A little girl is lost, looking around, crying and scared wanting rescue. You are a guy across the street. Do you help?
A little girl is lost, looking around, crying and scared wanting rescue. You are a guy across the street. Do you help?
An excellent question. The other questions I put down at this time are just funny questions and this is the serious one... just waiting for something worthwhile in a discussion...
If a man goes up to the child, a "cardinal rule" is broken. NEVER TALK TO STRANGERS. Yet, if he doesn't go up, the girl suffers... being lost. And, the guy leaves her to her horror. The horror of being lost and no one to help...
It revolves around the idea that if a child is lost and some male stranger is there, should they help them? Strangers hurt children... we know this. So, children should never trust strangers. Yet, they suffer, for know one is there to help them.
Except for a perceptive guy who sees it. It could be anyone. A father himself, a brother of a girl, or just a stranger who cares.
Should they do this? Approach the girl and help them Yet, if they do, aren't they showing the child that it's OK to talk to strangers?
Should a man turn his back on them so they suffer because the idea of horrible strangers are there and it's best to say.. ALL STRANGERS ARE BAD? For the sake of the child, that is
Even though there are two types of men, those who really want to help and those who do not, how can a young child know the difference? Wouldn't they believe that any guy who helps them is OK? Couldn't that confuse the very purpose of that "cardinal rule?"
Are own media shows caring guys as horrible people. WE and Lifetime, show caring guys as sexual preditors just ready to devour your children. Which becasue of that, it appears best to allow a child in need to be left alone to suffer, even though a capable guy is right there. Someone who can explain to them about strangers..someone who can show them the way to find for themselves what to do when being lost.
1. Find a business with signs that appears to be a business for they can call the police.
2. Find a home with kids toys in the front, for most likely they are able to stmethetic to a lost child.
3. Or, find a well kept yard, at least.
I guess in our world, guys can not do that. Our world shows them as destructive preditors... finding children and hurting them.
So, the question is this... because of our present society we have today, should a guy leave a child... especially a female child to be frightened and aimlessly look ofr rescue becasue they know that strangers can hurt them... especially male strangers?
If so, should it be? Why? If not? Why?
Let's discuss some answers...
Thanks for the replies within the last 30 minutes while I was elaborating on the question. It shows how much you care. I hope that elaborating on it shows the question in a more detailed light...thanks...
9 Answers to "A little girl is lost, looking around, crying and scared wanting rescue. You are a guy across the street. Do you help?"
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Absolutely I would help. The first thing I would do is bring her more public and assist from there. (Go into a store) call police. Keeping her safe and visible by many to ensure her safety.
You made a great point on what to teach your children, signs of helping options when no person is around. I like that!Like (1)
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I'd help, I'll just tell the girl to remain where she is, and ask if she knows the number to her parents, and stay far about maybe 2 feet away from her, and prob just call 911
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Yeah, I'd find a way to help. I'm not entirely heartless XD
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Yes but I would take her to a very PUBLIC spot and call the police.
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That is a good answer. The guy finds her... sees that she is lost... asks if she knows how to go home..no? Then, look for a business...explain to the child if she is ever lost go to a business... with a sign in the window... even if she can't read... and ask for the person inside to call the police. Have him stay there so it get's done and tell the police that he took the responsibility to help the child, teach the child to help themselves. Personally, if I told the child to seek a business, I would want to go with her so she goes inside... I tell her to ask the person behind the desk to call the police...stay with the child for support and release the child into protective custody, so she gets exact'y what she needs. T just tell her what to do is not enough... to teach her and make sure she is rescued? Well.. to me it's worth it.
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i would walk over and ask her hats wrong, then help her, if her parents try to ***** at me ill stick my gun in there face and tell them why dont you keep an eye on her because if she gets hurt you are going to get hurt...
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I am a female and I wouldn't help because I have been verbally abused for helping a lost child before. I'd keep a watch on her from a short distance away and call the police.
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I'm sorry that happened. Manytimes people just don't understand good intentions. One thing is for certain? When you help someone...no matter what the outcome, even if it becomes a negative experience, NO ONE....NO ONE can tell you what you did was not worthwhile. I can imagine. "What are you doing? Get away from him/her?" In that pesons fear, they lashed out at the closest person around... you. Yet, helping someone, no matter what the surcumstances can never justify leaving some child inhorrible horror which can effect them for the rest of their life. Verbal abuse hurts. But, you tried to help. THat help can never... EVER be erased. Maybe not understood in our world and even condemned, but it can never be erased. Being chastized for helping someone who is lost is usually done by someone who should thank you. But, in there own horrible fear, they lash out... at the closest thing available... you. Yet, nothing can erase the fact. You helped...tried to help. Just because someone can not see it because of the stress and terror they have, does not mean what you did was ever wrong. In fact it is more right than ever. Doing right in the world we live in, is never easy...and most likely will never be rewarded. It's our world... not you. For you did the right thing. Right things can be bitter sweet. Many people do the right thing, never get credit, yet, if it was never done... the situation would be much worse. Trying to do the right thing and being chastized for it in a world that lashes out on younever means that good things have no credit... for the ends do not justify the means. Doing something good and seems wrong, hurts, and is way to easy to justify as a lost cause. That is the world for you. But, if someone doesn't do it... NOTHING gets done at all. Doing good always has a price in someway in a world that is so "ME" orientated. But, nothing can destroy the fact that helping someone is good. What about the "lost child?" What did that person think of you at the time? Do you know that children are impressionable? Do you know that what you did could have an imact on that child's life... in a possitive way? The person who chastised you has no idea of this. Yet, just an