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I Would Rather Be Myself And Disliked Than Fake And Adored

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    I'm A Little Bit Fake But I Can't Help It :/

    I would LOVE it if I had the guts to stay true to myself and be 100% honest...but I care too much about what people think. I think that's why I struggle so much with meeting new people and going out. I feel like I sit there the whole time smiling and nodding and watching...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jul 25, 2013

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    Honest To A Fault

    I have a little problem...okay, maybe it's a big problem. I am a southern belle but dammit if I don't speak my mind! My brother has told me I lacked tact but I prefer not to sugarcoat crap and try to convince you it's candy. Hell..if that were the case, I'd run for office! lol...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    pinkhairedgirl pinkhairedgirl 70+, F 5 Responses Feb 2

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    "He Kept It Hid And So Did She..."

    It's amazing how many people struggle to be themselves. There is someone for everyone out there. Often we settle for less than we are and for those who do not have similarities. The world is filled with different people of which we all are apart of. We need to open our eyes and...
    SmartSweet1 SmartSweet1 51-55, F 3 Responses May 6, 2013

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    I hate when I say people with depression,

    not the dramatic kind some people hve, the real depression, the one where everyday feels like your drowning, you drown while all the other people breathe and you destroy yourself tryig to figure out why you can't breathe. I know that true depression, and I know the second you...
    Tilou420 Tilou420 13-15, F 5 hrs ago

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    Individuality Matters!

    Prefer to be hated for what I am, then to be loved for what I am not! The fact that I never lie or simply pretend to be someone else ....always gives me a feeling of contentment...... A Clear Rejection Is Better Than A Fake Promise... Its Better To B Different....
    djk007 djk007 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    Eleutherophobic Fever Funny how people around

    me always disappear. Go. Leave. All of you. Take your judgements and pities too. Wait, leave them here. Leave them here to remind me how lucky I am to be free of you. If the world cannot comprehend me, why should I bother? Walk on by with your eyes suddenly fixed on the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 17

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    You Don't Fight Monsters By Becoming One.

    You can only be yourself. You can only be true to yourself. You need have self respect and treat others as you hope you would be treated. You can not be more funny or talented or beautiful or intelligent than you are. You can only be yourself. Liars and show offs always get...
    KatarinaVonSweet KatarinaVonSweet 36-40, F 12 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    No Apologies For Being True To Myself

    I will defend everything that I hold sacred. I have hidden nothing from my friends. You should be neither dismayed nor disturbed if and when you find me standing up for my beliefs and values. If you know me well, you will know that I am a controversialist. My style is confronting...
    perseverer perseverer 51-55, F 8 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    Accept Me For Who I Am

    I never pretend to be what I'm not even if it means losing friends I mean whats the point in doing that it just makes you miserable and it's not worth it. And if I ever did lose someone because of who and what I am then in my mind they can not have been a very good friend in the...
    gelroller gelroller 46-50, M 7 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    What is ASMR and why am I

    so attracted to it? I thought of it as fake and even started laughing after trying to listen to a couple of them. But even as they are themselves, it didn't matter what I thought. They are being genuine and I should never make fun of that, even when I do. The person who is...
    rickie53 rickie53 41-45, M Dec 31, 2013

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    I'm me. I don't follow

    and I don't lead. I merely do my own thing. I'm by myself 90% of my day, so it's not hard to be myself. I have no reason to not be genuine to people; I'm happy with who I am. Plus, nothing good comes out of being fake. You'll either slip up one day and everyone will see your...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    It doesn't make any sense to me

    that some pretend to be something they are not, are seemingly quite calculating about how they play people in order to be loved and adored. However, surely that then means it's not they who are loved and adored, but that false self being presented? What's pleasing about that...
    Literaturegirl Literaturegirl 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 9

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    Perhaps I am not the "Ideal" person in Todays

    Overly Politically Correct Society , and am far too concise and blunt for most peoples taste nowadays , Nor am I rich , dashing , and I sure am not a dainty fellow or a Dandy. I would be more at home in the bygone era when men were MEN , rode tall in the saddle , settled...
    TsavoHunter TsavoHunter 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 23

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    FAKE CANNOT BE ADORED.

