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I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

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    To be scolded at first thing in the morning

    and lastly before bed... To be put on the back burner to tv, friends, and alcohol... To never get even a 99 cent or handmade card on anniversaries, birthdays, or holidays... To be called lazy, selfish, dumb, ignorant, and annoying... To be told to shut up daily and even during...
    snm1991 snm1991 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11

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    Warmways Warmways 46-50, F 10 Responses Apr 4

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    I’ve been with the same person

    for thirty years. I knew very early on that we were a mismatch, but twenty-six years ago, when I told him that we should go our separate ways, he played the most cowardice card in the deck, and I have never mentioned about us parting ways since, until this evening; I don’t...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 11 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    “Love someone because their soul inspires you,

    not because you’re interested in the relief from loneliness and companionship they can provide. Anybody can do that. Not just anybody can show you to yourself.” ― Brianna Wiest
    bluemoon2121 bluemoon2121 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    I made the decision to be alone,

    instead of staying with the wrong person. Now I'm laying in bed, in my new apartment, feeling completely alone. I never thought being alone would be harder than being with my ex husband.... but honestly, right now, it is.
    kelly65876 kelly65876 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    I've actually never been in a relationship.

    .. even many are trying but then if I consider all things around I will rather stay alone... only once I fell in love (I guess it still lasts) but I know he is not the right one for me... But its not so easy to accept, even if my brain is saying that its good like this...
    BaskaK BaskaK 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    Easier said than done,

    for me (i'm also a member of the group I Want To Follow My Own Advice). Yes, I can laugh about it.
    justbeit justbeit 51-55, M 4 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    I don't want to let myself think of all the

    things you've said to me replaying the words the lines over and over laden with a malicious undercurrent you know every sentence before it leaves your lips you know the game you're playing because you've played it so many times before but this is new to me and you know it I can...
    amillionpeople amillionpeople 22-25 1 Response Jan 14

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    Life is too short to waste it trapped in

    unfulfilling relatiomships. I was married for close to a year, and I'm so much happier and satisfied picking and choosing with whom I spend time.
    thegirlnobodyknows thegirlnobodyknows 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2014

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    I have never been one to openly talk about

    every little detail of my personal life with people around me. I have no desire to aimlessly date at this point in my life I'm seeking more substance. I don't care about the club or hooking up just to do so although it has it's place don't get me wrong I'm not a prude. But I...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 5 Responses May 8, 2014

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    For me, it's truly easy

    for me to be alone rather than struggle, hope and try to have someone like me for me. I say that not without fault as there are times when I'm truly that person. For me, being in a relationship isn't about making myself better, it's about making my partner better. Making...
    Happinessisthinking Happinessisthinking 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    I get asked a lot: when are you planning to get

    married or are you engaged yet? Or why are you still single until now? I am not that old, well I am 30 yrs old and I can see why people wonder about me a lot. I am turkish and in my country, especially in my region, girls get married very early! According to my mom, I should be...
    StrongWoman9 StrongWoman9 26-30, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    I was married to a man

    for 17 years...had 3 beautiful children and loved being a family. I gave him all my love, trust, respect, friendship, everything I wanted in him. He rejected our family and tore my heart apart I tried to make things work...went to several marriage counselors until finally I...
    jlj5298 jlj5298 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    When I see my friends getting into relationships

    and all. It makes me think about how I can't see myself in a relationship. It's kind of sad thinking about it. Still in all honest dating someone knowing it won't last long but doing it anyways. Then regretting it and feeling utterly terrible is even more sad. Anyways I can...
    nuwandaisaphony nuwandaisaphony 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    I used to think I couldn't live without my

    bestfriend but since she's gone I've been ok without her yes I miss her but I'll be alright alone
    IsMyStory IsMyStory 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    So I tried online dating I've been on

    and off for the last 3 years. I did meet somebody I had been dating steady for almost a year. I told him from the get go once our relstionship reached the point of sexual intimacy the online dating profiles should go down. Mine did but his didn't. a friend found it. He...
    liznicole15 liznicole15 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 2

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    i have been with my boyfriend

    for eight months now and i am 100% in love with him. He has trust issues because he has been cheated on before. i said something a while ago that made him think i was an escort (which I'm not). He had a hard time believing me. i thought he was just being stubborn so i didn't...
    SophhCat77 SophhCat77 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 2

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    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Being in a wrong relationship is horrible!

    You waste time, emotions and even money on a person that you don't see a future with anyway. That's why I'm a strong advocate of casual dating if you're single and just commit when you stumble into someone worth it. Until then, just go out, meet, date, make friends, learn about...
    thiscatownsme thiscatownsme 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    The Worst Thing

    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ~ Robin Williams
    sciguy18 sciguy18 56-60, M 3 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    Wrong bites too deep

    and life should never bite so deep
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 4

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    so I've known my boyfriend

    for about four years now dating for 1 year 8 months now, here's the thing he lies a lot about the little things like what he eats or drinks (former larger man) these days it's his purchases he recently came home with a brand new hawks jersey and mind you is his favorite hockey...
    TinaDan615 TinaDan615 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 9

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    It's my saftey issue.

