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I Would Much Rather Be Single Than Unhappily Married

This is for single peeps who aren't so desperate for companionship that they'd settle for anything just to avoid being alone. 2,682 People

    The Thing Is...

    I have been fully immersed in both scenarios and can say with total honesty that no matter how lonely some of these nights are, they are always better spent that way than arguing.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 5, 2010

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    Single Vs. Unhappily Married

    I would much rather be single than unhappily married.I know far too many unhappy married people. They often stray from their families, and find other lives with others.This makes me sad. And this is what makes me grateful for being single.
    kes36 kes36 22-25, F 2 Responses May 20, 2013

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    What I Have Seen Since Being Single

    I never saw it before. Or at least never paid attention to it before. now, when I look back at the time I was with my ex, was I that blind? Were we that couple? who knows? Since I have been single and I have said this in my blogs, there's the weight gain from being unhappy, you...
    favestril favestril 36-40, F Nov 19, 2012

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    Single Pringle than unhappy nappy (lame title)

    I have heard so many stories where young women and even men are forced into marriage and when they do make love it's usually the man that packs his bags and does a runner because the marriage isn't working. I believe that there is someone for everyone love takes time and when two...
    Ifsa Ifsa 22-25, F 2 Responses May 24, 2013

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    and because of that fact,

    I am leaving my wife on March 1st. We've both discussed this subject at length numerous times and thankfully, we MUTUALLY agree we are both MUCH better off as friends than a married couple. Yes, it's sad... Yes, it's most definitely NOT what either of us wanted but...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7

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    How I Imagine An Unhappy Marriage.

    Those "oh-I-can't-wait-to-get-home-and-get-away-from-this-person" moments. Nice as we may be, we've all had them. Those times when we get through a dinner, a conversation, or a party only with the comforting image of getting home and away from someone who makes us feel as if...
    SomethingLikeALady SomethingLikeALady 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    I know a lot of people

    who are married because they were expected to be married. They just married the first suitable person they met, rather than search for their true love. I think this is the worst crime one can commit against oneself. You're not only denying yourself the opportunity for true love...
    kalila37 kalila37 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2013

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    I'm married - for too many years -

    but don't want to grow old alone. Not the best reason to stay in a marriage, I know. He is a nice man and I do wish I could love him the way he deserves. I never did. I knew when I was walking down the isle I should turn and run for both of our sakes. Over 30 years and two grown...
    RestlessMe1957 RestlessMe1957 56-60, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    Being Single Is Really Not So Bad

    The worst kind of loneliness is the kind that you experience when you are right beside the person you love and feel that way. It hurts right to the soul. When you reach out and the person you are with are not able or willing to take your hand no matter what you try it is the...
    bassplayer bassplayer 46-50, M 25 Responses Jun 21, 2010

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    Risk Vs. Reward

    I have never been in love or even been on a date. I thought that I dealt with unrequited love several times, but it was just a limerence as a result of a mental illness. I'm not even sure if I want to be in love. These episodes of limerences sure were exciting, but when I think...
    starchman starchman 26-30, M Sep 8, 2012

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    Absolutely!

    I know so many couples who don't seem to be happy. They don't seem to try and work together. I feel at that point, why not get a divorce? I dont buy the 'it's for the kids" excuse. The kids often get caught in the middle anyway. Kids can sense things. For me, I don't think I will...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 22, 2012

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    Why Can’T There Be A Compromise?

    Relationships:Why does it always have to be such a power struggle? Why can’t there be a compromise? Men make compromises but so do Women and it’s easy to get caught up in those sacrifices , taking them for granted and thinking “That’s the way it should be, he or she...
    Sebastianblack Sebastianblack 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    I Am Thinking About Divorce

    Today during lunch, my husband basically admitted that he is not happy. Why I could not just say "I'm not happy either" I do not know. Instead I said "I'm happy a lot". Which is not really a thundering endorsement of our relationship but still is not the complete truth. If I...
    leftwantingmore leftwantingmore 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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    It's So Sad To See

    I have friends who have no business being married to one another... ...i know...who am I to say that? Nobody...but I observe them and it's sad... I don't want a marriage like their's. A lot of my friends believe that it's just a matter of time before my boyfriend asks me the...
    OMGitsRiley OMGitsRiley 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 8, 2012

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    Please Release Me, Let Me Go

    My ex wife was to be my life time partner,my friend,and companion.Little did I know.Im now a beliver in the old saying that You rely never know some one untilYou marry them.I remember the pride and love that I felt as I watched Her walk down the aisle.I remember my own father...
    The1960texan The1960texan 51-55, M Jan 19, 2013

