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I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

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    Years ago, I was lonely

    and living in a new city and signed up for a dating site. I was looking for anyone; love, friendship, sex, or drugs, it didn't matter. I met many people, even met one girl who "lit my fire." The chemistry between us was unlike anything I had ever felt. Then I moved back home and...
    UrbanArtFan UrbanArtFan 26-30, T Dec 22, 2014

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    The Dealbreaker Called Respect

    If somebody cannot treat you with respect Then that somebody is really nobody. You spend time with them Love them Invest a good part of your life in them Only to not be valued and respected. Or treated like that the best you gave meant nothing. There can be no love without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 24, 2013

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    I guess I learned some things

    that probably scared and scarred me for life. My mom always tells me "You're gonna be living alone in a forest in a cabin filled with cats" and my response is always the same... Do I get to give them a curfew? I keep telling myself being alone is better than being hurt. I know I...
    Chibiiiii Chibiiiii 22-25, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I'd rather you love my loyal heart

    than have you fall for my twisted mind.
    AcousticAnne AcousticAnne 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 21

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    I've actually never been in a relationship.

    .. even many are trying but then if I consider all things around I will rather stay alone... only once I fell in love (I guess it still lasts) but I know he is not the right one for me... But its not so easy to accept, even if my brain is saying that its good like this...
    BaskaK BaskaK 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    I have never been one to openly talk about

    every little detail of my personal life with people around me. I have no desire to aimlessly date at this point in my life I'm seeking more substance. I don't care about the club or hooking up just to do so although it has it's place don't get me wrong I'm not a prude. But I...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 5 Responses May 8, 2014

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    People always bleat on about relationships.

    ..but in fact a relationship takes two to work. I thankfully have found my life partner and we are blissfully happy. If your with the wrong person you are far better off alone. Alone is not so bad and its better to be your own person than be what someone wants you to be. If...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I sometimes look back on my previous

    relationships; good memories, bad memories, happy times, sad times. But I can't actually recognise myself in those memories. I gave my heart and body absolutely, but I feel like they also took my personality too. It is like everything revolved around my partner and there was...
    Fioritura Fioritura 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 7

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    after a few failed relationships

    where I just knew they were the one and everything was fine till years added in the truth, I would rather be a spinster. I have 5 wonderful children and am old enough to realize that I'd be the last choice for the average man. A man wants to be with a woman he can build a family...
    fbizzle fbizzle 26-30, F Mar 15

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    I’m almost three months in on my divorce

    and I can honestly say that I don’t want to spend my life alone, but I would rather be alone than to be with the wrong person, and my thirty-year marriage will attest to that. My divorce will by final in May (2015), I initially asked for a divorce twenty-seven years ago in...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    I made the decision to be alone,

    instead of staying with the wrong person. Now I'm laying in bed, in my new apartment, feeling completely alone. I never thought being alone would be harder than being with my ex husband.... but honestly, right now, it is.
    kelly65876 kelly65876 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    Being in a wrong relationship is horrible!

    You waste time, emotions and even money on a person that you don't see a future with anyway. That's why I'm a strong advocate of casual dating if you're single and just commit when you stumble into someone worth it. Until then, just go out, meet, date, make friends, learn about...
    thiscatownsme thiscatownsme 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    The Worst Thing

    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ~ Robin Williams
    sciguy18 sciguy18 56-60, M 3 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon 36-40, M 16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Alone Is Not So Bad

    It's not that I like waking up alone. Not that I care for going to bed alone. It's not that I care to talk to myself. Not like I desire to eat meals alone. Thinking a funny thought and having no one to share it with is dull. Having no one to dream dreams with isn't much fun...
    oldfarmguy oldfarmguy 61-65, M 11 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    It's my saftey issue.

    If you can't deal with it that's cool. I don't jump
    Averageguy41074 Averageguy41074 36-40, M Jan 15

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    I never really feel completely alone,

    I feel fortunate to have so many amazing people in my life, both friends and family..but as for intimate relationships, that's a different thing. I don't understand why so many people go into a relationship with the first person that gives them attention? Us ladies can spend...
    silvera73 silvera73 41-45, F Mar 3

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    New Chapter

    Recently got out of a dysfunctional relationship. The problem was that I was willing to keep living in it. If someone were to ask me if I am happier now than two months ago, that answer would be yes. When Mike left me, I thought my future was over. I had a picture in my head of...
    looklife looklife 18-21, F 10 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    The best way to be happy with someone is to

    learn to be happy alone. That way the company will be a matter of choice.. Not necessity.
    bluemoon2121 bluemoon2121 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    Easier said than done,

    for me (i'm also a member of the group I Want To Follow My Own Advice). Yes, I can laugh about it.
    justbeit justbeit 51-55, M 4 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    I don't know why people 'take what they can

    get' , or just have to be in a relationship. I'd rather be alone with dignity , and self respect!
    CrushOnPhilBrooks CrushOnPhilBrooks 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 28, 2014

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    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion 26-30, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    Sometimes loving the wrong person can teach you

    how to appreciate the right person when they come along.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2014

