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A family member with NO people skills; has few friends and wonders why. How do you tell them tactfully ?

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  1. misseymoo - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by misseymoo Sep 16th, 2012 at 10:38AM

    voluntary work is a good way to meet people, gain people skills and be trained for free too! maybe you could do it together?

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  2. bijouxbroussard - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by bijouxbroussard Sep 16th, 2012 at 10:47AM

    That's not a bad idea at all. There are places I volunteer, and I could certainly invite her along. Thanks for the suggestion. ;)

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  3. DrPestKontrolle1881 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by DrPestKontrolle1881 Sep 15th, 2012 at 5:52PM

    Tell her the blunt truth - sugarcoating won't resolve her dilemma or motivate her to make efforts at "getting beyond it."

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  4. starryeyedaddict - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by starryeyedaddict Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:40PM

    She is family, be blunt with her and tell her like it is, especially seeing that you get along with her. You're trying to help. She may get upset for a while (hopefully not start a family feud/war) but you are blood.

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  5. jeanemae - 26-30 years old

    Posted by jeanemae Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:26PM

    if s/he asked you directly...I think you should have just told him/her the sort of things s/he does that put people off. Being specific is important in cases where the person is unaware.

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  6. bijouxbroussard - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by bijouxbroussard Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:39PM

    She expressed envy that I have some really good friends, then commented, "no one really likes me"...I hugged her and said, "that's not true," and it isn't---but I've seen her alienate people.

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  7. jeanemae - 26-30 years old

    Reply by jeanemae Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:44PM

    That would have been a good "in" to explain some of her hard to take habits. If you want to help now...you might mention her having said that and that you have been thinking about it.

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  8. juliegirlie - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by juliegirlie Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:26PM

    Difficult to answer accurately. It depends on the person's character, his ability to listen and willingness to change ....

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  9. bijouxbroussard - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by bijouxbroussard Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:42PM

    Yes, this makes sense.

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  10. juliegirlie - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by juliegirlie Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:44PM

    Some people are very difficult to understand, then to convince ...

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  11. maddmatter70 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by maddmatter70 Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:25PM

    I wish someone would have told me sooner!

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  12. bijouxbroussard - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by bijouxbroussard Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:35PM

    LOL ! ;)

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  13. Bear1956 - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by Bear1956 Sep 15th, 2012 at 4:50PM

    Why bother being blunt? Just tell her that she is a real pain in the a$$ to be around. If that hurts her feelings...tough.

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