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I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

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    If I am alone, I don't have to worry about

    others, if I am with a person that isn't for me, I have to worry about when I won't have to worry about that person again
    ash5698 ash5698 13-15, M Mar 21

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    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 22

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    By Choice

    I was alone for years by choice.I had experienced a marriage that didn't go well.Before it was completely over my mother was harassing me to date and get married again.I wasn't interested.I am happy that I spent the time to be alone.  Being with somebody just to be with somebody...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    I think some men and women truly believe they

    should stay with the wrong person because of history. Just because you have a long dragged out history with someone doesn't mean you should remain committed to a relationship that isn't growing. Often times when someone is in a relationship that they want out of ... The other...
    vivirmivida vivirmivida 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2013

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    Being With The Wrong Person.

    .. Most people can relate to over-staying in a relationship with a partner who was not right for them, who displayed major red flags, or treated them poorly. Many admit to staying in a relationship even though their gut repeatedly told them to get out. Why do we stay in...
    sciguy18 sciguy18 51-55, M 5 Responses Apr 7

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    Answer this: Why Would you

    rather be with a person who has no respect for u and treats u horribly than be alone waiting for thee one?
    SomeoneWhoBeenThroughIt SomeoneWhoBeenThroughIt 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    This is a huge thing

    for me. I absolutely would be alone forever rather than be with the wrong person! I strongly believe in not settling!!
    JamieleeEchelon JamieleeEchelon 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 1

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    Has Anyone Noticed..

    Has anyone noticed that this generation of young adults have this huge "being single" complex? Like, what's wrong with being single? Some people think that being a relationship is the only way to be happy; that it's the only reason life has purpose. And I'm just over here like...
    TheBrie TheBrie 18-21, F 16 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    The Dealbreaker Called Respect

    If somebody cannot treat you with respect Then that somebody is really nobody. You spend time with them Love them Invest a good part of your life in them Only to not be valued and respected. Or treated like that the best you gave meant nothing. There can be no love without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 24, 2013

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    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon 36-40, M 16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion 26-30, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    For two years I've been telling myself he'll

    get better, but everyday it was the same routine, same arguments, same stress, same shame, same man. I started to lose respect for myself, I couldn't possibly mean more to him than his addiction to alcohol did. I was lost, constantly contemplating wether or not to walk away but...
    skylersmom15 skylersmom15 22-25, F 11 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Once Bitten, Twice Shy, Three Strikes, You're Out!

    I have this motto: It's always good in the beginning... if it weren't good in the beginning, there wouldn't be a middle or an end. I can prove that I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person, because I've been married three times. And divorced three times. And marriage, for...
    texastomgirl texastomgirl 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 5, 2012

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    The best way to be happy with someone is to

    learn to be happy alone. That way the company will be a matter of choice.. Not necessity.
    bluemoon2121 bluemoon2121 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 27

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    It's Not As Perfect As You Think

    I so often feel like a tree standing in a clearing in the middle of a forest. I look about and see all the other trees and life having a great time. Sharing, playing, creating more life, talking and laughing. Yet every time I stretch forth a branch to touch another tree with the...
    oldfarmguy oldfarmguy 56-60, M 3 Responses Nov 14, 2012

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    iDntCurr iDntCurr 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 13

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    ...says the one who's practically throwing away

    her entire life being married to the wrong person :-( Wishful thinking...
    pois0nivy pois0nivy 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 20

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    What the hell is wrong with this world?

    !?! No one can be a friend, you cant trust anyone especially that one person you always that you can count on. Not even family can be family anymore. Everyone screws you over. And then theres the part where everyone is getting mad at me why i dont have friends. Well i'd rather...
    phoenixgirl21 phoenixgirl21 18-21, F 8 Responses Feb 17

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    If you could love the wrong person

    that much, imagine how much you would love the right person.
    QueenAwesomePants QueenAwesomePants 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 20

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    trionar trionar 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 8

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    Well, what made me post here?

    obviously I had been with the wrong "great guys" lol.. Each failed relationships, add layers on my wall..and it always takes a guy with guts, confidence and good intention to break it. I once felt that I'm better when I'm single..no inhibitions, no hesitations, no rules, no...
    FoxxySilverCrow FoxxySilverCrow 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 24

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    I've been with the wrong person in

    so many relationships I've been cheered on lied to and now I give up I'd rather be with the right one instead of trying to make the wrong one work out
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 12

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    Everyone of us suffer sometimes.

