Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 44,185 People

SEND TO A FRIEND:

    New Chapter

    Recently got out of a dysfunctional relationship. The problem was that I was willing to keep living in it. If someone were to ask me if I am happier now than two months ago, that answer would be yes. When Mike left me, I thought my future was over. I had a picture in my head of...
    looklife looklife 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 27, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My friends and family have began to question my

    sexuality, my head hasn't though. I know I'm into boys although I retain myself from letting them in, why? The thought of having sex with one of those boys that just want another root or help getting "their number up" makes me sick. It's been a year since I last slept with...
    Katierah Katierah 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Feeling so alone in everyway.

    I miss him, but i cant trust him, so i cant be with him. I love him. I miss him so much. What the hell can i do?
    lekrap lekrap 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 6, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    This is my first Christmas without my 3 yo.

    I just split w her dad over Thanksgiving and i knew this would be hard... I just didn't realize how hard it would be. He wanted her Christmas eve and I'll see her tomorrow to open gifts, it's just hard knowing I don't get to see her wipe the sleep from her eyes and see her...
    yinyangdragon yinyangdragon 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel
    tornadowinds tornadowinds 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I learned this the hard way.

    I was lonely for a long time and then I met someone who was literally too good to be true. Once I discovered who he really was, I kept him around because I figured at the time that it was better than being alone, and I thought he was harmless... He couldn't hurt me if I didn't...
    GGGina GGGina 51-55, F 6 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    But I miss him ... I miss having someone.

    And worse he was my first real and only person for so long. I keep reminding myself of all the reasons why I'm better off alone , but this sucks right now.
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    And this is why I'm still single.

    I'm not going to lower my standards and if that means no one measures up so be it
    emyleejane emyleejane 26-30, T 2 Responses Apr 23, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel
    notPC notPC 56-60, F 2 Responses Nov 28, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I was with the wrong person married actually

    but anyway it turned sour and he broke me, my heart, my feelings. eventually i got out of it but I should have done it years ago! I may be alone but I'm not hurting quite so much.
    hurtwontheal hurtwontheal 41-45, F 6 Responses Jan 28

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The last guy I dated wasn't a horrible person,

    but he was starting to be more verbally abusive. we have a 1 year old, and it is hard to be strong. I was becoming depressed, and our son wasn't becoming a bit behind in his development. I had hoped to work it out, but he basically told me our son and I were in the way and...
    TellyLuv TellyLuv 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 21

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion 26-30, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My BF used to write me a lot

    and cared so much about me before he got me. But recently, since he's busy with work, he's been totally focusing on himself. He said he loved me. But he hadn't say these kind of words for a long time. I feel he's changing his feelings towards me. He's becoming somebody that I...
    Beckyberry Beckyberry 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have decided, after really thinking it through

    and weighing the pros and cons, to divorce my husband of 9 years. I am not happy and I just can't imagine living this way for the rest of my life. I can't stand for him to touch me. we do not communicate at all in anyway. I cry daily. he has been emotionally, financially and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses May 15, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    i am single by choice.

    .i ended my relationship. my ex is still pursuing me and wants to be with me. he feels im his soulmate and he wants to get married. but i know he is not right for me. he treated me like crap and took me through hell. i reached my breaking point and kicked him out of my life...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've never been in a relationship.

    I aim to know myself better before I get into one so that Ill not be a baggage and not just simply have a relationship with a good start. If ill not have a meaningful relationship I'll rather not have one.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 23, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    ...says the one who's practically throwing away

    her entire life being married to the wrong person :-( Wishful thinking... ************UPDATE*********** October 4th 2014 Just to see how instrumental EP has been on my life's transformation journey... When I first arrived here, I was clueless, confused, numb and completely...
    neeia neeia 41-45, F 17 Responses Feb 20, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sometimes loving the wrong person can teach you

    how to appreciate the right person when they come along.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Bad people always try to exploit good

    and innocent people. Beware of them and leave them at the earliest, lest they spoil your life.
    Jovial144 Jovial144 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Just like when you are lonely,

    and you fell this emptiness, and desertion but you feel like that because there's no one there. But then to have someone there with you and you still feel the same way....I really couldn't imagine something like that! I would have to tell that person to get the f*** out right at...
    Sweetpea2010 Sweetpea2010 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Worst Thing

    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ~ Robin Williams
    sciguy18 sciguy18 56-60, M 3 Responses Mar 9, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm too young to worry about this,

    but sometimes i think i'm too picky and i'll never find the right person for me.
    LilithMoonsmiler LilithMoonsmiler 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon 36-40, M 16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I don't want to be with a wrong person.

