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I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

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    Okay so a guy friend of mines that's going

    through a divorce has gotten his wife pregnant yet again. I've known him for two years and in those two years he's complained non-stop about her, but they still have sex. I don't understand how people can be in relationships like that. I know love isn't usually black or white...
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 26

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    I know I am worthy of love

    so why am I alone? I like to tell myself I am ok alone but I would love something more
    isfj isfj 36-40, F Mar 25

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    New Chapter

    Recently got out of a dysfunctional relationship. The problem was that I was willing to keep living in it. If someone were to ask me if I am happier now than two months ago, that answer would be yes. When Mike left me, I thought my future was over. I had a picture in my head of...
    looklife looklife 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    I was married to a man

    for 17 years...had 3 beautiful children and loved being a family. I gave him all my love, trust, respect, friendship, everything I wanted in him. He rejected our family and tore my heart apart I tried to make things work...went to several marriage counselors until finally I...
    jlj5298 jlj5298 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    trionar trionar 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 8, 2014

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    ...says the one who's practically throwing away

    her entire life being married to the wrong person :-( Wishful thinking... ************UPDATE*********** October 4th 2014 Just to see how instrumental EP has been on my life's transformation journey... When I first arrived here, I was clueless, confused, numb and completely...
    neeia neeia 36-40, F 17 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    I have decided, after really thinking it through

    and weighing the pros and cons, to divorce my husband of 9 years. I am not happy and I just can't imagine living this way for the rest of my life. I can't stand for him to touch me. we do not communicate at all in anyway. I cry daily. he has been emotionally, financially and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses May 15

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    When you are in a room,

    and the air just feels so heavy. Like you can not breath. You feel like running out, or just sitting there crying. Wondering if the other person will even notice,that there is something wrong. Mmm no thanks!!! I would rather be alone, than to be around others and feel completely...
    space4rent space4rent 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    Never again will I allow myself to be in a

    relationship with someone who doesn't love or respect me. I would rather be alone than to be with someone that is cold and distant with one foot out the door.
    Infiniteblue Infiniteblue 36-40, F 2 Responses May 23

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    I sometimes look back on my previous

    relationships; good memories, bad memories, happy times, sad times. But I can't actually recognise myself in those memories. I gave my heart and body absolutely, but I feel like they also took my personality too. It is like everything revolved around my partner and there was...
    Fioritura Fioritura 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 7

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    I guess I learned some things

    that probably scared and scarred me for life. My mom always tells me "You're gonna be living alone in a forest in a cabin filled with cats" and my response is always the same... Do I get to give them a curfew? I keep telling myself being alone is better than being hurt. I know I...
    Chibiiiii Chibiiiii 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    What is wrong with guys these days?

    Aren't you suppose to dress to impress when you go on a date??? Is that too much to ask or something irrelevant these days??? I went on a date last night with a guy I haven't seen in a long time. He was very happy to recconect with me again and was surprised I had agreed to...
    melissav369 melissav369 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 26

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    This is something that my friends just cannot

    understand. I'm not saying that there is a right or wrong way to be. We are all different. Some people can be happy with just about anyone. To some people, the worst fate in the world is to be alone. I have seen some of my friends go from guy to guy with no recovery period. It...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    I never feel amything

    for anyone. I have been on a few dates with people amd they have gotten angry when I dont feel for them what they feel for me. My friend thinks that I am expecting to feel too much. Its not like in films she says. But to be honest I dont want any part in 'love' if it's not real...
    mgkatie mgkatie 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    yes, because I will always feel like,

    I missing out on something true
    meliena meliena 18-21, F May 23

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    I’ve been with the same person

    for thirty years. I knew very early on that we were a mismatch, but twenty-six years ago, when I told him that we should go our separate ways, he played the most cowardice card in the deck, and I have never mentioned about us parting ways since, until this evening; I don’t...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 11 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    You are comfort food.

    I am uncomfortable
    MrMatthias MrMatthias 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 19

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    By Choice

    I was alone for years by choice.I had experienced a marriage that didn't go well.Before it was completely over my mother was harassing me to date and get married again.I wasn't interested.I am happy that I spent the time to be alone.  Being with somebody just to be with somebody...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    idk how to feel n e mor idk

    if to cry so many let downs in my love life most recent is an ex leaving me cuz the long distance ddnt work out but y did he make try so hard for him just to drop us like nothing its been 2weeks n he hasn't bothered to msg me to see if im ok i guess i just got played again but...
    Grey88 Grey88 26-30, F 1 Response May 4

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    As I go through life I realise

    that it is a false dream to find someone who will make you happy - the power of being happy comes from yourself and the way you relate to your own being and to the world. The more we expect others to meet our needs and to make us happy, the more and more detached we become from...
    HenryScobie HenryScobie 51-55, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Warmways Warmways 46-50, F 10 Responses Apr 4

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    I get asked a lot: when are you planning to get

    married or are you engaged yet? Or why are you still single until now? I am not that old, well I am 30 yrs old and I can see why people wonder about me a lot. I am turkish and in my country, especially in my region, girls get married very early! According to my mom, I should be...
    StrongWoman9 StrongWoman9 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 11

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    Exactly how I'm feeling right now.

