I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

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    There I sat, across the table from him in my

    favorite Indian restaurant...waiting for the wonderful to begin. He had nothing to say to me here...in my favorite place...where the food makes me close my eyes and hmmmm softly to myself in perfect simple joy with every bite. I imagine him saying the usual lovely things to me...
    SouthernMamasita SouthernMamasita
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 26, 2015

    My friends and family have began to question my

    sexuality, my head hasn't though. I know I'm into boys although I retain myself from letting them in, why? The thought of having sex with one of those boys that just want another root or help getting "their number up" makes me sick. It's been a year since I last slept with...
    Katierah Katierah
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Jan 20, 2016

    I don't want to be with a wrong person.

    . There is enough who is okay for affairs, extra marital relations, one night stands etc.. There is bise*uals who want to marry a guy eventually.. And dump me.. I want to be with the right person or I will be alone.. I know she will come one day.. She will happen.. Love...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 24, 2016
    notPC notPC
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Nov 28, 2015

    The Worst Thing

    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ~ Robin Williams
    sciguy18 sciguy18
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Mar 9, 2013

    It's because I can live with my own thoughts n

    imagination better than be with a person who disrupts, destroys n rejects or oppses them
    WingsOnAir WingsOnAir
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Mar 1, 2016
    DadOfTwoBoys DadOfTwoBoys
    51-55, M
    1 Response Feb 22, 2016

    It hurts for me to be alone,

    but it hurts even more for me to be with someone who does not value my worth. No longer will I settle for less than I deserve.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 4, 2015

    Very Wise

    That is exactly how I felt, which is why I had to tell a number of people who were in love with Me that I didnt feel the same about them!  It made them both sad and angry but I couldnt be with someoneI didnt love. I waited 37 years to find love and it was worth it so I...
    alabastardragon alabastardragon
    36-40, M
    16 Responses Feb 19, 2008

    That's Why I'm Still Single..

    I just didn't want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend like most of the people around 13/14. And I still think it's kind of stupid to be with the wrong person.
    deleted deleted
    17 Responses Feb 19, 2008

    I get asked a lot: when are you planning to get

    married or are you engaged yet? Or why are you still single until now? I am not that old, well I am 30 yrs old and I can see why people wonder about me a lot. In my country, especially in my region, girls get married very early! According to my mom, I should be married by 20...
    StrongWoman9 StrongWoman9
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Apr 11, 2015

    You never know you are with the wrong person

    until that wrong person gives you the reason to believe that loneliness is not enemy always....
    hiddentears hiddentears
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 5, 2015

    But I miss him ... I miss having someone.

    And worse he was my first real and only person for so long. I keep reminding myself of all the reasons why I'm better off alone , but this sucks right now.
    sp7799 sp7799
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    The last guy I dated wasn't a horrible person,

    but he was starting to be more verbally abusive. we have a 1 year old, and it is hard to be strong. I was becoming depressed, and our son wasn't becoming a bit behind in his development. I had hoped to work it out, but he basically told me our son and I were in the way and...
    TellyLuv TellyLuv
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    as much as I hate being alone,

    I would rather not waste my life with the wrong person...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 26, 2015

    And this is why I'm still single.

    I'm not going to lower my standards and if that means no one measures up so be it
    emyleejane emyleejane
    26-30, T
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2015

    The question is why would anyone go with someone

    that cheats on everyone and goes behind their back? Why aren't those people always single? I could never understand how an ******* finds happiness in a relationship but the average nice person gets rejected a lot. These ppl are so evil and ppl keep giving them all that respect...
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Mar 8, 2016

    Feeling so alone in everyway.

    I miss him, but i cant trust him, so i cant be with him. I love him. I miss him so much. What the hell can i do?
    lekrap lekrap
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2015

    I have never been one to openly talk about

    every little detail of my personal life with people around me. I have no desire to aimlessly date at this point in my life I'm seeking more substance. I don't care about the club or hooking up just to do so although it has it's place don't get me wrong I'm not a prude. But I...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72
    41-45, F
    4 Responses May 8, 2014

    this is so very true,

    hence why I am alone and not with my ex anymore. haven't found anyone yet that I want to be with full time, but maybe one day.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Mar 20, 2016

    Just ended an almost six year relationship.

    not gonna lie, it feels liberating yet odd
    crow300 crow300
    36-40, M
    6 Responses Mar 20, 2016

    As I go through life I realise

    that it is a false dream to find someone who will make you happy - the power of being happy comes from yourself and the way you relate to your own being and to the world. The more we expect others to meet our needs and to make us happy, the more and more detached we become from...
    HenryScobie HenryScobie
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Dec 30, 2013

    I see no reason to be with the wrong person

    for longer than it takes to escape. Living alone is surely better than living in fear living a lie. I can't imagine being so lonely that I would stay where I am unhappy. Been there and been so happy to escape. Lonely is better than miserable and/or afraid.
    Serenitree1 Serenitree1
    70+, F
    1 Response Dec 28, 2015

    I am so lucky to have you my love.