    . There is enough who is okay for affairs, extra marital relations, one night stands etc.. There is bise*uals who want to marry a guy eventually.. And dump me.. I want to be with the right person or I will be alone.. I know she will come one day.. She will happen.. Love...
    carrydawg carrydawg 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 24

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I see no reason to be with the wrong person

    for longer than it takes to escape. Living alone is surely better than living in fear living a lie. I can't imagine being so lonely that I would stay where I am unhappy. Been there and been so happy to escape. Lonely is better than miserable and/or afraid.
    Serenitree1 Serenitree1 70+, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It hurts for me to be alone,

    but it hurts even more for me to be with someone who does not value my worth. No longer will I settle for less than I deserve.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm person who not fake my self

    or my feelings, i rather be alone if someone just pretending around me.
    Mollywolly92 Mollywolly92 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Its not worth ending up with another crazy

    person so I just take it day by day.
    Artiste92 Artiste92 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Life is too short to waste it trapped in

    unfulfilling relatiomships. I was married for close to a year, and I'm so much happier and satisfied picking and choosing with whom I spend time.
    thegirlnobodyknows thegirlnobodyknows 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A year ago I wouldn't be able to say this was

    true for me. I was worried about being on my own and thought I could make myself forget things and feel different about situations. But this year I realize I am much happier than I was before. You need to love you before loving someone else or being loved can mean something...
    BeingHappi BeingHappi 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 20, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sometimes I am so grateful

    that I am free from the most oppressive relationship I've ever had and I can now spend time with who I like, travel where I want to and say what I like without worrying about things being thrown across the room, or tables kicked over in a fit of rage. The feeling of relief at...
    pinkkitten17 pinkkitten17 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 14, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    as much as I hate being alone,

    I would rather not waste my life with the wrong person...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 26, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    There's total peace and quiet It's the calm

    before the storm The kids are in the backseat We'll let loose when we are home You're not the woman I fell for I'm not the man of your dreams The ties that bind are frayed Our shelter's splitting at the seams Can this home be repaired With bandage, bolt...
    VeryBear VeryBear 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 4, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yaa..I rather sit down

    and watching television then giving attention to a bijj. She thinks I will be scared if she always bullied me..naah..f*** off lahh...rubbish😒
    May503 May503 13-15, F Sep 20, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I hate to sound a bit corny

    but I'm always waiting for that one guy who can light a fire in my heart and won't try to burn down my whole world in the progress.
    CaitTheAvenger CaitTheAvenger 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 17

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Dealbreaker Called Respect

    If somebody cannot treat you with respect Then that somebody is really nobody. You spend time with them Love them Invest a good part of your life in them Only to not be valued and respected. Or treated like that the best you gave meant nothing. There can be no love without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Feb 24, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    As I go through life I realise

    that it is a false dream to find someone who will make you happy - the power of being happy comes from yourself and the way you relate to your own being and to the world. The more we expect others to meet our needs and to make us happy, the more and more detached we become from...
    HenryScobie HenryScobie 51-55, M 5 Responses Dec 30, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hi! New here, still figuring out how this

    works. But I do feel this way although I have sometimes taken a bad relationship over being alone. Have u?
    AnotherGypsySoul AnotherGypsySoul 26-30, F Nov 14, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've been alone for quite a few years now.

    Sometimes it does hurt me a little bit, but I stand firm in my decision. Sadly, nowadays everything revolves around sex, and love comes after, if at all. When I look at my grandparents and see them together after so many years, I listen to their stories and think to myself, I...
    YeuxNoirs YeuxNoirs 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 18

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm resigned to end up alone.

    I dreamt about a family when I was younger but I lost the person I loved truly, I tried with others but true love cannot repeat. I prefer living alone with his memory like a widow. I don't want anymore someone else to cover his memory again, coz no one deserved to take his place...
    hashsoul hashsoul 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Has Anyone Noticed..

    Has anyone noticed that this generation of young adults have this huge "being single" complex? Like, what's wrong with being single? Some people think that being a relationship is the only way to be happy; that it's the only reason life has purpose. And I'm just over here like...
    TheBrie TheBrie 18-21, F 13 Responses Nov 12, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am so lucky to have you my love.

    We have everything we need in our little home.
    kaitlinjade kaitlinjade 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 18

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My ex used to bully me

    and destroy my confidence. When we broke up I was the happiest is been in months😄
    shiv1992 shiv1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 21, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel