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I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

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    Sometimes loving the wrong person can teach you

    how to appreciate the right person when they come along.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2014

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    And this is why I'm still single.

    I'm not going to lower my standards and if that means no one measures up so be it
    emyleejane emyleejane 26-30, T 2 Responses Apr 23

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    As I go through life I realise

    that it is a false dream to find someone who will make you happy - the power of being happy comes from yourself and the way you relate to your own being and to the world. The more we expect others to meet our needs and to make us happy, the more and more detached we become from...
    HenryScobie HenryScobie 51-55, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    The Dealbreaker Called Respect

    If somebody cannot treat you with respect Then that somebody is really nobody. You spend time with them Love them Invest a good part of your life in them Only to not be valued and respected. Or treated like that the best you gave meant nothing. There can be no love without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 24, 2013

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    There I sat, across the table from him in my

    favorite Indian restaurant...waiting for the wonderful to begin. He had nothing to say to me here...in my favorite place...where the food makes me close my eyes and hmmmm softly to myself in perfect simple joy with every bite. I imagine him saying the usual lovely things to me...
    SouthernMamasita SouthernMamasita 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 26

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    This is something that my friends just cannot

    understand. I'm not saying that there is a right or wrong way to be. We are all different. Some people can be happy with just about anyone. To some people, the worst fate in the world is to be alone. I have seen some of my friends go from guy to guy with no recovery period. It...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    I amverbally and emotionally abused by my

    husband. He calls me stupid, idiot and ugly personality. I am neitherof those. How do i make him stop?
    poghy poghy 56-60, F 10 Responses Aug 13

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    I'm always there when they have problems,

    but when I'm the one who needs them they magically disappear.
    PRS021 PRS021 22-25, T 2 Responses Aug 20

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    The major difference between a thing

    that might go wrong and a thing that cannot possibly go wrong is that when a thing that cannot possibly go wrong goes wrong it usually turns out to be impossible to get at and repair....it somehow reminded me of relationships...
    000Camilla 000Camilla 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    I have never been one to openly talk about

    every little detail of my personal life with people around me. I have no desire to aimlessly date at this point in my life I'm seeking more substance. I don't care about the club or hooking up just to do so although it has it's place don't get me wrong I'm not a prude. But I...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 4 Responses May 8, 2014

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    Finding myself and growing is far more

    important, and I am myself. When things fail I have get up and dust off and rebuild and grow. I am and I will always be who I am, as much as I hate to admit it I am wounded. Which is why I decided I couldn't live like this, it was destroying me. Not feeling wanted or good enough...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 18

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    Has Anyone Noticed..

    Has anyone noticed that this generation of young adults have this huge "being single" complex? Like, what's wrong with being single? Some people think that being a relationship is the only way to be happy; that it's the only reason life has purpose. And I'm just over here like...
    TheBrie TheBrie 18-21, F 13 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    I know this to be true

    and healthy - yet I am feeling so lonely. I see other couples and I want that someone in my life. And then I look at my circumstances s d I don't see it ever being possible - not for years at the very least. This sucks.
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 6

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    He wants to work things out he says.

    He's gone no contact he says. I'm supposed to trust that this time he means it? That it's not just about staying for the kids which we know won't work. Last night during our talk something I can't stop thinking about , this is what he said to me as if it was no big deal...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 3

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    HELL YESSS!! I hate fake bitchess i just find it

    so funny that usually the typical highschool clique contains the most goofy immature mental people that only strive to fit in and try to be cool. Then for me i always witness those sameeee people fighting and rowing each other and for what?? LMFao fail i hate people who always...
    Metradoll Metradoll 18-21, F Jun 26

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    as much as I hate being alone,

    I would rather not waste my life with the wrong person...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 26

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    Don't let "I miss you" trick you.

    Don't let "I'm sorry" make you think about walking back into that party. The longer you dance with the devil, the longer you remain in hell. Don't sell yourself short by settling for what they have to offer. You owe so much better to yourself. Remember, you left for a...
    funsized1 funsized1 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 8

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    i am single by choice.

    .i ended my relationship. my ex is still pursuing me and wants to be with me. he feels im his soulmate and he wants to get married. but i know he is not right for me. he treated me like crap and took me through hell. i reached my breaking point and kicked him out of my life...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 1

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    I am proud that I have finally found my center

    and can say I'm perfectly good, if not, great being on my own. If everyone knew how chronically Co dependent I spent my twenties I would be getting a standing ovation.
    enlightenedoneforone enlightenedoneforone 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 31

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    chicamexicana chicamexicana 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    If I can't find anyone

    who respects me for being intelligent, independent and strong person, I'd rather be single. I'm not going to stay at home with children and doing household chores for the rest of my life without my own money and personal achievements. I'm not saying I don't love children or like...
    DiscoveringTheTruth DiscoveringTheTruth 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 10

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    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Bad people always try to exploit good

    and innocent people. Beware of them and leave them at the earliest, lest they spoil your life.
    Jovial144 Jovial144 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 12

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    I clicked on an old song earlier this evening.

    .. Corneille's "Seul au monde." I don't know why I did it... But I did. And I ended up struggling to fight back the tears. I struggled, but they came anyway.. I'm writing this in this group because this is in large part why I'm where I'm at in my life right now. I may have...
    sweet7sephora sweet7sephora 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 7

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    It can be painful sometimes,

    knowing that I don't really have anyone for myself, and also playing the "what if" game with myself. Honestly, I'd rather not have a relationship at all than being with the wrong person, because when I, and anyone else who's in this group finds that one person for them... Man...
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 18-21, M 2 Responses May 31

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    Hi everyone I'm a 61 year old female in my

    boyfriend is 52 years old he's Puerto Rican and I'm from Boston he speaks very good English has a PhD we have problem understanding each other but that's not the biggest problem he got a DUI 17 months ago and we've been dating 18 months and I've been bringing him to DUI Court in...
    DebOohlala DebOohlala 61-65, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    Life is too short to waste it trapped in

    unfulfilling relatiomships. I was married for close to a year, and I'm so much happier and satisfied picking and choosing with whom I spend time.
    thegirlnobodyknows thegirlnobodyknows 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2014

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    It only takes a few seconds of direct eye

    contact to see someones true motives. After sex, or money? I can skip the free meal - not interested.
    Disobey247 Disobey247 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 13

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    Being in a wrong relationship is horrible!

    You waste time, emotions and even money on a person that you don't see a future with anyway. That's why I'm a strong advocate of casual dating if you're single and just commit when you stumble into someone worth it. Until then, just go out, meet, date, make friends, learn about...
    thiscatownsme thiscatownsme 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    This guy I met last week seems to really like

    me. I showed him my true self per FaceTime and acted how I actually do without hiding anything and he still likes me and tbh I thought my real self would put him off. It seems not. Now all my friends are saying "You should at least try with him" but I've told him I don't want to...
    xItsChelsx xItsChelsx 16-17, F 2 Responses May 31

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    Sometimes I am so grateful

    that I am free from the most oppressive relationship I've ever had and I can now spend time with who I like, travel where I want to and say what I like without worrying about things being thrown across the room, or tables kicked over in a fit of rage. The feeling of relief at...
    pinkkitten17 pinkkitten17 41-45, F 7 Responses Jun 14

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    My ex used to bully me

    and destroy my confidence. When we broke up I was the happiest is been in months😄
    shiv1992 shiv1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    ...says the one who's practically throwing away

    her entire life being married to the wrong person :-( Wishful thinking... ************UPDATE*********** October 4th 2014 Just to see how instrumental EP has been on my life's transformation journey... When I first arrived here, I was clueless, confused, numb and completely...
    neeia neeia 41-45, F 17 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion 26-30, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    Totally. That's all I want to say.

    I'm just too selective. I'm friendly on the outside while coming to the conclusion that this person is a total waste of my time. So fake right? I can't help. Guess I'm looking for another self and he/she simply doesn't exit. I have a few besties and they are everywhere in the...
    ArielChen ArielChen 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon 36-40, M 16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    yes, because I will always feel like,

    I missing out on something true
    meliena meliena 18-21, F May 23

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    New Chapter

    Recently got out of a dysfunctional relationship. The problem was that I was willing to keep living in it. If someone were to ask me if I am happier now than two months ago, that answer would be yes. When Mike left me, I thought my future was over. I had a picture in my head of...
    looklife looklife 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    I have decided, after really thinking it through

    and weighing the pros and cons, to divorce my husband of 9 years. I am not happy and I just can't imagine living this way for the rest of my life. I can't stand for him to touch me. we do not communicate at all in anyway. I cry daily. he has been emotionally, financially and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses May 15

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    The best way to be happy with someone is to

    learn to be happy alone. That way the company will be a matter of choice.. Not necessity.
    bluemoon2121 bluemoon2121 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    By Choice

    I was alone for years by choice.I had experienced a marriage that didn't go well.Before it was completely over my mother was harassing me to date and get married again.I wasn't interested.I am happy that I spent the time to be alone.  Being with somebody just to be with somebody...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    I have been in a relationship with a wrong man.

    He started with so much of passion and when I have left everyone because of him then he left me!
    nipaftarima nipaftarima 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 12

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    Following up to yesterday's post

    and comments... What ruins relationships?? There are too many factors to say it's this or that. Children, money, in-laws, sex, careers, personalities, health, physical appeal..., it's an endless list of things that can drive people apart and make one or both start looking...
    Walkalone9000 Walkalone9000 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    I get asked a lot: when are you planning to get

    married or are you engaged yet? Or why are you still single until now? I am not that old, well I am 30 yrs old and I can see why people wonder about me a lot. In my country, especially in my region, girls get married very early! According to my mom, I should be married by 20...
    StrongWoman9 StrongWoman9 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 11

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    I can't make anymore like me

    nor try to get their attention. They have to want to get to know me their self. Life has to do with some obstacles and i'm not going to worry about who wants to get to know me or who doesn't. Chilling by yourself with a cold one in your hand is all you need.
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 8

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    idk how to feel n e mor idk

    if to cry so many let downs in my love life most recent is an ex leaving me cuz the long distance ddnt work out but y did he make try so hard for him just to drop us like nothing its been 2weeks n he hasn't bothered to msg me to see if im ok i guess i just got played again but...