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    I'm dating a separated girl

    and there's so much that she used to hold against her ex. She values their one biological child and the other two of his from previous marriage. He's called before while I was with her and tried to use the children to guilt my lady into coming home to take care of them so he...
    User00123 User00123 26-30, M Mar 5

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    ***

    i will rather b single that to be married, because i am married now and my life its not how i expected it , too much jelousy from him and its too much to handle, i am puertorican and hes uzbekistan we been married for 4 yrs and i got 3kids that aint his but he raised them but i...
    ida84 ida84 26-30, F 4 Responses May 4, 2011

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    Broken Heart

    my ex cheated on me with my very best freind
    stilllooking4love stilllooking4love 51-55, M 5 Responses Mar 24, 2013

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    Been There Done That

    I've been married and in a relationship that just wasn't fun. I know that they require work from both sides but if both have called it quits it just ins't worth the torture. I have no intentions of getting married again but never say never because we don't know what the plans are...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 17, 2010

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    I Rejected A Married Man And Glad That I Did

    i posted an ad on a dating site a while back and a particular guy responded. Even though I was specific about the fact that I wanted a single man only, he's married and responded anyway. We never talked on the phone and never met in person because I told him that I didn't want to...
    QueenMariposa QueenMariposa 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 28, 2013

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    Me Too!

    Life is simply too short to live in a relationship where fighting is the norm. I need love, companionship, intelligent conversation, understanding, and a peaceful homelife in order to be happy, If I can't get that then I wouldn't be able to stay in a relationship.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2011

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    Better To Be Happy Than With Someone Who Makes You Feel Alone

    I am 45 years old and have had my ups and downs. I have been in relationships where I have sacrificed to the point of losing my identity all to please someone else. It's not worth it. Life is not a competition. It's not about keeping up with the Joneses. Who are they anyway? Each...
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    Twice Bitten, Thrice Shy?

    This is a tricky one for me.  I do actually like being married.  I see it as something really positive in my life ... shared experience, commitment and someone who is there for you during all the ups and downs. I see the point that's being made here though ... if you have a...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 8 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    Hell yeah...no way I wanna spend rest of my

    life feeling miserable...I am already married to myself lol I wonder if I ever marry another human being ( I am all up to aliens tho ) and I wonder if I would be able to be wise enough to not commit the same mistakes everybody does.And if I gotta make a mistake...at least be a...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F Jul 9

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    Sufferage

    What if you knew for sure that you were eternally cursed to never have financial success or romantic satisfaction? What if you knew there was nothing you could do to lift the curse? Would you turn bitter and spiteful towards humanity? Or would you eventually just give up? If not...
    Sebastianblack Sebastianblack 26-30, M Apr 22, 2013

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    when i was a kid i felt

    so proud of my parents for me they were the best parents in the world...for the tym when i came to knw before marriage they were jst unfamiliar to each other i couldn't believe it...i thought god creates them for each other and every other couple in the world so they always...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 12

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    The Loneliest Place In The World

    Is sitting at the dinner table together with someone you are no longer connected to, alienated, nothing to say, trying to profess continued love and attraction, when there is none. Sitting on the couch alone with my **** in my hand is much preferable.
    unanimousreorganization unanimousreorganization 56-60, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2012

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    Being Single Doesn't Have To Be That Bad

    Being alone, whether through a break up or through other circumstances, can be a very painful experience. I know that. But sometimes, it is not such a bad thing - in fact, it can be positively enlightening. Being single can sometimes seem to be an insurmountable hurdle...
    Scarlet2 Scarlet2 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 13, 2011

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    Been giving this a lot of thought

    and I really feel this is true atleast in my case. Life is too short, tomorrow is promised to no one. To go though life unhappy is ludicrous, I forget what it feels to be loved and I'm quite tired of it.
    Pete70 Pete70 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 14

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    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open

    Minded Female that would rather be single than unhappily married In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    thisthatcurious thisthatcurious 56-60 Dec 6, 2013

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    I'm single and happy right now

    and its great, i just couldn't see myself being with someone and not happy. I dont think that I would be able to live right.
    Coolgirl16 Coolgirl16 16-17, F Mar 5

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    Some Days Are Better Than Others

    I once read a book about choosing the single life. It made one point that really stuck with me. It said that we all know relationships are hard. Why do we expect singledom to be any different It has it's own unique set of challenges. But those things don't make for great...
    kristijo2000 kristijo2000 31-35, F Nov 30, 2010

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    ~There Are Things In Life Much Worse Than Being Single~

    I admit it, I suck at being married! I don't intend to place all the blame on my ex-husbands because obviously there was something wonderful about them or I wouldn't have married them in the first place. And while giving credit where it is due, let me say that I honestly did give...
    Sweetblonde2014 Sweetblonde2014 56-60, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Being Single Is Much Better Than Unhappily Married !!