    If you can't deal with it that's cool. I don't jump
    Averageguy41074 Averageguy41074 36-40, M Jan 15

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    Sometimes loving the wrong person can teach you

    how to appreciate the right person when they come along.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2014

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    The Dealbreaker Called Respect

    If somebody cannot treat you with respect Then that somebody is really nobody. You spend time with them Love them Invest a good part of your life in them Only to not be valued and respected. Or treated like that the best you gave meant nothing. There can be no love without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 24, 2013

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    Exactly how I'm feeling right now.

    I just started work in a bank. There's at least 20 people there but I rather be alone then be with anyone on of them. I feel so out of place there.
    strawberrycreamcake strawberrycreamcake 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    By Choice

    I was alone for years by choice.I had experienced a marriage that didn't go well.Before it was completely over my mother was harassing me to date and get married again.I wasn't interested.I am happy that I spent the time to be alone.  Being with somebody just to be with somebody...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    I’m almost three months in on my divorce

    and I can honestly say that I don’t want to spend my life alone, but I would rather be alone than to be with the wrong person, and my thirty-year marriage will attest to that. My divorce will by final in May (2015), I initially asked for a divorce twenty-seven years ago in...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    This is a huge thing

    for me. I absolutely would be alone forever rather than be with the wrong person! I strongly believe in not settling!!
    JamieleeEchelon JamieleeEchelon 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 1, 2014

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    People always bleat on about relationships.

    ..but in fact a relationship takes two to work. I thankfully have found my life partner and we are blissfully happy. If your with the wrong person you are far better off alone. Alone is not so bad and its better to be your own person than be what someone wants you to be. If...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon 36-40, M 16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    It's weird I hate being single,

    but I sometimes feel that the guys I meet are not really for me I guess, handsome, of course smart, funny, I just don't ever feel a connection with anyone and I hate to give the wrong impression sao I don't ever bother making one in the first place. I definitely look for that...
    alxvii alxvii 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 23

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    I'd rather you love my loyal heart

    than have you fall for my twisted mind.
    AcousticAnne AcousticAnne 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 21

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    My ex used to bully me

    and destroy my confidence. When we broke up I was the happiest is been in months😄
    shiv1992 shiv1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    What is wrong with today's generation of boys?

    This Guy just sent me a message saying that we need to talk, and that can't talk anymore if I can't give him head, and that's he's older and that he needs that in a relationship. We literally just started talking a week ago, haven't even went on a date, in fact he stood me up...
    alxvii alxvii 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 1

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    I sometimes look back on my previous

    relationships; good memories, bad memories, happy times, sad times. But I can't actually recognise myself in those memories. I gave my heart and body absolutely, but I feel like they also took my personality too. It is like everything revolved around my partner and there was...
    Fioritura Fioritura 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 7

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    after a few failed relationships

    where I just knew they were the one and everything was fine till years added in the truth, I would rather be a spinster. I have 5 wonderful children and am old enough to realize that I'd be the last choice for the average man. A man wants to be with a woman he can build a family...
    fbizzle fbizzle 26-30, F Mar 15

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    What is wrong with guys these days?

    Aren't you suppose to dress to impress when you go on a date??? Is that too much to ask or something irrelevant these days??? I went on a date last night with a guy I haven't seen in a long time. He was very happy to recconect with me again and was surprised I had agreed to...
    melissav369 melissav369 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 26

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    I never really feel completely alone,

    I feel fortunate to have so many amazing people in my life, both friends and family..but as for intimate relationships, that's a different thing. I don't understand why so many people go into a relationship with the first person that gives them attention? Us ladies can spend...
    silvera73 silvera73 41-45, F Mar 3

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    ...says the one who's practically throwing away

    her entire life being married to the wrong person :-( Wishful thinking... ************UPDATE*********** October 4th 2014 Just to see how instrumental EP has been on my life's transformation journey... When I first arrived here, I was clueless, confused, numb and completely...
    neeia neeia 36-40, F 16 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    The best way to be happy with someone is to

    learn to be happy alone. That way the company will be a matter of choice.. Not necessity.
    bluemoon2121 bluemoon2121 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion 26-30, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    trionar trionar 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 8, 2014

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    Once Bitten, Twice Shy, Three Strikes, You're Out!

    I have this motto: It's always good in the beginning... if it weren't good in the beginning, there wouldn't be a middle or an end. I can prove that I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person, because I've been married three times. And divorced three times. And marriage, for...
    texastomgirl texastomgirl 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 5, 2012

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    I don't know why people 'take what they can

    get' , or just have to be in a relationship. I'd rather be alone with dignity , and self respect!
    CrushOnPhilBrooks CrushOnPhilBrooks 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 28, 2014

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    Being with the wrong person calls

    for a lot of regret in the long run. Feelings of low self esteem, anger, revenge and all that which will eventually eat us up and make us ugly. I don't mind being alone...its hurts..the loneliness hurts but It's the price I have to pay to not get hurt... Again.
    Tears4fears15 Tears4fears15 22-25 4 Responses Mar 3

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