    FAKE CANNOT BE ADORED
    azanun azanun 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 17

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    I wouldn't b able to keep up a facade just to b

    adored. If I were to do that I need to get paid by becoming an actor
    tah34 tah34 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    Their Loss

    I have always been different. I like who I am. I am a Mom. A free spirit. A good person. A healthcare professional. I have a big heart. I am funny and like to do off the wall crazy things. I love making people laugh. I am non-judgemental. I love art. I am passionate about the...
    RedTearsFall RedTearsFall 31-35, F 16 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    I have always, and always will be,

    myself. I am happy with the fact that I have a 'contradictory' personality (who doesn't? It's part of being human) and really don't care when someone points out that I 'don't make sense.' There's more to life than making sense! Anyway. Who wants to be fake? It's too hard to act...
    randomlygenerated randomlygenerated 18-21, F Jul 5

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    I Wish More People Were Like This....

    If more people where like this, the world would be a lot better.  At least everyone would be honest with themselves, and others.  I don't think anyone should have to pretend to be someone they're not just so they can have a few fake friends.  I don't have a lot...
    BamaBabe87 BamaBabe87 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2010

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    I'm always me and myself

    but sometimes I think it would be nice to be someone else. I'm tiered of feeling insecure and second guessing, I'm fed up of being misunderstood.
    annoname annoname 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    M is a girl who rather

    than being her self, wants to mingle with the "right" people and date the "right" guys. She often wears next to nothing and all she seem to think, talk and care about is herself. She's grown up underweight, only child, with her parents devoted love and affection. She's so self...
    Ennah Ennah 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 12

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    It's not easy to be disliked,

    but I don't want to pretend to be someone or something that I'm not. I have to be who I am, even if that means some won't like me.
    Literaturegirl Literaturegirl 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    Its easier to tell the truth then to lie

    and tell another lie to cover that one up!!
    JustMe0923 JustMe0923 13-15, M Jan 21

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    Most should. Fake is lies

    and more pain or hating life.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 25

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    At the end of the day,

    being fake only rewards you with other fake things. No one wants: fake happiness, fake love, fake friends, fake success, or fake money.
    mindoftblack mindoftblack 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 17

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    I cnduo't bvleiee taht I culod aulaclty

    uesdtannrd waht I was rdnaieg. Unisg the icndeblire pweor of the hmuan mnid, aocdcrnig to rseecrah at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mttaer in waht oderr the lterets in a wrod are, the olny irpoamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rhgit pclae. The rset can...
    Goodbadladywoman Goodbadladywoman 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    CrushOnPhilBrooks CrushOnPhilBrooks 16-17, F Jan 28

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    Being Real And Sharing My Truth.

    When it comes to friendship, I am emotionally present to my friends and that does not always translate to pleasant.  I have had friends dump me for sharing myh honest heartfelt feelings.  These are friendships I would still have if I had chosen to be dishonest with them, stuff...
    JoyceAnne JoyceAnne 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 10, 2011

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    After a little time in this long life (I mean;

    I'm pretty young) I realized that if you want to be loved or adored, you will have to be hated. Not becouse the 'fuking war of being awesome' and stuff, but becouse to be loved more then an average person, you're gonna have to be weirder then the averege person. And in the same...
    someone1113 someone1113 22-25, F Jan 21

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    When mean people inflict their 'wrath' upon you

    and walk away feeling pleased with themselves. One thing that you should remember is that you are only human. Never let anyone rob you of that truth. Trouble comes and goes, just like the tide. People are born and die, just like the sun rises and falls. But the common thread of...
    HowLoveGlows HowLoveGlows 22-25, F Apr 5

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    We Are Not All Going To Like Each Other Anyway.

    As  those closest to me know, I have Asperger, as do three of my children.  It makes me a little quirky, and yes a bit weird.  Okay I can be blunt, tactless and my sense of humour is never aligned with anyone else’s. But I really have grown to love myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Feb 8, 2010

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    I Am Not Changing!

    There was a time when I felt that it was very important to be liked by everyone, in a way I wish I was but I know that not to be true. What I learnt early on is that some people dislike you for no reason, they just don't like you. Nothing you ever do will change that if you are...
    Iain321 Iain321 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 2, 2013

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    Me And You

    I thought it was about time i added something to this group, as so far i joined it but havent contributed. Okay here goes. I am a woman in a mans world, i am a black woman in an English country, i am a surviver in a world full of many many failures, i am a lesbian in a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    How Can I Get My Husband To Treat Me With Respect As He Does Others ?

