Advice on getting married young to my marine boyfriend...i want to and so does he (some people think not) :(?

Yes. Save anal for way later in your marriage. It keeps the mystery alive, and provides you with a bargaining chip.

well there are many questions.

first off - how long have you been together? and with him being a marine is he still in boot or has he already passed that?

2nd - can you handle him being away on deployment and his job being number one and you being number 2 without you getting jealous?

3rd - what about moving? can you handle living on base and being away from friends and loved ones? yes you can talk to them but having them with you there physically.

4th - how young are we talking? obviously you can put an age or time frame on love because if you feel that way you can't stop yourself from falling.

just know that marriage in general is hard. i got married and divorced last year but you throw the military into it and its even harder. some people can do it others think they can and fail. you need to look at all things. he is part of the military and you are simply a civilian. yes the perks are great (medical, dental, and all that) but if you believe that you are truely strong enough to handle the military spouse roll and you both are on the same page then by all means follow your heart and be happy just don't leave your parents out of the picture. get their input and their support because without that neither one of you will get anywhere with this. i hope and wish the best for both of you and hope things work out for the best!

its not about the age, or how long have u guys been together. keep in mind that what matters is how happy you make each other, how much you support each other every step of the way and how much you love each other! dont worry or dont even bother listening to other people because the only one who has a say on this is you & your marine. no one else know how much u love each other or how things really are but the two of you! if you feel ready to commit to one another, do it! its your life, dont let anybody ruin the opportunity of you guys having a good future & life together. good luck to you guys!

If it feels right then go for it! Only you know deep down in your heart if he is right for you. On the plus side...look how many times you will get to see him in his uniform!!!!

If you both want to then to hell with what others may think it's your life, live it

heyyyy girl. i was in the same situation as you. my now husband decided to join the army, and of course we wanted to get married. we were 19 at the time. well i am twenty now so its really not that big of a difference. but both of our families were the same exact way. they thought we were too young, my mom felt i should finish college first. EVERYONE had something to say about it. but you know what we did it. and we are happy. and you know what else, so is everyone else. so i say go for it. besides it is your life, and you need to make your own decisions. if you love each other, which you obviously do if are considering marriage, then there is no reason why it wouldnt work. good luck and i wish you the very very best :)

your not marring the other people so do what you feel is right

I know those military types like to marry young... but as long as your hearts are in the right place. If you two truly love each other and have what it takes to get through life, thick and thin, then do it. If you can't picture the two of you guys working on a marriage to make it work, then give it more consideration. Marriage is equal parts love & ability to stick together no matter what life throws at you (or what you two might throw at one another throughout-metaphorically of course.)

Best of luck to the two of you.

When my hubby and I got married I was 22 and he was 26, everybody thought we were crazy and too young. But here we are almost 9 years later and we're still in love and things couldn't be better. (Marriage IS hard though, you have to work at it if you want it to last).
Funny, one of the couples that advised me not to get married are now divorced!!

I got married at 19, my husband was 21 at the time. We are now only 20 and 22 but you know what? We wouldnt change getting married for anything. My husband is in the Army. Marriage is hard and being married to someone in the Military does add to the pressure but if you are truly in love do it! I wouldnt change it for anything. Only you 2 can decide if you are ready for marriage no one else can decide. My friends grandparent met at 18, were married 2 weeks later and were married for 50 some odd years before he passed away. My grandparents were married around 20 and they have been married 54 years this last September! Being married young doesnt have a lot to do with it, its marturity and how willing you are to make it work. Advice i got from my cousin, who has been married 15 years, is "Never let quitting be an option!" Its true.. marriage is more then just being in love- its about trust, friendship, honesty and loyalty. It takes work, but i believe that if you and your Marine believe you guys are ready DO IT! Like my cousin said "NEVER let quitting be an option" and if you need anyone to ever talk to.. bout gettin married young, or being a Military fiance/wife/girlfriend im here! :)

I married young twice.....First time I was 18.....Got my final on my 20th birthday....I mean it...It was signed on my birthday....Got married the next day...But I met him after the divorce was filed for....The first one lasted 9 months before I left....>The second one...Well it is still on....And that has been 29 years.....

At times I wish that I had waited until I was older...But them I am still here...So AI guesws that means that I am glad...

You go for it...Just remimber one thing....It is hard...No matter how old you are...And it being to a military man...That makes it even harder....So just keep telling yourself...I love him....Just the way he is...And also...Make sure that you never lose yourself...>YOu need to be you...Or it will never work



Good luck to you both....and another thing....

SimperFi....Let that be the mantra to the marrage.....Always Faithful

If yall are willing to put in the hard work on staying together, and you two really love each other, then go for it. I got married at 19 and been married almost two years now. I wouldn't change anything. You just have to remember that it is hard work to stay together. You have to be his rock and he has to be yours when times get tough. Also, you have to be willing to make each other fall in love multiple times in order to stay together. My husband and I have been through a lot and even talked about divorce, but when it comes down to it, we couldn't picture living without the other by our side. That's what love is. But marriage isn't just about love, its about making the other person better themselves, building their confidence and putting up with them. As long as both you knows each other's flaws and are willing to live with those flaws for the rest of your life, then go for it, if not, then stay engaged for as long as necessary. Its no reason to get married just because he is in the military. Just keep in mind that its not just about love, its about making each other happy and falling in love over and over and over for the rest of your lives. Good luck with everything!!!