    We have everything we need in our little home.
    kaitlinjade kaitlinjade
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 18, 2016

    I'm so confused with myself at this point.

    I've been talking to this guy for almost two months now. It's like he's on another planet! This relationship is bazaar because when I first talked to him, he told me he was single and looking for the right woman to be in his life so with me being single of course I wanted...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Jan 9, 2016

    Sometimes loving the wrong person can teach you

    how to appreciate the right person when they come along.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 20, 2014

    My ex used to bully me

    and destroy my confidence. When we broke up I was the happiest is been in months😄
    shiv1992 shiv1992
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 21, 2015

    I think I would rather be alone

    than live in a huge house and feel alone. I remember living alone and raising my son alone. I believe that was my happiest time in life. I loved going off and not having to answer to anyone. I have people all around me now... honestly I am thinking ... no I know... I should have...
    Mudd3r Mudd3r
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 10, 2016

    I learned this the hard way.

    I was lonely for a long time and then I met someone who was literally too good to be true. Once I discovered who he really was, I kept him around because I figured at the time that it was better than being alone, and I thought he was harmless... He couldn't hurt me if I didn't...
    GGGina GGGina
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    Bad people always try to exploit good

    and innocent people. Beware of them and leave them at the earliest, lest they spoil your life.
    Jovial144 Jovial144
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Jul 12, 2015

    Being in a wrong relationship is horrible!

    You waste time, emotions and even money on a person that you don't see a future with anyway. That's why I'm a strong advocate of casual dating if you're single and just commit when you stumble into someone worth it. Until then, just go out, meet, date, make friends, learn about...
    thiscatownsme thiscatownsme
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

    This is my first Christmas without my 3 yo.

    I just split w her dad over Thanksgiving and i knew this would be hard... I just didn't realize how hard it would be. He wanted her Christmas eve and I'll see her tomorrow to open gifts, it's just hard knowing I don't get to see her wipe the sleep from her eyes and see her...
    yinyangdragon yinyangdragon
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    New Chapter

    Recently got out of a dysfunctional relationship. The problem was that I was willing to keep living in it. If someone were to ask me if I am happier now than two months ago, that answer would be yes. When Mike left me, I thought my future was over. I had a picture in my head of...
    looklife looklife
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Apr 27, 2013

    I'm resigned to end up alone.

    I dreamt about a family when I was younger but I lost the person I loved truly, I tried with others but true love cannot repeat. I prefer living alone with his memory like a widow. I don't want anymore someone else to cover his memory again, coz no one deserved to take his place...
    hashsoul hashsoul
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    I've been alone for quite a few years now.

    Sometimes it does hurt me a little bit, but I stand firm in my decision. Sadly, nowadays everything revolves around sex, and love comes after, if at all. When I look at my grandparents and see them together after so many years, I listen to their stories and think to myself, I...
    YeuxNoirs YeuxNoirs
    26-30, F
    Jan 18, 2016

    I hate that misconception

    that "you're pieces that belong together" that "you make each other whole" Yes relationships of any kind are important but you're not lacking anything when you don't have one. People should have the ability to be alone with themselves and be whole within themselves. You don't...
    angelicSadist angelicSadist
    18-21, F
    Feb 15, 2016

    Mister Right, Or Mister Right-Now?

    I am 26, but it really doesn't matter how old you are, it comes to a simple choice: Do you want Mister Right, or Mister Right-Now? I am afraid that many of us have wasted our time, money and emotions on Mister (or Miss) Right-Now.  You know who I am talking about. ...
    PhantomAccordion PhantomAccordion
    26-30, F
    13 Responses Feb 21, 2008

    The Dealbreaker Called Respect

    If somebody cannot treat you with respect Then that somebody is really nobody. You spend time with them Love them Invest a good part of your life in them Only to not be valued and respected. Or treated like that the best you gave meant nothing. There can be no love without...
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Feb 24, 2013

    Has Anyone Noticed..

