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.I met someone about two weeks ago, who needs some advice. on what she can do. There is an almost deep hatred now, because of the way she was treated when she was growing up.She was constantly verbally abused in her young years. One brother tormented her and shot at her with a gun, but never hit her. She was potty trained by the use of cold water and a hair brush. She was raped by one of her brothers, but no one would believe her. She was put on a number of different meds, which caused her to have anxiety attacks and pass out.The doctors would not believe her, or what she had said. But would only believe her adoptive parents. One of her brothers was hit by them so hard that he puked.She has since moved out and away, got married and moved quite some distance from her adoptive parents. She has now stopped most of her then meds, and rarely now have those anxiety attacks. Now seldom passes out. Her adoptaive parents are trying to force her back home. Any advise to help her out
gllr gllr 56-60, M 11 Answers Feb 4, 2013 in Parenting & Family

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It sounds to me that she still has some emotional healing to do. And she has no obligation to the adoptive parents, so she should just tell them she's moved on, and she no longer considers them part of her life. Sometimes, you have to totally turn your back to someone in order to heal and to get your life back.

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Agreed! I have a friend who all her life has sought approval of her parents and gives them chance after chance and still what she does is never enough, I just keep telling her what a good person she is and how important she is to me. She feels better for a moment then wonders why her parents don't feel the same......

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Get her over to your place for awhile and tell her to turn off her phone, then pamper her.

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If she's grown and married, shouldn't the adoptive parents have no legal ground?

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She might want to talk with an attorney about a restraining order to prevent the adoptive parents from contacting her. She's an adult now they have to legal rights to see her or pressure her to do anything. I'll be praying for her and for you.

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I would suggest she engage an attorney, and get an independent psychiatric evaluation.<br />
She might also want to get a therapist, partly to get better, but partly to prove she's not insane.<br />
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If they are trying to get guardianship over her in order to force "treatment" on her, she needs to amass some evidence that she is sane, and that she can and does take care of herself.<br />
...But actually, if she's married, her husband would automatically have power of attorney over her were she to be declared too mentally ill to take care of herself.<br />
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I'd tell her to consult an attorney on what she and her husband need to do to assure that she cannot be legally forced to do what her nutty adoptive parents want.<br />
If they are harassing her, she ought to file a restraining order.

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just listen to them... and care for them... that is enough. Nobody can force her to do anything. Remind her of that. I am sure she is fine, and does not need to fear them legally. That maybe will help keep her calm.

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If she is a legal adult, no one can "force" her to do anything.

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this is so tragic and devastating!! is she on this website? if so, she may not want her dirty laundry aired, no matter how anonymous you have made this question. is she opposed to getting the authorities involved?

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I agree with this. Those are very personal details aired. I would recommend making sure she is ok with you sharing if you already haven't.

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how old is the person ?

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