ask him how much money he makes and how many kids he wants. and tell him i could make a living from child support cause i have a GREAT child support attorney.
then wait for him to run.
thank you :) it actually can be quite hard to get money from a deadbeat. they switch jobs, take jobs for cash or hide. and their families help them hide. and the mother is left raising the children with no help. so when she finally gets enough money to pay an attorney the courts slap the man on the hand and say, "you have been soooo bad. don't you do it again." and the child support dept is a joke. they don't have the man power to chase them down. but then the mother is called a money hungry grubbing b1tch by the man that is allowed to spend all of his income as he pleases while she is overworked trying to do the job of a mommy and a daddy. she is tired and broke and now has to save more money she does not have to try to get the "father" to pay what he should actually pay anyway. it is hard and sad.
This is exactly what my father did. Well basically he joined the military when my mom was pregnant, knowing they would provide a way to get far away. The mother is expected to track the deadbeat dad down. That's dumb. Single mom's are not detectives and can't afford to hire one.
exactly!! and up until my daughter was 12 and my boys were 10 i NEVER denied either of the deadbeats visitation. i did everything i could to make that as easy on them as possible. i didn't fight them for child support during that time. i even babysat for one of them so they could go out new year's eve 1999. but after watching my kids so upset for so long because of their "when it's convenient for me" fathers, i finally had enough and started pushing for child support. at that time it was set at $85/mth for my daughter and $160/mth for my boys. that's when i was money hungry. :/ and i NEVER let them see their kids. psh...dumbazzes.
did she ever get child support on him MikeOH?
well, when you raise kids by yourself then you might think differently. someone your age usually does think like you. child support is for the support of the child. anyone that has a child should pay for that child. no matter where they live. it takes money to raise kids. and lots of it. i never cared about the money. i did not want there to be barriers to them seeing their kids. and if they had been dads then i never would have had to worry about if they helped take care of their kids. because a real man takes care of his children. a real woman too for that matter. because there are plenty of women that do not pay for their kids. and if you read my first reply you will see that i do address the courts. i took mine. eventually. and did they pay? no. they still did not. did they try to call their kids? nope. they were just as pathetic as they always were. and all the while my kids asking why their dads don't love them. and yes you do have to know where they are. they have to be served with proper summons and give ample time to answer the petition. and file a petition of their own if they so choose. the child support system is a pain. i said that. the child support depts don't do anything cause they have too many deadbeats to deal with. so the already broke mothers (and fathers) have to try to save money to take the deadbeats back to court. then they get slapped on the hands and told to do better. which does not happen. so the mother is back to raising her kids by herself when it took TWO to bring them into this world.
if that woman was on drugs then the father should have filed for custody. courts don't always side with the mother. he would have to prove her unfit which is easy enough with a call to child protective services.
i raised 3 alone. their whole lives. i gave their fathers many a chance to be fathers. i tried to make it easy for them to see their kids. i didn't want them to feel like they couldn't come around because of money. they had it so dang easy. but my kids hurt because their deadbeats treated them like something to be thrown away. THAT is why i fought them on child support. you can't force someone to see their kids, but you can fight them on child support. visitation is a right, child support is a responsibility. and i have 7 years to take them back to court once my kids turn 21. at that point i can attach a lien to anything they own or purchase. and it will be done. right now i am still spending most of my paycheck to raise kids that i was only half responsible for bringing into this world.
we all have opinions. i believe in personal responsibility. and not just for whoever wants to be responsible.
just because someone pays child support doesnt mean they get visitation. those are two completely separate things. a deadbeat can be ordered to pay without getting child support. and if they don't want to pay in the first place they don't really want anything to do with the kids. so they won't be around. and when they find out they have to hire an attorney and spend all that money they sure wont pursue it.
not to mention, that mom also has some responsibility in the choice of father for her children. she chose to sleep with him. now she has to deal with him if he wants to pursue visitation. and if he pursues it, he is usually someone that wont treat them bad. and if he does things that are abusive (or she...moms abuse too), you document it and press charges.
personal responsibility goes for both parties. if she doesnt want a jerk of a father she should choose better. i didnt. and i live wiht that every day. but that does not negate his responsibility to help with the kids and their needs.
the "Jenna Marbles" face would be my response
Although my answer would be no, I'd have to egg him on just to find out why the hell someone would ask that o.O
If you have enough self-respect you would just pass him by...such a man is not worthy of your seeds!!!!!!
Take your clothes off and go for it.
That interaction would feel rather awkward, but I wouldn't feel offended.
My response would be "No. I don't the responsibility of caring for children."
Oh, no! I didn't include the word "want!" I just noticed that and I can't believe I did that! =(
I'd kick him *HARD* in the balls, and say "No. You can't have any, now."
i would just tell him to get lost
I'd probably be like, that's a really great way to scare off chicks. See ya.
Punch him in the face.
Well I could have said stab him.
Laugh at him and walk away.
I would call him creepy and go away