I have always had really good platonic female friends.
I have had male friends that are just friends for many years. There is no point changing this situation. This way they will be my friends forever.... When I needed their help earlier this year they all came over and helped me to sort a problem out. No issues. We are more like brothers and sisters in that respect.
That woman is losing out on some great friends.
I'm in two bands, I'm a psychotherapist, and I run a community drum circle that has more than 550 members. I meet LOTS of people. I make LOTS of friends. And LOTS of them are women. In fact, 2/3 of my drum circle are women! Add to that number, a few dozen on EP and many hundreds on Facebook. <br />
Men and woman can be friends. Online or offline.
Imagine a roomful of people... from ages under 10 to over 90... improvising music on hand drums. For some, it's spiritual; For others, it's social... a great way to meet and have fun with people. Some say it's the most fun they have all week; Others say it's the most relaxing thing they do all week. My circle has professional drummers as well as novices who have never touched a drum before... all playing together. It's pretty cool. :-)
Of course it exists. I believe it all depends on what you put into the relationship, and well what are the expectations?<br />
Yes, there can be mutual attraction, physical and emotional. However; once a level of respect, and true care and compassion for one another is present. Now you are friends. If there is no concern, one thinks of only oneself, this is dangerous. At that point be honest with yourself, and state your true intentions. Is it just a physical attraction,( sexual), or some other driving force?
Your friend is 100 F percent right. Accept no BS.
It does, I have a few friends who are women. It's her problem if she can't have friendships with men.
We can say "Yes, a male and a female can be friends". Well, yes they are. But that doesn't mean that there isn't always a very well hidden "if&maybe" that is buried oh so very deep down our brains, which we pretend does not exist, because otherwise our love-lives would be screwed. It's...biology. But good luck on finding anyone who introspects himself/herself deep enough to notice it, and who is able to be honest enough to admit it. There is actual fear for what it'd do to our social life. Not just to the romantic life..
Our biology makes it so, that regarding the gender we are attracted to, there is always a very well hidden "just in case" clause. And that is perfectly natural. That is why, with certain things, we get to be more careful if it's regarding the gender we are attracted to (self-awareness helps - but yes, many are oblivious regarding this side of the human psyche.)
The good thing is that a man or woman who is both aware, and willing to admit it, and who tells this to their beloved one, also shows that due to his/her awareness, the person can also be more careful with a potentially troublesome situation with the gender they are attracted to. That can cause a significant decrease on the probabilities of any "«accidental» cheating". (yes, the "mother" of many: ------> "..I don't know what happened! I didn't mean to!! We were just having a fun night out at that cozy place after work, laughing and relaxing, there was absolutely no intention! We are just friends!!!!! We had a few drinks, and ..I have no idea how it happened!!!!!! There was a joke, we were laughing so much, and somehow, we kissed, and then ....... Gosh, I swear, I'm so sorry! I didn't mean to, no intention, I have no idea what happened, it just did, it was just a stupid, insignificant moment, we weren't thinking!!!!!! It's completely meaningless!")
it does as long as it is mutual respect to each other
Of course it does. I've had males friends (who were only friends) all my life. That woman doesn't know what she's talking about,
My late father was a very wise man. He told me long ago that platonic relationships don't exist above the age of 13. He is right.
He's mistaken, no offense. They exist.