I Working Through My Marriage After Wife Had An Affair

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    This Is It

    For the last five years, I have given everything I've had into this marriage.  I've given up family, friends, jobs, and whole lot more.  But, today, I decided after soaking it all in and finally seeing that this is one of those ," Would've made better friends than...
    shamugla shamugla
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Oct 20, 2008

    Do I Or Don't I?

    OK, as you know from the previous stories, it ended up with us disolving our marriage because we make better friends than husband and wife and she just can't love me like that anymore.  Well, that's all good but I have developed a strong pull in this whole matter.  A...
    shamugla shamugla
    31-35, M
    19 Responses Oct 27, 2008

    I Am No Longer a Member of This Group

    I am now no longer, proudly saying, to be a part of this group.  My wife and I are divorcing and it feels really great.  I feel free.  Back to my old self without worrying about what she is thinking and what she is doing.  There are those feelings that try to...
    shamugla shamugla
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jan 28, 2009

    I'm struggling to get things back to normal

    after I found out my wife was having an affair for 6 1/2 years. She worked with him, and somehow kept it from me for that amount of time. I was having suspicions 3 years ago but she convinced me otherwise, but she was so clever in the things she did to cover herself, even...
    DerekXXX DerekXXX
    61-65, M
    19 Responses Mar 25

    On august 2012 my wife asked me

    for a separation , I knew it was coming I made mistakes through out our marriage mostly taking her for granted . We separated for about 4 months she did tell me she needed some space to figure things out and I let her have it , we were forced to move back in together for...
    septo septo
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2013

    Wife Had Affair In 1978

    I am sure many people will say...get over it.   In has not been possible.in 1978 through 1980 , my wife was seeing a man from Indianapolis every 2 weeks for sex in a local hotel.  I thought she was with the girls at the show.In 1980 I found out by accident, not from all of the...
    execinn execinn
    70+
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2012

    Our marriage was under a lot of stress

    since our son and daughter were born. I was unhappy with our new situation were the kids got most of her attention and energy, to me my wife was much less lively than before and vaguely interested in sex. I started sexting, which she found out, and that made it a lot worse...
    PeterFrampton15 PeterFrampton15
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Dec 18, 2013

    Wife Had Affair While I Was Deployed

    My wife had an affair on my this past summer. It lasted from may, till Oct. I was away from Jan till Nov. So I only found out because I got suspicious.
    narref22 narref22
    31-35
    2 Responses Dec 17, 2011

    So my wife came to tell me she has been having

    an affair with her female best friend. She says she is in love with her and in love with me. She wants to continue this affair and remain married to me. This friend of hers is engaged and her fiancé is a friend of mine as well. He says he won't stand for them continuing...
    ianmac0506 ianmac0506
    26-30
    2 Responses May 4, 2014

    My Wife's Affair and My Heartache

    I am writing not for a pity party or sympathy kick.  I feel this is two-fold, in that it is actually helping me to release some pent up anger and to seek advice, but also to give advice and support to others.  Here it goes. My wife and I started off rough. ...
    shamugla shamugla
    31-35, M
    20 Responses Oct 2, 2008

    Wife Had Affair In 1978

    I am sure many people will say...get over it.   In has not been possible.in 1978 through 1980 , my wife was seeing a man from Indianapolis every 2 weeks for sex in a local hotel.  I thought she was with the girls at the show.In 1980 I found out by accident, not from all of the...
    execinn execinn
    70+
    4 Responses Apr 23, 2012

    On-going Issues.

    The other night, I was putting away laundry.  I only had a couple of things and I had a shirt of my wife's that I was putting away.  I looked through her drawers to see where the shirt went and I found a men's x-large Ralph Lauren shirt.  Very nice.  One...
    shamugla shamugla
    31-35, M
    8 Responses Oct 13, 2008

    This Is the Final Story For Me In This Group

    This is the final story for me in this group.  Why?  Because, I am no longer working through my marriage.  I know when to call it quits.  After 5 years, which seems to be the going rate for about 30-35% of marriages these day, we are acknowledging our mistake...
    shamugla shamugla
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Oct 24, 2008

    Personal Will Is the Strongest Things On Earth

    You know, my sharing this story on EP has really helped me in that I was able to release my confusion, worries, and anger in a safe manner, and what I mean by safe is that I don't go off and confront this guy or talk to others about us around our small town, both would be...
    shamugla shamugla
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2008

    Things Are Never The Same Again

    It was nearly 20 years ago that my wife had an affair and I can say that things are never the same again afterwards. At the time I thought I could handle it, that we could get past it and move on. It was indescribably painful when she told me she had been having sex with her boss...
    Wally101 Wally101
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Aug 8, 2013
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