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I Would Much Rather Be Single Than Unhappily Married

This is for single peeps who aren't so desperate for companionship that they'd settle for anything just to avoid being alone. 2,584 People

    What I Have Seen Since Being Single

    I never saw it before. Or at least never paid attention to it before. now, when I look back at the time I was with my ex, was I that blind? Were we that couple? who knows? Since I have been single and I have said this in my blogs, there's the weight gain from being unhappy, you...
    favestril favestril 36-40, F Nov 19, 2012

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    The Thing Is...

    I have been fully immersed in both scenarios and can say with total honesty that no matter how lonely some of these nights are, they are always better spent that way than arguing.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 5, 2010

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    Unhappy And Married

    My husband and I unhappy married together but afraid of letting go,maybe afraid what the people would say or maybe dont want to disapoint our kids or maybe just easy that way.But im so lonely i can scream the pain out.
    Durangos Durangos 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 30, 2012

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    Proud To Be Single!!!

    Yey! Yippeee! its not bad being a single fella :D
    janjanzano janjanzano 22-25, F Oct 22, 2013

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    What I Realized About Mariage

    Growing up I always said I wouldn't get married… here I am almost 7 years married to the same guy. I regret getting married so young. I was 19 had 1st child at 20 and my 2nd at 22. I have been unhappy from day one but chose to stick it out because i figured this is where God...
    Sweetmamax2 Sweetmamax2 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    Me Too!

    Life is simply too short to live in a relationship where fighting is the norm. I need love, companionship, intelligent conversation, understanding, and a peaceful homelife in order to be happy, If I can't get that then I wouldn't be able to stay in a relationship.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 13 Responses Apr 19, 2011

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    As Much As....

    As much as i want a relationship, and marriage, and to be with someone, i will not put myself in the situation where i am, he is, or we both are unhappy - there is no point.... and whilst you do have to work at a relationship - especially since nothing good ever came easy - there...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 31-35, F Oct 14, 2011

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    Being Single Is Really Not So Bad

    The worst kind of loneliness is the kind that you experience when you are right beside the person you love and feel that way. It hurts right to the soul. When you reach out and the person you are with are not able or willing to take your hand no matter what you try it is the...
    bassplayer bassplayer 46-50, M 25 Responses Jun 21, 2010

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    Me Too

    i'm getting out of a marriage....and we better of friends than lovers...and now is the time to this, i don't want to end up, hating each other, my ex thinks the same way, when there is no spark left, get out off it, your kids wil eventually respect your choise, and i let them see...
    annetteflet annetteflet 41-45, F 4 Responses May 31, 2010

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    I Am Thinking About Divorce

    Today during lunch, my husband basically admitted that he is not happy. Why I could not just say "I'm not happy either" I do not know. Instead I said "I'm happy a lot". Which is not really a thundering endorsement of our relationship but still is not the complete truth. If I...
    leftwantingmore leftwantingmore 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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    Single Pringle than unhappy nappy (lame title)

    I have heard so many stories where young women and even men are forced into marriage and when they do make love it's usually the man that packs his bags and does a runner because the marriage isn't working. I believe that there is someone for everyone love takes time and when two...
    Ifsa Ifsa 18-21, F 2 Responses May 24, 2013

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    Yes !!!!

    Well both have their pro's & Con's. So if you are married, talk with each other and try to do anything and everything possible to get back on track. If you both can't,? Then at least you will know you have tried all resourses. And you William feel better with your decision if...
    HotDrumSticks HotDrumSticks 51-55, M Apr 11, 2012

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    Some Days Are Better Than Others

    I once read a book about choosing the single life. It made one point that really stuck with me. It said that we all know relationships are hard. Why do we expect singledom to be any different It has it's own unique set of challenges. But those things don't make for great...
    kristijo2000 kristijo2000 31-35, F Nov 30, 2010

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    when i was a kid i felt

    so proud of my parents for me they were the best parents in the world...for the tym when i came to knw before marriage they were jst unfamiliar to each other i couldn't believe it...i thought god creates them for each other and every other couple in the world so they always...
    desforlyf1992 desforlyf1992 22-25, F Mar 12

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    Shadowboxer

    When you're young, all anyone wants to tell you is that you have to work at a marriage.  It's not all fun and games, don't get too excited.  The biggest single mistake of my marriage was listening to them.  This is not to say that they're wrong.  I agree with them.  But as...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 27, 2011

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    Oh Look! What A Coincidence!

