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I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

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    Life Is Way Too Short

    To be with someone that makes you miserable. I married at the age of 21 and endured 18 years with a man who had no respect for women and berated me every chance he could. It was hard never being able to do anything right, according to his standards. The only good thing that...
    justsmile14 justsmile14 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    yeah my ex cheated on me

    so its better to be alone :)
    berealistic811 berealistic811 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 2

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    Sometimes loving the wrong person can teach you

    how to appreciate the right person when they come along.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    I've never been in love.

    .. I often wonder if I am incapable of feeling love :(
    misswhitney11 misswhitney11 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 31

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    My ex boyfriend lied to me

    for four years about being married. I can't believe I was so stupid as to believe he was single. He won't stop calling me or trying to contact me now he has seperated from his wife. I want nothing more to do with him. If he could lie to my face for four years about something...
    Mimimanxcat Mimimanxcat 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 24

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    Being in a wrong relationship is horrible!

    You waste time, emotions and even money on a person that you don't see a future with anyway. That's why I'm a strong advocate of casual dating if you're single and just commit when you stumble into someone worth it. Until then, just go out, meet, date, make friends, learn about...
    thiscatownsme thiscatownsme 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 19

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    yeah my ex cheated on me

    so its better to be alone :)
    berealistic81 berealistic81 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 1

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    By Choice

    I was alone for years by choice.I had experienced a marriage that didn't go well.Before it was completely over my mother was harassing me to date and get married again.I wasn't interested.I am happy that I spent the time to be alone.  Being with somebody just to be with somebody...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    I'm in a dead relationship it feels.

    I made him move out because our rship was toxic in a bid to save it. But now, he rarely makes the effort. I have a 7 yr old son and he's like not my problem etc. There is built up trust, love and comfort. Which is why I'm struggling to let go. But it feels like theirs no future...
    Sia88 Sia88 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    Been with my boyfriend 2 years,

    and I have never felt so alone... I dont know what to do. We live together and just got a puppy together. I just think i'm not happy. :(
    jesslynn4686 jesslynn4686 26-30, F 7 Responses May 22

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    This wasn't always the case,

    but unfortunately after being cheated on by every woman I was in a serious relationship with, I have discovered that I would rather be alone than in a constant state of anxiety wondering "who is she with when she's not with me". Some say I should just get over it, but how can...
    CL4234 CL4234 56-60, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    Something I've taken very literally

    for all my life. And even though it brings scary, depressive and sad thoughts , I always bounce back to being happy knowing that alone is always the better choice than being with someone wrong.
    lifeinthemoment lifeinthemoment 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't mind being alone,

    I just hate feeling lonely. I've gotten myself involved in some poor relationships because settling sounds better than being alone. That's not the truth. When one ofus two decide to depart it grows from being alone to feeling abandoned. I hate not being able to express what I...
    PixieStixs PixieStixs 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    The best way to be happy with someone is to

    learn to be happy alone. That way the company will be a matter of choice.. Not necessity.
    bluemoon2121 bluemoon2121 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 27

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    I was married to a man

    for 17 years...had 3 beautiful children and loved being a family. I gave him all my love, trust, respect, friendship, everything I wanted in him. He rejected our family and tore my heart apart I tried to make things work...went to several marriage counselors until finally I...
    jlj5298 jlj5298 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion 26-30, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    Life is too short to waste it trapped in

    unfulfilling relatiomships. I was married for close to a year, and I'm so much happier and satisfied picking and choosing with whom I spend time.
    thegirlnobodyknows thegirlnobodyknows 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    Alone Is Not So Bad

    It's not that I like waking up alone. Not that I care for going to bed alone. It's not that I care to talk to myself. Not like I desire to eat meals alone. Thinking a funny thought and having no one to share it with is dull. Having no one to dream dreams with isn't much fun...
    oldfarmguy oldfarmguy 56-60, M 11 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    trionar trionar 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    It's so hard for me to admit it .

    I do want to be loved by someone. But I rather be forever single than just settling for some low life so I would never be alone.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    yes alone.. if someone cant stand

    and fight for your love.. why do they have to stay in a relationship.. ? Love is an experience but not a rehearsal of feelings and emotions. Love should not be put aside as it is the main reason why two people promise forever.. why do you have to let the other people love you...
    sheshe39 sheshe39 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    The Worst Thing

    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ~ Robin Williams
    sciguy18 sciguy18 51-55, M 3 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    Easier said than done,

    for me (i'm also a member of the group I Want To Follow My Own Advice). Yes, I can laugh about it.
    justbeit justbeit 51-55, M 4 Responses Mar 24

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    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Dark grey with red purple

    and pale Everyone i loved i would always fail The cold made me scared, the heat made me angry Make me, make me, make me, make me I shouted at the sky, i Screamed at the ocean I stood in denial, with all that is vile This girl i knew, just wanted to be my friend, I acted like...
    ericramone ericramone 31-35, M 3 Responses Sep 19

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    ...says the one who's practically throwing away

    her entire life being married to the wrong person :-( Wishful thinking... ************UPDATE*********** October 4th 2014 Just to see how instrumental EP has been on my life's transformation journey... When I first arrived here, I was clueless, confused, numb and completely...
    TheFieryWoman TheFieryWoman 36-40, F 21 Responses Feb 20

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    When you are desperate to say you have someone

    in your life, you draw people to you who are probably pretty emotionally unhealthy in large part to teach you to be at peace with being alone. This was something I struggled with a lot in my late teens and early 20's. I was the one perusing and contacting guys on dating websites...
    AKLady14 AKLady14 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 9

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    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 13

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    New Chapter

    Recently got out of a dysfunctional relationship. The problem was that I was willing to keep living in it. If someone were to ask me if I am happier now than two months ago, that answer would be yes. When Mike left me, I thought my future was over. I had a picture in my head of...
    looklife looklife 18-21, F 10 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    Discovering they're wrong.