    We can feel lost, we can feel alone. Life has to be lived in couple, but sometimes it is worst then being alone. Since I know I cannot discern immediately if somebody is honest or not, I like to know better somebody to spend time with, also if I don't have to build up some kind...
    CrookedMat CrookedMat 26-30, M Mar 24

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    The Lonely Life Is A Very Hard Choice To Make

    As a woman, it is really very hard out there in the world when you're alone to trust anybody! From my experience people attack you like a swarm of ants when they find out you have no one. Because of these conditions, it makes it very hard for me to trust. By all means I am not...
    NavaGirl NavaGirl 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 28, 2011

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    fionacc11 fionacc11 26-30, F Mar 21

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    I've tried I've changed I've grown I've learnt

    but yet the. (He) will still choose to hurt than do what's right. I chose to love again after everything I chose to open my heart again, he loved me we had babies he left me and had baby .............. I'm done with love the bad people out weight the good, respect is no more...
    unluckysarah unluckysarah 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I just removed this one.

    I'd rather be with the wrong person than alone. I really hate being alone. I've bent and twisted to try to fit him but he's still not happy. I don't know what to do because I'm committed to my marriage but feel so unloved.
    syntheticrhyme syntheticrhyme 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 15

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    My first college girlfriend

    and I were really close and intimate with each other. And while I knew how much I made her happy, my own feelings weren't mutual. It was a hard choice, but I'm glad told her then, rather than still be with her a year later and tell her how I felt now.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 18

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    I'd rather be alone if the people I'm with don't

    even acknowledge me, and who actually respect me... I mean I may have forgave my friends before, but I don't know if I can keep on forgiving them when all I feel when I'm around them is that I don't belong, and maybe I should just stay home because at home for me is all the...
    mangadrawer12321 mangadrawer12321 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    I have been in a relationship with the father

    of my child for 6 years, they haven't been the best years but no one is perfect no relationship is perfect. He decided on valentines day he didn't love me anymore and wasn't happy and doesn't want to be with me. I am so broken and so upset. We have a three year old son and he is...
    c605 c605 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    New Chapter

    Recently got out of a dysfunctional relationship. The problem was that I was willing to keep living in it. If someone were to ask me if I am happier now than two months ago, that answer would be yes. When Mike left me, I thought my future was over. I had a picture in my head of...
    looklife looklife 18-21, F 10 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    As I go through life I realise

    that it is a false dream to find someone who will make you happy - the power of being happy comes from yourself and the way you relate to your own being and to the world. The more we expect others to meet our needs and to make us happy, the more and more detached we become from...
    HenryScobie HenryScobie 51-55, M 7 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    I don't get it why some people try to hide

    their real selves just to fit in, yeah fitting in because of that feels good but it won't last for a long time. But it will feel great that people will accept you for being you, and friends will just come to you and I think that makes life easier... Well thats what I think...
    sleepingbloop sleepingbloop 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I don't know why people 'take what they can

    get' , or just have to be in a relationship. I'd rather be alone with dignity , and self respect!
    CrushOnPhilBrooks CrushOnPhilBrooks 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    I was married to a man

    for 17 years...had 3 beautiful children and loved being a family. I gave him all my love, trust, respect, friendship, everything I wanted in him. He rejected our family and tore my heart apart I tried to make things work...went to several marriage counselors until finally I...
    jlj5298 jlj5298 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Whenever someone has a negative influence me I

    tend to slowly drift away. I don't like being around mean people that hurt me. I'm planning on moving out of my parents house when I get financially independent. I don't plan to live here too long. I clean the house and do my best to not be a burden. I just feel like it's...
    RainbowDalia RainbowDalia 18-21, F Mar 18

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    Being in a wrong relationship is horrible!