    Single for two years and no prospects for changing it. Doesn't one need friends first? Or a social life? I have neither, and honestly, I think I'm better off this way.
    mononoaware mononoaware 26-30, M 3 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    Better To Be Happy Than With Someone Who Makes You Feel Alone

    I am 45 years old and have had my ups and downs. I have been in relationships where I have sacrificed to the point of losing my identity all to please someone else. It's not worth it. Life is not a competition. It's not about keeping up with the Joneses. Who are they anyway? Each...
    Feb 11, 2013

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    My Dreams

    I've been married twice.. both of wich has ended...the last marriage I felt like I was alone even though he was there..no sex in marriage for bout a year...no sign he even cared...I would want to cuddle with him and he would say is all that I wanted was to be up his ***...but now...
    lonelywoman2 lonelywoman2 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 3, 2012

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    ***

    i will rather b single that to be married, because i am married now and my life its not how i expected it , too much jelousy from him and its too much to handle, i am puertorican and hes uzbekistan we been married for 4 yrs and i got 3kids that aint his but he raised them but i...
    ida84 ida84 26-30, F 4 Responses May 4, 2011

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    Been There Done That

    I've been married and in a relationship that just wasn't fun. I know that they require work from both sides but if both have called it quits it just ins't worth the torture. I have no intentions of getting married again but never say never because we don't know what the plans are...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 17, 2010

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    Risk Vs. Reward

    I have never been in love or even been on a date. I thought that I dealt with unrequited love several times, but it was just a limerence as a result of a mental illness. I'm not even sure if I want to be in love. These episodes of limerences sure were exciting, but when I think...
    starchman starchman 26-30, M Sep 8, 2012

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    Life As A Single Sounds Good

    Yeah, I don't think I would last long in a marriage if it wasn't good. I rather be single forever then getting married three times to the wrong men and having to suffer through all those divorces. I was a wreck when my parent got a divorce and it nearly tared me apart. I would...
    lanacat lanacat 18-21, F Jun 5, 2012

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    The Loneliest Place In The World

    Is sitting at the dinner table together with someone you are no longer connected to, alienated, nothing to say, trying to profess continued love and attraction, when there is none. Sitting on the couch alone with my **** in my hand is much preferable.
    BrainiumCranium BrainiumCranium 56-60, M Nov 25, 2012

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    I know a lot of people

    who are married because they were expected to be married. They just married the first suitable person they met, rather than search for their true love. I think this is the worst crime one can commit against oneself. You're not only denying yourself the opportunity for true love...
    kalila37 kalila37 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2013

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    I Rejected A Married Man And Glad That I Did

    i posted an ad on a dating site a while back and a particular guy responded. Even though I was specific about the fact that I wanted a single man only, he's married and responded anyway. We never talked on the phone and never met in person because I told him that I didn't want to...
    QueenMariposa QueenMariposa 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 28, 2013

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    My Verbally Abusive Relationship

    I remarried my husband 15 years ago when he got ill and had to have a very serious operation. His family wasn't going to help him and he knew it, he asked me if I would stay by his side, I said yes and we remarried so his family couldn't make me get out if he passed. Later the...
    Sneakyd Sneakyd 66-70, F 1 Response Jan 29, 2013

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    It's So Sad To See

    I have friends who have no business being married to one another... ...i know...who am I to say that? Nobody...but I observe them and it's sad... I don't want a marriage like their's. A lot of my friends believe that it's just a matter of time before my boyfriend asks me the...
    OMGitsRiley OMGitsRiley 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 8, 2012

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    Got Out At The Right Time

    Since leaving my marriage two years ago I have never been happier. I still have all the same worries but this time I have only me to rely on so I find i'm not as stressed. It was the best thing I ever decided to do and I have not looked back since. He is now happily settled with...
    ArielAngel ArielAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2012

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    I Speak From Experience

    I'm sure you've all known people in unhappy marriages or this group would not have been created. Well, my brother and his wife started off okay, but then they got to the point where they were yelling at each other all the time and arguing. My nephews found it very uncomfortable...
    justwant2bloved justwant2bloved 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 4, 2012

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    Single Or Married?

    I would rather be someone's girlfriend than someone's wife. I have observed too many relatives and friends who have gone thru painful divorces and separations that it's made me think twice about marriage. In fact, marriage and family were always on the bottom of my list of goals...
    afdragon afdragon 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 27, 2010

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    Being Single Is Much Better Than Unhappily Married !!

    I believe that Being single is an experience that has both the bright and the gloomy side . . but being unhappily married has only one sad depressing cheerless side !!!!!!!!!!!! So , Yes I totally agree. .. I would much rather be single than unhappily married . .
    Rodwali Rodwali 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    Absolutely!