    .. Can be so little disheartening, but.. Better sooner than later!
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    I wonder why we seem to demonize people looking

    for attention. A lot of times somebody will say something, or post something online and the response is "he/she is just looking for attention..." And they shrug that person off... Well I think, if they were just looking for attention... SO WHAT?! If a malnourished person came to...
    alcool91 alcool91 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 3

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    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon 36-40, M 16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    This is a huge thing

    for me. I absolutely would be alone forever rather than be with the wrong person! I strongly believe in not settling!!
    JamieleeEchelon JamieleeEchelon 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 1

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    I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With The Wrong Person

    I am a 28 year old single mother and and I am in my 3rd year of celibacy. I am sick and tired of hearing about women who put their libido before the welfare of their children. Parading an endless string of stepdaddys, uncles and mommys special friends in front of their children...
    ZZsMummy ZZsMummy 26-30, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    I don't know why people 'take what they can

    get' , or just have to be in a relationship. I'd rather be alone with dignity , and self respect!
    CrushOnPhilBrooks CrushOnPhilBrooks 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    My life is ******. Even

    though i want a girlfriend, I don't know where to find a girlfriend. I don't even know how to talk to girls anymore. Its been a long time sadly. Girls can sense that too. So what do I do? Dating sites, suck if you don't have a pic that resembles Bradley Cooper or are all...
    ericramone ericramone 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 4

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    I have never been one to openly talk about

    every little detail of my personal life with people around me. I have no desire to aimlessly date at this point in my life I'm seeking more substance. I don't care about the club or hooking up just to do so although it has it's place don't get me wrong I'm not a prude. But I...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 5 Responses May 8

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    For two years I've been telling myself he'll

    get better, but everyday it was the same routine, same arguments, same stress, same shame, same man. I started to lose respect for myself, I couldn't possibly mean more to him than his addiction to alcohol did. I was lost, constantly contemplating wether or not to walk away but...
    skylersmom15 skylersmom15 22-25, F 10 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    I love him and forgave him

    after lying and cheating. &He's hiding something from me for the past week. I sorta lost hope and gave up but i dont really mind. We made it this far in the relationship and yet i somewhat no longer care because i somewhat no longer want to stay with him. I want to be happy. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I think some men and women truly believe they

    should stay with the wrong person because of history. Just because you have a long dragged out history with someone doesn't mean you should remain committed to a relationship that isn't growing. Often times when someone is in a relationship that they want out of ... The other...
    vivirmivida vivirmivida 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2013

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    What the hell is wrong with this world?

    !?! No one can be a friend, you cant trust anyone especially that one person you always that you can count on. Not even family can be family anymore. Everyone screws you over. And then theres the part where everyone is getting mad at me why i dont have friends. Well i'd rather...
    phoenixgirl21 phoenixgirl21 22-25, F 8 Responses Feb 17

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    Once Bitten, Twice Shy, Three Strikes, You're Out!

    I have this motto: It's always good in the beginning... if it weren't good in the beginning, there wouldn't be a middle or an end. I can prove that I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person, because I've been married three times. And divorced three times. And marriage, for...
    texastomgirl texastomgirl 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 5, 2012

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    I have been with all the wrong people.

    I've been settling to be single for a while now. Waiting around I haven't had much luck in love. It will be a rough road to find the one but I will take what comes.
    angelofthe88keys angelofthe88keys 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    Bbailey84 Bbailey84 26-30 Sep 11

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    I have met many wrong people,

    that sounded good at the time. I'd rather be alone forever, then have 5 minutes of good, then 10 of bad.
    LittleStain LittleStain 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 23

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    I hate feeling lonely

    but its better than settling with someone you don't really love. damn my pickyness!!
    Emeraldteo Emeraldteo 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I’ve been with the same person

    for thirty years. I knew very early on that we were a mismatch, but twenty-six years ago, when I told him that we should go our separate ways, he played the most cowardice card in the deck, and I have never mentioned about us parting ways since, until this evening; I don’t...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 15 Responses Oct 14

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    The Dealbreaker Called Respect

    If somebody cannot treat you with respect Then that somebody is really nobody. You spend time with them Love them Invest a good part of your life in them Only to not be valued and respected. Or treated like that the best you gave meant nothing. There can be no love without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 24, 2013

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    I don't know what to do I tried an experiment

    of going out with somebody because I was sick of my loneliness But all I do is look at other mens women Ok she is not pretty she is fat but she comes to stay with me for 2 weeks then goes home for 2 weeks. I am male fourties she is mid thirties We been going out for six months...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 31

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    I'm about to work my last two night shifts at

    7-eleven I really won't miss this place overall. I will miss some of my customers but I might see them anyways. Nothing is changing about that really. But I won't miss being threatened and insulted by customers on a nightly basis. And I won't miss getting my schedule one...
    alcool91 alcool91 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    As I go through life I realise

    that it is a false dream to find someone who will make you happy - the power of being happy comes from yourself and the way you relate to your own being and to the world. The more we expect others to meet our needs and to make us happy, the more and more detached we become from...
    HenryScobie HenryScobie 51-55, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Has Anyone Noticed..

    Has anyone noticed that this generation of young adults have this huge "being single" complex? Like, what's wrong with being single? Some people think that being a relationship is the only way to be happy; that it's the only reason life has purpose. And I'm just over here like...
    TheBrie TheBrie 18-21, F 15 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    I was with a guy who just kept asking

    for money and never gave anything in return and I just almost find that in every guy I meet they want sex or money not love
    rukateria rukateria 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 16

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