Confessions from Richmond

ok, i have to vent because if i don't then i am going to crack.  a few months ago my husband took our son over there to help her move some things into storage.  he showed up about 3 hours late because he worked till 5 am.  anyways, when they finally got to her house she blew him off.  didn't say a word to our son or my husband.  when he called and told me what had happened i called her and left her a message telling her that what she did was wrong and i would apprecieate it if she apologized.  i also told her that i wanted her to be a part of her grand childrens lives but in order to do so she would have to treat my family better.

about 3/4 days later we get a call from my brother-in-law and his message basicaly said that i was wrong and way out of line.  that i needed to apologize to her and make this right.  it took me a few weeks but i finally called and left her messages on all of her phones that said i was sorry for how i spoke to her but not for what i said.  i don't think i was wrong and i just stood up for my husband.

she never called back and she never told my brother-in-law that i called to apologize.  now he is hounding my husband and i since its the holidays.  he wants me to sit down with her and his girlfriend (as a neutral party) and "hash it out."

i have tried to keep my calm and maintain my words becasue i was raised to respect my elders, but to not let people walk all over me.  now tonight, he sent me an im and basically chewed me out and told me i was childish.  i got to say somethings to him but i still held back because he is part of my family. 

he wants he wants he wants he wants.  why is he putting his nose in this?  it has nothing to do with him.  why is it always my fault for things when it comes to his mom. 

when she first met me, (in the hospital while her other son (not my husband) was laying becasue he had a massive heart attack) she introduced herself as chris's mom...not hi, i'm will and chir's mom.  she completely left out my husband.  when it came time for us to see chris, she told me i coldn't come in becasue i was not "family."  when i was the one sitting there at 1:30am calling her to get her to come up to the hospital.  when i gave birth to her only blood grand daughter, she didn't even tell me "happy mother's day"  when we were over at her house for dinner.  when christmas rolled around, she left me out completely.

and now chris keeps saying that after the day my husband showed up late and i called her to tell her off, she just now doesn't want anything to do with me.....  please help me deciede wether or not they need to be in my familys life!!!! i can't stand to be the one who is always "wrong" and have to be the one to bring the family back together when i don't believe i was wrong to begin with.