    I just started work in a bank. There's at least 20 people there but I rather be alone then be with anyone on of them. I feel so out of place there.
    strawberrycreamcake strawberrycreamcake 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    Life is too short to waste it trapped in

    unfulfilling relatiomships. I was married for close to a year, and I'm so much happier and satisfied picking and choosing with whom I spend time.
    thegirlnobodyknows thegirlnobodyknows 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2014

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    I was married for 10 years,

    and I felt like that most of the time when he was around. Between him being on the road, and him coming home being judgemental. If I get that feeling in a new relationship I find it hard to wait it out to see where it will go.
    space4rent space4rent 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 22

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    Sometimes loving the wrong person can teach you

    how to appreciate the right person when they come along.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2014

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    I've realized it is better to be alone

    and establish self love. I think growing up parents tend to forget or maybe not realize that installing self love is so important. It isn't taught which leads to adults fighting their way in life searching for love in all the wrong places. Love is in within. Love yourself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 23

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    It's better to be alone

    than to get your feelings hurt by someone you may not really know.
    JK7448 JK7448 22-25, F Mar 18

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    It can be painful sometimes,

    knowing that I don't really have anyone for myself, and also playing the "what if" game with myself. Honestly, I'd rather not have a relationship at all than being with the wrong person, because when I, and anyone else who's in this group finds that one person for them... Man...
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 18-21, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    The Worst Thing

    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ~ Robin Williams
    sciguy18 sciguy18 56-60, M 3 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    Has Anyone Noticed..

    Has anyone noticed that this generation of young adults have this huge "being single" complex? Like, what's wrong with being single? Some people think that being a relationship is the only way to be happy; that it's the only reason life has purpose. And I'm just over here like...
    TheBrie TheBrie 18-21, F 13 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    I have never been one to openly talk about

    every little detail of my personal life with people around me. I have no desire to aimlessly date at this point in my life I'm seeking more substance. I don't care about the club or hooking up just to do so although it has it's place don't get me wrong I'm not a prude. But I...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 5 Responses May 8, 2014

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    My ex used to bully me

    and destroy my confidence. When we broke up I was the happiest is been in months😄
    shiv1992 shiv1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    There I sat, across the table from him in my

    favorite Indian restaurant...waiting for the wonderful to begin. He had nothing to say to me here...in my favorite place...where the food makes me close my eyes and hmmmm softly to myself in perfect simple joy with every bite. I imagine him saying the usual lovely things to me...
    SouthernMamasita SouthernMamasita 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 26

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    I don't know why people 'take what they can

    get' , or just have to be in a relationship. I'd rather be alone with dignity , and self respect!
    CrushOnPhilBrooks CrushOnPhilBrooks 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 28, 2014

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    People always bleat on about relationships.

    ..but in fact a relationship takes two to work. I thankfully have found my life partner and we are blissfully happy. If your with the wrong person you are far better off alone. Alone is not so bad and its better to be your own person than be what someone wants you to be. If...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion 26-30, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    When I see my friends getting into relationships

    and all. It makes me think about how I can't see myself in a relationship. It's kind of sad thinking about it. Still in all honest dating someone knowing it won't last long but doing it anyways. Then regretting it and feeling utterly terrible is even more sad. Anyways I can...
    nuwandaisaphony nuwandaisaphony 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    I've actually never been in a relationship.

    .. even many are trying but then if I consider all things around I will rather stay alone... only once I fell in love (I guess it still lasts) but I know he is not the right one for me... But its not so easy to accept, even if my brain is saying that its good like this...
    BaskaK BaskaK 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    after a few failed relationships

    where I just knew they were the one and everything was fine till years added in the truth, I would rather be a spinster. I have 5 wonderful children and am old enough to realize that I'd be the last choice for the average man. A man wants to be with a woman he can build a family...
    fbizzle fbizzle 26-30, F Mar 15

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    This guy I met last week seems to really like

    me. I showed him my true self per FaceTime and acted how I actually do without hiding anything and he still likes me and tbh I thought my real self would put him off. It seems not. Now all my friends are saying "You should at least try with him" but I've told him I don't want to...
    CrookedCxnt CrookedCxnt 16-17, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    And this is why I'm still single.

    I'm not going to lower my standards and if that means no one measures up so be it
    emyleejane emyleejane 26-30, T 2 Responses Apr 23

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    Being in a wrong relationship is horrible!

    You waste time, emotions and even money on a person that you don't see a future with anyway. That's why I'm a strong advocate of casual dating if you're single and just commit when you stumble into someone worth it. Until then, just go out, meet, date, make friends, learn about...
    thiscatownsme thiscatownsme 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon 36-40, M 16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    This is a huge thing

    for me. I absolutely would be alone forever rather than be with the wrong person! I strongly believe in not settling!!
    JamieleeEchelon JamieleeEchelon 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 1, 2014

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