    I believe that Being single is an experience that has both the bright and the gloomy side . . but being unhappily married has only one sad depressing cheerless side !!!!!!!!!!!! So , Yes I totally agree. .. I would much rather be single than unhappily married . .
    Rodwali Rodwali 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    I Like Being Single

    Well I can honestly say I have been both in the last 4 years and I like single better . I like doing what I want when I want.  Picking my friends, doing stuff with my friends and not having to justify my actions or needed to a unhappy spouse.  I have had GF during this time...
    loopnscc loopnscc 46-50, M 3 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Married Woman / Single Man

    I was involved, although I didn't know it at the time with a married woman. It was brief and fortunately we didn't have sex although it was awfully close. She said her marriage was awful and she would divorce him but didn't want to be alone. My advice, "If you decide to divorce...
    RemingtonSteele RemingtonSteele 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 30, 2012

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    Being Alone And Enjoying It Until The Right One Comes Along

    I am a nearly 30 year old female, I would love to meet the 'right one' but I am not prepared to give up my liberty for the wrong one. it is tough being a single women when your body clock is ticking and you want children.
    1lorusa1 1lorusa1 26-30 1 Response Jul 13, 2013

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    Why there are some many beautiful girl,

    who have a nice body, big booty and everything but can't keep a man? Because there's just crazy!! Man won't stay with them cause they're probably annoying, always complaining about ****, always on your back and stuff like that. I've always wanted to date a bad girl, with a...
    razac2 razac2 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    Im Sick Of Putting Up With His Crap

    Ive been married 9 yrs, at first he was a dream come true, never been happier in my life. As time went on, between his destructive hateful child, his exwife who 'hated' him but couldnt **** without calling him, his constant lying, stealing, cheating and holding a loaded rifle to...
    50freenflirty 50freenflirty 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2013

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    Shadowboxer

    When you're young, all anyone wants to tell you is that you have to work at a marriage.  It's not all fun and games, don't get too excited.  The biggest single mistake of my marriage was listening to them.  This is not to say that they're wrong.  I agree with them.  But as...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 27, 2011

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    Drop The Calls!

    Today during dinner, it happend again! I'm blowing off some steam, venting about my job to my husband and..............his cell phone rings. This is a fairly common occurance during dinner, and it's almost always 'family'. My husband is retired, so he's available ALL DAY...
    VoiceGirl VoiceGirl 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    Marriage Is Scary

    Your devoting your whole life to someone you met for what 3 months to a couple years seems kinda insane to me. You can just be Committed without dealing with that headache of marriage. I'd rather be single then be stuck with someone who thinks about killing me or taking all my...
    dejin1 dejin1 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 22, 2011

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    Been There

    Done that and bought the effing T-shirt!!!! Don't want to live in a unhappy relationship again... Once was more than enough for me... To starve for the affection of the person that said that they would love you till the end of time and you said it back to her and held to your...
    mtvlm mtvlm 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 18, 2010

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    My Verbally Abusive Relationship

    I remarried my husband 15 years ago when he got ill and had to have a very serious operation. His family wasn't going to help him and he knew it, he asked me if I would stay by his side, I said yes and we remarried so his family couldn't make me get out if he passed. Later the...
    Sneakyd Sneakyd 66-70, F 1 Response Jan 29, 2013

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    Proud To Be Single!!!

    Yey! Yippeee! its not bad being a single fella :D
    janjanzano janjanzano 26-30, F Oct 22, 2013

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    Me Too

    i'm getting out of a marriage....and we better of friends than lovers...and now is the time to this, i don't want to end up, hating each other, my ex thinks the same way, when there is no spark left, get out off it, your kids wil eventually respect your choise, and i let them see...
    annetteflet annetteflet 41-45, F 4 Responses May 31, 2010

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    Oh Look! What A Coincidence!

    Single for two years and no prospects for changing it. Doesn't one need friends first? Or a social life? I have neither, and honestly, I think I'm better off this way.
    mononoaware mononoaware 26-30, M 3 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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