    Okay...sounds easy right? well...its not. Now he treats my daughter and I as if we are thorns in his side..Seems that all he thinks about is himself. He speaks about himself He speaks harshly to me and is constantly degrading me. We have sought "counseling" but before we even...
    Anto815 Anto815 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Swear I've been changing

    and dreams I've been chasing. Even when opinions maintaining reasons for the hating. So please excuse my language while I scream, "Eff the hatred!" I'm tired of walking on eggshells, like a hen, I have to get out of this pen! That's why I use this pen. I'm tired of bending...
    MizzyPilot MizzyPilot 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 17

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    ADrag ADrag 18-21 Feb 8

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    I am myself... The parts I know about myself.

    I don't know much about myself or if this is an issue. I feel like my life is a maze (without any string to guide me) yet I know so much about myself. I feel I will never be an entire person. I am just a faded and ,hence, fading.
    theDoomProject theDoomProject 13-15, M Mar 10

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    It makes for quite a lonely life

    but take me for who I am or do one
    mojojo73 mojojo73 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 30

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    Take Me As I Am ....

    i have spent most of my life trying to please others. doing and saying things to make others happy even if it wasn't what i wanted to do or say. something i have learned late in my life is that by doing this im not being true to myself. in fact, im not even being who i really am...
    lightening69 lightening69 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    To Old To Change Now !

    That's one of the things I enjoy about ageing, you learn to like yourself just the way you are, hahaha !!
    libertybalanced libertybalanced 46-50, F Jul 28, 2013

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    The One And Only....waymor

    I kinda got a laugh when I came across the name of this group. People never cease to amaze me. I've worked in the retail business most of my life. Believe me when I say I've seen all kinds. It wasn't near as bad when I started as it is now. It's strange the way society and peer...
    Waymor Waymor 46-50, M 5 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    Accept Me As I Am; Never Mistake Me For Whom You'd Like Me To Be

    I've grown up under pressure to fit a mold of the way my family has wanted me to be. I'm sure this is quite normal; however in my context, it couldn't be further from it.  They live a lie; they project themselves as enlightened and accepting individuals with 24/7/365 happiness...
    eMonkey eMonkey 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 2, 2012

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    Fake and adored lol no way!

    Gotta be yourself and it doesnt matter if you are hared or adored,there is always people with taste for all.What matters is what make us grow,so yeah...I rather be hated for having moral and standars than adored because I please everyone,besides that's impossible task...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    I know I am different,

    feeling ill all the time is not helping. I don't have many friends because I don't try to be fake and how everyone wants me to be. I just wish I could feel better I don't like feeling so crap all the time and not really having anyone to talk to about it. I have no energy for...
    sazbaby sazbaby 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    This Is Me.... I'm just me.

    ..what you see is what you get. I'm not for everyone and i know that. Some people don't understand my lifestyle and look past me to the next person. I won't pretend for anyone... I will be the honest friend who tells it like it is....if you can't handle that...we shouldn't be...
    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F Jan 8

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    This song always gets me goin!

    Jaymay "Gray Or Blue" I feel so helpless now My guitar is not around And I'm struggling with the xylophone To make these feelings sound And I'm remembering you singing And bringin' you to life It's raining out the window And today it looks like night You haven't written to me...
    KortneeAnne KortneeAnne 26-30, F Feb 7

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    It is so easy to say so.

    I have spent my whole life trying to please my parents as I never, ever, wanted to disappoint them. However, I ended up being somebody else, lost and confused, I guess we do it without even realising.
    0silence0 0silence0 18-21, F May 20

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    I Would Never Want To Be Anything But Me

    just joined this group because i definitley want to be myself and disliked than fake abd adored. yeah i am no oil painting or popular with everyone but maybe that is because when i am honest to others they get the hump. i cannot lie just because i do not want to cause offence if...
    dizznee dizznee 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 17, 2011

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    Where Is The Point....

    So where is the point in triying to convince others that you are good, and act hypocrite.... to please them, to gain something from them. In the end that fake image is not you. So yes I rather be hated for being myself, for being honest, than be some candy sweet that just wants...
    Calipri Calipri 22-25, F Jun 20, 2012

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    High school, fake people.

    Basic. No one is the same as they were before. But it's cool, I'm starting to feel better. Thanks to this app.
    Shand001 Shand001 13-15, M 2 Responses Jan 21

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    rachelle1972 rachelle1972 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 30

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