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I Would Rather Be Myself And Disliked Than Fake And Adored

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    For all my childhood,

    teen and my young adult life I tried to please everyone and not get anyone mad at me. I then realized that I wasn't pleasing myself and I was mad at myself for changing myself for other people, Be yourself you won't have as many friends but the ones you have will be lifelong...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 25

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    This Is Me I am a nudist,

    naturist however you want to put it .I am more comfortable naked than clothed .I enjoy the company of other people and love to hear about other cultures beliefs etc .I am very broadminded and do not judge others as none of us are perfect.I do believe there is life after death...
    nakednudist nakednudist 46-50, M Apr 11

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    It makes for quite a lonely life

    but take me for who I am or do one
    mojojo73 mojojo73 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    I Wish More People Were Like This....

    If more people where like this, the world would be a lot better.  At least everyone would be honest with themselves, and others.  I don't think anyone should have to pretend to be someone they're not just so they can have a few fake friends.  I don't have a lot...
    BamaBabe87 BamaBabe87 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2010

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    Swear I've been changing

    and dreams I've been chasing. Even when opinions maintaining reasons for the hating. So please excuse my language while I scream, "Eff the hatred!" I'm tired of walking on eggshells, like a hen, I have to get out of this pen! That's why I use this pen. I'm tired of bending...
    MizzyPilot MizzyPilot 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 17, 2014

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    People like to assume I use the Lotus Flower

    as my profile because my face is unappealing. Did those people ever think that I don't show my face simply because I don't want attention only because of my looks?
    Tilou420 Tilou420 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    I'm always me and myself

    but sometimes I think it would be nice to be someone else. I'm tiered of feeling insecure and second guessing, I'm fed up of being misunderstood.
    annoname annoname 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 5, 2014

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    Their Loss

    I have always been different. I like who I am. I am a Mom. A free spirit. A good person. A healthcare professional. I have a big heart. I am funny and like to do off the wall crazy things. I love making people laugh. I am non-judgemental. I love art. I am passionate about the...
    BeyondGreenEyes BeyondGreenEyes 31-35, F 13 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    "He Kept It Hid And So Did She..."

    It's amazing how many people struggle to be themselves. There is someone for everyone out there. Often we settle for less than we are and for those who do not have similarities. The world is filled with different people of which we all are apart of. We need to open our eyes and...
    SmartSweet1 SmartSweet1 51-55, F 3 Responses May 6, 2013

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    Being Real And Sharing My Truth.

    When it comes to friendship, I am emotionally present to my friends and that does not always translate to pleasant.  I have had friends dump me for sharing myh honest heartfelt feelings.  These are friendships I would still have if I had chosen to be dishonest with them, stuff...
    JoyceAnne JoyceAnne 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 10, 2011

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    Converted Converted 46-50, M Mar 22

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    I didn't once upon a time.

    I had a reputation to live up to. One I didn't want nor did i need. It just took me a while to realise it. :)
    kaixin97 kaixin97 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I cnduo't bvleiee taht I culod aulaclty

    uesdtannrd waht I was rdnaieg. Unisg the icndeblire pweor of the hmuan mnid, aocdcrnig to rseecrah at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mttaer in waht oderr the lterets in a wrod are, the olny irpoamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rhgit pclae. The rset can...
    Goodbadladywoman Goodbadladywoman 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    No Apologies For Being True To Myself

    I will defend everything that I hold sacred. I have hidden nothing from my friends. You should be neither dismayed nor disturbed if and when you find me standing up for my beliefs and values. If you know me well, you will know that I am a controversialist. My style is confronting...
    perseverer perseverer 51-55, F 8 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    I don't need all people to like me,

    because in your life there is always someone who dislike you. And I don't want to be what they like if I have to be fake person.
    meandmythought meandmythought 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2014

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    We Are Not All Going To Like Each Other Anyway.

    As  those closest to me know, I have Asperger, as do three of my children.  It makes me a little quirky, and yes a bit weird.  Okay I can be blunt, tactless and my sense of humour is never aligned with anyone else’s. But I really have grown to love myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Feb 8, 2010

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    This statement defines me

    and the way i live my life
    livingtruthfully livingtruthfully 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I hate when I say people with depression,

    not the dramatic kind some people hve, the real depression, the one where everyday feels like your drowning, you drown while all the other people breathe and you destroy yourself tryig to figure out why you can't breathe. I know that true depression, and I know the second you...
    Tilou420 Tilou420 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 20, 2014

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    Me And You

    I thought it was about time i added something to this group, as so far i joined it but havent contributed. Okay here goes. I am a woman in a mans world, i am a black woman in an English country, i am a surviver in a world full of many many failures, i am a lesbian in a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Don't like your present circumstances ?

    Change them, you're not a tree.
    PoutingEnigma PoutingEnigma 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 16

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    Perhaps I am not the "Ideal" person in Todays

    Overly Politically Correct Society , and am far too concise and blunt for most peoples taste nowadays , Nor am I rich , dashing , and I sure am not a dainty fellow or a Dandy. I would be more at home in the bygone era when men were MEN , rode tall in the saddle , settled...
    TsavoHunter TsavoHunter 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    So i'm rude every once in a while; I don't

    regret being blunt at times. I admit i'm not innocent at all and i'm completely okay with that. I'm intelligent and I sometimes come off as condescending.But i'm cool with all of this, and so are all my friends, family, and everybody else that cares about me. They except me for...
    ImmortalMagiKarp ImmortalMagiKarp 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    L1G1TCL0WN L1G1TCL0WN 13-15, M 6 Responses May 26

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    pyeito pyeito 31-35, M Sep 24, 2014

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    For the longest time in my life I was ashamed

    of myself. I wanted to be liked, so I made myself into different people. As you can imagine this really took a toll on me. Eventually I gave up that fight and just began to be myself. Turns out I like who I am and so do a lot of other people. I am still a work in...
    tiredgoodguy tiredgoodguy 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    Take Me As I Am ....

    i have spent most of my life trying to please others. doing and saying things to make others happy even if it wasn't what i wanted to do or say. something i have learned late in my life is that by doing this im not being true to myself. in fact, im not even being who i really am...
    lightening69 lightening69 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F Nov 13, 2014

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    Individuality Matters!