    I know so many couples who don't seem to be happy. They don't seem to try and work together. I feel at that point, why not get a divorce? I dont buy the 'it's for the kids" excuse. The kids often get caught in the middle anyway. Kids can sense things. For me, I don't think I will...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 22, 2012

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    I Like Being Single

    Well I can honestly say I have been both in the last 4 years and I like single better . I like doing what I want when I want.  Picking my friends, doing stuff with my friends and not having to justify my actions or needed to a unhappy spouse.  I have had GF during this time...
    loopnscc loopnscc 46-50, M 3 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Im Sick Of Putting Up With His Crap

    Ive been married 9 yrs, at first he was a dream come true, never been happier in my life. As time went on, between his destructive hateful child, his exwife who 'hated' him but couldnt **** without calling him, his constant lying, stealing, cheating and holding a loaded rifle to...
    50freenflirty 50freenflirty 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2013

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    ~There Are Things In Life Much Worse Than Being Single~

    I admit it, I suck at being married! I don't intend to place all the blame on my ex-husbands because obviously there was something wonderful about them or I wouldn't have married them in the first place. And while giving credit where it is due, let me say that I honestly did give...
    Sweetblonde2014 Sweetblonde2014 56-60, F 3 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Being Alone And Enjoying It Until The Right One Comes Along

    I am a nearly 30 year old female, I would love to meet the 'right one' but I am not prepared to give up my liberty for the wrong one. it is tough being a single women when your body clock is ticking and you want children.
    1lorusa1 1lorusa1 26-30 1 Response Jul 13, 2013

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    Drop The Calls!

    Today during dinner, it happend again! I'm blowing off some steam, venting about my job to my husband and..............his cell phone rings. This is a fairly common occurance during dinner, and it's almost always 'family'. My husband is retired, so he's available ALL DAY...
    VoiceGirl VoiceGirl 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2012

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    Broken Heart

    my ex cheated on me with my very best freind
    stilllooking4love stilllooking4love 51-55, M 5 Responses Mar 24, 2013

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    Why there are some many beautiful girl,

    who have a nice body, big booty and everything but can't keep a man? Because there's just crazy!! Man won't stay with them cause they're probably annoying, always complaining about ****, always on your back and stuff like that. I've always wanted to date a bad girl, with a...
    razac2 razac2 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Single Vs. Unhappily Married

    I would much rather be single than unhappily married.I know far too many unhappy married people. They often stray from their families, and find other lives with others.This makes me sad. And this is what makes me grateful for being single.
    kes36 kes36 22-25, F 2 Responses May 20, 2013

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    I'm dating a separated girl

    and there's so much that she used to hold against her ex. She values their one biological child and the other two of his from previous marriage. He's called before while I was with her and tried to use the children to guilt my lady into coming home to take care of them so he...
    User00123 User00123 26-30, M Mar 5

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    Being Single Doesn't Have To Be That Bad

    Being alone, whether through a break up or through other circumstances, can be a very painful experience. I know that. But sometimes, it is not such a bad thing - in fact, it can be positively enlightening. Being single can sometimes seem to be an insurmountable hurdle...
    Scarlet2 Scarlet2 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 13, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Up until this morning it all was good, to me anyway. I know that marriage is a give and take thing and that couples go thru rough patches but.... After 16+ years she drops a...
    mrhph3 mrhph3 36-40, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I cannot believe how hard it is to actually write this down. I mean I have all these thoughts in my head about what I feel and what I want to say and now that I have this time to...
    ronirockbottom ronirockbottom 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    Married for 22 years....why? That is right, it is two primary reasons...1) Wonderful daughter and it is my responsibility to keep her world as healthy as possible. Her mother and...
    Therapy4therapist Therapy4therapist 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    Always felt that my marriage was the lifetime kind of thing but it is very hard to see that happening. I am trying to get my story out there in bite size chunks. Now as I talk...
    Therapy4therapist Therapy4therapist 46-50, M Mar 29

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    I have been married for 16 years and have come to realize that my husband and I are 2 totally different people. I love him deeply but more like a brother. There is no passion or...
    cesb557 cesb557 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    Okay so I thought I might share some additional information about my situation. Like I said in the previous experience I have been married 22 years. Staying until my daughter...
    Therapy4therapist Therapy4therapist 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 29

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    I have been single for sometime now and would like to meet a nice fellow. For friendship first and then maybe more. I am looking for men in my age group, that are not married and...
    elainefw55 elainefw55 51-55, F Mar 27

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    Told husband the other night we needed to spend some "us" time together only like 5-10 minutes a night is all even & that was feeling lonely/neglected. His reply was I don't want...
    pudgee2 pudgee2 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I wish to leave my husband but not sure how to do it ?
    boy01234 boy01234 41-45, F a week ago

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    I have serve social anxiety so going out is more often than not very hard for me, especially for group events which I always avoid. I would much rather be home alone than say at a...
    WithoutHope00 WithoutHope00 22-25, M 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I have an irrational fear of crowds so ya instead of going out to some crowded bar or club I would much rather stay home. It may be anti social and I may be considered anti social...
    ballen0420 ballen0420 36-40, M Apr 2

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    I know this is a story as old as the stars. So here I am. Surrounded by my three kitties who are probably the closest I will get to having children since I refuse to start a family...
    lnvisible lnvisible 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I don't understand the general idea of going out. Or maybe it's some people who don't understand that going out is not for everyone and it's not a crucial element of a human's life...
    ListenerTalker ListenerTalker 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 30

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