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    When I see my friends getting into relationships

    and all. It makes me think about how I can't see myself in a relationship. It's kind of sad thinking about it. Still in all honest dating someone knowing it won't last long but doing it anyways. Then regretting it and feeling utterly terrible is even more sad. Anyways I can...
    nuwandaisaphony nuwandaisaphony 16-17 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I’ve been with the same person

    for thirty years. I knew very early on that we were a mismatch, but twenty-six years ago, when I told him that we should go our separate ways, he played the most cowardice card in the deck, and I have never mentioned about us parting ways since, until this evening; I don’t...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 11 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    It's better to be alone

    than to get your feelings hurt by someone you may not really know.
    JK7448 JK7448 18-21, F Mar 18

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    But really would love to find

    that "right" one!
    ThisBeautifulChaos ThisBeautifulChaos 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 4

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    “Love someone because their soul inspires you,

    not because you’re interested in the relief from loneliness and companionship they can provide. Anybody can do that. Not just anybody can show you to yourself.” ― Brianna Wiest
    bluemoon2121 bluemoon2121 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    This is something that my friends just cannot

    understand. I'm not saying that there is a right or wrong way to be. We are all different. Some people can be happy with just about anyone. To some people, the worst fate in the world is to be alone. I have seen some of my friends go from guy to guy with no recovery period. It...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    As I go through life I realise

    that it is a false dream to find someone who will make you happy - the power of being happy comes from yourself and the way you relate to your own being and to the world. The more we expect others to meet our needs and to make us happy, the more and more detached we become from...
    HenryScobie HenryScobie 51-55, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Kenapa orang sesuka hati datang dan pergi

    begitu sahaja tanpa memikirkan perasaan kita???
    XZXIXAXNX XZXIXAXNX 26-30, F Jan 2

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    I was married to a man

    for 17 years...had 3 beautiful children and loved being a family. I gave him all my love, trust, respect, friendship, everything I wanted in him. He rejected our family and tore my heart apart I tried to make things work...went to several marriage counselors until finally I...
    jlj5298 jlj5298 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    It's weird I hate being single,

    but I sometimes feel that the guys I meet are not really for me I guess, handsome, of course smart, funny, I just don't ever feel a connection with anyone and I hate to give the wrong impression sao I don't ever bother making one in the first place. I definitely look for that...
    alxvii alxvii 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 23

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    By Choice

    I was alone for years by choice.I had experienced a marriage that didn't go well.Before it was completely over my mother was harassing me to date and get married again.I wasn't interested.I am happy that I spent the time to be alone.  Being with somebody just to be with somebody...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    So I tried online dating I've been on

    and off for the last 3 years. I did meet somebody I had been dating steady for almost a year. I told him from the get go once our relstionship reached the point of sexual intimacy the online dating profiles should go down. Mine did but his didn't. a friend found it. He...
    liznicole15 liznicole15 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 2

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    Has Anyone Noticed..

    Has anyone noticed that this generation of young adults have this huge "being single" complex? Like, what's wrong with being single? Some people think that being a relationship is the only way to be happy; that it's the only reason life has purpose. And I'm just over here like...
    TheBrie TheBrie 18-21, F 13 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    This is a huge thing

    for me. I absolutely would be alone forever rather than be with the wrong person! I strongly believe in not settling!!
    JamieleeEchelon JamieleeEchelon 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 1, 2014

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    I know I am worthy of love

    so why am I alone? I like to tell myself I am ok alone but I would love something more
    isfj isfj 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    Wrong bites too deep

    and life should never bite so deep
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 4

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    I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With The Wrong Person

    I am a 28 year old single mother and and I am in my 3rd year of celibacy. I am sick and tired of hearing about women who put their libido before the welfare of their children. Parading an endless string of stepdaddys, uncles and mommys special friends in front of their children...
    ZZsMummy ZZsMummy 26-30, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    I used to think I couldn't live without my

    bestfriend but since she's gone I've been ok without her yes I miss her but I'll be alright alone
    IsMyStory IsMyStory 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    Being alone is much better

    than being in a relationship where you feel so lonely!!
    Mysteriousa Mysteriousa 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    What is wrong with today's generation of boys?

    This Guy just sent me a message saying that we need to talk, and that can't talk anymore if I can't give him head, and that's he's older and that he needs that in a relationship. We literally just started talking a week ago, haven't even went on a date, in fact he stood me up...
    alxvii alxvii 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 1

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    Being with the wrong person calls

    for a lot of regret in the long run. Feelings of low self esteem, anger, revenge and all that which will eventually eat us up and make us ugly. I don't mind being alone...its hurts..the loneliness hurts but It's the price I have to pay to not get hurt... Again.
    Tears4fears15 Tears4fears15 22-25 4 Responses Mar 3

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    Being With The Wrong Person.

    .. Most people can relate to over-staying in a relationship with a partner who was not right for them, who displayed major red flags, or treated them poorly. Many admit to staying in a relationship even though their gut repeatedly told them to get out. Why do we stay in...
    sciguy18 sciguy18 56-60, M 4 Responses Apr 7, 2014

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