    You waste time, emotions and even money on a person that you don't see a future with anyway. That's why I'm a strong advocate of casual dating if you're single and just commit when you stumble into someone worth it. Until then, just go out, meet, date, make friends, learn about...
    thiscatownsme thiscatownsme 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 19

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    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Deleted

    I deleted your info. I deleted your number and Facebook too I deleted your voicemails I deleted the text messages that I used to read again and again. I wish I could delete you from my memory. I wish I could delete you from my heart. I wish I never met you I know I was...
    MsRack MsRack 36-40 16 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    Sometimes loving the wrong person can teach you

    how to appreciate the right person when they come along.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Easier said than done,

    for me (i'm also a member of the group I Want To Follow My Own Advice). Yes, I can laugh about it.
    justbeit justbeit 46-50, M 4 Responses Mar 24

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    The Worst Thing

    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ~ Robin Williams
    sciguy18 sciguy18 51-55, M 3 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    For THREE months now.

    .. I've been dealing with this dude. You got a old *** 38 year old that you claim you are using only for her money, car and you claim she take care of you. I'm suppose to be your girlfriend though right? You want to keep trying to make me the mother of your kids and love of your...
    NeneTaurean NeneTaurean 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    I would rather be alone

    than with the wrong person. That's the same as wasting energy on something that's never going to work out. However, people in this society choose being with the wrong person rather than being lonely. That's why we have 16 & Pregnant, Divorce Court, and Jerry Springer.
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    Through and through. I dumped my last girlfriend

    and have been single for two years after numerous dates because I don't want to be with the wrong person.
    Bscott34 Bscott34 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 18

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    Alone Is Not So Bad

    It's not that I like waking up alone. Not that I care for going to bed alone. It's not that I care to talk to myself. Not like I desire to eat meals alone. Thinking a funny thought and having no one to share it with is dull. Having no one to dream dreams with isn't much fun...
    oldfarmguy oldfarmguy 56-60, M 11 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    I'm so sick of people I don't know what to do.

    I'm just so sick of people trying to tell me what to do. Especially which company I should keep. Like I'm 20 years old I know what company I should keep. So apparently my family is more in love with my ex-boyfriend, than me. He called me yesterday on Valentine's Day (how...
    TheLonelyPoet TheLonelyPoet 18-21, F Feb 15

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    Doing What'S Right

    So, we were together for 21 months, and had a beautiful daughter together.At New Years he proposed.I freaked.He left.I felt bad.He came back after a week.I was unsure.He proposed again.I said no.He left for good.I felt relieved.My parents were p!ssed to say the least. It was bad...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    I know falling for "Ms.

    Right Now" is like putting a band aid on gunshot wound, but, sometimes I think to myself, every little bit helps.
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 2

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    I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With The Wrong Person

    I am a 28 year old single mother and and I am in my 3rd year of celibacy. I am sick and tired of hearing about women who put their libido before the welfare of their children. Parading an endless string of stepdaddys, uncles and mommys special friends in front of their children...
    ZZsMummy ZZsMummy 26-30, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    So there's this guy..

    . And he broke me once..he cheated on me..so I ended it. We stayed good friends. And he never did know how much he ruined me. I became happier and got through it. And I liked him as a friend only. We hugged and cuddled and everything and it wasn't weird for us because we'd...
    vivichick26 vivichick26 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 27

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    These were happened to me more

    than twice by a pilot, lawyer, banker, and an engineer which are having their own businesses in UAE - a mistress proposal. I am descent coz I never had any affair. I am living my life smoothly and has a descent job in a well known company. Why all these married men would like to...
    casey2715 casey2715 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I am the magnet of attracting wrong people I an

    a loving and caring person ..... I mean I can't even watch someone cry .... But still my friend " best friend " turns out to be a ***** ....... My first ever boyfriend was an dumb ,stupid and a male bimbo ( trust me ) ....... I can't believe a guy can be that dumb and my family...
    Rose15687 Rose15687 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    Yeah... talk about a waste of time

    or low self esteem after the break up with the wrong person... for me being single has taught me more about who I am and what I want in life, more confidence... hope to get more as time goes on... I plan on dating someone 1st, if things got old after the 2nd or 3rd date, then...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 21

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    Related Experiences

    I really can't be with that person if I do not have feelings for them. I have real life experiences and even after 13 years my answer was 'no'. I am very clear with what I want...
    donotfollowme donotfollowme 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    I've never been in love. Maybe it's because of my high standards or the fact that, I've just never met "the one". But I feel as though people out there (especially girls) are...
    beesboo beesboo 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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