incling of helpfulness in that child's life can have an impact. Children never forget this stuff. even if they are so small they don't remember any memories, it is forever imprinted on their consciousness... for ever... a loving stranger..who tells them that people do care. Your rejection can become an asset to the child. It's like this. You help the child. You bare the cross of a painful experience. You know you did something right and the child will always know this...and you know this. Even if that isn't the case... helping someone always outways hurting someone. Even if you don't feel it. Doing something Good in this world is contrary to the the me centered world...and everyone suffers for it... everyone! By just taking the time to help that person goes against a world who spits out anything that is me centered...and helping someone is the opposite. It means that others befit from your self sacrifice and they go on. You can think of all the good things you do as painful experiences with no meaning. Or you can look at it with the understanding that helping others produces help for others. Sometimes helping others outways your own self. Which means that the risk justifies the means. You can look from a distance as the girlk cries for hewlp and call the police...or you can call the police and help her...show comfort and find the parent pissed off at you in her own fright... hurting you unjustly for a "right" thing to do... a person who lashes out at anyone... even the rescuer because they do not know what else do do but to let it out on the closest thing... the rescuer. BUt, nothing can take away the truth. You helped the child... you helped the child... you gave the child confedence in such away that it will never be forgotten... and can benefit the child in their later years... so, they can live a strong life. If that never happened, all those things could be re-written... just becasue of an emotional outburtst that hurt you? Emotional outbursts do no more than make a set back. Doing something that is right always moves forward... for it always has the potential to do better. So, choosing to help in the face of adversity, even though you can get hurt, the person who receives this right.. can always benefit from it... no matter what can be done to you... And, as long as others can be built up, at least it is worthwhile. Pain will never help anyone. Yet, risking pain to help another can actually help someone... so that person gets something out of it... even though there is pain. Pain does nothing to help anyone. Doing something for something, with potential, dispite the pain aytually makes you a winner. You won. It can never be erased. Ever. You can let pain win. Or, you can "spit" in the face of pain and show it that you are the winner... not it. Getting verbal abuse can make a good thing seem totally futile... unless what you did can have a benefit completely beyond that pain. Helping an innocent child to have confidence by teaching them how to overcome obsticals benefits the child beyond that pain. Could it be actually worthwhile? Our children are innocent and need to be raised as confident adults in our society. Anything you can do will help this. Pain aside...anything you do has sugnificance. So, pain or not? I beleive what you did or even tried to do is completely worthwhile. Children should never have second best! They deserve all the love and guidence all of us can offer as a community.
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The girl or you? Which?
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Good question? Would I help a girl in this situation? Yes! I would in a heart beat. I saw my daughters eyes when I held her. The poor girl was put on her mothers belly and she was so exhausted she couldn't even hold her. She was wisked away to some stainless steal tray, with a heat lamp that appeared like some lamp that kept fries warmed!! Then she was subjected to a claeaning that made me winse in horror... and stuck with a sharp objectrto get a blood sample... she was whaling total terror...and even then I knew that cry. It was my daughters cry. I knew out of 100 babies I would know that cry. Then, she was put in towels and felt better, but her eyes were searching for anything to help her and she was still crying. Then? I held her. Kept her close to me. Held her dearly. I said, "Hello Vicky!" She stopped crying and looked at me...with her eyes and dialated them as best she could to see me.. hearing a voice she knew in the womb. It was instant love. Not sexual love... nothing of the sort... but a fatherly type love that hits you deep into the marrow of your bones. And, I was a Dad! ANd, my dreams poured forth... like how she would grow... what she would think... when she was a teen and was a holy terror, what I would... not could, but would do for her. I was a father. A FATHER. Not just a thing who calls himself a father and doesn't care, but a real one. The type who looks forward to everything in her growing life. I can not describe this. You just can't. So, then, when I see other girls in this situation of being lost and needing to be helped, my own "fatherly" feelings come out. Once a Father... you will always be a Father! There is no other way. I would in a heart beat help that girl I don't know. I could not sit and just be nothing to her. She doesn't deserve that. She deservesd everything I felt in my own daughter... they all do! A guy who is there. A guy who will never forsake them. A guy who will do anythng in his power to help a girl child. Once a father...always a father forever for every single child on this earth. For those eyes of my daughter as she recognised me... those dialated eyes... trying to see me...her Dad... Not just a Father... but an actaul DAD, knew my voice from when she was in the womb. And, the instantanious love that only a father and a daughter can have? It bleeds onto all girls. When you see a girl break away to run across a parking lot into traffic becasue in her innocence and exitement of... maybe having a present... like a candy bar... can't wait to go in.. never seeing a car running toward her? And, my arm coming out and grabbing extinctively, saying to her, "Honey watch our for the cars!" Looking at me, wondering who grabbed her and can instantainously see that I am someone...someone who means her well. And, treates me like I was parent. And just accepts what I say amd obeys me with toal confidence that I mean here well? Do you know what that is like, to know how much you are a father that someone else kid takes you by the hand and obeys what I said? The girl or me? Both of us. A connection is made that says... he is a Daddy," I see it as a an innocent girl who needs protection. WHho needs to be rescued? Both of us. For in our society, it seems a man takesd the backseat as a guy who can harm a child. But what about us guys who are fathers? Seen the magic of fatherhood...so powerful enough that any child is like there own... becasue they deserve the chance to know that there are guys out there... other than their own fathers who are actually care? The answer to your question is both!
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yes i do..
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Posted by stronggeorge Nov 3rd, 2012 at 6:57PM
Who would not help?
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Reply by Sparrowhawk1161 Nov 3rd, 2012 at 7:27PM
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