    Has anyone noticed that this generation of young adults have this huge "being single" complex? Like, what's wrong with being single? Some people think that being a relationship is the only way to be happy; that it's the only reason life has purpose. And I'm just over here like...
    TheBrie TheBrie
    22-25, F
    13 Responses Nov 12, 2013

    Don't let "I miss you" trick you.

    Don't let "I'm sorry" make you think about walking back into that party. The longer you dance with the devil, the longer you remain in hell. Don't sell yourself short by settling for what they have to offer. You owe so much better to yourself. Remember, you left for a...
    funsized1 funsized1
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 8, 2015
    chicamexicana chicamexicana
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 9, 2015

    I'm too young to worry about this,

    but sometimes i think i'm too picky and i'll never find the right person for me.
    LilithMoonsmiler LilithMoonsmiler
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 21, 2015
    tornadowinds tornadowinds
    46-50, F
    Dec 19, 2015

    Finding myself and growing is far more

    important, and I am myself. When things fail I have get up and dust off and rebuild and grow. I am and I will always be who I am, as much as I hate to admit it I am wounded. Which is why I decided I couldn't live like this, it was destroying me. Not feeling wanted or good enough...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    Sometimes I am so grateful

    that I am free from the most oppressive relationship I've ever had and I can now spend time with who I like, travel where I want to and say what I like without worrying about things being thrown across the room, or tables kicked over in a fit of rage. The feeling of relief at...
    pinkkitten17 pinkkitten17
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jun 14, 2015

    I have decided, after really thinking it through

    and weighing the pros and cons, to divorce my husband of 9 years. I am not happy and I just can't imagine living this way for the rest of my life. I can't stand for him to touch me. we do not communicate at all in anyway. I cry daily. he has been emotionally, financially and...
    deleted deleted
    10 Responses May 15, 2015

    I have been single for four years now.

    I want to murder my ex. Freaking *******. It took me years to remember that he took advantage of me when we were drunk and he told me to stop crying because people would hear downstairs. Not to mention all of the emotional abuse that came years later like terrible fights when I...
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Feb 17, 2016

    I was with the wrong person married actually

    but anyway it turned sour and he broke me, my heart, my feelings. eventually i got out of it but I should have done it years ago! I may be alone but I'm not hurting quite so much.
    hurtwontheal hurtwontheal
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jan 28, 2016

    Life is too short to waste it trapped in

    unfulfilling relatiomships. I was married for close to a year, and I'm so much happier and satisfied picking and choosing with whom I spend time.
    thegirlnobodyknows thegirlnobodyknows
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 11, 2014

    I like to be with me,

    I make me laugh, I make me smile, I make me giggle quite often, you know, in a way, I love me. So I have no issue being with me, yeah there are these days that feel lonely, but I like me in general and so I like my company! Don't get me wrong though, i like other people too, I...
    MissGaga MissGaga
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Mar 6, 2016

    I need to go to the doctor

    for my mental health. but I am scared to death. for they won't take me serious. they will tell me I have nothing wrong with me. or they just give me meds and tell me I have anxiety. I don't know!
    sonsofanarchyy sonsofanarchyy
    4 Responses Mar 6, 2016

    I hate to sound a bit corny

    but I'm always waiting for that one guy who can light a fire in my heart and won't try to burn down my whole world in the progress.
    CaitTheAvenger CaitTheAvenger
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 17, 2016

    If anyone is stupid and annoying

    and rude and annoyingly rude and stupid and bla. Then I will block them.. If you are pro trump or pro abortion or racist or whatever I will block you. I am super block happy and I don't accept strange inbox messages.. They are filtered and I don't open them unless I have...
    MeowBird MeowBird
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 18, 2016

    Just like when you are lonely,

    and you fell this emptiness, and desertion but you feel like that because there's no one there. But then to have someone there with you and you still feel the same way....I really couldn't imagine something like that! I would have to tell that person to get the f*** out right at...
    Sweetpea2010 Sweetpea2010
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 4, 2015

    I don't like her parents,

    as her dad doesn't treat me with respect and puts me down. I had a car accident and she didn't come to the scene or the hospital (saying her dad stood in her way? She wants an expensive engagement party (her and her family) for money I don't have, she is ok for me to go into...
    coderfacts coderfacts
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Jan 21, 2016
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