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I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

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    chicamexicana chicamexicana 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 9, 2015

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    I have never been one to openly talk about

    every little detail of my personal life with people around me. I have no desire to aimlessly date at this point in my life I'm seeking more substance. I don't care about the club or hooking up just to do so although it has it's place don't get me wrong I'm not a prude. But I...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 4 Responses May 8, 2014

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    As I go through life I realise

    that it is a false dream to find someone who will make you happy - the power of being happy comes from yourself and the way you relate to your own being and to the world. The more we expect others to meet our needs and to make us happy, the more and more detached we become from...
    HenryScobie HenryScobie 51-55, M 5 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion 26-30, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    i am single by choice.

    .i ended my relationship. my ex is still pursuing me and wants to be with me. he feels im his soulmate and he wants to get married. but i know he is not right for me. he treated me like crap and took me through hell. i reached my breaking point and kicked him out of my life...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2015

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    I learned this the hard way.

    I was lonely for a long time and then I met someone who was literally too good to be true. Once I discovered who he really was, I kept him around because I figured at the time that it was better than being alone, and I thought he was harmless... He couldn't hurt me if I didn't...
    GGGina GGGina 51-55, F 6 Responses Oct 31, 2015

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    Finding myself and growing is far more

    important, and I am myself. When things fail I have get up and dust off and rebuild and grow. I am and I will always be who I am, as much as I hate to admit it I am wounded. Which is why I decided I couldn't live like this, it was destroying me. Not feeling wanted or good enough...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 18, 2015

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    There's total peace and quiet It's the calm

    before the storm The kids are in the backseat We'll let loose when we are home You're not the woman I fell for I'm not the man of your dreams The ties that bind are frayed Our shelter's splitting at the seams Can this home be repaired With bandage, bolt...
    VeryBear VeryBear 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 4, 2015

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    I get asked a lot: when are you planning to get

    married or are you engaged yet? Or why are you still single until now? I am not that old, well I am 30 yrs old and I can see why people wonder about me a lot. In my country, especially in my region, girls get married very early! According to my mom, I should be married by 20...
    StrongWoman9 StrongWoman9 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 11, 2015

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    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon 36-40, M 16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    This is my first Christmas without my 3 yo.

    I just split w her dad over Thanksgiving and i knew this would be hard... I just didn't realize how hard it would be. He wanted her Christmas eve and I'll see her tomorrow to open gifts, it's just hard knowing I don't get to see her wipe the sleep from her eyes and see her...
    yinyangdragon yinyangdragon 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

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    But I miss him ... I miss having someone.

    And worse he was my first real and only person for so long. I keep reminding myself of all the reasons why I'm better off alone , but this sucks right now.
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 12, 2015

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    I've never been in a relationship.

    I aim to know myself better before I get into one so that Ill not be a baggage and not just simply have a relationship with a good start. If ill not have a meaningful relationship I'll rather not have one.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 23, 2015

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    And this is why I'm still single.

    I'm not going to lower my standards and if that means no one measures up so be it
    emyleejane emyleejane 26-30, T 2 Responses Apr 23, 2015

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    I feel torn in two. My mother wants me out of

    my relationship. She thinks my fiance is controlling, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. I can't decide if he is or not. Maybe he is...I keep breaking up with him. I am sick of Mom telling me what to do though. Right now, I feel like I have no life or will of my own between...
    depressedrecluse777 depressedrecluse777 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2015

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    Hi! New here, still figuring out how this

    works. But I do feel this way although I have sometimes taken a bad relationship over being alone. Have u?
    AnotherGypsySoul AnotherGypsySoul 26-30, F Nov 14, 2015

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    I have decided, after really thinking it through

    and weighing the pros and cons, to divorce my husband of 9 years. I am not happy and I just can't imagine living this way for the rest of my life. I can't stand for him to touch me. we do not communicate at all in anyway. I cry daily. he has been emotionally, financially and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses May 15, 2015

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    This is something that my friends just cannot

    understand. I'm not saying that there is a right or wrong way to be. We are all different. Some people can be happy with just about anyone. To some people, the worst fate in the world is to be alone. I have seen some of my friends go from guy to guy with no recovery period. It...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    Being in a wrong relationship is horrible!

    You waste time, emotions and even money on a person that you don't see a future with anyway. That's why I'm a strong advocate of casual dating if you're single and just commit when you stumble into someone worth it. Until then, just go out, meet, date, make friends, learn about...
    thiscatownsme thiscatownsme 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    The Dealbreaker Called Respect

    If somebody cannot treat you with respect Then that somebody is really nobody. You spend time with them Love them Invest a good part of your life in them Only to not be valued and respected. Or treated like that the best you gave meant nothing. There can be no love without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 24, 2013

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    I'm too young to worry about this,

    but sometimes i think i'm too picky and i'll never find the right person for me.
    LilithMoonsmiler LilithMoonsmiler 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2015

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    A year ago I wouldn't be able to say this was

    true for me. I was worried about being on my own and thought I could make myself forget things and feel different about situations. But this year I realize I am much happier than I was before. You need to love you before loving someone else or being loved can mean something...
    BeingHappi BeingHappi 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 20, 2015

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    New Chapter

    Recently got out of a dysfunctional relationship. The problem was that I was willing to keep living in it. If someone were to ask me if I am happier now than two months ago, that answer would be yes. When Mike left me, I thought my future was over. I had a picture in my head of...
    looklife looklife 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    I hate to sound a bit corny

    but I'm always waiting for that one guy who can light a fire in my heart and won't try to burn down my whole world in the progress.
    CaitTheAvenger CaitTheAvenger 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 17

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    I'm so confused with myself at this point.