    Prefer to be hated for what I am, then to be loved for what I am not! The fact that I never lie or simply pretend to be someone else ....always gives me a feeling of contentment...... A Clear Rejection Is Better Than A Fake Promise... Its Better To B Different....
    simplydbest simplydbest 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    Eleutherophobic Fever Funny how people around

    me always disappear. Go. Leave. All of you. Take your judgements and pities too. Wait, leave them here. Leave them here to remind me how lucky I am to be free of you. If the world cannot comprehend me, why should I bother? Walk on by with your eyes suddenly fixed on the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 17, 2014

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    Accept Me For Who I Am

    I never pretend to be what I'm not even if it means losing friends I mean whats the point in doing that it just makes you miserable and it's not worth it. And if I ever did lose someone because of who and what I am then in my mind they can not have been a very good friend in the...
    gelroller gelroller 46-50, M 7 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    I love this experience.

    This is also why I LOVE being crushed on or liked in general. Because I know that I'm being myself and not fake at all... And these people like the real me!
    akaShaun akaShaun 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    Fake and adored lol no way!

    Gotta be yourself and it doesnt matter if you are hared or adored,there is always people with taste for all.What matters is what make us grow,so yeah...I rather be hated for having moral and standars than adored because I please everyone,besides that's impossible task...
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    dontcareforlabels dontcareforlabels 41-45, M Sep 23, 2014

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    I'm a pretty odd person.

    I'm not exactly your average teen. Most people I know dislike me for that. Oh well. I've learned that this is who I am and as long as I can accept me for me, everyone else's opinions don't matter.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    High school, fake people.

    Basic. No one is the same as they were before. But it's cool, I'm starting to feel better. Thanks to this app.
    Shand001 Shand001 16-17, M 2 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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    At the end of the day,

    being fake only rewards you with other fake things. No one wants: fake happiness, fake love, fake friends, fake success, or fake money.
    mindoftblack mindoftblack 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 17, 2014

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    It is so easy to say so.

    I have spent my whole life trying to please my parents as I never, ever, wanted to disappoint them. However, I ended up being somebody else, lost and confused, I guess we do it without even realising.
    0silence0 0silence0 22-25, F May 20, 2014

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    Honesty is the best policy.

    I am me and don't care if haters gonna hate.
    Profweird Profweird 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've seen it all here.

    People being catfished, scammed, lied to and misled, I've seen men pretending to be girls, I've seen pedos, I've seen fire and I've seen rain, and sunny days that I thought would never end :DThe young ladies get all the undivided attention, which indicates the majority of motive...
    SpiritsInTheMaterialWorld SpiritsInTheMaterialWorld 41-45, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    M is a girl who rather

    than being her self, wants to mingle with the "right" people and date the "right" guys. She often wears next to nothing and all she seem to think, talk and care about is herself. She's grown up underweight, only child, with her parents devoted love and affection. She's so self...
    Ennah Ennah 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    Honest To A Fault

    I have a little problem...okay, maybe it's a big problem. I am a southern belle but dammit if I don't speak my mind! My brother has told me I lacked tact but I prefer not to sugarcoat crap and try to convince you it's candy. Hell..if that were the case, I'd run for office! lol...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    You Don't Fight Monsters By Becoming One.

    You can only be yourself. You can only be true to yourself. You need have self respect and treat others as you hope you would be treated. You can not be more funny or talented or beautiful or intelligent than you are. You can only be yourself. Liars and show offs always get...
    KatarinaVonSweet KatarinaVonSweet 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    I Would Never Want To Be Anything But Me

    just joined this group because i definitley want to be myself and disliked than fake abd adored. yeah i am no oil painting or popular with everyone but maybe that is because when i am honest to others they get the hump. i cannot lie just because i do not want to cause offence if...
    dizznee dizznee 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 17, 2011

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    Could Friday get here already please I'm

    so sick of work!!! Can't wait for Saturday ROLL TIDE!!!
    Wantsfortomorrow Wantsfortomorrow 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2014

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    Accept Me As I Am; Never Mistake Me For Whom You'd Like Me To Be

    I've grown up under pressure to fit a mold of the way my family has wanted me to be. I'm sure this is quite normal; however in my context, it couldn't be further from it.  They live a lie; they project themselves as enlightened and accepting individuals with 24/7/365 happiness...
    eMonkey eMonkey 26-30, M 3 Responses Sep 2, 2012

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    so yesterday I met an interestingly stupid boy

    here on EP. We were talking and all was going well when I sent a picture of myself, i have short pixie hair, I'm sorta chubby and i don't wear lots of makeup just mascara and lipstick the basics. Well this dumb person told me to change everything about myself, he said i should...
    Gertrude95 Gertrude95 18-21, F 6 Responses May 22

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