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When I go visit tonight, is it appropriate to take a teddy bear or some small sweet gift to the surviving 7 yr old daughter? I don't want to do something dumb, never been through this before. He was sick since birth with a heart defect and it's been a sad three weeks in coming and I know the daughter pretty well.
ilivelifetothefullest ilivelifetothefullest 41-45, F 21 Answers Sep 24, 2012 in Parenting & Family

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I would suggest you don't bring anything except perhaps some tasteful flowers. The last thing the little girl really needs is a stuffed toy to remind her of this sad day. Odds are she probably has enough toys already anyway.

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good point! thank you

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That would be nice



some flowers for the mother and father





ITS not about you never being through this its the parents who lost a child

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I know it's not about me, I just don't know proper things to do here.

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NO person does, what to say or what to do

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that was the whole reason for the freaking question

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Perhaps a children's book on grief?

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Well besides a good long hug...

Do you think she would like a teddy bear? Maybe to remember her little brother by?

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Sometimes, just a simple hug is what's needed for all. Being held and having human contact is what is truly needed.

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Do a google search on this topic. I'm sure there is some answers there also. I have no answer.

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My condolences to you and your friends. I think it would be very kind and yes appropriate for you to take the little girl a small gift like a teddy bear.

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if you are going to bring her something, make it meaningful. like a locket with her brother's picture, or a pendant with his name so she can always keep him close to her heart. no a teddy bear. those are generic. it may be better not to bring anything at all in comparison to a stuffed toy.

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I love your ideas! Thank you so much

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no problem, and my condolences to your friend and her family. at least that child's pain is ended and they were able to know him, even if only for a little while.

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You know, nobody really knows h right answer. If your heart says bring a gift, then do it. Let your best instincts lead the way and you'll be fine

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Awww, I'm sorry to hear what happened. I think it's a lovely idea!

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Yes, that's appropriate. Say nothing other than you are happy to see her and/or love her (if true). Definitely no, I'm sorry statements. Let her parents deal with her on things like that.

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Yes, i think they'd appreciate it.

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I think that is a wonderful idea. She needs comfort, she lost her brother

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I think it is appropriate. Show your love to the family and daughter, a teddy bear will be nice.

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