21, F Sep 4, 2007

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    The Reason Behind It

    There's one word to it " efftards".
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2011

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    It frustrates when some people say they love you

    or care much about you...and the first thing that you see is...stabbing you in your back or harm you badly...i am in critical position or situation right now as feel like i am walking away from everything in life...i stopped laughing as i used to have good laughs...i smile but...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M Jun 11

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    Stop Wondering

    It's because so many people are idiots... Look at least half are below average intelligence. And the majority of the ones above average are hardly much better. Also emotions tend to get one's mouth in full gear before one thinks about what one is about to say.
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 1 Response Dec 31, 2007

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    Why can't people just be honest ? I'd rather be hurt by the truth then comforted by a lie that will soon end up hurting me more.
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    I often say it, but when I do it feels my heart's going to explode and I'm going to die. Arghhh..
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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rK6wppya5cs. It's a romanian song for the most beautifull girl on EP and in this world!You know who you are.You mean the world for me and I will...
    DanyB25 DanyB25 22-25, M Jul 31

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    Most of the ppl suck......
    Darlinghton Darlinghton 18-21, M Aug 12

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    I nearly killed myself today. I even wrote a letter. Guess not. I just want to be normal. I don't want to be a 13 year old called an attention seeker. It was by accident when I was...
    leej15 leej15 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    This is a really good example on how it's such a waste oh energy to be angry with people, especially when they don't even know it....
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F Aug 8

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    Obviously people could always argue "if you're not happy and would prefer to be with someone else, why cheat? Why not just end your current relationship?" And obviously it's not...
    OpenMindedGirl1 OpenMindedGirl1 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    No hidden meaning or manipulation! I dislike it when people deliberately test your mind to see what they can mess with and say one thing but mean another... As well a lot of...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    I literally get it if you don't agree with lgbt etcs but do you really need to like shove your hatred in everyone's face then you use the "sin" excuse i mean why?? there's a lot...
    rsddhj rsddhj 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    So, today I started being a sociopath. I did not set out to start being one; I accepted that I was one last night, and it just kicked in immediately. I did not need to think...
    sosheyo sosheyo 41-45, F Aug 19

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    This is only my opinion, I don't mean to offend anyone. I feel like the Bible is simply a guideline. A very outdated guideline. The Bible says so many things that don't apply to...
    LadyFranco LadyFranco 16-17, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    My sister and father both made blind accusations not to long ago about why it is I've been spending time with a certain LDS church and youth group… Well, let's take a few steps...
    MissAutumn MissAutumn 18-21, F Aug 19

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    I just don't get it. I'm good in school. I'm always getting good marks and awards. And I'm working especially hard to get into a good science set in year 9 because I want to get...
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    People say 'i love you' without meaning a single percent. Thats lying :/ i get u dont wanna hurt peoples' feelings, i dont want someone to tell me they love me unless they mean it...
    LifeOnAThread LifeOnAThread 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Favor ? Help? Are they both the same? Most would say No but for some it may feel like asking for help is asking for favors. But there's a difference if we see it differently...
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