    I've been talking to this guy for almost two months now. It's like he's on another planet! This relationship is bazaar because when I first talked to him, he told me he was single and looking for the right woman to be in his life so with me being single of course I wanted...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jan 9

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    I see no reason to be with the wrong person

    for longer than it takes to escape. Living alone is surely better than living in fear living a lie. I can't imagine being so lonely that I would stay where I am unhappy. Been there and been so happy to escape. Lonely is better than miserable and/or afraid.
    Serenitree1 Serenitree1 70+, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2015

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    My friends and family have began to question my

    sexuality, my head hasn't though. I know I'm into boys although I retain myself from letting them in, why? The thought of having sex with one of those boys that just want another root or help getting "their number up" makes me sick. It's been a year since I last slept with...
    Katierah Katierah 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 20

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    The Worst Thing

    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ~ Robin Williams
    sciguy18 sciguy18 56-60, M 3 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    I'm person who not fake my self

    or my feelings, i rather be alone if someone just pretending around me.
    Mollywolly92 Mollywolly92 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2015

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    It hurts for me to be alone,

    but it hurts even more for me to be with someone who does not value my worth. No longer will I settle for less than I deserve.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2015

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    Just like when you are lonely,

    and you fell this emptiness, and desertion but you feel like that because there's no one there. But then to have someone there with you and you still feel the same way....I really couldn't imagine something like that! I would have to tell that person to get the f*** out right at...
    Sweetpea2010 Sweetpea2010 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2015

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    Feeling so alone in everyway.

    I miss him, but i cant trust him, so i cant be with him. I love him. I miss him so much. What the hell can i do?
    lekrap lekrap 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 6, 2015

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    You never know you are with the wrong person

    until that wrong person gives you the reason to believe that loneliness is not enemy always....
    hiddentears hiddentears 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 5, 2015

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    I was with the wrong person married actually

    but anyway it turned sour and he broke me, my heart, my feelings. eventually i got out of it but I should have done it years ago! I may be alone but I'm not hurting quite so much.
    hurtwontheal hurtwontheal 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 28

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    Don't let "I miss you" trick you.

    Don't let "I'm sorry" make you think about walking back into that party. The longer you dance with the devil, the longer you remain in hell. Don't sell yourself short by settling for what they have to offer. You owe so much better to yourself. Remember, you left for a...
    funsized1 funsized1 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 8, 2015

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    The last guy I dated wasn't a horrible person,

    but he was starting to be more verbally abusive. we have a 1 year old, and it is hard to be strong. I was becoming depressed, and our son wasn't becoming a bit behind in his development. I had hoped to work it out, but he basically told me our son and I were in the way and...
    TellyLuv TellyLuv 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I am so lucky to have you my love.

    We have everything we need in our little home.
    kaitlinjade kaitlinjade 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    Bad people always try to exploit good

    and innocent people. Beware of them and leave them at the earliest, lest they spoil your life.
    Jovial144 Jovial144 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2015

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    Has Anyone Noticed..

    Has anyone noticed that this generation of young adults have this huge "being single" complex? Like, what's wrong with being single? Some people think that being a relationship is the only way to be happy; that it's the only reason life has purpose. And I'm just over here like...
    TheBrie TheBrie 18-21, F 13 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    My BF used to write me a lot

    and cared so much about me before he got me. But recently, since he's busy with work, he's been totally focusing on himself. He said he loved me. But he hadn't say these kind of words for a long time. I feel he's changing his feelings towards me. He's becoming somebody that I...
    Beckyberry Beckyberry 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2015

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    I don't want to be with a wrong person.

    . There is enough who is okay for affairs, extra marital relations, one night stands etc.. There is bise*uals who want to marry a guy eventually.. And dump me.. I want to be with the right person or I will be alone.. I know she will come one day.. She will happen.. Love...
    carrydawg carrydawg 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    I've been alone for quite a few years now.

    Sometimes it does hurt me a little bit, but I stand firm in my decision. Sadly, nowadays everything revolves around sex, and love comes after, if at all. When I look at my grandparents and see them together after so many years, I listen to their stories and think to myself, I...
    YeuxNoirs YeuxNoirs 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    I'm resigned to end up alone.

    I dreamt about a family when I was younger but I lost the person I loved truly, I tried with others but true love cannot repeat. I prefer living alone with his memory like a widow. I don't want anymore someone else to cover his memory again, coz no one deserved to take his place...
    hashsoul hashsoul 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 11, 2015

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    as much as I hate being alone,

    I would rather not waste my life with the wrong person...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 26, 2015

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